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Tennessee's New Anti-Drunk Driving Campaign is A Little Sexist

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Informing people about the dangers of drunk driving doesn't seem like an extremely difficult task but, if you ask the Tennessee Governor's Highway Safety Office, they might tell you something a little different. That's because their new drunk driving campaign just got called out for being a little (no, a lot) sexist. 

We're not exactly sure who told the GHSO that it would be a good idea to create a drunk driving campaign aimed solely toward men but, in any case, they have a little explaining to do. According to The Tennessean, the campaign consists of a slew of sexist slogans including one that reads, "Buy a drink for a marginally good-looking girl, only to find out she's chatty, clingy and your boss's daughter." Another one reads, "After a few drinks the girls look hotter and the music sounds better. Just remember: If your judgement is impaired, so is your driving." The slogans appeared on free flyers and coasters that were given out to bars and restaurants in the state. Obviously it didn't take long for people to start voicing their opinions upon reading these.

"My first reaction was cool, we got free coasters," said Tiffany Cannon, a 25-year-old bartender at Charlie Bob's. "But then one of my customers pointed out what was on them, and my jaw dropped."

In a pretty horrible attempt to justify the situation, Kendell Poole, director of the Tennessee Governor's Highway Safety Office, made it clear that the campaign was aimed toward young males.

"We take feedback from the public seriously and want to thank all of those who have reached out to share their opinions with us," Poole said in a statement. "It was never the intent of our office to offend anyone. This new initiative was designed to reach the young male demographic, who are statistically more likely to drive under the influence. Well known-adages, like dating the boss's daughter were used to grab their attention within the bar environment. Our office continually experiments with new strategies in order to be effective with various target demographics and we will be closely monitoring the results."

As if the coasters weren't offensive enough already, there's also a section on the campaign's website called "Legends of the Stall." The section is basically geared toward mocking the graffiti found in bathroom stalls in clubs and bars. "Legends of the Stall" features cartoon images of characters binge-drinking, being promiscuous and committing other acts that people found offensive. At the end of every comic though, the characters wind up choosing not to drive home drunk.

On Tuesday, a Nashville state lawmaker demanded that the governor of Tennessee, Bill Haslam, get rid of the campaign altogether, claiming that it was "ill-conceived" and "a waste of taxpayer dollars."

"A majority of our population has been disrespected, and our state has again been placed in a negative light," he said. "Our citizens, visitors and potential investors in our economy are left with the false impression that does not accurately reflect our state's respect for our mothers, sisters and daughters."

We're not sure what's next for Tennessee or the campaign but it has been confirmed that, as of Monday night, the website, imparied.tntrafficsafety.org, is no longer available. 


Lana Del Rey's New Single is as Haunting as You'd Expect it to Be

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Fans of Lana Del Rey, rejoice! After weeks of teasing, Lana has finally released the much anticipated title track off her upcoming studio album. "Honeymoon" is a six-minute, slow ballad that showcases her incredible vocal talent. The singer created an Instagram for the album weeks ago, and on Tuesday she posted a link to the song with this caption:

"Here it is, the first and title track off my record—Honeymoon. In some ways I feel it's where the record begins and ends... there are so many other tracks on the record, 13 others to be exact—some with a muddy trap energy and some inspired by late-night Miles Davis drives… But I love this song because it encapsulates all of the things that come naturally to me."

Listen to the single below:

Based on this song, we can't wait for the new album! What do you think of Lana's newest track, collegiettes?

These Sports Bras Will Change The Workout Game

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Whether you’re a yogi, runner, kick-boxer or skier, now Under Armour has the sports bra for you. Considered the “second chapter” to the “I Will What I Want” campaign, the new line of sports bras includes different designs to support all types of workouts.

"Sports bra campaigns can be pretty vanilla," said Adrienne Lofton, Under Armour’s senior vice president of brand marketing in a WWD article. “But this will be about crushing your workout and your life."

In the campaign’s ads, you’ll see familiar faces like Gisele Bündchen, Lindsey Vonn, Misty Copeland, Kelley O’Hara and Brianna Cope shutting down the haters with fierce motivational statements. Each ad portrays the women staying active in different ways, representing the bra line’s versatility. 

You can shop for bras that are perfect for low-impact workouts (yoga, Pilates, hiking, walking), those better mid-impact exercise (cycling, boxing, weights) and bras that will support you during high-impact activities (running, field and court sports). Each category of bra ranges in price, style and design so you can find a bra that perfectly fits you and your workout needs.

Besides just giving you the support you need, these bras are also about giving women confidence. According to Under Armour’s press release about the campaign: "Content from the campaign depicts each of these women and their declarations in overcoming doubt and setbacks related to their womanhood. The statements also give voice to what women everywhere want and need from their sports bras, a perspective that has often gone unheard."

No matter how you choose to stay active, Under Armour has the perfect bra for you. Now you can feel confident while you rock your workout!

5 Apps That Will Amp Up Your Love Life

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In addition to studying and hanging out with friends, you might be looking to score a campus cutie during your college years. Since dating in college isn’t always as easy as it sounds, many collegiettes turn to dating apps in order to find someone compatible without the hassle, which is sometimes easier said than done.

If you’re so over Tinder and looking for a change of pace in your love life, give one of these apps a try, and in no time you’ll be chatting with a cutie at a chic restaurant or bar.

 

1.    Hinge

Best For: Collegiettes who are new to the online dating scene and wants to have a bit of extra security when it comes to dating choices.

Hinge is unique in the fact that it allows your Facebook friends to help match you up with dates they are able to vouch for, rather than searching among random and unfamiliar people. Once you sign up for the app, you’re given a list of other users based on criteria that you specify, such as age, location and gender. You’ll be able to chat with the person once you both “like” each other and you’re matched together.

The difference is that the choices of dates provided to you are people whom you share Facebook friends. Once you’ve made your way through those matches, the app also recommends other tangible connections, such as people whose Facebook friends share Facebook friends with you.

We think this app is interesting because you can easily message the mutual friend you and the user both share to get the dirty deets on the person before accepting a date. Maybe your friend will let you know if the guy you’re checking out is a total player, or if a girl you’re considering has any weird pet peeves, so you can be extra prepared for a potential date!

 

2.    How About We

Best For: Collegiettes looking to try something new and exciting with a casual date.

Working up the courage to go out and meet new guys can be daunting enough, especially if you’re worried about embarking on a humdrum date. Luckily, How About We allows you to suggest a fun date idea or activity, such as going out to brunch or walking a hiking trail, and lets other users respond to your suggestion. No more boring dates that start with “So, what do you want to do?” followed by the classic, “I don’t know, what do you want to do?” Now, you’ll have a date worthy of a super fab Snapchat story.

The process is simple: Post a date idea, connect with someone you think you’ll like, and then get together and cross it off your bucket list. It’s an app that prides itself on being an offline dating app, since it encourages users to get out and do something together beyond messaging back and forth.

Just like other dating apps, it’s tuned into where you live, so you’ll be able to meet someone who lives close to you. The app also allows you to showcase your personality and interests, rather than focusing so much on appearance. This is because the person will want to go on the date because they think that it’s interesting, rather than just wanting to go on the date because someone is cute.

You can also be as creative as you’d like when it comes to date ideas – don’t worry about sticking to the traditional dinner and a movie option. Want to split a big box of chocolate with someone or take dancing lessons together? Type in “how about we…” with whatever you’re looking to do, and see what happens!

 

3.    Burner

Best For: Collegiettes who want to protect their actual phone number from someone they are just starting to mingle with, but still want to be able to communicate easily.

Have you ever had to give a guy a fake number because you didn’t want him calling your real number? We’ve all been there, and that’s where Burner comes in. It’s an app that protects your identity by providing you with a temporary phone number in order to prevent your real number from getting passed on to someone.

With this being said, this app isn’t just for when you want to get rid of someone hassling you for your number. It can also work for when you do like someone new, but you’re not ready to give them your real number yet in case the situation goes sour. The Burner number is valid for seven days and includes 20 voice minutes and 60 texts, which should be enough time to decide whether you want to give your potential suitor your real number. If you don’t, then the app allows you to “burn” the number with a quick touch and will immediately take it out of service. How cool is that?

The app is free to download, and your first Burner number is free as well. If you need more Burner numbers after using the first, you are able to purchase more with ease. The cost will range from $5-$12 depending on how many extra Burner numbers you want to purchase.

 

4.    Find.Drink.Eat

Best For: Collegiettes who have a date secured, but are stumped when trying to figure out where to go and what to do for the date night.

Once you’ve landed a date (high five!), it can be difficult to decide where to go and what to do. Going out to eat has always been a popular choice, but you don’t want to be stuck trying to decide where to eat last minute. For a special occasion, you’ll want to dine at a restaurant that is recommended by top chefs and bartenders in order to make sure your meal is memorable and delicious. With Find.Eat.Drink, you’ll have tons of recommendations at your fingertips for top-notch restaurants near you, serving up your favorite cuisine.

Each restaurant on the list is backed with an endorsement from an expert in the food industry, so you know you’re choosing somewhere reputable. Search for a type of food both you and your date will enjoy, say the location you’re looking for and you’ll have plenty of different options to choose from. Try not to be on your phone the whole date, but we won’t judge if you take a quick snap of your food for Instagram later. Bon appétit!

 

5.    Check Him Out

Best For: Collegiettes who are constantly on-the-go and want to wear the pants when it comes to finding a match.

If the first thing that comes to mind when you think of dating is “ain’t nobody got time for that,” while simultaneously wishing you had a cutie to split a pizza with, we totally get it. Sometimes you just really want to be dating a guy, but sorting through a ton of emails or texts from guys who are interested can be time consuming.

With this app, all of the power is in your hands, literally. The guys that you speak with can only message you if you’ve expressed interest in them first. This way, you can avoid the whole “I’m not interested” talk with a guy that won’t stop messaging you to hang out.

The guys you’re interested in will benefit from the app too. When you message them, they’ll know you’re into them, so there won’t be any confusion about how you’re feeling about him. This app is great for a collegiette who knows what she likes and who she wants, and enjoys having control over her decisions. You go, girl!

This summer is the perfect time to branch out and try something new when it comes to your dating life, so check out these cool apps next time you’re looking to mingle with a new guy or girl. Who knows what one date could lead to!

30 Songs That are Guaranteed to Remind You of Your Childhood

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Warning: this may or may not leave you feeling nostalgic. 

1. Space Jam – Quad City DJ’s

As heard in Space Jam, the Looney Toons movie starring Michael Jordan. As soon as the credits were rolling you and your siblings were off the couch and dancing around to this.

2. Sk8ter Boi – Avril Lavigne

#tbt to that time you went to school in one of your dad's old ties.

3. Send Me On My Way – Rusted Root

If you've even seen Matilda, you'll remember this song as soon as you hear it.

4. You’re Beautiful – James Blunt

A song you can't forget the words to even if you tried.

5. Survivor – Destiny's Child

As they sang, surrond yourself with positive things (including this song).

6. Where is the Love – Black Eyed Peas

Before there was My Humps and I Gotta Feeling there was this, and it's wonderful.

7. All Star – Smash Mouth

This song will forever be associated with Sherk. There's no escaping it.

8. For You I Will – Teddy Geiger

You watched this music video over and over again on your household's desktop computer.

9. Kick, Push – Lupe Fiasco

Most likely the one Lupe Fiasco song you can rap along to without embarrassing yourself.

10. Take You Home – Lil' Bow Wow

Sorry Shad Moss, you will forever be Lil' Bow Wow to us.

11. Wannabe – Spice Girls

Does this song even need an introduction?

12. Baby It’s You –JoJo

Probably one of the 15 songs that you could fit on your very first Mp3 Player.

13. Tearin' Up My Heart – N’Sync

Cue the dramatic lighting, synchronized choreography and a younger JT.

14. I Want It That Way – Backstreet Boys

Tell me why-- they had to breakup?

15. Graduation (Friends Forever) - Vitamin C

Get your old yearbooks ready.

16. Supernova Girl - Proto Zoa

Zenon: Girl of the 21st Century anyone?

17. MMMBop – Hanson

The popular 90s song you loved but forgot about.

18. Mr. Brightside – The Killers

What ever happened to these guys?

19. Feel Good Inc. – Gorillaz

That song you liked but never knew the name of.

20. Cinderella – Cheetah Girls

#girlpower

21. What a Girl Wants – Christina Aguilera

A classic pop song you will always know the chorus to.

22. Us Against The World – PLAY

You can thank Lizzie McGuire and Mary-Kate and Ashley for bringing this song to your 12 year-old eardrums.

23. So Yesterday – Hilary Duff

It feels like you were watching this music video on The Disney Channel just yesterday.

24. Potential Breakup Song – Aly & AJ

The song that helped you get through your "complicated" middle school relationships.

25. Ride Wit Me – Nelly 

Remember when Nelly used to wear a bandaid on his face which made you also want to wear one?

26. Beautiful Soul – Jesse McCartney

Before we had ever heard of Bieber and Efron we were prefectly content with him.

27. So Kiss Me – Katie Melua

As heard in She's All That, aka one of the greatest teen movies of all time.

28. Baby One More Time – Britney Spears

One of the many songs we can thank Britney for.

29. L-O-V-E – Nat King Cole

We can thank The Parent Trap for educating us on the classics.

30. I Want Candy - Aaron Carter

The song you sang in the convience store to get your mom's attention.

Did we forget any? Which songs were your favorites, collegiettes? 

Life According to Morning Birds vs. Night Owls

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There are two distinct types of people in this world: those who like mornings and those who do not. Some people love to rise and shine, and others cherish the late-night hours. Early birds and night owls are as opposite as day and night (literally), so they experience life a little differently as well.

Early birds: You wake up just to see the sunrise. What a glorious start to your day! 

Night owls: If you’re watching the sunrise, it means you pulled an all-nighter. Again.

Early birds: 7 a.m. yoga? Count us in!

Night owls: Thank goodness the gym stays open until midnight because there’s no chance you’re hitting it before 7 p.m.

Early birds: You only need one alarm to wake up in the morning, if you haven't already woken up naturally.

Night owls: You set at least seven alarms, all of which wake up your roomie, who eventually wakes you up. She's not pleased.

Early birds: You live for the smell of coffee and a good breakfast in the morning.

Night owls: You know what always tastes better at 2 a.m.? French fries. Good thing you know a place open 24/7!

Early birds: Even though you’re up early, sometimes you feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day!

Night owls: So what if the day ends? That’s what ALL night is for. SO much time for activities.

Early birds: Kelly and Michael are basically your besties since you see them every morning.

Night owls: Two words: Jimmy Fallon.

Early birds: On the weekends, you'd rather go to brunch than the bars.

Night owls: Waking up before noon on a Saturday is a sin, especially when you’re out until 3 a.m. the night before.

Early birds: You know what they say: The early bird always catches the worm!

Night owls: Who cares about worms? Late night pizza > everything.

11 Reasons We Want to Be BFFs With Ed Sheeran

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By now, we all know how perfect Ed Sheeran and Taylor Swift's friendship is. Obviously we're really happy for them and everything, but we can't help but wish that we were BFFs with Ed, too. Here are 11 reasons why.

1. His lyrics speak to our souls...

...and he knows it.

2. He wrote some of One Direction's best songs

Ever wonder why you liked "Little Things" so much?

3. Speaking of little things...

He'll always make sure we appreciate them.

4. He's friends with some of our favorite celebs

It's not just Taylor; Ed is also super tight with Harry Styles, Ellie Goulding and Demi Lovato. NBD.

5. THIS happened

We have no words.

6. He always knows what to say

He'll nurse all of our heartbreaks.

7. He has a solution to every problem


 

Didn't have ketchup so used ketchup flavoured crisps and YEP

A photo posted by @teddysphotos on

Especially the important ones, like when the ketchup runs out.

8. He's down with the odd chick flick

Movie nights will never be a problem.

9. He doesn't take anyone's b.s.


He will always defend us, but he also won't be afraid to tell us when we're being ridiculous.

10. Everything he says just makes us want to hug him

Honestly, he needs us just as much as we need him.

11. We just have so much in common

We love you, Ed.

5 Bad Academic Habits You Had Last Year (& How To Ditch Them!)

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Last year, you snoozed your alarm one too many times for that 8 a.m. Calc class, you were on Facebook during your entire lecture instead of taking notes and the hardest literature you read was a Chinese takeout menu. Every collegiette has a couple of academic habits she wants to change for the upcoming year. Luckily, Her Campus is here to show you how to fix even your most set-in-stone practices!

1. You procrastinated… all the time. 

We’ve all had that one assignment we just couldn’t get done until the last second, whether it was due to time constraints or just a general feeling of apathy towards the material. Some people, however, have more trouble than others when it comes to completing tasks in a timely manner. If you’re one of those people, don’t stress! There are several steps you can take to become an on-task academic in no time.

Allison Raven, a recent graduate of Rice University, advises collegiettes to buy a special notebook or planner and organize like your life depends on it! “I’m really big on writing things down,” she says. “I use a organizer to write down everything and make a plan of prioritization so that I can figure out what is actually essential versus what isn’t as important to finish first.” Figure out exactly when your assignments are due and what dates crucial events are happening, and schedule them in your planner immediately. As soon as you’re handed your syllabi from professors during your first week of classes, put in all of your assignment, project and exam dates to avoid confusion (and massive amounts of stress!) later on.

Caroline Creasman, a recent graduate at the University of Dallas, also explains the importance of creating your own deadlines so that they fit your schedule. “I like to make my own plan,” she says. “I usually just have way too many things going on and get overwhelmed. But if I sit down and set my own deadlines so that I’m able to manage my schedule, that helps a lot!”

If you have a paper and a presentation due on Friday, it can be stressful trying to do them simultaneously. Instead, create your own deadline and say that you want to get your paper done by Monday so you can focus on your presentation on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday. By creating your own system, you will able to juggle way more tasks at once.

Jillian Feinstein, a senior at the College of William & Mary, explains how crucial it is to do your assignments in increments. “It’s so stressful to think, ‘I’m going to sit here for four hours and write this paper,’” she says. “I would totally rather sit on Facebook than do that! But if you break the paper down by the number of pages or paragraphs you want to get done each day, it’s a lot more manageable.”

2. You didn’t get enough sleep.

It’s easy to say, “Just sleep more if you’re tired!” But any collegiette who has struggled with long, sleepless nights knows that just isn’t true. It’s hard to find time to rest with so much going on!

Luckily, there are a couple different ways to stay sane and still get your beauty rest in. First, form a nightly routine. Sure, you could stay glued to your computer screen updating your Pinterest and checking Her Campus instead of going to bed, but it’s time to tear your eyes away!

“I need a very regimented sleep schedule where I’m resting between midnight and 8 a.m. to function,” Allison says. “I know I have to get stuff done to be able to sleep, so I stick to my routine and make sure my work is completed before I go to sleep, so I’m not up late stressing out.”

Decide on an order of events for before you go to bed and stay with it. Maybe brush your teeth and wash your face, drink a warm mug of tea and then read a book for 30 minutes. The trick is to go to bed without your mind racing at a million miles per hour so that you get more restful sleep. Find a routine that’s relaxing for you.

Still can’t get into a set sleeping routine and cycle? Try napping! Research shows that even 15 to 20 minutes of napping can really help you recharge if you’re having an especially stressful or long day.

3. You wasted your weekend time.

Work hard, play hard seems to be the motto of college students everywhere. But what happens if you play a little too hard and waste your weekend away? Sure, there should be some time to party during the weekend, but the weekend is also a great time to work on papers, finish assignments and attend extracurricular meetings.

One easy way to make sure your weekend time isn’t wasted is to set aside specific time every Saturday or Sunday to do work or accomplish whatever other goals you have, no matter what’s going on. Even if it’s only for two hours, that’s better than no hours spent doing work.

Allison uses this tactic to get the most out of her weekend time. “Every single Sunday morning, I get up early (around 9 a.m.) and go to a coffee shop off campus and spend three or four hours just working,” she explains. “It’s really good for me to get away from campus to clear my head and really focus. It also helps me start my Sunday in work mode instead of lay-in-bed mode.”

Is a coffee shop too noisy for you? Jillian suggests taking advantage of your school’s library for intense study sessions. “I'm a big fan of library lock-ins when I have a lot to get done,” she says. College libraries tend to have all sorts of nooks and crannies, so if the main floor is too distracting, find a nice desk, table or carrel on a different floor or spot of the library. And besides, what gets you more into studious mode than the smell of old books?

However, Allison also believes in the importance of balance when scheduling your weekend time; make sure you have a little fun, too. “In exchange for my Sunday morning study sessions, I almost never do work on Saturdays!” she says.

4. You didn’t pay attention in class.

So you dragged yourself out of bed after snoozing your alarm four times, trudged across campus with your eyes half-closed, plopped yourself down in a seat next to that weird kid who hasn’t showered in several weeks and pulled out your laptop. Should you open a Word document to take notes, or Facebook? Facebook seems to win every time. Obviously, going to class is fantastic; it’s already an accomplishment over sleeping in. But what you do in class is just as important as going!

If you know technology distracts you easily, Jillian suggests taking notes the old-fashioned way (pen and paper, anyone?) and sitting far away from your friends. But if you absolutely need your laptop for the class, Claire O’Connell, a junior at Wesleyan University, suggests turning off your Wi-Fi and sitting in the front of the room. “There's nothing like a professor's eye contact to make you sit up and pay attention!” she says.

Lucy Cruz, a senior at the University of Florida, faced the problem of being unfocused when she took a psychology class last semester. “It was just such an easy class that I felt like I never had to pay attention. I would just sit on Facebook and Twitter the entire time,” she says. “However, the class got harder, and I started having to actually listen to what was going on, but I found it difficult because of the habits I’d grown accustomed to. It was like my body was craving Facebook instead of psychology!”

To keep herself on task, Lucy downloaded the SelfControl app on her computer, which blocks selected websites for an allotted amount of time. “I know a lot of people use it to get homework done, but blocking myself from social media sites during class definitely helped me focus a lot more than me just saying to myself, ‘Pay attention!’ would have,” she says. SelfControl is only available for Macs, but you can try Freedom, a similar app, if you have a PC!

5. You just didn’t go to class.

Motivating yourself to go to class is half the battle. Sure, you know you’re supposed to attend lectures, write papers and learn, but what if the class you’re taking is boring or easy or at 8 a.m. (who wants to be in a calc class at 8 a.m. in the first place)?

In addition to her struggles once she was in class, Lucy also faced trouble just going to her psych class at all. Why go to an easy morning class when she could just sleep in? After sleeping through several lectures, Lucy decided she had to make a change.

“One of the easiest steps to take when trying to make yourself go to a class is reminding yourself why you’re taking that class in the first place,” she says. “Even if it’s just for a graduation requirement, at least you’re actively thinking about why you’re in school.” It’s easy to get lost in the midst of classes and extracurriculars and part-time jobs, but think to yourself: what does your education mean to you?

Lucy also recommends trying to find incentives to go to class. “These can be meaningful incentives, like getting on the Dean’s List at the end of the semester,” she says. “Or just goofy fun incentives, like ‘I will reward myself with this Jolly Rancher if I go to this class,’ work too. Start small and work your way up!”

Of course, some collegiettes need something a little bit louder to keep them from hitting the snooze button. Try a more creative wake up call!

You could buy a Clocky ($39), an alarm clock on wheels that hops off of your nightstand and runs around your room beeping until you get out of bed to turn it off. Or, if you’re looking to get into shape this school year, try the Amico Digital Display 30 Times Lift Plastic Dumbbell Electronic Alarm Clock ($20.85). This little dumbbell-shaped clock needs to be pumped 30 times before the alarm turns off. Think of it as getting up while getting great arms at the same time!

The school year is up to you!

Your bad academic habits don’t have to be set in stone! Think about what you want to change, and set out to actively change it. There are always ways to improve your organization and time management, so put some thought into how you can create the best academic experience for you!


Meet the Girl Whose Courage Goes Beyond Her Condition

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For many, the summer time can be quite a love-and-hate event, when you are happy to hang out with your friends at the beach, but are still conscious about wearing the bikini that almost everyone else seems to have. Well, for 19-year-old Isa-Bella Leclair, her relationship with the beach is 100% positive.

Bustle reports that the young Canadian from New Brunswick recently made waves online when she posted a bikini selfie of herself having fun on the beach. Leclair has Parkes Weber Syndrome, which results in lymphedema, where damage to her lymphatic system causes fluid called lympha to go to and collect in her right leg. However, Leclair told The Telegraph that her condition doesn’t discourage her: “My condition doesn’t define me and no way I will let it stop me from wearing a cute swimsuit or a cute dress. I don’t fit in skinny jeans or fancy shoes so I have to find alternatives, but I always end up still feeling good about my body.”

In addition to social media, Leclair has shared her life-long experience with lymphedema on a blog for those who have the condition as well, called The Lymphie Life. Recently, she won first Princess at Miss Festival Pageant in her neighborhood! YouTube channel Barcroft TV also showcased Leclair’s story in the video below, displaying the strong support and esteem she receives from both family and friends.

As said in the video, Leclair wanted to inspire others with her selfie: “I guess what made me want to share my story and a picture of me in a bikini is that for me beauty is not just on the outside, it’s on the inside.” Leclair’s words are those of inspiration for not only others with her condition, but for people everywhere, and her message of loving the skin you’re in is one we all can benefit from. 

9 Runway Looks that Prove Fashion is Art

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If you follow fashion, you'll quickly realize that not all runway looks are wearable. But if you truly appreciate fashion, you'll simultaneously realize that that's because fashion is far more than the creation of everyday outfits—it's an art form with ingenious power, capable of putting an entire audience in awe. Like film, architecture, and so much more, the field of fashion is the birthplace of incredible art and designers with unreal talent, and we've got the evidence to prove it.

1. Alexander McQueen, Fall 2012

Soft and voluptuous, these dresses look fairy-esque and magical. Those pastels and ruffles could inspire any garden party, and we'd die to get our hands on that surreal fabric.

2. Dolce & Gabbana, Fall/Winter 2014

Each outfit, shoe, and handbag ingeniously brings museum walls to life in this mosaic-inspired collection. The intricacy and precision in these breathtaking designs is truly awe-inspiring.

3. Rei Kawakubo, Fall 2009

Architectural and gravity-defying, we can't take our eyes away from these tattered tulle show-stoppers. True art is meant to say something, and we're dying to know what Kawakubo was trying to get across with these profound designs.

4. Alexandra McQueen, Spring/Summer 1998

We're absolutely haunted by this image. During this legendary show, models adorned in ethereal whites were enveloped in runway rain, resulting in an incredibly dreamy and chillingly surreal performance. We're honestly speechless. 

5. Iris Van Herpen, Fall/Winter 2011

What's most incredible about this dress is that those jagged, sharp edges appear wonderfully wispy from a glance. Made with a 3D printer, this piece proves that art, science, and fashion can blend beautifully.

6. Iris Van Herpen, Spring/Summer 2013

Futuristic and daring, this 3D printer piece resembles a cascade of gemstones. The unique structure and shimmering spikes are terrifyingly gorgeous—bet you never thought we'd use those two adjectives together!

7. Alexander McQueen, Spring/Summer 2010

These "Armadillo Shoes" caused quite a stir on McQueen's runway when models refused to wear them in fear of their outrageous (and dangerous) proportions. We completely agree that these shoes aren't viable heels. That's because they're a work of art that only a total artistic mastermind could conjure up. 

8. Delpozo, Spring 2015

Another piece straight out of a modern fairy-tale, we're mystified by the flora that appears to be floating in a sea of airy teal and gold. This model has been transformed into a living whirlwind of leaves and we're loving every second of it.

9. Chanel, Spring/Summer 2009

Headgear is always an incredibly breathtaking addition to runway shows, and this Chanel piece is no exception. This statuesque sculpture is angelic and goddess-worthy, stunningly combining intricate structure and pure, dusty whites. 

All in all, fashion is an incredibly artistic medium that inspires, excites, and provokes. We're consistently impressed by the genius that exists on global runways, and like these memorable runway looks, our appreciation for incredibly creative designers will never fade. 

Transphobia: Everything You Need to Know

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We’ve all heard the popular phrase “It gets better,” which is used to give young LGBTQ+ individuals hope for the future—but is it really getting better? Not so much for transgender folks, who are often left out of their own movement and face transphobia from others. Read on to find out exactly what transphobia is, how it’s damaging and how it can be stopped – with your help!

Terminology you need to know

First of all, let’s start out with some important definitions for those of you who might not be in on the lingo:

Transgender: An umbrella term for people whose gender identity or expression doesn’t match the gender they were assigned at birth. It is often abbreviated to “trans.”

Cisgender: Someone whose gender identity matches the gender he or she was assigned at birth; someone who is not transgender. It is often abbreviated to “cis.”

FTM: FTM stands for “female to male.” It refers to people who were assigned female at birth but identify as male.

MTF: MTF stands for “male to female.” It refers to people who were assigned male at birth but identify as female.

Gender binary: The classification of sex and gender into two distinct, opposite forms: male and female.

Nonbinary: An umbrella term that can be used to describe those who fit outside the gender binary, meaning they don’t identify as just male or female: they can be neither, both or somewhere in between.

Genderfluid: Those who identify with this term consider their gender to be fluid and constantly changing.

Agender: Many agender people describe themselves as being neither a man nor a woman, or being without a gender.

Transphobia: The fear or hatred of transgender people. Transphobia can be anything from misgendering someone to being violent towards a trans person. Unfortunately, transphobic acts are not uncommon, even on supposedly safe spaces such as college campuses, classrooms and dorms.

What transphobia looks like

Misgendering

Misgendering is when someone uses the incorrect pronouns for a trans person, such as calling a trans woman “he” or a trans man “she.” This can be accidental or on purpose, but either way, it can lead trans individuals to feel as though they aren’t “passing” as the gender that they are. This could potentially lead to dysphoria, a term used to describe a person’s unhappiness, and to more negative mental-health side effects.

Additionally, misgendering a person, especially in front of a group of people, forces a trans person to make the decision whether to correct you or stay silent – a choice that can lead to insecurity, embarrassment or even danger.

Lilith Starr, a trans woman and college student from Indiana, is no stranger to this. She faces rude and confused stares in the classroom and has even worse experiences at work.

“My supervisor misgenders me and laughs with the student workers,” she says. Lilith would sometimes correct others when they misgendered her, but only when she felt up to it.

Of course, sometimes misgendering happens by accident and isn’t meant to be hurtful. But even if you’re not trying to hurt a trans person or put them in danger, cis collegiettes should be careful not to make that mistake.

Violence towards transgender individuals

In today’s world, it’s no secret that if someone doesn’t understand something, they can often grow to be afraid of or hateful towards it. That is unfortunately the case with how others view transgender people. Trans women have a one in 12 chance of being murdered, and trans women of color have a one in eight chance.

Islan Nettles, a 21-year-old transgender woman, was one of those women. She was beaten to death in New York by a man who allegedly got angered when he found out she was transgender. This man was only charged with a misdemeanor as opposed to murder, and the charges were later dropped, despite the fact that there were several witnesses who saw what happened.

What happened to Islan Nettles is horrifying, but it isn’t unique. From November 20, 2012, to November 1, 2013, alone, it’s estimated that 238 transgender individuals were murdered.

Work discrimination

Transphobia can also make it very hard for transgender individuals to find or keep a job. Thirty-two states in the U.S. do not have laws protecting employees from gender discrimination in the workplace. The Human Rights Campaign reports that “in the 2011 National Transgender Discrimination Survey, 47 percent of respondents reported experiencing a negative job outcome – such as being fired, not hired or denied promotion – because they were transgender or gender non-conforming.”

Trans college students face discrimination as well. Lauren*, a trans woman from Concordia University, says she’s always afraid and unsure if she should reveal the fact that she’s trans to others.

“Sometimes I feel like I am passing by cisgender people’s standards, so maybe I don’t need to tell people I’m trans,” she says. “But I’m always afraid of what might happen if I don’t. It’s so hard finding a roommate once you tell them you’re trans, and it’s just so discouraging. I’m just not sure if it’s something I need to put on a resume or not. I don’t think it’s something you should have to worry about.”

How you can help stop transphobia

Sure, it’s unrealistic to think transphobia can end overnight, but if you follow these steps you could help spread awareness and protect the trans people around you.

1. Educate yourself.

The main reason trans individuals are still either ignored or vilified is due to the lack of knowledge many people have about them.

“Some folks, they just don’t understand. And they need to get to know us as human beings,” transgender woman and activist Laverne Cox told TIME. “But I do believe in the humanity of people and in people’s capacity to love and to change.”

Not sure where to start your trans education? Here are some websites to get you started:

  • GLAAD is a great resource to find LGBTQ+-related news and information.
  • PFLAG is another organization that helps individuals learn about different sexual orientations and gender identities and supports LGBTQ+ individuals and their families and friends.

If you’re on Twitter, here are a few interesting accounts that post anything from tidbits from their daily lives to information about being trans:

If you’re into reading, here are some great books you can check out!

2. Ask people about their preferred pronouns.

If someone hasn’t told you which pronouns they prefer, go ahead and ask before you use any! It may seem like an odd or awkward practice, but it could make a transgender individual feel immediately more comfortable around you.

3. Admit when you’re wrong.

We all make mistakes. If you’re cisgender, even if you’re part of the queer community, it’s unlikely that you’ll go through life without making a mistake, whether it’s using the wrong pronouns, using someone’s old name or just saying something transphobic without realizing it. If you’re called out on it, apologize to the person whom you hurt and admit that you messed up.

When you take responsibility for your actions, it shows that you truly do care and want to support transgender individuals. How you react to being called out on mistakes says a lot about you and the type of person you are. Don’t be someone whom trans people feel they can’t trust, especially if you claim to be an ally.

It’s important to be aware of the harmful effects of transphobia and take action against it. Gay rights have come a long way, so why is it that transgender people are still so underrepresented? Don’t forget the T in LGBTQ+, and help support transgender people everywhere!

7 Mary-Kate & Ashley Movies That Are Totally Relevant to College Life

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We all grew up watching Olsen twin movies, and they were an integral part of our upbringing. But the lessons we can learn from them are definitely still relevant to our lives as collegiettes—these flicks are still so relatable.

1. New York Minute

Okay, so maybe we don't get mixed up in sketchy black market deals every day, and maybe Simple Plan isn't exactly the hottest band out there, but we can totally still relate to sisters Jane and Roxy. Jane's determination to win that Oxford scholarship? Sounds a lot like our internship search. And fangirling over our favorite band like Roxy? Yep, been there.

2. Switching Goals

College is all about finding yourself—which is exactly what Sam and Emma try to do in this movie, learning from each other's differences (simply put, Sam likes soccer and Emma likes fashion). Aaaww!

3. Holiday in the Sun

Sun, tropical beaches and summer romance? This movie is still everything we want out of a resort vacation—well, except the whole smuggling of stolen goods ordeal.

4. Our Lips Are Sealed

This Olsen twins classic has it all—the struggle of sharing a living space with someone (we love you, roomie, if you're reading this), the desire to fit in, and copious amounts of sass. Plus, the fashion is SO. On. Point. And while our college town isn't exactly Sydney, Australia, there are still some pretty great parties on campus (if not on a private yacht).

5. The Challenge

Shane and Elizabeth working through their disagreements is like the dramatized version of every group project we've ever had to do. And falling for the wrong guy at the wrong time? Ugh, way too close to home.

6. When In Rome

This movie is how you secretly imagined your study abroad program would turn out. Sadly, you didn't end up meeting the love of your life, but you did use all the local expressions you knew and carry a camera around everywhere you went, so there's that.

7. Winning London

This is for all you MUN girls out there. You'll also love it if you like cute boys. And being a tacky tourist. And British accents. Actually, scratch that, it is absolutely necessary that you watch this movie, like, right now if you are a person who likes movies. That is all.

Which is your favorite Mary-Kate and Ashley movie, collegiettes?

The Worst Love Advice We Give our Friends

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No matter how many Her Campus articles we read on the topic of L-O-V-E, we still find ourselves giving our friends the most terrible, clichéd love advice when it comes to dating, relationships and flirting.

As much as we’d like to think that we’re romance experts who have all the answers to the universe’s most puzzling love problems, it’s time to realize we need to cut some of our favorite, go-to love “knowledge” from our dating-advice repertoire.

Next time your friend comes to you with a love-related conundrum, don’t give this terrible love advice! 

When your friend goes on a first date…

Bad advice:“Don’t seem too eager! Play hard to get.”

Yes, it’s true—you shouldn’t tell your friend to start off the first-date dinner conversation by asking him how many children he wants to have, asking what his ideal color palette would be for their wedding or dropping the L-bomb, but that doesn’t mean she needs to act colder than the polar vortex.

As fun as playing the “maybe-I-like-you-maybe-I-don’t” game is, guys aren’t always the most receptive to mind tricks, and they may take her faux indifference as a simple sign that she’s just not that into him. Of course, she shouldn’t throw herself at him like an obsessed Harry Styles fangirl at a One Direction concert, so the “don’t be too eager” part holds some merit, but “playing hard to get” might just be insanely counterproductive.

Better advice:“Don’t play hard to get, play hard to forget.”

When you encourage your friend to leave behind her coy, mysterious first-date flirting techniques and showcase her wonderful personality instead, she’s bound to make a longer-lasting impression.

When her crush isn’t texting her back…

Bad advice:“If he doesn’t text you back for 20 minutes, then you have to wait 40 minutes to respond.”

It’s doesn’t matter if he fell asleep or he fell off a cliff; if it takes a guy more than 20 minutes to text your friend back, you’ll probably find yourself saying something along the lines of, “how rude of him; you better not text him back right away.” Just admit it: you’re totally guilty of this.

While we have no way to tell what a guy’s doing at every given moment in the day, we seem to always assume he has a plethora of free time to sit around and text us endless amounts of cat emojis (a girl can dream, right?), which is why we get so angry when we don’t get an instantaneous response to our ever-so-carefully crafted “What’s up?” text. There could be a million different reasons why your friend isn’t getting a text back, so there’s no need to make her overthink her empty inbox.

Plus, if she’s countering his hour-long response time with a two-hour-long response time of her own, their conversation is going to be far from productive or worthwhile.

Better advice:“Don’t stress about it. If he really likes you, he’ll text you back eventually!”

If the guy is actually into your friend, he will text her back sooner or later. Before you jump the gun and assume that he’s totally blowing her off or take his longer-than-normal texting-response time as a sign of indifference, give him the benefit of the doubt and make sure your friend does, too. You may also want to check and make sure she didn’t commit one of these serious texting faux pas

If she’s not sure he likes her…

Bad advice:“Of course he likes you, who wouldn’t? Just go for it!”

We think our friends are the greatest things since the invention of at-home Panini makers, so we automatically assume that everyone we know finds them just as fabulous as we do. That’s why when they ask if we think a dude is into them, our automatic response is, “Duh, who wouldn’t be?”

The problem with this is that we may be giving them false hope for a guy who’s just never going to come to the realization that your BFF is the greatest person on the planet (aside from Beyoncé). Before jumping to conclusions and assuming that your friend’s crush is just as head-over-heels-obsessed with her as she is with him, it may be in her best interests for you to get the facts straight before you send her out into the world to capture the heart of her possible admirer with that giant ego boost.

Better advice:“Get the scoop from his friends. If he likes you, I’m sure he’s told them by now!”

No one knows a guy’s secret crushes better than his best friends, so they’re definitely the people you should go to when you want the inside scoop. Plus, his guy friends will want to help their buddy get the girl if he likes her, so if you approach them, they’ll definitely be willing to assist you in a little game of matchmaker if he’s really interested! 

When her boyfriend makes her mad…

Bad advice:“Post that picture; it will totally make him jealous!”

When your friend’s boyfriend does something to upset her, it’s hard not to give her that extra nudge she needs to do something that will provoke a little jealousy out of her Prince Less Than Charming. That’s why when she’s elbow-deep in a pint of ice cream and debating posting an obvious subtweet about her anger-provoking boyfriend or a picture of her and a guy friend that will definitely make him jealous, you may be inclined to egg her on and give her the go-ahead.

While it may seem like a good idea at the time, creating social media drama is only going to cause more problems for your friend in the long run. It’s probably best for her to ride out the storm and take a little time to breathe without starting a heated game of “he-tweeted, she-tweeted” that will only end in a series of passive-aggressive hashtags.

Better advice: “Don’t do anything you’ll regret! Wait until you’ve cooled off a bit before you and your boyfriend talk it out.”

Be the bigger person and encourage your friend to lay low for the time being. Posting a totally jealousy-inducing Instagram may be satisfying to her in the moment, but you’ll be the one dealing with your emotional friend when her boyfriend sees it and it turns into an even messier blowout. It’s best for everyone involved to calm down and have a mature, civil conversation.

When she asks for flirting tips…

Bad Advice:“Boys like it when you’re ___.”

Fill in the blank with whatever adjective you use most often to help your friend attract that dreamy guy at the party: confident, forward, reserved, funny, coy, shy, outgoing—the list is endless!

The worst part about this advice is that not all guys are looking for the exact same girl, and no girl should ever change herself to attract a specific guy. As cheesy and clichéd as it may sound, the best way to attract the right guy is to just be yourself, so telling your friend to act like something she’s not isn’t going to do her any favors!

If your friend wants a guy to like her for who she really is, then you’ve got to let her flaunt what she’s got.

Better advice: “Just be yourself and the right guy will come along eventually.”

Being herself will definitely help your friend attract the right guy. You may have to help her through a few tearful rejections, but it will be worth it in the end when she finally finds the Ashton Kutcher to her Mila Kunis!

 

As much as we love being the supportive friend whom everyone goes to for love advice, we seriously need to update our list of helpful how-tos. We’ve all been caught doling out some terrible love advice at one point or another, but it’s time to put those love clichés to rest!

What is Retinol & Should You Be Using It?

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Remember the good old days when the media made it seem like you didn't have to worry about aging until at least your forties? If you've been following the latest beauty trends and advice columns, it seems that that golden age is officially over. Beauty brands and magazines alike are trying to steer us into starting anti-aging beauty regimens extra early, but how do we know it's not just another marketing scam? 

While we still aren't thinking of wrinkles as our number one priority right nowthere's a way of reaping some exceptional beauty benefits while secretly testing out an anti-wrinkle regimen. How? The beauty world's obsession—retinol. 

What is retinol?

Retinol is simply a molecule derived from Vitamin A. It works to unclog pores and rejuvenate skin through speedy cell turnover.

Why is it a must-have for twentysomethings?

While retinol is advertised primarily as an anti-aging, wrinkle-reducing super ingredient, that doesn't mean there aren't benefits for younger skin (and don't discount the anti-aging properties either, as retinol is one of the few anti-aging products actually proven to help younger women). First and foremost, the best way to fight wrinkles is to prevent them from occurring, so if you're aiming to maintain that dewy glow long after your twenties are over, starting to use retinol in your daily skin routine now can really help.

Even better, retinol doesn't just slow aging—it stimulates collagen production, seriously fights acne (which is why you may remember reading "retinol" on some of your teen products), and greatly improves skin discoloration from acne scars and the like.

Are there any precautions to keep in mind?

Unfortunately, retinol's superpowers come with a cost—extra photosensitivity that may increase damage from sun exposure. While the verdict's still out on whether these sun exposure warnings are actually true or simply myths, we still recommend that you don't apply retinol products and sunscreen simultaneously, as retinol may reduce the protective efficacy of SPF. Additionally, sunlight may also reduce the effects of the retinol!

Over-the-counter retinol may not be as strong as its prescription (retinoid) counterparts, but your skin is still prone to irritation or dryness when you first start. The key? Incorporate retinol into your routine gradually. Don't immediately buy only retinol-infused products—start with one, such as a night cream, and use it every other day (or even just once a week) so that your skin has time to adapt. Once you've graduated from the trial period, you can begin a daily regimen. And no matter how often you're using it, never apply more than a pea-sized amount at a time.

Because retinol is constantly removing old skin cells, it may thin out your skin. Thin skin ages faster and looks way less supple, meaning retinol's positive effects may actually be erased. If you're worried about this or already have thin skin, it might be good to hold off on retinol products until you're older—after all, you want to maintain those bouncy cheeks as long as possible! Always ask a dermatologist about the positives and negatives of using retinol in your twenties before you start. They'll know what's best for your specific skin type and can really talk the decision through with you so that you end up doing what's best for you.

If it turns out that you're retinol-approved, make sure you aren't relying solely on this product for results. The best way to prevent aging and maintain the healthiest skin possible is to begin complying to all of the best beauty habits, including frequent hydration, the use of antioxidants, and tons of sun protection whenever you're exposed to rays. There's no better time than your twenties to start, because preventative measures are always easier to manage than reversal. Your skin is at its peak, so let's keep it that way!

So, what products are best for twentysomethings?

Stick to over-the-counter products and save the prescriptions for later in life when you need more strength. Right now, your skin is extremely healthy, and overdoing it on retinol will only hurt it. Over-the-counter formulas are weaker, so they'll help with maintenance without over-irritating.

While there are day products out there, they should be used with caution. While they promise to be totally safe, they may still cause photosensitivity. Instead, we recommend sticking solely to night creams, which can be applied after you've cleansed and removed all of your makeup. We like the deliciously sweet and soothing smells of retinol-rich 40 Carrots products, such as the luxuriously hydrating Carrot + Mango Moisture Splurge moisturizer ($15, Drugstore.com), gentle Carrot + Creme Cleanser ($15, Drugstore.com), and Carrot + Cucumber Eye Gel ($15, Drugstore.com).

Eye creams may also be beneficial, as droopy eyes can be the first signs of aging. Keep those lids supple by either just using a retinol eye cream or working your regular retinol night cream right up under those eyes. Of course, you can always just stick to a acne-fighting retinol, such as Neutrogena's Healthy Skin Anti-Wrinkle Anti-Blemish Cleanser ($7.79, Walgreens). 

Just be sure to keep in mind that if you don't see results, that doesn't mean it's not working. First of all, twentysomethings have pretty great skin to begin with, so retinol's effects may not be visually noticeable at such a young age. Second of all, because over-the-counter methods work slower (and almost all products take longer to work than their boxes boast) you shouldn't be discouraged. Stick it out and don't stop just because you don't notice a difference—it's probably just on its way to working.

You Could Win Free Chipotle for a Year

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We know we're not the only ones that are obsessed with Chipotle. Sure, that carnitas shortage that happened earlier this year was about as heartbreaking as knowing that guac is extra but we're almost positive we weren't the only ones feeling a little blessed when we woke up today just to find out that there's a chance that we can win free Chipotle burritos for up to a year. 

That's right - on July 21, Chipotle is launching an interactive experience called "Friend or Faux," a game in which users and burrito-lovers alike are schooled on the differences between Chipotle's ingredients and those of other fast food restaurants. Anyone who completes the game will receive a special buy-one-get-one-free offer and will be entered into a national sweepstakes. 50 lucky grand prize winners will be drawn from the sweepstakes and will then be awarded (along with a friend) 365 days of free burritos. 100 grand prize winners will receive a Chipotle-catered party for 20 people. 

If, by any chance, you care to know what's in your Chicken McNuggets (or if you could use a Chipotle coupon), feel free to check out the game when it launches on Tuesday.


The 15 Stages of a Family Road Trip

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For several reasons, family road trips never seem to be as fun as they look in the movies. Even though ones like RV, We're the Millers and Little Miss Sunshine show the more dysfunctional (and realistic) side of what those days in the car can be like, we still feel like no one understands the love-hate relationship we have with these adventures. From avoiding your dad's road game ideas and ignoring your sister's way-too-loud music, staying sane on a family road trip is pretty much a full time job. Here's our take on the stages of survival in the car.

1. Before you've even gotten in the car, your parents are way too excited about this road trip.

Maybe it won't be as bad as you think. Maybe.

2. You double check that you have everything packed - and you remember to go to the bathroom. Twice.

Next step: Harassing all of your family members to do the same.

3. Inevitably, there will be some fight over who is sitting where in the car - especially when your younger brother tries to take your seat.

The youngest always gets the back seat. Deal with it.

4. It takes you ten minutes, but you finally find a position in your seat that's comfortable.

Well, as comfortable as you can be after accepting that you will never actually be comfortable.

5. Not even half an hour after you've left the house, you have to turn around because someone forgot a phone charger and your dad left the oven on.

Thanks for nothing, family.

6. You're trying not to start any drama, but your sister is playing Taylor Swift so loudly that her headphones may as well be speakers.

You like the remix of "Bad Blood" just as much as she does, but you would much prefer to listen to it on your own.

7. When you finally convince her to turn it down, your dad decides that a better soundtrack for the road would be a family song.

Should you jump out the car now, or wait until you stop for gas to make a run for it?

8. By the time the song is over, all you want to do is sleep and listen to your own music.

You're allowed to be anti-social, even when there are at least four people within arm's reach of you.

9. You've just started to fall asleep when your brother announces that he has to go to the bathroom and can't hold it.

*Cue him climbing over you to get out of the car, spilling crumbs from the Doritos he'd been eating all over your lap as he does*

10. On the bright side, you grab a bag of your favorite pretzels inside the otherwise disgusting gas station.

Your one ray of hope.

11. You've hardly eaten one before your sister says she's going to be sick - and the nearest bag is, yep, the one holding your pretzels.

Because apparently vomit can't wait for your dad to pull the car over. Sigh.

12. You're trying not to be a grouch, but if your brother asks "Are we there yet?" one more time, you're going to scream.

WE'LL GET THERE WHEN WE GET THERE, DUDE.

13. At this point, you actually wish for something to go so wrong on this trip that you end up having to get shuttled to the nearest airport and fly to your destination.

Like a melodramatic 13-year-old girl, you actually contemplate drawing "HELP" on a piece of paper and taping it to your window.

14. If there's one good thing that comes out of it, your followers on Twitter are loving your live tweets of your misery.

It's funny as hell when you're not the one in the car.

15. By the time you arrive, you don't think you've ever been happier to be on land again.

Next family road trip, you'll bring a bottle of wine.

15 Signs Being Social Just Isn't for You

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Whether you spend your free time binge watching shows on Netflix or  just avoiding the general populace, not all of us are the social type. While some people love to party and cause mayhem, others delight in online shopping and nights in with the guys: Ben and Jerry. Here are 15 signs being social just isn't for you!

1. You consider Rachel, Ross, Monica, Chandler, Phoebe and Joey to be your best (read: only) friends.

"I'll be there for youuuuuu" ...just not today. There's a Friends marathon on.

2. You squeal with delight every time a friend cancels his or her plans with you.

*Pretends to be devastated but really spends all night binge watching shows on Netflix*

3. You sneak to the gym as soon as it opens or right as it's about to close to avoid as many people as possible.

Does running away from social interaction count as exercise?

4. Whenever you run into an acquaintance on campus, the first thing he or she says is, “OMG, I thought you transferred!”

You're harder to track down than Carmen Sandiego.

5. You have a slight panic attack any time someone calls you or asks you to hang out.

Just let it go to voicemail!

6. You think the greatest invention since sliced bread is the ability to order pizza online so that you never have to talk to anybody.

Who needs friends when there's pizza?

7. Sometimes you go so long without speaking to anyone that when you do, you’ve completely forgotten how to put sentences together.

Speaking is so overrated anyways. 

8. You’re capable of crafting any excuse to get out of plans.

*Insert extraordinarily complicated lie to get out of lunch plans*

9. You get really uncomfortable when people try to open up to you about personal things.

Just nod your way through the awkwardness.

10. Online shopping is your religion.

Does that mean we never have to step foot inside the mall again? Victory!

11. You consider being stuck in an elevator full of people to be a fate worse than death.

And the panicking begins in five... four...

12. The “Irish goodbye” is your way of life.

Thanks for the invite! See you never!

13. You like the idea of dating in theory, but you aren’t willing to give up your nights in with Ben and Jerry to go out with anyone.

Chunky Monkey is the best boyfriend.

14. You have 5,000 tweets to your name, but if you met any of your followers in real life, you’d have nothing to say them.

Why be funny in real life when you can just be funny on Twitter?

15. Celebrities wear disguises in public to avoid the paparazzi. You do it to avoid people you know.

Is the trench coat too much?

 

Just because you're not social doesn't mean you're boring! So embrace your introverted personality, chow down on that Ben and Jerry's and spend time with your real Friends.

This App Will Give You Instant Access to a Personal Shopper

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Need expert advice on what to wear to your cousin's wedding this month but don't have time to dash to the mall to consult with a personal stylist? SAME. Most of us collegiettes would rather spend our time being more productive, say, laying out to catch a tan. Luckily, there's finally an app for that! 

The new app, Scratch, was created by CEO Matt Zisow, who himself struggled to find time to purchase the perfect product. The app itself connects users with personal shoppers to get recommendations for home decor, accessories and gifts. The shoppers are guaranteed to answer within 24 hours, providing the information to purchase the suggested products. 

While Zisow refrains from labeling the service as a "stylist," he says the app can be used in similar ways. Scratch currently operates as a group of six shopping experts and plans to soon hire freelancers. Who knew shopping for a living was a reasonable career?! Where can we apply?

As of late, Scratch mostly has deals with "a couple hundred" various home, gifts and accessories brands. 

Crunching the numbers: during beta testing, Scratch reported about 75 percent of sales coming from gifts and home, with 15 percent from jewelry and accessories. Approximately 40 to 50 percent of users actually purchase the product suggested by their shopper. 80 percent of those shoppers return to make a second request, showing that they're clearly happy with the service. 

Here's another number: $3.6 million, which is the amount raised by investors from representatives of companies like Pinterest and Birchbox. Pretty good company to keep. 

How To Be More Outgoing: Your Go-To-Guide to Putting Yourself Out There

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We all have that social butterfly friend: the one who talks to professors with ease, charms boys and is the life of the party. She always raises her hand in class, chats up people in the elevator and just exudes confidence all the time. She’s the outgoing one, and you have no clue how she does it.

Whether you’re shy or just introverted, being outgoing doesn’t come easily to everyone. But putting yourself out there doesn’t have to be so nerve-wracking! Read on for tips from an expert and fellow collegiettes so you can socialize without anxiety.

Are you shy or introverted?

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Contrary to popular belief, these words aren’t synonyms! “Shyness is something you can overcome if you want to,” says Sophia Dembling, Psychology Today blogger and author of the upcoming book, The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World. “It's about fear. Introversion is about preference and not only is it likely that you don't want to get over it, but researchers believe that introversion is hardwired into us.”

Introverts are more internally-focused. Being around a ton of people can be exhausting for them. Introverts aren’t always shy, though. They just draw from internal energy, rather than getting it from other people.

Here’s the difference: shy girls may really want to be outgoing, but find it difficult because of anxiety. Introverts may feel fine keeping to themselves. But Dembling says our society rewards the more outgoing people. So whether or not you want to be outgoing, you might still feel the pressure.

“Society rewards outgoing people with what they want because it's very easy to see what they want,” Dembling says. “They want attention, so society gives them attention.”

So what’s a quiet girl to do?

Get comfortable
For Johns Hopkins collegiette Vanessa, becoming more outgoing required a specific environment. After noticing that she felt more comfortable in smaller groups in high school, she deliberately chose a college that was smaller.“I knew a big school wasn’t going to work for me,” she says. “I needed an environment where I wouldn’t have to feel pressured to be heard in a giant group.”

For Vanessa, putting herself in situations where her quiet demeanor would not work against her helped her to acclimate and become more comfortable so that she could eventually feel that same comfort in larger groups. So to start off, choose small classes and join small groups when you can. Ease yourself into conversations and social situations until you get more comfortable by reaching out to others and letting your voice be heard. Gestures as simple as introducing yourself, asking or answering a question, or offering your opinion will help you get used to putting yourself out there.

Start small
Unfortunately, you can’t go from quiet to outgoing overnight. But the little things can help a lot. Try just making eye contact and smiling at people on your way to chemistry. Make small talk in the Starbucks line. Enlist your friends to introduce you to people—working off of your friends’ outgoingness is the easiest way to meet new people without the pressure of having to initiate the conversation by yourself.

Even just being aware of your shyness can go a long way. “Throughout years of having shyness being something I’ve dealt with, and wanting to see it change, it’s helped to have that consciousness,” says Kate from Wellesley College. Since Kate knew shyness was something she would have to work around, she made conscious goals for herself, like speaking at least once every class or talking to one boy at a party. Making mini goals pushed her, so that talking and socializing eventually became easier and less scary. Before any situation where you know you’ll be around lots of people, try making a few mini goals like Kate. Setting a goal, even if it’s as minor as introducing yourself to just one new person, will motivate you and make you feel good about your efforts.

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Fake it ‘til you make it
Dembling, a self-described introvert, says the best way to feel more outgoing is to just pretend at first.“I behave as if I am not the least bit nervous, as if I think the audience is going to love me,” she says. “You can think that way when you step into a party. Behave as if you are not nervous, as if you are happy to be there.”

One way to do this, especially in classroom settings, is to prepare before entering the situation. Is an upcoming oral English presentation making you anxious? Practice what you’re going to say and rehearse it until you feel confident. You may still feel a little nervous speaking in front of the class, but preparing will eliminate some nerves. Focus on what you can control, not what you can’t. And it doesn’t hurt to step out of your comfort zone—it helps you grow!

“Force yourself into social situations,” says Akriti from Johns Hopkins University. “It just makes you have to speak and be around people. Obviously, there’s going to be times when you can’t get over your shyness. But bringing yourself out of your comfort zone is pretty effective.”

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself
“I think introverts often imagine that every word they say has to matter somehow, has to be smart or important or clever,” Dembling says. “One thing to keep in mind is that small talk is called that for a reason. It's small. It doesn't have to be anything but pleasant. It's simply a connection between human beings, so don't sweat it.”

Emily, a University of Virginia collegiette, says you can still be outgoing in a group even if you don’t know what to say. “The best way to start conversing with a group you’re not familiar with is to ask questions,” she says. “It shows that you’re engaged in the conversation but it leaves the work up to them. It takes some pressure off of you.”

Kate also suggests that if you feel social anxiety or if you just want to work on feeling more comfortable in social situations, talking to someone about your goals may help. “Talk to a psychologist about it,” she says. “Everyone’s different and there’s not a good blanket solution. It’s however you learn to do this better. Especially when you have different goals. Do you wish to be an extrovert? Or do you want to cope as an introvert in an extroverted world?”

Whether you’re a social butterfly or a little on the shy side, start slowly and don’t push yourself too hard! You don’t have to be the most outgoing girl in the world to have great relationships.

19 TV Breakups We're Still Not Over

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We love TV love. But all great couples split every now and then. We’ve seen a lot of bad TV breakups in our time, but these are the 19 that still break our hearts every time we see them.

1. Ross and Rachel, Friends

They were on a break! That didn’t make Ross cheating on Rachel with the copy girl hurt any less.

2. Summer and Seth, The O.C.

Seth finally had the girl of his dreams until he set sail without her. We can’t blame Summer for ditching Cohen, but thankfully, these polar opposites made their way back to each other eventually.

3. Zack and Kelly, Saved by the Bell

Kelly and Zack had the perfect high school romance, until Kelly set her sights on that pervy older guy who worked at The Max. We wonder how that worked out. Oh yeah, he cheated on her. But Zack and Kelly later eloped in Vegas, so fate trumped poor teen decision making.

4. Nick and Jess, New Girl

These two kind of brought out the worst in each other while they were together. So we weren’t exactly devastated when they broke up... though we can’t help but wonder what things would be like a second time around.

5. Sydney and Vaughn, Alias

Nothing says “I think we should break up” like marrying someone else while your missing/presumed dead girlfriend is tortured for two years.

6. Rory and Logan, Gilmore Girls

We felt like we were intruding on a private moment when Rory rejected Logan’s proposal. Just so much awkward.

7. Luke and Lorelai, Gilmore Girls

The Gilmore ladies sure know how to do breakups. Watching Luke try to make things right with Lorelai not knowing that she had just slept with Christopher was absolute heartbreak. Because Christopher is to blame for pretty much every bad thing that ever happened on this show.

8. Mindy and Danny, The Mindy Project

We rejoiced when Danny took the initiative to make out with Mindy on that plane. But just as quickly as he decided he wanted to be with her he got scared. We agree that this little bump was needed early in their relationship, but wow were we sad for a few episodes there.

9. Will and Grace, Will & Grace

Without a doubt, this platonic duo was made for each other. But when the series finale showed that they had drifted apart, we couldn’t believe it. And that it took their two college-aged children to bring them back together again? Nope, we’re calling B.S.

10. Finn and Rachel, Glee

There was no denying that Finn wanted to be with Rachel. But he wouldn’t let their relationship stand in the way of her dreams, sending her off to pursue a career in New York without him.

11. Robin and Barney, How I Met Your Mother

They both liked Scotch, and they weren’t so great at commitment, a match made in heaven if we do say so ourselves. So imagine our shock that they called it quits several years into their marriage and that Ted tried to win Robin back after his wife (yep, the mother) died. Ugh, so much about this is wrong.

12. Brad and Emily, The Bachelor

We’ve seen a lot of Bachelor couples split. But Brad and Emily seemed like they were getting a second chance at love, which is why it was so hard for us to jump from feeling their elated bliss during Brad’s proposal to seeing the tension that had developed since on After the Final Rose.

13. Amber and Ryan, Parenthood

This relationship was extreme from the very beginning, with Ryan’s PTSD often standing in the way of his happiness with Amber. But we were distraught when they didn’t try to make it work after all they’d been through. We’re also going to choose to disregard that series finale flash forward that put the final nail in their coupledom coffin.

14. Pacey and Joey, Dawson’s Creek

There’s no great place to stage a breakup, but the prom? That will never end well.

15. Leslie and Ben, Parks and Recreation

We were overjoyed when Ben and Leslie decided to give it a go, but Ben sacrificing their relationship so that she could run for city council was perhaps the most selfless romantic gesture of all time.

16. Logan and Veronica, Veronica Mars

LoVe—official couple name, by the way—broke up and made up a lot of times. But none made us more unhappy than their demise at the series’ end. Watching Logan pine for Veronica as she moved on to Piz was excruciatingly painful. Fortunately, we only had to wait seven years for them to reunite in the show’s Kickstarter-funded film.

17. Spencer and Toby, Pretty Little Liars

Thinking Toby was A was enough to send Spencer off her rocker. Not gonna lie: we almost checked into Radley, too.

18. Jim and Pam, The Office

So they never technically broke up but testing our favorite office romance during the show’s final season was completely unnecessary. Don’t even toy with our emotions like that!

19. Chuck and Blair, Gossip Girl

Whew, this one’s a doozy. Some fans never got over Chuck trying to trade Blair for his hotel, but we’re glad Blair did.

Which of these breakups are you still not over, collegiettes?

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