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An Open Letter To Those Criticizing Talia Jane and Other Millennials

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About a week ago, I came across this piece in Business Insider. It was essentially a personal essay about one woman's tenacious journey from college graduate to bartender to her current career. The only problem with the essay? It was written in response to Talia Jane, a Yelp/Eat24 employee who wrote an open letter to Yelp about problems she saw with the company. 

After I read Talia's original piece, and then this follow-up by Sara Lynn Michener, I began to see what I thought was a great personal essay for what it really was: a piece blaming Talia, and many other millennials, for problems with the economy and common workplace policies.

In recent years, more and more research has come out to show that when you treat your employees better, they are not only happier and healthier outside of work, but they're better employees, too. Booming companies have taken to flexible sick time and paid time off policies, work-from-home policies, and have added more recreation and relaxation to the workday because of this.

Yet, there's been so much backlash against Talia Jane's piece, and I'm honestly not surprised. Almost every day, I see so many negative articles about millennials that it makes me sick. Is it possible that some people in this generation are lazy or make bad choices? Absolutely, just like it's possible that people in other generations are and do. But it is not a generational problem. It's a problem of blaming the people who are trying to work instead of blaming the system that traps them.

I don't know Talia personally. I've never met her. I have no idea exactly what financial, educational and economic decisions (and sacrifices) she made to get to where she is now. But I'm also not about to scrutinize her Instagram, looking for photos where she seems relaxed in order to argue that she's entitled and wants to be handed a job, like so many of her dissenters did.

I do know one thing, which is that she did a brave thing in a world where millennials and women are often punished for speaking their minds. She was a minimum wage worker barely out of college and she stood up for a problem that she saw: Her wages weren't enough to live in the Bay Area. Is this the fault of employers, for not paying a living wage in an expensive area, or is this a housing market problem? Probably a little of both, but the point is that we shouldn't be criticizing Talia, we should be standing next to her in this fight.

If you're like me, you went to college to pursue a field you're interested in building a career in. Now, I won't go into my life story in detail the way Talia (and several of her dissenters) have, personal-essay-style. I wouldn't want my readers to scour the internet, looking for ways to prove I'm a liar. But I did take on four internships while I was in undergrad, worked two on-campus jobs and worked several freelance gigs in my field to gain experience. When I graduated, for reasons related to a family member's ill health, I was unable to live with my parents. Instead, I got an apartment in the overpriced city of Boston (hey, it's no Bay Area!) with my girlfriend doubling as my roommate, so I could take graduate classes in a very reputable program to further my education while working.

If you're like me, you worked hard. Maybe harder than seems fair at times. If you're like me, you're frustrated that minimum wage is low and that college students have to do more than just graduate to get a job that can actually afford to pay the bills. If you're like me, you love and value the internships you took, but a part of you wishes they were always paid. 

I could easily chalk Talia's open letter up to her being young and naive, and think that she's entitled and wants to be handed free money. That's what a lot of other people who have struggled to get where they are, or are still struggling, seem to want to do. Instead of placing the responsibility on our workforce and the structure of capitalism, they want to place it on Talia as an individual. They ask questions like, "Why didn't Talia live with her parents after college to save money? Why didn't Talia go to a community college and then transfer to a four-year-school to avoid debt? Why did Talia accept a minimum wage job instead of looking for something that paid the rent?"

Since the original article went viral, Talia's spoken out on some of those issues, including stating on her Twitter that she did attend a community college and then transfer. It's clear from Talia's piece that she was in a position where she lacked some resources. She mentions at one point that she couldn't live at home. We don't know her circumstances, but there are many reasons someone may not be able to live with their parents. Perhaps their parents are dead, or abusive, or are too ill to take care of themselves, let alone Talia. She mentions her car breaking down, so it's clear she didn't have a brand new car handed to her upon graduating. 

But that's beside the point. The point is that Talia could have had everything lined up for her. She could have had all the resources she wanted, be privileged enough to have two loving, middle-class parents who paid for her entire education and gave her a brand new car, and she could still be struggling. Because that's the way our economy works.

We live in a global and highly technological economy, so it's getting increasingly harder and harder to compete. College graduates need to have years of experience (read: internships and co-ops, sometimes paid, sometimes not) under their belts to even hope for an entry-level job. Many college graduates take unstable, temporary work to try to get their foot in the door and pay the bills. They aren't given any benefits and have to take on a second job. Some people feel forced to study for a graduate degree just to compete. Others work a mishmash of retail, bartending and customer service gigs to save money while they apply for something in their field. 

Nobody should be starving and struggling in the way that Talia describes, if they work forty hours a week or more. If you read her letter and your first thought is, "Wow, she's spoiled," when she describes her coworkers as homeless and talks about how hungry she is on a daily basis, then you're missing the point. Talia wasn't even asking for a glamorous job. She was willing to put in the time and effort to move through the ranks to get to a job she liked more. She was simply asking to be paid a living wage for the location she lives in.

You may hear what I'm saying and think, "But Talia, or other millennials, could at least move to a small town or bad neighborhood where rents are cheaper in order to afford to live, if they can't live at home." That's also missing a crucial point, which is that many jobs and many industries are mainly secluded to large cities. Many people live in these cities (like Los Angeles, New York City and Chicago) so it costs more money to live there. Sure, a millennial could live in a small town. But it's vastly more difficult to find a job "in the middle of nowhere," as someone who went to college and interned in Western Massachusetts for four years could easily tell you. And many millennials can't afford to own cars, because the price of that extra debt is impossible, and public transportation is severely lacking in smaller towns and suburbs. 

In today's society, it's terrifying to put yourself out there with your name and face attached to it, asking for something that you're not getting from work. It's already scary enough to ask for salary negotiation when given an offer, or to ask your supervisor about getting a raise. Talia did that. She did it in a big, public way. She asked those hard questions, like: Why aren't I being paid enough so that I'm not hungry at work? Why do my coworkers need to set up GoFundMe accounts to pay their rent? Why is it so hard for someone on the verge of poverty to gain some workplace mobility? 

If anything, Talia's letter should serve as a rallying cry for every angry millennial who is sick of being misjudged as lazy, unskilled or entitled. Studies say that millennials, as a whole, care more about giving back than we do about success or money, but it's rare to hear about that. Instead, we hear about millennials who work at home with their parents and can't--or don't want to--get jobs. 

There are so many barriers for young people today as they graduate from college. We should be taking Talia's letter as a sign that this is a problem that needs to be fixed. If people earn a college degree, it shouldn't be this difficult for them to at least earn a living wage in their geographic location, even if their first job isn't ideal. People who are willing to work hard to survive should at least be given a fighting chance to do so. 

We need to read Talia's letter the way it should be read: as a criticism of the system in place, not a criticism of the people being abused by that system. Only by supporting one another can millennials buck the stereotypes unfairly placed on us, and build a more equitable future for all workers. 


Plus-Size Model Tess Holliday Fires Back at People Who Say She's Unhealthy

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Last year, Tess Holliday became the largest plus-size model to land a major modeling contract. The size-22 beauty signed to England’s MiLK Model Management back in January 2015, inspiring millions of people to appreciate their bodies without judgment or shame. 

But more than a year later, Holliday is still facing harsh critics who chastise her for leading an unhealthy lifestyle and, now that she is six months pregnant, endangering her unborn baby. Most recently, Australian fitness blogger, Ashy Bines, took to Instagram with a side-by-side photo of Holliday and an extremely thin runway model. 


 

I know this may cause people to get upset. But something id like to speak about and don't mean to offend anyone at all please know that and anyone who attacks me or calls me horrible names you will be blocked. I might not be perfect at wording the message I'm trying to get across but my intentions are not evil. . The girl on the left is obviously underweight - yes she maybe genetically small but it's pretty obvious she is not healthy and has not been eating a well balanced diet and would be on 500 or less calories a day to achieve her body - nor is she a good role model for young women. I hope she has some support around her to help her change her lifestyle . . The girl on the right I've seen in recent articles and apparently is an " inspiration" to the younger generation - I also think she is not a good role model for young girls. . Thin girls are slammed ALOT these days but females who are carrying more weight than what they should for there bodies, organs , moods , bones , cells etc to be " healthy" are now inspirations because they are confident in their swimsuit? . I think it's FANTASTIC she feels comfortable but at the same time I don't think it's a healthy body image that should be applauded. . It's not about having a 6 pack or no cellulite on your booty but HEALTH is not either of these photos. . Now I'm not saying I'm perfect or anything like that but I just think it's sad that women who are obviously eating a lot more than what they need and not moving their bodies to be fit , strong and healthy are getting praise. I'm not saying either are " ugly or ANYTHING like that " just don't think either are healthy role models and shouldn't be given praise. . There is no " perfect" body and no two bodies are the same BUT it is obvious when someone is living an extreme lifestyle one end or the other and I hope girls find other role models to help them achieve a healthy lifestyle. It's always my goal for women to FEEL and look their best and teaching them balance and a healthy active happy lifestyle. . Remember ANYONE who is making rude nasty comments think before you type as you will be blocked.

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What did Holliday think of the post? “She basically said I was doing an injustice to my [unborn] child by being fat and pregnant and unhealthy,” she told Us Magazine

Holliday responded with an Instagram post of her own: a black and white shot of her stretching after an intense workout with personal trainer, Elvon Mack. She revealed that Mack is by far her favorite trainer because he has never shamed her or told her to lose weight.


Once again, Holliday shows us that it’s okay to love yourself just as you are! Staying active and working out is not always about losing weight. “It’s about what makes ME happy!” she writes on Instagram. And that’s a message we can get behind!

How Many Sexual Assaults Have Happened On Uber Rides?

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BuzzFeed News recently investigated complaints of sexual assault and rape received by Uber, the ridesharing service many of us have come to rely on. Several screenshots obtained by BuzzFeed show 6,160 customer complaint tickets containing the words "sexual assault" and 5,827 containing the word "rape" based on complaints taken from December 2012 to August 2015. The screenshots show searches of the Uber customer support platform, accessed by a former Uber customer service representative.

These are pretty horrifying numbers, and if true, this data should have many Uber users deleting the app. But is it true? Uber says that this data is misleading and that in reality, the company received only five rape claims and fewer than 170 sexual assault claims. To explain the discrepancy with the numbers for "rape," Uber says that any driver or rider name beginning with the letters R, A, P, E would come up. In other words, if someone named Joe Raperman complained, the complaint would still come up in a search for "rape." As for sexual assault, Uber claims that many of these complaints were pertaining to incidents that didn't actually have anything to do with Uber, like when someone got into a non-Uber car by mistake.

Despite these explanations, Uber hasn't allowed BuzzFeed to look at the data themselves, or to get any further details about the five rape complaints Uber claims it has received. And still, even Uber's revised numbers to BuzzFeed are enough to make you think twice before grabbing a ride on the app.

According to an Uber spokesperson, “we are deeply committed to providing a ride people can trust, and our technology allows us to focus on safety before, during, and after every trip. Even one incident of this nature is one too many.”

15 Things Only Girls from Orange County Understand

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As an Orange County girl, there are certain things you learn/know after living in this bubble. Although very beautiful, OC has a bad reputation. I swear we aren't all rich, white and snotty! There are people, like me, that make the place a little more well-rounded. There are some amazing things about OC like Yogurtland, acai bowls and Laguna Beach. Here's a list that'll hit home for my OC girls.

1. Top of the world is a weekly hike that happens. For the Instagram opportunities of course.

2. You always get asked if this is L.A. No.

3. Letting your inner Disney princess out at Disneyland.

4. The son of a Real Housewife of OC is in your calculus class.

5. You skip classes to go to the beach since it's only 15 minutes away.

6. Acai bowls are life

7. The hang spots are really Irvine spectrum or Mission Viejo Mall.

8. In n Out is a must on a summer day.

9. Then you follow up with some Yogurtland.

10. Instagram opportunities are plentiful at the Packing District in Anaheim. 

11. Meeting at the movies needs to be specified. Irvine Spectrum’s theater, the one in Foothill or Aliso Viejo?

12. Kaleidoscope is teeny-boppers galore, but there’s Yogurtland there so it's worth it.

13. San Juan Capistrano is the place for photo shoots of all kind. Senior pics, graduation or fashion photo shoots, whatever you’re in the mood for.

14. Dance pictures at the train tracks? Duh.

15. 70 degrees is cold. 

21 Drunk Snapchats Every Girl Has Sent At One Point

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We're not quite sure when it happened, but at some point, Snapchat changed social media forever and gave us all a platform to transform our lives into our own mini docuseries. You wanna see what we ate for breakfast? Cool, we'll show you! You wanna see the fire selfie we just took before hitting the bar? Look no further! But, where do all the fun and games end? Drunk Snapchatting. 

Read below for the 21 drunk Snapchats you have definitely sent––whether you remember it or not:

1. The "Reply Chug" Snap

We bet you got sooooo many replies, too...

2. The "Wow, look at all this alcohol!" Snap

Your friends are already feeling sorry for your hangover tomorrow. 

3. The "Wow, look how cool my bottle is!" Snap

Cause your bottle looks really f*cking pretty with the third filter.

4. The pregame selfie-with-your-BFF Snap

How else are you going to make that fuckboy jealous of how good you look tonight!?

5. The "I'm dancing at a bar or club right now" Snap

These Snaps always get skipped the second they are played. #Sorry

6. The "100-second story of how much fun I'm having" Snap

It's never fun for the people watching.

7. The Snaps that make no f*cking sense

Nothing like those blurry, illegible Snaps your friends tell you about the next day... #ItsWhateverThough

8. The Snaps that you have no memory of sending

*Fingers crossed* "I didn't Snap my crush, I didn't snap my crush, I didn't Snap––holy shit, I snapped my crush." 

9. The let-me-send-my-top-consecutive-Snaps Snap

If your besties don't wake up with 10+ Snaps from you, are they really your besties?

10. The "It's 2 a.m. and DAMN I look good" Snap

Trust us, you may think you look like Beyonce right now, but you most definitely don't. 

11. The "It's 4 a.m. and we're still going!" Snap

Things get really weird after 2 a.m.

12. The Snap that makes it on your My Story that you'll definitely regret the next day

There's always one! Or five...

13. The funny Snap that you'll actually cherish forever

Sometimes, drunk you is funny AF and captures Kodak moments! 

14. The "Look, my BFF is puking!" Snap

"Karen, I told you not to eat those nachos at 7:00!!!" *Snaps a selfie with friend on the toilet*

15. The expensive drink from the bar Snap

If it cost $12 and is colorful, huge and delicious, it's getting on the My Story. 

16. The Snaps you want to pretend you never sent

If you don't remember, did it really happen???

17. The "Holy shit, this person next to me is f*cked up" Snap

We're glad you're not that guy.

18. The shot-for-shot Snaps

You just have to document this, cause, duh!

19. The drunk Uber ride Snap

Because your driver is your new BFF and the world needs to know it!!!

20. The #DrunkEats Snap

"This pizza is f*cking delicious and all my people must know!"

21. The "I'm never drinking again" Snap

You're hungover. You're full of regrets. You're miserable.

Thanks, Snapchat. You sure know how to keep things interesting!

I Tried a Juice Cleanse & Here's What Happened

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Every so often (okay, maybe more like every weekend) I fall off the healthy-eating-working-out bandwagon and succumb to the food-coma-inducing goodness that is pizza and Mexican food. We all know how it goes: you go out with your friends, you drink, you drunk-eat, you’re hungover the next morning so you run to your closest breakfast place and grab a bacon, egg and cheese and the cycle continues.

I’m a sucker for pretty much anything I see on Instagram boasting white teeth, 6-pack abs or flawless skin. So naturally after a long weekend of poor eating and poor choices, when I came across JUS by Julie on a favorite celebrity’s Instagram, and decided I had to buy a juice cleanse. I decided to try out their three-day JUS Cleanse.

Read on for the inside scoop:

DAY 1

8:30 AM – Wake up for work feeling not hungry and SO thankful that I pit-stopped the night before for nachos and guac (which I naturally stuffed my face with). I get ready for the day and head to Dunkin’ Donuts for a black iced Dark Roast (which by the way is totally allowed as long as you don’t add cream or sugar!) before making the 30 minute walk to work.

10:00 AM – Arrive at the office feeling oh-so-fit from my long-ass walk and non-stop playlist of Justin Bieber’s “Sorry.” I sit down at my desk and crack open my first juice, appropriately titled the Morning Glory. I love green juice so I’m not at all afraid of the taste, especially this one that has a ton of greens plus apples and strawberries.

10:15 AM – Chugged it. And it was damn good. I think I could get into this juicing thing.

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12:30 PM – Head to the fridge to grab juice #2 – the Spicy Lemonade. I’m a hot sauce queen (like with Frank’s, I seriously do put that shit on everything) so I’m stoked for this cayenne-lemon juice-maple syrup combo.

3:00 PM – Breeze through my third juice of the day: another fruity green juice combo called Sweet Spin.

6:45 PM – Head out of work and walk over to CorePower for a Hot Power Fusion class. Peruse #fitspo on Insta to give me some inspiration before working out.

8:30 PM – Open my sixth and final juice of the day with the scariest title of them all: Xtreme Greens. It’s not bad but definitely not my favorite.

 

DAY 2

9:00 AM – I’m like wicked tired. And it’s only Wednesday. And I might be late for work… *side eye emoji*

10:30 AM – Try to sip on my first juice of the day but I just don’t feel like it. Head to the Keurig instead because coffee > everything.

2:00 PM – It’s halfway through the day and I’m still sipping on juice number one. I’m not hungry at all. Even the catered lunch isn’t making me jealous.

4:00 PM – Finally made it through juices 1 and 2. Totally craving something sweet and wishing I could skip to juice 5, a strawberry-banana-peanut butter combo called PB&JUS.

4:30 PM – I want a nap more than anything in the world right now.

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6:15 PM – Finally I’m walking home (because I’m not quite lazy enough to take the T) and getting immediately into bed with the plan to watch Friends until I pass out.

7:00 PM – This Chia Berry juice is legit amaze. I would drink this every day. However, I’m still in a bad mood and kind of have a headache.

1:00 AM – I wake up and freak out because I think I overslept. Turns out I KO’d mid-juice at about 8. Thank God I didn’t spill any juice on my white comforter.
 

DAY 3

7:30 AM – Wake up in the morning feelin’ like P.Diddy. Seriously. I feel so good. I woke up before my alarm! I’m shocked considering how much of a slug I felt like yesterday.

9:00 AM – I leave for work early because why not. I listen to “Sorry” again on repeat because also why not.

12:30 PM – Upload an Insta of my juices – pics or it didn’t happen.

6:00 PM – TGIT. Headed home from work to watch How To Get Away With Murder and sip on my final two juices.

7:00 PM – Sidetracked by my roommates. We try to teach ourselves the “Sorry” dance for a good hour. I’m obsessed.

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12:00 AM – Fall asleep and could care less that I actually get to eat food tomorrow. This is so unlike me.

POST-JUICE

8:15 AM – I wake up feeling totally refreshed, and with a few spicy margaritas to look forward to after work, I’m ready to take on Friday and the weekend.

The bottom line: this is a quick fix for a junk food-binge-eating detox, not a long-term diet solution. Juicing is definitely not for everyone. But I highly recommend trying it out, even if it’s just for one day! You might feel like absolute crap part way through, but once you make it through the hardest part, you actually will enjoy the juicing benefits!

8 Mini Getaways You Can Take in Your Own City

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Remember those perfectly planned week-long breaks in paradise you got every March or April while you were in college? Unfortunately, after leaving college, a week’s worth of vacation days is harder to come by, but that doesn’t mean you’re not in dire need of a break—especially at the end of these long winter months! We all need a little escape, but when you can’t get away for longer than a weekend, it may be time for a “staycation” or a little getaway in your own city. Here are some ideas for getting away from the monotony of daily life for a day or two this spring!

1. Take a bike tour

Though the incessant snow makes this hard to believe, March and April will finally bring sunny weekends. Take advantage of these days and explore your town or city on a bike! If you’re looking for a whole weekend trip, BikeTours.com provides to tools for finding a local guided bike tour for two nights or longer. The guided tours take you from one location to another with accommodations and routes included.

If you’d rather stick closer to home and sleep in your own bed, see if your city has a bike sharing system. This is great if you don’t have your own bike because you can rent a bike from a station and return it to any other station in the city. Biking allows you to see your surroundings from a new perspective, one you might not necessarily see in a car or on the subway. Break out those cute tennis shoes, stop for a picnic in the park and make sure to wear a helmet!

2. Visit a local museum

Whether you live in the suburbs or in a big city, chances are you can find some type of museum within a day’s travel. Maybe it’s an art museum or maybe it explores local history, but a rainy Saturday spent at a museum can make you feel cultured, educated, and like you’ve been transported to different time and place. Look for some of the smaller, lesser-known museums or historic site rather than a traditional museum for something a little different. Make a day of it by mulling over what you’ve seen over coffee at a café, or if it’s sunny, grab an ice cream afterwards. You’re bound to feel inspired by what you’ve seen!

3. Tour a winery or brewery

If you like to imbibe from time to time, try finding a local brewery or winery to visit.

Breweries often have a fun, laid back atmosphere that could be the perfect escape from day-to-day life. Craft brewing is booming and according to CraftBeer.com, the average American lives within 10 miles of a craft brewery. Many breweries offer free tours that include tastings and offer food on-site or from a food truck. Tour the brewery, stick around for a pint or two, and wow your friends with your new knowledge of beer!

If you’re looking for a more refined experience, see if there are any wineries in your area. Babak Motamedi, co-founder of online winery guide Kazzit, explains that each winery offers something different: tastings, tours, cave tours, and more, but Kazzit can help you find the right winery for you. Referencing California, which boasts more than 4,000 wineries, Motamedi asks of finding the right tour, “How do you even begin?” Kazzit is the guide to “where the wine grows” and provides you with wineries in your area and the tools to plan your tasting or tour! Find a tour that will fit in your timeline, your budget, and whatever you’re looking for from a day in the vineyards.

4. Explore a new neighborhood

Whether you’re living somewhere you’ve lived all your life or you’ve moved somewhere new, chances are you’re a stone’s throw from somewhere you haven’t explored yet. Look at a map, find a neighborhood or area you haven’t been to and make a day of exploring. Shop local boutiques, have lunch at café, wander through the local park, and enjoy experiencing some place new! Anna Kelsey, a 2014 graduate of Boston University, says, “I like to spend time exploring new neighborhoods now that I live in the city as a non student…I like getting a feel of the different neighborhoods and what their personalities are.” If you have the time and resources for a longer trip, explore a city in driving distance. From Boston, Anna says, “Downtown Burlington [Vermont] is super charming and fun weekend trip to take.”

5. Get outside

As those sunny spring days start approaching, look for an outdoor activity in your area. Maybe you’re near the water and can go kayaking or sign up for a sailing class. Take advantage of the nicer (re: not snowy!) weather and get outside for a day and get moving! Go for a hike; go horseback riding; go fishing: just get outside!

Nikki Snyder, another 2014 graduate of Boston University, is currently living and working in Boston. She says she loves to escape the city every once in awhile. “Though I love living and working in a city, the endless concrete and brick can make me feel really claustrophobic.” A short ways away from Boston, Nikki likes to visit the White Mountains in New Hampshire where she hikes and fills her lungs with fresh air: “To forget all of the stresses of work, of city life, of rent and laundry and instead channel all of my energy into each inclined step is incredibly refreshing. For me, hiking is almost meditative.” Her weekend trips to the woods allow her to find herself and take on the next week. “Crisp air, awesome views, sweating and not caring about my appearance, the outdoors always re-center me so I can return to Boston, rested and ready to kick a** on Monday!” she says.

6. Celebrate spring at a festival

Fall has apple picking; spring has blooming flowers. There’s nothing quite like seeing the colors of freshly bloomed flowers after long gray winters. Look for a local flower show to brighten your weekend and get you looking forward to sunnier months. If you like history, try Virginia’s Historic Garden Week where you can see beautiful historic homes and their blooming gardens or mingle with Southern Belles at the North Carolina Azalea Festival. The tulip fields at the Skagit Valley Tulip Festival in Washington state rival those in the Netherlands or if purple’s your favorite color, hit the Rochester Lilac Festival, just to name a few. Of course, if you’re in DC, there’s always the National Cherry Blossom Festival.

7. Host a themed dinner

If all else fails, bring the world to you. Invite your friends over for a dinner or small party with an exotic theme. Turn your apartment into a tiki hut and host a Hawaiian luau; make tapas and sangria for a trip to Spain; “visit” an Italian village and serve pasta, prosciutto and prosecco; or answer London Calling with gin and tonics in wellies and a fascinator. Prepare authentic food, decorate your digs, and dress the part! Not only will the party allow you and your friends to escape without actually leaving, planning and preparing for the party will give you something to think about and anticipate.

8. Find a cheap hotel and get away for the weekend

Grab your bestie, your SO, or a sibling and split a hotel for the weekend. Many hotels offer last minute deals to fill their empty rooms. Kayak.com offers an easy way to finding those deals, well under $100 (or even $50!) a night in tons of popular locations across the country. Pick a location and find a good deal. Go out for a nice meal, get in a little shopping, and get a good night’s rest in a comfortable hotel bed, even if it’s in your very own city. You’re bound to feel refreshed for the coming week!

Whether you have a day or a whole weekend, doing something different is bound to make you feel rejuvenated after a long week in the office. These ideas get you outside and away from normal day-to-day activities to give you that extra boost after the past few months of endless snow. And what you’ll remember from those spring breaks in college is that post-SB, summer is just around the corner!

Leo's Mom Has Armpit Hair & The Internet is Freaking Out About It

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Our favorite man has finally won his Oscar, and to top it off the Internet just found a baby photo of him that’s absolutely to die for.

He’s a perfect little cherub baby. Look at that hair! How could he not be destined to become a world famous actor?

While we’ve been busy freaking out over Leo’s cuteness, the Internet has been busy calling attention to his mom’s patch of armpit hair—because what else would they do. The old family photo was taken in 1976, a time when an armpit garden wouldn’t even be that weird.

The topic of armpit hair and personal hygiene for women has been a growing controversy in the media for the past two years, and unfortunately Irmelin Indenbirkin just had be targeted in the shaming storm. It really shouldn’t be an argument at all because NEWSFLASH ladies grow armpit hair and that’s okay. 

Luckily after the shameful comments, some fans flocked to defend her. Don't worry mama Leo, we support you. 





Cara Delevingne Published an Essay About Self-Love & It Should Be an Inspiration to Us All

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As if Cara Delevingne wasn’t already an inspiration to women, now she’s taken it to a whole new level with her personal essay about self-love and just genuinely liking yourself.

She’s always been open with her fans, even daring to share about her struggles with depression and anxiety, but her essay published on TIME’sMotto shows a new side of her that deals with insecurity about appearance and approval.

“I found myself surrendering to the industry’s approval process. I felt like I needed validation from everyone. As a result, I lost sight of myself and what it meant to be happy, what it meant to be successful. I think it all stemmed from a deep-down feeling of wanting people to like me and love me,” she writes in her essay.

Her words speak to millions of women who experience the same deep desire for public approval in everyday life. It’s not easy, especially in college where it feels like you have to compete for everyone’s attention, find your niche and secure your whole future in one week. The model and actress is a huge role model for finding balance and personal time while living a crazy lifestyle.

“I still have so much to learn, but I have realized that beating myself up, feeling guilty and regretting past mistakes will only hold me back,” Cara writes. “After all, no matter how many people like you and your work, it doesn’t matter if you don’t like yourself.”

Check out the full essay here. It definitely deserves a read. 

Shonda Rhimes & TGIT Stars Endorse Hillary Clinton for President

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Last night, during the airing of her three incredibly popular shows on ABC, Shonda Rhimes tweeted a video that showed her, Kerry Washington, Ellen Pompeo and Viola Davis—the three leading ladies of Scandal, Grey’s Anatomy, and How to Get Away with Murder, respectively—officially endorsing Hillary Clinton for president.

In the video, each of the stars discusses the characters they create or play, and how they are “brilliant, complex, overqualified” women who, though they are flawed, never fail to get back up and save the day. We know this well, as #TGIT is the greatest thing that has ever happened to television.

While these TV characters are forces to be reckoned with, the stars acknowledge that they only exist on television. The overarching message of the video is that Hillary Clinton is one of these forces, and she is real.

Tony Goldwyn, President Fitzgerald Grant on Scandal, directed the video, but that still doesn’t totally explain Clinton’s recent visit to the Scandal set. Unfortunately, a cameo is not in the works, according to TVLine. It would certainly be a huge, unprecedented move if the whole of Scandal were to rally their support for the candidate by having her on the show.

These are certainly not the first celebrities to come out in support of Clinton. Just last month, Kendall Jenner Instagrammed a picture of herself wearing a Hillary Clinton T-shirt, and Lena Dunham has been very involved in the Democratic candidate’s celebrity support team. Other celebs that have backed Clinton include Beyoncé, J.Lo, Demi Lovato and Snoop Dogg.

In response to Rhimes’s tweet of the video, Clinton tweeted, “Talk about a power lineup,” and she’s not wrong. Think Bernie Sanders has anything similar in store? We’ll see!

Lindsay Lohan Claims Harry Styles Tried to Hook Up With Her

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There are not a lot of girls who would turn down Harry Styles if he showed up at their door. But Lindsay Lohan claims she did just that.

In an interview with The Sun, Lindsay explains that she turned down Harry Styles when he once showed up abruptly at her hotel room. “He was in a suit. I said ‘Well, you’re very good looking—can I help you?’ He was like, ‘I’m Harry. Gavin and Michael sent me here.’ I was like, ‘I’m going to bed, but it was nice to meet you.’”

The One Direction singer may not have actually been going to Lohan’s room for a little one-on-one action. Styles has since explained that he was pranked by his friends who told him Lindsay was having a party in her room, which is why he unexpectedly came to her door.  

Whatever Styles’ reason was, it wouldn’t have helped since the actress didn’t even recognize him. “I didn’t know it was him!” Lohan explained. “I told my sister the next day and she was like, “Wait, are you kidding me?!.. Do you have his number? Can I have it?”

It’s crazy to think that the older generation of celebrities has grown up so much that they can’t recognize the new generation! We don’t know what we’d do if Harry Styles came knocking at our door, but at least we’d recognize him. We’ll gladly take his number if you don’t want it, Lindsay! 

9 DIYs For the Girl Who is Completely Obsessed With Spring

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We know how over the winter weather you really are. So why not start prepping for spring with these bright, colorful and bold DIYs?

1. Neon Nonslip Hangers

Organizing your clothes while spring cleaning can be tedious, but these fun neon hangers will brighten up the dreariest of closets. 

2. Grass Coasters

These "grass" coasters are perfect for all those outdoor soirees you'll be hosting when the weather warms up. We think they'd look quite nice accompanied by mason jar glasses filled with fruity concoctions.

3. Flower Pot Necklace

Who knew a simple flower pot could become your new favorite accessory? This DIY is completely effortless. Pair the finished product with a sundress or floral romper.

4. Paper Flower Chandelier

This chandelier will add a little bit of spring to any room. At first glance, it looks a lot more complex than it is. In fact, it's really not difficult to make at all. Try using neon paper for more of a fun vibe.

5. Lightweight T-Shirt Scarf

As we transition into spring, the weather tends to have those awkward days where it's warm enough to ditch your jacket but too cold to go completely layer-free. This lightweight T-shirt scarf is perfect for such days.

6. Personalized Doormats

Whether you are living in an apartment or a residence hall, this doormat will welcome spring in. Bonus: you can personalize this project in any way you choose.

7. Magazine Flowers

Got any old magazines lying around? Craft the pages into these colorful paper flowers and say hello to your newest piece of desk decor.

8. Paper Flower Hair Accessory

Flower crowns are cool and all, but having a vine of roses weaved through your hair is even better. You will definitely be looking like an honorary Disney princess with this fab accessory.

9. Coffee Filter Flowers

These flowers are so simple yet so stunning. Place them in a mason jar and set the arrangement on your desk or nightstand.

How to Make Money and Stay Sporty Chic for Gameday!

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Love cheering on your school but sick of the same tired jersey? Need some extra cash?

Gameday Leggings is the answer to all your pre-tailgate outfit meltdowns and mid-semester financial woes.

In search of a way to showcase their spirit in style, a mother and daughter created blue and orange tiger-striped leggings to wear on gameday. They've since expanded their line to other prints and colors for fans – both men and women – of all sports everywhere!

   

Gameday Leggings has even created a campus ambassador program to help spread the word of their business and offer college students like you the opportunity to learn more about marketing a business and earn some commission – 15 percent on every sale you make! The online application is open to all who wish to apply.

 

   

All Her Campuscollegiettes can get 20 percent off their Gameday Leggings through April 30 using the code “HerCampus20”! Comfortable, stylish, and appropriate for multipleoccasions as well as multipleseasons what’s not to love?!

5 Signs It's Time to End a Friendship

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You rely on your friends for a lot—they're there to cheer you on and celebrate your successes, and bring you chocolate when you're going through a rough time. They never judge you, and you guys have each other's backs. That's why it's difficult when friendships end—and it's even harder to end them. But whether your previously strong friendship begins to sour, or you realize it was never a good one in the first place, sometimes, letting go of someone you call a friend is the best thing you can do for both of you.

So what are the signs? We're here to show you what to look for, and how to deal with the situation.

You're too dependent on one another

There's a fine line between enjoying one another's company and being way, way too dependent on each other. The latter is a sign of a toxic relationship. What to look out for? Your friend always has to know where you are, what you're doing, and who you're doing it with; or maybe, you feel left out and hurt if your friend hangs out with anybody aside from yourself. That kind of emotional dependence can get pretty volatile, and ends up making the relationship way too delicate.

Daisy, a student at Marymount University, says when she and her best friend moved in together, her friend started to become too reliant on her for everything, to the point that Daisy says she felt like she was being taken advantange of.

“I began to have panic attacks whenever I had to go into my room,” she admits. “I became a doormat and I couldn't let myself let go because I was kind of afraid of her. It sounds pathetic but I didn't want to lose her even though she was hurting me.”

How to handle it

Of course, the first step is to try to maintain a healthy distance; but that doesn't always happen right away. Kathryn Williams, author of Roomies: Sharing Your Home with Friends, Strangers, and Total Freaks, suggests discussing it in as non-confrontational of a way as possible.

“If trying to get and maintain your own space is not working, sit down and talk with him/her about it—always privately, sober, and in as non-confrontational way as possible, so your [friend] or roomie doesn't feel judged, attacked, or embarrassed,” she suggests. She also adds that you should be “prepared for a chilly period”—however if it's a real friendship, both parties will recognize the change is a positive one and it won't be long before you're able to strengthen that bond again.

Even though it was hard, Daisy finally ended the friendship while she and her best friend were apart during a semester abroad. “Toxic friendships can drain the life out of you. Sometimes you can't really see the damage until you force yourself out of the situation,” she says, adding that she knew the friendship wasn't worth saving when she confronted her friend, and her friend wasn't receptive to her concerns.

The friendship is one-sided

As we've already established, balance is key in any relationship. So what if your problem is the opposite of the one above—and the issue isn't that you and your friend are too reliant on one another, but that there's one side that isn't putting in any effort? Key signs to look out for: your friend is never the one to text you or initiate plans; she only reaches out when she needs something from you; she often claims to be too busy to hang out, or will cut your time together short because she has somewhere else to be; and when the two of you do get together, the focus is always on her and she doesn't seem to have much interest in what's going on in your life.

Allison*, a junior who found herself in a one-sided friendship, says that she caught herself giving up a lot to maintain that relationship.

“I started sacrificing a lot of things—time with my friends, schoolwork, going to class—to try to make myself available whenever he was free,” Allison says. She added that her other friends tried to point out how the relationship was one-sided, but she didn’t notice at the time. “I couldn't even clearly see what was going on—I had become so used to making him a priority and putting myself second even though he never made me a priority,” she says.

How to handle it

As you would in any relationship, it's important to discuss your feelings before making any final decisions on where to take that friendship. It's possible that your friend doesn't even realize he or she is treating you in that way; or perhaps, there's something going on in his or her life that is a legitimate priority that they need your full support for.

“Evaluate the friendship up until this point and decide if it's worth talking to her and/or maybe taking a little breather to see what happens,” suggests Nicole Zangara, author of Surviving Female Friendships: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly. “If you talk to her and nothing changes, then it's definitely time to decide whether to keep this person in your life.”

Allison adds that sometimes, you'll have a gut feeling about the relationship—and as hard as it may be, now might be the time to stick with it: “My advice to other people who are thinking they deserve better, you probably do.”

Your friend isn't supportive

Part of what makes a best friend great is that she's someone you can go to for anything without judgement, whether it's to celebrate a big win, cry over a heartbreak or rant about a difficult day at work. Whether you're dealing with a situation that's positive or negative, your friend should always be there for you.

Anna*, a junior at Denison University, had a friend who didn't ever stand up for her—but it wasn't until something serious happened that she really recognized it.

“I was sexually assaulted by a mutual friend and she told me that she didn't believe me and stayed friends with the boy who raped me,” Anna explains. “Her reaction when I told her made me feel like ... it was all my fault that I had been assaulted.”

To avoid letting the friendship carry out until that point, look out for the smaller signs. Is your friend genuinely proud of you when you succeed, or does she constantly try to upstage you? Is she willing to talk about anything, at any time? Jenna*, a senior at Emory University, said that a former roommate of hers seemed like a good friend—until she really needed a friend. “I had just gotten out of a long-term relationship, and the fall-out was rough,” she says. “For a while, it was all I could think or talk about—and a true friend would have been okay with that. But one night, she got up and told me to suck it up—that she was sick of hearing about the breakup. I knew then that I wouldn't be able to count on her for support.”

How to handle it

Zangara reiterates that it's so important to pay attention to the little signs that people give off. “They are people who don't take your feelings into consideration and do not care how their actions impact you,” Zangara says. Maybe it's someone who always wants to be the center of attention; maybe they've always got to one-up you. These actions indicate where their priorities lie. 

If you're seeing minor red flags in a friend, discuss your concerns with her; call her out when she does something that feels hurtful to you in any way. But if it's clear that she could care less, like in Anna's case, there's really no need to give her a second chance—it's time to end that relationship.

You're being emotionally or physically abused

Whether you're dealing with backhanded compliments or straight up insults, a friend who doesn't treat you well isn't someone you want to keep in your life. “I had to end a friendship because she kept putting me down,” says Monica*, a Her Campus contributor at Hofstra University. It wasn't always clear what was happening, though: “Her actions were very minimal and sly,” Monica explains. She says she started to catch on when she always felt self-conscious about herself after hanging out with that particular friend. 

How to handle it

If the relationship is physically abusive—end it, immediately, with the help of the authorities if you don't feel safe doing so on your own. There is never a reason that anybody should be in a relationship that's physically abusive.

The same could be said for a relationship that's emotionally abusive, but Zangara says that it could be possible that your friend doesn't even realize what she's doing—so that's where communication comes in. “Use ‘I feel’ statements—I felt hurt when you x, y, z,” Zangara says. “Don't attack the friend but let her know that because you care about her and the friendship, you want her to know how's she's hurting you and to bring that to her awareness.”

Williams says that if the relationship is especially on edge, or you don't feel comfortable or safe comfronting this person face to face just yet, to consider writing a letter. “Sometimes communicating by letters...is a good way to give everyone space and time to process,” Williams explains.

You're going down different roads

Just because you and your bestie aren't majoring in the same class, or have the same views on politics, doesn't mean you shouldn't be friends—it's beneficial to everybody to have as diverse a friend group as possible. But sometimes, differences will cause friends to drift apart—and that's okay.

“The lesson I learned is that friends will grow apart and it's not always a bad thing because you become aware of your self worth and really realize the type of people that you want and find are most deserving of being in your life,” says Erica*, a senior at American University.

Maybe your life goals are different; you want to get ahead in your career, and your friend wants to start a family. Or maybe, your separate interests bring you to build closer bonds with other people. Whatever the reason, growing apart from friends can happen as you experience major changes in your life, such as starting college, or graduating.

How to handle it

This isn't a friendship that necessarily needs to be cut off; but it might not be one that's worth actively trying to save, either. “Talk about these changes and prepare for these changes. For example, talk about how you'll keep in touch and stay connected,” Zangara suggests. Ultimately, Zangara adds, “The goal is to be grateful for those you had in your life at that point in time as they were special and provided a wonderful connection and comfort.”

As your life changes, it's natural for the people in your life to change with it. “It's not a failure on anyone's part; it's life,” Zangara reaffirms.

Ending a friendship is never easy, and it’s often the last step you want to take when you’re going through a rough patch with someone you care about. When considering ending a friendship, it’s important to always remember not to end it in anger, and to think about what you want to say before you communicate with the person. Ultimately however, if a friendship is hurting you in any way, it's in everybody's best interest for the relationship to come to a close—so whether it's a toxic friendship, a one-sided one or even a downright abusive one, it might be time to move on.

Ariana Grande Just Released a New Single & It's Sexy AF

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Get ready to dance! Pop princess Ariana Grande just released her new single “Dangerous Woman” and we are officially obsessed!

The singer gave a preview of the single earlier this week during the Victoria’s Secret Swimwear Special. Since then, fans have been anxiously waiting for the single to drop. The song was finally released Thursday night, after a digital clock on Grande’s website counted down to the exact moment.


With distinctive Ariana vocals and a classic pop beat, this is sure to be one of the hit anthems of the summer! “Dangerous Woman” is currently available to buy on the iTunes Store or you can stream it on Apple Music. You can also pre-order Grande’s album (also called Dangerous Woman), which is set to be released on May 20.

If “Dangerous Woman” is any sign, then we are sure to love all of Grande's new music! We are definitely going to have this single on repeat until we can get our hands on that album.  


Rebel Wilson Believes Someone Drugged Her at a Club

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In a series of tweets last night, Rebel Wilson shared that while she was at a club the night before she realized her drink “may have been spiked with something.” While she was able to leave safely and return home, she woke up “feeling like [she’d] been hit by a truck.”

Using her celebrity platform, Wilson took the unfortunate, frightening incident as a means of providing a caution to fellow club and bar goers. Sound like rape culture? That’s because it is. While Wilson certainly made these comments from a place of good intentions, it’s curious that she didn’t also add that people just shouldn’t spike drinks in the first place.

Although she would do well to correct the statements she made on Twitter, or at least add to them, we can probably rest assured Wilson is firmly on the side of those persons targeted by rape, not those contributing to rape culture. Wilson is an advocate for body positivity and self-love, but this wasn’t her first time erring on the wrong side of political correctness.

While presenting an award at the BAFTAs in February, Wilson made a highly questionable joke about trans people. While questions of political correctness and its place in comedy are another discussion entirely, it seems Wilson might need a refresher on issues faced by female, trans and gender nonconforming people.

UC Berkeley Law School Dean Resigns After Harassment Claims

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The University of California at Berkeley announced on Wednesday that the dean of their law school will be taking an “indefinite leave of absence” following a claim that he sexually harassed his former assistant.

Dean Sujit Choudhry officially resigned months after he was found guilty of the sexual harassment. His former assistant, Tyann Sorell, 41, pressed charges against him and the university.

“We are under no illusion that a resignation could or should bring this matter and broader, related issues to a close,” read a statement released by the law school. “We must move in the direction of stronger sanctions [against sexual harassment.]” NBC Bay Area reported that Dean Choudhry had apparently been kissing and hugging his assistant inappropriately, according to court documents.

“The hugs became tighter and more lingering and the kissing more intimate in that over time Choudhry’s kisses began to land closer and closer” to Sorrell’s mouth, The Washington Post reported the court documents said. “She wondered what she had done to make him think it was OK for him to touch her.”

According to the The New York Times, Sorrell reported feeling extremely stressed—her hair was falling out—but she didn't want to report Choudry because she was afraid and had a history with domestic abuse. When Sorrell tried to speak to her superiors about the situation, they ignored her complaints—which is when she reached out to human resources at Berkeley. Although they found Dean Choudhry guilty, all he had to do was attend sexual harassment training, take a slight decrease of salary that year, and write his assistant an apology letter.

The executive vice chancellor and provost, Claude Steele, said that they didn’t fire Choudhry at Sorrell’s first complaint because it “would ruin the dean’s career, that is, destroy his future chances for higher appointment,” according to The New York Times.

UC Berkeley claims to have a zero-tolerance policy against sexual harassment. By not letting go of the dean, the administration did not live up to its commitment to safety. The handling of the case is what lead Tyann to file a lawsuit against the university. Although Choudhry eventually resigned, schools should be doing more to make their students, staff, and faculty always feel safe on campus and at work.

Pro-Gun Mom Was Shot by Her Toddler Son

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A vocally pro-gun Florida mom was shot in the back by her four-year-old son Tuesday while she was driving. Luckily, she's doing okay.

Jamie Gilt, 31, is an advocate for the Second Amendment both in real life and on social media. She told a police officer in Putnam County, Fla., that her son had accidentally shot her gun through her back seat and into her while she was driving. Marie Claire reported that a .45 caliber handgun was found in the backseat of the four-door pickup truck next to Gilt’s son, who wasn’t strapped into his booster seat.

Not even a day earlier, Jamie had posted on Facebook that her son was skilled at shooting and wrote, “Even my 4-year-old gets jacked up to target shoot with the .22.” According to the Daily Mail, Gilt reportedly believes that she has a right to “shoot anyone who threatens her family—and plans to teach her offspring the same mentality.” She had posted pictures online with phrases like, "My right to protect my child with my gun trumps your fear of my gun." 

Although both the mom and her son are okay, the Putnam County Sheriff’s Office released a statement saying that Gilt could get charged with leaving a loaded gun unsafely stored.

“Florida Statute makes it a misdemeanor for a person to store or leave, on a premise under his or her control, a loaded firearm in such a manner that it is likely a child can gain access to the firearm,” the statement reads.

We’re glad Jamie and her son are safe, but we seriously doubt she'll love guns as much as she used to. 

Ruth Bader Ginsburg is Publishing a New Book

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Unintentional internet superstar and Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg will have a new book out next January—her first since joining the nation's highest court. Ginsburg, the second female justice appointed to the Supreme Court, is known for being a huge advocate of civil rights among race and gender. Simon & Schuster will publish a collection of her writings and speeches called My Own Words.

In a statement, vice president of Simon & Schuster Alice Mayhew said, “Justice Ginsburg is one of the most important and articular legal writers and interpreters in the country. She is also a witty and engaged writer and speaker, and I am personally delighted to have another opera lover on board.” According to the The New York Times, one of Ginsburg’s topics in the book will include the way operas portray lawyers and courts. She famously bonded with late Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia over opera.

RBG will also cover other “wide-ranging topics, including gender equality, the workways of the Supreme Court, on bring Jewish…and on the value of looking beyond U.S. shores when interpreting the U.S. Constitution,” according to the Simon & Schuster statement.

Although Justice Ginsburg will write the introduction for the book, her biographers Mary Hartnett and Emerita Wendy W. Williams of Georgetown Law will choose which pieces to include and will write introductions for each section, Cosmopolitan reported. With the justice’s pointed opinions on civil rights and gender equality, the book is sure to be a hit everywhere among fans of this legal champion.

Dressing Up for an Exam Can Help You Do Better

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Waking up for an 8 a.m. exam can seem harder than the actual exam. It probably feels like the perfect time to roll out of bed, pull on some sweats and furry boots, tie your hair into a messy bun, and hope that the world ignores your half-smudged mascara. Not so fast, though—dressing up for that exam actually could help you do better on it, according to Racked.

According to a study from California State University, wearing more formal clothes can improve your performance on certain exams. Nautilus reported that this all started when CSU psychologist Abraham M. Rutchick conducted an experiment on “how nonconscious processes function in everyday life"—So how things like getting dressed in the morning, which you may not even think about that much, could impact the way you think, and therefore, your grades.

Rutchick asked 60 undergrads rate how formally they thought they dressed that day, then take a ten-question quiz that rated how “abstract” the student was thinking. On it, there were questions like “Voting is best described as…” with two answer choices, one abstract and one concrete. For the voting question, “Influencing the election” was the abstract answer, and “marking a ballot” was the concrete answer. Even after being asked to change halfway through the testing, students who were dressed more formally chose the more abstract answers.

Abstract thinking is awesome for tests that require analytical, broad thinking, like English or Poli Sci. However, abstract answers don’t work for everything. Rutchick told Nautilus that for situations that require detail-oriented tasks with concrete answers, like in engineering, dressing down could actually help you more.

The mantra here is similar to “dressing for the job you want"—except you should dress for the test that you’re taking. Taking a hard English exam? You'll need to think outside the box about big ideas, so try wearing a that Olivia Pope suit you have hiding in your closet. But if you're heading to a Stats midterm, maybe opt for leggings (Yes please). 

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