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15 Reasons You Should Date an English Major

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1. They'll remember every detail about you. 

Maybe they’ll forget other things, but just wait to read/hear them gush about how breathtaking you looked in that flowing maroon dress with the ruffled seams on your first date.

2. You'll never have to decode weird text slang in their messages. 

But you might have to deal with constant corrections or overly-perfect grammar. It’s “you’re* cute,” honey.

3. They're amazed by the simplest things.

They always stop and smell the roses... And listen to the rain outside the window, or admire the way a pigeon stumbles down the street.

4. If you ask nicely, they'll edit your essays!

You might not even have to ask. Editing is second nature to English majors!

5. You'll get books as presents—and they'll be unbelievably thoughtful. 


 

Who knew there really was a perfect book out there for everyone?

6. You'll gain a newfound appreciation for the library. 

And you’re going to love it. The way they get excited over the smell of the pages or when they find their favorite book...aww. It's contagious!

7. They're awesome at being attentive... Or at least multitasking! 

What major has to read or write even half as much as an English major? They'll listen to you talk for hours without issue (and if their mind happens to drift for a couple minutes, there's always SparkNotes, right?).

8. You'll learn a bunch of literary references, and actually get their literature jokes! 

9. You'll be written about. A lot.  

The majority of the time, it’ll be good things. Plus, who doesn’t want to be immortalized through literature? Just imagine seeing your name written on the dedication page of a book one day.

10. You will become an expert on coffee. 

That little shop on the corner that you pass every day on your way to class? You basically live there now, with your significant other.

11. When you borrow their books, you might as well have them sitting right there with you—their notes are scribbled all over the text. 

Sure, you remember having to “talk to the text” too, but wow that is a lot of notes. Pick up one of their books when you're missing them!

12. You can collect IKEA bookshelf instruction manuals!

After all, you deserve it for helping them put together their little libraries.

13. You'll become a harsher film critic... 

You could’ve gone your whole life without noticing the gaping plot holes in The Vow, but at least you have somehow to vent about it with now.

14. But you'll be introduced to a whole new world of intelligent, thought-provoking movies. 

Biographical movies about classic writers and chill?

15. They're great at coming up with amazing last-minute ideas. 

In the case that they ended up forgetting your anniversary or something (which would never happen, of course!), don’t worry! All those years of writing essays on the same day they’re due have prepared them to always be ready to come up with A-level material on the fly.


22 Lies College Girls Tell Their Parents

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When we were little, our parents taught us to never tell a lie. Honesty is the best policy, after all. Sure that worked when we were younger, but now that we’re a little older, we tend to stretch the truth just a little bit…especially with our parents. What they don’t know can’t hurt them, right? Here are some of the little white lies we tell our parents, for their own peace of mind.

1. “I really don’t go out all that often. Maybe like once a weekend.”

2.  “And if I do, I only have one drink. Two drinks, tops.”

3.  “Of course I never take shots! Vodka is soooo gross.”

4. “I was totally in bed at like, midnight last night. Probably earlier.”

5. “I feel awesome this morning! Never better.”

6. “I’m actually spending all day in the library.”

7. “Yeah, I have an assignment due in a few weeks that I want to get a jumpstart on it.”

8. “Oh, that exam? Don’t worry, the professor said he would curve it.”

9. “Other than that, my GPA is looking great!”

10. “Yes, I did my laundry this week. Even separated lights and darks.”

11. “And I cleaned my room!”

 12. “Don’t worry, I’m eating enough fruits and vegetables.”

13. “And of course I’m making time for balanced breakfast every morning.”

14.  “I absolutely love my classes! I never, ever skip.”

15. “Not even to sleep in. Or nap in the middle of the afternoon. Psh.”

16. “What happened to all my money? I spent it on… textbooks.”

17. “If you lend me some more, I promise to save it and not buy clothes.”

18. “Do I have a special someone? Are you kidding me! I have to focus on my studies! No time for distractions.”

19. “No, I did not watch Netflix all day instead of going to the gym. That’s ridiculous.”

20. “The job search is going super well! I’ve been sending out resumes like crazy!”

21. “That’s why I can’t come home this weekend. I have way too much homework and job apps to work on.”

22. “But I’ll call you soon! This week, for sure.”

Links We Love 11.29.15

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Why are we suspicious of kindness? [BBC]

The real reason you hate waiting in line. [The Washington Post]

America's #1 holiday cookie is... [Quartz]

Spike Lee has an interesting solution to stop campus rape. [Jezebel]

Gross! A problem you never expected from wearing a hair tie. [People]

Sarcasm makes you more creative. [Newser]

The bestvideo of a cheating girl getting dumped. [Elite Daily]

The new celebrity squad we want to be a part of. [Betches Love This]

5 signs that he's not into you. [a new mode]

No man is 'too big'for a condom. [The Huffington Post]

The Perfect Nude Nail Polish for Every Skin Tone

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Nude nail polish is a timeless staple that anybody can wear and rock. Young and old, edgy and feminine, black and white, and anybody in between can pull off this classic look. It is all about finding the right color for you—and that's the hardest part. The perfect nude can lengthen your fingers and make them glow! Unfortunately, the wrong color will do just the opposite. Instead of getting frustrated by sampling tons of different nail polishes that all almost look the same, let us help you by giving you a great place to start.

For Light Skin

For Medium Skin

For Olive Skin

For Dark Skin

You do not have to perfectly match your nail polish to your skintone. Go a shade or two lighter or darker for an intentional by polished look. Use a shimmery, high-shine, or matte finish to show off your personality. You can even ombré your nudes if you feel so inclined. Nail polish is a style and a look that you can personalize.

What nude colors have been working for you based on your skin tone?

23 Gifts Every Gender Studies Major Will Love

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If your friend is a gender studies major, you know that this discipline goes way beyond the classroom. By now, you've definitely understood the importance of acknowledging issues pertaining to human rights for all people. So this year, why not give your friend a gift that will resonate with her (or his or their) social consciousness? We found some awesome, adorable and charitable items that will make any intersectional feminist ally cry for joy.

Clothing

Cropped Tee

It doesn't get much more straightforward than this stylish crop ($18 at Etsy).

T-Shirt

Nobody's the boss of your badass gender studyin' bestie. This edgy shirt is $20 at Etsy.

Hiphugger Panties

Because you and your friends call BS on the #TamponTax and you're so over spending a ton on "feminine hygiene" products every month. These period-absorbing panties are both cute and functional ($34 at THINX).

Decor

Paper Flower Wreath

We love the affirming message on this gorgeous handmade wreath—and your friend will too ($60 at Etsy).

Art Print

This print is on point for your ~radical~ friend's bare walls ($18 at Etsy).

Throw Pillow

Your friend is all about educating on the intricacies of gender, so gift her this perfect conversation starter ($22.48 at RedBubble).

Novelty Gifts

Empowermints

Your stocking stuffer game will be strong with these Rosie mints ($3 at the Feminist Majority Foundation).

Tote Bag

Empower your friend with a piece of Queen Lorde's brilliant mind—on a canvas tote bag ($12.60 at Zazzle).

Button

Tolerance, consciousness-raising, pink and a play on words? This clever button has it all ($2.35 at Zazzle).

Pencil Pouch

Your friend is probably sick of defining feminism for the millionth time. Save her the trouble with this handy-dandy pouch ($22 at RedBubble).

Journal

This journal is seriously adorable and great for a proud feminist ($20 at RedBubble).

Mug

Your friend will love cozying up with this sleek and outspoken mug ($16.25 at RedBubble).

Sticker

Yeah, let's talk about how every person matters, regardless of race, class, gender, sexuality and ability ($2.40 at RedBubble). In a fun, retro way.

Charitable Gifts

Bangle Set

Much better than making a donation in your friend's name, these bangles make a gorgeous gift that also serves to empower marginalized women in India ($22 at Raven + Lily).

Candle

This stunning candle helped to provide employment opportunities for women who came out of homelessness right here in the U.S. ($22 at Raven + Lily). AND it smells like bamboo and lemongrass.

Mug

Not only is the sentiment on this mug ($10 at Thistle Farms) beautiful, but it is also especially meaningful for the women at Thistle Farms, who are survivors of addiction, prostitution and traficking in Nashville, Tennessee. Proceeds help these women live to their fullest potential.

Bracelet

This bracelet ($38 at The Brave Collection), handmade in Cambodia, spells "brave" in Khmer and empowers both the women who make the jewelry and those who wear it.

Books & Magazines

Ms. Magazine Subscription

Founded by Women's Lib leader Gloria Steinem, Ms. ($12.50 at The Feminist Majority Foundation) is still going strong today AND paying tribute to our fave feminists—oh hey, Amy Schumer.

The Feminine Mystique, by Betty Friedan

The Feminine Mystique ($15.25 at Amazon) may be controversial, but there is no doubt it's one of the foundational works of the Women's Liberation movement. If your gender studies major of a friend hasn't read it yet, you better bet she wants to.

Women, Race & Class, by Angela Davis

Tackling intersectionality where Friedan failed to, Davis wrote this absolute classic ($14.03 at Amazon) for women's studies, that your friend will devour even outside of the classroom.

Redefining Realness, by Janet Mock

Before Caitlyn Jenner, there was Janet Mock providing the visibility that the trans community still sorely lacks. Let us tell ya, Janet is a boss if we've ever seen one. Her book ($12.45 at Amazon) is a must-read.

Jane Eyre, by Charlotte Brontë

Before "feminism" was even a word, authors like Jane Austen and Charlotte Brontë made some strong claims for women—in fiction form. Jane Eyre ($16.83 at Amazon) is one of our all-time favorites.

Feminist Ryan Gosling, by Danielle Henderson

Ryan Gosling, feminism—these are just some of our favorite things. Share the joy this holiday season with this awesome novelty book ($10.84 at Amazon).

What will you get your gender studyin' BFFs this year, collegiettes?

5 Ways to Fight Senioritis & Land a Job After Graduation

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It sneaks up on you. More and more of your assignments become “optional” (at least in your mind, anyway), weeknights spent binge watching Disney movies become increasingly appealing and the library becomes a place you never dare to enter. Collegiettes, we’re talking about the infamous ailment known as senioritis.

We totally get it: It can be hard to buckle down and concentrate senior year when all you and your friends want to do is live each and every one of your final days of college to the fullest. But it's important to still be looking for jobs and doing what needs to be done so that you don't have to move back into your parents' house after graduation!

To avoid a last-minute scramble and an awkward silence when asked what your post-grad plans are, here are some tips for staying motivated during your senior year.

1. Get inspired

First things first (we’re the realest): A collegiette needs to be passionate about her career and life after college. In other words, she has to be inspired! For nights when your friends are begging you to go out but you have a huge lab report to finish, it can be helpful to have a little bit of visual inspiration to keep you on track.

Try turning a corkboard into a dream board with your favorite inspirational quotes and images, like a photograph of your career idol or a newspaper clipping highlighting a company you’d love to work for, and hang it above your desk for a daily reminder. Scour your favorite fashion magazines for photographs of fabulous women in kickass pencil skirts, or check out Pinterest for quotes from successful women (Hillary Clinton and Beyoncé are our faves). It’s much harder to blow off that econ assignment when Queen Bey is reminding you that “Power is not given to you. You have to take it.”

Another tip is to create an academic bucket list to ensure that you’re getting the most out of your senior year while still setting yourself up for success after college. Make sure to include all of the things you want to get done before you graduate, like making the dean’s list, getting coffee with your favorite professor or scoring a job in a certain industry. Print out your bucket list and hang it somewhere you know you’ll see every day (like the back of your door or on your mini-fridge) to serve as a reminder of all the things you want to accomplish.

If you’ve started slacking off on assignments toward the end of your college career, it can also be helpful to remind yourself why you fell in love with your field of study in the first place. “This is going to sound nerdy, but I became very aware of just how awesome my classes were and how amazing it was to spend my time just reading and talking about books and writing about books,” says Hannah, a recent college graduate who majored in English at Middlebury College.

2. Get organized

You’ve probably heard this a million times, but the best way to get things done is to get organized! If you don’t already have one, get a planner and keep track of everything you need to get done, including school assignments and career-related tasks, like polishing your resume or obtaining a letter of reference. If you struggle with staying on task, break your week into daily checklists to make your tasks more manageable while still getting them done.

Susan Walker, associate director of career services at Middlebury College, recommends setting aside time to focus on things like job applications or polishing your resume at least once a week. “If you’re a planner type of person, you could block out a couple of hours a week to work on this, and in the end, that makes it less stressful,” she says. “Doing all the prep allows you to be ready to take advantages of opportunities when they show up rather than scrambling at the last minute.”

Set aside a few hours on a Sunday, for example, to read through your resume with fresh eyes and try to spot grammatical errors, or to make sure that the contact information for your references is up-to-date. The idea of tackling your entire resume in one day is enough to make any collegiette procrastinate, but tackling it bit by bit will make the process much more manageable.

In terms of when you should start getting organized and planning out your career trajectory, “the summer and fall is a good time to be gathering information,” Walker says. Emily Miethner, founder of FindSpark, a company dedicated to setting up young professionals for success, agrees. “As soon as possible, you should always be researching companies and people you want to work for,” she says. “Especially during your senior year, you should definitely start browsing job boards and company career pages, and then looking up people who work in those places and trying to connect with them either through social media or offline.”

The summer before your senior year, make an Excel spreadsheet with potential companies you might be interested in working for after college, including your ideal position title, the company website and any contact information you can find, and update it during the year as job listings become available. The more organized you are early on, the less stressed you’ll be and the less likely you’ll be to put off the daunting task of establishing a post-grad plan!

3. Visit the career center

Setting up an appointment with an adviser in your campus career center is one of the best moves you can make as a career-minded collegiette. Not only can your career center help you decide what you want to do after graduation, but also it’s full of amazing resources you probably didn’t even know existed, like self-assessment tools, resume and cover letter workshops, practice interviews, career counseling and help with finding internships through alumni connections.

“I can’t emphasize enough to take advantage of those resources,” Walker says.

Miethner also emphasizes taking advantage of career center resources when you’re still an undergrad and says that these really helped her get ahead in college. “You kind of have [those resources] available when you graduate, but it’s obviously not as convenient,” she says. “Utilize that extra set of eyes to look over your resume!”

If you feel like you might be suffering from senioritis, a visit to the career center can help you get organized and understand the timelines associated with landing your dream job. Plus, if you schedule regular meetings with a career center adviser, you’ll be held accountable to stay on track with your job-hunting plan.

4. Get involved and stay involved

Miethner emphasizes that experience is definitely crucial when it comes to landing your dream job or grad school acceptance letter. “When you’re a senior, your focus should be on networking and work experiences that you know will be beneficial for your future work,” she says.

Work experience isn’t limited to jobs or internships; you can have valuable experiences your senior year without even stepping off campus! If you’re an aspiring writer, for example, senior year is the time to really amp up your contribution to the campus newspaper and maybe ease up on your rugby commitment. “If you’re the type of person who’s involved in half a dozen clubs, senior year is when you have to think about, ‘What is really going to help me in the future?’” Miethner says.

Kayla*, a recent graduate of the University of Florida, was able to combat her senioritis by focusing on the on-campus activities that made her happy and looked good on her resume. “I was lucky enough to be involved in organizations I’m very passionate about, so I focused all my energy on growing professionally within those groups,” she says. It looks like Kayla’s dedication paid off: She landed her dream job halfway through her senior year!

Extracurriculars can be a great way to stay motivated during your senior year, but it’s important not to let your grades slide! To get the most out of both, try thinking of your pre-med club, for example, as one of your academic classes, but one that ranks just below your normal course load. Carving out time to spend on your career-related extracurriculars once you’ve finished your other class work will help you balance important grades with valuable experience.

5. Try the tough-love approach

Looking for a strategy that will send your senioritis running for cover? “Know that there are always people working harder than you,” Miethner says. “It’s a sad truth, but you’ve got to keep up so that when you graduate you’re not left behind.”

We totally understand that between nostalgic goodbye parties and end-of-year festivities, it can be tough to remember that your senior year grades factor into your overall GPA. Whether you’re contemplating grad school or a job, your grades and GPA will play a huge role in where you go after college, and sometimes you just need to get down to business for the sake of your future.

Alison*, a senior at Middlebury College whose senioritis started her junior year, found that reminding herself of her future goals was the best way to stay on track. “I think the thought of graduating has made me work harder, and I know that I need good grades for law school,” she says.

Had a little bit of an adjustment crisis freshman year that left your GPA lacking? Not to worry, Walker says. “It’s the trajectory of your GPA that’s important,” she says. “If you’re working your way out of a 2.9 and you’ve gotten up to a 3.4, the upward trajectory is impressive.” It’s never too late to improve your GPA, and employers as well as admission officers will take notice if you take the time to focus on your grades!

College is a time to experience new things, make new friends and find what you’re truly passionate about, but it’s also a time to set yourself up for future success.

 

“Advice I would have is for seniors to find a balance and to not be in denial about the fact that after this year, they are going to be pushed out into the world,” Walker says. Make sure that you’re enjoying your undergraduate experience, collegiettes, but keep in mind that if you start early and make the most of the resources available to you, college won’t have to be the best four years of your life!

*Names have been changed.

What to Get Your Fitness-Obsessed Friends For the Holidays

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Christmas is right around the corner and soon enough, we'll be scrambling to get gifts for our friends and families—and maybe even ourselves! This list was created with the fitness lover in mind, from the newbie all the way to the expert. 

You Look Fit Towel ($29.99)

We sometimes take sweat towels for granted when we start a workout—but when we're finishing up (with perspiration dripping down our faces!), it's all we can think about. Get the gift your gym-loving friend doesn't know she needs—and why not opt for a cute one that keeps her feeling good all workout long? 

Jabra Sports Pulse ($159.99)

Finding the right headphones for your workout can be a pain. Your cord gets caught on the handle of the elliptical, or you accidentally rip the buds from your ears mid-run. Jabra has the answer: wireless, Bluetooth-compatible earbuds that actually stay in your ears as you hit the treadmill belt or pavement. Plus, they have an app to help track your run, heart rate and music! 

S'well Waterbottle ($35)

From academic classes to fitness classes, this water bottle keeps water cold up to 24 hours! Plus, it's easy to clean and there is no condensation on the outside, so if you travel with it in your bags, the items will stay dry. S'well bottles come in all different colors, but we're currently obsessed with everything from the Glitter Collection, like this iridescent color—Smokey Eye, it's called.

Bombas Socks ($9)

These socks were created with the runner in mind. The stitching helps distribute pressure and they also help with those pesky blisters with extra padding on the toes and the Achilles tendon! Additionally, for each pair you buy, the company gives a pair of socks to children in need. You can't get better than a gift that gives back!

Under Armour Women's Get Set Go Running Gloves ($24.99)

With these gloves, you don't ever have to worry about cold hands! Even if you're not working out, these gloves will absorb and retain heat from your hands. Plus, they have touch-screen fingers to help you stay connected!

The Runner's World Cookbook ($21)

Eating healthy is a huge part of staying fit. This cookbook will help you get started with meals that will get you fueled up and satisfied all while being nutritious and light. The foods (along with exercise) will help tone up and boost your performance. 

Gaiam Yoga for Beginners Kit ($23.98)

This kit is perfect for the new yogi. It has everything you need to get you started, including the strap and blocks that will help you get into different poses. Plus, the mat is made without harmful phthalates!

Nuun Active Hydration Tablets ($7)

Perfect for long runs or post-workout, this electrolyte-rich tablet will deliver fast rehydration to keep you healthy. 

Smart Body Analyzer ($149.95)

This highly accurate scale measures weight, body fat measurements and BMI. It allows you to pick through body types to get a good read on your measurements. It's also smart phone-accessible and it stores data so you can keep track of your progress!

Her Fitness Box ($49.95)

This subscription box was created for the female athlete. Each box contains 1 to 2 fitness accessories and 6 to 8 health and lifestyle samples, and ships quarterly so there's a new set of fitness must-haves just when you need them!

ClassPass ($79)

Have a friend who's always down to try a new workout class? With one pass, she'll be able to try a ton of different classes locally. 

Living Proof Perfect Hair Day Dry Shampoo ($12 to $22)

Never worry about sweaty or greasy hair after a workout every again! Grab a small one to keep in the locker at the gym, and a travel-sized one to throw in a gym bag. 

Footgloss ($12)

This versatile gloss can be used for everything from running to high heels. It creates a layer of protection between shoe and skin to help decrease chaffing and blisters! It makes for a perfect stocking stuffer.

I Was a Victim of Domestic Abuse on Multiple Occasions

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Trigger Warning: Domestic violence and sexual assault 

One out of every three women (and one out of every four men) will be abused by an intimate partner at some point in her life. Domestic violence can be physical or emotional––or both; it can be with someone who you're in a relationship with; it can be with someone who you barely know. 

For anyone who has experienced domestic abuse, I understand what it feels like––what you feel like. It's terrifying and scary to say the least, and it's a huge issue on college campuses. I've never come out and shared any of this before, but I want to let those of you out there that have experienced some form of domestic violence, abuse or rape that you are not alone. We can stand up to domestic violence. We can work to empower men and women. We can stop being silent. 

Here's my story:

When I was 17, I met an older man. He graduated from my high school and was 21, almost 22. He was cute, and seemed nice at first. That is, until we were completely alone.

He wanted to "do things” that I was completely uncomfortable with and when I said no, he kept trying. He was aggressive too––he thought it was sexy, me saying “no.” What he didn't know was that I really meant it. I wasn’t trying to be a tease.

Eventually, I did something I didn’t want to do. The saddest part is I only did it to make him stop, to make him leave me alone, to make him stop trying. I remember sitting in the bathroom in shock, crying about what I had done. I wasn’t “that kind of girl,” but at that moment, I didn’t feel like a victim––I felt like a slut.

I was a senior in high school at the time. That very same year, I started dating someone who was just a year older than I was. He was never aggressive. He never pressured me to do anything, and he wasn’t a bad guy. He made me laugh and smile, and it was the first time I ever thought I was falling in love.

But then, the drug use started and he wasn’t so nice anymore. He verbally abused me all the time. He would accuse me of cheating, and tell me that if I was, he could do so much better. The things he said to me made me feel worthless––I felt I had no value. I was constantly trying to prove myself to him, to always make him happy. In my mind, because I was “in love,” it didn’t matter that the things he said were completely verbally abusive.

Eventually, we broke up and he went to treatment. Things got better for him as time progressed. 

My freshman year of college rolled around and I spent my free time trying to get to know a lot of new people. Many people in my freshmen class, myself included, had added each other on social media, even though we didn’t necessarily know each other personally.

One night, this cute guy messaged me. We talked for a bit and I found out he lived in the dorm only a short distance from mine. He had been drinking and invited me over. It was late and I had just come home from a night out myself, but I decided to go.

I went over and he immediately offered me alcohol. He told me I should just “take a shot or two with him.” I hesitated at first, but eventually figured, why not?

He started to get flirty, and we ended up kissing. He kept asking if I would spend the night and I kept saying, “You know, I’m really not that type of girl.” He started mocking me, saying things like, “Oh come on! You’re in college. It’s really not a big deal at all, there’s no reason to be a prude.” But I was persistent with telling him no.

Then it happened again, for the second time in my life. I finally just shut up and laid there because I got sick of saying no and his refusal to take my answer as final. I was also starting to feel the alcohol––I didn’t think I could even move.

As soon as it was over, he told me I needed to leave. I was in disbelief and shock. I left and immediately started crying. I came back to my room and cried some more.

The next day, I confided in a single friend about what had occured (I still remember it like it was yesterday). She told me I needed to go to a doctor, but I was scared and ashamed. I felt like it was my fault. Even though I didn’t want to do anything and it wasn’t fun for me, I still let it happen. I gave up and he forced himself on me. I never saw myself as a victim, but more an idiot. I thought I was the problem. 

The last incident I experienced occured at a fraternity house. I never really felt popular, so the first time a frat guy reached out to me and invited me over, I eagerly accepted the invitation. I was actually super excited. When I got there, not many people were there other than a few sorority girls. I tried to fit in and drink––I wanted nothing more than to be liked. I wanted to have fun with everyone! It didn’t hurt that the guy who invited me kept giving me alcohol, too.

At the end of the night, all of the girls that I was with had left. I remember the guy who invited me over coming up to me and asking if I wanted to watch a movie. I knew––and still know––that he was not that drunk, but I agreed. The next thing I knew, I found myself waking up half-naked the next morning. All I remember is him asking me about a movie.

What’s worse is that I didn’t even know what had happened to me, but he sure did.

This is the first time in my life that I’ve come out and spoken up about my stories. It's terrifying, but I want girls and guys out there to know that it is not your fault. It took me a long time to realize this. We're not the problem––the terrible abusers are the problem.

We can stand up. We can say that domestic violence is not okay. Physical and emotional abuse are not okay. Rape is not okay. Together, we can join forces and be a voice for the voiceless.

Do you have a story to share? Submit your story to Her Story!


15 Signs You're Killing It In College

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No one expects you to have it all together in college. But, if at least one of these applies to you, we say you're totally killing it. 

1. You’re not (always) late to class

If you can stop yourself from hitting the snooze button on your alarm clock every morning, let's face it, you're already killing it in college. 

2. You've overcome all of your high school insecurities 

Because you've realized that agonizing over tiny impefections that no one else cares about is so not worth your time. 

3. You can budget like a boss

As in, long term budgeting. Like, rent and bills and food. For a whole month.  

4. And your diet isn't terrible

Hey, as long as you eat your servings of fruits and veggies, we say you're killing it.

5. You can eat alone in the dining hall 

 

 

Without pretending to read a book or being on your phone the whole time. 

6. You've become a pro at paying next to nothing for textbooks

 
Whether you get them from the library, buy them from Amazon or borrow them from a friend, you've totally mastered college if you can avoid spending hundreds of dollars on textbooks each semester. And the extra cash in your pocket feels oh so good. 
 

7. You're always expanding your social circle

Because as a collegiette, you know the only way you're going to grow is if you surround yourself with people from all different backgrounds. 

8. You've let go of toxic relationships 

byeeeeeee h8rs.

9. And you've learned that you can be totally happy on your own  

 

Plus maybe a cat.

 

10. You've made grown up decisions for yourself 

Like studying abroad, taking out student loans, getting a credit card or even just deciding on a major. 

11. And you've got some semblance of a life plan 

Even if it's just figuring out which classes you're taking next semester (or what you're having for dinner tonight). 

12. You dont rely on your parents for everything 

(But we still appreciate you sending us emergency money whenever we overdraw!)

13. And you've only ruined a few things doing laundry the wrong way 

It's a learning process. Okay?

14. You've found something youre passionate about

And you talk about it so much that your friends have to tell you to shut it.

15. Most importantly, you're taking chances, broadening your horizons and starting to see life in a new perspective.

Because that's what college is all about. 

 

It's a long time before you can be expected to have your whole life in order (if ever). But that doesn't mean you can't still be killing it in college! 

 

11 Ways to Have an Awesome Morning

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While you might feel that you have set yourself up with the best schedule ever, unless your internship or first class starts past noon there are probably days when rising and shining in the morning are not at the top of your “things-I-want-to-do” list. In theory it is very nice of Pinterest to think that cutting up fruit and vegetables for a breakfast smoothie is a morning hack that is actually going to happen. However, there are definitely easier ways of starting your morning off right. Here are a few morning tips that are totally possible for even the most non-morning person.

1. Pick out your outfit the night before

When putting together a well-thought out, runway-ready look, the outfit that you leave your room in probably very rarely consists of the first clothing choices of the morning. When you wake up five minutes before you have to be out the door, chances are you will not be putting together the most spectacular thing that you have ever worn. However, deciding what to wear the night before does make it possible to look like you’ve been through five outfits when it really only took you five minutes. It will also allow you to check the weather to avoid a weather faux pas in your rush to get ready.

2. Strategic placement of something warm & cozy

One of the most unpleasant parts of the morning is making the transition from warm bed to outside world; it’s not really much of a motivator. To combat the inevitable chill, have slippers, a robe or a sweatshirt in arm’s reach that you pull on to make your journey from your bed to the closet or shower that much easier (and warmer)!

3. Built-in browsing time

If you give a girl a phone, she is probably going to want to check her social media accounts ASAP. Let’s face it, after shutting off your phone alarm it is basically second nature to check for any new social media activity, e-mails or texts that you received while you were sleeping. The problem is that depending on how much sleep you got, you might have way more to look at than you have time to go through. If you simply cannot start your day without scrolling through your Instagram feed, wake up five to ten minutes earlier to catch up on everything that happened while you were sleeping. Not only will you feel updated, but you'll also give yourself a little bit of time to adjust before taking on your day.

4. Wake up your makeup

Just like us, makeup is so much more effective when it is warmed up and ready to go. A noteworthy morning hack for anyone who cannot leave the house prior to completing a morning beauty routine is to warm up your makeup while getting ready by putting it in a waistband or in your bra. While this might seem strange, you can get more out of your makeup when it is warmer as opposed to cold which means you get better morning glam and longer lasting makeup.

5. Make your alarm your favorite song

Is this a cliché way to have a better morning? Yes. Are you going to be any more excited about being woken up from your beauty sleep? Nope. Will you be more inclined to get up to listen to your favorite than an obnoxious arrangement of notes? Probably so.

6. Leave yourself a nice wake-up message

While you might think writing to yourself is weird, a little morning encouragement on an alarm goes a long way. Something like, “Have a great day!” or, “Smile, it’s Friday!” will definitely help you to start your day on a positive note.

7. Treat yourself

If you have some time before class, go treat yourself to a nice breakfast! Even though you might not want to leave your bed any earlier than you have to, eating a good breakfast will keep you energized and feeling good for the rest of the day.

Dani Kluss, a freshman at California Lutheran University, knows how to get in a good breakfast without even having to stop at a restaurant. “I'm gluten free so what I do in the morning is I take some of the Chex gluten free instant oatmeal packets and make it in my microwave,” she says. “It's great because you don't need any measuring cups to measure the amount of water or milk to put in it because the packet can be used as a measuring cup—they put a line on it to measure!”

8. Write down one thing that you are looking forward to that day

This starts your morning off positively and motivates you to get going, keeping in mind that at some point in the day you definitely have something you are excited about coming your way.

9. Set aside an easy morning snack the night before

For days when you know that you absolutely do not have the time to eat breakfast, prepare a little snack the night before that you can eat while you are getting ready to make sure that you don’t go to your 8 a.m. with zero energy. You do not have to whip out your professional gourmet chef skills, but something like dry cereal or a banana and peanut butter will keep you from feeling hungry until you can get a real meal in.

Miriam Smallman, a junior at George Washington University, knows the importance of getting in an energizing breakfast. “My power breakfast in the mornings is oatmeal with soy milk, a sliced banana and cinnamon, which is thought to help curb hunger,” she says. “This can normally keep me full, focused and energized for at least four hours. It's a recipe I swear by!”  

10. Pack your bag the night before

We girls are notorious for having more than one bag that we carry around on a weekly and even daily basis. For this reason, making sure the right stuff is in the right bag is very important. Pack your things in the correct bag the night before to decrease the chance of forgetting an essential item in an early morning rush.

11. Start a group message with your friends to encourage each other

When all else fails, who better to turn to than your friends, who are probably going through the same morning struggle as you are? Be each other’s motivators! Waking up to a silly meme or a pre-Instagram throwback Thursday will definitely brighten up your and your friends’ days. 

Those morning classes won’t magically become more interesting, but don’t underestimate the power of a strong cup of coffee and these simple tips! 

How She Got There: Alexis Bryan Morgan, Director of Creative Content at Rent The Runway

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Name: Alexis Bryan Morgan

Job Title and Description: Director of Creative Content at Rent the Runway

Website: www.renttherunway.com

What does your current job entail? Is there such a thing as a typical day?

Alexis Bryan Morgan: As the Director of Creative Content, my focus is coming up with beautiful content that illustrates our brand identity and introduces our customers [to] our incredible designers. I work closely with the creative, marketing and product teams to determine how and where the content is used across all of our channels. My days vary greatly; one day I could be hopping from meeting to meeting to discuss upcoming launches and themes we’re highlighting onsite and the next I could be styling an editorial photoshoot with our visual merchandising team.

What is the best part of your job?

ABM: Two things: working with incredibly talented and inspiring people, and creating work with the meaningful end goal of adding some magic to our customers’ everyday lives. Helping women look and feel amazing and confident – whether for a party or a day at work – is definitely something I can get behind.

What was your first entry-level job in your field and how did you find it?

ABM: My first job in fashion was an internship at Tommy Hilfiger, where I was lucky to have a boss that was pretty tough. I think anyone who has gone the distance in this industry has stories of “that boss,” and this one taught me to work hard and catch on quickly. I’ll never forget when I broke my wrist and was sure I would get out of writing notes during all my boss’s meetings, which was one of my daily responsibilities. To my surprise, my boss said, “I guess you’re just going to have to learn to write with your left hand!” I have to admit, I went into the bathroom and had a little cry over that. But I picked myself up, and after a couple weeks of practice with a very sore left hand, I learned how to do it!

What is one thing you wish you knew about your industry when you first started out that you know now?

ABM: I’m not the first to say that one of the most important things you can do in your career is to nurture the relationships you make, but I can’t stress enough how much this pertains to the fashion industry. The fashion world is so small – it almost feels like a little family – so you have to be good to people because there’s a good chance you’ll be working with the same people for the rest of your career. Rather than looking at your relationships as connections to leverage in meeting an end goal, remember that every interaction is important, as is turning those interactions into long-term relationships.

Who is one person who changed your professional life for the better?

​ABM: I've been so fortunate to have several of the most amazing mentors – truly the best in the industry. Among them were a few exemplary working mothers, and [I] know now, as a mother myself, how important it is to have role models who work full-time and also manage being a mom. Robbie Myers was particularly influential. She had two children while I was working for her and she managed to keep her cool while taking on every opportunity that came her way.

What words of wisdom do you find most valuable?

​ABM: Anna [Wintour] always said to me, "Head down and focus on your work.” It is so tempting to get caught up in gossip and wonder what people are saying about you, which only leads to self-doubt. At the end of the day, it’s a complete waste of energy because you can’t control what others think about you anyway. The only person you can control is yourself and if you focus on your work, it will speak for itself.

What is one mistake you made along the way and what did you learn from it?

​ABM: The Millennial generation is widely critiqued to have a “sense of entitlement,” a characteristic that’s especially evident to senior managers interviewing them for a job. I’m not proud to say there was a time when I had a bit of this myself. Fortunately, I had another great boss who shook that out of me pretty quickly. I remember saying something pretty foolish in a meeting that revealed this sense of entitlement, and she had me handwrite apology notes to everyone who was in the room. As belittling as that felt at the time, it was a great lesson!

What has been the most surreal moment of your career thus far?

​ABM: I am blown away by the pace at which this industry changes. For a while there, things were pretty routine as a fashion editor but now I am amazed at just how many innovations have come about to address the way we shop. Just five years ago I would never have imagined that I would be working at a company that is truly at the forefront of this transformation. It feels like an honor to be a part of the reshaping of an industry.

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19 Gifts Perfect for the Science Majors in Your Life

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Holiday shopping can be stressful...especially if you have no idea what to get for your roomie, best friend or sorority sister who is also a budding young scientist. Check out these 19 awesome gifts that any science major will be sure to enjoy!

1. These molecularly correct serotonin earrings 

Made With Molecules, $50

~a molecular must-have~

2. A stemless wine glass perfect for any chemistry nerd 

Etsy, $18

Wine night just got a whole lot more scientific. 

3. This fashionable scarf that lets you stand out in a celestial way 

Uncommon Goods, $65

Who wouldn't want to take part in this extraterrestrial trend? 

4. A sugar spoon that celebrates pi 

Etsy, $20

pi puns > regular puns

5. This Nikola Tesla ornament, complete with inspiring message

Etsy, $10.95

 

Deck your Christmas tree out the right way this year.

6. These aptly named 'Brain Joggers' 

Beloved Shirts, $59.95

These will likely become your BFF's new favorite study pants. Warning: she may wear them during her finals.

7. This brass cuff bracelet that lets you wear the periodic table of elements on your wrist 

Etsy, $40

Because what more could you really ask for? 

8. This sweatshirt for when you just really need to display your love for Neil deGrasse Tyson

Wanelo, $69.95

...Which is all the time. 

9. ...Or this tank for when you want to get political

Wanelo, $29

Move over, Kanye. 

10. This statement necklace:

Wanelo, $15

For your favorite scientist's sassy side. 

11. This easy-to-understand book for your non-scientists guests to peruse (before you engage them in scientific conversation)

Urban Outfitters, $15.95

If you are a Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory and you expect everyone to understand the scientific nonsense you say, this coffee table book will be a life saver to all the poor Penny's out there who have to listen to you. 

12. A vinyl wall decal of Albert Einstein

Wanelo, $29.99

An obvious must-have. 

13. A shirt for the chemistry major who’s got her priorities straight

Etsy, $16.99

Science majors don't need social lives... right?

14. A clock that literally only a science major could read

Cafe Press, $24.99

Please, only get this for a science major. Seriously. 

15. This Sir Isaac Newton phone case

Amazon, $12

You know, for your Apple iPhone. Get it? Your Apple iPhone.

16. This shower curtain that displays your love for bacon in what is probably your favorite language 

Sears, $60

Periodic perfection. 

17. A Moss Terrarium Bottle

Uncommon Goods, $38

You know, for the friend who would just really love to grow some moss in her free time. 

18. This Molecular Mixology Kit

Uncommon Goods, $30

Give your friend the gift of molecular gastronomy this holiday season. 

19. This mug:

Zazzle, $17.85

Because feminism, science and puns pertaining to the periodic table of elements are simply the best.

 

Who said science always has to be serious? These gifts are sure to give your science major BFF a good laugh this holiday season! 

How to Make Your Own Cookie Butter (Using Any Cookie!)

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Cookie butter? Yeah, we were skeptical at first, too. But now that we know about this modern day marvel, all our problems have been solved! Rather than forcing you to choose just one cookie from your long list of favorites, this recipe from A Beautiful Mess allows you to make cookie butter with any cookie. Trust us, even non-cookie lovers will say "yes" to this one!

What you'll need: 

  • 2 cups cookie crumbs
  • 1/2 stick butter
  • 1/2 cup sweetened condensed milk
  • 1/4 cup evaporated milk
  • Mixing bowl
  • Spoon
  • Measuring cup
  • Food processor
  • Saucepan
  • Water (as needed)

​​Step 1: 

If you chose a cookie with a creamy middle filling, like an Oreo or Nutter Butter, open the cookie and scrape out the filling with a butter knife. You'll want a dry crumb to work with. We skipped this step because we LOVE creamy filling. If you went with chocolate chip or sugar cookies with no creamy filling, then you can put them straight into the food processor.

We'll be using Golden Oreos for this project.

Step 2: 

Place your cookies into the food processor and blend until a very fine powder forms. We like ours a little thicker—it's a texture thing. 

You'll need 2 cups of cookie crumbs, so just keep blending cookies until you have the required amount.

Step 3:

In a small saucepan, heat the butter over low heat until melted. Stir in your sweetened condensed milk and evaporated milk until it's all melted together. 

Feel free to microwave on high in a microwave-safe bowl instead. 

Step 4: 

Pour 1/2 cup of the liquid (butter, sweetened condensed milk and evaporated milk) into your cookie crumbs and mix together with a spoon. Keep adding small amounts of the liquid until the cookie butter is just wet enough to stay together. Depending on how dry the cookie was to begin with, you'll need more or less liquid. 

Step 5:

Once your cookie butter is blended, allow it to cool in the fridge for an hour or two. You can actually stop at this point, and it will taste delicious.

If you want to make the cookie butter smoother and easier for dipping, then remove the cookie butter from the fridge and stir very small amounts of water (start with 1/8 teaspoon) into the dough.

Keep adding and stirring until you get to a consistency you like and refrigerate the mixture again.

Step 6: 

Enjoy with your favorite snacks—pretzels, strawberries or apples, for example.

Surely we can all agree this would be perfect for a girls night in. Or, better yet, serve the cookie butter of your choice with yummy finger foods at your next holiday bash! 

9 Things You Need to Know About Dating in Your Twenties

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You’re out of college and living in the real world, but, to your dismay, you’re still single. You had hoped you might have met your future spouse on campus while sipping a latté at a local café, staring at each other from across the room in a 200-person lecture or accidentally bumping into him or her at a party. But you didn’t meet that special someone, so here you are back in the dating game, slowly losing your mind after each failed first date and less-than-perfect Tinder match.

The post-college dating scene can be complicated, especially when there aren’t as many single-and-ready-to-mingle twentysomethings at your disposal—and meeting someone at a bar is the last thing you want to do. In the real world, you suddenly realize that all of your friends are getting engaged, and you’re stuck at home with your cat, losing all hope that Mr. or Ms. Right even exists.

Don’t worry, though! We rounded up nine essential rules for dating after college. Read on to discover what you need to know to find your soulmate.

1. Figure out what qualities you’re looking for in a partner

We hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if you're that girl with a super-long list of dating must-haves, you're probably not going to find the one for you. But it is good to know what qualities you’re looking for in an SO as you enter the real-world dating scene. You probably had a list at one point in your life that included things like tall, dark and handsome—but although physical attraction is important, we all know there’s more to a good partner than just good looks.

Take time to reevaluate your dating criteria after college and discover which qualities are most important and in sync with your own values. “The main thing is not to compromise your non-negotiables or deal-breakers,” says Kim Olver, author of Secrets of Happy Couples. “Know what you want from a relationship partner. Be open and flexible, but do not compromise on those things you previously determined were not good for you.”

2. Find new places to meet people

Change up your routine and explore new hangout spots—you never know whom you might meet. Be open to meeting potential dates wherever you go. Bars seem like an easy place to meet someone new because it’s a relaxed environment and the drinks help give everyone a little liquid courage, but we all know bars can be hit or miss when it comes to meeting a nice guy. Instead, try talking to someone new during your lunch break, on your morning coffee run, in the checkout line at the grocery store or at a networking event. You never know when a chance encounter could turn into something more!

3. Be open to online dating

Online dating can seem a little unnatural and scary—especially if you have to pay to find a date. It might be challenging to differentiate between who is really interested in getting to know you and who’s sending the same cheesy pick-up line to every girl.

Once you get past the initial nervousness and create an online profile, you’ll see that online dating isn’t so bad. Olver agrees that this can be a great way to meet people, but she recommends being cautious before meeting someone in person. “Know that a person can say anything about himself online that may or may not be true,” she says. “Take it slow... email, text, talk often before you actually meet, and when you do, make sure you drive yourself and tell someone else where you are and with whom.”

4. Go on dates with different people until you meet the right one

Are your friends constantly trying to set you up on dates? Do they always drag you along when another single person is expected at the party? If so, enjoy the drinks, dinners and company and use this as a chance to learn what you like and don’t like in a potential SO. As you get to know someone, you also get to know yourself better along the way, so have fun and go on dates with different people. Just because you’re in your twenties doesn’t mean you have to pick one partner right away!

“The advantage to dating multiple guys is that you gain experience and can fine-tune what exactly you want in a life partner,” Olver says. Take a chance and have dinner with your aunt’s coworker, or go bowling with your best friend’s cousin from out of state. If you don’t get good vibes from the date, you don’t have to see him or her again. You might get lucky, though, and find that you have a lot in common with this new mystery man or woman!

5. Remember to DTR

You’ve already been through the whole “What are we?” debate in college, so don’t make yourself go through this pain again. There’s nothing worse than that awkward faux-lationship of more-than-hook-up-buddies-but-less-than-SO. If you’ve been seeing someone exclusively for a few months and you really like him or her, talk to him or her and make sure he or she feels the same way about you. If you discover that he or she is still dating multiple girls, you may want to cut this one loose before you fall too hard. Defining the relationship early on will help erase any uncertainties and give you the fulfilling relationship you want.

6. Don’t settle for the first person you meet just so you can finally say you have an SO

Although there are many perks to being single, sometimes it’s no fun—especially when all of your friends are getting engaged and you can’t even find a plus one to bring to their weddings. The desire to have an SO is even stronger after college because being in a relationship can make you feel one step closer to being a real adult. This feeling won’t last long if you settle down with the wrong person, however. Don’t rush into a new relationship just so you can change your status from single to taken.

“The time between relationships is the time for self-evaluation,” Olver says. “Figure out exactly what you want in a partner, and then, are you the person your ‘perfect partner’ would want to date? If yes, great! If not, you may have some work to do on yourself before getting into another relationship.”

It can be tempting to date someone for the sake of dating someone, but it’s better to wait for the right person.

7. Be honest—with yourself and with your partner

Overall, it’s important to be honest with yourself and your SO.

“Being honest is being true to yourself,” Olver says. “If you are doing things you are ashamed of or feel you need to lie about, then why are you doing them, or why are you with someone who would judge you in that way?”

Before you take your new relationship to the next level, make sure you’re both being open with each other about your values and future plans.

“The first question you should ask is, ‘Do you have any pending job applications out of state?’” suggests recent grad Miranda*. Miranda recently started dating someone who told her two weeks before he left that he was moving across the country for a new job. This would have been less of a shock and disappointment if he had been honest from the beginning.

“The best way to handle a person who has not told you the truth is to decide if honesty is one of your deal-breakers,” Olver says. “If it is, then believe the person when he shows you he is dishonest, and cut your losses.”

8. Don’t be bitter because it didn’t work out with someone in the past

Sometimes a previous bad experience can turn you off of dating for a while. However, even though dating can make you vulnerable sometimes, you do have to put yourself out there and have a positive outlook no matter what dating disasters you’ve experienced in the past.

“There are two things I say about this,” Olver says. “The first is that no relationship is ever a waste of time, because it will at least help you learn about something you don't want to repeat. The second thing I find extremely helpful is a quote by Dr. Seuss: ‘Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened.’ Remember to learn from past relationships and to deal with each subsequent person in your life with a free mind and open heart. You owe it to yourself.”

You might have gone through a bad breakup or found out that your high school sweetheart cheated on you, but you can’t assume all guys are jerks. Having a negative attitude toward dating will not help at all. Start each new relationship with a clear mind, and don’t bring up any of your exes. 

9. Don’t rush your relationship

There is no right time frame for when to say, “I love you” or when to get engaged. Some people might wait a few months, others might wait a few years—everyone's relationship is different. So stop comparing your relationship to your friends’ or bringing up marriage and kids before you and your partner are really in a place for that next step. Enjoy your relationship for what it is—if you do end up married, you’ll have your whole life to be married! No need to rush it.

If you feel that you’re ready to take your relationship to the next level, talk to your SO about things like meeting his or her parents, moving in together or getting married, and see how he or she reacts.

Dating after college might seem confusing, but with these tips, you'll end up being that friend giving your BFFs advice for how to date the right way! If you want there to be a future after date number one, remember to stay true to yourself, find someone who has similar values as you, explore different dating options and take it slowly when you think you’ve met the one.

*Name has been changed.

University of Chicago Cancels Classes After Gun Threat

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The University of Chicago has cancelled all Monday classes after the FBI declared that there was a highly credible threat of gun violence posted online, according to a report from NBC Chicago. Shortly after 1 p.m., the university received notice from the FBI that the suspect was in custody. The suspect has now been identified as Jabari Dean, a 21-year-old University of Illinois student, according to the Chicago Tribune.

The threats were revealed to have contained specific details about an attack in the university's "campus quad" on Monday at 10 a.m.

UChicago students, faculty and staff were then promptly warned on Sunday by a campus-wide announcement that all classes would be cancelled and all facilities in the Hyde Park campus would be closed.

"Based on the FBI’s assessment of this threat and recent tragic events at other campuses across the country, we have decided in consultation with federal and local law enforcement officials, to exercise caution by canceling all classes and activities on the Hyde Park campus through midnight on Monday," wrote President Robert Zimmer in the memo.

Federal officials told the Chicago Tribune that Dean posted the threats in retaliation for the shooting of Laquan Macdonald, an unarmed black man killed by police officer James Van Dyke (now charged with murder).

Demonstrators do push-ups Friday as others block motorists along Chicago's Michigan Avenue as they protest the shooting of Laquan McDonald who was killed by a police officer in 2014.

The school has urged anyone who sees something unusual to report it to the UChicago police department by calling 773-702-8181. Faculty and staff have also been asked to stay away from the Hyde Park campus for the time being.

The university is expected to resume operations on Tuesday. To all of our collegiettes at University of Chicago and other Chicago local colleges, we hope you stay safe and continue to stay informed!


What You Need To Know About the Planned Parenthood Shooting

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At about 11:30 last Friday morning, 57-year-old Robert Lewis Dear entered a Planned Parenthood clinic in Colorado Springs, CO and opened fire. A standoff between Dear and police officers lasted nearly five hours before a SWAT team arrived and Dear finally dropped his weapon. The attack left three dead and nine others wounded.

The suspect’s motives are not yet clear, but it is believed he holds anti-abortion and anti-government views. After his arrest, authorities heard him say the words “no more baby parts.” It is possible this is in reference to accusations (in the form of the release of undercover video) from anti-abortion activists earlier this year that Planned Parenthood was involved in the illegal sale of fetal organs. Planned Parenthood has stated that the videos are edited and that they do not accept payment beyond what is necessary to transport organs to researchers.

Officer Garrett Swasey, who arrived at the clinic to help civilians, was among the shooting’s victims. He had been married to his wife, Rachel, for 17 years, and was a father of two, co-pastor at his church, and once a junior national figure skating champion. "Helping others brought him deep satisfaction and being a police officer was a part of him. In the end, his last act was for the safety and well-being of others and was a tribute to his life," his family said in a statement, according to CNN.

Ke’Arre Stewart, 29, and Jennifer Markovsky, 35, were also victims of the shooting. Stewart, a Texas native and married father of two, was an Iraq war veteran who had last been stationed in Colorado before being discharged in 2014. Markovsky, a stay-at-home mom of two, was described by her father as a “kindhearted, loveable person.” Neither of them were employees of Planned Parenthood.

Dear appeared in court Monday afternoon via video conference, where the judge stated he is being charged with first-degree murder and will face the death penalty or life in prison if convicted. The next hearing, where formal charges will be filed, will be held Dec. 9. Dear, who resided in a rural area about an hour outside Colorado Springs, was described by neighbors as a recluse.

Though the suspect himself has not stated his motivation for the killings, it’s not hard to put the pieces together. Attorney General Loretta Lynch described the shooting as a "crime against women receiving health care services,” according to CNN. Vicki Cowart, the regional president of Planned Parenthood, added that Dear “was motivated by opposition to safe and legal abortion."

It’s impossible to understand the logic of anti-abortion “activists” who use violence to make their point—Isn’t it violence that they claim to be opposed to in the first place?

How to Get Away With Wearing the Same Coat Every Day

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No one strives to be an outfit repeater. But when winter's chill comes calling, nestling into your go-to cold weather coat on the daily seems like the only practical option—leaving you prancing around campus in what looks like the same thing every single day. Whether we like it or not, coats will cover our ensembles throughout the chillier months, but that doesn't mean they have to hide our style (phew). Read on to see how you can revamp your everyday outerwear without breaking the bank on a closetful of options—we know just how to style a single coat like new.

Invest

Craving a look that's easy-peasy and extra warm? Anna-Lea from blog Fashion Hippie Loves wears a mimic-worthy ensemble. Simply layer a vest over or under your typical coat to create a textured, two-toned look. The two combined will give the illusion of being one seriously cool coat. 

Are you a die-hard prepster? Mix a quilted vest (try this classic from L.L.Bean, $149) with your anorak. Want to own a sportier look? Slap on a puffer vest (an inexpensive $29.94 option from Old Navy should do the trick) over or under your casual weatherproof coat. And if you're a true street style striver, pair fur (Aerie's got you for $41.97) with something wool—the possibilities are endless. 

Bundle Up 

Blanket scarves are taking the season by storm, and with what feels like endless fabric, these babies give any wearer endless opportunities. We're digging the thought of draping ours over our go-to coat for a splash of extra style, as demonstrated by brand blog Madewell Musings. Whether you tie one around your coat shoulders, leave it hanging straight and tucked under your coat collar, or belt it in place as an all-around top layer, you'll be channeling your street (style) cred. 

And no matter how you pair it, you can't go wrong with a plaid pick in winter-worthy shades (Gap, $29.95).

Love to Be Loopy

You never have to part with your everyday trench or peacoat, thanks to some not-so-basic belt loops. Grab hold of a silk scarf, à la blogger and stylist Jessica Rule, and loop it through the back of your coat, creating a bow or tie of your choice—the small accent makes a surprisingly big difference. Vary the shade, pattern and size of the scarves you choose to give your coat an endless supply of fresh opportunity (we adore this tasseled take from Nordstrom, $59.50).

Get Pinning 

The brooch trend took runways by storm this year, and for good reason. We're fawning over how daringly chic street style icon Madelene Billman looks by pinning eye-catching graphics to her collar. Attach an assortment of smaller bling to create a removable pattern that looks built-in, or stick to one or two statement pieces to transform your typical style. And if you need somewhere to start, leave it to BaubleBar to tickle your fancy with a starry set of two ($42).

Related: 3 Coats, 6 Ways: The Most Versatile Ways to Dress for Winter

Play With Proportions

Fashion girls all have one thing in common—they know how to play with proportions. Fashion Fade Magazine highlights a well-played street style look that proves our point. By combining a short coat with a long-line top (or shirtdress: Madewell, $79.50) underneath, you give the illusion of a one-piece, mixed media jacket. And for a sleeker silhouette, wear a monochrome ensemble to visually elongate your coat.

Fasten on Fur

Animal-inspired accents have stood the test of time, and we're all for embracing the never-fading fad. Take a hint from famous street styler Aimee Song and opt for a temporary fur fix (seriously—she DIYed that furr-ocious look). Simply grab hold of a faux fur stole or scarf (Topshop, $52) and attach it to the hood or collar of your coat with discreetly-placed safety pins. Say hello to a brand new look without any commitment—your secret's safe with us.

Tuck & Roll

If you're itching to put your under-outfit on display, look no further than this quick trick, inspired by a look on fashion blog Bittersweet Colours. See how lovely those knit stripes look popping out from under a wide sleeve? Achieve the same style by either rolling up your sleeves in the typical fashion, or by tucking them into themselves to create the illusion that your coat was designed to hang around the elbow. It's just another way to draw attention and meld a few patterns into one—just be sure to show off whatever eye-catching sweater or shirt you've worn underneath.

Belt it Out

Street style photographer Vanessa Jackman had the right idea in selecting this look for a snapshot—talk about chic! Switching up the shape of an old coat is easier than you think. Cinch your waistline in a pinch with a strategically placed belt (that isn't the belt your coat came with) and your look will be instantly elevated. Chunky or sleek, skinny or textured, the specifics can vary based on personal taste—no matter what, the addition will seriously up the wow factor on any common coat. Start off your collection with this chic cincher, which comes in five stylish shades (J. Crew, $29.50).

Give a Cold Shoulder

Captured yet again by the ultra-talented Vanessa Jackman, this image of revered street styler Margaret Zhang makes a worn old coat swoon-worthy. In fact, Zhang is a huge fan of the off-shoulder coat look, as seen by the endless variations splattered throughout her blog Shine by Three. The key here is to opt for a stimulating pattern worn beneath your coat that seamlessly (but unexpectedly) complements the coat itself. Keeping the shoulder down can be achieved by strategic belt placement (and some patience)—we promise, it's worth it for a look this posh. Of course, only you know if your shoulder is willing to tough out the accompanying chill.

With these smart strategies under your fashion tool belt, the horizons for your same old winter coat have been officially widened. And if that's not satisfying enough, you can tweak these tips to work with whatever you've already got—regardless of shape or style, these hacks will instantly amplify any outerwear. So what are you waiting for? Get styling!

17 College Women Get Real About Being a Virgin in College

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While much is discussed about the active sex lives of college students, there are many who go through college with their virginity in tact. To take a look at what it’s like to be a virgin – by choice or not – in college, we asked 17 college women to get real with us.

“I don't plan on being a virgin until I'm married but I have made the choice to wait until I have a strong emotional connection with someone to have sex. I found it really difficult to be a virgin in college, at first. There is such a large hookup culture at my school, and most people just want sex, whereas I'm looking for a long-term relationship.”

-Mackenzie, Lasell College Class of 2019

“I'm 20 years old and still a virgin. I'm honestly just waiting to find the right guy that I feel comfortable having sex with. I find it can be a little difficult just because still being a virgin is a big turn off for guys for starting a relationship.”

-Katie, George Mason University Class of 2017

“I have always said I will not have sex until I'm married. Not for religious reasons, just because I don't think I will be ready emotionally until then. When I got to college I felt more pressured than ever before by friends and boys to give in. Though some people think it's stupid that I'm waiting, most people support my decision and think it's commendable since they understand how much pressure there is to have sex in college.”

-Helmi, University of Alabama Class of 2018

RELATED: The Truth About Virginity in College

“For the most part, I've decided to keep my virginity because of my Christian upbringing. For a long time, I told myself that I wanted to wait until I was married, but the more I think about it, I'm not as concerned with waiting until marriage as I am with waiting until I'm in a serious, committed relationship. I know that it's s very intimate thing, and that it'll be right when I'm with the right person, but at the same time I don't think it needs to hold that much meaning. I don't think it's hard being a virgin in college. So far, my experience has actually been positive with guys. Although I haven't had sex, I've hooked up with guys, and there hasn't been a pressure to take it farther. I know that there is a prevalent hookup culture on campus, but I find it easy to remain a virgin despite it. I also think that it's not something I even need to make common knowledge — my friends know, but I don't think it's so important that I have to tell a guy I'm dating, at least for awhile.”

-Lisa, Miami University in Ohio Class of 2019

“I'm waiting for the right person and I would very much like that person to be the one I marry. As insane as that may seem to others, I just want my first to be my last. I don't think there's anything wrong with experimenting with guys but I just don't feel like I want to do that. I don't want to have others to compare it to and feel like I'll be able to learn with him when the time is right.”

-Chris, Case Western Reserve University Class of 2018

“I am waiting until marriage. I think I feel more ostracized or like an outsider because I haven't dated before than because I haven't had sex. I'm more insecure about that than about my virginity.”

-Clare, Christopher Newport University Class of 2016

“Growing up in a Christian home and attending a Christian school kindergarten through 12th grade, I've always been taught God desires for us to stay pure until we are married. Going into college, I had friends who had decided not to follow this guideline and had sex with their significant others. Being a virgin in college when your friends are more experienced is very difficult because honestly, I can't relate and I don't even know half the sexual terminology they use. Personally, I've come to a point where I would really love to stay a virgin until I'm married, not just for religious reasons but because of the STDs out there and the hurt that can come with sleeping with someone who can't be committed to you forever. I don't care how in love someone is, marriage is a bond that is meant for forever. That's a big part of why I've chosen to stay celibate. I just haven't dated anyone I've wanted to give that part of myself to, or really anyone I can see a forever with. Realistically I know I will probably not wait until I'm married, but I would love to wait until I'm at least with the man I know God has planned for me. And who knows, maybe that man has remained a virgin for the same reasons, and in that instance I would not want to have given my virginity to someone I know was not meant for me when I could've waited for my forever.”

-Krista, Kent State University Class of 2017

“I'm not entirely sure if I kept my virginity because I'm waiting for marriage or Mr. Right. It's more like I've been indoctrinated by my religion to see premarital sex as taboo, although, I don't personally oppose to it and it makes a lot of sense to me. Also, being a virgin in body doesn't mean you're one in mind. I know about sex and I can talk about it.”

-Ysabel, The University of British Columbia Class of 2016

RELATED: 7 Myths About Losing Your Virginity, Debunked

"I think that being a virgin is only difficult in college when all of my friends are talking about sex and I can't relate, or when people tease me about it, not realizing that it's actually really personal. Virginity isn't a big deal, and the older I get, the more I realize that. A lot of my friends regret how they lost their virginities, so it's not something that I want to just throw away, but I'm not holding out for true love. Also, there are more virgins than you realize; as a junior, I meet people my age who are virgins all the time. It doesn't have to be a big deal unless you decide to make it one.”

-Hannah, University of Massachusetts Amherst Class of 2017

“I'm a virgin. It's not by any particular choice of celibacy or abstinence or whatever, I'm just waiting for the right person at the right time. So that basically means my long-distance girlfriend, the next time we're in the same town for a night, probably. It's not really that hard to be a virgin in college — sure, there's a hookup culture, but you don't really ever get pressured into being a part of that.”

-Emily, Williams College Class of 2019

“I am choosing to stay a virgin until I'm married and have found it very difficult being a virgin in college. I feel like it has negatively affected my dating life. I have had guys who I've connected with very well not want to exclusively date me because I want to wait to have sex. Sex is just so easily available in college, and I feel like that has caused most students to not taking dating seriously.”

-Anne, University of Alabama Class of 2016

“I really don't find it a hard thing to be a virgin in college because I have this mentality that I absolutely will not let it happen until I am married. I want to save my heart for my husband, and I want him to do the same. Having sex is giving a part of your true love away to someone else, and even if you tell yourself you're giving your whole self to your husband, a piece of it will always be with those you had sex with before. But, the only times I find it hard to be a virgin are when people make fun of virgins. Some people are ashamed of it. It's kind of viewed as a childish thing to have not had sex with anyone, and that can be hurtful. People assume I'm not mature because I've never had sex, but I don't feel that way at all.”

-Kelley, California Lutheran University Class of 2018

“I'm a virgin and waiting until marriage. I have many reasons, and not all of them are religious. I've always been so innocent, so having sex in college just doesn't seem like something I would do. I believe that God created sex to be special and bind two people together in a unique way. Also, our culture shoves sex down our throats every day, so even if I weren't a Christian, I would still not want to have sex. Our society tends to forget that there are more important things in relationships. Sex and love aren't the same thing. The way it's portrayed makes it seem cheap. Society teaches men to overvalue sex and do it as often as they can. Women are treated as objects and shamed whether they have sex or not. That double standard hurts everyone. I don't owe anything to a world that sees me that way.”

-Sarah, York College Class of 2019

“I just don't want to rush into anything and regret it later. I think it can be hard to meet someone or be in a relationship if you don't want to have sex with them in the near future. Your options are more limited but in the end you don't want to be with someone who just wants that aspect of the relationship anyway. So even if it is more difficult I would say that it's definitely worth it. Wait until your ready and don't be ashamed of it. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin in college and it's just as okay if you've already lost your virginity.”

-Katie, Bentley University Class of 2019

RELATED: 41 College Women Get Real About Losing Their Virginity

“Staying a virgin is partially my choice, partially how my love life has played out. Honestly, I'm in no rush. I want to wait until I meet the right person and then I'll make the decision if I want to wait till I'm married. It just so happens I haven't meet the right person to lose it to yet. As of right now though, I'm focused on my schoolwork and not really interested in dating. I do find it difficult to be a virgin sometimes as it seems like everyone around me has had sex and I almost feel like I'm missing out on something. But then again, some of my friends have told me that they wished they'd waited longer so I don't see any harm in waiting for as long as I need.”

-Hannah, Framingham State University Class of 2017

“Yes, I am a virgin. No, it is not because I am waiting until marriage. I doubt I will ever get married; it’s never been something that appealed to me. I also don't know if ‘just waiting for the right person’ applies to me. I've never been on a date or had a first kiss so I am a virgin by default.”

-Kaitlin, Chatham University Class of 2017

“Being a virgin in college is a double-edged sword; everyone congratulates you because you didn't ‘waste’ your v-card on a loser but then they say you're missing out on a lot of fun and stuff at the same time. I also feel like a lot of guys get disappointed because they don't want to ‘teach’ someone who's inexperienced.”

-Alexandra, Ball State University Class of 2018

27 Bad Decisions You'll Make After Listening to Adele

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Adele basically stopped the world when she released "Hello" this past October. The hugely successful single was followed by the release her latest album 25, which (not surprisingly) made music sales history and sold 3.38 million copies in the U.S. in just one week.​ Everybody loves the songstress––her music makes us feel all the feels.

Every single Adele song has this weird way of taking us over, and sometimes even lead us to make bad decisions. Read below for an extensive list of all of the Adele-inspired bad decisions we're guilty of making:

1. Text our ex.

2. Call our ex.

3. Hang out with our ex.

4. Get back together with our ex.

5. Rethink every past relationship we've ever had and where we went wrong.

6. Feel a deep burning sadness inside us.

7. But somehow it feels good, too?

8. Miss somebody we met one time.

9. Miss somebody we don't even know.

10. Use the lyrics to make some emotional Tweets, Facebook statuses and Instagram captions that we'll definitely regret down the road.

11. Cry and cry and cry.

12. Scream out the lyrics at the most inappropriate times.

13. Reclude into our dark bedrooms to analyze every aspect of life.

14. Try to mend all the broken relationships in our lives––even the ones we absolutely shouldn't.

15. Did we mention cry?

16. Wish we gave that one person a second chance. 

17. *Dials old friend* "Hello, it's me..."

18. Feel sentimental about even the most irrelevant moments. 

19. "I should have cherished that milkshake more..." *Bursts into tears*

20. Wonder where it all went wrong...

21. Attempt to write an album about our own age––and fail miserably.

22. Probably cry.

23. Binge listen to every Adele album in existence on repeat.

24. Feel hopeless about ever finding your one true love.

25. Make you think a f**kboy is the one that got away.

26. Contemplate why *insert childhood crush's name here* broke your heart back in fifth grade.

27. Cry.

 

Thank you, Adele. We love you.

 

5 Signs He's Interested That You're Not Noticing

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Trying to figure out if a guy is interested in you can lead you down a confusing road. Sure, you could just flat out ask, but that takes away the fun of finding out if he’s crushing on you back. It can also be a frustrating process; especially if you don’t think he’s making his intentions very clear. Sure he’s flirting with you, but that could also just be his personality. If you think the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You” describes your life, you might be surprised to find out that these signs are right in front of you.

Adam LoDolce, love expert and founder of SexyConfidence.com, a website where he helps the 21st century woman create a love life she loves, weighs in on the signs you may be missing!

1. He always “likes” your social media posts

Everyone gets excited when the guy they are crushing on likes their tweet, but usually it doesn’t mean much of anything—unless he’s doing it all the time. “If he likes all your Facebook posts that could be a sign he’s interested,” says LoDolce. If you’re continuously seeing his name under the likes on your social media, no matter what the post is about, it’s safe to say he’s taking a real interest in you. It might not set off any warning signs when you see his name in a list of Instagram likes, but it can actually mean he’s taking the time to keep up with your posts on a regular basis to learn more about you.

Related: 5 Signs He Wants to Be Your Boyfriend

2. He gets closer to your friends

Making the effort to get to know your circle of friends is a major signal that he is interested. “Becoming friends with your friends means that he’s trying to get closer to you and win the approval of those in your life,” says LoDolce. If you’re always together in a group setting it can be easy to miss this sign, so really pay attention to how he interacts with your friends. If he’s really taking the time to get to know them then he’s probably doing it so he has the opportunity to get to know you better as well.

3. He tries to act cool

Some guys might act nervous around a girl they like, but other guys might even come off as a little bit cocky. This doesn’t mean that they are like that all the time; instead it could mean that they are trying to impress you. “He always acted different around me than he did with our other friends,” says Jessie Young, a sophomore at New York University. “I could tell he was making more of an effort to come off as cool whenever I was around.” Don’t jump to conclusions when a guy shows you a new side of himself--there could be deeper meaning behind it!

4. His friends are in on it

If a guy is interested in a girl, he’s probably confided in his friends about it. If you start to notice his friends talking him up or trying to get you guys together, that’s a pretty telling sign that he has feelings for you. “I was at a party and his friends keep telling me all these funny stories about him and talking about how great of a guy he is,” says Elizabeth Darrah, a senior at Rutgers University. “I got the vibe that his friends were trying to hint that he was interested in me.” Pay attention to how his friends not only interact with you, but how they talk about him as well.

5. He asks a lot of questions

He can only ask you about your schedule so many times before things start becoming suspicious. “Asking meaningless questions is another sign, and proves he’s just looking for a reason to talk to you,” says LoDolce. It may seem like he’s just making conversation, but if you pay attention to the types of questions he is asking you might be able to catch on to his plan. If the questions get repetitive, he may be running out of ideas to get your attention—so take note!

Of course there are the obvious signs of flirting, but it’s the more subtle things that can really show just how interested he is. Instead of only looking for things like body language or playful teasing, start paying attention to other things he’s doing. If you take the time to notice these signs, you’ll be able to put together the pieces and confidently make your move—or at least let him know you’re interested in him too!

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