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Send Help–Someone Destroyed Over $1,000 of Sephora Makeup & the Pictures Are Devastating

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Yes, you read it right, and yes we’re crying too. However this destruction of makeup wasn’t for entertainment, malice, or to help bring out the brightest pigments of color––it was just a kid enjoying their playtime in a Sephora store. After all, how could you resist smearing your hands in these bright shades? 

Makeup artist Brittney Nelson brought attention to the incident via a Facebook post. After stating that $1,300 worth of Make Up Forever eye shadow was destroyed, she continued by telling mothers everywhere to refrain from shopping with their young ones. 

This launched an argument from moms across social media. Many felt attacked by Nelson and that they were being “mom-shamed.” Others commented saying the display was too high for a child to reach and that it could easily be a publicity stunt. Some took Nelson’s side, saying the parent should be responsible for whatever “vandalism” the child commits.Whether the parent should or should not be responsible is up to their own personal values, however there is a thin line between “mom-advice” and “mom-shaming.” One thing we should always keep in mind is that many parents face different life circumstances. Not every parent can afford to keep a babysitter to watch over their child while they are shopping, or maybe the only time a parent can shop is after picking up their child from school. Or maybe parents just want to spend extra time with their children! Hey, we live in a unique, diverse world everybody!

Either way, we will pay our respects to the makeup lost. It’s a tragedy to lose such beautiful eyeshadows––but it’s even more of a tragedy to judge others who we don’t know. That is all. 



7 Things NOT to Consider When Deciding Where to Apply to College

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Choosing a college can be stressful, but what's even more stressful? Deciding where to actually apply! While the internet is overflowing with factors you should consider when you're applying to college, talking about the things you shouldn't consider seems to be taboo. The application process can be overwhelming (especially when you have your dad helping you with your personal essays ––yikes!). But, it can help to have all the information in order to make the best decision. Read below for seven things not to consider when deciding where to apply to college:

1. Where everyone else wants (or doesn’t want) you to go

If you’re choosing a college 3,000 miles away from your hometown just because your mom doesn’t want you to, think again. You are going to have to live with this decision for the next four years. Don’t choose where to apply based on others’ opinions. 

You have to live with ––or more accurately, at–– this decision for the next four years, don't let anyone besides yourself decide what is best for you.

2. The hookup culture

Don’t focus on College Confidential’s ranking of schools with the hottest boys or girls when you’re filling out the Common App. The next four years are about you ––not the “you” as defined by the hotness of the people you hook up with. Choose a place that will be the best for you, regardless of the kiss-ability of the student body.

3. Where your high school friends are applying

As important as lifelong friends are, the amazing thing about college is the ability to have a fresh start. Choosing a college just to be roomies with your high school BFF could be a major disaster. People change in college. It may be the case that the best way to remain close with your friends is to pursue your own paths in college.

College is an opportunity to create a new identity or to let your current self blossom in a new environment. If you choose to follow your best friend to college you may feel pressured to room with them, to do everything that they do, be friends with their new friends, or it may force you two apart. Going to college with your best friend may be exactly what is right for you and your friend, but if the commitment seems forced, it's probably because it is. 

4. Challenging courses and programs

Just because a school requires summer reading each year is not a reason not to apply there. College is supposed to challenge you!

While you're sitting at your computer studying for your AP Lit exam, you may not want to think about the laborious term papers a certain college requires or the frustrating group projects that one school boasted about, but challenging courses are what college is all about. When the time comes, you may find those group projects or taxing papers to be a valuable experience - and experience that college is supposed to provide you with. 

Related: "Here's the Number of Colleges You Should Actually Be Applying To"

5. Where your significant other is going

No one knows what the future will bring. If you truly are the high school sweethearts that will be together forever, going to different colleges shouldn’t change that. But, don’t let yourself be tied down by high school commitments. College is a bigger pond, with more fish in the sea.

If it is meant to be, your relationship will survive the distance. Oftentimes, couples feel that forging their own path in college makes their relationship stronger! 

6. The food

While the dining hall options may seem like all that matters as you’re touring colleges, it is really only relevant freshman year. In most schools, upperclassmen dorms or apartments have a kitchen, alleviating you of the need to stomach the cafeteria’s questionable grilled chicken.

The dining hall should not be your top priority. While food is important, there are other places to eat. Keep in mind that you can take advantage of upperclassmen housing with kitchens, Chinese takeout or cereal in your room. Search the web for restaurants within walking distance of your dorm.

7. Freshman dorms

First-year dorms are seldom impressive, regardless of their Princeton Review ranking. At almost all colleges you are going to have to share a Harry Potter-under-the-stairs-size-room with at least another person, if not more. You may also have to share a bathroom with a floor of girls. It’s an experience, but not one that should define where you apply to college. Housing will improve with age!

 

The college application process may feel like the most stressful time of your life right now, but just wait until grad school! Or your wedding! Not helping? Choosing where to apply to college and then where to go to college are some of the biggest decisions you will make in your life, so make sure you consider all of your options. Don't let these thoughts cloud your judgment and keep you from the school of your dreams! 

How to Transition Your Sunglasses to Fall & Winter

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Fall is here, winter is just around the corner, and if you haven't already transitioned your wardrobe over to cozy sweaters and lots of camel shades then you need to rethink your life. One lesser know fall fashion transition has to do with sunglasses. You need your sunnies all year, but certain pairs work way better than others for fall and winter months. Check out our top picks for chic fall shades, and don't forget to grab a Starbucks holiday drink to match.

1. Cat Eye Sunglasses (NAKD, $24)

Turtle provides a subtle contrast against dark or solid, bold colors. Go get yourself some!

2. Ray Ban Oval Sunglasses (Revolve, $153)

Grab a puffer coat to match, and you're all set. 

3. Betty Sunglasses (Roberi & Fraud, $175)

Channel the perfect retro Parisian look by adding a beret to your ensemble. 

4. Miu Miu Sunglasses (Sunglass Hut, $199)

The most universal pair of oversized sunglasses you'll ever see. They practically scream don't talk to me.

5. Quay x Kylie Sunglasses (Bloomingdales, $75)

Perfect for a cold, sunny day on campus. 

6. Vintage Metal Oval Sunglasses (UO, $22)

Because colored lenses scream bold AF. 

7. Roberi & Fraud Doris Sunglasses (Barney's, $250)

If Bella Hadid's wearing it, so are we––isn't that like a rule by now?

8. Ray Ban Hexagonal Sunglasses (SSENSE, $150)

Are you as obsessed with these gold frames as we are? 

5 Unintimidating Places to Shop When You're New to Buying Lingerie

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Even though bras and panties are hidden under all the stylish outfits we wear, there's no reason not to have something a little sexy and fun going on down there. When you want to feel put together, confident, and ready to take on the world, a nice pair of lingerie really does the trick. If you're new to lingerie shopping, it can feel a little daunting. Here are our recommendations for five shops where you can score cute and affordable underwear that's great for lingerie newbies.

Urban Outfitters

Urban Outfitters is known for its exceptional style and fit, and their lingerie is no exception. While some pieces from UO are on the more expensive side, their frequent sales make high-quality pieces more accessible to a college budget. Grab a lace bralette for days when you're feelin' yourself or have some special plans with your SO for that night. 

Adore Me

Adore Me has received a lot of buzz for its insanely cute lingerie at insanely affordable prices. Adore Me works almost like your own lingerie stylist, asking you questions about your tastes so that they can curate pieces that you will most likely love. Basically, there's no way for it to go wrong when you're a first-time shopper. 

Forever 21

Forever 21 has made its own efforts to have all-inclusive sizes, lingerie included. While the Forever 21 small sizes definitely run small, their inclusion of plus sizes provides more options for all body types. Plus, since this chain is nearly everywhere, this is a great destination when you're looking to buy lingerie and don't know where to start. 

Hips and Curves

A site that specializes in lingerie for plus-size women? Yes, please! Hips and Curves makes both adorable and elegant lingerie that are available in a wide array of sizes, most notably larger sizes that hug the curves well instead of digging into them. Definitely, check them out if you want lingerie made for your body but feel intimidated by stores that aren't typically as ~form friendly~.

Target

Target has never failed us in the affordability department, including lingerie. Not only does Target provide budget-friendly options, but their pieces are so chic, it's impossible not feel uber sexy in them. 

Beautiful lingerie is much more accessible nowadays, and there are so many places to start when you're new to buying ~sensual~ underwear.  Have fun finding the perfect set that unleashes your inner goddess!

Stranger Things' New Villain Is the Literal Worst—Don't Even Try to Defend Him

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Warning: The below contains spoilers from Season 2 of Stranger Things. If you haven't finished binging, turn back now!

If you're all caught up on Season 2 of Stranger Things, then you probably have some thoughts about class(less) act Billy. I’m hoping your thoughts are more along the lines of ew and less along the lines of this headline because let’s be real—it’s pretty possible not to love him.

I won’t call his place in the second season useless—after all, he brought us who I should not, but ultimately will, call Daddy Steve—and he’s definitely not an unsympathetic character. But boy, oh boy could I have done without the majority of his bullshit. From the moment he disgraced my screen, I was immediately turned off by his character (which is a shame, given the internet’s recent revelation that he looks like the love child of Zac Efron and any number of other hot men). Attitude is key, though.  

The first revelation came when his scraggly mullet and baby ‘stache were revealed.

Um, no thanks.

Then, as if that beauty faux pas wasn’t enough, it was quickly revealed that he’s a grade A piece of shit. Not only did he put his hands on his sister and try to control everything she did (telling her if she wasn't out at an exact time she could skate home), but he also refused to let her hang out with Lucas (is he just further trying to control her life, forbidding her from having friends, or is he a blatant racist?), he picked on Steve not only in front of the rest of the gym class but also alone in the shower (WTF?), and he was this close to running over the party with his stupid car, with Max in the passenger seat freaking out. Is he really willing to commit vehicular homicide to teach his sister a lesson that she doesn't need to learn?

To top it all off, when he went off in search of Max in the last episode, he hardcore creeped on Nancy’s mother. To be fair, the fact that she fell for it may say more about Mrs. Wheeler than Billy.

Sympathy for him rolled in for a brief moment when it was revealed how much of an asshole Billy’s father is, forcing responsibilities on him that, in all fairness, he shouldn’t have to deal with—like knowing where his sister is 24/7—but turning around and treating Max as he did is not the answer. I feel for him and what he goes through, but it’s no excuse for emotionally—at the very least—abusing his sister and her friends. Sorry, brah, you’re still a POS.

Especially since his next step after being threatened by his father was to go threaten Steve, Max and the rest of the squad. When they heard his car roll up outside of their hideout, Max panicked, sure he was going to kill them. Daddy Steve™ stepped up to protect his children, and subsequently had the shit beaten out of him, but Max saved the day when she stabbed Billy with a sedative and stole his keys, getting them all TF out of that situation.

We didn't really see what became of Billy after that, so I’m sure Season 3 will show some unfortunate consequences for Max and the gang. What a world it would be if he could just stay unconscious, huh? Here’s to another round of young women saving the day and the Billy Hargroves of the world getting knocked on their asses. If only they'd stay there. 

Gigi Hadid & Katy Perry Will Not Be Allowed at the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show–Here's What You Need to Know

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The most highly anticipated fashion show of this year is due to air on November 28 from Shanghai, China and as of today it looks like quite a few of our favorite models and stars won't be attending. 

 

See you in Shanghai @VictoriasSecret

A post shared by Karlie Kloss (@karliekloss) on he VSFS lineup is always a little unpredictable

 

5 Major Takeaways From the Kevin-Centric 'This Is Us' Episode

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I’m not shy about the fact that Kevin’s storylines on This Is Us usually leave me feeling meh. Give me Randall being a dorky dad or Kate snarking about people in her weight support group any day. I was a little skeptical about the trilogy of Big Three-centric episodes kicking off with the spotlight on Kevin, but like with all of Season 2 so far, “Number One” turned out to be a helpful insight into piecing together how all of the Pearsons, not just Kevin, ended up where they are today.

It’s clear that we need to keep our eyes peeled for little details in the show's next few weeks, so here are the top things I took from "Number One" and its exploration of Kevin. 

1. The marketing of these special Big Three episodes was no joke

If you noticed, the episode title “Number One” was included in the show’s regular opening title card, sending a clear message that NBC wasn’t kidding about these three episodes being particularly focused on the Pearson siblings. The episodes are also airing in the triplets’ birth order, perhaps to emphasize or play around with the stereotypes that come with where you place in your family. Kevin strives to be perfect, as firstborns often do, but for most of his life, it came naturally, whereas Randall, the “youngest” child, has always struggled with internal pressure to succeed and prove his worth. Kate is in the middle, obviously with a special loyalty to Kevin, but equally caring with both brothers in a way neither Kevin nor Randall are with their siblings. Now aware of how this scheduling was planned, I’m looking forward to Kate and Randall's episodes even more.

2. Teen Kevin has Justin Hartley’s mannerisms down

Kevin in all time eras wasn’t much to me until the “Deja Vu” episode. As a group, all of the actors playing the young versions of the Big Three are incredible, but like with adult Kevin, teen Kevin wasn’t given much to work with before this week. Now, I happily stand corrected! Logan Shroyer has taken on Justin Hartley’s mannerisms perfectly, particularly in the way he interacts with Kate and shows frustration. Apparently, the younger Big Three actors didn’t interact much with their older counterparts while filming the first season, but it’s clear that Shroyer has spent some time studying Hartley’s methods since then. He was particularly heartbreaking while watching Jack kneel down and recite the Serenity Prayer (which AA uses as a mantra for members), delivering a face that was both reminiscent of Hartley and my own feelings when seeing a parent in a vulnerable position.

3. Among the kids, Kevin clearly had the worst relationship with his parents when Jack died

I had my suspicions about this before, but this episode basically confirmed that Kevin had the worst relationship with his parents at the time of Jack’s death. While Kate and Jack had a special bond and Rebecca and Randall always looked after each other, Kevin needed the least from his family as a teenager. He was a popular athlete who had been given the world because of his charm, which served him through adulthood. It was only when Jack joined AA and the Pearson family life was less than perfect that Kevin seemed to realize that he took his parents’ stability for granted. In addition to that, Kevin was also ashamed of Jack allowing his behavior toward Rebecca to spiral out of control, telling Jack, “I know the feeling well,” when his father said how embarrassing it was to watch Kevin meet with a college football coach. Growing up and recognizing that our beloved parents are flawed, complex humans is tough, and some experience that moment more harshly than others.

4. Kevin may have never felt that he was enough for Jack

We saw hints of this even when Kevin was a child, complaining that his parents only cared about Randall. Drunkenly wandering on his high school football field, present-day Kevin relived his life-changing injury, imagining his father watching him win the Super Bowl “with tears down his face.” Just as Kevin thought he didn’t need Jack, Jack and Rebecca likely figured that Kevin didn’t need them as a teenager. There was a distance between them, and that space definitely created some gaps that are still challenging to close. At this particular moment, with both siblings in happy, domestic bubbles, Kevin may be recognizing the repercussions of his teenage behavior damaging his ability to maintain family life. 

5. This Is Us won’t cross over into the “disturbingly too real” territory

Was anyone else afraid that Kevin was going to do some inappropriate things with that teenager? Perhaps it’s the influence of Hollywood’s current climate, but I was expecting the worst when the peppy high school student approached him on the football field in a fairly flirty manner. Seeing as the show made an effort to edit out a comment about Kevin Spacey a few weeks ago, I don't think they would have Kevin fool around with a minor, even in his current state. Still, given how the story panned out, that moment just sticks out as awkward and a little unnecessary. Why wasn’t more clarification given on why that encounter drove Kevin to find Charlotte again? If anything, the girl’s similarity to Sophie may have been a sign that Kevin desperately wishes for the simplicity of their high school relationship before marriage complicated things.

After going into this episode feeling wary, it turned out to be an excellent opportunity for Milo Ventimiglia to showcase himself even more as the dream family man. Most importantly, Justin Hartley was finally given the chance to show us some real acting chops, making it clear that Kevin has a complicated, intriguing road ahead of him.

10 Things You Can Do Now That Will Make Your Summer Internship Hunt Easier

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Many college women are all too familiar with the stress of internships – we somehow have to squeeze hunting for a summer job and stressfully competing with fellow classmates for seemingly impossible-to-get positions into our busy schedules full of classes, homework, and clubs. It can be frustrating and a little bit heartbreaking to see your hard work go without success after yet another “we appreciate your application, but you have not been selected” email. So how do college students set themselves apart and secure one of those coveted internships? We talked to a few experts and got the inside scoop on the best things one can do to get that summer job.

1. Research

Before starting to submit any applications, make sure you know what your goals are and where your interests lie. The assistant director for the Wasserman Center for Career Development at NYU, Diana Mendez, advises researching into the industries, fields, and positions you are considering to narrow down your options and concentrate your efforts on areas that you can truly see yourself in.

2. Start early

Beginning your internship search early is essential to jumping ahead of competition, maximizing available options, and alleviating stress. Many positions fill up quickly, so it can never hurt to get a head start on personally reaching out to recruiters, attending employer panels, and knocking out applications as soon as internship opportunities open up. Don’t wait until a month before final exams to start thinking about your summer job!

3. Connections, connections, connections

Darlene Johnson, director of external relations at the career center at Hofstra University, says, “The best thing that any student can do to make their internship search easier is to make connections as soon as possible.” Networking is essential when hunting for an internship, and so Johnson recommends attending any and all career fairs or panels your college is hosting. You can leave resumes, get contact information, practice face-to-face professional interactions, and put a face to your name.

4. Reach out to family and friends

Also along the lines of the importance of networking is utilizing your family and friends. The more people who are aware that you’re searching for a job, the higher chance you have of someone being able to help connect you to a company or contact. Johnson says spreading the word can be incredibly helpful since “you never know who will know someone who is working in a company related to your desired industry.”

5. Make use of LinkedIn

LinkedIn is a great resource that combines social media and professional opportunities. Having an up-to-date and extensive LinkedIn profile can facilitate faster and easier communication between you and employers, help you maintain past connections and assist you in searching for current job openings. Madeleine, a third year student at the University of Virginia, says, “My LinkedIn account has helped me follow up with companies I’ve networked with and showcase my skills and resume to potential employers.” Plus, you can have a fun photo shoot for your headshot!

6. Visit your school’s career center

Almost every college has a department or center dedicated to helping students with career counseling. If a career fair is being hosted, Mendez also recommends investing in nice professional clothing; quality business outfits can convey your seriousness about the position during an interview or conversation, and you’ll likely wear them down the road in a full-time job!

7. Practice

Conversations with recruiters and interviews can be intimidating and a common place for mistakes, so conducting mock interviews with friends or brushing up on your personal pitch (talking to yourself in the bathroom mirror works too!) are great ways to prepare for your internship hunt and help you succeed in leaving a positive impression upon employers.

8. Polish up that resume

Tailoring your resume towards specific jobs or companies is another must-do. Mendez suggests incorporating relevant information and showcasing related experiences into a resume, as well as personalizing your cover letter for each application, in order to gear it towards whichever position and industry it will be submitted to. This will show employers that you have a personal interest and can set you apart from less-qualified candidates.

9. Improve your tech savviness.

In today’s world, almost everything is becoming digitized. With this growing electronic dependence, companies need those who are proficient in such tech skills. Barbara Bellesi-Zto from the University Career Services at Rutgers University points out that “your future employer is expecting you to be well versed in technology” and taking steps to improve your current knowledge can be as simple as watching tutorials about Microsoft Office or virtual presentations on YouTube. Tacking this on to your skillset will undoubtedly be an added bonus to your resume.

10. Keep calm and carry on

Don’t let a rejection email (or ten) discourage you; no one can go through life without getting turned down from a job or botching an interview from nerves. It happens, it’s a part of the process, and it can provide an opportunity for you to learn from any mistakes made and improve for the next time. The founder of Starbucks had his business pitch for a loan turned down by banks over 200 times, and look where our favorite coffee chain is now! Rejection can hurt, but it just means something different and better is waiting out there for you.

These tips and suggestions show that just little things can greatly distinguish you as an applicant and help secure you that internship you’ve been fantasizing about. Even setting aside just fifteen minutes or so a day to tweak your cover letter or send an email to a head of a company could be what pushes you to the top of the list of candidates. So what are you waiting for? Put on a cute outfit and a pretty smile for your LinkedIn profile picture and get working.


Network Like a Boss with This Giveaway from the Forté Foundation

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Any girl boss can tell you that on top of earning your college degree and holding a few internships, landing a job after college has a lot to do with who you know in the industry. Never underestimate the power a little networking can have on your career!

Because we’re all about mixing business with social fun, we’ve partnered with the Forté Foundation to provide one winner with ways to help jumpstart your career. Here’s all the amazing prizes you can use as networking opportunities:

  • Starbucks $100 gift card - Take an industry professional to coffee and request an informational interview about their company.
  • Michael Kors bag - Use this chic bag as a conversation starter by asking your friend what they like to carry on their work commute.
  • $400 gift card to Bliss Spa - Invite your boss squad to a spa day for some serious bonding. Not a Bliss Spa near you? We’ll allocate the funds towards a gift card to a spa in your area.
  • Amazon Echo Show provided by Cognizant - A new way to be together. Use the Echo Show to make hands-free video calls to friends and family­­––perfect for the modern multitasker. Thank you, Cognizant!  
  • Pimco swag bag - Complete with an umbrella, foldup-reusable shopping bag, tumbler, stainless steel coffee mug, beach towel and a $20 Starbucks gift. This has ~everything~ you need to be productive on the go.
  • Waterproof speaker provided by Goldman Sachs - get pumped up for your big days (and every day!) with tunes from this awesome waterproof speaker.
  • An expense paid trip to one Forte College Leadership Conference of the winner'schoice - Forté hosts around six conferences a year for college students hosted by industry leaders.
  • GMAT Voucher ($250) – Is grad school in your future? Women who take the GMAT in college often score higher than any other time in their lives. Start a study group!

Enter here for your chance to win, and happy networking!

#NetworkLikeABoss Giveaway

A special thank you to Forté corporate partners for their support!

About Forté Foundation

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Maybe you dream of founding a company. Maybe you want to champion social change, or serve as the CEO of a Fortune 500. At the Forté Foundation, we help you get there! Our network of 95,000 members and 130 top schools and employers works to launch women into fulfilling and significant business careers. Jumpstart your future by signing up for a membership, attending one of our events, and checking out our many resources. We’re here with inspiration and advice, and we can’t wait to help you make your mark on the world.

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Women with MBAs are opening doors, building amazing things and shattering glass ceilings.

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  • Women who take the GMAT in college score higher than any other time in their lives.
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Taking the test while you are in college gives you more control over your schedule and more time to study.

Join the Forté Foundation here, and start owning your career in college!

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Some Navy Pilots Drew A Giant Penis In The Sky Because Middle School Never Ends

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Some pilots have been admonished by the Navy for throwing it back to middle school and drawing a massive penis in the sky over Okanogan County, Washington on Wednesday, as K5, a local NBC affiliate reported. 

The phallic artwork quickly caught the attention of all those within eyeshot and it spread far and wide across social media in no time, like so many giggle-worthy doodles passed back and forth on the sly between seventh graders. Some, like the Navy, didn't see the humor, but most people found it hilarious because none of us have truly left middle school humor behind, if we're being honest.

 

 

Once the skywriting gained some social media notoriety, the Navy caught wind of it and issued a statement, condemning the drawing.

A Navy spokesperson, speaking with the local news outlet KREM 2, was quick to note the airborne dick pic was not part of any of their formal practice routines and therefore not sanctioned by the US Navy. "The Navy holds its aircrew to the highest standards and we find this absolutely unacceptable, of zero training value and we are holding the crew accountable,"the statement said.

However, it turns out that the Navy can’t do much more than condemn the existence of potentially inappropriate skywriting. Responding to requests for comment, the Federal Aviation Administration (FAA) also noted that suggestive skywriting, penis-shaped or otherwise, can’t be policed unless there is some kind of safety threat.

With that in mind, who knows? This may be the first of many dick doodles across the sky.

(H/T Thrillist Entertainment)

Massachusetts' Senate Is All-In To Protect Birth Control & It Should Be Your 2018 Inspiration

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The Massachusetts Senate unanimously approved a bill on Tuesday that will ensure future access to free birth control, regardless of any changing federal laws, in the state, reportsthe Boston Globe.

The bill passed in the House with flying colors last week. Now, after a 27-0 vote in the Senate, it moves on to Governor Charlie Baker’s desk, where he is expected to sign it in the near future.

If and when the bill is passed, coverage for prescription birth control will continue in the face of whatever legislation may come up against it. It will also continue without any kind of co-payments. Federal policy may change, and the Affordable Care Act may be repealed by the Trump administration, but this legislation is here to stay. The legislation also expands coverage to the purchasing of over-the-counter emergency contraceptives without a doctor’s prescription.

The legislation stands in direct contrast to the executive order President Trump signed last month that would let employers opt out of providing birth control coverage due to religious or moral objections.

Previously, a Baker spokesperson said the governor’s administration “fully supports access to women’s health and family planning services, is prepared to protect access to those services, and will carefully review any final legislation that reaches the governor’s desk.”

Planned Parenthood has applauded the bill’s passage in the Senate and is hopeful for what it will bring to the state of Massachusetts. Jennifer Childs-Roshak, president of the Planned Parenthood Advocacy Fund of Massachusetts, wrote in a statement that “Birth control is basic preventive health care that helps women stay healthy and improves the wellbeing of children and families.”

Senate Majority Leader Harriette Chandler approved of the bill in a press release issued on Tuesday, saying she hopes “this can serve as a model to the country...After all, 50 percent of this nation is female. We can’t just go ignoring their needs.”

It’s safe to say Chandler’s words echo the thoughts of many around the country.

An Ongoing List Of Powerful, Famous Men Who Have Been Accused Of Sexual Harassment Or Assault

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It was only last month when the The New York Times broke the story of (in)famous Hollywood producer and media mogul Harvey Weinstein, and detailed nearly three decades of sexual assault and harassment accusations against Weinstein by several women. In addition, the article included multiple accounts of settlements between Weinstein and accusers throughout those three decades.

Since women began to come forward with their accusations against Weinstein, other victims — both men and women from from Hollywood and other industries — have come forward with their accusations about other sexual predators, including actor Kevin Spacey and politician and U.S. Senate candidate Roy Moore.

But with all of these victims now coming forward with their heartbreaking stories, it has led to us questioning the culture around sexual assault. Even more, though, since the sexual predators that have been accused appear to be individuals of privileged and powerful positions, is there a link between power and sexual assault and harassment?

According to a recently released study, titled “Sexual Aggression When Power is New: Effects of Acute Power on Chronically Low-Power Individuals,” which Psychology Today reports was inspired by previous research on the topic of power and sexual assault, explains that when individuals are interested in sex, specifically casual sex, and they are given more power, their belief that those inferior to them are sexually interested in them actually increases.

This new study illustrates that newly felt authority increases harassment tendies. Melissa Williams, Deborah Gruenfeld and Lucia Guillory, the authors of the study, say that for those individuals in which “power is compensating for some inadequacy,” they are more likely to abuse their power for sexual advantage. Lauren O’Connor, in a memo addressing sexual misconduct by Weinstein, wrote to executives at the Weinstein Company, “There is a toxic environment for women at this company.” “I am a 28 year old woman trying to make a living and a career. Harvey Weinstein is a 64 year old, world famous man and this is his company. The balance of power is me: 0, Harvey Weinstein: 10,” O’Connor added. Furthermore, when the researchers studied men who were given more power, they tended to “respond with increased hostile sexism” to a woman who rejected their advances. This research only furthers the idea that those in positions of power are more likely to view subordinates as objects, rather than human beings.

But despite all of this, it hasn’t stopped recently accused predators from questioning and damaging the credibility of their accusers. For example, Moore recently took to Twitter to defend himself against the accusations of sexual misconduct, according to The Huffington Post, and ended up attacking the credibility of his accuser. “To think that grown women would wait 40 years... to bring charges is absolutely unbelievable,” Moore said.

It, however, is actually not that “unbelievable” to see victims wait months, years or even decades to be able to come forward with their story and name their abuser. But why? It’s because of the culture surrounding sexual assault and how our society has a tendency to cast the shame and guilt on the victim. As the author of theHuffPost article points out, abusers often attack the victim’s credibility, just like Moore did, and, victims sadly have to see how victims are often portrayed in the media after they share their story.

Furthermore, as the author points out, victims are often inundated with questions rather than support when they do come forward, such as Moore’s “Why did it take so long to speak out?” question, and these questions can be very difficult for the victim and end up hurting them even more. But even more so, as we have seen with perpetrators such as Weinstein, a lot of victims are still in contact with their abusers in some way, such as still having to work together, and this itself can make victims feel trapped, and thus they don’t feel as capable of speaking out.

However, when victims find out that the perpetrator has has other victims and those victims start to speak out (though this is not the only reason for victims wanting to speak out), knowing that they are not alone in this emotionally distressing experience, they are more comfortable in coming forward with their story since they are more likely to be heard and believed. And this is exactly what we have been seeing, especially in all of the #MeToo stories that have been shared on social media; victims have been able to so bravely come forward, and more importantly, it has lead to a paradigm shift: ensuring that perpetrators are held accountable for their actions.

As long as we, as a society, keep supporting victims through movements such as #MeToo, it will change the sexual assault and harassment culture. And to do that, we must also keep calling out the perpetrators. And with that, here is an ongoing list of some of the powerful, famous men who have been accused of sexual harassment and/or assault.

Harvey Weinstein

In early October, The New York Times broke a story detailing Weinstein’s alleged sexual harassment against numerous women, including actresses Ashley Judd, Gwyneth Paltrow, Rose McGowan and Angelina Jolie. According to USA Today, the accusations range from requests for or offerings of massages to rape. Weinstein has denied all of the allegations, but 80 women have now accused Weinstein of inappropriate or criminal behavior. Weinstein was ultimately fired from the Weinstein Company, and his wife, Georgina Chapman, filed for a divorce, CNN reports.

Kevin Spacey

Actor Anthony Rapp revealed that Spacey allegedly made sexual advances at a party in 1986; Rapp was 14 at the time, and Spacey was 26. According to People Magazine, Rapp told People, “I came forward with my story, standing on the shoulders of the many courageous women and men who have been speaking out, to shine a light and hopefully make a difference, as they have done for me.”

Rapp, according to CNN, said that Spacey picked him up and put him on a bed, and then proceeded to lay down on top of him. According toUSA Today, Spacey has now been accused by 15 individuals for sexual harassment, assault, or attempted rape. Spacey had released a statement apologizing for his actions, although he did not recall the event, and was later criticized for coming out as a gay man in his apology statement. Even though the decision was made prior to the accusations, Netflix announced that season six of House of Cards, which Spacey plays a lead character in, was going to be its final season; however, Netflix ended up releasing a statement that it would be parting ways with Spacey, TV Line reports. “Netflix will not be involved with any further production of House of Cards that includes Kevin Spacey,” a Netflix spokesperson said in a statement.

Louis C.K.

According to a recent New York Times article, five women have accused Louis C.K. of sexual misconduct. Comedians Dana Min Goodman and Julia Wolov spoke out about a night in 2002 when, after a comedy show, Louis C.K. invited them back to him room for a drink to celebrate the show; after arriving at this room, Goodman and Wolov said that he proceeded to remove his clothes and began masturbating in front of them. Other women have since spoken out, saying that the comedian either asked to masturbate in front of them, or actually did.

Since Louis C.K. often joked about masturbation in his shows, the once public jokes have now been exposed as horrifying private acts. The comedian later released a statement, saying that the stories are true, and that he had “wielded his power irresponsibly,” The New York Times reports.  

Roy Moore

The Washington Post released a report which included interviews with several women who all allege that Moore inappropriately engaged with them when they were teens and Moore was in his 30s. According to CNN, one of women said she was only 14 years old when Moore tried to make sexual contact with her. Since the report, more women have come forward with accusations against Moore, including a woman who accused Moore of sexually assaulting her when she was only 16.

Moore, to this day, has continuously denied any misconduct. According to CNN, politicians on Capitol Hill have called on Moore to remove himself from the Senate race. If Moore does not resign from the race and is elected to the Senate, Senators have toyed with the idea of expelling Moore.

Mark Schwahn

In a joint statement, 18 actors and crew members who worked with Schwahn on the television series One Tree Hill came forward with accusations of sexual harassment, CNN reports. In their letter, they wrote that “many of [them] were, to varying degrees, manipulated psychologically and emotionally by Schwahn.”

Alexandra Park, who stars in Schwahn’s recent show The Royals, released a statement on Twitter saying that she had “been exposed to Schwahn’s reprehensible behavior,” CNN reports. Schwahn has now been suspended from The Royals. “E!, Universal Cable Productions and Lionsgate Television take sexual harassment allegations very seriously, investigate them thoroughly and independently, and take appropriate action. Lionsgate has suspended Mark Schwahn from 'The Royals' as we continue our investigation,” the companies said in a joint statement.

Al Franken

Los Angeles radio host Leeann Tweeden recently accused Senator Al Franken of forcibly kissing and groping her during a USO tour in 2006, ABC News reports. Tweeden alleged that Franken kissed her without her consent during the rehearsal of a skit to entertain U.S. troops in Afghanistan, and also posted a photo on Twitter in which it appears that Franken is groping her while she was asleep on a military plane. According to ABC News, it was Representative Jackie Speier’s account of sexual assault when she was a congressional aide that ultimately moved Tweeden to share her story.

Franken has since apologized for his actions, and during an interview on The View, Tweeden shared a letter that Franken sent to her. “It says, ‘Dear Leeann, I want to apologize to you personally. I don't know what was in my head when I took that picture. But that doesn't matter. There's no excuse. I understand why you can feel violated by that photo. I remember that rehearsal differently. But what's important is the impact on you and you felt violated by my actions, and for that I apologize. I have tremendous respect for your work for the USO. And I am ashamed that my actions ruined that experience for you. I am so sorry. Sincerely Al Franken.'” Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell called for an ethics investigation into the accusations against Franken, and Franken said he would cooperate with the investigation, ABC News reports.

George Takei

The Star Trek star was accused by Scott R. Brunton, a former actor and model, of groping him and trying to remove his underwear after passing out while drinking at Takei’s home in Los Angeles 40 years ago, CNN reports. Brunton said he saw Takei again at a booking signing in 1994, where Takei signed a copy of his book for Brunton and gave him home address.

However, Takei has denied the allegations in a series of tweets, saying he was “shocked and bewildered” and that the “events [Brunton] describes back in the 1980s simply did not occur.”

Her Campus will continue to update this story as it develops.

 

15 Signs You're the Social Media Stalker of Your Friend Group

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If your Twitter account is at celeb-level and you know just the right time to post an Insta, you'll understand when we say some people just feel comfortable on the internet. All of us know that a social media expert’s best skill is actually their stalking ability. While most of us may not like to admit we obsess over other people waaaay more than we should, the fact is, we just can’t help it. The first step towards recovery is accepting you have a problem, so to help you with this, we have compiled a list of 15 signs you’re the social media stalker of your squad.

1. You can figure out fun facts about someone almost instantly.

2. You often recognize people from social media alone.

3. Your typing speed is next level.

4. People often liken your stalking abilities to that of a hacker.

5. Your presence is alive and well on almost every platform available.

6. There’s nothing someone’s Facebook likes can’t tell you.

7. When your friend tells you about her new bae, you immediately ask their last name and look them up.

8. You're often “pretty sure” you saw that he was in a relationship with another girl on Facebook.

9. You know exactly what it's like to fall in love with someone you’ve never met.

10. And then spend hours learning everything about them.

11. It takes all of your willpower not to scroll through Facebook during class.

11. And we won’t even mention how many times a day you get sidetracked while trying to get work done.

12. Your career aspirations are equal parts detective and social media coordinator.

13. You're often surprised when you meet people because they aren’t at all what you imagined from their profiles.

14. Because most of us only post what we want people to see on our social media accounts.

15. So it's easy to forget that behind all the ironic geotags and edited photos, they probably spent hours searching for clever Instagram captions just like everyone else.

Gabby Douglas Has Apologized for Her Tweet Shaming Victims of Sexual Assault

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Fans are less than thrilled with Gabby Douglas after the Olympic Gold Medal gymnast posted a tweet that many perceived to be victim-shaming, telling women that it is their, "responsibly to dress modestly and be classy."

According to the Huffington Post, Douglas's tweet was in response to a post made by her 2012 Olympic teammate Aly Raisman, in which she stood up for sexual assault victims that are blamed for what happened to them because of what they were wearing.

"Just to be clear... Just because a woman does a sexy photoshoot or wears a sexy outfit does not give a man the right to shame her or not believe her when she comes forward about sexual abuse," Raisman's post read. "What is wrong with some of you? AND when a woman dresses sexy it does not give a man the right to sexually abuse her EVER."

Amongst an outpouring of support for Raisman, who revealed earlier this month that she was one of the gymnasts sexually assaulted by USA gymnastics doctor Larry Nassar, Douglas's response was not a good look.

"However, it is our responsibly to dress modestly and be classy," Douglass tweeted. "Dressing in a provocative/sexual way entices the wrong crowd."

Douglas has since deleted her controversial tweet after it received plenty of backlash, including from 2016 Olympic medalist Simone Biles, who rushed to defend Raisman, saying she "expected more" from Douglas.

On Friday evening, Douglas took to Twitter to apologize for her earlier comments. "i didn’t correctly word my reply & i am deeply sorry for coming off like i don’t stand alongside my teammates," she clarified. "regardless of what you wear, abuse under any circumstance is never acceptable. i am WITH you. #metoo"

Raisman is one of over 100 female gymnasts, including "Fierce Five" gymnast McKayla Maroney, that have accused Nassar of sexual abuse that likely took place for decades. The controversy between the former Team USA gymnasts also follows weeks of sexual assault and harassment allegations against multiple powerful men including comedian Louis C.K, Senator Al Franken and Alabama Senate candidate Roy Moore.

The 5 Best Ways to Reconnect With Your Ex

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Ladies, it’s time for some real talk. Whether you’ve just gone through a painful AF breakup or your ex hasn’t talked to you since high school, there’s a strong-willed part of you that refuses to let go. You keep up with their life through social media stalking and mutual friends, and frankly, if given the opportunity to be friends with them (or even date them again), you would do it in a heartbeat.

The struggle is that breakups are usually necessary and happen for good reason, but letting go of that person feels like someone close to you has died. Worse? Breakups build up resentment, and it’s likely that this ex you want to reconnect with doesn’t even speak to you anymore. They went from bae to radio silence, and you just can’t deal.

Communication is the best way to rekindle contact with your ex, but it could also totally sabotage you. If your ex wants nothing to do with you, then trying to talk to them again may come off as irritating or even creepy. Our job is to help you start that relationship up again without letting you come off like a crazy person. Here are some totally chill tips for the women who want to reconnect with their ex again.

1. Apologize

It’s never too late to say sorry, and if you totally screwed up your relationship, then your ex will probably feel gratitude and closure hearing a whole-hearted apology. Keep it short, sweet and totally honest.

Olivia Shaw, a senior at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, shares a personal apology story. “One time I wanted to check in on my ex and see if he wanted to get breakfast or catch up, but I knew he’d never agree to that because I’d like traumatized him from being a difficult girlfriend,” she says. “Even though it killed my ego I sent him a long letter apologizing for the way I had been and told him that I wanted to make it up to him by being better a girlfriend. I know he was skeptical at first and didn’t trust me, but apologizing softened the situation.”

Apologizing is a meaningful segue into more conversation. It lets your ex know you’re still emotionally concerned for them and that they can trust you to be better than before.  You want them to know that you’ve evolved to become a better person since your breakup however long ago. Remember to be gentle, but from here you can keep up phone contact or even spend time together in person.

Related:A Letter to the Boy I Tried to Change

2. Send a friendly text

Sending a friendly text is the easiest, most non-threatening way to get your ex talking to you again. Btw, the key word here is “friend.” If you approach the situation as a friends, they’ll let their guard down instead of thinking you’re trying to seduce them back into a relationship—even if dating them is your end goal. All that messy talk about how life was when you dated should stay in the past 100 percent, and starting from scratch as friends is going to make both of you way happier. Make sure to emphasize that you understand why your relationships ended and how you respect the decision to breakup, but that you don’t want to cut off all contact completely because they’re still significant to you.

Try saying something like, “Hey! I ran into our friend the other day and she said you’ve recently accomplished something cool. I’m happy you’re doing well, and maybe we can talk sometime and catch up?”

If your ex doesn’t answer, avoid text spamming them at all costs. Women hold grudges and men are stubborn, so sometimes results take time. Desperation is such a turn-off, and just because your ex isn’t ready to answer right now doesn’t mean you’ll never talk to them. It’s all about mastering the art of chill.

3. Meet for coffee

Once you’ve sent that ~casual~ text and feel okay interacting like functioning humans, then ask your ex for some time in person. Coffee always works! But maintaining a level head during your conversation is extremely important to keep them coming back.

When you hang out with your friends you’re probably not looking at them in tears, desperately trying to convince them how much you love them—you’re talking about what show you’re bingeing on Netflix and freaking out about the cute dog you saw the other day. If you want to reconnect with your ex, then it’s time to cut the drama and not speak to them like you’re in a soap opera.

“Emotional distance is a beautiful thing,” says Taly Newton, a senior at Biola University. “In my experience guys never want you as a friend or girlfriend if you’re hysterical or can’t have a cool conversation without bringing up past mistakes you had or forcing a relationship again, and I’ve made that mistake obviously.”

Moral of the story: If your ex actually agrees to meet you in person, don’t mess it up by going in with an ulterior motive. Treat it like any other coffee or dinner date and they’ll be sure to hang out with you again.

4. Get help from your mutual friends

Depending on how long ago you and your ex dated, the two of you might still be running in the same social circle. Mutual friends are going to be a huge advantage when it comes to repairing friendship or romance, so find time to talk to your bestie about setting up a group hangout and nonchalantly inviting your ex.

Olivia has more successful advice to share about meeting up with exes. “Hanging out with your ex especially if your friends are there creates a non-threatening environment, because then the guy knows he’s not being trapped in an uncomfortable situation and can also make simple conversation with you without a lot of pressure or tension,” she says. “Honestly, that’s my favorite way of getting my exes to talk to me again is a night out with friends.”

Your friends can also spread positive word of mouth about how happy you are and how you’ve totally move on from the breakup. Even better, they may be able to reassure your ex that it’s totally fine to spend time alone with you and work on rekindling friendship.

Related: 5 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Gossip About Your Ex

5. Find a jumping off point

If you’ve exhausted all your options, then you’re probably sitting there thinking “How am I supposed to get my ex to talk to me again when I acted like a crazy person and definitely scared him away?”

Out-of-the-blue contact is weird no matter what, so don’t make up a strange reason to contact them unless you really have one. However, if you have a reasonable excuse to text them asking about a restaurant name you forgot or talking about something cool that happened to a mutual friend, then go for it! It’s a smart way to feel out how responsive your ex is going to be and whether you should keep trying to talk to them or not.

No matter your situation, reconnecting with your ex is weird, and it’s way too easy to sabotage yourself and send them running for the hills. Think about how you would feel if the position were reversed and what would make you comfortable. Note to self: If you think your ex knocking on your door in the middle of the night is crazy, then you probably shouldn’t do that to them.

If trying to reconnect with your ex doesn’t work, then boy, bye. It may take time to get over the rejection, but know that however nasty your breakup was, you’re absolutely capable of loving friendships and romantic relationships.


Lena Dunham Is Defending a 'Girls' Writer Accused of Sexual Assault & People Are Not Happy

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Considering Lena Dunham has previously been extremely outspoken when it comes to believing victims coming forward with their stories of being sexually harassed or assaulted, people are not happy with the way she's handling sexual assault allegations against a Girls writer.

Along with her Girls co-creater Jenni Konner, Dunham is defending the show's writer Murray Miller against accusations of sexual assault made by 23-year-old actress Aurora Perrineau. Perrineau filed a police report this week, Hello Giggles says, alleging that Miller assaulted her when she was 17 years old. She says she was at the Standard Hotel at the time with some friends, and had admittedly consumed several alcoholic drinks. Miller allegedly invited Perrineau and her friends to his house, where she later woke up naked in his bed to find he was "having sexual intercourse with [her]" against her consent.

Miller's legal team has denied all accusations, and Dunham and Konner have released a statement, surprising many by defending Miller.

"During the windfall of deeply necessary accusations over the last few months in Hollywood, we have been thrilled to see so many women’s voices heard and dark experiences in this industry justified," their statement says, per Entertainment Weekly. "It’s a hugely important time of change and, like every feminist in Hollywood and beyond, we celebrate. But during every time of change there are also incidences of the culture, in its enthusiasm and zeal, taking down the wrong targets."

They continue, "We believe, having worked closely with him for more than half a decade, that this is the case with Murray Miller. While our first instinct is to listen to every woman’s story, our insider knowledge of Murray’s situation makes us confident that sadly this accusation is one of the 3 percent of assault cases that are misreported every year. It is a true shame to add to that number, as outside of Hollywood women still struggle to be believed. We stand by Murray and this is all we’ll be saying about this issue."

Many have already been quick to point out Dunham's previous statements in support of believing victims, saying that her stance on Miller is hypocritical:

As Dunham and Konner even state themselves, false reporting when it comes to rape and sexual assault is extremely rare, and only makes up around two to eight percent of cases. Considering how terrifying it can be for women to come forward and speak up, listening to and validating victims until the facts possibly prove otherwise is the responsible thing to do — no matter how well you think you know the person being accused.

20 Easy Things You're Always Really Proud of Yourself for Doing

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Adulting is hard. Whether it’s your first semester on your own or you’ve been doing it for a while, keeping up with all the responsibilities that come with growing up is always difficult. Here are some simple things that you’re always proud of yourself for doing—and rightfully so, because being an adult sometimes sucks.

1. Waking up on time for your 8:30 am class.

Because showering before sunset is a challenge.

2. Doing laundry before you run out of clean underwear.

Because you prioritized your time.

3. Packing your own lunch instead of buying something.

Because only millionaires can afford Starbucks once a day.

4. Keeping your living space tidy-ish.

Because putting dirty dishes in the sink right away is a major accomplishment.  

5. Actually using your planner instead of ignoring it.

Because color-coding can be hard work.

6. Making your bed in the morning.

Because you always feel better when your bed is neatly made up.

7. Celebrating your accomplishments.

Because you should treat yourself when you deserve it.

8. Only eating out a few times per week.

Because it can be hard resisting Chipotle.

9. Cooking meals at home instead of ordering in.

Because you’re well on your way to becoming the next Rachel Ray.

10. Hanging out with friends instead of watching Netflix alone.

Because sometimes it takes effort to socialize.

11. Studying for an hour without procrastinating.

Because reading over 150 pages is boring af.

12. Walking instead of using an Uber.

Because technology makes it so simple to request a personal chauffer on your phone.

13. Going to bed at a reasonable hour.

Because it’s way too easy to watch one more episode of Friends.

14. Calling your family at least once a week.

Because talking to your parents can sometimes feel like an investigation.

15. Decluttering your work space.

Because a tidy desk is a tidy mind.

16. Wearing something other than sweatpants and hoodies.

Because being a fashionista is a full-time job.

17. Taking your makeup off before bed.

Because your skin deserves to be makeup-free once in a while.

18. Asking a question during class.

Because it’s intimidating to make a good impression on your professor.

19. Taking a shower instead of using dry shampoo.

Because nothing beats the power of some Bath & Body Works body wash and a loofah.

20. Surviving another day.

Because sometimes it can be tiring to just exist.

Being an adult (or even an almost adult) requires work, so cut yourself some slack every now and then. Celebrate and be proud of your accomplishments, even if they’re as easy as cooking dinner instead of going out or making it to class on time. You should always be proud of what you achieve, regardless of how trivial it may seem. 

Which City You Should Work in, Based on Your Zodiac Sign

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Post-grad life can leave you feeling clueless about where to go and what to do. This is the time in your life to make a move, both literally and figuratively. You may or may not have roots at home, but planting yourself in another city isn't as hard as you might think and can actually be good for your career. If you're thinking of relocating, check below for the city that best compliments your zodiac.

Related: What Career You Should Pursue, Based on Your Zodiac Sign

Aquarius - Portland, Oregon

With an innovative and experimental outlook, Portland is the best place for an Aquarius to put down roots. While you can be quiet and shy, you also have bursts of intense energy. You'll get the best of both worlds with Portland’s mostly wet weather and unique places and people. You’ll make friends who are quiet thinkers, as well as eccentric peeps. Portland’s up and coming neighborhoods are equally beautiful and affordable - the perfect combo for the recent Aquarius grad who likes to think outside of the box.

Pisces - Los Angeles, California

Artistic and friendly are two of Pisces main characteristics. You love the company of creative people and enjoy the arts. LA has a variety of people, from the screenwriter trying to make it big to the YouTuber making more money than you, and everything in between. This is the perfect place for you to make great friends while honing in on your artistic talents among other things.

Aries - New York City, New York

To live in the city that never sleeps, you have to be fearless and passionate. Aries are strong-willed and are the original #influencers. New York is always moving at full speed in terms of creativity and literal movement. It has the ideal combination of competition and artistry for you to strive in. New York has the most Fortune 500 Companies for a reason and although you're the youngest sign of the zodiac, your youthful energy is bound to make a splash in the Big Apple.

Taurus - Seattle, Washington

Seattle is the first place that comes to mind for the ambitious Taurus. You're known to prefer quiet shady places and a down to earth vibe but at the same time pride yourself on maintaining high standards. Although the Taurus is the bull sign, they seriously take no crap. It's fitting that Seattle is the OG Starbucks location; you wouldn't settle for anything less than the best.

Gemini -  Raleigh, North Carolina

Geminis' dual personality will love Raleigh. It's combination of plush green space and city culture is sure to keep you occupied. The surrounding universities combined with a great job market keep an influx of young people coming to the city. This also means there's plenty of opportunities to make newly "adulting" friends who want to explore some of the great things Raleigh has to offer like beer, food, and art.

Cancer - Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

Sensitive Cancer can find a home in Philly - literally. With great deals on rent and figuratively with the up-and-coming art and music scene. Philly is nicknamed the "city of brotherly love" which is probably one of the reasons startups love the city, meaning awesome new job opps coming your way. Your ability to create big picture ideas and act sensitively to what other people need will make you a great team player in a close-knit startup environment. Philly is known to rock some tough winters, perfect for the cuddle-loving Cancer.

Related: 7 Reasons You Should Snag That Startup Job

Leo - Austin, Texas

Leo's are known to have an air of royalty about them, kind of like a Texas debutante. With creative types galore, you won't get bored in the City of the Violet Crown. The low cost of living is also likable and your charming, bubbly personality will fit right in with this good vibes only community.

Virgo - Boston, Massachusetts

Boston has great energy and lots of fun stuff to keep Virgos occupied and happy. Virgos are known to love nature, animals and books so they have to be in a city where they can have it all. Whether your idea of happiness is curling up with a good book in a coffee shop or going for a run with your pup in one of Boston's parks, this city has you covered.

Libra - Atlanta, Georgia

Libras work better wherever the action is. Atlanta is not only #blessed with a great social scene, but the cost of living is half of that in NYC. Plus, it's one of the top 10 cities people are moving to for awesome job opportunities. Libras won't get bored in this city that's home to quirky bars and a semi-hidden theater scene. 

Related: 6 Ways to Achieve Work-Life Balance

Scorpio - San Francisco, California

Scorpios will thrive in the San Francisco sun since they are known to love the water, sailing, and fishing. This city offers the perfect work-life balance for the passionate Scorpio. It's also nice to know that San Franciso was named Forbes number one city for young professionals to work in 2016.

Sagittarius - Las Vegas, Nevada

I know what you're thinking, Vegas? But the idealistic Sagittarius will have both the freedom to explore the outdoors and the money to afford a nice pad in sin city. Nevada is also in the perfect location for the travel-loving Sagittarius. There are tons of beautiful places to explore in state like one of these natural hot springs. Day trips aren't out of the question, as a flight to LA is less than an hour away.

Capricorn - Arlington, Virginia

The business-minded Capricorn will love Arlington, where 70 percent of the 25 and older population has at least a bachelor's degree. While rent is a little steeper than other areas, your stubborn personality and ambition to climb the corporate ladder make the Arlington environment a challenge.

With so many places to go and things to do it can be hard trying to find your people in this huge world. Whether that means going to a poetry reading after work in Portland for the Aquarius or sipping cocktails after presenting your marketing plan in Austin for the Leo, there is a place for you to Lean In and take your career by storm. 

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'Nashville' Is Ending After Season Six, & Some of the Cast's Responses Are Beautiful

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Nashville has had a bit of a bumpy ride since its original network ABC cancelled it in 2016 and it then found a new home at CMT. Although a sixth season has been in the works even after that Season 5 shocker, CMT has now confirmed that the upcoming season will be the show's last, Cosmopolitan reports. Time to break out the tissues!

"All of us on Nashville are so incredibly grateful to the show's fans, who convinced CMT to give us a chance to keep telling the story of these remarkable characters," said series executive producer Marshall Herskovitz in a statement. "And we want to return the favor with a final season that celebrates all the joys and passions, twists and turns—and amazing music!—that made Nashville such an exciting journey for the last six years."

Clare Bowen, who plays songwriter Scarlett on the show, recognized the announcement on Twitter by sharing a photo of her character and writing, "Here's to our final season of Nashville."

Charles Esten, aka Rayna's beloved partner Deacon, revealed more of his thoughts on the news, posting a heartfelt message about how much Nashville means to him. "This role, this show and this city have changed everything for me and mine," the actor said on Twitter. 

Also responding to the cancellation notice was Jonathan Jackson, who has played Avery for the show's entire run thus far. Promising a powerful series ending, he wrote, "We're going to finish Season 6 strong!"

The show's OG leads, Connie Britton and Hayden Panettiere, have yet to publicly comment on the news, but I bet their responses will be what really makes the ending of Nashville sink in.

The show's final season premieres on Jan. 4, 2018, and is expected to air its series finale in Summer 2018. 

How To Help a Friend Who May Have Been Sexually Assaulted

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The topic of sexual assault has consumed the media for months now. From cases such as Emma Sulkowicz’s at Columbia University to the horribly short sentence of Brock Turner, assault on college campuses has never been as discussed as it seems to be now. Plus, with Donald Trump’s most recent comments regarding a female’s anatomy in such a lewd and degrading way, and the subsequent outpouring of sexual assault accusations, we can’t tell if the visibility on the important topic of sexual assault is helping the cause or doing nothing at all to reverse the toxic rape culture that permeates today’s society.

However unfortunate, rape happens. No matter how the assault occurs, where it happens or with whom it happens to, it is a very traumatic experience. If you’ve never gone through something like this, it’s hard to wrap your head around what to do or how to even go about thinking about it. Statistics do point to the fact that someone you know will experience this horribly barbaric breach of privacy. That person can very well be a friend, a family member or someone else you love and care for. If that were to happen, here are some things to keep in mind.

Don’t make assumptions

If you suspect your friend has been assaulted, there are definitely going to be many feelings and impulses coursing through your mind. Instead of acting on those, remember to not jump to conclusions. Everyone behaves and copes differently, but there are some signs that your friend was sexually assaulted. Sara K Walz, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and counselor at Northwestern University’s Women’s Center gave us a list of a few physical and emotional symptoms pointing to an assault.

 Physical:

  • bruising
  • bleeding
  • soreness

Emotional:

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Suicide attempts
  • Fear of intimacy or closeness
  • Unhealthy coping mechanisms (disordered eating, alcohol use, risky sexual behavior)

If you strongly believe your friend has been assaulted, let her/him set the pace for the conversation surrounding the assault. “Sometimes [reaching out] can make all the difference in the world,” says Jennifer Wider, M.D., a nationally renowned women’s health expert, author and radio host. “You just need to approach compassionately and without judgment. Encourage your friend to seek medical attention, and offer to accompany her.  Many sexual assault victims are bewildered, frightened and some are in shock...having a friend there can make a huge difference.  Offer to help find resources on campus like a counselor and/or support group.”

Along with not making assumptions, it’s important to keep in mind that they need to make their own decisions as well. “Let the survivor make the decisions (about what action to take, who to tell) – even if you do not agree. Keep in mind that she/he knows what is best.  Being able to make own decisions is an important part of re-establishing control in one’s life.  Feeling shame or guilt around the supporters because of the decisions she makes will not help in the healing process,” Walz says.

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Listen

The best tool you can provide as a friend is your ear. You need to make sure that once they have opened up to you that you give them a safe space to talk and vent their frustrations, fears and concerns. And if your friend isn’t ready to share, the next best thing you can do is to let them know you’re there for them, you’re thinking of them and you support them wholeheartedly.

Also make sure that you’re engaged when being their confidant. Laura Palumbo, Communications Director at The National Sexual Violence Resource Center notes a show of support and the want to listen is invaluable to the survivor. “Listening actively means staying with everything your friend is saying and not being distracted by what you will say next,” she says. “You don’t have to worry about giving the right advice; just let your friend know they are being heard. You can create a safe space by listening without judgment.” To some, just being there may seem inconsequential, but to the survivor it’ll mean the world.

A way that you can avoid, or try to avoid, making your friend uncomfortable is, again, to be sensitive. Mcgovern gave some key phrases to consider.

  • “’I’m sorry this happened.’ Acknowledge the experience has affected their life.
  • ‘It’s not your fault.’ Survivors may blame themselves, especially if they know the perpetrator personally. Remind them that they are not to blame.
  • ‘I believe you.’ It can be extremely difficult for survivors to come forward and share their story. They may feel ashamed, concerned they won’t be believed, or worried they’ll be blamed. The best thing you can do is believe them.”

These won’t work for every situation and certainly not every person, however, these are a great start if you’re ever stuck on what to say or how to respond appropriately. 

Everyone reacts differently

As mentioned earlier, there isn’t just one way someone will act following an assault. Maybe you think he or she should be acting withdrawn or constantly want to be alone, but the survivor might be upbeat or try to engage in different activities. Palumbo says to not judge how they are dealing with their situation. “The research supports this by showing a spectrum of ways individuals deal with the distress of assault physically, psychologically, and emotionally,” she says. “For example, a survivor might seem withdrawn or lose interest in activities. However, a survivor might also start going out more and engaging in high-risk behaviors.” Just keep this in mind when trying to help your friend and don’t let this cloud your good intentions.

Sara Mcgovern, Press Secretary for RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network), America’s largest anti-sexual violence organization, says that what some might perceive as “warning signs for sexual assault in college-age adults may be caused by events that are unrelated, such as being away from home for the first time.” It’s better to be safe than sorry in these situations, says Mcgovern. “You can ask questions that point to a specific person or time like, ‘Did something happen with the person you met at the party the other night?’ You can also simply reaffirm that you will believe them when they are ready to come forward and that it’s not their fault.” Be vigilant of your friend during these times as well; realize if anything you ask is bothering them and don’t push too much in one direction if they are getting visibly upset.

Related: I Was in Denial About My Rape

Be the support

Just like reactions and aftermath look different for every individual, recovery looks different as well. Don’t judge how they choose to heal. Even if it isn’t what you would do, even if you have experienced the same thing, letting them know you support and trust their decisions is the best thing you could give them as a friend.

Trust that your friend knows what she or he wants. “In some cases, your friend may have already considered all of their options,” Palumbo says. “At other times, they may not be aware of the supports available to them, so discussing these can be helpful.” If they are hesitant or uncomfortable with the next course of action, be their pillar of strength. Palumbo says to offer something as simple all as a ride to the hospital or waiting for them in the counseling office can be the support they need to follow through. Your support alone could empower them or at least make them feel more comfortable.

Another place where your friend may need support is when reporting and taking care of her/his health. “Medical attention is very important – STD testing, counseling, etc... If your friend wants to report the incident to campus authorities or the police, offer to accompany her,” says Wider. Carrie Wachter, Coordinator of Sexual Violence Response Services at Northwestern University, gave a great tip: “look up resources yourself, print them out and have them just in case.” In addition to being there for your friend, another part of being supportive is having concrete plans and sources to help yourself better help her/him. Having a plan is very important, and will make you feel better prepared when faced with this situation. 

 

Never blame the victim

In today’s society, we have to deal with the repercussions of rape culture. This entails many things, but one huge aspect being the blame survivors often put on themselves. They believe they could have prevented it by changing something they wore or something they did. This is of course not true because the only person that is ever to blame for rape is the rapist.

However, these feelings of guilt are common in survivors, so it’s important to never say anything that would condemn them for what happened or hold them accountable for what happened. As a friend, this would most likely happen on accident, but just be aware of what your words sound like to the survivor. “One of the things that makes disclosing a sexual assault so difficult is that survivors fear they won’t be believed,” says Palumbo. “Even if the order of events or memories are fragmented, know that it’s not your role to understand the details of what happened or question the validity of their story.” Keep in mind that it isn’t your friend's fault, no if, ands or buts about it.

Mcgovern from RAINN says that, in addition to shutting down the above stigmas related to sexual assault, thanks to rape culture, these items should be left off the table as well:

  • “Leave any ‘why’ questions or investigations to the experts. Your job is to support this person.
  • Be careful not to interpret calmness as a sign the event did not occur [going back to the fact that everyone behaves differently]
  • Be patient. Remember, there is no time-table to recovering from trauma. Avoid pressuring your friend to engage in activities they aren’t ready for yet.”

 

Sexual assault, no matter how unbelievably common, is still a sensitive subject and needs to be handled with care. As a friend, if you suspect that they have been a victim of assault, supporting them, not judging and listening to them is the best thing they could ask for. Laura points out the frequency of such crimes: “We know according to research from the Centers for Disease Control that 1 in 5 women and 1 in 71 men have experienced sexual assault at some point in their lifetime.” She says, “Keeping these statistics in mind can be helpful, as it points to the fact you are often likely interacting with someone who has experienced some form of sexual assault or abuse.” And according to RAINN, college produces an environment that makes sexual violence more prevalent, in comparison to other crimes; college women are twice as likely to be sexually assaulted than be robbed and that’s only based on the 20 percent of college women that report their rape to law enforcement. Yes, this is daunting, but hopefully the aforementioned guidelines give at least a stepping stone to helping you and anyone that may have been sexually assaulted.

If you have been sexually assaulted, or if you need further help for a friend who has been, you can call:

  • The RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
  • The National Center for Victims of Crime Victim Service Helpline, 1-800-FYI-CALL or 1-800-211-7996 (TTY/TDD)
  • NSVRC (The National Sexual Violence Resource Center) at 717-909-0710 (or request assistance here). 
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