Who doesn’t love a night out for cocktails? One thing's for sure though, cocktails can be pricey. They’re definitely not the best things for a college girl on a budget! Ever thought about trying to save money but had no idea how to make any of your favorites? Well now there’s a Keurig for cocktails, and you need one in your life!

The machine is called Bartesian and it functions in the same way a Keurig does. You buy a pod for the cocktail you want to make, place it in the machine, push a button, and just like magic, you’ve got your own personal happy hour in a glass! You can even choose the strength of the cocktail depending on your mood.

The machine is currently only a Kickstarter, but they’ve already raised over half of their $100,000 goal. By donating $249 to their Kickstarter you can be one of the first people to own this genius invention. They’ve released six classic cocktails for their first pods: Margarita, Sex on the Beach, Zest Martini, Bartesian Breeze, Uptown Rocks, and of course, the classic Cosmopolitan. They’re planning to add more options if the business grows.

So maybe instead of a night out you could spend a night in with the girls drinking insta-perfect cosmos and watching (what else?) Sex and the City. Even though the machine is a bit pricey, you’re sure to save money in the long run and enjoy some delicious cocktails while you’re at it! What do you think collegiettes? Would you invest in a Bartesian?

T-Swift and Calvin Harris have only been dating for a few months, but they’re already well on their way to becoming our favorite celeb couple. Here are 9 reasons why:

1. Calvin looks at Taylor like this:

and she cheers him on like this:

2. He shows her off on social media...

...and so does she:

3. They wear matching outfits to Whole Foods...

...and on their way to a club.

I mean, come ON.

4. They can’t keep their hands off each other.

We’re totally okay with PDA when it comes to these two.

5. They were set up by their mutual friend, none other than Ellie Goulding.

If Ellie thinks they’re the perfect match, so do we.

6. Taylor’s BFF Ed Sheeran and Calvin totally bonded.

And if Ed approves… well, you know.

7. Calvin might be the reason Taylor now wants kids someday.

Although she hasn’t confirmed that he was behind this change of heart, the pair must be pretty great together for her to be thinking about having kids after all.

8. But for now, she trusts her boyfriend with her cats.

And we all know how crazy she is about Meredith Grey and Olivia Benson.

9. We won’t be getting sick of pictures like this any time soon.

*swoon*

Are Taylor and Calvin the real thing? What do you think, collegiettes?

So for whatever reason you finally decided to go on a diet. Maybe you just want to adopt a healthier lifestyle. Or maybe you’re looking to lose a few pounds for your next beach trip. So you go grocery shopping with your new resolve and can’t seem to remember why diets never used to work out for you. “Just go for it,” you think. “This will be easy” you think… and then it suddenly clicks why you gave up every other time. These are all the reasons diets totally suck.

1. Most diets don’t involve pizza.

2. Or bacon…

3. Or ice cream…

4. Or beer…

5. And sometimes food brings us more joy than basically anything else in the world.

6. We thought we were done with math back in high school and counting calories is a whole new kind of mathematical torture.

7. It takes forever to finally see your results and those cookies are literally staring into your soul and begging for your love.

8. What’s a diet without exercise… and what is exercise but literally our worst nightmare.

9. They say you can live 21 days without food before your body starts shutting down. And you wanna know who the hell are “they” because it’s been two hours and you are fairly confident your organs are eating themselves.

10. Healthy food isn’t all bad but it can be pretty pricey for things you don’t even really want to be eating.

11. Watching everyone else eat French fries while you eat kale chips is like:

12. You probably never realized it could be better to fantasize about a hamburger than it is to fantasize about Ryan Gosling shirtless.

13. You’ll never forget the sensual/spiritual/emotional experience of a great meal.

14. It’s basically impossible to look cool eating a salad.

15. It’s definitely impossible to look cool eating broccoli or a stalk of celery.

16. It’s not easy sticking to something for so long.

17. And even though in the end it can be really worth it, you still miss the good times you used to have with your best friend/lover, pizza.

Ashton Kutcher is just about the most perfect man to walk the planet. And what better female is there than Mila Kunis? Ashton is tall, dark and handsome with that hilarious personality and Mila is beautiful, smart and insanely talented. They're probably the most underrated power couple to grace our tabloids! Below are just a few examples on why they truly define relationship goals. 

1. Ashton was Mila's first kiss. 

According to Mila Kunis, her days on That '70s Show were made a little better after she recieved her first kiss from her then on-screen bae, Ashton Kutcher! So naturally it's just too adorable they found their way back together now.

2. And any girl alive wants to hear this:

We can only imagine the cute things Ashton Kutcher must say to her, with practice like this! *Swoon*

3. They were friends first.

When That '70s Show ended, Ashton and Mila both had other relationships. Kunis was dating Home Alone star Macaulay Culkin and Kutcher was married to actress Demi Moore. Nevertheless, the pair still remained friends after the bond they created from the show was too hard to break. And some say the best romantic relationships started from friendship!

4. They casually came out as a couple. 

After Ashton's divorce was finalized and Mila was single, they found themselves in a romantic relationship. And that time the twosome stepped out for a Los Angeles Lakers game and kissed courtside pretty much sealed the deal. Sure, there had been rumors. It may have taken a while for them to announce a public relationship, but we're sure glad they did it in a casual way. No glitz and glamour, just season tickets to the Lakers that cost our college tuition!   

5. Which led to them being cute in every stadium across the country.

Sign us up for boyfriends who take us to games and buy us food!

6. Couples that eat doughnuts together, stay together. 

*sighs in jealousy* *wishes we had doughnuts*

7. They nailed the #twinning thing.

Doughnuts and matching shirts....can it get better than that? 

8. This kiss in Central Park though...

That's right! You grab him and kiss him, girl!

9. Ashton perfected the hugging-from-behind thing, too. 

And some of us can't even get a text back.

10. Naturally, the most beautiful couple got engaged. 

While details on that are pretty nonexistenant, check out that ring Mila rocks!

11. And then (secretly) married.

We can't blame them, but we'd love to see some more pictures of Ashton in his suit! 

12. But not before the pregnancy!

Yep. For nine months Mila walked around sporting her baby bump, with her man at her side, before the nuptials. 

13. Meet baby Wyatt! 

That girl is going to be stunning!

Possibly the cutest family in Hollywood, Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher have the most adorable love story. Meeting young and finding love later on sounds like the next Nicholas Sparks novel! If the last 13 reasons why Ashton and Mila are the definition of relationship goals didn't do it for you, we'll leave you with these two adorable selfies the pair has taken!

Former Charmed star Rose McGowan won't stand for the sexist double standard that reigns over Hollywood. Last week, she tweeted a picture of an audition casting note she received for a movie starring an actor whose name "rhymes with Madam Panhandler" (read: Adam Sandler).

Reactions were mixed, with one Twitter user completely missing the point, asking, "didn't you get naked on camera just last year? Is the fact that you have to wear clothes for a role that's putting you off?" But overwhelmingly, fans and the media took McGowan's side, stressing how unacceptable it is to ask an actress to "show off cleavage" and wear a push-up bra—especially when you can bet that Sandler himself will be wearing XXL sweatpants.

"I was offended by the stupidity more than anything," McGowan explained in an interview with Entertainment Weekly. "I was offended by the fact that it went through so many people’s hands and nobody red flagged it. This is normal to so many people." She added that her goal was not to "villify Adam Sandler," although he had made sexist comments in the past.

Although her comments will have cost her this particular role (which we're sure she didn't want anyway!), McGowan's career is anything but over. Her first short film, Dawn, which premiered at Sundance last year and is now available for streaming on YouTube, was widely praised by critics. You go, girl!

We each know our Starbucks order by heart, but what does that 10-second blurb of words - "extra,""shot,""half," or "caf" - really say about you? (Other than that you're willing to spend five dollars on some jitter-inducing, whipped-cream-covered, essentially-all-chocolate drink.)

Black Coffee: Wise

You truly appreciate coffee for what it is. You laugh in the face of the legging-clad frappucino drinkers. "Oh, java chip... I remember those days." You turn your nose up at the young folks sipping strawberry-flavored cream through a straw. Like your drink of choice, you are somewhat bitter at the others for their bravery in ordering more flamboyant drinks. But through and through, you will sip your dark roast, embrace that resulting buzz, and continue to subtly brag about how you have taken it black since the mere age of 15.

Frappuccino: Brave

You can't quite meet the barista's eyes when you order your drink, and when she finally yells, "Caramel frappuccino for Sarah," you grab your drink and make haste for the exit before the entire Starbucks crowd has a chance to judge you for the calorie-per-cent drink you just shelled out five dollars for (you like to avoid doing the math). But once you step outside that forest-green haven of hipsters and scones, you rejoice. For it is just you and your frap. And we all know, deep down, that the sweet taste of a frappuccino is worth each disapproving glare, and each godforesaken cent you just spent.

Mocha: Sweet

A little bit of sugar helps the medicine go down, amirite? That's your motto everytime you walk into Starbucks, and it's also justification for your mocha. Bitter drinks and bitter attitudes are just not your thing. And hey, when has chocolate ever hurt anyone? You say shots, shots, shots, everybody! Flavor shots, that is.

Espresso: Fierce

When it comes to caffeine, you don't fool around. You want it to work like magic. You are Sirius about coffee. One shot of espresso, and it's as though you were put under a spell of alertness.

Latte: Basic

You have no shame in your order. You march your spirit-jersey-clad self up to the counter and confidently order your regular. The perfectly balanced concoction of espresso and steamed milk are much like your perfectly-balanced personality: hovering between narcissistic and humble. The only time your drink order is a problem is when the barista calls, "Grande latte for Kelly," and four different brunettes in Tory Burch flats go up to grab it, including you.

Iced Coffee: Laid-back

Much like your drink, you're chill. You waltz into the coffee shop and patiently wait in line to order your iced beverage. When it's ready, you slyly shake around the ice cubes and sip until your temperature matches your mindset: cool. 

No matter what your drink of choice is, behind all the hissing machines, sugary syrups and barista judgment lies a fact: coffee is to be enjoyed. So do yo thang.

We all need a little guidance now and then, so whether you’re stressed about a fling gone wrong, a recently wrecked relationship or how to handle a stage-five clinger, Real Live College Guy Dale is here to help you navigate the college dating scene.

The guy I've been exclusively seeing for five months told me his ex is coming up for a few weeks this summer because she has a vacation home near our hometown. He says he's going to hang out with her when she comes up, but I don't feel comfortable with this situation, mainly because I just don't see the point in being friends with an ex unless there are still feelings there, and they were serious for over a year.

Do I have a right to be concerned, or am I being crazy? He claims that she has a new boyfriend and he has me so there's nothing to worry about, but I know that while she was here over spring break, she hit him up wanting to hook up with him and sneak out of her house while her boyfriend was in her bed. So clearly she still has feelings for him. I don't want to be controlling because I do respect him and I want him to do what makes him happy, I'm just having a very hard time deciding what to do. -Ex Trouble at Emory

Emory,

You’ve got to draw your boundaries. A relationship is, or should be, built on trust and understanding. On one hand, unless he’s done something previously to lose your trust, then you should trust him to hang out with someone and not screw around. On the other hand, he should understand your unease about the whole situation.

I’ll be straight with you—I’m on your side here. I’ve never thought that hanging out with an ex was a great idea unless there was a friendshipthat existed before a relationship. Sometimes friends date, break up and move on to better things — that’s fine. But at the same time, I think hanging out with your ex when you’re in a relationship with another person is kind of a crappy thing to do.

You’ve got a right to be wary, and if after communicating your feelings to him he still doesn’t (or won’t) understand your stance, then maybe you need to reexamine the relationship. Like I said, a relationship is built on trust and understanding. If one party is uneasy about something, the other party should take that into consideration.

He’s with you now, and hanging out with an ex (especially one whom he was with for that long) isn’t going to help anyone move forward. Moreover, the fact that you know she was willing to cheat on another guy to hook up with your boyfriend tells me that you have every right to be upset if he wants to see her so badly.

Show him you respect him by communicating your feelings with him; otherwise, he’s going to be equally as upset when he goes to hang out with her and you’re suddenly angry. Give him a heads-up as to how you’re feeling, and while he may not be totally understanding, if he cares at all about being with you, I think he’ll realize that hanging out with an ex is probably not the best idea.

You’re in the right, Emory, but you need to communicate with this guy. Otherwise, it’s going to get super messy. 

From playing quirky Cat Valentine to becoming a sassy, international pop star, we couldn’t love Ariana any harder if we tried! Besides making it acceptable to wear cat ears all year long and having the most famous ponytail in history, Ariana has actually taught us some pretty important lessons over the years. In honor of her 22nd birthday, here are 22 things that we have learned from the Boca babe.

1. You are never too old to rock kitten ears.

2. We learned how to be proud feminists.

3. She taught us how to move on when we deserve better.

4. You can’t please everyone.

5. It’s alright to admit it when you have absolutely no clue what’s going on.

6. Everyone is a little weird.

7. Always keep your head up.

8. It’s okay for you to wear your hair in a ponytail every day of your life if that’s how you like it.

9. Don’t be afraid to tell people how you really feel.

10. When it doubt, hug it out.

11. She taught us to always be ourselves.

12. Disney World will never not be the most magical place on Earth.

13. Laughter is contagious, so do it more often.

14. Don’t take yourself too seriously…

15. But it’s okay to embrace you’re inner diva too.

16. She reminded us that boys don’t always understand us.

17. Everyone gets nervous at times, and that’s alright.

18. Your sexuality doesn’t define your character.

19. Always dance like no one is watching.

20. Lighten up and remember to have fun.

21. A smile can brighten someone’s day, so always smile back.

22. And if you perform at a Victoria’s Secret fashion show, beware of angel wings.

Happy Birthday, Ariana!

While we all dream of the day that we score the perfect internship, it’s safe to say that the path to getting there can be pretty tough. From applications, to networking, to writing a resume and cover letter, it’s easy to understand why the internship search process is a little daunting for collegiettes. And if you plan to apply to an internship for this upcoming fall semester... on top of balancing school? Even tougher—but not impossible! Even if many companies haven’t posted positions yet, there are tons of things you can do during your downtime this summer to get prepped for internship application season so that you won’t have to sweat it this fall! 

1. Perfect your resume and cover letter skills

One of the first steps to getting prepped for the semester internship process is also the easiest—revamp your resume! Dr. Katherine Cohen, founder and CEO of the admissions counseling website Ivywise, suggests polishing your resume in advance, so that when it’s time to hand it to employers, it’s ready to go!

“When applying for internships, it’s important to have a complete, up-to-date record of your professional experience, interests and goals,” Dr. Cohen says. “While it isn’t anyone’s favorite thing to complete their resume, it is the most important first step you can take so it is easy to apply to any internships that may be of interest to you as soon as they pop up. Don’t miss out on opportunities.”

Get out that untouched resume file on your computer and check it over to make sure it’s totally updated with your most recent experience and information—you wouldn’t want potential employers to miss out on knowing about that killer internship you had last summer or your work experience last semester! And even if your resume is up to date, it can never hurt to proofread it for typos or ask a friend to read over it.

In addition to working on your resume, it's important to brush up on your cover letter skills too! It’s a great idea to start thinking about what you’d put in a cover letter to specific internships you might apply to, and if you’re unsure of where you’ll apply this fall, just going over guidelines for writing a cover letter with your school’s career center can be just as helpful!

2. Focus on the bigger picture

Having a little bit of downtime to focus on you makes summer the perfect time to do a little soul-searching and think about what it is you really want. What are your ultimate career goals and what types of internships should you be looking into in order to reach them? Dr. Cohen says that it’s important to take a step back and think about the type of career that would interest you in the long run and how future internships can help you get there.

“Pinpoint your end goals and pursue what interests you,” Dr. Cohen says. “The point of an internship is to explore a particular field to see if you would like to pursue it as an academic major or career, so you should do something that really interests you and builds upon your current skills.”

Use this summer to reflect upon your skills and the experiences you’ve had that you’ve both enjoyed and disliked. Did you really love a certain major-specific class you took last semester? Did you really hate an internship you had a few summers ago? Take all of these experiences into account when you’re thinking about the types of internships that will suit you best next semester!

3. Do your homework

In order to feel confident heading into interviews this fall, it’s going to be important for you to research, research, research, spending time looking into the companies and industry you plan to enter far before you actually sit down to apply. Mish Southgate, a career coach and founder of career counseling service Visibility Careers, says that the best way to get ahead before application season hits this fall is to learn all you can about the companies you might be interested in being a part of.

“The key to getting a head start with internships is research,” Southgate says. “Before the hiring season begins, use the summer to research industries you are interested in, the companies that are considered leaders in those industries, and the career paths they offer. In addition, gather as much information as you can about the corporate culture and what skills and qualities are required to be successful.”

While many companies may not have posted about specific opportunities yet, start thinking about companies that you’re hoping to intern with. Learning all you can about what skills you’ll need for the job and what it’s like to work there will give you a leg up in the fall, so that all you’ll need to do is apply!

4. Start reaching out

Know exactly where you want to be next semester? It never hurts to reach out! When you know which companies you’ll be applying to next semester, Dr. Cohen says that it’s a good idea to start making connections with people who already work there.

“Do research on local companies or organizations at which you would like to intern, see if you have any connections who work there, then reach out to learn more about opportunities they may have, or if you have questions about a certain position they have posted,” Dr. Cohen says. “Use parents, friends, your college alumni website and other job search sites to connect with individuals who could sit down and provide more information about their field of work.”

Of course, you don’t want to start getting in touch with possible employers by asking for an internship—instead, reach out and ask questions about their position, their company, or their industry. Now is a great time for informational interviews! Because many internships open applications as early as August and have deadlines as early as October, it’s a great idea to start making connections ahead of time. Does an alum from your school work for a company you may intern for? Ask him or her to get coffee! Additionally, see if you can get in touch with any current interns at the company in order to ask them about their experience interning there. Not only will they be able to provide advice on the position's application process, but they'll also be able to provide insight into whether or not you'd actually enjoy the job! All in all, it can never hurt to start making connections now so that companies will have a face to place with the name on your application.

5. Use social media to your advantage

As with any job search, social media is a major player here—use it to your advantage! Anna Crowe Bates, the SEO Marketing Manager of Noodle, a website that connects students with colleges and educational opportunities, suggests connecting with companies on social media as a way to stay in-the-know.

“Brands post behind-the-scenes sneak peeks into daily office life and they 
also share internship postings,” Crowe says. “If you don't see anything, don't be afraid 
to put yourself out there by sending a friendly email inquiring about 
future openings.”

In addition to following companies, make sure to connect with internship posting sites like Ed2010, which often tweet internship listings and opportunities. Of course, when you’re connecting with potential employers, it also means that they could potentially connect with you—make sure you clean up any social media presence that they may find now so that there's nothing to worry about once you’ve applied!

Ultimately, starting to think about everything you need to do in order to successfully fill out applications this fall will help relieve the stress once application season begins. When you get ahead on the process of searching out the companies you might want to intern for and prepping yourself to apply for them, you’ll be ready to fill out applications the minute they hit the internet this fall. Happy internship hunting, collegiettes!

Want to look chic and support a great cause this summer? Look no further! Her Campus is teaming up with Slumlove, a sweater line that raises funds to help women and children living in Kenyan slums, and giving away three lightweight knit tanks from its new line!

Slumlove raises money for a non-profit that provides scholarships for children and employment for communities in Kibera, one of largest slums in the world. This summer, the line introduced a loose-fit tank perfect for looking stylish and keeping cool. The best part is, these tanks are made from 100% un-dyed organic cotton, made by women in Kenya who receive a living wage and healthcare for their work.

Enter to win one of three knit tanks and support women and children living in the slums of Kenya! And be sure to keep up with the latest Slumlove news by following them on Instagram and Twitter!

Oh, rompers. They’re the perfect alternative to our worn-out sundresses on a hot summer day. The shorter little sister to our other favorite one-piece pal, the jumpsuit, rompers somehow make life seem like it’s about to get much easier. But even though they’re parading around as a friend, every girl knows they come with a whole load of problems, too. Below are 7 issues we’ve encountered while wearing one.

1. You have to completely undress when you go to the bathroom

Part shorts, part dress. Both of those things are easy to pee in. Put them together, and it’s physically impossible to use the bathroom without getting naked first. Add to that the misery of only discovering this once your only option is a public restroom.

2. They border between real outfit and beach cover-up

You know when you’re browsing the women’s section at Target, and you can’t quite tell if you’ve ventured over into swimwear or are still looking at the acceptable adult clothing? Yeah.

3. You risk looking like you’re in a sexy mechanic get-up

The booty shorts and one-piece vibe make this into a (almost) Halloween costume. And not in a good way.

4. The sizing and proportions are ridiculously specific

Long torsos and busty chests, be gone! You’re not welcome here. Just because they have adjustable straps and a bunch of elastic does not mean rompers fit more than one body size.

5. They ride up all day long

Somehow the constant struggle is worse than when you’re wearing plain ‘ole shorts. You’re always scared your butt is about to pop out because face it—no matter what you do it’s going to happen.

6. They’re basically the same style that babies wear, like, 24/7

You know those adorable onesies and jumpers that your cousin’s one-year-old practically lives in? Imagine them in your size, and bingo. You’ve got rompers!

7. You love them too much for any of this to matter

Despite all the things that you know can go wrong, you can’t help but stock up on these man-made miracles.

What struggles have you faced while wearing rompers, collegiettes?

"Resting Nice Face" is a condition in which your resting face is naturally a pleasant expression. Symptoms include: conversations with strangers, constant smiling and generally looking approachable. It's the antithesis of resting b*tch face, but is equally widespread - and dare we say it, catching. Think this condition applies to you? Check for these telltale signs.

1. Strangers will sit with you at coffee shops, even if you don’t want them to. 

There’s an empty seat over there… Nope? Okay.

2. They’ll also tell you their life story. In detail.

TMI.

3. Doesn’t matter if you’re in the mall, in a city or around campus—someone will ask you for directions.

Do I look like Google Maps to you?

4. You’ve learned to hate planes because the person sitting next to you will always chat you up, even when you clearly have headphones in.

I just want to listen to 1989 in peace! Is that SO much to ask?!

5. People are genuinely surprised if you’re sassy, or better yet, say a curse word.

Sometimes “darn” doesn’t cut it.

6. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been legal; you always get carded at the liquor store.

Nice face = baby face.

7. Trying to be sexy is pointless. You always come off looking cute or awkward instead.

Guess a sexy nurse costume for Halloween is out…

8. It’s really frustrating when you’re mad but no one believes you.

Seriously! I’m pissed!

9. Guys will consistently hit on you when you’re out because you look approachable…

Just because I’m smiling doesn’t mean I’m flirting. 

10. …and then not take the hint that you’re not interested.

Really, please just go away.

11. Sometimes you get mistaken for ditzy, which is just ridiculous.

So I can’t be nice and smart…? Cool, good to know...

Hey, on the bright side, if you are afflicted with Resting Nice Face, you’ll never be mistaken for a b*tch! And you’re probably a nice person anyways.

Something extremely exciting (and long overdue) just went down in the Supreme Court—gay marriage is now officially legal throughout the United States!

America is officially so done with same-sex relationships being seen as invalid or inferior, and has been for quite some time now. A recent poll revealed that over 6 in 10 Americans are all for marriage equality, and a 5-4 ruling in the Supreme Court has officially answered our prayers. Thanks to some amazing Supreme Court justices, families raised by same-sex couples will now finally have the legal rights of other families, and same-sex unions will be recognized as legal and entirely equal to any other marriage nationwide.

Up until now, same-sex couples in thirteen states were still facing bans against legal marriage. Luckily, the barriers these couples have faced have been destroyed, as the new ruling overturns state bans in favor of national acceptance. Now, America joins a multitude of other countries—mostly European—that have also legalized gay marriage. With the Netherlands being the first country to officially legalize same-sex marriage way back in 2001, it's about time that we did too!

Of course, we're way too excited for the upcoming increase in weddings—TLC, it's time to amplify those wedding show specials, stat! Get ready for the beautiful sound of wedding bells to ring more often and for some incredible new wedding fashion combinations. After all, the only thing better than getting to admire a gorgeous wedding dress is getting to admire two gorgeous wedding dresses at the same time. 

Dealing with a breakup is scary and confusing. When we’re heartbroken, we tend to make some not-so-great decisions: drinking too much, hooking up with strangers, blaming ourselves or even seeking revenge. The good news is that we can learn from these mistakes! And even though breakups are never easy, they can be more or less painful depending on how we handle them. We talked to dating experts and collegiettes about some common post-breakup mistakes to help you avoid them in the future.

Mistake #1: Trying to stay in contact with your ex

Talking to your ex as usual

Mark Sharp, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist at The Aiki Relationship Institute, warns that “even if there is potential for a friendship after a breakup, there almost invariably needs to be a period of time” before you two can be friends.

“I kept in too much contact with my ex, since our constant communication was an addiction, and therefore, it took me longer to let him go,” says Heather*, a junior at the University of California, Los Angeles.

Although it’s tempting to keep texting your ex just to check in or for a casual conversation, it will only make it harder for both of you to move on. “There are still feelings of connection that lead at best to confusion, and at worst, to significant hurt and conflict,” Dr. Sharp says. You could be delaying the pain when you should actually try to accept and deal with it directly. Bottom line: deal with your own grief first before considering being friends with your ex.

That being said, perhaps you and your ex are part of the same friend circle, you have class with him or her or you just run into him or her a lot. In this case, “you can simply be polite and smile when you see them,” says Carole Lieberman, M.D., psychiatrist and author of Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets. However, you should try to avoid your ex as much as possible until you’re ready to move on.

Trying to get your ex back

Sometimes you’re so attached to a relationship that you want to keep more than just the reassurance of staying in touch; you want your ex back. According to Dr. Lieberman, “The most common mistake girls make after a breakup is chasing after the guy to try to get them back, from making promises to change into their dream girl to outright crying and begging.” This type of desperate behavior could actually backfire, convincing your ex that he or she was right to break up with you in the first place.

Mind-set issues at play here “include an over-attachment to the relationship, a belief that love is supposed to last a lifetime or a belief that your ex ‘belongs’ to you,” says Kim Olver, a relationship coach and author of Secrets of Happy Couples: Loving Yourself, Your Partner, and Your Life. If this sounds familiar to you, it’s time for you to move on.

If you do decide you want to win your ex back, the only way is in fact “to show him that you have moved on to bigger and better things,” Dr. Lieberman says. “Use the breakup as a wake-up call to change things about yourself that you don't like” and go from there. If he or she wants you back, good. If not, you’re better off without him or her.

Mistake #2: Wallowing in self-pity for too long

Everyone knows that the remedy for a broken heart is wailing your heart out to Adele, watching The Notebook for the umpteenth time and demolishing a giant container of cookie dough ice cream, right? Not if you do it for so long that it starts to take a toll on your life.

When UCLA sophomore Caroline’s* high school boyfriend left her to go to college, she was devastated. “All I remember is being super sad and not wanting to go out and do anything,” she says. “I felt like my friends didn't realize how upset I was, so I distanced myself from them and just stayed at home all the time.” It wasn’t until six months later that her friend convinced her to go out and have fun.

Dr. Lieberman suggests that if you're still stuck in the rocky-road, can't-get-out-of-bed, crying stage after a month or so, you should consider going to therapy to help you get over your heartbreak.

Looking back, Caroline feels like she wasted her time feeling sorry for herself, when her relationship with her ex hadn’t even been that great. If you find yourself in this situation, remember that, according to Olver, “For as much pain as you are experiencing, there is an equal amount of positivity.” Look for the lesson or the opportunity that this difficult situation brings, because “it doesn't remove the pain, but it will balance it out so you can get through it with grace and your self-esteem intact.”

Mistake #3: Doing anything else in excess

“A guy broke up with and I ran home to my room in boarding school, got completely naked and ate a whole pint of Ben & Jerry's under my covers,” says Gabrielle*, a sophomore at Smith College. “I just sat in the dark under my duvet, crying, holding his sweater. For some reason, I needed to be naked, in the dark and eating.”

Dr. Sharp warns against “anything done to dull the pain that you will regret later.” This could take the form of “drinking or eating too much, shopping unnecessarily, etc.” Instead, let yourself heal for a bit and then rebuild a healthy lifestyle. Don’t let your schoolwork or your social life suffer!

You might also behave recklessly if you feel like you missed out on the full college experience by being in a relationship. After Caroline and her next boyfriend of three years broke up over Christmas, she came back to school “wanting to hook up with everyone.” Although she knows now that that wasn’t the best frame of mind for her, “it was exciting to be single and free to talk to whomever.” Now, Caroline feels like she is finally in a better place. “I need to just figure out my life and learn to not need a guy to be happy and to know that I don't have to hook up with everyone and anyone,” she says.

Strive to find the right balance between making the most of your college years and not giving into rash behavior you’ll regret later. Be happy with who you are, and the right person will come along for sure.

Mistake #4: Jumping into a rebound relationship

We know that rebound sex is not the way to fix a broken heart, but what about rebound relationships? Dr. Sharp has seen many girls “rushing into a new relationship too quickly, or jumping back into dating or a casual relationship just so they don't feel alone and uncomfortable.” It’s perfectly natural to miss your ex and the affection he or she gave you, but replacing him or her ASAP is not the solution. Your new fling is most likely not right for you, and someone will end up getting hurt. Think about your new SO’s feelings—would you want your new SO to still have feelings for someone else?

Worse yet, if the breakup hurt your self-esteem, you could be “getting into a rebound relationship with a dork who you really look down on, because you think he won't leave you,” Dr. Lieberman says. This is unfair on him or her and not the solution for you—just a terrible idea all around.

Mistake #5: Giving up on relationships altogether

So you thought you and your ex would be together forever—until you two broke up. What are you supposed to do now?

Olver cautions collegiettes against “the belief that no one will ever love you again, or you will never love anyone again.” This is simply not true; there’s not just one guy or girl in the world for you, and you’ll realize it soon enough.

If you believe that you will be alone forever, you might stop looking after yourself. “Some girls make the mistake of giving up on guys altogether—using food to comfort themselves, not wearing any makeup and staying in their room to avoid meeting guys,” Dr. Lieberman says. But be careful what you wish for. One day, you will wake up and realize that you’re ready to move on. If you have let yourself go, you’ll feel bad about yourself and probably keep up these unhealthy habits. Remember that others will only see how wonderful you are if you work on loving yourself first.

“When I went through a tough breakup, I took it out on myself,” says Laura, a sophomore at Boston University. “I convinced myself I was an ugly person inside and out, which (in the midst of high school) destroyed my self-esteem, and therefore, my self-respect. It took me time to heal and learn to appreciate myself.”

When a relationship doesn’t work out, it can really damage your sense of self-worth. Olver explains that “we often hinge our self-esteem on our relationships: if my guy kicks me to the curb, it must mean there's something wrong with me, right?” No! It just means he wasn’t getting what he was looking for out of the relationship. And if you’re not right for each other, you’re better off parting ways.

“Remember, you are perfectly perfect all by yourself,” Olver says. “You are a wonderful woman in your own right. You do not need a guy to love you.” And we agree with all our heart!

Mistake #6: Bad-mouthing your ex

Another negative way of coping with a breakup is to bad-mouth your ex in an attempt “to hurt them like they have hurt you,” Olver says. But other times, bad-mouthing your ex is a way of justifying why you broke up with him or her.

When Jen*, a sophomore at UCLA, left her boyfriend, she was angry at herself for not seeing “why I was insane for dating him and why he was the worst match for me, ever.” So she spent a couple of days recalling all of his faults in her mind. Although this did help distract her from her feelings, it didn’t make her feel better about herself. Be the bigger person and focus on yourself and what you want, as opposed to everything that’s wrong with your ex.

Going through a breakup is not losing a war; it’s a battle for you to fight on your own. Allow yourself to grieve, but then, come out stronger and ready to face the world.

The best way to cope is always to love yourself first and “allow relationships to flow in and out of your life,” Olver says. “Some will last a lifetime, others won't, and that's perfectly okay.” If you stay strong and confident, you’ll soon be ready for the next person who comes your way!

*Names have been changed.

We collegiettes LOVE social media--but that doesn't mean we take it lightly. From Facebook creeping to coming up with the perfect Instagram caption, we spend a lot of time online, so mistakes are inevitable. If you haven't made one of these social media mistakes, trust us, you will. 

1. Liking a Photo from Weeks Ago (or Months Ago….. Or Years Ago)

Often a consequence of Facebook stalking, this social media struggle is all too familiar to many of us. By Facebook stalking, we mean creeping on our crush’s profile page, scouring to get a good look at any and all photos, when accidently we like a pic from eons ago, ultimately signaling to our crush that we have been creeping.

We wish we had never gone on the page to begin with.

2. Finding the Perfect Selfie Angle

Trying to achieve the perfect selfie is an art form and in order to create a beautiful masterpiece that even Kim K herself would be at awe at, it takes work. Trying to find the perfect angle can be physically exhausting, and after about 150 of the same pictures stored in your camera roll, your arm is screaming for a break.

Might be time to break down and just go for the selfie stick. 

3. Picking an Instagram Filter

With Instagram, we are looking for the most gorgeous way to share our photos, and picking just the right filter can mean the difference between your best Instagram pic or a photo that should never have been shared in the first place.

The struggle between Valencia and Nashville is so real.

4. Facebook Profile Pic Not Getting Enough Likes

After trying to find the perfect angle for that selfie, we may decide to make it our Facebook profile picture, hoping it will receive rave reviews. However, when we post it, the amount of likes is disappointing, especially after five hours have passed by and there have only been five likes. 

That's when you message your besties to go like it so people don't think you're lame. 

5. Mixing Up Your Passwords for Different Social Media Sites

When there are so many different social networking sites, it can be hard to make sure that you didn’t enter your Facebook password into your Pinterest log-in or put your Twitter username into your Instagram log-in. Even though you click the “Remember Me” checkbox when you log-in to your networking sites, when it expires, it means disaster.

6. Tweeting the Wrong Tweet

 Your social media followers are not the world’s greatest therapists, so tweeting that not-so-subliminal tweet after you just had a fight with a friend is not a good idea, because once something is on the Internet, it can’t be taken back. And, even if it is deleted, chances are at least one person saw your mean tweet.

So you start rapidly retweeting everything in sight to push the offending Tweet down. 

7. Not Being Able to Fit Everything into 140 Characters

We’ve all seen Twitter & Instagram essays from some of our friends and even our fave celebs, however, when we become the person who needs and wants to rant, the inability to send one tweet out with all we need to say becomes the most frustrating thing imaginable. Especially when it is just one letter from letting us Tweet!

Did we miss any? Let us know in the comments, collegiettes! 

Sometimes you can't help but bend the truth when telling your parents about your wild going-out experiences. No matter how old you are, it can always be awkward to tell them that you took body shots off of that random kid in your chem class. Keep reading for a list of white lies we tell our parents about our weekly nights out:

1. "I only had one beer."

2. "It was just me and a few girls."

Boys? What are boys?

3. "We went to a normal lowkey college bar nearby."

4. "My credit card was stolen and that's why my bank statement says I spent $85 on Fireball and $63 on McDonald's."

5. "We didn't do anything too crazy, just danced around a little and talked mostly."

6. "Of course I didn't accept drinks from strangers."

7. "Some of my friends got a little sloppy but I was a perfect lady."

8. And "I got back home around midnight."

It’s the weekend, you’re at a party, the cute guy from across the room catches your eye and before you know it, you two are engrossed in a flirtatious conversation full of eyelash-batting and hair-twirling. At this point in our college careers, flirting should almost be second nature to us, yet we STILL get totally nervous whenever the cute guy invites us out onto the dance floor.

Chances are if you’ve ever flirted with a cutie from a party (which you totally have, don’t lie) you’ve probably had at least one of these embarrassing thoughts!

1. Wow, that guy’s really cute. 

Is he looking at me? I can’t tell if he’s looking at me. Oh no, he caught me staring. How long was I staring at him? Act casual. ACT. CASUAL.

2. Oh my God, he’s coming this way. 

Is he coming towards me? What am I going to say? I DON’T EVEN REMEMBER MY OWN NAME RIGHT NOW!

3. Oh, he said something kind of funny. 

I should laugh. Am I laughing too much? Does my laugh sound cute, or do I sound like a dying hyena?

4. He asked if he could buy me a drink. 

Do I stick with my signature vodka-cran, or do I ask for a beer to look tough?

5. Why does he keep staring at my mouth? 

Is he going to kiss me, or do I just have something stuck in my teeth?

6. Wait… am I wearing cute underwear right now?

 Yes, I definitely am. Good. WAIT, did I shave my legs last night?! No, I definitely did not. Not good.

7. Did I really just say that?

 Why am I acting like this is the first time I’ve ever interacted with a member of the opposite sex?

8. Maybe I should throw in a sexy wink or something… nope. 

That was terrible. That was a terrible idea. He probably just thinks I have some sort of weird twitch now. Great.

9. I literally can’t stop playing with my hair. 

What is wrong with me?

10. Oh no… awkward silence. 

Say something to keep the conversation going. Anything. Don’t just stand there! SAY. SOMETHING.

11. He just touched my arm. 

He totally wants me.

12. Can we just make out already?!

Please?

13. Ahh, all of my friends are leaving!

 Do I leave with them or keep talking to this cute guy? Who am I kidding – I’m definitely staying.

14.  He wants to dance? 

How’s he going to feel when he realizes that my dance moves are less “Beyoncé at the VMAs” and more “Taylor Swift dancing in the audience at the VMAs”?

15. YES, he asked for my number! 

Success!

So maybe we have no idea what we’re doing, but that won’t stop us from flirting with every hottie who comes our way! For now we’ll just pray that we can Taylor-Swift-dance our way through any flirtatious situation – vodka-cran in hand, of course. 

This article has been syndicated to Her Campus from Fashion in Flight by Ashleigh Jean Lopes, a Her Campus Blogger Network member. Read the full post here.

Nothing makes me happier than a good craft project. I found this super cute J.Crew tank top that was originally $118, on sale for $89.99. That seemed a little crazy for such a simple tank, and I knew I could recreate it for under $20—so I did! I ended up loving the finished product even more than the inspiration piece!

What you'll need: 

• Tank Top w/ lining 
• Large Sequins 
• Small Sequins 
• Large Seed Beads 
• Small Seed Beads 
• Needle & Thread
• Pencil

Step 1:

Come up with a general shape for your flower. I used one large seed bead in the middle. For each petal, I used one large sequin, one small sequin and two small seed beads.

Step 2: 

Start marking the first few flowers. You'll want to only mark two or three at a time. Actually having the flowers sewn down changes where you imagine the next handful will go. You'll start by sewing down the center of the flower so keep this in mind as you start marking. 

Step 3: 

Start by stringing the center of the flower. If your tank has a lining, do not sew the lining down. Only sewing the flowers to the top piece will help the whole blouse look more professional and make it easier to clean. Plus, if you sew down the lining, you'll have trouble making it lay flat!

Step 4: 

Thread all of the beads for one petal onto the needle. I threaded the large sequin first, then the small sequin, followed by the two small seed beads. Make sure to thread all of your sequins "cup-side" up.

Step 5: 

Slide all of the beads to the base of the thread and hold them in place. Try to stick the needle as close to the center bead as possible. This step is where you're most likely to accidentally catch the lining so thread carefully.

Step 6:

 

Hold the flower tightly on the front side, then knot it down on the back. I make a small "stitch" and pull the thread until it's just a small loop. Then I pass the needle through the loop a few times to secure it. Pull tightly, then cut off the excess thread.

 

Read the full post on Fashion in Flight.

Over the years, we have received a lot of words of wisdom from Tyra Banks. From witnessing her fierceness on America's Next Top Model, to following the adventure in her book Modelland, we've learned quite a few life lessons from her. Wanna be on top? Check out her top nine snippets of wisdom, below!

1. Always be fierce!

2. It’s okay not to be perfect

3. You’re responsible for your actions

4. Flaunt what you've got!

5. Sometimes a little cockiness is acceptable

6. Smize, ALWAYS

7. Eco-friendly is the way to go

8. And don’t forget that time when she was completely right about guys

9. But most importantly, she reminded us that life is a learning process

There's no doubt that we all love putting on our sassiest high heels from time to time. But how can you strut with confidence when you're stumbling over aching feet? For years, women everywhere have suffered through the pain of wearing high heels in the name of fashion. After all, beauty is pain, right?!

Not anymore! We've done the research and found the 5 best ways to make your favorite high heels feel more like a walk in the park than walking on hot coals. Try one or try them all—these cures will put an end to your high heel horrors.

1. Water and lotion

Though unconventional, shoe expert Meghan Cleary reported on Who What Wear that running feet under cold water and moisturizing them while they are still damp is an easy (and free!) way to prevent painful rubbing and blisters that often occur while wearing heels. Your feet should be damp when you put your shoes on—not wet!

2. Gel insoles 

This simple trick can easily fix multiple high heel problems. They prevent toes from scrunching into the box to save you from painful blisters, while providing vital arch support to help even out the pressure across your foot. Try Dr. Scholl's for Her High Heel Insoles ($17.89)! 

3. Give your feet a break

This goes without saying, but give your feet a break during your commute before and after work! Or, if you are planning on wearing heels for a night out, opt for flats during the day, so your feet aren't already in pain before you hit the town.

4. Wear heels with ties or straps

How annoying is it to have your heel slip out of the back of your shoe with every step you take? Heels with straps keep the shoe securely fastened to your feet, while preventing swelling with a good fit.

5. Pick the right shape

Lucky for us, platform sandals have come back in style, providing optimum comfort while keeping in line with the latest fashion trends. A rounder toe box also helps to assure comfort, although that doesn't mean you have to discard your favorite pointed-toe heels just yet! As long as the point stretches out (instead of stopping right where your toes would rest), you should be good to go, pain-free.