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My favorite celebrity couple of the summer is Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson. I am thrilled for their engagement, I am thrilled for the happiness they both deserve. And I’m so excited to see them start their new lives together, which looks like it's already started seeing as the couple just nabbed a $16 million apartment together in Manhattan’s Chelsea neighborhood. (No word on if Grandévidson is buying or renting this property.)
What does it look like? Close your eyes and picture the apartment a pop star shares with her fiancée. Now open them and compare. (I’m sure there will be lots of overlap.)
The place comes with such amenities as a 75-foot indoor pool, a juice bar, an amazing view of the New York City skyline, and their own private IMAX theater. HOW IS THIS AN ACTUAL PLACE???
Ariana hinted at moving in with Pete on her Instagram Story, posting a screengrab of an iconic Spongebob Squarepants episode (with his friend Slightly Used Napkin) captioned, “Us in our new apartment with no furniture, 1 speaker and red vines.”
SURE, Ariana. That sounds AWFUL. Could not imagine roughing it like that. What does your place look like again?
Oh, that’s right. Like that.
Jokes and jealousy aside, I’m super happy for Ariana and Pete’s engagement, but mostly I can’t wait for Pete to come on Weekend Update and talk about it on next season’s SNL. (I’m sure he’ll rub it in Colin Jost’s face.)
Hundreds of protesters went to LaGuardia Airport in New York City on Wednesday night to show their support for migrant children, who were flown into the state, under the Trump administrations “zero-tolerance” border policy.
According to New York Magazine, more than 200 children were supposedly being transferred to facilities in the state. Activists flooded every terminals to protest the separation of children from their families at the US-Mexico border.
— Christen Clifford (@cd_clifford) June 21, 2018
Many were carrying signs in Spanish, saying “We’re with you” and “You’re not alone”, NBC New York reports. They also sang “We Shall Overcome” and “Ain’t Gonna Let Nobody Turn Me Around” in the terminal.
Why would we be bringing children hundreds of miles away from where there parents were detained???? Come to LGA now - terminal B Arrivals near Door 4A. Bear witness and let these kids know we are fighting for them. #MoralEmergency#EndFamilySeparationpic.twitter.com/hU0cfMW7Gj
— Linda Sarsour (@lsarsour) June 21, 2018
Even though Trump signed an executive order on Wednesday announcing families at the border must be detained together while parents await trial, federal officials said they wouldn’t make an effort to reunite the 2,300 children who’ve already been separated, CNN reports. Officials at the Department of Health and Human Services later back tracked, saying that they were waiting for further directions, according to New York Magazine.
“We are here in LaGuardia because many of these young immigrants who have been criminalized and separated from their families were put on flights and sent to other parts of the country, including here in New York,” said co-founder and executive director of United WE Dream Cristina Jimenez to CNN.
Welcoming committee for migrant kids in NYC sings "Nosotros venceremos/We shall overcome"pic.twitter.com/faU10V9mUk
— Noah Hurowitz 🇵🇪 (@NoahHurowitz) June 21, 2018
The New York Times posted a video on Wednesday night of seven boys carrying government labeled belongings arriving at LaGuardia on an American Airlines Flight from Dallas-Fort Worth International Airports. Police then escorted them to a van with tinted windows. Since then, several US airlines have asked the government to not place separated children on their flights.
According to NBC New York, the federal government has millions of dollars in contracts with local New York programs, who are now receiving children separated from their parents. In East Harlem of New York city the Cayuga Center is housing 239 migrant children.
— Molly Crabapple (@mollycrabapple) June 21, 2018
More separated children are expected to arrive throughout Thursday in LaGuardia Airport to be transferred to centers in New York.
One of the best parts about MTV back in the late '90s and early '00s was staying up late and watching their TV shows before the midnight block of music videos would start. (Yes, they really used to play hours of music videos at night. Crazy, right?) I would hope my parents wouldn't catch me watching the racy college show Undressed, and would laugh at Clone High and Celebrity Death Match. But my absolute favorite? Daria.
Daria was about a girl who didn't necessarily fit in, who had a popular sister named Quinn, a best friend named Jane, and was hopelessly in love with Jane's brother Trent. She was sarcastic and witty, smart and sometimes timid. I loved every single part of that show and have since watched the show at least two more times through. I especially loved when they would show the characters in hilarious costumes as the credits rolled. When the show ended in 2002, I was sad.
But apparently I don't have to be sad anymore!
Yes, in the time of revivals it would seem that Daria has come up next on the list. Variety reports that MTV has created MTV Studios, a new outlet for both new TV shows and a revival of some fan favorites including Daria, Made and The Real World. The new variation of Daria will be written by Inside Amy Schumer writer Grace Edwards and will follow Daria and one of her close friends Jodie as "these two smart young women take on the world, with their signature satirical voice while deconstructing popular culture, social classes, gender and race."
This will definitely be something to watch!
Trump’s administration's policy of separating families who are crossing the US border has received a ton of backlash. Blowback continues to hit Trump over his policy, but this time in the form of another Time magazine cover. And the new cover depicts the brutal honesty of how many people in our country are indifferent over the cruelty of family separation.
President Trump is seen towering over a young girl in tears, after she’s been most likely separated from her mother, and his face is completely void of emotion. The cover combines an image of the president and the now-iconic photograph taken by Pulitzer Prize winning photographer John Moore of a sobbing little girl while her mother is being searched by border agents in McAllen, Texas. It’s most likely that after the picture was taken the mother and daughter were taken to a processing center, separated, and taken to separate facilities.
Welcome to America -- new Time magazine cover ... pic.twitter.com/5cKsLyEJwY
— John Wagner (@WPJohnWagner) June 21, 2018
“This one was tough for me. As soon as it was over, they were put into a van. I had to stop and take deep breaths,” Moore told Time. “All I wanted to do was pick her up. But I couldn’t.”
The image is also paired with a cover story by Karl Vick, “A Reckoning After Trump's Border Separation Policy: What Kind Of Country Are We?”, which discusses the erosion of our traditional norms and values by the current president.
According to NBC News, the rest of Moore’s photos shows what happens before they were taken to the center. Moore’s photos show the two, and other women and children migrants from Honduras rafting across the Rio Grande to get to Texas. The photos then show the woman holding and breastfeeding her child, as she takes out her shoe laces. The Washington Post reports that shoe laces are confiscated because Border Patrol considers them to be a personal item. The now viral image shows the little girls reaction to being separated from her mother's arms, even for just a couple minutes.
“The mother stoically had her hands against the vehicle, and the girl was crying. Neither were saying words. Nothing could be said with her. She needed to be with her mother,” Moore told the Washington Post.
This isn’t Trump’s first Time cover, as he has appeared in 15 in all. In 2016, he was even named the magazines person of year. But this time, his cover is a clear condemnation over his indifference to an inhumane policy that he passed.
The cover will hit the newsstands on July 2nd.
We’ve waited approximately 14 years to see the sequel to the first Incredibles movie, and it was well worth the wait. Even if you just went to the theaters to see Incredibles 2 to indulge in your early 2000s nostalgia, it’s hard to ignore the fact that Incredibles 2 highlighted Elastigirl's (Helen Parr) powerful role in the franchise. However, Incredibles 2 also used the Incredible family to redefine often toxic gender norms in a healthy way that could influence a new realm of mindful movies beyond animated superhero films.
Even if you haven’t seen the movie, you know from the trailers that Mrs. Incredible and Mr. Incredible flip the traditional family dynamics in their second film. While a vague superhero temporary organization basically hires Elastigirl to revitalize the superhero image (no pressure, Helen), Mr. Incredible takes on a more nurturing role with their kids Violet, Dash and Jack Jack.
From Penelope Alvarex (portrayed by Justina Machado) in One Day at a Time who supports her family as the provider and emotional anchor to fellow animated women like Kim Possible’s mom who was both one of the Possible family’s primary earners, the entertainment industry has been steadily integrating mindful roles that show motherly figures who financially support their families and absorb some (or all) of the traditional fatherly roles. Though present-day cinema is (finally) revamping the role of moms in film and TV shows, Incredibles 2 takes a different and refreshing perspective on family roles and gender norms—specifically by also subtly commenting on toxic masculinity.
More notably, Incredibles 2 combats toxic masculinity by showcasing a physically and emotionally strong man, Bob Parr, as a stay-at-home parent. Typically, movies highlight empowering women who redefine their role both within and outside of their family dynamic, but Incredibles 2 simultaneously focuses on Bob’s critical role taking care of the kids, cleaning the house and being a consistent role model. Because of Bob’s natural strength and manly demeanor, this helps show young men and masculine-presently individuals that you can still take on a more maternal role in your family without sacrificing your masculine identity.
According to Cinemablend, Incredibles and Incredibles 2 are also set in the 1960’s, which actively serves to rewrite problematic stereotypes throughout history. Albeit Incredibles 2 is an animated film in a fictional universe, the family tones behind the film are certifiably non-fictional. Using the movie to rework history also shows other productions that they can’t hide behind the ancient excuse that stereotype, in this case, gendered family norms, exists in historical context, which some productions use to justify problematic on-screen tropes, stereotypes and overall lack-of representation, as well as blatant misrepresentation.
Incredibles 2’s fluidity on gendered family norms illustrates that the film recognized histories problem with sexist roles and gender norms, and it actively uses its production to change these troubling themes. However, the production's flexibility on what defines a mom or a dad, or a family in general, also shows viewers that family roles are ever-changing just like gender norms in general.
Helen and Bob’s respective roles in the Incredibles 2 also shows young people and families that your role in your own family can be malleable and you don’t necessarily need to commit to the caretaker role for the rest of your life—just like you don’t need to be the sole breadwinner. Ultimately, this healthy family portrayal could inspire other super-powered productions to continue the cycle of mindful roles, and thus show viewers that you don’t need to base your identity on outdated gendered norms.
Amy Adams is easily one of the hardest working, yet somewhat underappreciated actresses, in Hollywood right now. She's been nominated for Oscars, Golden Globes, Baftas and more, graced the screen with her impressive talent and is now taking to the small screen in the HBO miniseries adaptation of Gillian Flynn's novel Sharp Objects.
While promoting the upcoming miniseries, Adams sat down with the author and creator of the series, Marti Noxon, for a Hollywood Reporter cover story where she talked about everything from Sharp Objects to complicated roles for women to the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements—and what she had to say was honestly heartbreaking. When discussing how all women have had a moment in their life where they've questioned what signal they had given someone to invite an uncomfortable experience, she said that the constant confusion over unwanted advances from men had dictated what sort of roles she took on.
“I think most women have experienced [sexual harassment], even if it’s just feeling unsafe rejecting somebody. And apologizing, ‘Oh, I’m so sorry, I must have been sending you the wrong signal,’ when, really, it’s like, ‘No, I think I said I don’t want to go out with you, I don’t know how that’s the wrong signal. I think we should just be friends and I’m not sure why you’re at my doorstep.’ It’s that unsafe feeling,” Adams said.
“There’s a reason I started playing nuns and virgins. I was like, ‘I’m not putting up with that anymore.'”
The conversation between the three continued to discuss Flynn's next novel, which follows the tone of the last year in America in terms of sexism and sexual harassment, how Noxon stood up for a female writer on Mad Men and how Adams is focusing on making a better future for the next generation of actresses.
It's unfortunate that an actress of her caliber was relegated to taking specific types of roles in order to ward off advances entirely from men who simply could not take the hint. Here's to hoping that the future Adams is working towards means no woman will again have to look at a role and think, "Am I taking this because it's good or because it'll help ward off advances?"
Sharp Objects premieres on HBO on July 8.
Whenever I go to a baseball game, I don’t do much besides buy overpriced ice cream and leave early because I can already tell the team I’m supposed to be rooting for is losing. But apparently, baseball can be a wild sport—just ask Philadelphia woman Kathy McVay.
McVay was in the stands at a Philadelphia Phillies game on Monday night, minding her own business. Enter the Phillie Phanatic, mascot for the Phillies. Wikipedia describes him as a “large, furry, green bipedal flightless bird with an extendable tongue,” which is absolutely terrifying. (And also my first time learning that birds have tongues, apparently?). But take that nightmare and add the final cherry on top: The Phillie Phanatic carries around a hot dog gun and shoots hot dogs into the crowd with no mercy.
I’m sure you can imagine how this story ends.
According to Deadspin, McVay was sitting near the home plate when the Phillie Phanatic fired and hit her in the eye with a hot dog, sending her glasses flying and leaving her with a nasty black eye (but thankfully, no concussion). McVay couldn’t even defend herself against the hit, because a shoulder injury prevented her from throwing her hands up to protect her face.
If this sounds like an elaborate lie, I promise you it’s not—McVay isn’t even the first baseball fan to have to deal with a hot dog-induced injury from a mascot.
In 2009, a man named John Coomer was attending a Kansas City Royals game when their mascot Sluggerrr (a royal lion, which is actually way less scary to me than a giant, tongued bird, TBH) threw a foil-wrapped hot dog that struck his eye and gave him permanent eye damage. Coomer even sued the Royals over the incident, but ultimately lost.
McVay, for her part, was a total champ about the whole thing, and was even joking about it, so I have a feeling she won’t be filing any lawsuits of her own.
My biggest question: When is someone going to realize that giving mascots hot dogs to fling about as they please is not a good idea? How many black eyes have to be made before someone stops this nonsense?
Following President Donald Trump’s claims that he signed an executive order to prevent the separation of migrant children from their parents, Melania Trump toured a Texas detainment center for migrant children.
CNBC reports that Melania visited the Upbring New Hope Children’s Shelter in McAllen earlier today. Amid the ongoing controversies surrounding the children and toddler detainment centers, CNBC notes that Melania’s visit to one of the shelters was reportedly her decision. Stephanie Grisham, Melania’s communications director, tells NBC News that the visit was “100 percent her idea. She absolutely wanted to come.”
Grisham continued, “She’s seen the images. She’s heard the recordings. She was on top of the situation before any of that came out. She was concerned about it.” Despite Melania’s seemingly genuine concern for the well-being of these migrant children, some people have criticized the first lady for her apparent apathy toward the situation. Particularly as a lack of sensitivity was communicated through her sartorial choices during the visit.
— Twitter Moments (@TwitterMoments) June 21, 2018
During Melania’s intentional visit, the Daily Mail claims that she also wore a jacket with a conspicuous message written on the back. According to CNN’s Jim Acosta a spokesperson for Melania said that the message on the back of the jacket reads, “I REALLY DON’T CARE, DO U?” However, the spokesperson hopes that individuals will look beyond the first lady’s outerwear and focus on her visit to the detention center.
USA Today notes that during the visit, Melania answered press question and also had some of her own inquiries about the facility. One of her initial questions was how many opportunities the detained children had to speak to their parents and families, USA Today adds.
In her formal statement to the press, Melania said, “I’m here to learn about [the] facility to which I know you housed children on a long-term basis. And I also like to ask you how I can help to these children reunite with their families as quickly as possible.”
While we hope that Melania and any impassioned person and organizations do ensure these children safely return to their legal guardians, we hope her visit to a long-term detention center doesn’t foreshadow the longevity of this critical issue. (Because the quicker these children are reunited with their families and subsequently released from custody entirely, the quicker these children can recoup their mental health.)
According to The Washington Post, the detainment center Melania visited is run by Lutheran Social Services, a non-profit organization. The center houses unaccompanied minors, specifically 12-years-old and older, who traveled to the border without any legal guardians.
Though Melania might be invested in securing the safety of separated migrant children, the long-term housing facility she toured doesn’t house any of the children would have been deliberately separated from their parents. Hopefully, this introductory visit will lead to future visits and thorough inspections of the actual detainment centers that house separated children.
Koko, the western lowland gorilla who learned sign language and basically redefined humanity, has died at the age of 46. As The Washington Post notes, Koko gained notoriety after she developed a lifelong friendship with Dr. Francine “Penny” Patterson, who taught Koko American Sign Language after she was transferred at an early age in 1974 to The Gorilla Foundation, a non-profit research facility designed to protect the greatest of apes: gorillas.
Early Thursday, The Gorilla Foundation published a press release, noting that Koko died during her sleep on Tuesday.
Beloved gorilla Koko, famous for learning American Sign Language, passed away at 46 pic.twitter.com/5eGWmT1peJ
— NowThis (@nowthisnews) June 21, 2018
Over her years at The Gorilla Foundation, Koko became apt at sign language and developed lasting relationships with scientists, companionships with animals (such as her adorable kitten, All Ball) and a lengthy star-studded entourage.
Koko had the opportunity to spread awareness about various gorilla species and meet her celebrity idol, Mr. Rogers. The famous gorilla, who reportedly knew how to sign over 1,000 words, also met Robin Williams, William Shatner and Leonardo DiCaprio, according to the Orlando Sentinel.
After The Gorilla Foundation’s initial announcement, Twitter users have used their social media platforms to commemorate their favorite Koko moments—and there’s a lot of them.
While some users remember Koko for her caregiving roles to her adorable kittens, others remember her for her classic snark.
Rest In Peace to Koko, a 230 lb gorilla who mastered sign language and lovingly mothered several kittens.
A magical being. pic.twitter.com/8Zzll5vHHi
— Dana Gould (@danagould) June 21, 2018
One user writes, “Koko the gorilla once ripped a sink out of the wall and, when her keepers confronted her about it, she blamed her kitten, signing ‘cat did it.’ That HAD been my favorite Koko story, until I saw this: RIP to an absolute legend.”
Koko the gorilla once ripped a sink out of the wall and, when her keepers confronted her about it, she blamed her kitten, signing "cat did it." That HAD been my favorite Koko story, until I saw this:
RIP to an absolute legend pic.twitter.com/sH6mGQVVZ3
— Red Durkin (@RedIsDead) June 21, 2018
However, Koko was more than just a hyper-relatable gorilla. Beyond Koko’s encounters with celebrities and her infinite list of memorable moments, Koko also taught the globe about gorillas—creating necessary awareness about gorillas, where particular species are still critically endangered according to the World Wildlife Foundation (WWF).
CNN notes that Koko’s compassionate demeanor and communication skills lead to numerous documentaries and press coverage about her and gorillas. Nevertheless, we can continue to uphold Koko’s iconic legacy by living more like Koko, by being compassionate, understanding and always willing to learn.
If you’re not sure what Koko would do, you can start by volunteering or donating to mindful animal welfare organizations, non-profit wildlife preservations and animal research facilities in her honor.
Putting that perfect $80 faux suede jacket back on the rack is truly a test of self-discipline. It takes even more strength not to snatch it right back up and run to the counter, ready to deplete your bank account once again. Don’t get us wrong, sometimes treating yourself to higher-end fashion is totally worth it! But, too much splurging can do much more harm than good. How do you know when the big price tag is actually worth it? Here are nine questions you’ve gotta ask yourself before shelling out on expensive fashion!
1. Why do you need this item?
There are tons of reasons to fall in love with a certain item, but are those reasons enough to justify splurging on it? If you find the most luxurious pair of Calvin Klein heels and you’re dying to buy them, simply ask yourself why you need them (not just why you want them). Ultimately, why does this item HAVE to be in your closet? If your answers sound like something along the lines of “but I just love the color” or “I don’t have them in this specific design,” then chances are you don’t actually need it. If you’re gonna spend more, then you better have a good reason beyond just “loving” the item.
Tasmiyah Randeree, a junior at the University of Toronto, weighs her needs and wants when she wants to splurge. She usually asks herself, “Do I really NEED that sports bra when I have three sitting in my closet?” and says. “It’s easy to get caught up with shopping in general but taking a step back and assessing if I’m being excessive or not is always a crucial step in my shopping process.” Every clothing purchase is an investment in your wardrobe, so make sure you know why it’s worth it!
2. How much do you want it?
How much you want an item is one of the toughest questions to ask before splurging. Do you want this item so badly you have to have it now, even when you don’t have the funds for it? Are you willing to sacrifice a couple (or a month’s worth) of Starbucks trips for this one item?
Marisa Pieper, a junior at Arizona State University, makes sure to estimate how financially sound her splurges are. “I deal with this all the time since I’m such a shopaholic, but I will usually try to remember the last time I bought an expensive piece and if it’s been a while I’ll treat myself. I’ll also calculate my financial recovery to make sure I can still pay bills, have coffee money, etc,” Marisa says. If you want this expensive item so much, be sure you can handle the financial blow. But like Marisa says, if you don’t treat yourself often, aka more than once or twice a month, then go for it (you’re worth it, ladies).
3. Do you need this item immediately?
Sometimes if you wait it out, that high-priced treasure you’ve found will go on sale later on. Or, when you’re in better financial shape in the future, buying that expensive item won’t take such a toll on you. Question is, are you willing to wait? Sometimes allowing yourself time before splurging can help you really figure out if you want to dish out on those items.
Makena Gera, a sophomore at Marist College, stalls her purchases to give herself that extra time to consider. “I definitely try to stop myself in any way I can when it comes to splurging,” she says. “I do all of my shopping online, so one way I try to prevent myself from impulse-buying things I don’t need is by leaving them in my cart for a few days and then coming back to them. If I’m still thinking about the clothes a few days later then I know that I really do want them and it’s worth the splurge,” Makena says. Time is money they say, and maybe that extra time to consider can save you from spending on an unnecessary splurge.
4. How often do you splurge?
If you want to keep your college student income alive, then you probably shouldn’t splurge on clothes and shoes and bags too often. There’s nothing wrong with treating yourself every once in a while. However, if this is your third splurge this month, then you may need to cut back.
Whether you’re on a tight budget or have more money than you know what to do with, spending too much too often isn’t a financially smart move, so check yourself before splurging! If you already spent a lot of money last time you went online shopping or at the mall, then calm it down this time. Recover from one splurge first and focus on keeping your budget steady for a while. When you’re in a good place and it’s been a while since you’ve treated yourself, then, by all means, splurge away!
5. How many places will you wear this item/these items to?
The more you wear said expensive item, the more it’s worth the price! Of course, when we think of a $200 dress, we’re not exactly buying it to wear to work every day. However, if it is a beautiful, quality item that you’ll wear for more than just one or two special occasions, it’s worth the splurge.
Maci Garcia, a junior at Cal State University, Northridge, lists out places where the item would get a good use before splurging on it. “I usually make a list of events/places where I would wear that outfit or piece of clothing and what I can wear it with. If I can’t think of at least five events/places, I won’t buy it,” Maci says.
You can even take it a step further and calculate the “price per wear” like Madeline McInnis, a senior at the Wilfrid Laurier University usually does. “I am cheap AF, especially when it comes to clothes, so splurging is not something I do often. When I do, I try to imagine how many times I'll be wearing the item, and I'll do a price-per-wear. Let's say there's a dress for a formal event and it's $100. If I plan to wear it four times, that's $25 per wear. I see if I can justify that amount to myself, and if I can, I buy it,” Madeline says. By evaluating usage with the price, you can figure out if the pricey item is worth the splurge before buying it!
6. Is the price worth the quality?
Just because something costs more doesn’t mean it’s the best quality for you. When something is name brand, and/or a brand you trust, then chances are the quality is great. However, sometimes you’ll run into pieces that are absolutely gorgeous, but you don’t know the brand well or have a great idea about the quality. No matter how cute something is, really think about the quality and longevity of the item.
Madison Hendriks, a senior at the University of Ottawa, believes in splurging on items that are classic and will last long. “I ask myself [about] the longevity of the piece and wearability. I most often splurge on pieces that are timeless, will last, and be dressed up or down depending on the outfit. The pieces I most often splurge on are a handbag, shoes or an accessory that can be worn a variety of ways and all year round,” Madison says. Pieces that are high quality, versatile, and used generously are more worth the splurge than something you won’t get a lot of use out of.
7. Can you find something similar for cheaper?
Dupes are our lifesavers nowadays. All it takes is for one high-end item to get popular on social media, and within months you’ll see cheaper versions of it at your local Forever 21. In the end, it really comes down to what you want: the real thing or a knockoff.
There’s no question that the name-brand items are higher quality and have a cleaner, more luxurious look to them. However, do you need all that, or will a nice quality dupe be enough for you? You’ll often find that the dupe versions are easier to wear every day since you’re not trying to keep them pristine like you would for higher-end items. Before splurging on an item, consider if you could find something like it on the cheap. If you really want to invest in the quality and look of the name-brand item, then it’s more worth the splurge.
8. When you're buying multiple things at once, is it worth the total?
The sneakiest of splurges are when you’re buying many seemingly affordable things, but that grand total is outrageously steep. If the total is clearly too high for you, then be willing to compromise. Take all the above steps into account for each item you’ve thrown in your cart (both the IRL and online ones). Look out for frivolous items you’ve thrown in and consider dropping them to “diminish” your splurge.
Sometimes it’s the added-on costs that are hiking up your total, and then you have to consider if those extra costs still make your items worth buying. Tasmiyah shops online frequently, so when the shipping costs get exuberant, she reconsiders splurging. “This is more specific to online shopping and that is that final stage when tax and shipping costs get added to your total. Most of the time, this is when I click exit on my browser because I refuse to pay ridiculous shipping costs,” Tasmiyah says. It’s okay to splurge but make every dollar worth it before you do.
9. Can I really afford this item/these items?
At the end of your splurge debate, you should ask yourself one last time: can I really afford this? It’s very easy to get blinded by your desires and just swipe that credit card away at the counter, so make sure you clear your head and think about it first. Most of the time it’s not that you don’t have the money for it, but whether you should spend so much money all at once. Especially as college students, it’s important to remind yourself of the budget you have and how a splurge will affect it. Be realistic and compromising with your shopping! You don’t want to end up with a pang of regret every time you look at that $200 coat that made you replace real meals with candy bars for a week.
There’s a lot to think about when you want to splurge. Splurges are essentially investments in your wardrobe though, and like with any investment, you’ve got to think before you spend. Ask yourself these questions honestly, and ultimately spend the way you feel most comfortable!
The Shenandoah Valley Juvenile Center in Staunton, Virginia is facing allegations of beating, handcuffing and locking immigrant children in solitary confinement, and leaving them, "nude and shivering in concrete cells," according to Time.
Federal Court Filings include sworn statements from Latino teenagers who were housed in the detention center. One Honduran immigrant said, "Whenever they used to restrain me and put me in the chair, they would handcuff me. They also put a bag over your head."
An average of 92 immigrant children, primarily from Mexico and Central America, are held in the center each year and many of them are fleeing their home country because of gang violence and drug cartels. All of the children held there have not been convicted of any crimes.
According to Time, "The lawsuit filed against Shenandoah alleges that young Latino immigrants held there 'are subjected to unconstitutional conditions that shock the conscience, including violence by staff, abusive and excessive use of seclusion and restraints, and the denial of necessary mental health care.'"
The statements included in the case report that the conditions the immigrants were held in were allegedly poor and many altercations escalated to physical levels, with excessive force being used. Many of the children were beaten while bound to a chair.
Due to the grotesque conditions, many of the immigrants sustained injuries, both physical and psychological. This led to the inmates engaging in self-harm by swallowing shampoo, cutting their wrists with glass and attempting to choke themselves.
The facility is staffed by predominately white, non-Spanish speaking guards who are unqualified to deal with mental health issues.
Lawyers for the center deny all allegations and a hearing for the case is set for July 3 in the Western District of Virginia.
Demi Lovato has always been open and honest with her fans about her journey to sobriety after struggling with substance abuse and self-harm for years — and while that means publicly celebrating milestones like officially being six years sober, it also means bravely owning up to the obstacles she's faced along the way (because it's never easy).
To that end, the singer and mental health advocate released a new single called "Sober" on Thursday — and in it, she admits to her fans that she has relapsed since her announcement that she'd been sober for six years as of March 2018.
"My truth... #sober out now," she captioned an Instagram post announcing the song.
In "Sober," Demi sings, "Mama, I’m so sorry I’m not sober anymore / And daddy please forgive me for the drinks spilled on the floor / And I’m sorry for the fans I lost who watched me fall again / I wanna be a role model, but I’m only human."
As a source confirmed to Entertainment Tonight, it sounds like Demi's relapse happened sometime between the end of the North American leg of her Tell Me You Love Me, tour on April 2 and the beginning of the European leg, which began on May 24.
"Demi relapsed and started drinking alcohol again," another source told ET. "Her song is intense, but that's how she deals. She has to be brutally honest and put it out there so that she's not burdened with holding on to her struggles privately."
While she absolutely doesn't have to share anything about her personal journey with sobriety, we're *so* proud of Demi for being brave enough to use her platform to share the good and the bad — hopefully "Sober" will help her to make peace with her relapse and move on
While we may have all been freaking out over the beautiful, super intimate tour book photos and video that Beyoncé and Jay-Z released last week, it turns out that Blue Ivy has some decidedly...different ~feelings~ about them.
Because it's basically the funniest thing ever, a video of Blue Ivy attending her parents'On The Run II tour, and therefore, seeing these photos and videos for the first time, has gone viral after someone was able to capture her reaction — and clearly, it doesn't matter how famous your parents are, they're definitely still embarrassing AF.
As the video of her parents in bed together comes onscreen, Blue makes a truly horrified face before shaking her head and ultimately just ducking down to shield her eyes until the whole thing is over. The best part? She doesn't quite duck for long enough and has to take a few more quick horrified peeks ("MY EYES!") before finally standing up again to watch the rest of the concert.
Blue watching the interlude of her parents in bed LMAOOOO pic.twitter.com/lcHqubL67p
— tink. (@MissTink__) June 19, 2018
I mean, if this is the only downside that comes with being the firstborn of the literal king and queen of music, then so be it. Besides, all parents are embarrassing — see, Blue Ivy is totally just like us! (Million dollar wardrobe aside anyway, I guess.)
The idea of attending college outside of the country you were born and raised in might seem scary at first, but for many, doing so can be a fantastic learning experience. Not to mention, in certain countries, it can be extremely cost-effective. So if you’re up for it and can relate to most of the following, pay a visit to your school’s guidance counselor ASAP!
1. You want to be immersed in a different culture
If you’ve always been curious about the way people outside of the U.S. live, there’s no better way to find out than by immersing yourself into a new culture.
Stacie Berdan, an international careers expert, says doing so is not only beneficial on a personal level, but it might make you stand out after graduation.
“Globalization is everywhere, and in our interconnected world, the ability to understand other cultures, languages, economies and systems of government remains a distinct advantage across all types of industries,” she says. “The best and fastest way to develop a global mindset is to spend [a] significant amount of time living, studying and working in another country.”
2. You want to graduate with little to no debt
According to Berdan, cost savings—and the possibility of little-to-no debt—is one of the greatest benefits of attending college abroad. While you might be thinking “Well, who wouldn’t want that?”, it’s not exactly that easy. Be prepared to do your research. In addition to talking to your school's guidance counselor, visit websites like Best Colleges and start reading up!
That being said, you shouldn’t have trouble finding a low-cost study abroad program. Keep in mind, though—even in countries with relatively low college tuition, the cost of living may still be high. Make sure that you’ll be able to afford big things like housing and smaller, everyday expenses like groceries.
3. You don’t get homesick easily
It should go without saying, but if you are dreaming of attending college in an entirely different country, you need to be okay with the fact that you won’t see your family and friends from home that often.
Andrea Morales Avila, a senior at New Mexico State University, said this was the greatest drawback she faced while being abroad. “I was homesick for some time because everything is so different that it does take a while to get used to it,” she says.
If you get lonely easily, Berdan says you might reconsider attending college abroad. “The negatives can be loneliness; living abroad is not only glamorous, it's difficult, too,” she says. “You are far from your family and friends, and things are different than you're used to, including the school system.” If you’re pretty independent and don’t mind being on your own, though, you’re in much better shape.
4. You want to learn outside of the classroom
Maybe your classes in high school weren’t where you did most of your learning. When you attend college abroad, you’re picking up on new things every second of the day.
“Learning another language and exploring another culture through day-to-day living as well as in-depth study in politics, history, art or literature immerses the student in a way that enhances the undergraduate degree,” Berdan says. It’s safe to say you’ll graduate with much more than a piece of paper.
5. You want to graduate in less than four years
According to Berdan, many undergraduate degrees in other countries only take three years to complete. If you want to graduate early, yet you’re not sure you’ll be able to if attending a college in the U.S., this could be a great option to consider.
In addition to saving time and money, Berdan says graduating early from a university abroad is a great way to jumpstart a global career. “If a student is interested in working internationally, having studied and perhaps done internships in that country fast track the possibilities,” she says. “Making friends, traveling in a new country and increasing one's independence are also significant benefits.”
Do any of these sound applicable to you? If so, start researching now. You’ll want to understand the requirements and admissions process—but for starters, you’ll need to pick which country you want to study in!
Good morning Her Campus! With a break-neck news cycle, there is no possible way for you to stay on top of every story that comes across your feeds—we’re all only human, after all.
But, life comes at you fast. So grab a cup of coffee and settle in for this quick and dirty guide to stories you might’ve been sleeping on (like, literally. It’s early.)
Contrary to Melania's Rep, Trump Says Her Controversial Jacket Was Intentional
So, there's a new development in the Melania Trump Jacket saga: contrary to a statement made by the FLOTUS' communication director, President Trump tweeted Thursday evening that the jacket his wife wore to visit immigrant children in Texas, which read "I really don't care, do u?" was not only totally intentional, but a statement actually directed at the "fake news media."
“I REALLY DON’T CARE, DO U?” written on the back of Melania’s jacket, refers to the Fake News Media. Melania has learned how dishonest they are, and she truly no longer cares!
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) June 21, 2018
Meanwhile, the First Lady's communications director Stephanie Grisham tweeted earlier in the day that, "#ItsJustAJacket" so, yeah okay POTUS.
Corey Lewandowski Dropped From Speakers Bureau Following 'Womp Womp' Comment
After dismissing the story of a 10-year-old girl with Down syndrome who was separated from her parents at the border with a "womp womp" on live television (and refusing to apologize), Trump's former campaign manager Corey Lewandowski has been dropped from top Washington, D.C. speakers bureau Leading Authorities Inc, CNN reports. Speakers bureaus, which handle public speaking and appearances for political figures like Lewandowski, often earn their speakers five and six-figure checks for just one appearance — so thankfully, it seems like at least someone is standing up to Lewandowski and refusing to give him a platform for his bullsh*t.
Former Trump campaign manager Corey Lewandowski has been dropped by his speakers bureau after saying "womp womp" regarding the story of a 10-year-old girl with Down syndrome who was reportedly separated from her mother after crossing the border illegally https://t.co/JaLM2MaKQjpic.twitter.com/zt9p3wjhA2
— CNN (@CNN) June 21, 2018
Delta Has Banned "Pit Bull Type" Dogs as Service Dogs
People are *not* happy after Delta announced Thursday that it would no longer allow "pit bull type" dogs to be brought on its flights as service dogs, BuzzFeed News reports. While Delta cites "several recent incidents in which several employees were bitten," service dog and pit bull owners are pretty furious, saying the description "pit bull type" is too vague, and that most pit bulls aren't actually violent at all.
Are you kidding me, @delta?
The Americans with Disabilities Act prohibits discrimination against the use of service dogs in public spaces, INCLUDING breed-specific discrimination.
Also, "pit bull type dog" is not a breed. https://t.co/F3BMKdJzmP
— Nikki Burdine (@NikkiBurdine) June 21, 2018
What to look out for...
Happy Pride Weekend!
Mac and Cheese is the absolute perfect food for literally any occasion. When I’m sick, I want mac and cheese. When I’m hungover, I want mac and cheese. When I am sitting down for a night of the Bachelorette with my girls, I want mac and cheese. I think you get the point now. I’m never not in the mood for a steaming, plate full of cheesy goodness. It may not be a nutritionally balanced meal, but it is always good! If you are like me, it turns out that there might be a scientific reason for why we love foods like mac and cheese, pizza, and even doughnuts so much.
A new study from Yale University, published in this month’s Cell Metabolism, finds that these foods that are high in fats and carbohydrates might be stimulating our brain in the similar way that drugs do. No seriously, the reward center of our brain apparently lights up like a Christmas tree when we eat these kinds of foods.
In the study, researchers began collecting images of foods that fell into three categories, “fat, carbohydrates, and fats plus carbohydrates”. Participants were then asked to rate all of these snacks for “liking, familiarity, estimated energy density, and total calories”. On a different day, they fasted for a time, and were then fed a breakfast at the lab, which consisted of orange juice, cheddar cheese, whole wheat toast, white toast, strawberry jam, and butter. Honestly, that sounds like an amazing breakfast, nothing but delicious bread!
Three hours later, they were given five euros to spend, and were told that they could bid anywhere between zero to five against a computer to buy the snacks they had previously rated. As they completed the exercise, each participant was hooked to an FMRI machine. The scanner helped to show researchers what was going on in their brain as they bid on items.
The results showed that the subjects were more willing to spend money on snacks that were both high in fat and carbs than they were for snacks that were primarily high in fats or high in carbs. As well, participants brains from just seeing the photos of the snacks “lit up neural circuits in the reward center of the brain more than a favorite food, a potentially sweeter or more energy-dense food, or a larger portion size.” As a result, they found that foods high in fats and carbs are more rewarding to us than other options.
What makes the study’s findings so fascinating, according to Dana Small author and professor of psychiatry at Yale University is that foods high in both fats and carbohydrates don’t generally exist in nature. The only exception is in Breast milk as it contains a ton of both fats and carbs.
According to Popular Science, the reality is that our brain had to become hardwired to like fats and carbs. Over time, we evolved to prefer them as our society began to depart from our hunter gatherer days and jumped into the processed foods scene. Mac cheese combines both fats and carbs as the cheese is low in carbs, but high in fats. (Remember fats aren’t a terrible thing; we need them to survive!) The pasta in the delicious dish is considered a complex carbohydrate. Basically, supporting the findings in the study. Pizza also combines fat from the cheese and complex carbs, so does French fries, ice creams, and avocado toast. All of these foods light up the same reward systems within our brains.
It all makes sense now!
For all you collegiettes out there needing some major career inspiration, singer LIVVIA is definitely someone to look to. Not only did she recently graduate from UC Berkeley with a degree in economics, but she's also an incredibly talented artist (and a wonderful person to speak with). She has opened for Meghan Trainor and Lindsey Stirling, as well as toured with Jessie J and Victoria Justice in the past. With a catchy pop vibe and beautiful vocals, LIVVIA is definitely going to take the world by storm this year.
She chatted with Her Campus about her single "Catch a Body," how she managed a singing career as a college student, in addition to what she plans to do post-graduation.
Her Campus: Your single, “Catch a Body,” is currently playing in the top 40 across the country. Do you remember the first time you heard it on the radio?
L: There's technically two stories here because the first time I heard it on the radio, I was actually in Miami and was visiting a radio station. Coincidentally, they were the first station to play it in the U.S. I was visiting them and they said, "Oh this is really funny, but your single is slotted to play right now." I had never heard it on the radio, so I was in the studio and I actually got to intro it, which was amazing. But the first time that I really heard it where I was out and about, it happened to come on while I was in the car. I was literally turning onto the street that my rehearsal studio was at, and it came on the radio. The next thing at rehearsal the same thing happens. Our rehearsals are at different times, but at the same intersection the song came on. When we got to the intersection at the red light I was like, "If my song comes on, that would be insane." And it did!
HC: What was the inspiration for this single? Did you originally intend it to be a collaboration with Quavo?
L: The way we started the song was pretty funny actually, because we started it in a way that I really like to write. We have an instrumental track, and all of the writers will take turns going into the booth and just recording whatever comes to our minds. Then, we'll put those improv takes together. In one of the takes, someone said hold a body, and somebody else thought she said catch a body. I love a play on words, so I was like, "We could do something with this!" The whole "you look so good it's killing me" type of thing came from that, so it was almost an accident. The collaboration part came about because we had left that day having written everything except for a bridge. We thought maybe instead of writing a bridge, we could get someone to collaborate on a song. This was about a year ago when we wrote it, and in an ideal world we would have Quavo on it. He's amazing and huge, and to have him was kind of wishful thinking. It just so happened that my producers were working with somebody who was working with Quavo, so they were about to get him to hear it. He loved it so much that he literally just recorded something and sent it back. It was amazing.
HC: Can we expect more music to be released later this year? If so, how does it compare to “Catch a Body”?
L: There's actually new music that's going to be coming out really soon. It's just been a lot with the promo for "Catch a Body," which I wish I could've released a lot sooner—but they're coming! I think they're in the same vein as "Catch a Body." They're still upbeat because that's the vibe that I always like to keep. The particular song that is coming out next is just me and not a feature. It's called "Gratitude." It's really important to me because I love to live my life by thinking of the bright side of things. I love to think about all the things that I'm grateful for. I feel like we can get so easily caught up in the little things, but in the big picture there are so many things to be grateful for. That song sort of speaks to that, and I absolutely love it.
HC: You’re graduating from University of California Berkeley with a degree in economics. Do you intend to pursue a career in that field, continue solely with music or do both?
L: I literally just came from my last final, so I'm really excited. I always get asked why I'm an economics major if I'm a musician, but I really just love econ because having as much understanding as possible of economics is helpful in any career. I've already found it to be helpful in my music career because I'm not really just an artist. I like to keep up with all aspects, like legal and business and marketing, and econ has played a big role in all of that. I even wrote an econ paper once on the economics of Spotify. Sometimes my professors will use the music industry as an example. It's actually more related than people would initially believe. I never thought of it as a backup plan, but I really thought of it as going hand-in-hand with my career.
HC: How did you balance a successful music career and your academic studies in addition to having a social life?
L: I sacrificed a social life for much of those four years, but I guess it was because my social life was completely limited to touring, and I would make friends with the people I was touring with. I had the option to tour with some really amazing artists, but I would keep to myself because I did a lot of my work being on the road and submitting work to Berkeley, or doing any classes that they offered online. It was isolating. Finishing up my degree required me to take upper division classes and be on campus more but for the most part, I was really used to being in airports. My friends were [also] really understanding. When I come home, they all come over to my house so I don't have to go anywhere because I'm exhausted. I honestly was afraid over the last four years that I would never reach the point of graduation just because of everything pulling me in opposite directions. I am beyond relieved that I got to this point.
Thank you @UCBerkeleyOfficial dept. of Economics!!! Juggling my career and education hasn’t always been easy, but it’s beyond worth it. Graduation is bittersweet... I’m going to miss my professors, classmates, classes, and our beautiful campus so much CONGRATULATIONS to all the 2018 grads!!!! #berkeleypov #ucberkeley #graduation #calgrad
HC: What’s the most valuable lesson you’ve learned from being a college student?
L: I think probably the value of collaboration. A lot of times, especially at Berkeley, people like to say it's so competitive and nobody wants to help you or do well. I was a little bit afraid of that, but I haven't encountered anything of the sort. Everyone has just been beyond helpful. We all want to study together. We all want to help each other out and proof each other's papers. It has just been the most collaborative and supportive and inspiring environment of students and teachers and teaching assistants. The value of it is how you really can lean on people. If you know one thing better than the other, you can learn it from somebody else. If I really love writing papers and my friends are more technical, I will proofread their papers. It's that kind of thing—playing to your strength and learning from others around you.
HC: Now that you’re graduating, what are your plans for the summer?
L: I'm walking at graduation, but I have one summer class to finish up in econ. I'll be going back and forth from Berkeley and LA and doing radio shows. I also have my first festival this summer, so it will be a little bit of the same until the end of the summer when I will no longer be at Berkeley. I will be primarily focusing on music once again. I love academics so much, so I may start thinking about grad school to still do that part of my life, but I don't know yet. It will just be great to focus on music completely for a bit.
Take a second to dream of this: a dazzling utopia where the orgasms are bountiful, women aren’t marginalized, and the government is finally off its bullshit. *comedic record scratch sound effect* But hey, we’re living in 2018 where somehow it’s still being communicated to women that pleasure should be a hidden or off-limits topic. Nice.
Especially in a year where technology is at the forefront of society, you’d think that conversations and ways to approach previously taboo subjects would be improving (if not solely because of the anonymity that social media offers to talk about sexual experience, but also because it gives a platform to those ladies who do want to build on a brand on sexual liberation), but it feels like we’re still falling short in an essential area of women’s basic sexual satisfaction.
Luckily, a few queer women and one Lioness vibrator are working to make technology do its part. And in celebration of Pride Month, they told Her Campus about all the ways they’re improving the lives of women and pioneering inclusivity – specifically, using a robot with a flexible clitoral nub.
Founded with the purpose of giving women a platform to understand their own bodies and sexuality, Lioness is obviously a trailblazer. To fight outdated stigma surrounding female sexuality, the founders and creators designed the Lioness vibe specifically for “personal-experimentation” which like, hell yeah to that.
So, how does this magic little device work? Well, first ya gotta buy it here (totally worth the money, just a PSA). Once you get yours, sync with the corresponding app to see orgasm patterns, track experience, and overall learn what does and doesn’t work during ~you time~. It’s the first toy that helps you learn about your body’s sexual response – so you’re not only having a good time, you’re also embracing all the unique things about your downstairs and learning what you like, dislike, and would like but don't know yet. It’s honestly some sort of empowering-vibrator-tech-witchery, and it’s exactly what Pride 2018 desperately needs.
In a time were sexuality isn’t concrete and acceptance is spreading, the queer women behind Lioness know that the time for change is now.
For Lioness co-founder and CEO Liz Klinger, her identity as a queer woman is an integral part of who she is and an inspiration for innovation. At a young age, discovering her sexuality often overlapped with exploration of sexual pleasure, but living in a not so LGBTQ+-friendly area, she had to find another way to get answers to her burning questions.
“I was pretty quiet about my questioning, instead [I turned] to the internet to learn more about what I was feeling and how to make sense of things” Klinger says.
What she found expanded far beyond what talked about in sex ed or even with friends. Klinger discovered that there was a whole world of self-pleasure hidden from the conversation.
She credits this widespread gap in knowledge and her desire to understand her own sexuality as two of the reasons for pioneering Lioness.
“Growing up in the ‘90s with a conservative family from Wisconsin... I was made constantly aware that how I felt sexually was ‘wrong’ and something that I should be ashamed of. I don’t think I would have reflected on or thought as much about both my own sexuality and the topic of sexuality if it hadn’t been for that,” she says, and also notes that these experiences obviously carved a path to where she is today. “In some ways, I think if it wasn’t for me being a queer, nerdy, somewhat introverted girl, I wouldn’t have gone down this path and eventually started Lioness.”
In college, Klinger’s job selling intimacy products only continued to spark her curiosity: “It’s what made me so aware of my own sexuality and from there how much need there was for both better products (in general) in the space, but also products that helped us overcome a lot of the knowledge gaps created by different societal norms and structures of how sexuality ‘should be.’ That’s why I wanted to create a product to let people self-experiment and help support them along the journey of sexual self-discovery.”
With Lioness rockin’ masturbation sessions everywhere, Klinger and co-founder Anna Lee are working towards the goal of expanding women’s understanding of self-pleasure, but because there’s still a huge gap in mainstream sex-tech markets – specifically for LGBTQ+ folks – there’s a lot of work left to do.
The Lioness solution: make sure that you have people across different backgrounds and viewpoints contributing to the whole process.
Klinger explains: “We have a lot of conversations that many companies with less diverse voices (LGBTQ+ being a big one) wouldn’t have, and all sorts of aspects of that comes out in our product.”
One of these contributing voices is Maggle Stiggleman, a Lioness software engineer whose queer identity is an important part of her work as well. When she was young, Stiggleman notes she “mostly bought what [she] was sold about gender and sexuality,” meaning that, like Klinger, she was in the dark about the vast world of pleasure. It wasn’t until college that Stiggleman had her “sexuality crisis” and became passionate about preaching pleasure and masturbation.
“I was studying Computer Science and Gender Studies in college, and had a particular interest in sexual health and female sexual pleasure. I was passionate about telling women masturbation is good,” she says.
When she found out about Lioness after college, Stiggleman knew she had to join the team. “Really cool coding? Orgasm data?” She was all in.
Stiggleman has a heavy hand in the creative process as a software engineer, so she has the chance to use her personal experiences to make product as inclusive as possible. “As a rule we do not use pronouns in the app, because of course we cannot assume the user’s gender. I relate it to how period-tracking apps have often made me feel alienated. It took me a few different apps before I found one I liked that didn’t assume I was straight and needed to track straight sex.”
She continues: “I can’t imagine how someone who doesn’t identify as a woman feels on those same period-tracking apps. So, I do my absolute best to never assume the gender or sexuality of our users.”
While remaining inclusive is a huge goal of Lioness, helping women to understand masturbation and sexuality is the intention that always guides the team. When research originally showed that only two types of orgasms existed, Lioness did their own research and quickly found a third orgasm type, proving that there was so much more to be discovered in the world of sexual response.
“This was the first time it really hit me that the potential of studying female pleasure is huge” Stiggleman explains. “Just from expanding the circle to our group of testers we found something new, imagine what we’ll discover as we keep going.”
As Lioness keeps discovering, they’ll continue to dissolve taboos surrounding masturbation – even if just through starting conversation. During a Pride Month where intolerable people are rampant in the U.S. and when women and LGBTQ+ folks alike could use a boost, this smart-vibrator is a beautifully nerdy moment, inspiring all of us to spend a little extra time loving ourselves and living our best lives (bountiful orgasms included).
By Nicole Brinkley
Asexuality —alongside agender and aromanticism — is one of the three identities represented by the letter "A" in LGBTQIA+. It's a revelation for many that it doesn't stand for "ally," which various pieces of queer merchandise would encourage you to believe. That's because many people haven't even heard of asexuality.
Maybe you're one of those people. Or maybe you're somebody who's heard the word asexuality and suspects it applies to them in some way, even if you don't know much about it. Maybe you heard Bill Nye use the word in the first season of Bill Nye Saves The World and went, “Huh. That’s interesting.” And that's okay. We're not born knowing everything. We're born naked and screaming and covered in blood.
Asexuality is a queer identity that is most often expressed as a lack of sexual attraction to other people. Like every queer identity, this comes on a spectrum—some people are gray-asexual, meaning they only experience sexual attraction sometimes; some people are demi-sexual, meaning they only experience sexual attraction after developing a romantic attraction. Asexual people can come in as many forms as there are flowers: as many different combinations as romantic attraction and gender expression there are, there are people who identify on the asexual spectrum that fit those molds. And each and every one of them deserves to feel welcome in LGBTQIA+ spaces.
Yet, somehow, the only social idea of an asexual person comes in the form of a frigid ice queen, like some evil Elsa, or a robot. There are some rad things I could do with cybernetic eyes or a Bucky Barnes arm. But being asexual doesn't mean being emotionless; it has nothing to do with your feelings or your romantic attraction. Likewise, it does mean that asexual people have a right to be at pride and live authentically as themselves.
Asexuality simply means you don't necessarily want to have sex with other people.
There are asexual people who have sex with partners they trust. There are asexual people who are comfortable with some sexual acts, but not others. There are people who fall under different branches of the asexual spectrum that enjoy sex under specific circumstances.
In a plot twist that confuses both asexual people and partners, asexuality does not impact sexual drive—which can become infuriating when hormones kick in—and so asexual people can sometimes physically crave something that they emotionally and mentally do not want, much like craving a pickle on your period only to remember that you hate pickles so much.
Like any other identity—and like any other person—asexuality is a nuanced and complicated thing.
An Ace (And Ace-Lover's) Reading List
Luckily for asexual people (or for those seeking to be good allies to asexual people), there are nonfiction books like The Invisible Orientation, which offers further scientific and cultural primers on asexuality; there are numerous articles online where people talk about their experiences, including this favorite of mine in the New York Times; and there are novels to read to see asexual experiences reflected within their pages. Favorites of mine include Every Heart A Doorway by Seanan McGuire, Tash Hearts Tolstoy by Kathryn Ormsbee and Let’s Talk About Love by Claire Kann.
But the most important thing about asexuality is this: Asexuality is real. Asexuality is a queer identity.
And asexual people are valid and important and loved. You are valid and important and loved.
Nicole Brinkley is a plant-obsessed bookseller who loves dragons. The rest changes without notice.
When she’s not running the book website YA Interrobang, where she advocates for a more inclusive publishing world, you can find her on Twitter (@nebrinkley) and Instagram (@nebrinkley) or support her work on Patreon.
The novel, To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before, is basically the written anthem for any teenager or post-teenager who’s ever been woefully like-struck. Now, according to Vulture, Netflix has unveiled the first trailer (which we're completely smitten over) for the movie adaptation of our favorite cringey teenage romantic comedy book, and we can’t wait to relive our awkward crushes.
Like Jenny Han’s book, the movie follows Lara Jean (played by Lana Condor), who writes a letter about her crushes whenever she literally can’t process all ~those~ intense emotions. We’ve all been there seeing as we’ve daydreamed about that person in chemistry, and we’re still left hyper-embarrassed by that weird face we made in front of him on our way to class, so we’ve aborted any future daydreaming thereafter. Nevertheless, the trailer for To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before is finally here and we’re still mentally preparing ourselves for this nostalgia-ridden rom-com journey.
However, To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before is more than a revitalization of young love, it’s about Lara Jean’s journey to grow past her written fantasies and explore life and herself. Though there are a plethora of rom-coms where the lead tries to find who they are as a person so that they can find their special person, To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before offers a different perspective that simultaneously highlights healthy representation, in an often white-washed genre.
“There aren't that many rom-coms out there starring an Asian lead love interest," Lana Condor told Teen Vogue. "So, I was and am over the moon to hopefully begin to pave the way for other ladies (and men) in my position. It means the world to me." It means the world to us, too, Lana.
To All the Boys I’ve LovedBefore hits Netflix on August 17, and we can’t wait to binge-watch this movie. Until then, we’ll be busy re-reading the original book and watching this trailer on repeat, while revisiting our old sappy notes to our crushes we were too afraid to talk to.
Following Roseanne Barr’s infamous racist tweet and a series of other questionable posts
even though we already knew that she was problematic AF before this fiasco, ABC finally canceled the reboot of Roseanne last month. However, the network recently announced that it will debut a Roseanne spinoff series this fall, just without Roseanne (obviously). But who will the spinoff focus on? What will the series be called? And WTF does all of this mean? Don’t worry, we have (mostly) all of the answers to your questions.
— Emma Kenney (@EmmaRoseKenney) June 22, 2018
So what’s the title of the spinoff?
ABC announced the series will tentatively be called The Conners. While it’s still a working title and could change as the scripts transform, the series will obviously focus on the Conners as they navigate the daily stresses of being a family unit and just existing.
The adapted version of the former Roseanne series will feature 10, 30-minute episodes, which are set to air this fall on Tuesday evenings. Though the title of the series is subject to some healthy changes before we see the first episode on an ambiguous, fall Tuesday, ABC is pretty clear that Barr won’t have any involvement in the impending series.
“Roseanne Barr will have no financial or creative involvement in the new series,” ABC said in a statement.
So, what will happen to Roseanne Conner if the series focuses on the Conner family sans her?
According to E! News, the spinoff will still feature the other members of the Conner family, just as Dan (John Goodman), Jackie (Laurie Metcalf) and Darlene (Sara Gilbert). However, the entire Twitterverse is contemplating how the Conner family saga will continue without one of the Conners.
From theories that The Conners will metaphorically kill off Roseanne Conner to theories that it will literally kill Mrs. Conner off-screen (of course), US Weekly reports that Twitter is trickling with fan theories on how The Conners will explain Roseanne Conner’s sudden absence from the family.
Nevertheless, The Conners probably won’t have an actual cameo where they figuratively kill of Roseanne Conner’s character. ABC notes that apart from normal family qualms, the Conner family will also experience “a sudden turn of events” in the impending series, which hints that something will happen to Roseanne the character and, come sometime this fall, we’ll transport to the Conner’s family life story arc after those vague events have already taken place.
After all, The Conners can always Two and a Half Men Roseanne Conner’s absence in the series (i.e., explain her disappearance without actually giving Roseanne Barr a cameo).
Either way, Roseanne voluntarily gave up any rights she had to her titular series and any spinoffs that it spawned. “I agreed to the settlement in order that 200 jobs of beloved cast and crew could be saved, and I wish the best for everyone involved,” Barr told CNN.
CNN notes that some people are apparently upset that Roseanne won’t have a role in the impending The Conners sitcom—however, this spinoff could show viewers that we can continue shows that previously starred problematic people in a healthy way, and the easiest way to do that is to remove the toxic people from the production.
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@fbfamily: I have this aunt who is terrible and a Tr*mp supporter and wants everyone to know it. She's posting stuff I find politically and morally reprehensible on Facebook at every turn and even gets into fights with my friends (and me) on posts that don't concern her at all. My mom doesn't want me saying mean things to her online and said unfriending her wouldn't look good either. Wtf can I do?
@helpmehc: In these, the hyper-polarizing end-of-days times, it feels a bit like a horror movie. You're looking around at people you've always known and love and realizing that they might be Deep State truthers or unflinchingly indifferent to the plight of migrant children in cages. It feels very much like you're looking over your shoulder, unsure of whether the people you've always known and trusted can still be trusted the same way. It's also hard to balance family politics with this world where Neo Nazis take to the streets with their goddamn tiki torches. Shit is complicated.
One thing not so complicated? Fighting on Facebook. When, in the history of that god-forsaken online cesspit of high school randos, has a Facebook argument ever been effective? Like really and truly when? (Like, never.) So first things first: Recognize that the platform doesn't lend itself to nuance, to empathetic discourse, to anything that doesn't devolve into mean-spirited playground spats with a dose of tribalism. Don't expect miracles and don't @ me Zuckerberg.
Now, for the IRL implications. The reality is, you can't just separate politics from your personal relationships. Personally, I've always deeply side-eyed folks who say that you can do that (and it's typically a tell-tale sign that a person hasn't had their whole existence/life politicized.) A person's politics, their values, all those systems about what they can stand and what they can't stand about this crazy messed up world we live in speak volumes about who they are as a person and you can't be expected to ignore it. The decision about what kind of relationship you can stand to have with that aunt is yours alone to make. Your mom can have feelings about it and you can choose whether those feelings play into your decision, but you can't force yourself to nod your head and smile if you don't have it in you. If you gotta block or unfriend, un-fucking-friend.
Now, outside that personal relationship situation, you are a grown-ass human who gets to set your own physical and digital boundaries. If you want to remain diplomatic for your mom's sake, you can totally take the route of sending a short message to your aunt saying something along the lines of "I respect your right to say what you want and believe what you want, but I ask that you respect my friends and other loved ones and not try to start arguments on my posts with people I care about when they don't concern you." Those are reasonable, respectful boundaries to set and to abide by and it shouldn't turn into a family World War III to ask that. People — even family — who continually overstep reasonable boundaries are garbage anyway. Tell 'em not to come unless you send for them.
If you don't think that kind of firm-but-civil tactic will work (because tbh some people straight-up don't want to work that way and just want a fight) you can also use privacy settings to your advantage and hide the majority of your posts from this aunt. It's not a perfect system, but it can save you a lot of grief. Let her have a cat picture or something else, but keep your friends and folks willing to engage in civil discourse away from her. You don't want to restrict your social media to a place where you're only preaching to a choir of yes-men (there's no real work to be done there) but you also can judge when a person isn't open to a real, frank and good-faith conversation about differences.
For folks with privilege, you absolutely have a responsibility to try and talk to folks who are resistant to understanding the experiences and struggles of folks with less privilege. You can always try to deescalate and approach things from a thoughtful, empathetic angle and see what comes of it — I need to believe that underneath some garbage policy opinions and media brainwashing there is a part of all humans that can still connect with other people who are different than them. But, if someone proves over and over again to be on the attack and have little interest in conversation beyond hurting you and the people you care about, you don't owe them anything — not attention, not time, not education.
It's a balancing act, but you know in your heart when you can maybe do The Work and when you're just punching against a wall. You can't change the world or change minds while volleying fb barbs at someone who is destroying your mental health or hurting the people you love. No one expects that from you.
And, of course, once the unfriending/privacy setting changes are made, you can always make a beautifully petty spite donation to a non-profit of your choice in their honor. (You don't always gotta go high.)
Check out more advice from @helpmehc. We've got your back.
Happy Pride Month, y’all! It’s a great time to give the LGBTQ people in your life some support and work on becoming a better ally for the community and their needs. I personally have been trying to work on using more inclusive language and talking to my friends who identify somewhere in the LGBTQ spectrum about what type of support is most important for me to give to them.
Luckily, there’s a wealth of people in the spotlight to look to for inspiration. Obviously, first, we should look to celebrities who themselves are LGBTQ and serve as voices in the community—but there’s also many famous voices who aren’t LGBTQ themselves, but have used their positions to speak up.
Famous voices like…
The singer recently released a video for her song “Blow Your Mind (Mwah)” that includes androgynous models and rainbow pride flags. “I feel like I wanted to touch on so many different things, quite serious topics happening in the world, but without making it too political or too serious. I wanted to do my form of representation, and to have fun with it. Like, I took quotes from the Mean Girls movie and instead of saying, ‘You can’t sit with us’, I changed it to, ‘You can sit with us’. There were loads of different things in that video that were about girl power and gay pride and showing support for the LGBT+ community,” Dua recently told GayTimes.
The Late Late Show host has publicly donated to LGBTQ rights organizations and used his show to perform a song in protest of Donald Trumps’s 2017 ban on transgender people serving in the military. “It was so well written. As soon as [the writer] told us at 11am, it was a scramble to record it, find a studio, dancers, a tux, an old-style Sixties bandstand with LGBT on it,” he told Attitude. "I was very proud of it.”
Harry Potter’s creator is, of course, a huge proponent of being who you truly are, having revealed several years ago that Hogwarts headmaster Albus Dumbledore was gay. “It has certainly never been news to me that a brave and brilliant man could love other men," she told a press conference in 2007. She also replied to criticism on Twitter with messages of support and hope.
— J.K. Rowling (@jk_rowling) December 16, 2014
Squirrelfriends (PS- she is great and so is her show!) #infernoagogo #FACECRACK Repost @bendelacreme I’ve been trying really hard not to brag about @annehathaway gushing about how much she loved #infernoagogo last night, but so far it hasn’t been working. 🤷♀️ #annehathaway #bendelacreme #infernoagogo @thebeechman
Hathaway, who talked about her gay brother in a 2008 speech at the Human Rights Campaign Los Angeles Dinner, has aligned herself with many LGBTQ causes, even donating money from photos taken at her wedding to the Win More States Fund (which helped lobby for legalization of same-sex marriage). "In my household, being gay was, and is, no big deal," she said. "When my brother came out, we hugged him, said we loved him, and that was that."
The comedian acknowledges that supporting the LGBTQ community is important and should be a given, telling PrideSource she "couldn't remember a time when she didn't." She also said of herself and Snatched co-star Goldie Hawn, “We’re both people who will stand up to the death for our gay friends and gay people and what’s going on in Chechnya and the fear of the what will happen in the coming years. We’ll be there to fight alongside our gay friends."
Billboard named her the "Gay Icon of Her Generation" for a reason. Besides vocally supporting her older brother, social media superstar Frankie Grande (a gay advocate), she also wrote a letter crediting her career to the community and thanking them for their support. "I am eternally indebted to and inspired by the LGBTQ community. I hope to create anthems for you that wrap you up with comfort and make you get your best life for as long as I live. Thank you for celebrating me the way I celebrate you."
He's notably played gay characters before, from Kurt's loverboy Blaine on Glee to serial killer Andrew Cunanan on American Crime Story: The Assassination of Gianni Versace, but even outside of that, he's used his star to give visibility to the community that has inspired his performances. "It's not necessarily about allies between the straight and gay communities, it's sort of just championing connectivity and compassion," he told Fuse. "I think one has to be educated and mindful of as many things as you can about other people's experiences so that there's a sensitivity and compassion you can apply to being on their side. My particular torch that I'm carrying happens to be for that because the luck I've had with playing certain characters on television and being able to be a symbol for that."
Though country music isn't traditionally the most LGBTQ-friendly genre in the world, "The Middle" singer Morris has been trying to use her youth and stardom to change that. She said in a Billboard love letter to the LGBTQ community, "The LGBTQ community was so embracing of me and I felt this precious responsibility to be a voice in country music for them, because it’s a genre that historically has not. In 2018, things are changing. Walls are coming down, tolerance has turned to acceptance and incandescent support. However many revolutions we get around the sun, we’re all here to love and be loved."
The Hunger Games star has connected with organizations such as The Trevor Project and Straight But Not Narrow, and even helped launch a campaign called Power Out, giving LGBTQ kids living in rural communities the tools they need to connect with each other. He even donated one of his own computers to the campaign. “It's awesome to know that it'll be used to help a young person out there who, before this campaign, wasn't able to get access to information and resources that could really help them," he told Out. "I've always respected the work that The Trevor Project does, and to have an opportunity for Straight But Not Narrow to collaborate with them on a campaign like Power On is exciting.”
Rihanna's never afraid of speaking her mind, and she puts that to good use when supporting her LGBTQ fans and criticizing institutions that incorrectly treat the community. When performing in Indiana in 2015, she criticized the state's Religious Freedom Restoration act, which allowed businesses to deny service to customers for any reason, which could be interpreted to include their sexuality or gender identity. She also called out brands who use transgender people as a marketing ploy to sell their products.
— savage (@lbertootero) November 29, 2017
Take some inspiration from these stars and be a good LGBTQ ally not just this month, but every month!
LGBTQ+ Pride Month is a time of amazing, colorful marches throughout the month, where so many people come together to make a stand for equality. Pride Marches in the US have become more celebratory in recent years, as more people are attending and participating, and more organizations are taking part in the events. The positive outlook might have to do with the major support of same-sex marriage from the public, and the Supreme Court decision to legalize same-sex marriage nationwide.
Even with those victories, Pride celebrations in 2018 might feel a little bit different though for many. The election of Donald Trump and state policies against LGBTQ+ rights like Trump's ban on transgender people from serving in the military. And how North Carolina passed a law that banned transgender people from using the bathroom that aligns with their gender identity. Similar states like Texas has also passed similar laws. Many have grown afraid to come out for Pride in their state. And even around the world, there are still so many people who are being persecuted for both their gender identity and their sexual orientation.
Pride is meant to be a positive stance against discrimination in the community and to fight the political and culture battle for equality. It is a time to celebrate a person’s true identity. It’s a time to let your voice be heard and be the voice for others who don’t have the privilege to celebrate and be outspoken about who they are. It is a time to build friendships, to meet new people, to open your mind and learn about other’s identities. Pride is a time to create your own space, a safe place to celebrate you.
Her Campus asked queer/LGBTQ+ college women what Pride meant to them and how they planned to celebrate Pride in 2018. Here's what they had to say:
Pride in 2018 is the freedom to be yourself and to be happy without the fear.
“Pride in the year 2018 means that I have the ability to be who I am around the people who care about me, even if that means that I am not out in all aspects of my life. The year is 20gayteen so as you can imagine this means that it is seen as more socially acceptable to be out and to be your true self.” - Anonymous, Winona State University.
When you land in Vienna and stumble upon an amazing pride parade!!! Happy Pride Vienna! Happy Pride Toronto and Happy Pride everyone! 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈 pic.twitter.com/84yVaU2WyZ
— Ben Kowalewicz (@BenKowalewiczBT) June 16, 2018
“That everyone deserves to be respected for being themselves and that people should be able to do whatever makes them happy without fear of what others will think.” - Hannah, Marymount Manhattan College.
In Year Two of Trump, why would Pride 2018 feel different to you?
“It’s different now because we need to show Trump and his supporters that we do no stand for hate or bullying towards the LGBTQ+ community in this country. And that we can rise above whatever he says.” - Hannah, Marymount Manhattan College.
so I went to my first pride parade today // a thread pic.twitter.com/8dyGNDlDqi
— Hari 🏳️🌈 (@Hari15_) June 16, 2018
“I think that this climate is one of the reasons why I am still not out in all aspects of my life as there are still some hateful people in the world. I also believe that with Trump being the President that it has brought the community together as we realize that when we are together we can do anything that we put our mind to and that as a community we can advocate for topics that we believe in and spread the word around the world.” - Anonymous, Winona State University.
Pride in 2018 is about celebration, community, protest, and political action.
“This year I am attending NYC Pride with my school to show support and spread love. I’ve been inspired to share what I believe in.” - Hannah, Marymount Manhattan College.
“I will be celebrating Pride by going to the Pride Festival in the Twin Cities on June 23. I will be going with some of my close friends and we plan on partying and celebrating just as we have in the past when we have gone, but this year is a little more special as this is the first time I will be going while being out in part of my life. This year will hopefully be the best Pride yet!” - Anonymous, Winona State University.
250,000 filled the streets of @TelAviv in the only Middle Eastern country that guarantees LGBT rights - @Israel. Thanks, @CanEmbIsrael, for marching with us! #Pride#PrideParade@IsraelinToronto🇮🇱🏳️🌈🇮🇱🏳️🌈 pic.twitter.com/qKToNEOPbu
— Galit Baram (@GaliBaram) June 8, 2018
And, of course, it's about honoring the intersections.
“I am Jewish and Bisexual. I attended Pride in Tel Aviv this year. And it was liberating. As a Jew, I face antisemitism all the time. And it’s so rarely talked about as a legitimate form of oppression. And I am also bisexual. And we’ve all seen the anti-LGBTQ headlines. So getting to be in Israel and away from Trump where I can celebrate without fear or inhibition was such an amazing experience. It’s unfortunate that it took me having to leave the country and travel halfway around the world to feel this safe. I hope that the US can feel this way for me and my fellow LGBTQ Jews in the future.” - Stephanie Black.
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There are those who believe love makes the world go round, and there are those who think it’s money that makes the world go round. Some of us may go back and forth depending on our relationship status, but there are some things you come to realize when you decide that money—especially spending money—trumps a boyfriend any day.
Here are 15 things only girls who would rather have money than a boyfriend understand.
1. All you do is work, leaving barely any time for love
At this point, you don't even have the energy for a boyfriend. If you had one, you'd have less time to work and less money, and you're just not about that life.
2. If you have to pick between picking up a shift or going on a date, you always go for the extra money
No offense to your Tinder matches, but you'd rather use your night off to make some extra money than sit through an awkward first date.
3. Why have a boy buy your presents when you'd rather buy your own?
Just because you don't have a boyfriend doesn't mean you can't be spoiled. Treat yo' self.
4. You get more excited about payday than about going on dates
5. You indulge in retail therapy and spending money rather than leaning on a guy's shoulder
Nothing nurses a broken heart or a stressed-out spirit like a little retail therapy. Sure, having a shoulder to cry on is nice, but so is crying into your new wardrobe you bought with hard-earned cash.
6. You have more shopping apps on your phone than dating apps
And if you have to delete an app, Tinder would be the first to go. How could you delete Etsy or Charlotte Russe?
7. You feel more butterflies when your bank account is in the four-digit zone than you do before meeting a guy
8. You don't agree with people who say you can't buy love
You can buy pizza, which is basically the same thing as buying love. And who needs a boyfriend when you have pizza?
9. You know more about managing money than being in a relationship
You even know how to maintain a successful budget—not so much how to maintain a successful relationship.
10. You prioritize buying things for yourself over pretty much everything else
You don’t have to spend money on a relationship if you don’t have one. That money can go toward food for you instead. Win-win.
11. You’re haunted by the money you could have saved during sales you missed out on, rather than the relationships you missed out on
12. You've got 99 problems, and all of them have to do with money instead of boys
13. You can better relate to your friend's financial struggles than their relationship struggles
You can offer plenty of advice and support when a friend is complaining about money, but you're not very helpful when it comes to boyfriends.
14. You'd rather wake up to a notification of a deposit made to your account than a cute "good morning" text
15. You redownloaded Tinder to try and make some money instead of trying to find your soulmate
If it worked for this girl, maybe it’ll work for you.