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Jennifer Lawrence Opens Up About Being Forced to Stand in a 'Nude Line-Up' With Other Actresses

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Since sexual assault accusations piled up against Harvey Weinstein, numerous celebrities have come forward to show their support for his victims and all assault survivors. Famous females, in particular, are courageously sharing their personal experiences with sexism and harassment in the entertainment industry. Most recently, actresses Reese Witherspoon and Jennifer Lawrence revealed heartbreaking stories of the sexual harassment they faced early in their careers. 

The actresses told their stories at ELLE's Women in Hollywood event on Monday, Refinery29 reports. In her emotional speech, Witherspoon opened up about a director assaulting her when she was 16 years old and being pressured to keep quiet about it.

Lawrence shared her experience of being forced to strip down for a "nude line-up" early in her career. "During this time a female producer had me do a nude line-up with about five women who were much, much, thinner than me," Lawrence said. "We all stood side-by-side with only tape covering our privates. After that degrading and humiliating line-up, the female producer told me I should use the naked photos of myself as inspiration for my diet."

The words came from another woman, which make them all the more gut-wrenching. And the naked scrutiny only continued when a male producer chimed in to call Lawrence "perfectly fuckable." 

"He said he didn't know why everyone thought I was so fat, he thought I was 'perfectly fuckable.'" She admitted, "I let myself be treated a certain way because I felt I had to for my career."

Unfortunately, this wasn't the only time Lawrence was body-shamed for a job. In her speech, Lawrence also revealed she was asked to lose 15 pounds in two weeks to get a specific role, PEOPLE reports. 

The stories of these brave women, and the many others who opened up at the event, prove that harassment is overwhelmingly present across all industries. One thing to be thankful for: the conversation about women's right is alive and ongoing. It's safe to say that women everywhere are not backing down from the fight.


Trump Said President Obama Never Contacted The Families of Fallen Soldiers & That's a Lie

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In a time when the United States is not seeming to be too united, one thing that brings us together is the support we try to give to families of fallen soldiers. We understand there’s grief and extend our best efforts to help in any way we can because their family members truly made the ultimate sacrifice. 

However, a recent claim from President Donald Trump wrongfully stated that no president has ever called those families — which was quickly challenged as an outright lie. On Monday, Trump was asked why he had not publicly addressed the killing of four soldiers in an ambush in Niger two weeks ago. Not only did Trump dodge the question, he tried to distract from his short comings by pulling a lie out of his toupee about President Obama.

“If you look at President Obama and other presidents, most of them didn’t make calls, a lot of them didn’t make calls," Trump claimed. "I like to call when it’s appropriate.”

A lot of people, both democrat and republican, were understandably outraged and took to the internet to challenge Trump. Alyssa Mastromonaco is a former senior aide to President Obama and had no problem backing up her former boss on her own Twitter.

But the challenge came from all sides of the aisle: Delilia O’Malley describes herself as a “Lifelong Republican who opposes Trump” in her Twitter bio. In her tweet, she was quick to share a story of her personal experience with former President Bush — who she said not only called her, but consoled her and listened to her while she was grieving for her brother. 

The New York Timesreports that officials from the former Obama administration remember several times when he would spend time with families of fallen soldiers — as well as many visits to Walter Reed National Military Medical Center and the burials of fallen soldiers from Iraq and Afghanistan at Arlington National Cemetery.

Later in the news conference, President Trump was questioned about his previous lie that President Obama hadn’t made calls. He continued to try to come up with some sort of answer, stating, “I don’t know if he did. I was told he didn’t often, and a lot of presidents don’t. They write letters.” He continued, “President Obama, I think, probably did sometimes and maybe sometimes he didn’t. That’s what I was told. All I can do is ask my generals.”

It sounds like President Trump doesn’t really know what he’s talking about — but it'd be smart for him to clear things like this up with his generals before he takes the podium and addresses the press. 

How to Be More Optimistic When It Just Doesn't Come Naturally For You

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It’s not easy to be optimistic. The world around us is progressing, the Earth is basically throwing a temper-tantrum and college can be freaking stressful. It’s so easy to feel the weight of all your stress crushing down on you—especially during the beginning of the school year.

Though it may be tempting to lean into your pessimistic tendencies, adopting a more positive way of thinking can ultimately benefit your life.

“Research has shown that cultivating an optimistic mindset has many benefits: better control over stressors, increased problem solving, stronger coping skills, improved psychological well-being,” says Jess Hopkins, a certified millennial life coach who holds master’s degrees in counseling psychology and applied positive psychology. How can you try and up your optimism levels? We have some tips that will hopefully put you on the path to thinking positive in no time!

1. Take care of yourself

We’ve heard so much about self-care routines that they’ve begun to seem redundant. However, self-care can ultimately help improve your overall outlook on life. If you don’t give yourself the time and permission to relax and reflect on your life, your brain may get tired and stop working at full capacity—ultimately causing you to have more negative reactions to stressors.

“My philosophy around self-care is this: if it’s not scheduled, it doesn’t exist. We’re all overbooked and overworked these days, so it’s imperative to intentionally carve out time in your calendar for things like workout classes, meditation and quiet down time,” Hopkins says.

If you carve out time to focus on yourself, you’re more likely to experience improved mental health and positive outlook.

2. Rely on a calendar to keep your life straight—not your own memory

Similar to scheduling your own self-care time, it’s important to have a schedule for the other parts of your life as well. Trying to remember everything can leave your brain feeling constantly distracted, and more susceptible to going down a negative thought spiral. 

Veronika Potylitsina, a fourth-year student at the University of Toronto, says that keeping a calendar helps clear her mind. “I feel like my pessimism comes from me being anxious and when I feel like I don't have my day planned or something similar,” she says. “So with that, I usually bullet journal my weekly tasks and the like. This gives me some ease of mind and ends up making me look forward to the week knowing I have it basically planned out.”

Though doing this won’t immediately make you more optimistic, it will help you reduce some of the reasons you may be stressed.  

3. Reflect on your attitude

One of the best ways to change your attitude is to be aware of what you want to change. If you reflect on your actions, you can pinpoint specific repetitive responses that may be contributing to the attitude you’re trying to change.

“Optimistic people compartmentalize setbacks, whereas pessimistic people assume that failure in one area of life means failure in life as a whole,” says Hopkins.

Reflecting on your positive traits and the times you’ve done something you’re proud of can help as well. If a significant amount of your negativity is directed at yourself, positive reflection will make you remember that you can conquer whatever obstacle you’re facing.

“Something that helps me when I'm feeling down or negative is thinking back to a previous occasion when I felt negatively about an experience and how I managed to overcome that experience and succeed,” says Nellie Hultman, a sophomore at the Soka University of America. “It makes me realize that I will get through this new occasion as well, and allows me to feel more optimistic about what is going on in the present.” 

Reflecting on your attitude may not always help you take on a more positive attitude when dealing with other people, but it will definitely help you be kinder and more optimistic towards yourself.

Related: 7 Habits of Happy People

4. Make a happy list

We all love a good list, right? Good news: you can incorporate list-making into your routine to be more optimistic.

“Once you’ve noticed that you’re getting hooked by the pessimistic thinking style, ground yourself by taking a few deep breaths or practice another relaxation skill like meditation,” says Hopkins. Making a happy list, like meditation, is a great way to ground yourself into thinking about the positives of your life.

The list is essentially a compilation of everything that makes you feel happy or grateful. It can be compiled over the course of a day, a week, or even a year. Regardless, it will become an archive of reminders of moments where you were feeling happy and optimistic.

“Challenge yourself to make a list of things you’re grateful for a week. You can pick a specific number each day, like write down in your journal ‘5 Positive Things That Happened Today,’ etc. If you're feeling overwhelmed with life or like you wish you could escape it, find a good book and escape in there for a little bit,” says Emilie Trepanier, a senior at the University of Utah.

Happy lists can be reminders of positive moments in your life, and they can force you to focus on what in your life is positive. If you incorporate this into your everyday routine, you know that at least a portion of your day will be spent focusing on being more optimistic about the world around you.

5. When you start to feel overwhelmed, go to your happy place

One of the best immediate reprieves from a negative attitude happens when you go to a place you know will bring you joy. For some people, this may mean going to a bookstore and immersing themselves in the smell of old books. For others, it may mean spending time with their significant other.

“Usually I'll go down by the water to just breathe and get all of the bad vibes away,” says Katie Nealon, a junior at Stony Brook University.

Going to the place that makes you the happiest will refresh your mind and ground you. You’ll be able to take a moment away from life to relax and breathe.

It’s not easy being optimistic—it definitely takes work. But, it’s worth it! Trying to incorporate a more optimistic way of thinking will help you in the long run, as well as help your relationships with those around you.

The Kardashians Built an Entire Ice Rink in Their Backyard for the 'KUWTK' Christmas Special & I Have So Many Questions

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Celebs! They're just like us — especially when they build entire ice rinks in their backyards, which is an actual thing the Kardashian family did for their Keeping Up With the Kardashians Christmas special.

As Hello Giggles noticed, on Monday, momager Kris Jenner posted an Instagram of the family gathered out on their backyard ice rink alongside Olympic figure skating legend Nancy Kerrigan and Santa in the Southern California heat — totally normal.

"Oh no big deal…just Ice Skating with @nancyakerrigan in Calabasas in 95 degree heat for our Christmas Special!!!!" Kris captioned the photo.

In case you're wondering what the Kardashian family is doing celebrating Christmas in the middle of October, allow Kim to set the record straight for you — on Twitter, the reality star and makeup mogul explained that the family has to film the Christmas episode in the fall so it can be ready by the holidays. She also confirmed that this is not the Kardashian-Jenner fam's Christmas card — though we're not sure how they'll possibly top this photo?

Makes sense, but TBH, I still have a lot of questions. Namely, how the heck is Khloe standing on the ice completely barefoot? And what's up with Kylie being the only member of the fam missing from the photo? Could she have ducked out of the photo in order to hide her reported baby bump? Some fans definitely think so.

I guess we'll just have to wait until ~the most wonderful time of the year~ for answers.

The 15 Best Celebrity Halloween Costumes of All Time

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If you think you struggle to find the perfect Halloween costume, imagine being a well-to-do celeb with a history of iconic getups. Each year, celebrities set the bar a little higher with their stunning Halloween costumes. From spooky to breathtaking to hilarious, these are some of the best celebrity costumes of all time.

1. Heidi Klum as her future self

She's pretty much the queen of Halloween at this point. My personal favorites? Jessica Rabbit and this old lady look. 

2. Neil Patrick Harris every year

NPH and his family slay the group costume game every damn year. It’s really not fair for the rest of us when the standards are so high.

3. Chrissy Teigen as Guy Fieri

Legendary.

4. Beyoncé and Blue Ivy as Janet and Michael Jackson

The cutest mother-daughter costume ever.

5. Bette Midler as her Hocus Pocus character, Winifred Sanderson

The nostalgia is killing me—she's the only woman truly fit to wear this costume.

6. Nina Dobrev as Hermione Granger

Made even better with Harry and Ron’s floating heads.

7. Dwayne Johnson as Popeye

I’m convinced there isn’t anything he can’t pull off.

8. Emily Ratajkowski as Marge Simpson

Probably the only person that could wear this costume and still look good.

9. Ed Sheeran as Austin Powers

Putting that red hair to good use, Ed.

10. Demi Lovato and Nick Jonas as Dorothy and the Scarecrow

Friendship in its purest form. 

11. Cole Sprouse as Milo from Treasure Planet

I demand that if there’s a live-action remake of this underrated Disney classic, Cole has to be cast as Milo.

12. Katy Perry and Orlando Bloom as Hillary and Bill Clinton

The most frighteningly accurate couples costume.

13. Lili Reinhart's cosplay makeup

The Riverdale star is SUPER talented with cosplay and makeup—how unfair is that?

14. Chrissy Teigen’s daughter Luna as a hotdog

Possibly the cutest thing I’ve ever seen.

15. Mindy Kaling as Captain Hook

Just another reason to love her more.

Being a Feminist in Mayim Bialik’s World

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By Anna Nabutovsky

By now many of you have probably heard about actress Mayim Bialik’s controversial New York Times op-ed. The Big Bang Theory actress received backlash for what many perceived to be a victim blaming narrative. Given her staunch feminist reputation, I was at first somewhat skeptical, but what I saw in her letter hit me harder than I could have imagined. Her piece started on an unfortunate note, the overplayed stereotypical description of herself as, “prominent-nosed, geeky, and Jewish.” Nevermind the excessive self-deprecation, the very first phrased dripped with (perhaps unintentional) anti-Semitism, as well as an implicit subscription to the same sexist beauty standards Bialik supposedly dismisses. Still, I was willing to give her the benefit of the doubt and so I read on. And at first it was much of the same. Scrolling past the paragraphs describing her supposed flaws, and ignoring her use of the words “perfect ten,” I finally came to her implication that any woman who wants to diet is inherently un-feminist.


It was then that the sinking feeling in my stomach began to resurface. It was in fact a feeling as familiar as it was young. Vivid memories of not just men, but women who have shown me disrespect because of my femininity started to come rushing back. It was at that moment that I finally reached an incredibly familiar sentence: “Having others celebrate your physical beauty is not the way to lead a meaningful life.” It is a sentence on which I’d heard about every  condescending variation. It is a sentence to which I have grown almost so accustomed to that it has all but lost its literal translation.

What it does carry is the weight of a specific type of pseudo-feminist judgment. A type of judgment that has caused me too much sweat, tears, and shame throughout the years. 

Unlike Mayim, I have never set foot near Hollywood, but I did grow up doing two of the most conventionally stereotypically ultra-feminine activities, dance and cheer. And like Mayim, I was at one point in my life 11 years old, awkward, and geeky. I never knew the right thing to say or do. I was picked dead last in gym class for my lack of coordination in all team sports, and I preferred the company of books to all my classmates. And so I clearly empathize with the perils of wanting validation for a type of social charisma which then eluded me. At the same time, I was a dancer who loved all things pink and glittery. My voice was ultra-high pitched, and my hair, which I took hours to groom, reached my hips. The dichotomy of my existence made me a social pariah. Although Mayim’s brand of feminism was not yet vocalized, it was implicit in all my interactions. This went on for years. The older I got, the less accepted my femininity was. 

The very same feminists who shared my debate interests or asked me for literary advice, would condescendingly offer the very same unsolicited advice Mayim offers. “Why focus on your beauty, it’s not meaningful,” or “You know you are really smart you don’t have to try to please men."“It’s not that I’m slut shaming, but don’t you think that dressing in a sexy Halloween costume is really un-feminist.” 

This was of course problematic for several reasons. There is the issue of victim blaming for which Mayim already took some heat. But beyond that, there is also the very real implication that if you are interested in ‘beauty,’ you are an agent of the patriarchy. This sentiment diminishes women’s agency and ironically directly plays back to exact culture which spawns the Harvey Weinsteins and Bill Cosbys of the world.

The faulty logic at play here follows a twisted trajectory which implies that men treat women like objects because women act like objects. The acceptable recourse in Mayim’s world is to rebel against these constrains by rejecting traditional femininity. The problem is that this then places the blame squarely onto womanhood instead of on toxic masculinity. Plainly: It takes the burden to reduce sexism of men and onto women.

Mayim herself writes that in a perfect world, women should be free to act how they chose. But instead of fighting for that world, she wants women to suppress their own desires and make sure not to “provoke” men. Deconstructed, this road leads us back to that same dress code sexism which blames girls’ bodies for boys’ distraction. Deconstructed, this road leads to the implication that a smart girl would hide her “beauty.” Deconstructed, this road glorifies one type of conventional beauty as the "real" type that needs to be hidden to avoid male attack. Deconstructed, this road leads to the sentence I have heard time and again: “Having others celebrate your physical beauty is not the way to lead a meaningful life.” 

And Mayim, I’m sorry, but no. Physical beauty and its celebration is natural. It leads to confidence and sexual agency. The celebration of physical beauty is akin to the celebration of art. It is expressive, colorful, diverse and amazing. The celebration of beauty and sexuality is not oppressive to women; it does not diminish our intelligence or remove meaning from our lives. Mayim, if by some miracle you are reading this, you are gravely mistaken. All this negativity which you have come to associate with the celebration of beauty is a product of our culture’s toxic masculinity. It is product of years spent limiting women’s sexual agency. It is the bitter taste of our regression to one specific unattainable ideal of perfection. It is the complete objectification of conventionally “hot” women. The celebration of beauty is not ugly. It is not worthless. It is meaningful. And I am proud to care about it. I am proud of my femininity. This is what feminism looks like in my world. One day, I hope you look past Harvey Weinstein’s world and see what I mean.

California Just Became the First State to Recognize a Third Gender

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California just became the first state in the U.S. to recognize a third gender.

On Monday, Governor Jerry Brown signed legislation that allows residents to choose a non-binary option when listing their gender on driver's licenses, state IDs and birth certificates, the Huffington Post reports. Called the Gender Recognition Act, the legislation is the first of its kind. In addition to adding the non-binary gender option, the law also ends the previous procedure that required trans individuals who want to change their gender on legal documents to provide a doctor's note or appear in court.

“I want to thank Gov. Brown for recognizing how difficult it can be for our transgender, nonbinary and intersex family members, friends and neighbors when they don’t have an ID that matches their gender presentation," Sen. Toni Atkins, one of the bill's authors, said in a statement to BuzzFeed News. "The Gender Recognition Act will eliminate unnecessary stress and anxiety for many Californians, and it exemplifies the leadership role that our state continues to take in LGBTQ civil rights."

While, as BuzzFeed notes, Oregon has offered an "X" gender option on IDs and driver's licenses since this summer, California is officially the first state to legally recognize those who do not identify as male or female — and many LGBTQ rights advocates are hoping it will set a trend for other states to follow.

Sara Kelly Keenan, an intersex rights activist who became the first person to be issued an intersex birth certificate back in December 2016, called the bill "an important moment in history," on Monday. "We as a society need to learn that biological sex and gender identification, which are very different from each other, occur along a spectrum," she said.

Bob Weinstein, Harvey Weinstein's Brother and Business Partner, Has Also Been Accused of Sexual Harassment

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A week after over a dozen women brought sexual assault and harassment allegations against his brother and business partner Harvey Weinstein, Bob Weinstein is also now being accused of harassment.

As Variety reported on Tuesday, female showrunner Amanda Segel, who worked on The Mist, which was produced by the Weinstein Company, came forward with allegations of sexual harassment against Weinstein. The executive producer says Bob, "repeatedly made romantic overtures to her and asked her to join him for private dinners." Segel says things began in the summer of 2016 and continued for months until her legal team threatened that she would leave the show if Weinstein's advances didn't stop.

"'No' should be enough," Segel said to Variety. "After 'no,' anybody who has asked you out should just move on. Bob kept referring to me that he wanted to have a friendship. He didn’t want a friendship. He wanted more than that. My hope is that 'no' is enough from now on."

Meanwhile, actress Jamie King has also come out with her own allegations against Bob, saying he threatened her after she refused to do a Maxim cover shoot.

So far, Bob Weinstein's lawyers have denied the incidents and any claims that he ever behaved inappropriately.

"Variety’s story about Bob Weinstein is riddled with false and misleading assertions by Ms. Segel and we have the emails to prove it, but even if you believe what she says it contains not a hint of any inappropriate touching or even any request for such touching," a lawyer for Weinstein said in a statement to Variety. "There is no way in the world that Bob Weinstein is guilty of sexual harassment, and even if you believed what this person asserts there is no way it would amount to that."

When the allegations were brought against his brother last week, Bob Weinstein told The Hollywood Reporter that he allegedly only knew that Harvey Weinstein was cheating on his wife Georgina Chapman, and had no idea about the extent of his brother's actions.

"For me, I thought he was literally just going out there cheating in a pervasive way," Bob told the site. "It wasn’t like he even had a mistress. It was one after another and that I was aware of. But as far as being in a room and hearing the description in The New York Times? No way. No f—– way was I aware that that was the type of predator that he was. And the way he convinced people to do things? I thought they were all consensual situations."


Why It's Important to Allow Your Younger Sibling to Choose Their Own Path

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We all know that becoming an older sister should come with an instruction manual and our younger siblings should come with warning labels. Built-in responsibilities like daily babysitting and taking the blame are part of the package deal as much as we hate to admit, but for most of us, there’s nothing we wouldn’t do for our younger siblings. You want your brother or sister to succeed in the future, even possibly follow in your own footsteps. It’s always helpful to offer advice and lay down bricks for an easier journey to adulthood, but it’s also important to realize that your sibling might want something entirely different. If you’re struggling to accept their assertion for independence, here are few things to ease your mind.

You’re two different people

Even if you and your sibling aren’t close in age, there’s a large chance an embarrassing photograph of the two of you in coordinating outfits exists. During childhood parents often lump siblings together. From matching bowl haircuts to competing on the same soccer team, you’ve probably had similar life experiences and will be able to laugh about it  Of course, interests tend to diverge as age increases and that’s a fact both parents and older siblings tend to miss. Julie Plummer, a sophomore at Stanford University, has an older sister on campus studying biomedical engineering, a field similar to her dad’s but completely opposite her desire to study the humanities.

“My dad has always been interested in engineering, and yet I’ve never felt any pressure to follow his path like my sister did. Even though I attend the same college as my older sister, we’re still very different people despite being mistaken for twins,” she says. “It’s important to have engineers and writers and historians and scientists in the world. We need people to do anything and everything to keep society functioning and diverse.”

If it’s difficult for you to imagine your sibling going to trade school, skipping college altogether or just pursuing a unique major, think about the other differences between you two. Do you like all of the same foods, movies and music? Chances are you don’t and will still fight about these things when you’re (mostly) functioning adults. Maddy McCullough, a sophomore at Boston College, appreciates having interests opposite from her siblings.

“As cool as it would be to have a younger sibling who shared all of the same interests as me, it’s much more exciting to hear about their varied passions and interests,” she says. “I don’t take it personally that my younger sibling has little to no interest in politics, just as she doesn’t take it personally that I will never be invested in biomedical engineering.”

While your genes are basically the same, you have to remember that every person is an individual, including your younger sibling.

You can still have a close relationship

You’ve probably made some of your best friends in extracurricular activities. Bonding over draining soccer practices or nerve-wracking debate competitions is typical. For siblings participating side-by-side in the same sports and hobbies, becoming closer is an understatement. You both experience the struggles of perfecting the impossible dance move, memorizing hundreds of lines or trying to reach the high note.

When your younger sibling gradually drifts away from your interests to their own, it can be difficult to maintain the connection you once shared. It’s also possible you two never shared a close interest in the first place. This was the case for Iesha Ismail, a junior at the University of Florida.

“I think my little sister didn’t just follow whatever I did [because] she wanted to try the things I wasn’t the best at or interested in,” she says. “You could say it was competition or curiosity or both, [but] now she wants to follow a path different from mine because whatever I did made her want to try something different.”

Even though Iesha enjoys writing and her sister is into technology, they’re both still very close. Allowing your sibling to be in their element and travel their own journey is one of the hardest gifts to give. You can imagine how parents feel when their eldest child transforms into a person they’d never expect; it may have even happened to your parents! There’s no rule that says people with opposing interests can’t be best friends, so embrace your sibling’s desire for independence and give them the support they deserve.

Related: 19 Things Only Older Sisters Will Understand 

They’d want the same for you

Sometimes it’s easy to forget to put yourself in other people’s shoes, especially your younger sibling’s shoes. Whether you’ve grown up with a brother, a sister or a few of each, you know that most of the time they idolize you in ways you wish they wouldn’t. From stealing clothes without asking to annoying the heck of you, younger siblings can be an absolute terror, but they love us anyway and want our support. However, there’s a major difference between receiving advice and feeling controlled. Zaynah Javed, a freshman at the University of California Berkeley, recognized this fact when her younger sister wanted to pursue a new path.

“I was always high-achieving and academically oriented, and therefore tried to help my sister be the same way. I kept thinking it was the best for her, but in reality, everyone needs to choose their own path,” she says. “As an older sister, you have to guide your younger [sibling], but you can’t control what they want to do.”

One of the first steps to accepting your sibling’s new path is to look at your own. Instead of following that one, imagine being forced to follow after your younger brother or sister. It’s entirely possible you’d hate being an engineer instead of a writer or a musician instead of a doctor. Even if music or medicine is in the family blood, that doesn’t mean your sibling destined for it. Encourage any dreams they may harbor because you never know when you’ll need their support in the future.

Having your sibling follow in your footsteps can be exciting, You get to share experiences, make memories and support one another in every aspect. When they dream up something new and set out on an entirely different direction, it can take time to adjust to the idea. Just know that your relationship will still exist and continue to strengthen as long as you support the decisions like they were yours.

What Going Out on Halloween Is Really Like in College

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Once you're in college, the one night event of trick-or-treating turns into four or more days (a.k.a. Halloweekend) of costume parties and free booze. It takes months of preparation to make this the best weekend of the year. Halloween is no longer a day but a season, and it goes a little something like this.

The night starts off with everyone going out in costume to Chipotle for boo-ritos.

Or boo-wls. Nah, that just doesn't have the same ring to it.

Then you and your roommates go and get ready hours before the party just so you can take a million pictures.

Even though you'll only Instagram one.

You leave for the party, and you start to notice the stares. 

Your costume must be even better than you imagined. People can't stop looking at you.

Oh, wait. They're trying to figure out what your costume is.

You tried to be original with your costume, but you must have tried a little too hard. No one knows who or what you are.

Once you get to the party, you start comparing your costume to everyone else's. 

Surprisingly, you've already seen four other girls with the same costume. At least they get it.

You're probably doing this...

*clinks, appears to be having fun*

But secretly wish you could be doing this...

*checks Twitter to see which movie is coming on Freeform next*

Halfway through the night, you realize that most of your costume's accessories are missing.

It doesn't matter, though, because no one seems to notice, and the party is still bumping.

You and your roommates decide to leave early because free booze just doesn't compare to free candy. 

Can't we just go back to a simpler time?

You attempt to pass as trick-or-treating youths, but parents assume you're trying to lure their children away Hocus Pocus-style. 

You just want candy, and everybody knows what's leftover in those Target bins tomorrow is the equivalent of pure garbage.

You go back to your dorm all like, "I'm never doing this again."

Until you realize this was only the first night of Halloweekend.

So you proclaim that tomorrow night will be better and get ready to take on the next costume party.

One down, three to go. 

HC Wake-Up Call: Senate Reaches Deal to Stabilize Obamacare, Head of Amazon Studios Resigns & Men Tweet #HowIWillChange

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Good morning Her Campus! With a break-neck news cycle, there is no possible way for you to stay on top of every story that comes across your feeds—we’re all only human, after all.

But, life comes at you fast. So grab a cup of coffee and settle in for this quick and dirty guide to stories you might’ve been sleeping on (like, literally. It’s early.)

Obamacare's Subsidies for Low-Income Americans Have Been Saved

On Tuesday, both Democratic and Republican senators managed to reach a bipartisan deal that would stabilize Obamacare and continue funding health insurance subsidies for low-income Americans, BuzzFeed News reports. If passed, the deal would undo Trump's executive order to move his own health care plan forward, but gives states more freedom to get exemptions from the Affordable Care Act. 

In order to pass, the deal must now win at least 60 votes in the Senate and a majority of members of the House of Representatives. Many Republican senators have already expressed support for the new plan.

The Head of Amazon Studios Has Resigned Following Sexual Harassment Allegations

Last week, Roy Price, the head of Amazon Studios, was placed on leave after accusations surfaced that he had made obscene comments to a female TV producer. On Tuesday, it was announced that Price had resigned from Amazon, the Huffington Post reports. Both Price and Amazon have declined to comment on his resignation, but the company canceled an event promoting Amazon Studios's new shows scheduled for later this week.

Men Are Tweeting #HowIWillChange to Show Solidarity With Victims of Sexual Assault

ICYMI, women have been taking to Twitter using the hashtag #MeToo to demonstrate how unfortunately widespread sexual assault and harassment are. After the movement received criticism for placing the burden on women, instead of men, to prevent sexual harassment and assault, writer Benjamin Law started #HowIWillChange, encouraging men to speak out about how they intend to combat rape culture in the future.

His original tweet has since gathered over 1,000 retweets and 4,000 likes, prompting men to pledge to fight harassment and discrimination when they see it happening.

Meme of the day:

Wednesday feels, am I right?

What Would Your Campus Look Like Under Betsy DeVos' Title IX Changes?

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The recent dialogue that has surrounded sexual assault on college campuses has recklessly watered down the victims of these crimes to mere statistics and percentages, often inadvertently deviating the conversation away from how to punish the guilty by forcing the already shame-filled spotlight back onto the victim. And what’s more confounding is the government's role in the situation as Secretary of Education under President Donald Trump, Betsy DeVos, has announced plans to change how Title IX is enforced on college campuses.

Title IX, the gender equity law that was enacted in 1972, guarantees anyone and everyone the right to an equal and fair education. According to their guidelines, it is required to hold anyone accountable who violates this law through contributing to a hostile environment and allows the government the power to revoke federal funds if a school is found in violation of the law.

In April 4, 2011 President Barack Obama issued the “Dear Colleague Letter,” which was a more recent addition to the guidelines that “told all of the more than 7,000 colleges that receive federal money to use the lowest possible standard of proof, a preponderance of evidence, in sexual assault cases,” according to The Washington Post. These regulations set in place by the Obama Administration would ensure victims of campus sexual assault were of the utmost priority to their universities.

However, on September 7, 2017, United States Secretary of Education, Betsy DeVos announced her plans to roll-back these guidelines and implement what she claims to be, “a system that will treat all students fairly.” 

Under the new Title IX that DeVos envisions, victims of sexual assault will no longer be able to use the lowest possible standard of proof model, but be forced to present a, “clear and convincing standard” of proof. This means those accusing someone of sexual assault will have to produce even more evidence of their alleged attack of their non-consensual sexual encounter, which can be virtually impossible. While these new guidelines carry no legal or federal ramifications, it is at the university’s discretion to issue discipline based on the outcome of the case — and experts are worried about what it will be mean for victims and survivors attempting to get justice (or even just continuing to pursue their educations.) 

“Many people within the education system believe that by changing the standard of evidence required it will make it much more difficult for women to come forward," Sexual health educator, Wendy Strgar told Her Campus. "In addition, the other proposal of requiring a mediation between the attacker and victim would be impossible for most young women who have experienced sexual assault. Also noteworthy is that this new regulation only muddies the water: It does not help universities to be clear about policies concerning this very troubling trend.” 

While the trend is showing no sign of slowing down, many questions as to why universities are even allowed to play a role in these cases have been raised.

Victims of campus sexual assault have the freedom to report to local law enforcement, “However, rape and other forms of gender-based violence can make it hard to show up to class and learn, and federal anti-discrimination law recognizes that," Gender equality legal resource group KnowYourIX.org explains on their website. "To make sure that all students, regardless of their gender identity and expression, have equal access to education, schools are required to prevent and respond to reports of sexual violence."

That's why the problem continues to come right back to Title IX and right back onto college campuses — though it has a mixed response from students.  

Grant Olson, an alumni of The King’s College, told Her Campus that he "think[s] the idea that something this serious can be adjudicated by an educational institution is a worrisome proposition. Anything that's a legal felony should be handled by police, not a college board.”

However, a former student at Campbell University (who has requested to remain anonymous), said she witnessed sexual harassment first-hand and quickly discovered universities have to protect themselves.

“I have found that colleges and universities are not unbiased,' she told Her Campus, "and believe that third parties, (legal) are necessary in a money, power, and recognition-based environment to ensure protection of the vulnerable because the institution is not motivated to protect anyone but themselves, as all human beings are by nature.” 

While universities clearly have an extensive problem at hand, the data shows that consensual sex on college campuses is becoming harder to define for students.

Strgar recently conducted a survey of 188 college students and found that, of all the participants, 35 percent of the female students have engaged in a non-consensual sexual experience. Meanwhile over half of all participants said they found it awkward to verbally give a green light and/or tell their partner to stop. For those students, the issue is that more troubling and more difficult to address because students are feeling unclear about enthusiastic consent and are uncomfortable speaking up. 

So what does this mean for you and your school?

You’re safe. Title IX is still in place and you are protected under these rights. KnowYourIX.org reports, “Schools receiving federal funds still must identify Title IX coordinators, publish a nondiscrimination policy, adopt grievance procedures, and investigate complaints.”

While NBC News reports, “Campuses will be allowed to determine whether to implement the new evidence standard.” So schools still have some level of control to ensure that victims of sexual assault are still protected, but the future for campus sexual assault survivors hangs in the balance as we wait to see if DeVos implements any other new reforms or regulations on top of what she has already done. However, the uncertainty could still be creating more fear for victims and more freedom for predators. 

“Like so many other aspects of our governance, citizens are increasingly being demanded to make their own justice. I believe that this regulation will be deeply damaging to the efforts that have just begun to be established into policy at many universities," Strgar said. "Although what is really required is a whole new level of education at younger ages, creating a deterrence as the current policies do is the best we have.  We see how it has empowered youg women to overcome their fear to speak out, which needs to keep growing. “

Prosecutors Want The Death Penalty For The Man Accused Of Killing 17-Year-Old Nabra Hassanen

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The man accused of abducting and killing 17-year-old Nabra Hassanen as she walked home from her mosque in Reston, VA., over the summer may face the death penalty, reports the Washington Post. Fairfax County officials have decided to pursue the death penalty against, Darwin Martinez Torres, 22, after the grand jury indicted him. 

Fairfax County Attorney Raymond F. Morrogh (D) announced the decision on Monday, saying “You conform the charges to what the evidence will show. It is my intention to seek the death penalty." The charges include capital murder and rape, among others in connection with Nabra’s death.

Morrogh didn’t say anything else to the Post about it because the case is still pending. However, this is the first time that authorities on the case indicated they believed it was possible Nabra was sexually assaulted when she was attacked June 18

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Nabra’s killing almost immediately started a wave of vigils across the U.S. when it happened, with many worrying she was targeted because of her faith. There has been no evidence she was a victim of a hate crime, according to police and prosecutors, but the concern remains.

The preliminary hearing on Friday was reportedly tense with about 250 of Nabra’s supporters showing up, some of them wearing white t-shirts that said “Justice for Nabra.” The hearing had to be temporarily delayed, as emotions ran high. Mahmoud Hassanen, Nabra’s father, reportedly lunged at Torres yelling, “You killed my daughter!” and her mother, Sawsan, threw a shoe at him. Ultimately, Torres waived the the hearing when it was able to resume about an hour later and that sent the case to the grand jury. A Fairfax County judge will reportedly set the trial date for Torres on Thursday.

Even after the hearing, dozens of Nabra’s supporters remained and they got together outside the Fairfax County courthouse. They still wore their t-shirts and held signs with pictures of her in a hijab. When asked, some of them said they believed her death was a hate crime.

While Police had previously said the crime was spawned by road rage, the Hassanens said they still believe it was a hate crime and that Nabra was targeted as a Muslim woman.

“The reason this guy he hit my daughter is because she’s Muslim,” Mahmoud Hassanen told WAMU.org.

WAMU.org also reports that Mahmoud Hassanen has been working on a memorial nearby the mosque that Nabra was leaving when she was abducted, adorning the site with balloons, a sign and fresh flowers to hopefully draw attention to the hearings surrounding her murder.

“I already have balloons, and the sign for her. Now I’m going to put the big American flag next to where she got killed,” Hassanen said. “I just want people to remember her, and don’t forget her. I think nobody can forget her too, for what she did in her life.”

Hassanen also told WAMU a bit more about Nabra and how she lived her life. He said he'll always remember her smile and recalls how he would carry loose change whenever they went out because she always wanted to give money to homeless people. 

Hassanen said that on the day she was killed, she and her friends were going to share dinner (breaking fast together during Ramadan) after heading to the mosque for services. 

“She hugged me, and kissed me, and she just…go,” Hassanen said. “If I knew this was going to be the last time…I wouldn’t let her go out.”

LEGO Is Selling A Special Women of NASA Kit Featuring Badass Lady Astronauts

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Gone are the days when only little boys play with toy trucks and spaceships, while little girls nurture their baby dolls. At least, those days are starting to move into the rearview mirror. As we move toward gender equality as a culture, we’re starting to realize that when you limit a kid to a certain kind of toy based on their gender, you inadvertently limit their school and career goals. In other words, if a little girl sees that all the Legos that operate spaceships and save the world are boys, there’s a pretty good chance that she’ll internalize the idea that only boys can operate spaceships and save the world. And while that obviously isn't true, it can have long-term effects on the population of would-be scientists

Luckily, the more our culture learns about gender equity, equality and the importance of representation, the higher the demand is for badass feminist toys. Lego has caught on to this, and, to our delight, has announced that it will be selling a “Women of NASA” kit ($24.99, to be released November 1st). According to Business Insider, this kit will include mini figurines of four of NASA’s most incredible women, and each one will come with a backdrop related to each woman’s work. So, in addition to all the tiny shoes and purses they already have, little girls will be able to add the Hubble Space Telescope and the space shuttle Challenger to their toy bins. How cool is that?

Lego didn’t have to look far to find incredible women to portray in this kit. According to The Verge, the women featured in the kit definitely did the work for themselves. Nancy Grace Roman, one of the women featured, is known as the “Mother of Hubble” because of the key work she did in creating the Hubble Space Telescope. Margaret Hamilton was the “lead software designer for the Apollo 11 moon landing.” Sally Ride was the first American woman in space, and Mae Jemison was the first African-American woman in space.

This isn’t the first time Lego has come out with a super cool women-in-STEM kit. According to Scientific American, Lego’s first female lab scientist was released in 2013, and it brought to light the “persistent gender stereotypes and biases in the children's toy market.” Turns out, there’s a pretty high demand for girls toys that aren’t baby dolls or fashion dolls. (Shocker, right?) Since the release of the lab scientist minifig, Lego has made an effort to offer toys for both boys and girls in the STEM fields. Among many others, there has been a Deep Sea Explorers kit that features female oceanographers, and a Doc McStuffins kit, featuring characters from the kids TV show about a girl who acts as a doctor for her stuffed animals.

However, there is still a long ways to go when it comes to overcoming biases in kids’ toys. A quick look at the Lego website makes this clear. When I visited the home page, ads for the Ninjago, Star Wars, and Marvel Super Heroes kits were front and center. None of these ads featured a single woman. Scrolling down the homepage, the only time I saw a woman Lego was in an ad for “Lego Friends Webisode 26: Mermaid Tears.” Need I say more?

As structural engineer Roma Agrawal told Telegraph, “It’s easy to dismiss the toys we choose for our children as harmless, thinking that they have no lasting impact and are simply innocent diversions to pass their time. But toys are really only the tip of an iceberg. Later on in their lives, these early preconceptions of gender roles are reinforced. We begin to say things like 'women don’t have as much spatial awareness as men’ (or ‘women can’t park’). Is it any wonder, when from a young age girls are taught to care for things and boys are taught to break and build?”

The women featured in the Women in NASA kit were legendary way before Lego ever considered making them into minifigs, but we didn’t hear about them often enough because our culture really likes to ignore women in STEM.

So shout-out to Lego for bringing them to our attention this year! We bet more girls will want to be astronauts when they grow up than ever before —and we definitely won’t forget to consider it for all of the kiddos  in our lives this holiday season.

Should You Quit Your Internship?

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As a career-chasing collegiette, you’re probably doing everything in your power to land the perfect position. That’s exactly why Chloe Adams, an Internet Services Specialist at IBC Bank and recent graduate of The University of Texas at San Antonio, thought she’d struck gold, receiving a full-time offer before graduation. The owners of a small company invited Chloe to intern for them and “transition into full-time” after she finished her finals. Talk about living the dream!

Unfortunately, being forced to work from home while on bed-rest made Chloe’s experience a little too nightmarish for comfort. “Being in my last semester of school, working 50 hours a week, almost dying and hating where I worked got the best of me,” she says. “I turned in my two weeks’ that day and have never looked back.”

Exiting an internship takes some serious guts. But is there any glory in giving up this type of opportunity? Keep these questions in mind if you’re ready to call it quits halfway.

Related: 5 Ways to Turn a Negative Internship Around 

1. Are you jumping to conclusions?

If you’re contemplating your internship to the point at which you’d like to consider quitting, then something—or a series of somethings—is clearly bugging you. The key is determining whether fretting over your specific issues is actually worthwhile. Getting used to the ins and outs (and ups and downs) of a new internship doesn’t happen overnight, so you won’t feel fully adjusted to your role until you’ve spent days, weeks or even months filling it. 

The minor concerns you have right off the bat (you’re working long hours, the work doesn’t feel fun, etc.) shouldn’t lead you to throw in the towel. Madeline Frisk, an Oregon State University senior, agrees with this idea. “Internships are just as much about learning what you don't like in a particular industry as they are about what you do like,” she says. Madeline firmly believes it’s almost always better to “stick with it” than to send yourself packing. 

In fact, Laura Craig, the Associate Director of Career Development at Temple University’s Career Center, would also prefer to see you stay on board. She says that “this allows you to get feedback.” Feedback is one of the most valuable takeaways that internships have to offer, so think twice before sacrificing your opportunity to receive it.

2. Who could you contact?

Making the decision to stick with your internship doesn’t mean that you’ll have to ignore your problems entirely. Buried issues become massive headaches in a heartbeat, so you should put your worries into words and share them with someone. Craig says the best way to go about doing so is to keep in mind “the context in which you’re interning.” 

What does this mean? Well, take a good look at how your position fits into the bigger picture of your company. Larger establishments tend to host multiple interns at once. Additionally, they have Human Resources and other departments designed to make sure things are going smoothly for you. According to Craig, starting a conversation with a department member or fellow intern will provide you with tips for getting through the adjustment period. 

Startups and other small companies don’t boast as many employees as their corporate counterparts. Fortunately, though, interning for one won’t necessarily leave you with a lack of contacts. Search LinkedIn for people who held your position in the past. If you do find a former intern, reach out to ask if he or she would be willing to chat with you over coffee, lunch or, depending on his or her location, whatever’s most convenient. 

3. Have you spoken with your internship coordinator?

As Chloe found out, certain snags are worth noting. Her internship was hard to handle, and it didn’t improve over time. Has your dilemma developed into more than just a week-one worry? If so, you’re ready to bring your boss into the equation.

The thought of saying anything negative to your supervisor might be super intimidating, but he or she won’t know that you’re dealing with drama unless you tell him or her. East Carolina University junior Megan Downing, for example, saw the halfway point of her internship as a sign that it was time to talk to her boss. “After the first two months, I felt that I wasn't learning anything new,” Megan says. She spoke up, and, although it resulted in her leaving her internship, the conversation made Megan’s decision a more informed one. 

One of the trickiest things about talking to an internship coordinator is knowing what to say first. As bothered as you may be, you’ll still want to maintain your professionalism. Craig suggests starting the discussion with “I’ve been having a great time so far, but…” Although you’re approaching your supervisor because you haven’t had a great time, this opening line will help to ease him or her into the truth bomb you’re about to drop.

4. What are the consequences of quitting?

Chatting up your coordinator should clear the air. As Megan found out, though, that’s not always the case. She says her boss was “very difficult to work for,” so their discussion didn’t encourage her to keep going with her internship.

Quitting was not a damaging move for Megan. According to Craig, your ability to quit without consequence will depend on the specific details of your job description. If there are no contracts or binding obligations involved, then it’s possible that the only repercussion of walking away would be losing the ability to use your supervisor as a reference. 

On the other hand, Craig points out that the agreements you made and the papers you signed when you first took the internship may stand in your way. “Agreeing to do it [the internship] for credit means that you won’t earn the credits if you quit,” she says. Giving up credit hours could set you back both academically and financially. Therefore, the credits—as well as any other agreements you may have made—will stand against you, should you decide to leave. 

5. Is there room for improvement at your workplace?

Unless your situation calls for drastic measures, it’s likely that quitting would be more hurtful than helpful. Luckily, there are totally doable ways to take care of the bad vibes you’re feeling. Help yourself out by working toward transforming your work environment into one that gets you excited and makes your internship finally feel like it’s worth having. 

Craig says you’ll want to kick off this transformation by pinpointing the positive qualities of your position. This might seem like a difficult thing to do because, after all, negativity is what led you to this step. However, exploring your options could introduce you to a better path.

To find your footing, Craig suggests setting goals that relate to the options you discover and acting on them. Madeline gives a great example of this. “Shadow another employee on off days to get more of an idea of a variety of jobs available to you,” she says. Taking advantage of the different departments within your company will expand your horizons and, hopefully, introduce you to a role that reignites your passion!

Deciding whether or not it’s time to kick your internship to the curb is the opposite of easy. After all, nobody wants to be known as a quitter. Although many scenarios are solvable, evaluating your experience will let you know if any red flags hold a permanent place in your intern space. 

How would you feel about pulling the plug on an internship? Share your side in the comments!

 


Peter Kraus Turned Down 'The Bachelor' for the Most Heartbreaking Reason

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Tbh, Bachelor Nation is still recovering from the heartache of watching Rachel Lindsay break up with fan favorite Peter Kraus on the Bachelorette finale. Of course, because we all want the best for Peter, I'm sure you were hoping (like me!) he'd be chosen as the next Bachelor. But nope. What gives?! Peter is finally explaining what happened and why we won't be seeing him on The Bachelor…for now.

"It was just a loose conversation of ‘Is this something you have ever thought about, something you would do?’ I was so distraught at that time that it was something that I could never see myself doing," Peter told Us Weekly. Poor guy. 

When things ended with Rachel, Peter was really hurt. "It all just ended so fast. It was just me, sitting there by myself in my own thoughts. That was a really dark couple of days. When you have no outlets, it’s hard to get out of your head."Am I the only one crying?! He deserved so much better.

As for how he handled his emotions as the season aired, Peter said he felt alone. "Friends would ask me like, 'C'mon, just tell me. Are you with her or not? Are you guys happy?' and I couldn't say anything. And I wanted to say something so bad. So I really felt alone. That's when I really started to feel isolated. There was no one I could talk to."

Though Arie Luyendyk Jr. has already been chosen as the next Bachelor, Peter hasn't completely given up on the idea of being the Bachelor in the future. "There was never a cold turkey like, 'This is not happening.' I was not ready for this and they agreed. If it were to come up again, I would definitely consider it."

Hopefully the show approaches him again. Because who doesn't want to see Peter get his happy ending?

Blac Chyna Has Filed a Lawsuit Against the Whole Kardashian-Jenner Family

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After a long string of events, Blac Chyna has filed a lawsuit against the entire Kardashian family for defamation, contract interference and the alleged intentional cancellation of her E! show with ex Rob Kardashian because she claims it was considered competition for Keeping Up With the Kardashians, Refinery29 reports. 

Chyna believes Rob & Chyna "was canceled due to pressure from the Kardashian family, citing one episode of Keeping Up With the Kardashians in which the family discuss whether Rob & Chyna should continue and raise concerns about 'bad, unhealthy energy' if filming resumed for another season," BuzzFeed News reports. There are no comments from the Kardashian family at this point, but I can only imagine there will be, as the drama between Rob and Chyna since their most recent split in February has been very messy.

After the pair broke things off, Rob posted explicit content of Chyna on social media and claimed she used him. Chyna obtained a restraining order because of the incident. Rob fired back with a lawsuit, accusing Chyna of assault with an iPhone charger during a fight they had last December. Through all of this, the couple co-parented their daughter Dream together—they just reached a shared custody agreement in September.

In Chyna's lawsuit, she claims the KarJenners (Rob Kardashian, Kris Jenner, Kim Kardashian, Khloé Kardashian, Kourtney Kardashian, Kendall Jenner and Kylie Jenner are all named in the suit) were "flexing their muscles so as to destroy Ms. White’s career so that she was no longer able to compete against the Kardashian-Jenner women as an entrepreneur and social media influencer," the BuzzFeed report said.

For Dream's sake, I hope this is all settled soon.

Anna Faris & Chris Pratt Are on Really Good Terms Following Their Split

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Anna Faris is setting the record straight on her relationship with estranged husband Chris Pratt

The Mom actress told PEOPLE, "We'll always have each other and be incredible friends. There is still so much laughter in our lives together, and he is so proud of me still. We watched each other grow up, and he still cracks me up all the time. And I think I crack him up—unless he's a really good actor and great at faking laughter." 

Romantics everywhere were heartbroken when Anna and Chris announced they were separating after eight years of marriage. The two met while filming the romantic comedy Take Me Home Tonight in 2007 and married in 2009. They share a 5-year-old son, Jack. 

Anna also commented on the strong public reaction to their split. "It's understandable that people seemed so invested in our happiness together. All I can say about that is, it's all true, that we truly adore each other, and we love each other, I think it still comes through." 

Faris is currently doing press to promote her book Unqualified. She revealed she was slightly worried about releasing the book—which features some steamy details about the early stages of her and Pratt's relationship—only a few months after their split. "At first I thought, 'Oh my gosh, this is crazy timing.' Now it sort of feels like maybe in a way everything that's happened helped bring it full circle." Chris wrote the memoir's opening, and Anna said she is "so grateful that he contributed to the book." 

Unqualified hits shelves on Oct. 24, and I for one can't wait to pick up a copy and dive right in.

What to Do When You're Not Feeling Super Motivated About the Job Hunt

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We've all been there. You've submitted a dozen applications, sent countless "connect" invites on LinkedIn, and gone to the umpteenth networking event, all without getting a single hit. The job or internship hunt can be wildly frustrating, especially when you feel like you're getting absolutely nowhere. If you're feeling drained and need a career pick-me-up, look no further for ways to motivate yourself during that ever-important hunt.  

1. Be systematic  

Firstly, it's important to know what your goals are. If you're planning on applying to a dozen positions, you need to be able to keep track of what tasks you have and haven't already taken care of. I personally love writing down all my memos and to-do lists in my planner; it's such a beautiful feeling to be able to physically scratch off the things on your list as you complete them. Plus, it cuts down on those panicked, "Wait, what was that I needed to submit today?" thoughts you wake up to at 3 a.m.

Have a hard time settling down to actually churn out work? Ellie Rifkin, a senior at Davidson College, says hosting "application parties" are a great way to get some much-needed friend time in while still being productive. Try having your besties over for hot chocolate and job hunting - you can even make it a friendly competition to see who sends in the most applications! 

Related: 3 Things You Need to Do ASAP Your Senior Year to Find a Job

2. Find a friend or mentor to help

It's never good to go at it alone. Try reaching out to people you know who can offer fresh perspectives and advice. "One of my close friends and I usually get together when we need to apply for new jobs/internships to act each other's "editor" to make sure our resumes and cover letters are the best they can be. Working with a friend, or someone who's familiar with your employment history is a great way to keep you from submitting your application material prematurely. Plus, I feel like you're generally more motivated when you know your friend(s) is applying for jobs too," Chelsea Jackson, junior at Iowa State University.

Don't forget to utilize your college or university's career center! Chelsea sums it up nicely, "Typically, everyone in your career services office knows how to cater your application material to your dream job (or internship). I feel like getting that kind of expert advice is bound to make even the least motivated [student] more motivated and confident when they're searching." 

3. Don't compare yourself to others 

Siena College senior Kristen Perrone suggests "checking in with your friends because chances are that a couple months out of college, not many people will have that full-time gig yet." She says that the job market will vary depending on where you live, so it's best not to compare yourself to someone you know in college who easily lined up a job back in their hometown. "Talking with people who are facing the same amount of competition and options as me is comforting because I know it's not just me struggling. Basic point: location matters, so don't get too affected by college friends or classmates who may be from a different area and are facing different work opportunities!"

Also, the S.T.E.M. job climate is going to look much different than the education market, for instance. Just because all of your bio major friends have already found jobs doesn't mean you as an English major are doing something wrong. Focus on yourself, and don't let self-destructive thoughts discourage you. 

4. Seek inspiration 

You know those Facebook videos telling the stories of how people like Oprah and J.K. Rowling went from rock bottom to major success? It may sound cheesy, but reminding yourself that even the big names had rough patches to overcome can make you feel so much better about your own situation. Lisa Kudrow gave an excellent commencement speech a few years ago detailing her rocky start as an actress that eventually led to her being cast as Phoebe on Friends

5. Keep a positive attitude 

Lastly, when you're super tired and just ready to throw in the towel, remember that all the hard work you're putting in now will be worth it in the future. "There's always a light at the end of the tunnel," says Katie Gomulkiewicz, an alumna of Davidson College. 

Yes, the job search can be unpleasant, and sometimes even scary, but an optimistic perspective can go a long way in making it a more bearable time for yourself. Keep at it, and before long your search will be over! 

Related: 7 On-Campus Jobs That Will Look Great on Your Resumé

You got this, collegiettes. 

15 Best Friend Halloween Costumes for 2017

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Your dynamic duo needs something super current for this year's Halloween parties. After all, the most important thing about wearing your costume out is getting recognized, right? Here are some up-to-date costumes for you and your bestie that are going to be a hit at every Halloween party. 

1. Betty and Veronica from Riverdale

These girls may look like frenemies, but they quickly moved past the drama to become BFFs. Dress in some Riverdale High gear or one of the girls' signature outfits, and get ready to go out with your best friend.

2. Sir and Rumi Carter

So maybe you don't even know what Beyoncé and JAY-Z's babies look like. Actually, nobody really does. But since they were born, people just can't wait for them to grow up! Get creative and go out as the Carter twins if you really want to turn heads. But don't get too caught up on who gets to be Sir and who gets to be Rumi—they probably look pretty much the same.

3. Evie and Mal from Descendants 2

These two ~evil~ ladies are the daughters of villains, but they are so sweet to each other. No matter what they go through at Auradon Prep, these roommates only draw closer together—they're practically like sisters! If you and your bestie can relate, pop on some purple and blue wigs, and stand out this Halloween.

4. Rick and Morty from Rick and Morty

If you haven't heard of Rick and Morty by now, you haven't talked to anyone about TV shows lately. With such a large fanbase, everyone will be sure to recognize you and your best friend at any Halloween function. Put on a lab coat and spike your hair to be like Rick, and let your friend dress in little boy clothes to be just like Morty. 

5. Finn and Jake from Adventure Time

The song literally says "c'mon grab your friends!" Finn and Jake are the classic duo—they go on adventures together, live together, and basically can't live without each other. And even though Jake is a dog, he still makes for a pretty cute costume. DIY it and find the perfect girl to go on a Halloween adventure with. Or you can dress up as the female versions: Fiona and Cake.

6. Prince George and Princess Charlotte

George is only four years old and Charlotte only two, but these are the two most fashionable kids of the celebrity world. Go the cute route and join the royal family by pulling the preppiest pieces out of your closet. You may not get the special royal treatment that they do, but you will definitely turn a lot of heads as the kids of Prince William and Kate Middleton.

7. Violet and Klaus from A Series of Unfortunate Events

You may have seen the original movie or read the books (and been afraid of Count Olaf ever since), but this show is even more relevant now that the Netflix reboot has gained popularity. Violet and Klaus are introduced with even more detail, so watch a few episodes before putting together your look. Both characters are so great, you and your BFF won't know who should be whom!

8. Madeline and Celeste from Big Little Lies

Don't miss out on a chance to dress as fabulously as Reese Witherspoon and Nicole Kidman! These on-screen best friends have some of the most heartfelt moments, just like you and your friends do in real life. Plus, Big Little Lies is an Emmy-winning show with a huge following. People won't be able to miss you two.

9. Sansa and Daenerys from Game of Thrones

To the best friends who are total opposites, this one's for you. Sansa, you may already know, is a young Lady of the North, who is honestly so beautiful and naive that you can't not like her. Dany, however, is a queen—immune to heat, rider of dragons. She is fierce. Sansa does have her fierce moments, but either personality type is bound to fit one of your friends. The costume opportunities are endless, especially if you want Dany's beautiful white hair. 

10. New Taylor Swift and Old Taylor Swift

The "Look What You Made Me Do" video is legendary, whether you liked it or not. If you want to make fun of Taylor Swift or show your appreciation for the pop singer, this series of costumes is perfect. The options are endless. Your BFF could be "You Belong With Me" Taylor or "Bad Blood" Taylor. You could be by her side as VMAs Taylor or Met Gala Taylor! Or you could go as Kanye West, as he and Tay are truly a dynamic duo.

11. Kylie Jenner and Jordyn Woods

Kylie and Jordyn are known for their matching outfits, BFF moments on Keeping Up With the Kardashians and fantastic Instagram pics. You'll have to get a little creative trying to recreate their expensive outfits, but there are endless options. 

12. Beyoncé and Solange Knowles

You and your sister from another mister are going to rock Halloween in these outfits. Beyoncé and Solange have supported each other as kids, sung together and even attend each other's concerts today! It must be amazing to be sisters who are best friends. Put on a big wig, and look to one of their Grammy outfits or the Coachella picture above! You can't go wrong with a little Knowles style.

13. DJ Khaled and Asahd 

The kings of matching outfits! Since the day Asahd was born, DJ Khaled has been calling his son his best friend. He takes the little guy everywhere—even to award shows. Put together some nice suits, glue on a beard and find some headphones for baby Asahd's ears. 

14. Ruth and Debbie from GLOW

These gorgeous ladies of wrestling have some on-screen best friend drama that you won't want to miss. This might be the most fun costume. Don a colorful bodysuit and break out the hairspray for some seriously '80s hair! Halloween has never seen something so original.

15. Lauren Jauregui and Normani Kordei from Fifth Harmony

Although there are four girls in this group, everyone is talking about Lauren and Normani. Fans even call them Laurmani for short. Their closeness is evident, and their fierceness is hard to miss! If you feel this close to your bestie, this is the perfect Halloween getup for you. 

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