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15 Casual Breakdowns You'll Have During Finals Week, as told by Jennifer Lawrence

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Even if Jennifer Lawrence didn't go to college, she knows the misery involved with finals week...because J. Law knows all. Here are some of her best reactions that we're all about to have in just a couple weeks.

1. Finding out how much stuff you really have to do.

Yeah, you definitely underestimated your evil professors.

2. You don't even know where to begin.

How does one study for this 18th-century British Literature class??

3. You realize you maybe skipped one too many classes.

These notes just really don't make any sense.

4. You start giving up. 

You're so stressed that you just become calm and accept your fate.

5. You start getting distracted...

...and you start thinking about food.

6. You take your hunger out on your group project partners.

This sounds about accurate.

7. Then you must explain to them the many truths about life.

So, why can't this be on the final?

8. Once you get back on task, you're back to square one.

Where were we again?

9. And then you get scared again.

Like, really scared...

10. You are so worried about what your professor is going to do.

You start preparing for the worst.

11. And your reaction is ready...

You're preparing for the worst and hoping for the best.

12. You start studying and think you might finally have it together.

This ain't so bad!

13. You just need a little pep talk. 

Fake it 'til you make it with confidence.

14. You show up to the exam still a little confused.

Is this multiple choice, short answer or essay format? Do I have to bring my own paper? Are we using scantrons? Why wasn't this on the syllabus?

15. But once the final is over...

You gotta do some of this to every random person you see in the hallway.

Finals are coming up any minute now. Happy studying, collegiettes!


7 Reasons You're Not Over Your Ex

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There’s no denying it: breakups are hard. No one expects you to get over it right away. Allow yourself enough time to experience a full range of emotions. But if it’s been months since you and your ex split up and you’re still not over him or her, you may feel like you never will be. So, what can you do? There are some behaviors we all engage in that make it more difficult to move on from an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend. Check out these seven common reasons why you might not be over your ex, and hear from an expert on what to do instead.

1. Stalking him or her on social media

We’re all guilty of Facebook stalking our exes at one point or another. We can’t help but check up on their lives now that we are no longer in them. “I see it all the time with my friends,” says Alaina, a first-year graduate student at Emerson College. “You can tell when someone’s not over their ex because they still constantly keep tabs on what that person does, through social media or otherwise. They want to be involved in that person's life, and still bring him or her up in conversation way too often.”

As you most likely know deep down, continuing to scroll through your ex’s Instagram or watching his or her Snapchat story every day isn’t going to help you get over the breakup. According to Dr. Ramani Durvasula, psychologist and author of Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship With a Narcissist, “Social media has been documented to really complicate the ‘mourning process’ in a relationship. Anything that maintains false hope, continued contact, regret and rumination is not good for you,” she says.

If you can’t help yourself, try unfollowing them on all social media platforms, and block them from seeing your posts as well. It might seem harsh, but it will be easier to forget once they aren’t popping up all over your News Feed. Plus, this way you won’t be able to send any (drunken) messages or Snaps that you’ll regret the next day. Dr. Durvasula also says that you may need to distance yourself from shared friends for a short while, as they can serve as reminders of the relationship as well.

2. Continuing to text him or her

It’s natural to want closure after a breakup, but unfortunately, we don’t always get that from the other person. Constantly texting or calling your ex might make you feel better, but it will only drive them further away. “Technology lets us talk first and think later,” says Dr. Durvasula. “Those little technological hiccups (late night text, social media comment) can set back the process of healing and letting go, and because it is so easy to be so quick with it, [it] is often where mistakes are made.” In order to remove the temptation, Dr. Durvasula suggests deleting his or her phone number completely.

If you still find yourself wanting to talk to him or her, try putting your thoughts down on paper instead. Write a letter (with or without the intention of sending it), listing everything you couldn’t say. Just getting the words out of your head is therapeutic in itself, regardless of if you want to send the letter—or even read it.

3. Obsessing over the “what ifs”

It’s easy to feel regret after a breakup, but chances are, you did as much as you could. Don’t stress over what could have occurred or what you might have done instead. Everything happens for a reason, and sometimes people you really care about do end up hurting you. Try to remind yourself that you can’t control other individuals. You are only responsible for your own actions, so be confident in your decisions.

Dr. Durvasula lists self-care as a healthy way to deal with a breakup. Elements of self-care include “sleep, exercise, pampering, healthy food (and good food), time with friends and loved ones, hobbies and reinvention (learning something new, traveling, trying new things),” she says.

Related: 6 Things You Should Never Do After a Breakup

4. Isolating yourself

Right after a breakup, some of us just want to curl up in bed and never come out. If you need to, take a few days to relax with your favorite TV show or book, but don’t isolate yourself for too long. “In terms of coming to terms with [the breakup] on your own—time, distraction, meaningful activities, support, therapy, avoiding contact with the past and him [or her]—these help with your process of letting go,” says Dr. Durvasula.

Even if it feels difficult, reach out to a friend, a family member or someone else you trust. Let them know that you and your partner broke up, and that you’re hurting. Try your best to tell them what you need on their end, whether that’s the occasional text checking in or to sleep over at their place. It’s important to surround yourself with the people who love you unconditionally and to understand that although you’ve lost someone, you aren’t alone.

5. Turning down new people

While it isn’t advisable to jump into a rebound relationship right after a breakup, there is no harm in going on a few dates or trying to meet new people. If you’re saying no to potential suitors just because they aren’t your ex, you could be missing out on someone great for you. “It is OK to be tentative when you first date,” says Dr. Durvasula. “There is no…magic number of days. If I had a rule of thumb, four to six weeks is often enough time to get through the initial bumps and reinvigorate yourself so you can start slowly meeting people again.”

Rather than comparing everyone to the last person you were with, look for the unique qualities in each individual. It’s probably not advisable to go for someone exactly like the guy or girl you just broke up with, anyway. “Do not talk about the ex on any of your first ten dates,” Dr. Durvasula says. “It’s bad form.” Be self-reflective, and if a new flirtation is a good distraction, there’s no harm in that!

6. Holding on to reminders of the relationship

If you still have pictures on your wall or articles of their clothing in your drawers, get rid of them! You don’t have to throw everything out if something is extremely sentimental to you, but at least hide it away for the time being. Don’t dwell, and definitely don’t listen to your song over and over while you cry. Why torture yourself like that? You can also cleanse your social media pages of pictures of the two of you together if that will help you move on. How are you supposed to stop thinking about this person if reminders of them are all over the place?

“Closure is a personal process,” says Dr. Durvasula. “[It’s] not dictated by someone else. [He/she] may make it more difficult, but setting up the proper ‘firewalls’ is important when letting go in a clean way.”

7. Blaming yourself

Regardless of who actually ended the relationship, you are probably both a little bit at fault—or maybe you just weren’t right for one another. It takes two people to be in a relationship and two people to end it. The worst thing you can do is to continuously ask yourself what you did wrong. You might not have done anything! Blaming yourself for things not working out won’t bring your ex back, and it will only make you feel worse. If you did make a mistake, try to forgive yourself.

You can reflect further on what happened when you have a little more distance from the situation. For now, try distracting yourself with your passions and hobbies. Try your hand at a stress-relieving coloring book, find some new music or change up your room. Dr. Durvasula also says to “be aware of your vulnerable times.” Mornings can be the hardest, or maybe you are a late-night texter. If you need to, “block him [or her] or have a friend you call to stop you,” she says.

Breakups aren’t easy, and we tend to make them even harder on ourselves. Rather than over-thinking or dwelling on the past, try your best to move forward a little bit every day. According to Dr. Durvasula, “Time does heal…We don't know the number of days until that magic day when you get over the hump and it is palpable. Trusting the process is very hard when you have a broken heart—but just like you know that the moon will be full in 28 days even if it is not tonight—healing will come.” Look to the future, and remember to be kind to yourself. You will get through this!

7 Fast & Healthy Breakfast Ideas

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As every busy collegiette knows, setting the time aside to enjoy a healthy breakfast in the morning is no easy task. Whether you’re on the run to an 8 a.m. lecture, preparing to start the morning at your internship or headed to work for an early shift at your part-time job, it’s critical that you fuel your body with a nutritious meal in the morning. If you’re in a rut about what to choose for your morning meal, we’re here to help with a few budget-friendly and tasty ideas that can be prepared the night before or thrown together quickly in the morning so you won’t be left scrambling.

1. Fruit and yogurt

Calcium is a necessary mineral, especially for us collegiettes, and an easy way to start your morning off with this essential element of your diet is with a serving of yogurt. For additional protein, which will help to curb your cravings throughout the day by keeping you fuller longer, choose a 6-oz cup of Greek yogurt, which often contains 15 to 20 grams of protein.

To ensure that you’re working towards your recommended five-a-day servings of fruit and veggies, add a piece of fresh fruit to your breakfast. Whether it’s a piece of whole fruit (such as a banana) that you consume in addition to your yogurt or sliced fruit (such as berries) that you add to the yogurt, you’ll be adding vitamins and flavor to the rest of your meal. Throw in a handful of nuts like walnuts or almonds for additional healthy fats. This easy breakfast is one that is easy to grab while running out the door in the morning. You can also prepare it in advance and keep it refrigerated in a Tupperware container.

2. Overnight oats

Food bloggers and savvy ladies everywhere have been raving about overnight oats for years. Oatmeal is not only delicious, but it's also a top choice for its nutritional content and its price, which fits well in a college budget. If you have some free time the night before, follow this easy recipe for a tasty treat.

Base:

  • Combine equal parts raw rolled oats, milk and yogurt (about ½ cup of each) in a bowl.
  • Use any kind of milk or yogurt that you’d like, but we recommend low-fat or fat-free milk.
  • Place in your fridge overnight, either covered or uncovered, so that the oats can absorb the milk and the yogurt. You can also add chia seeds to your recipe, which are full of healthy omega-3 fatty acids and will add texture to the oatmeal as they absorb the liquid overnight.

Toppings:

  • Add any toppings you would like, such as dried or fresh fruit, nuts or a scoop of almond or peanut butter.
  • Toppings can be added the night before or in the morning.
  • Don’t add anything that you wouldn’t enjoy eating soggy in the morning, such as crunchy granola or cereal, or wait to add them until the morning.

When you wake up, the oatmeal’s consistency will be a lot like regular cooked oatmeal (but slightly thicker) and ready to eat, as all of the liquids have been absorbed in the oats during the night.

3. Fruit smoothie

A nutritious fruit smoothie is a great on-the-go option for when you have only a few minutes to get ready for the day because it’s easy to prepare and refrigerate the night before. Here’s a yummy banana berry smoothie recipe from AllRecipes.com that will energize you for the day ahead and will only take about five minutes to make.

Ingredients:

  • 1 banana, chunked (can be fresh or frozen)
  • 1 cup raspberries (can be fresh or frozen)
  • ¼ cup vanilla yogurt
  • ¾ cup orange juice

Combine all ingredients in a blender and blend until smooth. For additional protein, you can add silken tofu, protein powder or liquid egg whites. The recipe makes two servings, so feel free to share the second serving with your roommate or save it for the next morning.

4. Whole wheat bread with peanut butter and banana slices

Just like the fruit and yogurt pair combines protein from the yogurt and other great nutrients from the fruit, this easy breakfast idea does the same while also adding whole grains and healthy carbohydrates from the bread. Simply toast a piece or two of whole wheat bread, and then add your favorite peanut butter spread. If you’re allergic to peanut butter, you can substitute sunflower butter or almond butter for a similar taste and texture. Finally, slice a banana and add the pieces to your toast as desired. You could also add a sprinkle of cinnamon or drizzle a teaspoon of honey over it, too. It only takes a few minutes to prepare, and it’s so satisfying!

5. 3-Ingredient mini banana pancakes

As the title of this recipe from Eugenie Kitchen implies, you won’t need to spend too much money on ingredients. The main ingredients in this recipe are nutritious as well, and the recipe is flourless, low in calories and gluten-free. With prep time and cooking, it will only set you back about 10 minutes.

Ingredients:

  • 1 ½ large ripe bananas
  • 2 eggs
  • 1/8 teaspoon baking powder

Instructions:

  • Crack the two eggs into a bowl and whisk together.
  • In a separate bowl, mash the banana with a fork or masher, but do not over-mash, as this will cause your pancakes to not be fluffy. Be sure to use enough egg to hold the mashed banana together, but make sure that you don’t use too much banana, or else the pancake will not hold.
  • Combine both bowls of ingredients together and stir.
  • Cook over medium-low heat, using only about one to two tablespoons of batter for each.
  • Once the baking powder is activated, flip the pancake over and allow it to cook for an additional minute.
  • Serve with blueberries, butter and maple syrup. The recipe makes a serving of 10 miniature pancakes.

6. Banana, yogurt and walnut muffins

This healthy muffin recipe from Women's Health serves the dual purpose of filling you up in the morning as well as fighting PMS symptoms, due to the nutrients in the bananas, the calcium and vitamin D in the yogurt and the magnesium in the walnuts. Since you can prepare a batch of these muffins the night before, you’ll be able to easily grab one in the morning on your way out the door, and they’ll even last you all week for you and your roommates—the recipe makes 18 muffins.

Ingredients:

  • ¼ cup oatmeal
  • ½ cup rice flour
  • ¼ cup ground flaxseed
  • 1 tsp baking powder
  • 1 tsp baking soda
  • 2 eggs, beaten
  • ¼ cup plain yogurt
  • 3 medium ripe bananas, mashed
  • ½ cup agave syrup
  • 1/3 cup grapeseed oil
  • ¼ cup walnut pieces

Instructions:

  • Preheat your oven to 375 degrees Fahrenheit.
  • Combine the oatmeal, flour, flaxseed, baking powder and baking soda in a bowl.
  • In a separate bowl, combine the eggs, yogurt, bananas, syrup and oil. Fold into the other mixture.
  • Divide your batter into baking cups and bake for 20-22 minutes, or until the tops spring back when lightly touched.

7. Easy egg white omelet

As we said earlier, a protein-packed breakfast is a sensible option to curb your hunger and help you stay focused. This recipe from The Food Network will take you only about 15 minutes to prepare—and we promise it’s worth waking up those few minutes earlier to make.

Ingredients:

  • 1 teaspoon extra virgin olive oil
  • ¼ of a small onion, finely chopped
  • 1 finely chopped plum tomato
  • ½ cup spinach
  • Salt and pepper
  • 3 egg whites
  • 1/2 tablespoon water
  • Nonstick cooking spray

Instructions:

  • Use a small skillet to add the onions, tomatoes, spinach and a small pinch of salt to the oil, cooking for about three to five minutes over medium heat until the onion is soft.
  • Add pepper to taste, in addition to a second pinch of salt, and cook for another minute before removing the spinach mixture from the heat to a separate bowl. Cover and keep warm.
  • In a separate medium-sized bowl, whisk together the egg whites, water and a pinch each of salt and pepper until the mixture is frothy.
  • Coat your skillet with nonstick cooking spray and heat over medium heat before adding the egg whites.
  • Add egg whites while swirling them evenly in order to cover the bottom of the pan. Cook for about two minutes.
  • Using a rubber scraper, lift the eggs up and let the runny, uncooked portion of the egg mixture flow underneath. Spoon the vegetable mixture onto half of the omelet. Fold over and place onto a plate.

With these quick and nutritious options to choose from, you’ll never skip the most important meal of the day. Since these recipes are easy and fun to prepare and work well on a college budget, breakfast may just end up being your favorite meal!

We Can't BELIEVE Which Artists Didn't Get Grammy Nominations

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Yesterday, the Grammy nominees were announced and although we are thrilled for some of them—Kendrick Lamar, Ed Sheeran, Taylor Swift, Bruno Mars and Marc Ronson to name a few—there are somewhere around16 artists who we think were totally snubbed. Here are some of our favorite musicians who were not recognized. 

Canadian Pop Princess Carly Rey Jepson’s latest album Emotion, her second studio album offering her usual brand of bubblegum-popping fun, went unnoticed on the ballot along with what could be One Direction’s final album for a long, long time, Four.

Owner of two No. 1 acclaimed rap albums, Future’s third album DS2 did not even make the cut this year at the Grammys. The nearly 20-year-old rock band Sleater-Kinney was not nominated either for their latest album No Cities to Love featuring the well-known track “Bury Our Friends.” Dream queen Lana Del Rey’s fourth album Honeymoon with such tracks as “High by the Beach,” and “Music to Watch Boys To” was also shut down along with Beck’s zany single Dreams which peaked at No. 3 on the U.S. Rock Airplay Chart. Rising Jersey rapper and songwriter Fetty Wap, known for his smash hit “Trap Queen,” wasn’t given a nod either.

“New Americana” singer Halsey, who stood out at Madison Square Garden last August, was not appreciated for her manic millennial anthems.

Perhaps the biggest stars to be snubbed however are Beyoncé and Nicki Minaj who collaborated on “Feeling Myself.” Minaj was nominated for best rap collaboration for “Only,” with Drake, Lil’ Wayne and Chris Brown and her album The Pinkprint received a best rap album nomination.

Quite a few of the 2016 Grammy nominees are returning artists or artists already circulating wildly in the media. We're hoping next time the Grammys will give others a chance.

Order our Book, The Her Campus Guide to College Life, NOW!

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Hey collegiettes!

We know you love reading HC on your laptops, your smartphones, and your tablets... but now you can truly curl up with HC because our first-ever book, The Her Campus Guide to College Life, just hit stores!

Order your copy online here or head to your local Barnes & Noble! And be sure to check out our upcoming schedule of book signing events and see if we're coming to your area!

The Her Campus Guide to College Life: How to Manage Relationships, Stay Safe and Healthy, Handle Stress, and Have the Best Years of Your Life covers everything you need to know to rock college, from how to get along with your roommates to how to avoid the 'freshman 15', deal with tough professors, snag internships, decide whether to study abroad, and much, much more.

Whether you're already an upperclassman or are just getting ready to go off to college next fall, this book has everything you need to survive and thrive on campus when it comes to all aspects of your life. Our book also includes handy resources like a template roommate contract, dorm room grocery list, and more.

Want a sneak preview? Read an excerpt from our book here then order your copy!

I can't wait to hear what you think!

HC Love,
Stephanie Kaplan Lewis, Co-founder, CEO & Editor-in-Chief of Her Campus

 

 

5 Things You Should Know Before Going to a Gay Bar

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You and your friends are making plans for this weekend, when an idea hits. Why not go to a gay bar? You’ve never been before, and not everyone in the group is queer, but they’re all supportive allies. You settle the plans with your group and everyone is excitedly getting ready. But you want to make sure you’re prepared—after all, it is your first time. This is our guide to going to a gay bar for beginners who don’t know exactly what to expect.

1. You can go just to make friends

You don’t have to be on the lookout for a new significant other to go to a gay or lesbian bar. You can go just to make friends. 

Bailey Winter, a senior at Columbia University, says that she’s met a few friends at events held at the gay bar she usually goes to. “I’ve talked to people at drag shows, and Halloween parties,” she says. “I’ve also met queer people on campus at QSA events and then we all decided to go to a gay bar after. It’s a great place to bring new friends if you don’t know what else to do.”

It’s worth striking up a conversation with someone at a gay bar who seems cool. Compliment their outfit, or ask what school they’re from, and see where it goes. You never know who will make a great friend down the road. 

However, Jonathan Major, a first year graduate student at Bay Path University, says that he’s had trouble in the past with meeting new people at gay bars.

“[Something] I've noticed about the gay bar is how there is no mingling,” he says about the gay bar he usually went to in undergrad. “This is most likely because of everyone just wanting to stay with their friends.” 

It may not necessary be the ideal place to meet new people, but it's definitely worth a shot!

Related:6 Ways to Find Love on a Small Campus

2. Your straight/ally friends can come too

Across the board, everyone we have talked to about gay bars echoes one thing: straight friends and allies are definitely welcome, as long as they’re comfortable coming along.

Lucy Hallowell, a writer for AfterEllensays that allies just need to remember to respect queer spaces“I think the main thing to remember if you are an ally in a queer space is that this space is not for you,” she says. 

Basically, if you're a straight girl and a guy asks you to dance, don't take advantage of the location by pretending to be in a relationship with another girl. Also remember to be respectful of everyone in the bar, because there's a good chance you'll see varying sexualities and gender identities, along with people dressed in drag. 

It’s important to also remember that if you’re planning on bringing someone, you should make sure they feel comfortable around queer people.

“I would only bring people you know would be comfortable,” says Sara*, a recent graduate of Westfield State University. “Don't try to bring someone to a gay bar to ‘change their mind’ about or ‘desensitize them’ to LGBTQ+ culture, life or people. Leave the negativity at home.”

As long as your straight ally friends want to go and feel completely comfortable, they are most definitely welcome.

3. You don’t have to flirt with anyone—but you can if you want

Just like at any other bar, it’s up to the individual whether or not to flirt with others. You can go to a gay bar and flirt, but you certainly don’t have to. The benefit, of course, for an LGBTQ+ bar-goer, is that there’s a higher likelihood of finding someone in your dating pool at a gay bar than at your college town favorite.

“You totally can flirt, people do it all the time,” says Dannielle Owens-Reid, co-founder of Everyone is Gay and co-host of Coupla Questions. “Just be respectful and don't be creepy!”

Matt Richardson, a senior at Westfield State University, says he felt comfortable going to a gay bar with friends without looking to hook up. “There definitely wasn't an expectation to flirt, but it felt like everyone was all over each other,” he says.

Play the evening by ear. If you go out that night and find that you're in the mood to flirt and try to meet someone, go for it! If not, it will still be a super fun night.

4. You can bring your significant other or a date

Just like at other bars, it’s perfectly normal to bring a significant other or a new date with you to a gay bar.

Emily Lee, a senior at the University of California, Berkeley, brings her long-term girlfriend with her to a gay bar all the time. “We both like to drink and dance, and so do our friends,” she says. “We never know if we’ll get weird looks for holding hands on any other date, but at a gay or lesbian bar, it’s the norm.”

If you and your SO both like bars, a gay bar is an excellent option that may be more comfortable than traditional date venues if you’re in a same-sex relationship.

“Bring your girlfriend, boyfriend, that person you kind of like but only have weird moments with— moments that you have been dissecting for weeks,” Hallowell says.

Sometimes you don’t know where you stand with someone you’re sort of seeing, and asking them out to a bar can give you the opportunity to figure out where you stand, minus the pressure.

Related: 7 of the Most Legendary Gay Bars in the Country

5. You should research the bar you're going to in advance

Gay bars tend to mirror the atmosphere at other bars, which is to say that it varies greatly from bar to bar. Do as much research as possible into the particular bar you’re going to beforehand. Ask others who have gone what it’s like, check the bar out online, look for reviews, and see if they have any special events going on the night you’re planning to attend. Research can help set the expectations before you show up. 

Just because it’s labeled a “gay bar” doesn’t automatically mean it’s all-inclusive of the LGBTQ+ community. Some bars cater more toward women, while others focus on men. Additionally, plenty of bars host just a “lesbian night” or a “gay guys’ night” and these are obviously more targeted toward a specific gender.

Matt was often one of the only guys when he went to a gay bar's college nights with friends. This made it difficult for him to flirt, as there weren’t really any other guys he could approach.

If your intent in going to a gay bar is to hook up, flirt or meet a new romantic partner, it’s a great idea to do your research and see if the bar caters to one gender. If the bar holds specific ladies’ or guys’ nights as well, that can help you to choose which night to make an appearance.

Going to a gay bar is, overall, very similar to going to any other bar, with the key difference being that LGBTQ+ people are found in much higher numbers at a gay bar. The atmosphere still largely depends on where you go, which friends you bring along, your attitude, and what the scene is like among the crowd in attendance.

“Go with an open mind, don't be afraid to get out there and dance, and remember that the worst thing that might happen is you try it and you hate it,” Hallowell says.

We couldn’t agree more. Whether you’re a gay or bisexual college lady looking to find a new girlfriend or hookup, or an ally attending as a wingman or supportive friend, a gay bar is just another adventure for your next weekend in college.

The 5 Most Gorgeous Coats for Curvy Girls

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When winter hits and temperatures drop, chic outerwear is the name of the game. Since your coat becomes the dominant piece of your outfit, don’t hold back when it comes to making a bold outerwear statement. We've compiled some of our favorite coats to accommodate any body type—without swallowing you up. 

1. Go bold or go home

Steve Madden Blanket Wrap Coat, $139.90

We say the bolder, the better. Nothing is cooler than this Aztec print, perfect for branching away from the bland winter neutral color palette. 

2. Blavy

Faux Leather & Faux Fur Trim Asymmetrical Wool Blend Coat, $209.90

Ignore the rule about mixing black and navy—this coat is too fabulous to resist! Leather sleeves give this an edgy vibe, and the fur-lined collar makes this perfect for fighting off chilly temps. We vote it's worth the splurge.

3. Open and oversized

Oversized Waterfall Coat, $171

We're head over heels in love with this style! The website recommends ordering a size down for a more fitted silhouette. 

4. Light and bright

Pink Pea Coat, $89.99

Rock your pastels to venture from the dreary winter colors. You'll brighten up the room no matter where you go!

5. Plaid

Forever 21 Longline Belted Plaid Coat, $21.45

This longer coat will definitely keep you warm while satisfying your plaid fix. 

Rock these coats with confidence this winter, ladies!

University Presidents Make an Insane Amount of Money

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While college students and recent grads continue to struggle with tuition costs and student loans, university presidents are living more comfortably than ever, according to an annual survey done by The Chronicle of Higher Education. In 2013, presidents at the 497 private colleges surveyed earned an average of $436,000—a 5.6 percent increase from the previous year. Thirty-two presidents make over $1 million a year.

Lee C. Bollinger, President of Columbia University and the highest earning university executive in the country, made a total of $4,615,230 in 2013, accounting for both base and bonus pay. That's over $1 million more than he made in the previous year. The second highest earning president, Amy Gutmann of the University of Pennsylvania, made a total of $3,065,746—almost $1.5 million of which came from bonuses.

Most of the top earners come from big-name schools, such as Vanderbilt, Tulane, Johns Hopkins, New York University and the University of Southern California. But rounding out the top ten are some smaller schools as well: High Point University, Yeshiva University and Rockefeller University.

A separate survey done by The Chronicle also found that presidents’ salaries at public universities, while more modest than their counterparts at private colleges, are on the rise as well. Two public university presidents made over $1 million—Rodney A. Erickson of Pennsylvania State, who made $1,494,603 in 2013, and R. Bowen Loftin of Texas A&M, who made $1,128,957.

Why do university heads rake in so much dough?

“From talking to boards of trustees, often what we hear is that they’ll pay whatever they have to to retain the talent at their institutions,” Sandhya Kambhampati of The Chronicle told The New York Times. “There’s a finite number of people available for these positions.”

Some universities have spoken out in defense of their presidents’ high salaries. “Under [President Bollinger’s] leadership, we see Columbia is performing at a level and achieving a standing it has not enjoyed in many years, solidifying its place at the top rank of the world’s great universities,” said Columbia’s Board of Trustees chair Jonathan D. Schiller in a statement, according to The New York Times.

David L. Cohen, the Board of Trustees chair at University of Pennsylvania, expressed similar sentiments about President Gutmann. “We believe she is the best university president in the country, and being No. 2 in The Chronicle rankings is consistent with that positioning," he told The Chronicle. “If you’re going to recruit and retain the type of talent that you need to run a university of this complexity and to continue to advance this university’s reputation… you have to fairly compensate individuals for doing that job.”

But is making multi-millionaires of university presidents really fair compensation? Maybe not, when you think about the students and their families who are scrambling to get loans and scholarships to make their next tuition bill—which, at many private schools, totals more than $60,000 a year.


What it Means to Be a Feminist in College

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Our ears rang with feminism’s definition when Beyoncé dropped her “Flawless” track in 2014. There it was—right in our faces and in simple terms. “Feminist: a person who believes in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes,” echoed the voice of Nigerian novelist Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. There was no disputing this tried-and-true definition amidst the grooves of an empowering, up-tempo anthem.

Whether you spend your days on campus discussing the gender wage gap with anybody who’ll listen, or you are still grappling with how that label applies to you, it’s important to know where the feminist movement originated from, misconceptions associated with feminism, and what it means to be a modern feminist.

A brief lesson in feminism

It is common to speak of the feminist movement in terms of three phases. The first wave of feminism is characterized by events during the late 19th century to the early 20th century. During this period, women fought for basic rights, such as the right to vote and the right to own property. Second wave feminism began in the 1960s and continued into the 1990s. Social equality was the focus here, with the fight for sexual and reproductive rights at the forefront of the movement. The mid-1990s and on marks the period known as third wave feminism, in which combatting sexual objectification and gender-based harassment is the top priority.

According to Dr. Diane Balser, co-director of undergraduate studies for women’s, gender and sexuality studies at Boston University, feminism is “an organized social movement that challenges the subordination of women.” Despite feeling there has never been one solid, agreed-upon definition or ideology behind feminism, she believes fighting sexism is what has united all supporters of the cause throughout the years.

“Sexism toward females is the underlying basis of feminism. People add all sorts of other issues and they have different philosophies, but to me sexism has to be at the core,” explains Balser. 

Racism, classism and other oppressions can also overlap with feminism. Nevertheless, working to eliminate gender discrimination and inequality is what’s at the center of the movement. Today, the rise of sexual violence on college campuses has been a prevalent issue that Dr. Balser says she sees concerning students. This, coupled with the desire to see equal treatment between women and men, is helping prompt college feminists to join the ranks of feminists of the past.  

Feminism, as defined by collegiettes

Feminism is often given a bad rep, having associations with bra-burning, unshaven legs and man-bashing stereotypes. But the college feminist of today is far from a man-hater ready to throw her Victoria’s Secret underthings into a bursting flame. Instead, many collegiettes adhere to the textbook definition of feminism, supporting the equality of both men and women—not a woman’s superiority over a man.

“To me, feminism means gender equality,” says Megan Sweet, a junior at Michigan State University. “It means both women and men having equal opportunities and mutual respect for one another.”

For many collegiettes, feminism’s definition is as simple as that, with gender equality being of the utmost importance. But to some college feminists, there’s more to the movement. For Sara Heath, a senior at Assumption College, there is way too much focus on one gender versus the other. She believes the movement is really about showcasing a woman’s value.

“Being a feminist means showing people that the most important thing about me is what is in my head and my heart,” said Sara. “All I want as a woman is to be valued for my passion and my intellect.”

Challenges with identifying as a feminist

Feminism’s negative stereotypes have made it difficult for some collegiettes to identify with the movement. They admit they’ve been hesitant in the past to proudly speak up as feminists even if they believed they were supporters of the cause. Dani Kluss, a freshman at California Lutheran University, recalls an incident in which she was reluctant to raise her hand in class when a presenter asked who was a feminist.

“Many people think that feminists are men-hating, men-shaming, slut-shaming and bossy,” Kluss says of the stereotype.

After a deep breath, she said she shot her hand into the air, only to find that only one other student joined her in identifying as a feminist. Feminism can be often perceived as an angry movement, which keeps many students from speaking out in favor of its cause. Without an accurate understanding of the movement, many college students may believe identifying as a feminist means saying they believe women are better than men. Out of this fear of placing one gender over the other, many collegiettes have rejected openly presenting themselves as feminists.

“I wasn’t a feminist at all going into freshman year, because I associated it with so many negative stereotypes I had learned growing up,” says Annie Blanks, a senior at Sewanee. “But now that I'm a senior, have taken women's studies courses, made friends from all around the country and have experienced the world through traveling and study abroad, feminism has become a central part of my identity.”

It is difficult for many to look past the aggressive stigmas associated with feminism. In reality, though, it’s a positive movement that is inclusive to improving the lives of all, explains Julie Zeilinger, author of A Little F’d Up: Why Feminism is Not a Dirty Word.

It doesn’t seek to angrily attack certain groups, but rather attempts to create the type of world we all would ideally like to live in,” says Zeilinger.

Simply learning feminism’s true definition can be a game changer when deciding whether or not to identify as a feminist. Rachel Petty, a sophomore at James Madison University, quickly changed her mind about feminism once she realized feminists are not sexist.

“Once I learned the real definition a few years ago, I now always identify as a feminist,” said Rachel. “Feminism means women getting the same rights as men, not hating men.”

Why collegiettes embrace feminism

While some shy away from the thought of being a feminist, many collegiettes believe sharing their voices is the only way to solicit change (after all, if a 4-year-old can stand up for herself, then so can we!). Katie Barry, a Boston University sophomore, says she’s always challenging her peers to question the gender system in place by expressing herself and encouraging others to do the same.

“I would absolutely consider myself a feminist,” says Katie. “Ambition, success, leadership and confidence are associated with masculinity, but I choose to openly chase all of those things, red lipstick in tow.”

Despite the strides women have made, the social and economic inequality still present encourages many college students to support feminism. Sarah Beth Kaye, a senior at Rutgers University, is passionate about being a community organizer for gender equality. She insists an environment in which women can thrive and succeed is only possible if women are free from the same criticisms that don’t affect their male counterparts.  

“Women need to work together to ensure the safety of all women and to create an environment of support for women to grow intellectually, socially, and politically throughout their university career,” said Sarah.

Aleixka Macfie-Hernendez, a sophomore at James Madison University, is also proud to call herself a feminist, emphasizing that feminists aren’t seeking to overpower males.  

“When I graduate and land the job of my dreams, I want an equal pay band. I want to be promoted and be told that I too can be considered as the head of the household, the one who also has the opportunity to provide for the family,” says Aleixka.

Like Aleixka, many collegiettes believe it is necessary to embrace feminism in order to prove women can do anything men can do. There’s nothing wrong with channeling our inner Elle Woods and going against what’s expected of us—all while wearing heels and a skirt, too, if we so choose! 

The college feminist of today

Many collegiettes believe that you cannot pinpoint what today’s feminist looks like, despite the stereotypes continued from the past. They agree that college feminists are simply comfortable in their own skin and are free to express themselves the way they see fit.

“The college feminist is likely sitting next to you and you don’t even know it. There’s no standard for what one looks like,” says Zarah Kavarana, a women’s studies minor at Boston University.

What she enjoys most about modern or third wave feminism is its inclusion of men, whose support she believes is a key to gender equality. Zeilinger would agree that today’s collegiettes are enthusiastic about embracing intersectionality and male feminists more so than the feminists of the past.

“I think the college-aged feminist is arguably more dedicated to being inclusive of all and approaching feminism from an intersectional framework than ever before,” Zeilinger says, adding, “Our generation understands that in order for any of us to progress, we all must progress together and are committed to making this happen.”

She has observed that the power of the Internet has largely shaped modern-day feminism.

Blogging, social media-based activism and forms of online organization have helped connect college feminists more than ever. They follow in the footsteps of first and second wave feminists, all while joining forces with their male counterparts and ignoring the negative stereotypes of the past.

Being a feminist in college doesn’t mean you have to be a feminism expert or fit into a certain mold. With the movement being as inclusive as it is, it’s okay, too, to have questions about identifying as a feminist—just keep an open mind, ask questions, and be informed about what the movement is trying to achieve. We’ll say this, though—as long as you believe in equality no matter what your gender or gender identity, you are certainly a feminist—even Queen Bey herself will back you up on that. 

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Fairy Girl Cosmetics is a cruelty-free 100% vegan matte lipstick line. Fairy Girl lipsticks are made with a combination of nurturing ingredients like organic cocoa butter, Hawaiian coconut, Kukui nut, and Argan oils, avocado, jojoba, and Castor seed, and a portion of all purchases is donated to PETA. These lipsticks are a safe, healthy way to make your lipstick troubles a thing of the past! They’re free of parabens, artificial dyes, and fragrances, and they come in every color a girl could ask for—what more could you want in a lipstick?

Fairy Girl is about celebrating the beautiful feminine strength in women everywhere. Fairy Girl Cosmetics is about loving yourself—and when you look good, you feel good!

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Blake Lively is Officially a Member of Taylor Swift's Squad

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The future is now—our two favorite blondes have joined forces and announced it to the world via Instagram. This reveal was a gradual one. Taylor Swift had been posting pictures of herself in Australia on a much-deserved break this week. We thought we were excited about her becoming BFFs with a baby kangaroo, but then we saw who her actual newest squad member was.


 

A photo posted by Taylor Swift (@taylorswift) on

That's right, collegiettes! Blake Lively, who still holds a special place in our hearts as Serena Van der Woodsen, has been hanging with T-Swift this week, and we think that together, they can own the pop culture scene.

Related: This Song on Adele's New Album Was Inspired by Taylor Swift

Blake, who has made an amazing comeback into the Hollywood scene after giving birth to her daughter, James (who is about to turn 1!) is the perfect new addition to Taylor's crew. She and Taylor have always been class acts who enjoy the cozy things in life, like baking cupcakes and reading a good book, and together they can be the ones to make staying in be the new partying, which we wouldn't mind at all!

So, what do you think, collegiettes? Are you as excited as we are to see what else these two wonderful ladies do next? 

The Harsh Reality of Beauty Through the Decades

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Although we have a general idea of what beauty was like throughout the decades, we often don't look at the harsh realities that these women faced beyond the surface.

Karolina Żebrowska decided to create a video to illustrate a more truthful representation of what beauty was like throughout the decades.

"As a person interested in the history of fashion and beauty it really bugged me how inaccurate some of these are," she wrote on her blog. She then told Refinery29, "I felt that the other videos were completely unrealistic and there was a sense of fakeness that really irritated me."

In her video, Żebrowska features suffragists, domestic workers, women struggling in the Great Depression and nurses in the Army. The video gives a more accurate representation of what these women were really like.

Her video is not only interesting, but educational. Watch it below:

6 Things You're Doing That are Jeopardizing Your Mental Health

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You should know by now how important it is to take care of yourself. Maybe you always make sure to get enough sleep or you work out regularly. Perhaps you get health checkups every few months. But what about your mental health? It’s so important to keep a healthy state of mind during the hectic, disruptive time that is college—and it’s all too easy to forget. So, are you really as healthy as you think? We rounded up a few of the little habits that could be hurting your mental health.

1. You slouch on your way to class

Picture this: it’s Monday morning and you’d rather be going anywhere else than your 9 a.m. lecture. So you drag your feet and shrug your shoulders as you make your way to the classroom. But did you know you might actually feel better about the week ahead if you held your head high and strutted your stuff across campus?

Studies show that slouching lowers your energy and can make you feel depressed. If you walk confidently (or sit up straight when you’re studying), you’ll feel much better equipped to take on what the day has to offer! It’s such an easy fix.

2. You weigh yourself too often

If you’re desperately avoiding the freshman 15, monitoring your weight can seem like the thing to do. This could harm your self-esteem, since there is a good chance that your weight will fluctuate in college. In fact, researchers have demonstrated that weighing yourself daily is correlated to negative body image and restricting your diet.

Miriam Smallman, a senior at George Washington University, says she’s had some experience with “becoming fixated on a number.” For the collegiette, “it can devolve quickly into obsessing about a perfect weight as a number rather than a healthy weight range focused on how one feels and non-scale accomplishments.”

Remember that your weight is just a number! You should be focusing on feeling your best by exercising and eating foods that feel right for you. It’s totally normal for your weight to fluctuate and it can be due to many different factors—don’t let it get you down.

Related: 9 Ways to Love Yourself More

3. You don’t talk your problems out

If you’re still adjusting to your campus, you might not feel comfortable enough to open up to anyone. It’s so important to have a solid support system of people who will be there for you no matter what!

Emily Platt, a junior at Vassar College who has served as a student mentor and advisor, has noticed her peers struggling. “Students are often really afraid to ask for help, and are especially afraid to make an appointment at counseling,” Emily says. “Something we really, really try to emphasize is that asking for help is completely okay and so important! When students take it upon themselves to self-medicate, they become super overwhelmed and it usually makes things worse.”

You shouldn’t try to fix your problems—medical or otherwise—alone. Talk to a friend, your RA, a campus counselor or even a local helpline!

4. You don’t take time to relax

With a schedule like yours, it’s easy to feel guilty about taking time off from homework and meetings—you shouldn’t feel bad about it! Especially if you consider that stress can lead to bad mood and even depression, you’ll understand taking time for yourself not as laziness but as necessary to your health and well-being.

Emily has noticed that many people don’t take care of themselves enough. “It's really important to know what activities relax and soothe you when you're feeling extra stressed, anxious, or down,” she says. “It's really different for everyone, though. Be it listening to music, watching Netflix, going for a run, or taking a nap, there are tons of methods of self-care out there, but most students don't even realize self-care is a thing!”

You deserve some “me” time after working your butt off! So kick back, relax and take care of yourself. Your overall health will improve—promise.

5. You don’t exercise regularly

Exercising is healthy all around (as long as you’re not overdoing it!). It will make you feel better physically and mentally, but skipping too many workouts could have the opposite effect.

“[Not exercising is] the first step to a breakdown for me,” says Kayla Lewcowicz, a recent graduate of Colby College. “Even a long walk will do.” Kayla is so right! Any form of exercise is a great way to refocus and improve your mood.

6. You compare yourself to others

Comparing yourself to others, on social media and in real life, is a total bear trap. You can get stuck thinking that you’re not as good or as pretty or as talented as other people, when none of these things are true! Not to mention too much comparison can also negatively impact your health.

“Stalking ‘beautiful’ people on Instagram definitely subconsciously taunts me!” says Donna Amore, a senior at the University of Scranton. Ugh, we have SO been there.

“[In college, people would get upset because they compared themselves to others, especially other girls, and then feel really depressed and anxious about it,” says Alaina Leary, a recent graduate of Westfield State University.

Remember—the images that people create out on social media are not reality! And even if they were, you are just as talented and worthy as the next girl, so own it! And when in doubt, grab a friend who makes you feel good about yourself. If you’re really feeling negatively affected by social media, you could even try to take a break from them!

Are you guilty of any of these harmful habits, collegiettes? The first step to leading a healthier life is to be aware of them! Then you can talk to a friend or a trusted resource to help you lead your happiest, healthiest life—even in college.

What It Means to “Stay Woke” as a Black Woman in America

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If you are unfamiliar with the phrase “stay woke,” don’t worry. It’s just a slang way of saying that you are being socially conscious of the things happening in the news, and how things like white privilege, white supremacy, classism and misogyny play a part in these issues.

The term “woke” is often used by African Americans on social media when they are discussing Black Lives Matter issues such as police brutality and the wage gap among races, amongst others.

As a black woman in America, it’s mandatory that I “stay woke.”

Had it not been for social media sites like Tumblr and Twitter, I would not know as much as I do. They don’t teach about white privilege in a school setting, at least from my experience.

Honestly, before Tumblr, I had no idea racism was still a serious issue. Racism is not something that is blatantly obvious anymore––it has learned to hide between wage gaps, the ink of laws written by white lawmakers and micro aggressions.

“Staying woke” makes me socially aware. In general, it’s good to be socially aware. However, sometimes I wish it wasn’t mandatory for me to “stay woke.”

A lot of people think I love talking about racial injustices, gender injustices and basic human rights––I actually don’t, because it comes with a cost.

A few weeks ago, I helped the Black Student Association at my school organize an event to stand in solidarity with University of Missouri. I’m a black woman at a predominately white university, so yes, we have a Black Student Association.

After the event, a video of me speaking at the event was posted to Facebook. A former student at my school made some rude, explicit comments on the video that I refuse to even repeat. She felt that we were hopping on a “bandwagon” of people protesting all around the nation.

It wasn’t the explicit language she used that offended me. It wasn’t even her rudeness, negative opinion or arrogance that offended me. I was offended because she used the term “bandwagon.”

She suggested that students of color at Brenau University–and at other colleges across the country–were standing in solidarity because it’s cool, for media attention, for attention in general.

The Black Lives Matter movement as a whole, whether it includes solidarity moments, protests, sit-ins or civil disobedience, has never been “cool.”

The movement is not a trend. No one who stands at protests wants to be there.

When I go to protests, I don’t think it’s fun. Do I meet great people during these protests? Yes. Have I made friends for a lifetime at these protests? Yes. However, people have to understand the cost that comes with it.

Remember that when we are at these protests, it’s normally because someone has died. A mother has lost her child. A student has lost his or her best friend. Someone has lost someone.

We aren’t there to draw media attention. Media attention is a good strategy to get more momentum behind the movement, but that’s all it is. We don’t protest so we can make silly faces at a camera. We do it out of grief. We “stay woke” out of grief and despair, because so much has happened to black people as a whole in this country.

Honestly, we all want peace. We all want to get to a place where we don’t discriminate for stupid reasons like race, religion or sexuality. I would like to see this country move forward in a way that is inclusive for every single person in every intersection of existence.

I hope there is a day when people aren’t uncomfortable talking about race. I want it to be a common courtesy to ask someone, “Which pronouns do you prefer?” I want everyone to “stay woke” so I can finally rest.

The 15 Best Things About Celebrating Both Christmas and Hanukkah

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With the holidays fast approaching and the ABC Family movies in full swing, we all can't help but get excited. The holidays is one of the best times of the year for many reasons. In the overarching battle between Christmas and Hanukkah, a very important minority is being left in the dust and that is, the people who celebrate both. The stress of choosing a side for these people is overwhelming. We here at Her Campus are here to ease your pain and say: You don't have to choose! You are arguably the luckiest out of all of us. So here you go! The 15 best things about celebrating both Christmas and Hanukkah:
 

1.You get a menorah...

You'll get to explain to all of your friends why there are nine candles and only eight nights of Hanukkah.

2. AND a Christmas tree.

Because isn't that every kid's dream?

3. You learn patience...

Spreading out the gift giving to once a night over an eight night period proved to be the biggest test of patience you have encountered to this day.

4. AND instant gratification.

If tearing the nicely wrapped paper off of all of my presents in less than 30 seconds is wrong I don't want to be right.

5. You are blessed with latkes and Manischewitz...

Manischewitz > Eggnog

6. ...as well as milk and cookies.

The calories don't count if they're for Santa.

7. You get to enjoy 25 days of Christmas movies...

ABC Family coming through.

8. AND the overload of Christmas music...

Cue the Mean Girls Jingle Bell Rock dancing.

9. All while still appreciating Adam Sandler’s Hanukkah song.

Put on your yarmulkes, here comes Hanukkah.

10. It is totally acceptable to skip out on Christmas dinner and order Chinese food...

And by you I mean Chicken Lo Mein and Scallion Pancakes.

11. Or skip out on the festivities altogether and see a movie on Christmas day.

Take advantage of the lack of a refreshment line.

12. You can still garnish your yard in beautiful lights...

Santa will have no trouble finding your house.

13. AND enjoy all of the Starbucks Christmas festivities.

 

Thanks Nathan.

14. And of course double the presents!

 

We do too, Ang.

15. You get that extra special time with your family.

 

Enjoy this extra quality time, collegiettes. You'll be back on campus soon!


VIDEO: The Harsh Reality of Beauty Through the Decades

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Although we have a general idea of what beauty was like throughout the decades, we often don't look at the harsh realities that these women faced beyond the surface.

Karolina Żebrowska decided to create a video to illustrate a more truthful representation of what beauty was like throughout the decades.

"As a person interested in the history of fashion and beauty it really bugged me how inaccurate some of these are," she wrote on her blog. She then told Refinery29, "I felt that the other videos were completely unrealistic and there was a sense of fakeness that really irritated me."

In her video, Żebrowska features suffragists, domestic workers, women struggling in the Great Depression and nurses in the Army. The video gives a more accurate representation of what these women were really like.

Her video is not only interesting, but educational. Watch it below:

The 15 Best Things About Celebrating Both Christmas & Hanukkah

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With the holidays fast approaching and the ABC Family movies in full swing, we all can't help but get excited. The holidays is one of the best times of the year for many reasons. In the overarching battle between Christmas and Hanukkah, a very important minority is being left in the dust and that is, the people who celebrate both. The stress of choosing a side for these people is overwhelming. We here at Her Campus are here to ease your pain and say: You don't have to choose! You are arguably the luckiest out of all of us. So here you go! The 15 best things about celebrating both Christmas and Hanukkah:
 

1.You get a menorah...

You'll get to explain to all of your friends why there are nine candles and only eight nights of Hanukkah.

2. AND a Christmas tree.

Because isn't that every kid's dream?

3. You learn patience...

Spreading out the gift giving to once a night over an eight night period proved to be the biggest test of patience you have encountered to this day.

4. AND instant gratification.

If tearing the nicely wrapped paper off of all of my presents in less than 30 seconds is wrong I don't want to be right.

5. You are blessed with latkes and Manischewitz...

Manischewitz > Eggnog

6. ...as well as milk and cookies.

The calories don't count if they're for Santa.

7. You get to enjoy 25 days of Christmas movies...

ABC Family coming through.

8. AND the overload of Christmas music...

Cue the Mean Girls Jingle Bell Rock dancing.

9. All while still appreciating Adam Sandler’s Hanukkah song.

Put on your yarmulkes, here comes Hanukkah.

10. It is totally acceptable to skip out on Christmas dinner and order Chinese food...

And by you I mean Chicken Lo Mein and Scallion Pancakes.

11. Or skip out on the festivities altogether and see a movie on Christmas day.

Take advantage of the lack of a refreshment line.

12. You can still garnish your yard in beautiful lights...

Santa will have no trouble finding your house.

13. AND enjoy all of the Starbucks Christmas festivities.

 

Thanks Nathan.

14. And of course double the presents!

 

We do too, Ang.

15. You get that extra special time with your family.

 

Enjoy this extra quality time, collegiettes. You'll be back on campus soon!

What We Can Learn from 5 TV & Movie Characters Who Didn't Get Into Their First Choice School

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That’s right—even Hollywood isn’t safe from heartbreak every now and then. Although it may seem like your favorite TV and film stars live dream lives, a fair share of our favorite fictional characters have gotten rejected from their first choice colleges, too.

If you’ve recently received bad news from your dream school, read on to find out how these stars bounced back (and how you can too).

1. Blair Waldorf of Gossip Girl

In season two of Gossip Girl, Blair Waldorf is devastated when she finds out she hasn’t been accepted to Yale. After years of studying and hard work, she feels embarrassed to share the bad news with family and friends.

However, after opening up to Nate, she is able to find unexpected encouragement. Lesson learned: Lean on your SO, BFFs and fam during this tough time, and don't be afraid to vent your frustrations to them. They want the best for you, and they’ll understand.

2. Miley Cyrus of Hannah Montana

In season four of Hannah Montana, Miley Stewart is faced with a life-changing decision when she finds out that she's been rejected to her dream school, Stanford. The news is even harder to take when she learns that her best friend, Lilly, has been admitted. 

Miley soon learns that her lack of extracurricular activities are to blame for her rejection. She becomes even more frustrated when she realizes that she has done plenty of activities, but can't list them on her college applications without revealing her secret double life. 

Fed up, Miley decides to go on TV and publicly reveal her secret in one of the most monumental moments in Disney Channel history. From here on out, she's known only as Miley Stewart. Lesson learned: Stay true to yourself, even when faced with rejection.

3. Paris Geller of Gilmore Girls

In Gilmore Girls, guys and grades aren’t the only things that Paris and Rory get competitive about. When Paris gets rejected from Harvard, her dream school, while Rory is accepted, Paris must learn to stay focused on her own goals. This is important, as she ends up getting accepted to and attending the equally prestigious Yale—where she faces more academically competitive situations with Rory.

If you go to the same high school as your BFFs, it’s more than likely that you’ll be applying to some of the same colleges. Even if you have similar test scores and GPAs, admissions processes can be tricky, and there’s no guarantee that you’ll all get into the same school. If you’re faced with a rejection while your friend gets good news, hold your head high and have confidence that it’ll all work out for the best. Lesson learned: Avoid getting competitive with your friends.

4. Sam Montgomery of A Cinderella Story

When Sam gets rejected by her dream school, Princeton, in A Cinderella Story, she doesn’t realize that she’s actually being sabotaged by her evil step-mom and sisters. While the chances of receiving a phony rejection letter are slim, Sam’s story proves that you should always stay hopeful. Were you rejected or just waitlisted? If so, how can you improve your chances? Have you tried emailing admissions and asking for an interview? Countless pre-colliegettes find themselves getting accepted into schools late into the spring, so don’t panic yet. Lesson learned: Stay positive even when it's stressful.

5. Jill Chen of The Carrie Diaries

While Jill Chen doesn't face a straight-up college rejection in The Carrie Diaries, she does run into trouble when her and her BF West get competitive about applying to Harvard. West tells Jill that he has a better chance of being admitted because, in addition to his stellar grades, he is an athlete, has a disabled brother, and comes from a single-parent familly. 

West, worried that he will take Jill's spot in the admitted class, decides not to apply to Harvard. When he tells Jill this, she begins to second guess her admission, wondering if she got into Harvard on the "right terms." Lesson learned: Whether you're admitted or rejected from your dream school, don't make decisions based on anyone else but yourself. You'll be happier in the end.

 

While your college application process is certainly not a reality TV show, it may feel like it at times. Remember to always stay positive, and if necessary, draw on inspiration from your favorite TV and movie stars. After all, you’ve grown up with them, and they’ve been by your side just as long as your real-life BFFs. If they can survive a rejection, then you can too. 

16 Things Not to Say to a College Student During Finals

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Finals week is tough enough as it is, but there’s always that one person who has to rub in your face how perfect she is at it all. She’s there to denounce your procrastination and offer you completely unhelpful tidbits of advice, no matter how miserable you are. Below are the 16 things that no one should ever say to a collegiette during finals. Period.

1. "Why didn’t you start that project earlier?"

2. "Is that what you’re wearing?"

3. "When are you going to start studying?"

4. "Maybe you should boycott Netflix until finals are over."

5. "Are you sure you haven't had too much coffee?"

6. "I don’t think eating a whole jar of Nutella counts as having dinner."

7. "You should probably get some sleep."

8. "If you had better grades throughout the semester, you wouldn’t have to calculate the lowest grade you can make on the final to still pass the class."

9. "Why not take a shower? It will make you feel better."

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10. "Alcohol might not be the best choice right now."

11. "Facebook is just a distraction."

12. "How are you feeling about that big test?"

13. "Do you think your sudden interest in laundry might have anything to do with your desire to avoid studying?"

14. "You know your professor is not out to get you, right?"

15. "Why did you sell back your textbooks before you finished studying?"

16. "What classes are you taking next semester?"

Like, all I want to think about right now is break. Let's focus on that, thanks!

55 Thoughts Every Girl Has on a First Date

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In college, all we wanted was to be asked on a real date. We threatened to swear off booty calls and hookups forever, waiting for that one Prince Charming who would sweep us off our feet and take us out to dinner. Now, in the real world, the opportunity to date actually presents itself fairly often, and we're all "please don't make me go!"“You mean we have to talk to each other? Sober?”

First dates are arguably the most unique (read: awkward) experiences we will ever encounter, each complete with their own set of highs and lows, failures and successes. Here are some of the many thoughts that will likely pass through your mind the next time you find yourself across the table from a complete stranger you met on an iPhone app.

1. It's 7:03. Does three minutes constitute fashionably late?

2. This place looks fancy. I'm underdressed. 

3. No, it's cool. I'll look chill, like I just threw this on and look effortlessly fabulous. 

4. 7:06, all right, I'm going in.

5. He's cute, from all the way over here at least. 

6. He doesn't look like a serial killer. 

7. He's already sitting. Dammit, I needed to analyze his height compared to mine!

8. Handshake? Hug? Kiss on the cheek? SOS!

9. Why am I so awkward? It pains me. 

10. I've forgotten how to speak.

11. Say anything. 

12. The weather? Really? That's the best you could do. 

13. It's okay he's smiling. Just breathe.

14. He's cuter than his pics actually. Bonus points. 

15. Okay, let's cover the basics: work, hometown, college attended, siblings.

16. Just pretend you don't already know everything about him from stalking social media. Act surprised. Not too surprised. 

17. Thank god the waitress is here. Saved by the menu!

18. I want everything in the "snacks" section. Self control!

19. Umm, yes I'll split the fries! I thought you'd never ask. #soulmates

20. This is going well.

21. Does he think it's going well?

22. We’ve had hardly any awkward pauses!

23. Am I talking too much? 

24. Omg he hates me. 

25. Nice, the food's here. Try not to look too excited. 

26. Okay, it's really hard to eat and avoid lulls in the conversation at the same time.

27. What if I'm an ugly eater? 

28. I kind of have to pee.

29. Why did I wear a romper?!

30. I'm going to hold it.

31. He’s pretty funny. 

32. Wait, was that a joke, though? I don't want to laugh if he was serious, and I can't not laugh if he's trying to be funny.

33. So the obvious solution is to make a creepy half-snort/half-grunt. Nice going. 

34. Great, he’s going to the bathroom. Now, I can check my phone and actually eat my food in peace.

35. Wow, we survived an hour already.

36. Selfie check. I still look cute! 

37. Has he been in the bathroom a while? 

38. Maybe he has stomach issues? Or he's climbing out the window? 

39. Ahh, he’s coming back. Don’t stare!

40. Hopefully he doesn’t notice that I just shoved my face while he was gone.

41. Another drink? YAASSSS. 

42. Is he playing footsie with me? Nope. That’s the guy at the table next to us. Cool.

43. I do think he’s flirting though. He’s laughing at all my jokes. I’m not that funny.

44. I kind of like this guy. But who am I to say? Have to debrief w/ my BFF (and my mom) later.

45. Oh sh*t! The bill! Dun dun dun...

46. Let me grab my purse and at least pretend to try and pay.

47. Well, it was worth a try.

48. He just spent so much money on me! What if he’s thinking I’m not worth it?

49. No, this does not mean I have to put out. Have some self-respect, woman! 

50. He wants to walk me home? Aww, what a gentleman.

51. We’re getting dangerously close to my building. What’s it going to be??

52. Just be cool. Follow his lead.

53. There's not even a name for the part of my face he just kissed. Somewhere in the no man’s land between my cheek and my lips. Yep. 

54. Did he really mean “let’s do this again soon”?

55. Can't wait to go home and recount every minute of this night to my roomie while I await his text. 

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