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56 Mother's Day Gifts Every Mom Will Love

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Your mom is the bomb dot com, obviously. So for Mother's Day on May 14, make sure you show her just how much she means to you. These gifts are the perfect way to do that—just add breakfast in bed!

$25 & Under

Best Mom + Friend Card ($4.50 at Moorea Seal)

Forever Young Mom Card ($4.50 at Moorea Seal)

Womens Rose Wine Socks ($6 at Hot Sox)

Petal Palette Monogram Mug ($10 at Anthropologie)

Vellabox Candle Subscription ($10+ per month at Vellabox)

Marble Terracotta Planter ($12 at Urban Outfitters)

Bird Ramekin ($12 at Anthropologie)

Cherry Blossom 3D Card ($13 at LovePop)

Mama Bird Stemless Wine Glass ($14.95 at PAPYRUS)

Lavender Essential Oil ($15 at goop)

'Mighty Salads' Cookbook ($15.31 at Amazon)

Mama Bear Tote ($15.95 at PAPYRUS)

2-Wick Candle ($16 at Voluspa)

Pressed Floral Glasses Set ($16 at Urban Outfitters)

You Are Loved Trinket Tray ($18 at Draper James)

Amber + Moss Reed Diffuser ($22 at Moorea Seal)

24k Gold Champagne Marshmallows ($24 at Sugarfina)

iPad Recipe Holder & Charger ($24.99 at Great Useful Stuff)

Natural Jute Place Mats, Set of 4 ($24.99 at Great Useful Stuff)

Matcha: A Lifestyle Guide ($25 at goop)

$50 & Under

Risotto Kit ($26 at DEAN & DELUCA)

Abstract Triangle Print ($29 at Moorea Seal)

Coin Purse in Italian Leather ($29.50 at J. Crew)

French Gourmet Food Box (Starting at $30 for a single box at Bon Appétit Box)

Moon Juice Power Dust ($30 at goop)

Passport to Pretty Set ($32 at Anthropologie)

Knipschildt Chocolate & Sea Salt Caramels ($32 at DEAN & DELUCA)

Custom Morse Code Bracelet ($35 at Adorn512)

The Love & Lemons Cookbook ($35 at Anthropologie)

Los Angeles Reusable Water Bottle ($35 at S'Well)

Chanel Rouge Allure Velvet in Rouge Rebelle ($37 at Nordstrom)

Mudslide Nourishing Hair Mask ($38 at Sephora)

Rise and Shine Small Studs ($38 at Kate Spade)

Metallic Bar Cocktail Shaker Set ($39 at Urban Outfitters)

Beaches Book ($40 at Draper James)

'Nevertheless She Persisted' Pendant in Sterling Silver ($42 at WITZ)

Book of the Month Subscription ($44.97 for 3 months at Book of the Month)

The Rainier Bouquet ($45 at UrbanStems)

Set of 5 Coffee Joulies ($47.96 at Joulies)

Hermès Garden Collection Coffret Set ($50 at Sephora)

Tea Kettle ($50 at Kate Spade)

$75 & Under

Nude Finish Illuminating Powder ($52 at Bobbi Brown)

Twist Back Tank ($52 at SoulCycle)

Chanel No. 5 Body Lotion ($55 at Nordstrom)

Toast Cocktail Napkin Set ($58 at Draper James)

Claus Porto Soap Gift Box ($60 at Neiman Marcus)

Guerlain Illuminating Powder Pearls ($62 at Sephora)

But First, Cocktails 8-Piece Bento Box ($65 at Sugarfina)

Breathe Yoga Mat ($68 at Design Yoga Lab)

Magnolia Pillow ($68 at Anthropologie)

$100 & Under

Relaxation Tea Set for One ($75 at Tea Forté)

Joanna Vargas Exfoliating Mask ($75 at Amazon)

Coordinate Cuff ($89 at Lat & Lo)

The Opal Mother's Day Spa Box ($90 at UrbanStems—available April 24)

Set of 3 Mini Diptyque Candles ($100 at Barneys)


OMG Yes, Kylie Jenner Is Getting Her Own Spinoff

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If you can’t get enough of Keeping Up With the Kardashians and all the latest KarJenner antics, fear not because E! is about to give the people what they want. I mean, who wouldn’t crave more of this crazy A-list fam?! This particular news involves a member of the family that's no stranger to Instagram fame and may or may not be an idol for most twenty-something girls. Yep, Kylie Jenner is getting her own show, and we aren’t even mad.

Life of Kylie will air on E! this summer. The season will be eight episodes long, according to E!, and will give us more insight into the multimillionairess's daily life, even if it makes us struggling college kids green with envy.

"These couple years have been such an incredible journey with the support of my fans," Kylie told E! about her upcoming series. "This show will allow me to give them a peek inside all of the exciting things I am working on as well as some personal time with friends."

What else can we expect? Apparently more than just a BTS peek at Kylie Cosmetics. There will be appearances by Kylie's bestie Jordyn Woods and of course, her famous family, so we won’t just have to watch KUWTK to catch the latest drama.

Not only will Kylie be the star of Life of Kylie, but she’s also an executive producer. What can’t she do?

Though the series is at least a few months away, we can’t help but be a little excited. Kylie Jenner is about to take over your TV (again!). Brb, texting all my girlfriends the news.

13 Must-Have Hair Accessories for Coachella

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Coachella is right around the corner, and festival fashion is all I can think about! It may be a music festival first and foremost, but fashion is what makes Coachella one of the most popular festivals ever. Now that you have your outfits down, you can't forget to dress up your hair! These accessories will help you create the perfect look.

1. Sunflower Headband ($15 at Etsy)

Flowers are always a good idea.

2. Bow Knit Head Wrap ($6.90 at Forever 21)

Love it!

3. Roses Cat Ear Headband ($7.90 at Forever 21)

So cute!

4. Mini Carnation Hair Clip ($9.50 at ASOS)

Yes! It's so different. 

5. Pack of 3 Flowers Hair Clip ($12.50 at ASOS)

Adorable.

6. Boho Bandeau ($12 at Francesca's)

Francesca's come thru!

7. Elise Blush Glitter & Floral Unicorn Headband ($8 at Boohoo)

Because Coachella is the time to be extra.

8. San Diego Hat Co. By The Shore Tan Floppy Straw Hat ($49 at Lulu's)

Hats are v important.

9. From the Crowd Grey Baseball Hat ($14 at Lulu's)

Look cute while protecting yourself from the sun.

10. Oh Snap! Flower Crown ($18 at Urban Outfitters)

Perfect.

11. Golden Flower Halo Headband ($20 at Urban Outfitters)

Classy AF!

12. Bahia Sunhat ($250 at Nordstrom)

Expensive, but so pretty!

13. Butterfly Hair Clip 7-Pack ($48 at Free People)

Enjoy festival season, collegiettes!

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Trump's Team Is Scrambling to Make His First 100 Days in Office Look Good

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April 29 is looming for President Donald Trump’s communications team as they try to find a way to pitch a successful image of his so far rocky presidency. The date marks the president’s 100th day in office, a milestone many use to judge the success of an administration.

Over 30 Trump staffers assembled last week to discuss how to depict Trump’s first 100 days in office to the media. Communications director Mike Dubke led discussions and stated the need for a “rebranding” of Trump, an attendee told Politico.

In particular, Dubke was concerned about how to portray the overarching theme of Trump’s foreign policy, saying there is no “Trump doctrine.”

Some of the staffers reacted negatively to Dubke’s comment because according to another official present at the meeting, Trump made his foreign policy doctrine clear on the campaign trail. “He was elected on a vision of America First. America First is the Trump doctrine,” the official said.

In addition to the lack of a coherent foreign policy to package and present, the communications team also has to figure out how to spin highly-publicized legislative failures, such as the unsuccessful repeal and replace of the Affordable Care Act. They also have to lessen attention on staffing troubles, like the resignation of national security adviser Michael Flynn and growing suspicions of ties to Russia.

After the meeting, the communications team decided to divide the successes of the first 100 days into three categories: prosperity, accountability and safety/security. They will focus on the emergence of new manufacturing jobs, exiting the Trans-Pacific Partnership trade deal, lobbying restrictions and the missile strike on Syria. The confirmation of Trump’s Supreme Court nominee Neil Gorsuch will likely also be included.

Altogether, Trump's team is feeling the pressure. “One hundred days is the marker, and we’ve got essentially two-and-a-half weeks to turn everything around,” said one White House official. "This is going to be a monumental task.”  

New York Is the First State to Make Tuition Free for Middle Class Students at Public Colleges

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Late Sunday night, the Senate approved New York Governor Andrew Cuomo’s tuition-free college plan, according to CNN Money.

The plan will go into full effect this fall and will benefit undergraduate students at any two- or four-year public college in New York. According to NBC, the state is creating the Excelsior Scholarship program, which offers full coverage of tuition to students whose families make less than $100,000 a year. That number will rise to $110,000 in 2018 and $125,000 in 2019.   

Students who qualify for the program will not pay anything for tuition, but they are responsible for room and board and any other outside expenses. Students are also required to be enrolled full-time to receive the scholarship, by enrolling in at least 30 credit hours per academic year, and maintain a minimum GPA requirement that has not been disclosed at this time.

However, according to CNN Money, students who receive the scholarship must upon graduation remain residents of New York and work in the state for the numbers of years they received the scholarship. In other words, if a student received four years of free tuition, they must remain in state upon completion of school and work for four years. If they fail to do so, their scholarship will be converted into a loan.  

While San Francisco, Tennessee and Oregon have made tuition free at community colleges, New York is the first state to expand their resources to all qualifying students for four-year programs as well. So for that we say, thank you, New York!

Lauren Graham & Alexis Bledel Weigh In On That 'Gilmore Girls' Renewal Buzz

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If you’re an avid lover of Gilmore Girls and hoping for another visit to Stars Hollow, you might not want to get too excited. I know, I’m crying too, but Alexis Bledel and Lauren Graham just crushed every ounce of hope I had.

At an Emmys-themed event on Sunday, TVLine got the scoop from the two actresses, and we're suddenly feeling like the Gilmore Girls cast will never reunite on-screen again.

“If it all existed in a vacuum, I would play that character until my dying day… Now it’s become what could we do with this story that is satisfying, that is worth continuing,” Graham said. “I don’t know if there is a need to do more. I wouldn’t want it to feel like we overstayed our welcome.”

Bledel added that it depends on the story. “I’m just interested in telling a story that is dynamic and that I can hook into,” she said.

Ouch. Sit down, Ted Sarandos. Your leading ladies might not be on board. The Netflix chief content officersaid in March that the streaming service was already in talks with creator Amy Sherman-Palladino about more episodes and the hope was to continue the series.

Oh, I hope he convinces Alexis and Lauren that it’s all worth it. Will we see more Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life? I guess we’ll just have to sit tight and see.

How to Stay on Top of Your Studying Before Finals Begin

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We’ve all been there. The clock reads 2 a.m., we’re caffeinated beyond belief and finals week seems like it’s about to ruin our lives. At this point, you’re praying for a miracle, or for a fairy godmother to bless you with a semester’s worth of knowledge. Here’s how to avoid that stressful cram session.

1. Revisit the syllabi from all of your classes

The first step should be to dust off the syllabi handed out on the first day. In order to successfully survive finals season, you need to know when they are happening. Maddie Gordon, a freshman at Lehigh University, says, “I forgot about an important paper because I was too busy focusing on my other subjects. I should have looked at the syllabi more closely.” The more time you have to prepare, the higher your chances of doing well.

2. Pick out an organization method (planner, white board, app, calendar, etc.)

Remembering important dates is much more effective if you have them written down or programmed to remind you about them. This is where the usefulness of a planner of some sort comes in handy. Input all exam dates, review sessions and tutoring you may have the few weeks leading up to the tests.

And if writing down your dates is not your thing, there are plenty of other options to get you organized for the big day. If you’re more of a tech type you can use any number of apps and websites to help organize upcoming dates. Theresa Sansone, a freshman at the College of New Jersey, utilizes Google Calendar. “It has helped me stay on top of my schoolwork,” she says. “Sometimes you get flustered with too many assignments, the calendar helps me prioritize what needs to be done.” You too can take advantage of her system by using a whiteboard calendar, a virtual planner, etc. The style of your organizer is up to you, and that’s a part of what makes organization universally helpful. By customizing what you want and need, you are better able to tell if reminders on your phone or sticky notes work best for you.

Related: 5 Bad Academic Habits You Had Last Year (& How to Ditch Them!) 

3. Color code

To make routine dates blend in and important dates stand out, color-coding is the perfect trick. Once you have picked a preferred method of organization, the next step is to sort different subjects and activities by a variety of colors. For example, club soccer can be in blue while English is in green. You could even extend this method of organization to study practices as well. Ariella Silverstein, a freshman at Lehigh University, says, "I like color coding my study guides before tests so I know what material to look for in the textbook, and what material I don't need to revisit." This is definitely an opportunity for your creativity, but if you aren’t crafty and/or don’t have the patience, writing in different pen colors and using highlighters still does the trick. 

4. Make a study plan

After you have a handle on what the next few weeks will be like, it’s important to create a plan in order to master those hellish times. We do not want mental breakdowns and cram sessions. While having pretty pen colors and ornate agendas can be somewhat of an illusion of successful study sessions, it’s important to remind yourself that organization is only half the battle to acing your exams. Blocking out time for studying should be the next course of action. Ideally, you should have about two weeks in advance to study for cumulative final exams give or take depending on the subject. That cushion of time may seem like a lot, but when you’re juggling four or five subjects, it may not be enough.

Using your well-crafted planner, block out certain hours that are devoted to studying a certain chapter of a subject. For example, under Monday, May 1st you might write, “Study for Biology chapter 2 from 5:00 p.m.- 6:30 p.m.” This way, you have specific guidelines of when and what you’re supposed to be doing. Students make the mistake of rewriting “study for bio” every single day leading up to the exam in their planners with no intention or motivation to execute because their plan is not specific. Without the specificity, the task of learning an entire semester’s worth of biology seems daunting and impossible, thus demotivating students to execute it. Josh Newton from Rowan University mentions how he struggles with staying on top of his work without using a planner. "Unless I write specifically what I need to do that day, I usually forget. Writing down each task seems tedious but it works." Making a plan provides some direction in the super stressful weeks before finals. And with this method, you’ll be able to know how much studying you have already completed.

5. Execute the study plan (say goodbye to procrastination!)

Lehigh University’s Center for Academic Success promotes the use of planners and other hourly agendas in order to promote good study behaviors. A certified method of actually tackling those written out plans is to do things such as “setting realistic goals, and asking for help when necessary.” The following are quick tips and tricks in order to study smarter, not longer.

  • Review and revise notes soon after class
  • Take notes as you read your assignment
  • Review for exams by explaining concepts to others
  • Create sample exam questions and answer them as you study

Utilizing these five tips and tricks will definitely prepare you more for finals season. To be honest, staring at the textbook blankly and wishing for a miracle is not a valid method anymore. Take charge of your academic future and your grades will reflect it. Good luck!

The 11 Cutest Temporary Tattoos for Coachella

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Were you lucky enough to score tickets to Coachella this year? Whether or not you're able to attend this celebrity-riddled California event, these temporary tattoos will give you serious festival vibes all season.

1. Bohemian Jewelry Festival Body Tattoos ($23 at ASOS

Channel your inner boho goddess at the festival that embodies the trend—and takes it to the next level.

2. Trendy Temporary Tattoo Pack ($8.40 at DollsKill)

Miley Cyrus would be proud of you with these fun, temporary emoji tattoos.

3. Rough Around the Edges Metallic Jewelry ($17 at Tattify)

4. Temporary Tattoos, Be Free & Ahoi ($12.68 at Iamfy

Where are you going to feel more free than Coachella?

5. Spray of Stars ($3 at Etsy)

Want to make a statement but not ready for the full on commitment (and pain?) This is perfect for you.

6. Rewind, Pause, Play Stop, Fast Forward Tattoo ($3 at Etsy)

What better way to showcase your love for the music than with this play button?

7. Free And Fearless Temporary Tattoos ($3.80 at Silk Fred

These owls are giving me someseriousHarry Potter vibes.

8. The American Flag Lip Tattoo ($6 at Violent Lips)

  

Temporary tattoos don’t only have to be for your body; these fun lip tattoos are sure to make a statement all day long.

9. I Feel Great ($5 at Tattly)

Good vibes only.

10. Festival Bundle ($35 at Flash Tat)

This set was quite literally made for Coachella.

11. Watercolor Metallic Temporary Tattoos ($5 at Sephora)

The color version of our trusty flash tats.


We’ve Picked Out the Best Head-to-Toe Trends to Prepare You for Festival Season

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They say fashion makes its first debut on the streets, but any festival-goer could tell you true summer styles — clothes, hair accessories, beauty, and all — emerge at the season’s hottest music venues. Concerts are the runway, and you’re the model.

And while donning looks like fringy bohemian flowerchild and grungy punk rocker will always be a classic choice, experimenting with new trends is all a part of the festival fun! If you’re looking for some inspiration, Foray Collective is a great place to start. The influencer-based shopping network features some of the most savvy fashionistas out there piecing together effortless ensembles, and they’ve already shown us some of the trends we can expect to see this festival season.

If you’re heading to a festival soon, try incorporating these must-have duds into your look. And if you can’t get enough of fest(ival)yle, read on to learn about how to get a first look at what’s en vogue with VIP access to an exclusive party coming up soon!

Hair: Make it Magical

Forget elaborate braids and flower crowns, and instead steal the attention with some pastel highlights in your tresses. L’Oréal Paris’ semi-permanent Colorista products are a great way to experiment with some color yet still be able to wash it out in four to eight shampoos.

Lips, Eyes, and Face: A Pop of Pigment

Whether you’re aiming for dramatic or subtle, don’t be afraid of bright colors. And if you want to play up fun palettes, L’Oréal Paris Infallible Paints has everything you need! For the eyes, try an electric shade like the Intrepid Teal eyeliner or rock a duo combination eye shadow like the blue-pink Aqua Aura set for a cotton candy aesthetic. For lips, go bold with a hue such as Lilac Lust or daring Navy Spy. And for face, pick any warm, rosy shade in the Paints’ blush spectrum to blend your look together seamlessly for all-around high impact color.

Sunglasses: Rims are In

 

Big and bold is best for standout sunnies. Find a pair of stunners with unique frames, elegant embellishments, and tinted spectacles for extra pizzazz.

Jewelry: Nice Threads

Threaded tassel and sphere drop earrings are large enough to make a statement but still conveniently lightweight.

Top: Tying Together a Redefined Shawl

The wrap-tied, flare-sleeved breezy knot top is all the rage right now, and an eyelet romper or delicate peek-a-boo number are just the beginning.

Bottoms: Flowy for the Win

Choosing a relaxed fit is a great way to stay comfortable all day, and high-waisted, wide leg pants are the way to go.

Footwear: Pedal to the Metal

Ditch the stilettos and opt for some funky flats with a metallic finish so you can really shine.

Want to see more previews of the ultra cool fest fashions to come? Her Campus has partnered with Foray Collective and Vampped as official media partner to bring you all the best of the season’s style at an exclusive festival season kickoff party. Join us by tuning in to Her Campus social media channels on Friday, April 14. Get a behind-the-scenes look of the party when mega influencers like Kaitlynn Carter takeover our Snapchat (handle: HerCampus.com), feel like you’re at the party as we stream it live on Facebook, and see celeb guests’ festival looks on our Instagram

Here’s what else you can expect:  

Get ready to dress the part and follow the stars with Her Campus and Foray Collective this festival season — the countdown starts now!

13 Cute Weekend Bags to Pack All Your Shit for Coachella

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No matter what festival you're hitting up this spring, you'll need something to pack all your crop tops and snapbacks in. Here are some top weekender picks for stowing away all the necessities.

1. Women's Weekender Bag ($39.99 at Target)

2. Wander Canvas Utility Bag ($99 at Favery

3. Tasseled Straw Tote Bag ($24.90 at Forever 21)

4. Expandable Weekender Travel Tote ($158 at Lilly Pulitzer

5. Canvas Weekend Bag ($49.99 at H&M)

6. Striped Raffia Tote ($89.90 at Zara

7. Jack Wills Cream Weekend Bag ($53 at ASOS)

8. Raj L.A. Southwestern Print Bag ($58 at Forever 21)

9. Harper Travel Palm Print Weekender Bag ($58 at Francesca's)

10. Weekend Utility Tote ($49.95 at Altar'd State

11. Clever Endeavor Weekend Bag ($69.99 at ModCloth)

12. Weekender in Havana Rose ($98 at Vera Bradley

13. Canvas Weekend Bag ($49.99 at H&M)

Kylie Jenner Just Changed Her Hair... Again

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Keeping Up With The Kardashians is called such because it literally takes 100 person of our effort to keep up with everything that family does. I mean seriously, they are all over the place. I enjoy it—don't get me wrong—but sometimes I wish they would just slow down so I could know what was going on for one single day.

Kylie is no exception; between her makeup line and social life, there is always something happening. Same with her look—she's constantly changing and evolving. For instance, she just posted this picture last night showing off a new 'do:

 

 

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She's looking super good, as usual. However, just two days ago, she posted THIS picture, which shows off her new blonde look:

 

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Lol wat? There were literally 24 hours between these two posts, so either a) the blonde look was fake (I don't think it was), or b) the girl gets bored with hair real quick. I guess when you have that much money, going one day between dye jobs is nbd. But this seems crazy to me (I wait, like, a year between getting my hair dyed because I have no money!!).

I guess this is why there is an entire television crew dedicated to following the Kardashians around and following their lives, because the average person just doesn't have the time. Kylie, I don't know what you're doing with your hair, but girl I just can't keep up with you. Let me know when you make an actual decision, thanks!

Justify Your Next Shopping Splurge with a Free Visa Gift Card!

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It’s so wrong, but it feels so right. When you’re out and spot the absolute cutest top on a mannequin, sometimes you just can’t resist buying it even if funds are tight. Don’t worry, we’ve all been there. But guess what? There’s a new, revolutionary way to save money so you don’t have to feel so guilty when you get to the check out.

Let us introduce you to RetailMeNot, the ultimate spot to redeem deals, cashback offers, and now discount gift cards for all of your favorite stores. Think Target, Sephora, Victoria’s Secret, and more — guaranteed built-in savings! The way it works is you browse exclusive offers from RetailMeNot’s comprehensive range of discount eGift cards for shops, eateries, and travel services, and then you get to buy a gift card at a discounted rate. For example, if you’re interested in a $50 gift card at a hotspot that offers a 15% discount, you can buy that same-value gift card for only $42.50, saving you money before you even make a purchase or combine additional savings!

You don’t have to be an extreme couponer or the first shopper in line to get the best deals from your favorite stores. All you have to do is visit RetailMeNot’s site or download the app, and then you’re on your way to bargains galore.

Better yet, to really help you get the most bang for your buck, we’ve teamed up with RetailMeNot to gift you with a shopping spree that’ll let you really take advantage of all of these sweet deals. We’re hosting a giveaway so that five winners will be able hit the mall with a $100 Visa gift card! Enter below for your chance to win now!

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Once you’ve entered, start saving with RetailMeNot today, and check out all of the discount cards available here!

 

The Problem With Insisting On Self-Care

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By Sana Vasi

This views of this article are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of Her Campus. 

Content Warning: Self harm

Over the weekend, a bartender asked about the scars that encircle both my arms.

I shrugged my shoulders — universal code for “I do not discuss my personal life with strange men.” He ignored my discomfort and leaned forward, dropping his voice to a conspiratorial whisper that seemed out of place amidst the pulsating beat of The Chainsmokers’ latest hit.

“You’re ruining God’s canvas, you know.”

Those six words prickled under my skin with an all-consuming intensity. Later that night, unable to shake loose the embarrassment and shame that accompanied the bartender’s misguided concern, I relapsed for the first time in over a month.

When I confided in a friend about my on-again, off-again relationship with the pried-open razor blades tucked between old binders in my desk drawer, her only advice was to engage in “radical self-care”—a revolutionary lifestyle rooted in the powers of positive thinking. The movement encourages others to “choose happiness,” to look inwards and reflect on their spiritual wellbeing.

Unfortunately, life is not an embroidered cliché, and clinical depression cannot be cured by pithy platitudes. I soon realized that bubble baths and red lipstick were inadequate substitutions for my self-loathing. While it is important to take a break from the stressors that permeate everyday life, it is also irresponsible to suggest that aromatherapy can alleviate the acrid reality of mental illness; reminders to breathe, to drink water, to invest in yoga classes and herbal tea did little to assuage the overwhelming urge to cut. 

Misguided notions about the efficacy of the self-care movement set up unrealistic expectations for anyone suffering from mental illness. During an exceptionally low point last December, I scoured mental health advocate Gala Darling’s powder-pink website for tips to help sand away the jagged edges of my insecurities.

Most days, I either feel too much or I feel too little. Self-harm is an unhealthy compulsion, but it is also the only reliable constant in my life. Still recovering from the sharp sting of my razor blade, I bought into the glitzy façade of self-discovery and emotional enlightenment.

Instead, my depression continues to manifest itself as an amorphous combination of bitterness and anger. I vacillate between numbness and exhaustion, often within the span of several hours. On the days where I feel particularly down, my brain rebels against the idea of even getting out of bed. 

While self-care is an important first step in the recovery process, the practice has been commodified to the point where it has lost all meaning. Large corporations capitalize off our unhappiness, peddling “spa days” and “body scrubs” as the cure to complex imbalances in brain chemistry. The so-called “treat yourself” crusade is steeped in privilege; in truth, many cannot afford the luxury of putting themselves first. 

 I am not attempting to devalue the experiences of anyone who has benefitted from this movement, and I am certainly not trying to glorify self-harm, an addictive coping mechanism that I am just now learning to let go of. As a suicide attempt survivor, I am thankful that self-care has entered mainstream discourse and popularized the phrase: “It is okay to not be okay.” However, I also recognize the fundamental drawbacks of commercializing depression and reducing treatment plans to a series of shallow, online listicles. Although I would love to spend my final semester at Occidental College binge-watching Netflix in my pajamas, I do not have time to indulge my mental illness. Even as I write this article, I can feel the half-healed scratches on my wrist dig painfully into the corner of my laptop. At the most, self-care is a temporary distraction; a way to avoid my crippling anxieties for the length of the latest Bob’s Burgers episode.

While we should not condone unhealthy behavior, we should empathize with anyone battling their inner demons. Self-care isn’t easy; rather than preaching its merits, we need to acknowledge that the movement does not work for everyone and respect the fact that there is no “right way” to cope with pain. Even on medication, my particular brand of clinical depression traps me in a perpetual cycle of doubt and antipathy. I do not always have the energy to love myself, nor do I have enough patience to prioritize my wants over my needs. Sometimes, all I can do is wait out the storm. Sometimes, that is enough.

 

An Elementary School Shooting in San Bernardino Has Left 3 Dead

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Three people, including the gunman, died Monday in a school shooting at North Park Elementary School in San Bernardino, California, the Washington Post reports.

In what San Bernardino police have said was a murder-suicide, 53-year-old teacher Karen Elaine Smith and 8-year-old student Jonathan Martinez were killed when Smith's estranged husband, 53-year-old Cedric Anderson, entered the special education classroom with a gun. Anderston reportedly died of a self-inflicted gunshot wound after shooting Smith and Martinez. Two other students, whose names have not yet been released, were wounded, but are in stable condition at a local hospital, according the the Post.

In a news conference on Monday, San Bernardino Police Chief Jarrod Burguan said that authorities did not believe the children were the targets of the attack.

"I am told that both the students were behind the teacher when the suspect shot his wife,” Burguan said. “We have no reason to believe that the students were targeted, not that it makes it any better.”

While authorities are reportedly still unsure about the relationship between the suspect and victim, they confirmed that the wounded students were not related to either of them. Following the attack, all students were transported to the nearby Cajon High School and North Park Elementary will be closed through the next two days.

The city is still recovering from the 2015 terrorist attack in which married couple Syed Rizwan Farook and Tashfeen Malik opened fire on a Christmas party for county public health workers, killing 14 people. While a spokeswoman for the school district said that schools had tightened security especially following 2015, requiring all visitors to sign in and receive a pass, authorities have said that the suspect's gun was likely not visible when he entered the school building.

School district Superindendent Dale Marsden said during a news conference, "It’s going to take time for our heads, our hearts, to heal. When you’re going through this type of horrible event, we need each other to walk hand in hand to heal, to continue to press forward, to not allow what is tragic to halt our lives.”

The 16 Stages of Shopping at Target

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It’s no secret that collegiettes love Target. Clothes, shoes, accessories, makeup, office supplies, groceries—Target has everything. But with all of this amazing stuff in one store, sometimes we end up walking out with a lot more than we expect to buy. Here are the 16 stages of shopping at Target.

1. You walk in with a small list of items you need

2. You're determined to only buy those items

“I'll be in and out,” you say to yourself.

3. But then you come across the Dollar Spot

4. And suddenly you need everything

Gift bags, bubbles, phone chargers, coloring books and all.

5. You try to convince yourself that your items from the Dollar Spot are justifiable because they're so cheap

6. If you thought the Dollar Spot was bad, wait until you go to the next section: women's clothing

7. You tell yourself that it won't hurt to look in the clearance section

8. The next thing you know, you have at least five hangers in your hand

9. Why not complete the outfit with shoes and accessories?

10. And pull it all together with a few items from the makeup section

11. Then you spot the school and office supplies section

12. Shortly after, there are a bunch of supplies that you might need in the future in your cart


You’ll need these colored paper clips and matching stationary at some point, right? 

13. You’re going to need some furniture and decor to match your supplies, too


A couple throw pillows, a mirror and a clock later… 

14. That seems to be just about everything you need, so you go to check out

15. But you can’t help but think you’re forgetting something

16. As you walk out of Target, you realize that you bought nothing on your list


Oh well!


The Amazing Reason Selena Gomez and the '13 Reasons Why' Cast Got Matching Tattoos

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ICYMI, Netflix's newest series 13 Reasons Why is the show people can't seem to stop talking about. Considering the tough-but-important issues issues in brings up, such as mental health, sexual assault and suicide, we're glad it has people talking - and Selena Gomez and the show's actors just took the show's important discussion of these issues to the next level.

Selena, the show's executive producer, along with Tommy Dorfman who plays Ryan, and Alisha Boe, who plays Jessica, got inked this weekend with matching tattoos of semicolons. So why the semicolon? As Boe explained in an Instagram of their new tattoos, the semicolon has become a significant symbol of mental health awareness and suicide prevention.

"Today - Tommy, Selena and I got tattoos of a semicolon," she wrote. "Project semicolon is a movement dedicated to presenting hope for those suffering from depression, thoughts of suicide, addiction, and self-injury."

The Project Semicolon movement is based on the idea that, instead of choosing to end "your sentence" with a period, you use a semicolon to represent the beginning of a new chapter, in lieu of suicide. For anyone who's watched the show, which follows the friends of a high school student who committed suicide as they wonder what they could have done to prevent her death, the tie-in to the show is touching. Not to mention the fact that Selena herself has previously called the show a "passion project" after openly admitting to struggling with anxiety and depression herself.

If you or someone you know is experiencing depression or suicidal thoughts, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

7 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Before Ending a Relationship

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Whether you’ve been dating for years or have only been exclusive for a few months, there may come a point when you start questioning your relationship with your SO. The act of questioning your love for a particular person can be the first sign that you are considering ending it. This can be heartbreaking, yes, but sometimes it’s necessary. We understand ending a relationship is never easy, which may prolong your decision to do so, but it’s important to learn to be honest with yourself and the person you’re with.

Here are some questions to think about if your relationship isn’t turning out the way you had hoped.

1. What does my future look like with my partner?

It can be intimidating to think about the future, but usually if you’re with the right person, it’s a topic you’re both eager to discuss. College is a time for personal growth, trying new things and exploring the endless possibilities that await you in the real world. It only makes sense that people change as they get older or dedicate themselves to new paths. Healthy relationships involve individuals that are able to grow together. They support one another and encourage them to enjoy themselves, knowing at the end of the day their love is strong enough to last through it all. You shouldn’t feel like your partner is holding you back in any way.

Lindsey Allen, a senior at the University of New Haven, expresses the importance of discussing the future of your relationship. “If one of you wants to travel the world and the other would like to stay in his/her hometown forever, that's a serious conflict,” she says. “Determining whether you and your SO have the same goals in mind is a big step in figuring out whether or not the relationship will actually last.” It’s scary to admit you might be in a dead-end relationship, but thinking about the future is the first step to determining how to make your dreams a reality. You shouldn’t be with someone who makes you feel limited — end of story.

2. Are my needs being met?

This is a question that’s necessary at any point in a relationship. Dedicating your time and love to another person is a big commitment, so you should make sure you’re getting treated the way you deserve to be. This doesn’t mean your partner should change who they are for you — that’s never a good solution. It’s simply important to revisit how you and your SO are treating one another as the relationship grows. Are you still speaking kindly to each other? Do you feel supported and loved? Are you proud of the relationship you’re in?

People have different expectations when it comes to their relationships but desiring respect, trust and happiness should resonate with everyone. Hailey*, a senior at Emmanuel College, explains her experience when she realized the person she was with wasn’t enough for her. “It took me awhile to gain self-confidence,” she says. “But once I did, I realized my worth and realized I could be with someone who was actually what I wanted.” If you don’t feel appreciated in your relationship, then it’s not worth your time anymore. Being single is better than being with someone who doesn’t treat you right, no matter how many years you have been with them.

Related: What Really Happens When You Hook Up With a Friend

3. Am I still in love with my partner or just the idea of them?

Many couples seem to fall into a routine the longer they’ve been together. If being with someone feels more like a comforting habit than being in love, it’s time to reconsider. More importantly, if the only reason you’re still with someone is because the act of breaking up with them is too daunting, then you shouldn’t be with them. It’s not fair to yourself or your partner to stay in a relationship because you’re scared of being alone. Therefore, so many women express the importance of being happily single before you enter a relationship. The person you’re with should add to your already secure life — they shouldn’t feel like a crutch.

Megan Lambert, a junior at Emmanuel College, shares some insight into her recent breakup. “The decision was not at all easy. But I realized what I would miss out of the relationship wasn’t his personality but rather the idea of being in a relationship — and that wasn’t okay or fair to either of us.” It can be difficult to reflect on the current state of your relationship, especially after years of being with someone, but it’s how you know you’re truly where you want to be.

4. Why am I in this relationship?

This seems like an easy enough question to answer, right? It’s usually good to ask yourself this once the “honeymoon phase” is over. Love is blinding; this is true. But when it really comes down to it, you need to be able to answer this question honestly. Are you head over heels in love? Wonderful! Does your partner bring out the best in you? Even better.

Being honest with yourself can be extremely difficult because you might not always like the answer. Be sure to take a step back from your relationship and evaluate it. Hopefully this will leave you feeling even more appreciative for the person you’re with. On the contrary, if asking yourself this question reveals more heartache than you expected, talk it through with your partner. Being in a relationship means being able to confide in one another — about anything. If you don’t feel comfortable doing this, then you should rethink where your relationship is headed.

5. Will I be happier without this person?

Happiness seems to be the ultimate goal in life. Who wouldn’t want to live blissfully every day? Many people find themselves seeking happiness through relationships. However, it’s important to remember the most vital relationship is the one you have with yourself. Chances are you’re with your SO because they make you happy. Ask yourself, is this still true? If you can see yourself living a happier life without your partner, then it’s time to end it.

Rachel Petty, a senior at James Madison University, agrees this question is a must-ask. “If the answer is yes [you’d be happier alone], it's clear that it's time to end the relationship. There's no reason to hold onto something if it's for comfort,” she says. “You have to do what's right for you and you only!” We couldn’t agree more. If you’re not with someone who adds positivity to your life, then why waste your time with them? All relationships go through ups and downs, but if the downs become a constant, you need to take action for the sake of your own happiness.

6. What does this relationship bring out in me?

Your partner should help to bring out the best in you. This can come from their love and support, which encourages you to be your ultimate self. They should make you happy, which helps you maintain a positive outlook and take on challenges knowing you have someone cheering you on. Your partner should make you feel comfortable with who you are and you should be excited to do the same for them.

Lindsey expresses the importance of being with someone who makes you feel good about yourself. “Does being with this person bring out the best in you or the worst? How do you feel when you're with them? If they make you feel stressed or unfulfilled, that's a key sign that things should end.” You shouldn’t have to consistently worry about what your partner will think of you. All relationships require compromise, yes, but you should never have to hide who you are to fulfill someone else’s expectations or ease their insecurities when it comes to trust. Be your true self, and the right person will love even your most difficult qualities.

7. Am I treated with respect/do I respect my partner?

Finally, one of the most important aspects of a relationship: respect. Being with someone you respect and admire is key to being in a healthy relationship. You should be proud of the person you’re with and the way you two interact. If you’re making excuses for who they are or hiding parts of your relationship from your friends, that’s not okay. You deserve to be respected, and you deserve to be with someone who you can respect too.

Knowing your self-worth is one of the greatest ways to ensure you’re being treated properly. If you have low expectations for yourself and don’t treat yourself with respect, chances are you won’t recognize when your partner is in the wrong. Be confident in what you desire, love who you are, and set an example of how you should be treated by treating yourself the same way. If you can’t respect yourself in the relationship you’re in, that’s also a sign it’s time to end it. And if you can’t treat your SO properly because you don’t respect who they are, a goodbye is definitely in your future.

Every relationship is unique in its own way. That’s what makes love such a beautiful thing. However, all healthy relationships tend to have the same qualities. You should be able to trust the person you’re with and show them off proudly. You should feel confident with who you are in your relationship and be able to recognize when you aren’t getting what you deserve. Be honest with yourself about what you need, what you want, and where your future is headed. Your answers will ultimately tell you what to do. Cheers!

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This Company Makes Stick-on Fashion Nipples & IDK How to Feel About It

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File it under one of the most unexpected trends of 2017, but freeing the nipple is having a moment. With celebs like Kendall Jenner making braless-ness a fashion statement and our own tendency to trade in our underwires for the comfier option of a bralette, it was only a matter of time before someone created an enhanced version of the real thing - wait, what?

As Refinery29 reports, the company Just Nips has taken the look to the next level by creating, yes seriously, stick-on fashion nipples. It gets even better: they come in two sizes, called "cold" and "freezing," either of which can be yours for $10.

While Just Nips may seem like a is-this-real-life idea at first, the brand's founder Molly Borman spoke to Refinery29 about why she created Just Nips with more than just a fashion statement in mind - the product can also be wore by trans individuals or women who are breast cancer survivors. She also explained that she's working on teaming up with breast cancer charity to get self-breast cancer exam instructions printed on the packaging of every Just Nips product.

"You're touching your breasts anyway when you put Just Nips on, so I want to spread Breast Cancer awareness and teach women how to examine themselves safely and properly while they're at it," she told Refinery29.

Just Nips aren't any old piece of plastic either - they're made with an imitation pearl material (fancy) and are completely GMO-free. And as "cold's" product page says, we have to admit that they are pretty "freaking cute" with their stick-on flower shape.

So, #FreeThe(Fake)Nipple, anyone?

7 Things College Grads Wish They Knew Before Entering The Workforce

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Starting your first job is extremely exciting. You'll need to shop for a new wardrobe, get into a new routine and open yourself up to a world of learning. Though beginning your first job is a great step for your career, there are a couple things you may not be prepared for. We talked to recent college grads to have them weigh in on what they wish they knew before starting their careers!

1. There are generational differences to get used to

No matter what company you work for, there is a high chance you'll be collaborating with someone who is in a different generational bracket than you. While you may think sending a quick text to your older coworkers is okay, non-millenials might rather you send them an email or pick up the phone to get your message across.

Use your first couple of weeks to feel out your coworkers' personalities and quirks.

2. Your first job may not be your dream job

There aren't many people who start off their careers in their dream jobs—it's a bummer, we know! If you're lucky enough to grab an internship or an entry-level position in a field that you're interested in, you may have to work your way to the job that you've always dreamed of.

"Your first job may not be your dream job—and that's okay!" says Kayla Lewkowicz, a Marketing Coordinator at Litmus Software. "Be prepared for the post-college letdown... just don't let it drag on for months!"

Think about the experience you're gaining and how much stronger your resume will be after any job you've held. If you focus on the positive, you'll be able to move on from the fact that though you may not be in your dream role, you're working your way towards it.

Related: 7 Ways to Improve Your Focus at Work

3. Your social life may take a hit

Now that you've started your new job, you may be super busy learning your new role, networking with your co-workers, and getting used to your new routine. You may no longer be able to hang with friends during the week nights because you have to get up early the next day, or because you're exhausted from working a 9-to-5.

"It's much more difficult to maintain friendships in the real world," Kayla says. "I didn't know how much effort it would really take to stay connected and see my friends, but the effort is always worth it."

4. Company culture can make or break you

As much as you're focused on getting the job, you should also be honed in on the company's culture. When you go in for an interview, ask to take a tour of the office and pay attention to how the employees act. Do they look like they're enjoying their jobs or are they sulking at their desks? Is it a social atmosphere or is it more quiet? You might not think it's a big deal while you're on your interview (you may be excited to just have one!), but making sure the company culture fits in with your personality is important.

"The company culture matters just as much as your role and your daily responsibilities," says Alaina Leary, a graduate student at Emerson College who works as a Junior Social Designer at Rue La La. "After I graduated, I was a paid, full-time intern at a terrific start-up. Three times a week, we went out to lunch. We watched Shark Tank and Silicon Valley together on a weekly basis. We had fun team meetings. We went for walks around Cambridge and talked about MIT and Harvard. The company culture was relaxed, but hard-working, and everyone stayed late and worked to get things done and problems solved."

Kayla Alexander, a 2015 graduate of the University of South Carolina, also thinks company culture is a big thing to be aware of. "Company culture really impacts your job," says Kayla. "I've had two jobs since I graduated, both with extremely different company cultures, and I definitely saw a tremendous decrease in my productivity level, going from a family-like structure to a more conservative one. Of course it takes time to get to know people and build those relationships, but it was definitely a shift!"

5. Time management skills are a priority

Having great time management skills is a priority in any job. It allows you to complete your work in an efficient way and you learn to prioritize which tasks need your immediate attention and which tasks you can leave on the back-burner for a little while.

"Not only is working full-time for the first time a huge life change, the 8-hour day is long and it's important to know how to prioritize without getting stressed," says Jenna Kapsis, a graduate student at Fairleigh Dickinson University. "I feel like there was minimal preparation for the real world in college, and I wish every college would offer a time-management course. It should offer tips on how to plan your days, how to maintain a healthy work-life balance and how to effectively work with other team members and managers."

Related: 5 Steps to Take After an Interview to Ensure You Get the Job

6. Don't settle

It's important not to settle for a role that you know you may not be happy in. Just because the offer is attractive and it's a job, make sure that you're working for a company you're interested in, and that you'll be doing a job that can be a stepping stone for the future!

"I took a high-paying job at a company because it was an attractive offer and I had secured it before my second semester of senior year," says PhyuSin Tan, a 2015 graduate of Mount Holyoke College. "I thought I had it locked down and was very enthusiastic about working, only to be faced with disorganization within the firm that really killed my motivation. You don't have to know exactly what you want to do, but understand that job satisfaction is incredibly important!"

Meghan Gibbons, a 2014 graduate from Boston College, makes another great point. "In applying to jobs in general, I wish that I had went more for something of interest [and] that I had more personal skills in than what my degree should get me a job in," Meghan says. "There are many skills that I acquired outside of the classroom in college that I miss applying daily and feel would make my work day more enjoyable and eventful."

7. Admin work can make you go far

Being an administrative assistant might not sound all that exciting, but taking on this role can potentially propel your career to new heights—so don't write it off right away!

Take it from Emma St. Laurent, a 2013 graduate of Salve Regina, who is in a different career than where she started, and believes that her admin experience is what got her there. "My degree in college was Communications and all my internship experience was public relations-focused," says Emma. "By the end of my internship, I decided to switch gears. I ended up switching to the real estate industry and worked as an admin for a developer. I'm still with the same company and I've honestly learned so much about the industry through the people I work with. If you are an admin and are serious about your job and work hard, people will notice. I've had two promotions and I'm training for my third now!"

Landing your first job can be a mixture of excitement and nerves, but as long as you do your best to prepare yourself for what's ahead, you'll be ready to take on anything!

11 Signs You're Way Too Obsessed with the Pretty Little Liars' Love Lives

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Pretty Little Liars just wouldn't be the same without all of the relationship drama the girls constantly find themselves in. Whether you're a fan of Emily and Paige, have a ~weird~ ship like Hanna and Mike or love one of the classic couples like Aria and Ezra, you're borderline obsessed. Don't think so? We can prove it, with these warning signs: 

1. You frequently search hashtags of your couple's name

2. You even have merchandise with said hashtag…

3. You actively root for the girls' relationships more than your own

4. Regardless of which side you're on, you have very strong feelings about Caleb and Spencer

5. You hate the PLL writers for always screwing Emily over

6. You were in complete agony when Ezra and Toby were suspected to be A

7. You actively hate any other girls who are involved with the Liars' boys

8. Nobody understands how badly you want your ships to be (and stay!) together

9. You even want the actors to date IRL

10. Your stress levels are the highest every Tuesday night

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11. But it's so worth it

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