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7 Therapist-Approved Tips for Battling Anxiety

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Between classes, extracurricular activities, jobs and internships—not to mention maintaining a social life—college students have a lot on their plates. While it’s not ideal, feeling stressed out from time to time is an inevitable part of the college experience. If you’re experiencing an excess of anxiety, however, it may begin to negatively affect your day-to-day life. In that case (and in general), it’s a good idea to have a few coping mechanisms in your arsenal. We talked to three mental health experts who gave us the scoop on how to deal with anxiety in college.

1. Develop healthy habits

Now that you are living away from home, it’s even more important to take care of yourself. “Starting college for most students is one of the most exciting (and at the same time terrifying) times in their lives,” says Dr. Roy Stefanik, DO and clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at Georgetown University. “Developing good habits to deal with anxiety can be tremendously helpful.” Regular exercise, talking a walk outdoors, activities such as yoga and meditation, a balanced diet and a consistent sleep schedule are all beneficial habits that will help lessen anxiety. Drinking or smoking pot heavily can make anxiety much worse, as for many, it can make people feel disinhibited or out of control. Dr. Stefanik also suggests avoiding caffeinated drinks, as they too can worsen anxiety. “If problems persist, learn some relaxation techniques—diaphragmatic breathing, progressive muscle relaxation or visual imagery,” he says. Whether you’re a college freshman or a senior, taking care of your body and mind now will only make you happier in the long run.

2. Listen to your body

According to Dr. Nancy Stockton, psychologist and director of Counseling and Psychological Services at Indiana University, frequent headaches, stomach aches and poor sleep without any apparent physical cause are all possible signs of chronic anxiety. Worrying incessantly and self-medicating with alcohol or drugs are also indicators that you may be experiencing an anxiety disorder, rather than just a “normal” amount of stress. “Watch for flags that may be a sign of problematic anxiety,” agrees Dr. Stefanik. These signs include persistent sleeplessness, irritability and being fearful in situations that shouldn’t be anxiety provoking. Listen to your body, because it may be trying to tell you something.

“I was diagnosed with anxiety when I was 15,” says Krystal Douglas, a senior at Georgia State University. “I saw someone who helped me cope with it, without medication. I was taught how to relax and refocus my thoughts when I became overwhelmed with anxiety and started to feel the physical symptoms. Although I still deal with anxiety today, as far as physically and mentally, I manage it a lot better. Remembering to breathe and relax at times when things get hectic and overwhelming keeps me afloat with the high demands of college life.”

3. Incorporate structure into your day

Finding balance among academics, student activities and your social life may seem impossible, but working towards a stable schedule will make your days much less stressful. “Watch out for perfectionism and its converse, procrastination,” says Dr. Stockton. “Both can contribute substantively to anxiety.” Instead, fight anxiety by trying to incorporate structure into each day. “Go to class, study at set hours, plan a structured fun activity to have something to look forward to,” advises Nancy Wolf, a parent coach, young adult mental health advisor and college planner. “Set aside regular time to listen to music, exercise, write, read or a combination of all of them.”

Christine Burney, a senior at Savannah College of Art and Design, has dealt with a lot of anxiety in her life. “I just have to regroup and do things one at a time,” she says. “Multi-tasking is not a good way to finish things. One time, I looked up the word root for anxiety and it painted the picture of being pulled into two different directions. So, a key would be to focus and do one thing at a time.”

4. Take pleasure in the little things

When anxiety hits, it can be difficult to keep things in perspective. “Silly as it may sound, a key strategy is to remember to breathe,” says Wolf. “Often when I get anxious, I tense up and almost forget to breathe. Stopping, focusing on the moment—thinking ‘this too shall pass’—and taking a few deep inhales and exhales calms me down.” Dr. Stockton also tries to enjoy almost everything she does, no matter how small. Believe it or not, concrete tasks like household chores can be a nice change from abstractions of work. While no one can be positive all the time, looking at your mundane or difficult responsibilities in a more optimistic light can make them less anxiety provoking.

Madelyn Pellegrino, a senior at Emmanuel College, finds that writing in a journal calms her down when she is experiencing anxiety. “It took me a while to really get into it, but physically writing out everything that has happened to me and how I'm feeling really helps me get out my stress and leave [it] on the page,” she says. Whether it’s writing, reading, or simply breathing, sometimes the smallest tasks have the most impact.

5. Have a solid support system

Wolf cites recent studies, which show that college students experiencing anxiety—the number one most common on-campus complaint—think they are alone in feeling anxious. Well, you’re not! Talk to your friends about what you are feeling. Chances are, they have felt similarly and can give you advice on what worked for them. “Share your concerns with peers, with resident advisors, with your parents,” says Wolf. “If you feel you are out of your depth or experiencing more serious symptoms of anxiety, do not hesitate to seek on-campus or off-campus help.”

Madelyn has struggled with anxiety for many years. “College can definitely be a time where your anxiety is at its peak,” she says. “I've found that having a strong support system really makes a difference. I have so many great friends I have made at college who are here for me whenever I need it.”

"For a long time I was afraid to talk to anyone about my anxiety," says one junior at TCNJ. "But once I opened up to my significant other about it he started helping me through it. Leaning on others for support is nothing to be ashamed of, and I am so glad that I realized that before I let my anxiety consume me."

Related: What to Do If Your SO Has Anxiety or Depression

6. Take advantage of resources on your campus

Get to know the resources available at your campus counseling center as soon as possible. It’s better to be aware of how, when and where you can get help before you or your friends need it. Most colleges have an on-campus counseling center. Some offer individual therapy sessions (sometimes with a cap on the number of sessions) and some offer group therapy. Wolf suggests finding out how the counseling center is staffed. Possible questions include: “Will you be seen by a psychiatrist (less likely), a psychologist or a social worker? How do they differ? If meds are needed, can they be provided off campus or do you have to find a psychiatrist in the town or city? Is there an after-hours support number? Is there a peer support network? Does the campus have a student-run chapter of Active Minds or National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) on Campus that you can join?” Exploring your resources ahead of time means you’ll know what to do if and when you are experiencing anxiety.

Wolf also notes that if you have a diagnosed mental illness such as an anxiety disorder or depression (two common examples), you may be able—if you can present appropriate documentation—to obtain on-campus academic accommodations such as taking an exam in an alternate format, extended test time, pre-arranged class breaks or having a note taker. “Under the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) all such accommodations must be reasonable,” she says. “So if you have a pre-diagnosed mental illness or develop one in college, do register with your campus’s office of disabilities to discuss appropriate support and accommodations for your particular need.”

7. Don’t be afraid to ask for help!

While some situational anxiety—about upcoming exams, general academic pressure, a breakup or roommate drama—may resolve with the passage of time, an anxiety disorder may show itself with warning signs such as sudden overwhelming fear for no reason, a panic attack or series of them or intense worries or fears that get in the way of daily activities and functioning.

“College students cannot and should not attempt to diagnose themselves,” says Wolf. “If you are anxious, just not feeling right and can't shake it, go talk with an expert at your college counseling center as soon as you can.” Yes, talking to friends or family can be a beneficial outlet for anxiety, but don’t put off getting professional help. “The sooner you find out what is going on the better. Mental illness (if you do have a diagnosable illness) can be treated. You can go on to lead a full and successful life with proper treatment. The earlier the treatment, the better the outcome,” says Wolf. Medication can be an excellent supplement to therapy as well. While the recommendations above may be effective in curbing anxiety, if you have a severe diagnosable illness, it may require medication to treat.

From situational anxiety to a diagnosed anxiety disorder, stress shows itself in different ways. Whether you’re looking for a way to deal with a big exam, or you think you may need regular counseling, don’t let your anxiety control you. Not every method is right for every person, so try out these tips and find what works best for you.


Donald Trump Jr. Says Syrian Refugees Are Like Poisoned Skittles

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The 2016 election has featured some heated debate about admitting refugees to the United States. Trump has called for “extreme vetting,” as well as a ban on immigrants from countries that are associated with terrorism.

He's also criticized Hillary Clinton and President Obama for allowing Syrian refugees into the country, arguing that they are increasing the possibility of a terrorist attack in the United States by accepting refugees.

On Monday, Trump's son Donald Trump Jr. took to Twitter to comment on the refugee issue, likening Syrian refugees to poisoned Skittles.

However, it appears that the message, which features an official Trump and Pence 2016 campaign logo, isn’t an original one, CNN reports.

Former Illinois Representative Joe Walsh actually Tweeted the same message a month ago on social media. Walsh, including a screenshot of his similar post, responded to Trump Jr., “Hey @DonaldTrumpJr, that's the point I made last month. Glad you agree.”

Trump Jr.’s tweet caused outrage on social media. Jon Favreau, President Obama’s former speechwriter, responded to Trump Jr. and included the picture of Omran Daqneesh, a 5-year-old boy whose bloodied image brought home the horror of Syrian conflict to millions of people around the world.

Mars Candy, the parent company of Wrigley, who makes Skittles, released a statement on social media: “Skittles are candy; refugees are people. It's an inappropriate analogy. We respectfully refrain from further comment, as that could be misinterpreted as marketing.”

17 Memes That Are So You As an Adult

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Ask any recent grad or early 20-something who's recently made the transition to becoming a functioning member of society and they'll tell you—adulting can be rough. The real world is full of early mornings, deadlines and dates that actually take place in public. Some of us thrive in this new way of life, but most just wonder what the hell is going on most of the time. If you’re one of those people, you’re guaranteed to relate to these 17 memes. 

1. Oh, you thought I actually wanted to do something? 

2. Holy cow, it's PSL season already?! Where has the time gone?

3. Please take me to Never-Never Land.

4. But I've been so productive all day! *shoves fifth slice of pizza in mouth*

5. This should work.

6. Sure, let me just cancel all the plans I don't have.

7. Sorry, but now that I'm an adult, I need to get my priorities in check.

8. I have a date with my couch that day, sorry.

9. Call me grandma.

10. No, mother, for the tenth time, I'm not ignoring you.

11. I'll be crying under my desk if you need me.

12. The eternal struggle.

13. So much for being young and alive.

14. It's like a sickness.

15. Please stop talking to me.

16. Welp, I'm screwed.

17. 6 a.m. isn't really my style.

I just can't anymore.

Your Sex Life, As Told By 'Stranger Things'

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Stranger Things has been our newest obsession as of late. The show follows the disappearance of a young boy and features an odd but lovable telekinetic girl who helps his friends as they search for him. Though it may not be as crazy as the things we see on the show, it’s safe to say our sex life can definitely be a strange thing. Here’s an explanation of your sex life, according to Stranger Things

Most of the time, you have to live vicariously through your friends. 

At least someone is getting action. 

But sometimes you get lucky and find a little action.

Finally! 

Maybe your crush finally confessed their feelings for you.

It was only a matter of time! 

Or alcohol gave you the courage to talk to that hottie across the room. 

Because margaritas solve everything. 

Perhaps your friend came through as a really good wingman.

Finally! 

But—no matter how you met—you always make sure you and your partner are on the same page.  

#consent 

And are (of course) using protection. 

Safety first. Always! 

You get a little nervous when you're first getting into it. 

Who doesn't? 

And you'll admit that you can be a little bit awkward. 

No judgment! 

But maybe you're not 100 percent comfortable with your partner. 

Especially if it's your first time together. 

You tend to get upset when your partner is being selfish in bed. 

But who doesn't? 

But (usually) you both finish satisfied. 

You've got to both give and take. 

Sometimes you're even surprised with how good their ~skillz~ are. 

How'd they learn such great moves? 

Sometimes you think about your celebrity crush during the action. 

Everyone does it, even if they don't admit it. 

And, in the end, the moment you finally climax is truly magical. 

TBH, it's even better than online shopping. 

Cuddling after sex is always mandatory to you.

And you prefer to be the little spoon.

But sometimes you and your partner fall alseep and lose track of time. 

Hope you didn't have anywhere to be!  

After a good hookup, you always have to call your friends. 

They need all the details ASAP. 

And everyone knows after-sex food is always the best. 

Preferably if it's Chipotle. 

If you haven’t watched Stranger Things yet, then you need to see it as soon as possible. Save this show for your next Netflix and chill session—and you’ll be sure to get some action that night (if that’s what you want!). 

Belmont University Expels Student for Viral Racist Snapchat

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Belmont University has expelled a student for calling Philadelphia Eagles’ players “piece of s*** n*****s” and saying that the players needed “a damn bullet in their head” after raising their fists during the national anthem on Snapchat. “If you don't like this country get the hell out,” the post read, according to The Tennessean. Football players around the country have been kneeling or raising their fists during the anthem as a protest against racism and police brutality.

The student’s post went viral on Tuesday after students shared the post in outrage.

The university issued a statement on Twitter Tuesday afternoon saying that the post came from a freshman student and that they would take “immediate action."

After an investigation, the university said in another statement that “the [student] involved is no longer a student at Belmont.”

“The University rejects comments rooted in racism or bigotry. As a Christian institution, it is our goal to build a diverse and inclusive community where all members feel accepted, safe and valued,” the university stated.

Belmont University student Isaiah Edwards, told The Tennessean, "Being on such a beautiful campus, that supports diversity and inclusion, it is terrifying having someone speak about shooting individuals in the head and referring to them as n*****s. I hope that Belmont uses this experience as a wake-up call that this type of disgusting behavior is real and prevalent on its campus."

4 Things They Don’t Tell You About Going to a Competitive College

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When you are looking at where to apply to college, one of the most terrifying numbers to look at is the acceptance rate. But, don’t let that scare you away. If you apply and get into a very competitive school, you are probably a little worried about what to expect. Maybe you are even thinking, “If it was that hard to get in, staying in is probably way harder!” Well, fear no more ––we spoke to some collegiettes and experts to find out all the things you need to know before deciding if going to a highly competitive college is right for you.

1. Get ready to register for classes weeks ahead of time

When you go to a very competitive college, getting into the school isn’t the only thing that is going to be difficult.

For Sarah Greenstein, a senior at NYU, her first two years of registering for classes was basically like TheHunger Games. “For my school, everyone gets assigned a registration time according to their academic level and what program you are in," she says. "For me, I am in the College of Arts and Sciences, which is the biggest, so when I was a freshman I basically had the last possible registration time.”

Sarah had to be ready to click register the second that her time came around. “Even as a freshman, everyone wanted to get into certain classes in order to fulfil requirements but because we were brand new to the school, most times the elective classes we wanted when to seniors,” she adds. Alternatively, she had to pick other classes because the ones she wanted filled up so quickly.

Sarah recommends pre-collegiettes who will be competitive colleges prepare a few different versions of your schedule, just in case you don’t get the classes you want. “I love going to a competitive school," she says. "It challenges me to do better academically, but I seriously wish registering for classes didn’t give me a panic attack every single semester.” Amen, sister.

2. The student body might be pretty homogenous

Whether that means racially, socially or economically, when you go to a competitive college you will most likely be surrounded by people who are very similar to you. At Harvard, where the acceptance rate is only 6 percent, according to College Board, 42 percent of students are white, 20 percent are Asian, 10 percent are Latino or Hispanic and only 7 percent are black or African American.  

Sometimes, it’s not just the students that are similar. A Princeton report for 2014 shows that out of all full-time professors, 84 percent were white. Only one percent were Hispanic. 

3. Get ready to work extremely hard

While all universities are competitive, when you go to a school where the acceptance rate is less than 10 percent, it is pretty likely that there will be lots of competition. Whether its applying for classes or getting good grades, everyone in the school will be in it to win it.

Beth Haymaker, an academic advisor at NYU, says that many recent high school graduates struggle with the transition from high school to college. "Much of the transition feels very strange to students given that the educational environment prior to college is much more structured," she says. "They need to learn to manage their time and to do their coursework independently.” It doesn’t just stop there ––you also have to learn how to manage life independently and in a healthy way.

Many students haven't learned that yet. A study from the American College Health Association found that more than half of college students have experienced “overwhelming anxiety” sometime over the past year and “more than 30 percent of them said they have felt so depressed that it was difficult to function.” Nearly 40 percent said they “felt things were hopeless.” This study is for all university students in the United States.

Now, imagine how much higher those numbers are for highly competitive schoosl. 

Related: 15 Anxieties We All Have at the Start of a New Semester

4. It's not for everyone

Going to a competitive college is hard. It’s a lot of work and you are going to be stressed, anxious and probably hate certain moments of the four years you spend there. Find things you enjoy learning about and you won’t mind spending several hours in the library every once in a while. But, if you find that you are truly unhappy, it is crucial to understand that going to a competitive university is not for everyone.

Although it may look great on paper, you have to look at your priorities and truly think about if it is worth it. Kirsten Sheeren, a recent graduate at the University of North Carolina, walked away with a world-class education but she was often miserable because of the stress, the type of people she was surrounded by, and by her overall experience. Although Sheeren got to study what she wanted to, at the end, it wasn’t worth it.

If you make the decision to go to a competitive college, make sure you know what you are getting yourself into. At the end of the day, four years can feel like a pretty long time.  

What the Disney Princes Would Be Like in College

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Growing up, we watched our fair share of Disney movies, filled with princesses and princes. Inevitably, we found ourselves wishing we could be rescued by a prince, fall in love in the jungle or run away with a guy who has a pet monkey. Little did we know that we would eventually find guys just like the Disney princes when we got to college!

Although they may not share the same names or look particularly animated, you definitely know a few guys who match these princes' descriptions. This is what the Disney princes would be like if they actually existed at a campus near you.

Prince Florian: The Tinder Expert

Let’s be honest: although Snow White’s prince was supposedly in love with her before she bit into that poisoned apple, he didn’t show up until it was time to give her a smooch. If he were in college, he’d constantly be swiping right and trying to meet up with whatever pretty girl needed to be “rescued.”

The Beast: The Ultimate (Misunderstood) Frat Bro

The Beast is that guy who absolutely loves his frat, his pledge brothers and parties—and he might have a bit of a beer belly. While he’s often written off as someone with a one-track mind (if you know what we mean), the Beast still has a heart of gold and loves nothing more than a romantic dinner date. He will continue to be turned down by any girl he asks out until he finds that special someone who sees beyond his rough exterior.

Prince Eric: The Campus Legacy

He’s not famous on campus because of some impressive party trick, but because the new library is named after his very wealthy father. Many girls are after Eric for his money, but he’s just a typical guy who just wants to be different from his family and fall in love with a genuine girl. He’s often seen in coffee shops and bookstores or hanging with his dog.

Tarzan: The Dropout

He’s that guy who got tired of conforming to society’s standards. College? Not for him. After a mere month at university, he left to travel the world (because even a semester abroad wasn’t quite adventurous enough). Tarzan is a free spirit and perfect for one of those bad boy phases that every girl seems to go through at some point in her life.

Hercules: The Guy Who Lives at the Gym

It could be six in the morning on a Monday, and he’d still be at the campus gym hitting the weights. “Cardio” isn’t in his vocabulary, and he’s always willing to tell you that (and to talk about how much he lifts in general). He’s been accused of taking steroids multiple times, and his Instagram is full of the hashtag #gains. If you do see him anywhere but the gym, he is most likely wearing a muscle tee.

Prince Philip: Everyone’s Best Friend

It’s hard to find someone on campus who doesn’t love this guy. He’s cute, funny and always down to go out (partly because he’s a good dancer). He’ll give you the best compliments and stick up for you no matter what! Despite the fact that he's friends with everyone, girls are constantly falling for him because of his poetic soul.

Aladdin: The Rebel Your Parents Wish You’d Never Met

We all know him: the elusive and mysterious guy who sits at the back of every class and makes random but insightful comments. Despite his creative nature, he doesn’t like following any sort of rules. Therefore, he also doesn’t care for authority—whether it's the law or your parents. 

Prince Charming: The Star Football Player

His plays are often shown on ESPN, people slyly take pictures as he walks by them on campus, and all of the girls at your school are dying to get just one date with him. Even though he's insanely popular, he’s still down to earth. When he does settle down with a girl, he’s extremely committed to their relationship, even though others continue trying to steal his affection.

Captain Li Shang: The Straight-A Student

He doesn’t just study—he stays after class, goes to his professors’ office hours and is constantly meeting with his advisor. This guy is most likely on a scholarship, which just makes him more determined to do well. On a Saturday night, you can find him at the library or at home studying.

Regardless of the movie, it’s pretty easy to spot at least one Disney prince’s twin somewhere on your campus. Keep a look out, ladies!

University of North Dakota Investigating Racist Snapchat Left on Black Student's Phone

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The University of North Dakota has started an investigation into a racist snapchat, just one day after Belmont University in Tennessee expelled a student for the same offense.

The Snapchat shows three white students laughing with the caption, "Locked the black bitch out."Allegedly a black student left her phone in her room, after which other students used it to take the photo and post it on her Snapchat story. The photo was shared on social media, causing an outcry on Facebook and Twitter. Many students expressed that racism at the school has gotten "out of control," and that something needs to be done.

UND posted on Twitter this morning saying they know about the Snapchat, and that the police and Office of Student Rights and Responsibilities will be investigating.

"What is portrayed is not part of the the community values that we expound," the university wrote. "We take seriously issues related to respect for all."


Violent Protests in Charlotte after Police Fatally Shoot Keith Lamont Scott

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Violence broke out during protests in Chartlotte, N.C. last night following the fatal shooting of a black man near the University of North Carolina Charlotte campus, The Washington Postreports. 

Keith Lamont Scott was killed by police Tuesday afternoon, while they were searching for a suspect with an outstanding warrant. While Scott was not the suspect, he got out of his car holding a firearm as police approached him, according to the Post. CNN reports that officers repeatedly told Scott to drop his weapon, but when he didn't, Officer Brentley Vinson, who is also black, shot him.

Scott's daughter claimed that Scott had been unarmed when he was shot and was simply reading a book in his car. The Post reports that police recovered Scott's firearm at the scene, but said they did not find a book. The officer was not wearing a body camera, but other officers there at the time were wearing them, according to NBC News. There are no plans as of now to release those videos to the public.

The protests that followed Tuesday night left over two dozen people injuring, including 12 police officers. According to the Post, the protests began peacefully, but ended with "police in riot gear firing tear gas and rubber bullets at demonstrators and some people smashing out the the windows of police cars." The protest culminated on Interstate 85, which police used flash grenades to clear early Wednesday morning. 

Attorney General Loretta E. Lynch criticized the violence of police and protestors at a news conference Wednesday morning, saying, “Protest is protected by our Constitution and is a vital instrument for raising issues and creating change. But when it turns violent, it undermines the very justice that it seeks to achieve and I urge those demonstrating in Charlotte to remain peaceful in their expressions of protest and concern.”

North Carlonia Senator Thom Tillis called the protests, "an embarassing moment for the city." 

Protesters at the scene expressed frustration that police killings of black men and women continue to happen frequently.

"When will our lives truly matter? A black father is dead. There are children tonight who will never see their father again," Corine Mack, president of the Charlotte chapter of the NAACP, told CNN. "It clearly appears as if our lives don't matter. We need to change policies. We need to change procedure. We need to hold police accountable. It's a modern-day lynching. Charlotte is not a good place right now; we're in the throes of this problem."

Those injured in the protest, including a police officer hit in the face with a rock, were treated for non-life-threatening injuries at local hospitals. 

7 Things You Should Take Off Your Resume

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Whether you’re looking for a job or an internship, updating your resume is the most important part of the job seeking process. Your resume is usually the first thing an employer looks at, so you want to make sure it captures your professional persona. It's important to make a positive first impression, but you only have one page to do it. We all know that there comes a time when you'll have to remove your high school achievements from your resume, but there are also some other things you don't need to keep on there. Professional career advisor and author of Networking for the Novice, Nervous, or Naive Job Seeker Tom Dezell weighs in on what things on your resume are just a waste of space.

1. Any school you attended without earning a degree

If you've taken classes at multiple colleges or universities that's great, but you don't have to list them all on your resume. "On the resume, it's only necessary to list the school where you received or are in the process of receiving the degree," says Dezell. "An application may ask you to list all the schools you've attended, but it's not necessary for a resume." You can leave off the school where you took a class and earned transfer credit or the school you attended during study abroad, and just stick with where you plan to graduate from.

Related: How to write the perfect cover letter

2. Multiple addresses

Sure, you need to include your phone number, email or maybe a link to your personal website—but make sure you don't provide so much information that you leave employers scratching their heads. "Rather than a school and home address, just list the one closest to the job you’re applying to," suggests Dezell. You might have to provide a permanent and temporary address in an application, but when it comes to your resume, just stick to one.

3. A GPA below 3.0

When it comes to your GPA, Dezell says that if it's lower than a 3.0 on a 4.0 scale, it's not necessary to keep on your resume—and that "even keeping just a 3.0 on there is generous." If you have a great GPA that you are proud of, and your grades are relevant to your job search, then go ahead and include it. Don't worry—leaving your GPA off your resume doesn't automatically indicate to employers that it’s bad; it's just not the thing on your resume that will really help you stand out

4. List of courses

Having a long list of every course you've taken in college provides a potential employer with more information than they need or want. "Only present coursework titles that include skill topics required for jobs applied to," says Dezell. "If it’s not relevant, leave it off." If you do want to include a course that is relevant to the job, write about the skills it helped you develop rather than simply listing the course name. For example, if you're applying for jobs in advertising, having random elective courses you took (like Ballroom Dancing 101) on your resume won't be of much help.

5. Interests & hobbies

Your resume isn’t really the place to tell someone you enjoy hiking or knitting in your spare time. "Only keep them on a resume if they have relevance to the job you applied to," notes Dezell. There may be an area of the job application where you can provide a little about yourself, but definitely don't have everything you do during your free time listed on your resume. An employer can find out more about you during the interview process.

6. A photo of yourself (or any other images)

Unless you’re an aspiring actor, you don’t need to include a photo of yourself on your resume. Putting a photo of any kind on your resume will just distract from the truly important things, like your experience and education—and can appear unprofessional. Employers can see what you look like when they ask you to come in for an interview, or when they visit your LinkedIn page. Adding any other types of images that show off your creativity are also unnecessary. Instead, just be sure to include a link to your online portfolio. 

7. Every job you've ever had

Just like listing every class you’ve taken in college, you also don’t have to list absolutely every job you’ve ever had. This is especially important if the previous jobs are not related to the one you’re applying for. If you're listing your previous experience, also keep in mind that you don’t want to be too repetitive. “If you’ve worked as a server/bartender at multiple restaurants, no need to structure each as its own job then repeat all the same duties,” says Dezell. Even if you take off a few unrelated job experiences, that doesn’t mean you can’t still use the skills you learned to your advantage!

Creating the perfect resume can be stressful, but it's important to cater it to each job you apply for. Make sure to include what is truly essential and ditch the unnecessary things that take up too much of that precious space!

Brad Pitt Just Found Out Angelina Jolie Was Divorcing Him Two Days Ago

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Everyone is shocked about the end of Brangelina—including Brad Pitt himself.

Pitt, who separated from Angelina Jolie last week, found out about the pending divorce just two days ago, the day Jolie filed the papers making the split official, according to an US Weekly source

The couple, who cited irreconcilable differences for their divorce, had plans to fly to London this weekend, but since the divorce came so suddenly, those plans were canceled on Monday.

Both parties have requested privacy during this challenging time.

"I am very saddened by this, but what matters most now is the well-being of our kids," Pitt said in a statement to PEOPLE magazine. "I kindly ask the press to give them the space they deserve during this challenging time." 

The Hollywood power couple, who met on the set of Mr. and Mrs. Smith in 2005, married in 2014 in South France. During their 12 years together, the couple adopted two kids—Pax, 12, and Zahara, 11—and had three children of their own—Shiloh, 10, and eight-year-old twins Viviane and Knox.

While Jolie has requested full custody of their children, she wishes to grant her soon-to-be ex visitation rights. Jolie has yet to comment on the divorce. According to her lawyer, Robert Offer, the decision was made “for the health of her family.”

The 'New York Post' Took This Brangelina & Jennifer Aniston Joke Way Too Far

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Since the news broke yesterday about the end of Brangelina, the internet has gone into quite a frenzy. But weirdly enough, nothing really seems to be focused on Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. Instead, users around the world are using Jennifer Aniston, who was married to Pitt 11 years ago, to express their emotions. 

According to Refinery29, photos of Aniston are circulating the internet while people try and imagine what she is doing right now. Exhibit A.

While on some level those are just harmless tweets or Instas, the New York Post may have taken this angle a bit too far. 

On the cover of their newspaper is a picture of Aniston laughing, with the caption, “Jennifer Aniston knew Brangelina would end one day.”  And frankly, it's wrong on so many levels. After the cover was revealed, people online responded in a totally valid way—saying that it was out of line for the Post to put words in Aniston’s mouth. 

Come on, people, we are better than this. Let's leave Jen alone for good. 

Emma Watson Gives Powerful Speech Addressing Sexual Assault on College Campuses

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When it comes to standing up for women’s rights, Emma Watson is no stranger. 

According to Harper's Bazaar, Watson gave a speech on Tuesday evening at U.N. General Assembly in New York City addressing sexual assault on college campuses, and it’s safe to say that she hit the nail on the head. Hard.

"A university should be a place of refuge that takes action against all forms of violence," the actress and UN ambassador said. "That's why, we believe, students should leave university believing in, striving for, and expecting societies of true equality in every sense and that universities have the power to be a vital catalyst for change."

Given the dangers that women face on campus, she believes that it is the responsibility of the universities to reform campus sexual assault policies and make it easier for women to play a larger role in university life. 

"The university experience must make it clear that the safety of women, minorities and anyone who may be vulnerable, is a right and not a privilege," she said. "A right that will be respected by a community that supports and respects survivors, and recognizes that when one person's safety is violated, the safety of everyone should feel violated."

This is also not the first time that Watson has given these remarks. According to Refinery29, she addressed the same assembly two years ago and is just as passionate now as she was then. 

Watch her speech below.

 

We Need to Talk About That Huge 'This Is Us' Reveal

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All summer we’ve watched the emotional and uplifting trailer (featuring Milo Ventimiglia’s toned behind, btw) for NBC’s new drama This Is Us. Last night the show finally premiered, and it did not let us down.

The hour-long episode followed four characters celebrating their 36th birthdays: Jack (Ventimiglia), who is married to Mandy Moore’s character, Rebecca, and expecting triplets; Kevin (Justin Hartley), an unhappy sitcom actor; Kate (Chrissy Metz), Kevin’s sister, who is struggling with body issues; and Randall (Sterling K. Brown), who’s on the search for the biological father who left him at a fire station the day he was born.

It was an hour filled with such heart and happiness (and groans every time a commercial came on) that we just didn’t want it to end. But the end came, and it was not what we expected at all. The final few minutes of the episode revealed a plot twist so enormous and unexpected, yet perfectly designed, that connected all of the characters and left us shouting, “What?!” over and over at the screen. 

Here's the twist. *Spoiler alert OBVI*

Jack and Rebecca are parents to Kevin and Kate, two of the triplets they were expecting, and Randall, whom they adopted after they lost their third baby during a complicated delivery. That means Jack and Rebecca’s story takes place in 1980, 36 years before Kevin, Kate and Randall’s story, which is set in 2016.

Our mind was blown. We spent the rest of the night and even today thinking about the reveal—how much sense it makes and how well it was pulled off. Then, we started to read up on the show and discovered something that now makes oh-so-much sense: Dan Fogelman, the show’s creator, also wrote Crazy, Stupid, Love. So we should have seen a crazy twist like this coming!

With the surprising end of the episode, we were all left wondering: where will the show go from here? Fogelman has an answer for that, TVLine reveals.

The series will continue to follow the characters in their respective time periods, along with some time-jumping for Jack and Rebecca. We’ll see the couple both before the pregnancy and after, with their three kids.

“You might even meet them in the present day,” Fogelman hinted, “as older versions of themselves.”

No matter what future episodes hold, we're excited to tune in every week to stay caught up with the lives of these people whom we already feel attached to. Well done, This Is Us!

Watching Netflix With Your SO is Actually GOOD for Your Relationship

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Cancel the fancy dinner reservations, order takeout and queue up the Netflix instead. If your SO asks why, say, "Because, science."

The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships recently published a study about the correlation of media and closeness in romantic relationships. The abstract of their study says, "...when people lack shared friends with their romantic partners, sharing media predicts greater relationship quality and people become motivated to share media with their partners." This is great news for collegiettes in LDRs or those who may not totally click with their SO's friends. And you don't just have to be watching Stranger Things together—this study found the a similar connection when couples read the same books or watched the same movies, too.

To conduct the study, researchers followed 259 students in relationships around at the University of Aberdeen in Scotland for 17 months. They made it a point to confirm that the couples were bonding over media, rather than just the time spent together, reports Well + Good. You may be wondering, "What's the connection?" Researchers concluded that when you watch television and movies or read books, you think about what's going on in the story and form opinions, which allows you to have a great conversation (or maybe argument!) with your SO. These shared discussions help bring you closer. This connection may seem obvious when it's pointed out, but it's good to remember that it necessarily doesn't take a wild adventure to spice up a relationship—you might just need to have a good long talk about Making a Murderer.

So, next time you're looking for a new show or book, talk to your partner and pick one together. It might be exactly what you need. Plus, what better way to show your SO the "real you" than by wearing sweats, going makeup-less, pigging out on Chinese, and ugly-crying during The Notebook?


Texas Man Charged with Capital Murder After Killing College Student

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Authorities finally found the man guilty of murdering a student from Texas Woman's University, according to the New York Daily News.

Jacqueline Vandagriff, 24, was found by firefighters last week in a park in Grapevine, Texas. Her body had been dismembered, burned and thrown in a kiddie pool. Investigators allege that Charles Dean Bryant is responsible. The 30-year-old was seen at a local bar with Vandagriff the night before her body was discovered. 

Cell tower data led police to Bryant's house in Haslet, which they investigated over the weekend. They found Vandagriff's purse in the trash. After more evidence was found, Bryant was charged with capital murder, a sentence that makes him eligible for the death penalty. However, this isn't his first run-in with the law. According to the NY Daily News, Bryant was previously arrested for forgery, possession of marijuana and stalking a woman at the University of North Texas.

Investigators are looking into both Vandagriff's and Bryant's social media handles to potentially find out more about their relationship, if there even was a connection between the two before the night of the murder. NBC reported that Bryant posted this extremely creepy Facebook update as he was leaving the bar with Vandagriff: "Teach you tricks that will blow your mind".

Even creepier, a day after her body was found, there was activity on her Twitter account. A Tweet posted to her account read: "Never knew I could feel like this".

In the days leading up to her murder, Vandagriff also tweeted "I was probably going to back out anyways, but I'm pretty sure I just dodged a catfish" and "I'm glad I decided to get off tinder and waked to a bar." So far, investigators have not released any information on the significance behind these tweets in relation to Vandagriff's murder, but CBS News reports, "Grapevine police said they are aware of the tweet and are investigating."

Milo Ventimiglia Spills New Details About Jess's Involvement in the 'Gilmore Girls' Revival

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There is nothing getting us through the next two months more than knowing that in a very short time Gilmore Girls will be back in our lives officially. 

With the whole Stars Hollow community coming back to our screens (and hearts), there are so many possibilities with how the show could truly end! But tbh, the only thing we really care about is what is going to happen between Rory, Jess, Dean and Logan. Luckily, thanks to Collider, Milo Ventimiglia, the man who plays Jess, gave us some inside scoop about where his character is at eight years later. 

“It was all very much on the page,” he said. “I didn’t have to dream too far about who he was. I definitely went back and looked at the last three episodes that Jess was in, just to see where his head was at when he last left and to understand the dynamic between Rory and Luke and just his own journey in life.”

As if that weren’t enough, he continued, “I’d never really dreamed about where he would go or what he’d be up to or the shenanigans he’d be imposing on anyone else, but I was happy with where they placed him, in relation to everyone else. Jess’ purpose to being in these new four episodes, I was really happy about it.”

Okay, so now we really can’t wait until Gilmore Girls returns to Netflix on November 25th. #TeamJess forever

How to Make Your Room Look Like it Came Out of Anthropologie (Without Breaking the Bank)

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We all know the feeling of walking into a store like Anthropologie, with its perfect displays showing off modern design that meets an all-grown-up take on boho style. What we love even more than the clothing is the home section of the store. Unfortunately, few of our favorite Anthro picks are college budget-friendly. Luckily, we’ve put together the ultimate guide to getting Anthropologie style on a budget, starting from the ground up.

1. Invest in a new rug to cozy up your space

If you’re in a dorm, chances are your floor is some kind of linoleum or concrete material which isn’t exactly welcoming after a tiring day of classes. Even if you’re in an apartment (look at you, adulting!) a rug is handy to cover up those mysterious carpet stains that your landlord swore would be steam-cleaned before you moved in. IKEA has some of the most affordable options that also happen to look like they’re right out of an Anthropologie catalogue (like this one).

2. Check out your local flea market scene

So much of Anthropologie’s design scheme uses pieces that are artfully distressed or a little unfinished, which makes flea markets your best source for finding bedroom accessories that have the same look. You can find anything from a desk chair to a nightstand, and even smaller items like antique lamps and wrought-iron candlestick holders.

3. Don’t be afraid to look outside of ‘bed-in-a-bag’ selections

While convenient, these packages don’t always look the best. More importantly, they’re not typically made of high-quality materials that will last you more than a year or two. Instead, look at quilt or duvet sets that match the design aesthetic you’re after, like this floral set from Target.

4. Mix and match when you have the chance

Also remember that mixing and matching is the name of the game for Anthropologie, so don’t be afraid to do it yourself, too. That artfully mixed-and-matched look is based on choosing pieces that contrast enough to pop, but also go together, so the key here is not to get too carried away (or else your room will feel chaotic instead of put together).

Choose whether you’re going to create that contrast with the colors of your bedding or the textures. For example, if you choose a colorful, patterned bedspread, compliment it by including pieces with texture (such as a cozy crocheted blanket) in a neutral color. Conversely, if you choose to decorate based on solid-color pieces in your favorite color (say, purple), include pieces like patterned throw pillows that incorporate both purple and its contrasting color, yellow. Lastly, remember that when mixing and matching with patterns, like often goes with like. Mix and match busy patterns or textures together (like florals and tassels) and linear patterns (like stripes and ruching) for that perfect look.

5. Frame your own artwork or photography and display it gallery-style

Maybe you’ve been painting for years, or maybe you took a photography elective last semester and ended up with a few prints you really love. Why not show them off? Create a gallery wall by framing your favorite artwork and arranging it over your desk for an inspiring workspace, or on a bare wall that needs a little love. Bonus: Command’s Picture Hanging Kitwill make sure you get your dorm or apartment security deposit back come move-out time.

Related: 9 DIY Dorm Decorations Even Lazy Girls Can Make

6. Don’t go crazy with the pop-culture posters

Pawing through poster sidewalk sales for a Marilyn Monroe or Audrey Hepburn poster is so freshman year. Instead, let native wall treatments in your room, like exposed brick walls or wood paneling show through. This gives your space character, which is a big ‘do’ in the Anthropologie design scheme. If your space is lacking in character, you can also experiment with temporary wallpapers. This pick from Betsey Johnson comes in cute prints and is specially made to come up mess-free at the end of the year.

7. Remember to shop small (businesses, that is)

One of the reasons why we love Anthropologie’s signature style so much is because many of their pieces look like they’re truly one of a kind. This is because the store contracts with smaller businesses to supply the little knick-knacks that make us drool over their style spreads. If you don’t feel like browsing pages and pages of products, head to the suppliers directly! Make sure to check out Rifle Paper Co. for the cutest stationary and odds and ends for your desk. Or, if your bath supplies need a little touch of luxe, head on over to Mullein & Sparrow for naturally-derived body oils, bar soaps and skin care that all come in flat lay-worthy packaging.

8. Don’t be afraid to buy a few things from Anthropologie!

While Anthro’s big-ticket items, like furniture and bedding sets, might be a little over your budget, the store has a great selection of decorative accessories that will dress up your space without destroying your wallet. Look for candles, stationary, even new dresser hardwareto add those little touches to finish off your new space. And don’t forget to stay up to date on when the store is running sales—you can end up walking out the door with significantly discounted pieces that you also happen to love.

Curating your room to have that perfect bohemian flair takes a little bit of time and effort, but it’s possible to do without breaking the bank! Remember that it’s less about an expensive brand image and more about picking pieces that compliment a design aesthetic that you truly love. 

15 Things Only Hardcore Shippers Understand

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There is no stronger bond than the one between a girl and her fictional couple obsession. A hardcore shipper is not only credible when relaying information regarding the couple, but she lives and breathes for the success of the relationship, sometimes even confusing it with her own (or lack thereof). Here are 15 things all hardcore shippers know to be true.

1. We've all been called hopeless romantics on multiple occasions

2. We are far too familiar with unrealistic relationship expectations

3. We would be honored to be their third wheel

4. We are rooting for that couple at all times

5. We talk about the couple as if we know them personally

6. We hold an extreme amount of envy for fictional characters

7. Our significant others hate them

8. We live vicariously through their relationship

9. The couple's drama is your drama

10. When the couple fights, it's impossible to choose a side

11. We hate anyone that tries to get in between the couple

12. We befriend people who have the same obsession

13. We always refer to them by their couple name

#Zanessa

14. We're in a constant state of denial that the couple isn't together in real life

15. We can't imagine a world where they aren't together

15 Things Only Girls Who Are Experts at Canceling Plans Understand

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We’ve all been there: You’re running into Starbucks between classes, and you see someone you haven’t talked to in a while. “I’m late for class,” you say, “but we’ll definitely have to grab lunch soon!” If you’re an expert at canceling plans, of course, you have no intention of following up on your promise. Chances are, you can relate to the rest of this list as well. Shout out to all of the notoriously flaky girls—this one is for you.

1. Once you put on your comfy clothes, there’s no going back.

2. Sleep > socializing.

3. There is no better feeling than clearing your calendar of all social commitments.

4. You’re often referred to as the “flaky” one in your friend group…

5. But you prefer the term “spontaneous.”

6. The “Sorry, I just saw this!” text is your best friend.

7. You know you can always blame your absence on PMS.

8. And that sometimes the best way to cancel is to just not respond.

9. People tend to get irritated when you cancel at the last minute…

10. But that doesn’t stop you from telling it like it is.

11. Your idea of a perfect Friday night involves Netflix, takeout, and being by yourself.

12. You’re definitely not anti-social—you just don’t like to commit.

13. You cherish the rare occasions when the other person cancels on you.

14. When you actually follow through on plans, your friends are genuinely surprised.

15. Even though you can be unreliable, you’re always there when a friend really needs you.

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