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Self-esteem is something that everyone struggles with at one point or another. It’s never an easy thing to see yourself as the amazing person that everyone else sees you as. However, sometimes these feelings of self doubt may get in the way of new things we try to pursue. Relationships are not only hard to pursue but also hard to keep if you’re constantly having feelings of self doubt. If your problems with self-esteem are ruining your chances at love, here are some things to keep in mind:
Don’t compare yourself to others
Although this may seem cliché, it’s important to remember not to compare yourself to others. In the case of love, try not to compare yourself to the exes or previous crushes that your new potential partner may have mentioned. One of the best ways to avoid comparing yourself to others is to remember that everyone has different strengths and weaknesses and no one starts at the same point. Everyone is different and it doesn’t make sense for you to compare yourself to other people. This is something to always keep in mind when you find yourself sinking into deep thought about how you aren’t good enough.
Sabrina Lau, a junior at the School of the Art Institute of Chicago, gives some insight into what could happen. “I used to always talk myself out of even trying to start a relationship because I assumed they wouldn’t feel the same way,” she says. “Once I looked at their exes and how they were I convinced myself that they weren’t going to be interested when they were,” Often times our low self-esteem can not only distort the way we see ourselves, but also change the way we think people see us. Don’t let this happen no matter how hard it may be.
Don’t overthink things
We know, it’s a lot easier said than done. It’s true, when we are alone, we tend to overthink every single little thing. One slight change in tone from a potential new beau or significant other or may give us the impression that they have lost interest in us. However, remember that this is just your low self-esteem talking. Unless there are clear signs that they are losing interest, don’t automatically think the worst.
Megan Le, a sophomore at the Southern Methodist University, says this is something she struggled with all the time. “I’ve always had the tendency to overthink and jump to conclusions,” she explains. “I always thought that if my boyfriend wasn’t answering all day that he just lost interest in me because he found someone better. However, once I began to think rationally there was always a reasonable excuse.” Most of the time, it’s better to wait for an explanation before overthinking things. If you automatically think it’s because of the fact that you’re not good enough, it’s most likely just your low self-esteem taking over.
Find someone who encourages you
One of the most important things to remember is that a relationship is a two-way street. Even though self-esteem is an internal problem, it’s not something that you have to deal with on your own and it is definitely not dependent on solely your own thoughts. Finding someone that builds you up is an important thing to have in order to conquer self-esteem. However, this doesn’t mean that you need someone who is constantly showering you with compliments, but rather someone who shows you how amazing you are by their actions. Although every partner should do this, it’s especially important to make sure that if you have low self-esteem that you do not have someone who constantly makes you wonder if you’re good enough.
Heather Peart, a junior at the University of Texas at Austin, says that she didn’t realize she was in a toxic relationship for a while. “A toxic relationship doesn’t always mean that they’re abusive or insanely jealous,” she explains. “I realized that my relationship was toxic because I was constantly worrying about how they felt about me because they didn’t treat me as a priority. It drove me crazy and it definitely was not good for my self esteem.” Having someone who knows your true worth is one way to make sure that your self-esteem is not an issue.
One of the key things in a relationship is communication. Not only does it remove conflict in any relationship, but it also helps if you’re struggling with self-esteem. One of the hardest things about having self esteem issues in a relationship or a potential relationship is the constant question of reciprocated feelings. However, being straightforward about your feelings toward one another is one of the best ways to eliminate this issue.
Keele Johnson, a sophomore at Collin County Community College, says that this really helped her relationship. “I think one of the hardest things about having low self esteem is that I would always question how he felt about me,” she admits. “Once we started to be open with each other, I found myself trusting him a lot more. This helped because my self-esteem wouldn’t get in the way anymore because there was always a clear cut answer.” Communication is by far a great thing to have in any kind of relationship.
Love yourself first
Here it is, the biggest cliché of all time. However, it’s an important one. Before you start any relationship, it’s important to make sure that you know your worth. Everyone is going to have a bit of low self-esteem every once in a while; however it’s important to have a strong foundation of knowledge on your worth before you let anyone else tell you. Being grounded and knowing who you really are to yourself is vital in saving yourself from heartache.
Caroline Stevens, a freshman at the University of Oklahoma, says that this is important. “I used to try to get into a relationship in order to raise my self esteem,” she says. “However I realized that this was not a healthy thing to do. You can’t depend on someone else to tell you your worth because people are constantly changing. You’re the only one who really knows you.” We couldn’t agree more.
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At the end of the day, having low self-esteem may stop you from a lot of things. It can tell you that you’re not good enough, that you can’t do something, and that you’re different than anyone else. However, it’s important to use these things to grow. Instead of letting these things stop you from doing something, remember that you can be good enough, that you’re going to do it anyway, and that being different is what makes you great.
From the wonderful people at Sugarfina, who gave us tequila-infused and rosé-flavored gummies, now comes basically the last alcoholic drink they had yet to turn into candy: beer, specifically Corona Light — because it's almost summer and you have to give the people what they want.
As Popsugar notes, the brand's latest limited-edition collaboration with Corona combined two of life's greatest gifts — beer and candy — in the form of Corona Light-flavored gummies. The adorable bottle-shaped gummies, called But First, Cerveza, are created to taste just like one of your favorite summer drinks. (Though, admittedly, they won't get you tipsy like the real thing.)
Introducing a refreshing pairing of crisp, cool flavors, just in time for summer We've partnered with @coronalightusa to bring you the Sugarfina + The Light Cerveza collection available for PRE-ORDER online Tantalize your taste buds with our tart & zesty "Here for a Good Lime" lime slice gummies, paired with our clean and refreshing "But First Cerveza" beer bottle gummies & be transported to a tr-hop-ical paradiseReserve yours today via link in bio👆🏻#sweetcerveza
Of course, it wouldn't be a Corona without a lime, and because they think of everything, Sugarfina also created Here For a Good Lime gummies, zesty candies in the shape of a lime. The two flavors come in an adorable bento box, complete with a lime-shaped bottle opener — perfect for achieving those ~summer vibes~.
The collection is available online today and will hit Sugarfina and Nordstrom stores May 1. Summer, we're ready when you are.
Moving out of your college dorm can be a bit overwhelming considering most of your belongings have been squeezed into one tiny side of a room for the past eight months or so. Moving out does not seem like nearly as much fun as moving in because it seems like an end to another chapter in your life. With these tricks, however, you’ll make move-out day hassle free and you’ll have more time to reminisce than stress.
1. Make a schedule
To avoid panicking and throwing everything in black garbage bags the night before move-out day, it’s a good idea to make a plan. Move-out day is also finals season, and we know how stressed you are from that. The last thing you want to do after studying all night is to pack up your entire room and unpack it when you finally get home. To avoid this, you should make a schedule to pack things day-by-day instead of all at once.
Kristen Perrone, a senior at Siena College, says, “If possible, try to coordinate around your roommate/housemates' moving out schedule. It's a little hectic when two or more people are moving out at the same time, especially if it's a tiny dorm room you're sharing, so even if it's just starting to pack a couple days before leaving when your roommate isn't home so you have space to move stuff around without bothering anyone, it's worth it!”
We totally agree with Kristen! Sharing the packing schedule with your roommate(s) will avoid any overwhelmingly stressful situations. You wouldn’t want to mix up any belongings!
2. Purchase necessary packing materials
Boxes, tape, scissors and Sharpies are all necessary things few people tend to consider when moving out. These are crucial and help make things a little bit more organized when moving out. If you’re moving furniture or other heavy items, make sure you book your moving truck and/or storage facility in advance and add that to the schedule.
Bea Prats, a freshman at Lehigh University, says, “After countless weeks of studying for my finals the last thing I want to do is drive to the store and pick up boxes, so I make sure I do this well in advance. I can’t stand disorderly packing either so I really need to have a system.”
Disorderly packing sounds like a nightmare, especially when you will eventually need to unpack things. We advise you to customize your shopping list to possibly include things like packing foam or bubble wrap for delicate items.
3. Stay organized
Make a packing list and clearly label moving boxes! We cannot stress this enough. Descriptive labels will help you when you finally decide to unpack because we know how much of a struggle that can be too. Whether you’re living on or off campusnext year, you’ll want to know where all of your things are. Sorting through piles of clothes is much easier when you have a label like “short-sleeved shirts.”
The packing list will make sure you don’t forget anything and that all your belongings are accounted for.
4. Pack your daily essentials together
Make a box of daily essentials so you aren’t rummaging through many boxes just to find makeup remover. With boxes all over the place, you'll be grateful that you set aside the things you use every morning and night.
5. Get help from friends/family
Even the strongest of us needs a little help from some to time. Lindsey Allen, a senior at the University of New Haven, says, "I try to have my dad come visit me the weekend before to take home the big stuff, like shelves and the rack over my bed. I'm only inconvenienced for a couple of days without them and it makes move-out day so much easier."
By reaching out to your loved ones, packing will not only be easier, but you'll have more fun doing it alongside your pals.
With these three tips, we’re sure move-out day will be less hassle and more efficient. Hope this helps, and good luck, collegiettes!
Good morning Her Campus! With a break-neck news cycle, there is no possible way for you to stay on top of every story that comes across your feeds—we’re all only human, after all.
But, life comes at you fast. So grab a cup of coffee and settle in for this quick and dirty guide to stories you might’ve been sleeping on (like, literally. It’s early.)
Waffle House Shooting Suspect Previously Had His Guns Confiscated
Travis Reinking, the 29-year-old man who shot and killed four people in a Waffle House in Nashville over the weekend, had reportedly been on the radar of law enforcement long before Sunday. As the New York Times reports, Reinking has a history of mental health issues, and had even previously been arrested for trying to enter White House grounds. As such, police in Illinois, where he lived at the time, revoked his firearms license and legally ordered that his father take ownership of his guns, including the AR-15 he used in the shooting. Reinking's father reportedly later returned the guns to his son, possibly breaking federal law and enabling him to commit the shooting.
BREAKING: Federal agent: Waffle House shooting suspect's father "could potentially" face charges for giving weapons back to son.
— The Associated Press (@AP) April 23, 2018
Sarah Sanders Attempts to Explain Trump's "Breeding Concept" Tweet
A controversial tweet made last week by President Trump in which he said, "Soooo many Sanctuary areas want OUT of this ridiculous, crime infested & breeding concept," regained attention on Monday as reporters asked White House Press Secretary Sarah Sanders for clarification on the comment, which many thought was a deragatory comment toward Latinos in California.
There is a Revolution going on in California. Soooo many Sanctuary areas want OUT of this ridiculous, crime infested & breeding concept. Jerry Brown is trying to back out of the National Guard at the Border, but the people of the State are not happy. Want Security & Safety NOW!
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) April 18, 2018
As The Hill reports, when pressed for explanation on the matter, Sanders explained, "No, he’s talking about the problem itself growing and getting bigger." Even as reporters hinted at the potentially problematic use of the word "breeding" and directly asked if the president was talking about, "people having babies," Sanders continued to attempt to deflect the questions. "Not that I'm aware of," Sanders reportedly responded. "I would have to ask him to be more specific."
WH tries to clarify Trump 'breeding' tweet
White House press secretary Sarah Sanders says that President Trump's tweet about sanctuary cities and a "breeding concept" in California was referring to a "growing" immigration problem. pic.twitter.com/flazRZy6gO
— Anderson Cooper 360° (@AC360) April 24, 2018
Former POTUS George H.W. Bush Hospitalized for Blood Disease
Less than a week after the death of his wife of 73 years, former President George H.W. Bush has been hospitalized with a blood infection, BuzzFeed News reports. Bush reportedly contracted an infection that spread to his blood, per a statement from his office, but is responding to treatment and seems to be recovering.
BREAKING: former President George HW Bush was admitted to a Houston hospital, Sunday, 24 hours after his wife was buried. His spokesman said he contracted an infection that spread to his blood but is responding well to treatment. pic.twitter.com/1HFXPtflQ1
— David Begnaud (@DavidBegnaud) April 23, 2018
What to look out for...
Season two of the Handmaid's Tale premieres on Hulu tomorrow, and I fully expect to get absolutely zero homework done until I've binge-watched the entire thing.
— The Handmaid's Tale (@HandmaidsOnHulu) March 28, 2018
I thought I was prepared for the season four finale episode of Jane the Virgin, “Chapter Eighty-One,” but still, nothing could have prepared me for that final scene. We were already assuming Rafael was finally going to propose, we'd get to see Jane walk down the aisle and the two would have their happily ever after. But of course, the show always has to tread on my heart and keep me questioning, "WHAT'S GOING TO HAPPEN?"
— Jane The Virgin (@CWJaneTheVirgin) April 21, 2018
Here are 7 things that went down in the shocking season finale:
1. Rafael planned to propose to Jane. After announcing they were moving in together, Rafael asked for Jane's family's blessing to propose (!!!) Despite having a few mishaps which stopped him from popping the question, there may have been a good reason for that later in this episode...
2. Rafael visited Rose. After that meeting, Rafael went from 100 to 0, from wanting to propose to Jane, to avoiding the question, and throughout the rest of the episode, I couldn't help but ask millions of questions. What the heck did Rose say? Did she tell him about his real parents? I. WANT. TO. KNOW.
3. Mateo nearly got lost on the bus. Luckily, Jane ran fast enough to catch up to it and get on with him. Following several attempts to convince Alba to get on the bus instead of visiting a "sick" Jorge so she could take her home for the surprise party she had planned, Jane finally caves in and confesses to Alba that they had planned a party to celebrate Alba's finally becoming a citizen. Of course, in that moment, Jane realizes Mateo has left her side and notices he's sitting on the bus without her and abuela Alba. Thanks to Jane's quick feet and motherly instincts, she was able to catch up to the bus and ultimately, Mateo.
4. We get confirmation that Petra did indeed kill her sister Anezka. JR realizes Petra actually did break her heel and kill her evil sister, and all hell breaks loose. Though I really don't want anything to get between them, this is serious enough to make them both reconsider their relationship.
5. Alba marries Jorge to help him become a U.S. citizen. After confessing his mother's illness during Alba's party, Alba proposes (pun intended) the idea that the two should get married so Jorge can easily travel to and from Mexico, since he is undocumented. Naturally, like any telenovela, Jane marries the two the very same day.
6. JR shoots the REAL blackmailer. Honestly, I was afraid the blackmailer was going to shoot Petra and my heart stopped. The suspense continues further when JR bravely grabs the gun and shoot the blackmailer. The question is, who was the actual blackmailer?
7. MICHAEL. IS. ALIVE. Whaaaaaaaaat.
What to know about Season 5—so far:
1. It could be the show's final season. Gina Rodriguez, who plays Jane, mentioned in a panel in Austin that she would be directing more episodes in the final seasons of Jane the Virgin, according to Deadline. However, creator Jennie Snyder Urman disclosed with The Hollywood Reporter that "[she doesn't] think it's the official confirmation" and that she is "not at liberty to confirm or deny." Guess that means we won't find out until season 5 rolls around.
2. The identity of the narrator will be revealed. Despite Anthony Mendez's charming narration throughout the show, the narrator's identity in the world of Jane the Virgin has been kept a secret. According to Urman, we'll find out his true identity before the show ends.
3. We will find out more about that whole Michael being back from the dead thing. Is it really him? We'll find out early on in the new season.
I have so many questions and I don't know if I can wait to have them all answered by season 5. In the meantime, I will be re-watching all four seasons of Jane the Virgin and coming up with my own predictions.
If you ever need to revise your personal moral code, you should aspire to be more like Zendaya (i.e. BMLZ). Beyond striving to be a skilled actress and singer (and high-key professional makeup artist), Zendaya is basically a RL peaceful vigilante. When she isn’t calling out aggressors for their disturbing rape “jokes,” Zendaya is an excellent role model, who also uses her superpowers to prevent potential bad hair days. The actress has fought against racist actions even during trips to the grocery store. Nevertheless, Zendaya has been a longtime proponent for a more inclusive Hollywood and society, and, most recently, she used her platform to incorporate two of her passions—beauty and activism—to discuss Hollywood’s colorism dilemma. (Which was never fashionable, to begin with.)
During the 2018 Beautycon Festival in New York City, Zendaya used her platform to talk about the ongoing colorism problem in the entertainment industry. In case you missed the memo, colorism is a bit different than the usual form of racism. According to Teaching Tolerance, colorism is the prejudice against people of color with darker skin. While colorism is sometimes referred to as “shadeism,” discrimination against people of color with dark skin also gives a certain degree of inherent privilege to people with lighter skin. Thankfully, Zendaya has been using her privilege and voice to speak out against colorism and why representation matters.
As Style Caster notes, Zendaya has been using her privilege as a “lighter-skinned black woman” for a while now. However, Zendaya really delved into the issues at this year’s Beautycon.
Huffington Post reports that during a panel with Bozoma Saint John, Uber’s Chief Brand Officer, Zendaya talked about why it’s vital to cast more people of color with darker skin in Hollywood. “As a black woman, as a light-skinned black woman, it’s important that I’m using my privilege, my platform to show you how much beauty there is in the African-American community. I am Hollywood’s, I guess you could say, acceptable version of a black girl and that has to change,” she said. We’re so glad that Zendaya doesn’t just acknowledge this issue, but she also continually speaks on it.
Although Zendaya used her privilege as a light-skinned black woman, yet again, she isn’t immune to receiving racist and bigoted commented. In the past, certain entertainment commentaries, like Giuliana Rancic, have made racist comments around Zendaya’s choice to rock dreadlocks. (Never mind the fact that dreadlocks are one of many pillars of black culture, yet people of color are still criticized for donning them or worse. Meanwhile, white people
culturally appropriate this hairstylepilfer these culturally significant locks with minimal to no backlash.)
Hello Giggles adds that Zendaya continued her necessary monologue about colorism by saying, “We're vastly too beautiful and too interesting for me to be the only representation of that. [It's] about creating those opportunities. Sometimes you have to create those paths. And that's with anything, Hollywood, art, whatever.” Seriously, Hollywood NEEDS to create more roles for people of color (and all POC, especially people with darker skin). Regardless, Producers, writers and directors should be mindful about healthy representation in their productions—after all, representation is important but representation can be nullified if it isn’t portrayed in an uplifting and healthy manner.
— Africa Miranda (@africamiranda) April 22, 2018
Celebs like Zendaya and Yara Shahidi have proven that representation can empower other young people of color to strive for and accomplish amazing things. While recent record-breaking movies like Black Panther has celebrated powerful and healthy portrayals of “darker-skinned” black characters, people of color—especially people of color with darker complexions—are seldom celebrated on and off-screen. Though we love seeing Zendaya as MJ and Anne Wheeler, there is more than enough room in Hollywood for Zendaya and countless people of color with darker skin. (Because we have limitless stanning potential when it comes to inspiring stars.)
Khloe Kardashian’s has had one hell of a month. She gave birth to an adorable baby girl named True on April 12 (True already has her own Instagram account, btw), but all anyone can seem to talk about are those videos that surfaced of True’s father, basketball player Tristan Thompson, cheating on Khloe during her pregnancy.
Imagine if Tristan Thompson and that girl he cheated with had a kid... named it False. Lmfaoooo
— Dylan (@dylanbrown50) April 18, 2018
kris jenner made tristan thompson put $10mil (HALF of his net worth) in a trust fund for the baby, and he signed a contract saying he would deposit an additional $10mil into the account every time he's caught cheating from now on HAHAHAHA I AM DECEASED
— am ❃ (@asap_ams) April 19, 2018
Good morning everyone! Hope you all have a great day EXCEPT YOU TRISTAN THOMPSON FUCK YOU
— Laila Juul-Dam (@lailajuull) April 18, 2018
Now Khloe, who is currently living with Thompson in Cleveland, has decided to take some time to journal and share a few words of wisdom.
"I genuinely wish for all of my siblings that they find everlasting happiness in all that they do! Life is short, and at times, we put so many others before us, but one of our priorities should be our own happiness," she wrote in her app. "Once you have that, it trickles down to everyone around us. I sincerely wish happiness and peace to my sisters and brother."
I’m sure it’s difficult to be able to make decisions for yourself when you live the lifestyle of a Kardashian and your life has been displayed entirely in the public eye for the past 10 years. It’s especially hard when fans and commentators are constantly leveraging their own opinions about what you should do in your personal life. We as a society haven’t treated the Kardashians like people for a long time.
When you closely follow a celebrity, or anybody, it can be easy to think that you know what’s best in their life and know what decisions are best for them. However, only they truly know what’s going to make them happy.
Khloe, stay private for as long as you need to. I hope you take your own advice and put your own happiness first.
Christina Aguilera sang her heart out, while spilling the tea about some of her famous friends, during an appearance on The Late Late Show With Jame Corden Carpool Karaoke segment this week.
The 37-year-old singer belted out fan favorites in her drive with Corden, and revealed who Ryan Gosling was crushing on during their Mickey Mouse Club days. "Ryan actually, pretty much, he did have actually have a crush on Britney [Spears]," Aguilera said. It comes as no surprise that Gosling had a thing for Spears. I mean, who didn't? Unfortunately for Gosling though, the now pop queen apparently only had eyes for Justin Timberlake.
But even though he didn't exactly get the girl of his dream's heart, Gosling has previously stated that he and Spears did share the occasional kiss while playing Spin the Bottle. Kissing your crush as a preteen is more than many of us could ask for.
Aguilera, Gosling, Spears, Timberlake and many other of today's big names all got their start on MMC. You can still find clips of the young stars as Mouseketeers performing their hearts out.
If you or your friend has ever gone through a breakup, you know the drill. Cue up the Taylor Swift Spotify playlist, stock up on cartons of Ben and Jerry’s, choose a movie from the “vengeful, cheesy romantic comedies” queue on Netflix (our personal favorites are John Tucker Must Die and The Other Woman) and have at least three boxes of tissues ready. If you’ve never had this horrible coming-of-age experience, we can assure you it’s not fun. Helping a friend deal with or get over a breakup can be difficult, especially if you can’t relate to the random bouts of crying, dozens of drafted text messages or loud rant sessions. You may attempt to comfort her, but there are a list of things you shouldn’t say to avoid making her feel worse.
1. “Who did the breaking up?”
Why does it matter? The mental and physical separation from a significant other is a stressful situation for both the dumper and the dumpee. Whether your friend suddenly got broken up with via text (what a jerk!) or felt the need to end the relationship, she faced a range of negative emotions. Autumn Dube, a senior at Emmanuel College, says, “‘Who broke up with who’ is never a great question to ask. It doesn’t matter who made the final decision to end the relationship because chances are both partners are feeling the hurt. Yes, one maybe more so than the other, but that doesn’t mean either partner wants to divulge the whole ending to their side of the story. Ending a relationship can be an overwhelming decision and outsiders need to respect that.” Besides a probable lack of sleep and appetite, she also probably doesn’t want to be reminded of the exact moment of the breakup.
2. “I thought you guys would get married.”
She might have had the same thought. You witnessed the two of them eskimo kiss in public, discuss the first names of their future children and bicker about stupid things only to make up two minutes later. Maybe they were high school sweethearts and tried the long-distance relationship in college or met in college and were inseparable from then on out. Everyone thought they would make it work, but it’s not your job to remind her of what could’ve been. “When all your friends think the relationship is going to last forever, it’s hard to hear them say the same thing in the past tense,” says Sneha Singh, a freshman at the University of California, Davis. It’s important to help her focus on the present or future instead of the past.
3. “There are plenty of other ones out there.”
Yes, that is true. There are 7.5 billion other people in the world, but your friend can’t focus on anyone else. While there is the chance of a rebound and realization of regret, many times she won’t want to think about the possibility of seeing another person. If she was dumped, she will mostly likely still care for her significant other. It may take her months to start singing Adele’s famous mantra, “Never mind, I’ll find someone like you.” You can have a backup Tinder account ready, but don’t expect her to be ready to mingle right off the bat. “Yes there are plenty of other people to fall in love with,” says Courtney Martere, a senior at Marist College, “and chances are you will find another love of your life one day. But a person who is going through a breakup wants that one person, so stating the obvious about all the people in the world really isn’t going to do anything for their broken heart.” She may swear off significant others for a while and take advantage of the single life. She’ll step out of her comfort zone when she’s ready.
4. “I never liked them anyway.”
It’s not hard to look back at a broken relationship and spot all of the red flags. It’s even easier to judge the glazed over mistakes as an outsider, but it’s not your place criticize your friend’s ex-significant other. Even if she “takes a Louisville Slugger to both headlights” Carrie Underwood style or throws darts at a blown-up photograph of them together, it’s still better to stay neutral unless she insist you try your hand at at a bullseye. As a friend, your job is to simply be there for her and offer support. According to Dr. Christie Hartman, author, scientist and dating expert, “Badmouthing a friend's ex is tricky. You do it to be supportive or to help, but what can happen is that you insult someone she once liked/loved. To some extent, that's insulting her for her choices or taste in men [or women]. Even if [he or she] a jerk, most everyone dates a jerk (or many) before learning to choose better men [or women]. Also, there's always the chance they'll get back together. Overall, it's better to criticize specific behaviors rather than badmouth him [or her].” There’s the possibility she may become defensive of her ex if you start calling him or her names.
5. “You’ll get over them eventually.”
Somewhere down the road, your friend will be able to speak about her ex without a detectable negative emotion in her voice. In the midst of a recent breakup, however, it’s crucial to let your friend feel how she wants to feel. Elise Most, a freshman at Stanford University, says, “I think it’s important not to say anything that diminishes or invalidates the emotions, or lack of emotions, that someone going through a breakup might be experiencing. Don’t tell her that she did something wrong or that the breakup was her fault. Your support as a friend will make a huge difference in her recovery.” And she’s absolutely right. Everyone reacts differently to situations and you wouldn’t want someone to downplay your emotions, would you?
6. “Why didn’t you guys try to work it out?”
There’s a reason the relationship burned out, but you can’t make the assumption that your friend didn’t try to make it work. There’s also the possibility that she didn’t want it to work out. Perhaps the relationship lost its spark or she suspected her partner of cheating. Gianna Lescas, a first-year student at the United States Air Force Academy, agrees: “It’s pretty aggravating when a person judges you for wanting to end a relationship. If you aren’t content with the significant other, then the right decision is to break up because relationships take commitment and without full devotion, the relationship will just fall apart.” It’s easier and better in the long run to be straightforward if you think a future together isn’t foreseeable.
7. “Being single is way more fun.”
Because some of us didn’t date in high school, we can attest to the plentiful freedoms that come being partner-less. You have the chance to fall in love with yourself, find a unique identity and eat an entire pizza by yourself without a care in the world. “Even though it’s true that being single is way more fun, no one coming out of a relationship really wants to hear that right then and there, especially if they were the one who got broken up with. I think the best thing you can do is just be there for them and let them transition to being single on their own terms,” says Micki Wagner, a junior at the University of Missouri, Columbia. The transitional phase of a breakup is difficult to endure because the security of the relationship is now gone. Your job as a friend is to try to fill that void and provide comfort and security, not remind her of her new Facebook status.
Going through a breakup is a natural part of growing up, a part that sucks but has to happen. Whether you're the person dealing with the breakup or knows someone going through one, it's a tough situation. For those of you in the friend role, saying whatever comes to mind isn't going to help her get over the relationship faster. Tiptoeing around the uncomfortableness of the ordeal and holding the tissue box out with grabber tool won't work either. Our advice: Be physically and emotionally available when she needs you.
Just when you thought you were done spending your coins, Rihanna decided to tease us with her latest project, Savage x Fenty. After blessing us with cosmetic innovations such as the perfect lip gloss and body lava, she figured we'd need some lingerie to match.
Rumors began that Rihanna was setting out to conquer the lingerie world in March when WWDreported that Bad Girl RiRi made a deal with TechStyle Fashion Group. Since then, Rihanna has been completely quiet about the new project. That is, until she released three cryptic posts on Instagram teasing the project, which can be followed on a new Instagram account @savagexfenty. The new addition to Rih's empire is quickly gaining followers and includes a link to the Savage x Fenty website, where you can get on the official email list.
What could it all mean? The dark glam-grunge aesthetic is reminiscent of Rihanna’s Fenty x Puma line, but there's definitely a glimpse of a lacy, soft pink bralette in the latest video. So, will there be pastel velvets? Iridescent satin? Metallics? A fuzzy yellow bra that looks like that dress she wore to Met Gala in 2015?
One thing's for sure: You’re going to want to buy them all. If anyone can balance eccentricity with sultriness when creating a lingerie brand, it’s the singer who managed to write a song called "S&M" and still keep it vaguely appropriate enough to be played at like, every Bar Mitzvah ever.
Rihanna has never shied away from doing things differently. She’s unabashedly woke and exactly what the lingerie industry needs right now. Last year, she made major waves in the beauty industry when she first launched Fenty Beauty, releasing a collection of foundation so incredibly inclusive that it features a total of 40 diverse shades, according to W Magazine.
Her groundbreaking past in the beauty world has fans hoping her new line will be as size-inclusive as her makeup line is shade-inclusive, says Elite Daily. Rihanna’s own size has been widely–and problematically–debated over the past year, with media outlets like HuffPost commenting on the ridiculousness of people’s obsession with her weight. And let’s not forget about her dedication to casting diverse models at her Fenty x Puma runway shows, reminding everyone watching that anyone can look fierce in Fenty. She can already take my money!
When singer and songwriter Kehlani isn’t giving us another bop to add to our solo shower karaoke playlist, she is crafting revolutionary songs, like "Honey," that celebrate adorable same-sex relationships and also break the stereotype that every woman needs to act or look feminine. Shortly after fans started to speculate that Demi Lovato and Kehlani might be dating after their famous on-stage kiss during Lovato’s Tell Me You Love Me Tour, Kehlani told the Twitterverse that she’s a reigning queer queen—and her fans gave her an extremely informative and supportive lesson about sexuality.
According to The Fader, on Sunday Kehlani tweeted out to her fans that she’s queer. In a now-deleted tweet, Teen Vogue reports that Kehlani said, “cuz i keep geddin asked.. i’m queer. not bi, not straight. i’m attracted to women, men, REALLY attracted to queer men, non binary people, intersex people, trans people. lil poly pansexual papi hello good morning. does that answer your questions?”
However, some of her fans thought that Kehlani’s explanation of her sexuality was a bit problematic. Thankfully, they were quick to give her some constructive criticism so that the songstress can openly talk about her sexuality without inadvertently invalidating other members of the LGBTQIA+ community.
One fan replied to Kehlani’s coming out tweet, saying, “also the addition of attraction to trans people suggests that they're in a separate category than their gender (same problem w intersex ppl) and that.... leaves a bad taste even tho i know that was not your point i think the wording in this comes off poorly.” After all, trans women are women and trans men are men, period.
also the addition of attraction to trans people sugggests that theyre in a seperate category than their gender (same problem w intersex ppl) and that.... leaves a bad taste even tho i know that was not your point i think the wording in this comes off poorly
— lemony snicket (@Linawilso) April 22, 2018
Earlier in the responses, the same fan also noted that, “you can identify however you want ofc but when you say things like 'not bi' then describe exactly the attraction a bi person feels, it can make people who don’t really kno what bi means think that non-binary and intersex people aren't included in that attraction.”
Nevertheless, this fan didn't attack Kehlani for her decision to come out or for her sexual identity. Gatekeeping within the LGBTQIA+ community is still a prevalent issue, which especially impacts people who sexually identify as bisexual or who identify somewhere on the non-sexual spectrum (i.e. the ace spectrum). After all, bisexual people are often chastised for labeling themselves as queer (despite the fact that we most definitely are queer enough to call ourselves queer).
Though some celebs (and regular people) might be offended by these educational responses, Kehlani actively listened to her fans, tweeting back, “ahhhh that makes HELLA SENSE!!!! i totally get it. wasn’t my intention at all but it’s so important! thank you for this!” We’ve all said something with the best intentions in mind, and it’s refreshing to have someone correct us so our well-meaning intentions don’t turn ugly. (Does this mean that Kehlani is ~just like us~ mere mortals?)
ahhhh that makes HELLA SENSE!!!! i totally get it. wasn’t my intention at all but it’s so important! thank you for this!
— Kehlani (@Kehlani) April 23, 2018
After explaining her intentions for deleting her original tweet, Kehlani said that we should help celebrities accountable, regardless of how long we’ve been stanning them. “Always hold [celebrities] accountable. never stop. as crazy as twitter is, this is a part I believe is necessary. hold. each other. accountable... and teach,” Kehlani tweeted.
always hold us accountable. never stop. as crazy as twitter is, this is a part i believe is necessary. hold. eachother. accountable... and teach. https://t.co/Ar3mkgDKAQ
— Kehlani (@Kehlani) April 23, 2018
After being commended for the way she handled this criticism, Kehlani added, “I understand how hard it is to feel hurt and really embarrassed when you’re attacked/ harshly corrected for something you thought was right, that you said with good intention. still gotta learn tho!!! still gotta own up, change it, and grow.” TBH, if you aren’t constantly growing and learning then, what are you doing?
i understand how hard it is to feel hurt and really embarrassed when you’re attacked/ harshly corrected for something you thought was right that u said w good intention. still gotta learn tho!!! still gotta own up, change it, and grow https://t.co/Fa9loW8hRY
— Kehlani (@Kehlani) April 23, 2018
Nevertheless, Kehlani’s message makes complete sense. Logically, you can’t take criticism personally, especially when your original statement, tweet or remark can affect or offend someone else.
In between amending her original tweet and responding to fans, the singer also noted that, “so many blogs reported it as my coming out.” While Kehlani’s since-deleted tweet might seem like a “coming out” tweet, Kehlani has talked about her sexuality for some time now. When she isn’t using music to feature a rom-com-worthy love story between two women, she has been known to openly discussed her sexuality with fans and several publications. TBH, Kehlani's most recent tweet about her sexuality isn't really a "coming out" tweet. Instead, this might be a way for Kehlani to redefine her relationship with her own sexuality. Since people often ask members of the LGBTQIA+ community rather invasive questions about their sexuality, Kehlani's mention of "the questions" in her original tweet could reference these very intrusive questions.
so many blogs reported it as my coming out i am dead. 😂😂😂😂😂
— Kehlani (@Kehlani) April 23, 2018
Although past headlines have alleged that Kehlani “came out” as a lesbian, she discussed her bisexuality withComplex back in 2015. Likewise, it’s no surprise that Kehlani would be so eager to learn how to respectfully tackle topics about sexuality and the LGBTQIA+ community, seeing as she has struggled with her mental health in the past. While Kehlani’s mental health was never a direct result of her sexuality, she did make a suicide attempt in 2016 because of comments and accusations about her.
Kehlani knows how powerful words can be (regardless of the intentions), which might be why she was so eager to learn from her fans. Either way, we’re so glad to see how respectful Kehlani continues to be because she's the queer role model we need (but totally don't deserve).
With Prince Harry and Meghan Markle's wedding set to take place on May 19, many people are *dying* to find out what the bride-to-be will wear on the big day. Since the couple announced their engagement, everyone has been buzzing about what her dress could look like, and while the dress is heavily under wraps, new details (and rumors) have emerged since then. So what's the sitch? Here's everything we know about the mysterious gown so far.
Who will design the dress?
Big names such as Ralph & Russo, Alexander McQueen, Erdem or Burberry have been rumored to design Markle's gown, according to Harper’s Bazaar. Why these designers? There are a few breadcrumbs that have been dropped!
For example, Markle wore a Ralph & Russo dress in her engagement photos. Erdem is a British fashion house run by Canadian-born designer Erdem Moralıoğlu, and according to PEOPLE, Erdem has made some changes to its PR team, suggesting that there might be a big announcement coming up in the future. Aside from that, Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle are both fans of the brand. Given that Markle now lives in the UK after living in Canada while filming Suits, Erdem wouldn’t be a surprising choice. Markle is also a fan of Burberry, Vanity Fair reports, and Kate Middleton wore an Alexander McQueen design for her wedding.
Who won’t be designing the dress?
Victoria Beckham (sorry, Posh fans!). Rumors suggested that Beckham might be designing the dress, but Beckham set the record straight, telling The Guardianthat Markle didn’t ask her to design the dress. “She looked absolutely beautiful in my jumper. I’m sure it will be a really fun wedding. But no, she hasn’t asked me to do the dress,” says Beckham.
What will the dress look like?
Though Markle chose a less traditional, semi-sheer dress for her engagement photos, InStylereports that people can expect her wedding dress to be pretty traditional.
“I think she might surprise us with something quite traditional, very beautiful, maybe even a little bit conservative. And I think that when you’re looking at Windsor Castle as the backdrop, that’s exactly the right note to be hitting,” Katie Nicholl, author of Harry: Life, Loss and Love, tells InStyle.
Vanity Fair reports that her dress for the ceremony will be a traditional, classy style with a bit of an edge – but it’s also important for the dress to be timeless. Her dress for the reception will be less restrictive. Since Markle is a United States native being born and raised in Los Angeles, people suspect her wedding will have an American twist.
How many dresses will she wear?
She’ll have two custom-made dresses: one for the ceremony and one for the reception, according to Vanity Fair. A girl's gotta have options!
What tiara will she wear?
Not the same one that Kate Middleton wore at her wedding in 2011, explains Harper's Bazaar. According to PEOPLE, the Cartier Halo tiara worn by Kate Middleton will be displayed at the National Gallery of Australia during the Royal Wedding. Leslie Field, the author of The Queen’s Jewels: The Personal Collection of Elizabeth II, told PEOPLE that Markle will probably opt for something less traditional.
May 19 cannot come soon enough, and you can find me glued to my television in the early a.m. to catch the first glimpse of her dress.
Camila Cabello has been comin' in *hot* this year, dominating the charts and appearing in festival lineups as she pursues her solo career. On top of her incredible success in the music industry, she also serves as a fresh face for several different brands (get it, girl!). One of her most notable campaigns includes her work with Skechers, which initially blessed our shoe games last fall.
Featuring a unique and hip street style all while connecting back to Cabello's culture, we just can't get enough of the campaign and all the wonderful styles that have been released. Just this past Friday, Cabello shared a sweet pic on Insta featuring her latest collab with Skechers, wearing a pair of the OG Skechers D'Lites loud and proud.
The black-and-white ~aesthetic~ is super on-point with her sleek black leggings, white top and "Biggest Fan" D'Lites. She's definitely serving up some sassy looks in this collection of photos, and if this isn't the perfect inspiration for the ultimate cool-and-casual street look, then we don't know what is. Keep doing you, boo!
Justin Trudeau, the prime minister of Canada, said on Tuesday that the motive for the Monday van attack has yet to be found, but investigators “have no reason to suspect that there is any national security element to this attack,” according to ABC News.
ABC News reported that the prime minister told reporters, “Obviously, all Canadians continue and will continue to have questions about why this happened, what could possibly be the motives behind it. As was indicated last night by our public security minister, at this time we have no reason to suspect that there is any national security element to this attack, but obviously the investigations continue.”
"We have no reason to suspect that there is any national security element to this attack," Canadian PM Justin Trudeau says after a white van rammed pedestrians in Toronto. https://t.co/64YjICphukpic.twitter.com/bfh6OE7Ivh
— ABC News (@ABC) April 24, 2018
Meanwhile, the suspect, Alek Minassian, will be held on 10 counts of first-degree murder because of the 10 individuals that died. The Washington Post said that Minassian is facing 13 counts of attempted murder for those injured.
Minassian’s next hearing will be on May 10th, and the judge ordered that he have no contact with the victims or their families, The Post reported.
Toronto City News detailed the series of event that led to Minassian’s arrest. After driving his van down the sidewalk, Minassian mimicked the police throughout the standoff leading to his arrest.
Meet the dog who stumped his vets: Maisie, an 8 year old St. Bernard, was thought to have cancer by her vets, Metro UK reports.
The UK family took their furry family member to the vet because she seemed to be sick, and, to their devastation, the vets found a mass in her stomach that appeared to be cancer. Her owner, Jane Dickinson, then took her to Paragon Veterinary Referrals in Wakefield, England where they intended to remove her fur-baby’s spleen.
An 8 year-old Saint Bernard from West Yorkshire, England is recovering from having four teddy bears removed from her stomach.
Maisy's owners took her for a CT scan after she became ill. Doctors thought she had... https://t.co/opVV9arXC1
— 93.9 The Duck (@939theduck) April 23, 2018
When the vet took Maisie under the knife, however, they found the situation was not nearly as grave as it seemed. It turns out that the pup had swallowed, not one, not two, but four teddy bears. The bears filled poor Maisie’s stomach to a point of discomfort, and created the illusion that she had a mass, when she really, just had a massive amount of stuffing. The vet was able to remove the stuffed animals from Maisie’s stomach, leave all of her organs in and send her home completely cancer free, as she had always been.
Maisie’s parent explained she had swallowed her Chihuahua sibling’s chew toys, as well as a stuffed animal from her Uncle’s house. The good news is Maisie is happy and healthy back at home with her humans and Chihuahua siblings.
Maisie wasn’t the first St. Bernard to swallow something she definitely shouldn’t be eating. In 2005, a 6 year old Elsie swallowed a 13 inch knife. While this knife wasn’t misdiagnosed, the vet did at first think the scan was a prank.
Everyone’s favorite heartthrob, Shawn Mendes, has just premiered the music video for his latest single “In My Blood,” and it’s everything we could have ever hoped for.
The 19-year old Canadian singer dropped “In My Blood” along with his second single “Lost in Japan” in March, both of which are rumored to be on his upcoming album. Although the date of the album’s release has not been announced, this video is definitely enough to hold fans over.
"In My Blood" is simple and powerful, with overhead shots of Mendes lying in an empty room singing as rain, snow and rocks cascade down around him. After the darkness of the elements fades away, they’re replaced with sunshine and lush flowers as Mendes is cleansed from his inner turmoil.
In the video, Mendes is "fighting literal and figurative storms,” according to Rolling Stone. The singer himself is the centerpiece of the video, with little else to distract from his strong voice and powerful lyrics.
The video is beautiful, moving and exciting. If you haven’t seen it yet, make your day a little better and watch it below:
It's the most wonderful time of the year... That's right. It's music festival season. As Coachella passes by and makes way for other music festivals to make their debut, iHeartRadio is gearing up to kick off the summer with its annual Wango Tango festival, in partnership with AT&T. Taking place at the brand new Banc of California Stadium in sunny Los Angeles, iHeartRadio's Wango Tango will be the first concert to break-in the venue.
Ryan Seacrest will be hosting Wango Tango 2018, and the list of performances include a ton of your faves, from Ariana Grande to Shawn Mendes, Miguel, and more. Now, if you're not able to snag tix and make it out in person, don't worry! ATT.com is going to be exclusively livestreaming the event for fans nationwide. Additionally, Freeform is set to broadcast an exclusive 90-minute TV special on Sunday, June 3rd at 8pm ET/PT. The all-day music festival is going to be something that no one will ever forget, and iHeartRadio wants to make sure that everyone gets a chance to experience it.
"We're excited to take this iconic summer kick-off event to a national level as we partner with today's top artists, and for the first time ever, livestream the entire show with AT&T, and broadcast the event on iHeartRadio stations nationwide and through a can't-miss television special on Freeform, June 3," John Ivey, President of CHR Programming Strategies for iHeartMedia and KIIS FM, said in a statement.
Having grown up in Southern California with family who actually worked for iHeartRadio and other radio stations, I grew up going to Wango Tango my entire life! This all-day festival is now 20 years old—that's a whole two decades—and coincidentally, my age. It was always my favorite time of year, and some of the best performances that I've seen have included artists like Kanye West, Calvin Harris, and Justin Bieber. Going to Wango Tango definitely made summers feel like summer—happy, warm, bright, and fun.
Tickets will first be made available to eligible AT&T customers though pre-sale, beginning on Tuesday, April 24th at 10 a.m. PT through April 26th at 9:59 a.m. PT on the AT&T THANKS app. The general public will be able to purchase tickets on Saturday, April 28th at 10 a.m. PT via axs.com.
Make sure to check out the lineup below!
After the passing of her dog Ted two years ago, it seems Gina Rodriguez is finally ready to get another pup.
TMZ reports that the Jane the Virgin actress was spotted at Citipups in NYC on Sunday, along with her dog Casper, visiting a bright-eyed, fuzzy-faced Havanese puppy. Rodriguez had reportedly visited Citipups before to check out the adorable 9-week-old pup but wanted to make sure he and Casper would be a right match. It seems the two got along just fine because per TMZ, the Chicago native cashed in $2,500 for the little guy.
The unnamed Havanese puppy will reportedly join his new family sometime this week, after he's fully recovered from being neutered, which took place on Monday. This is really good news for Casper, who's probably been a bit lonely, with Gina spending most of her time on set.
What an awesome little blessing! I can't wait to see all the Instagram pictures that she's going to post of her new pup.
You can take your first peek at Gina's newest family member here.
In a recent interview with Business of Fashion, Kim Kardashian West recalls the time she almost applied to be on MTV's Real World.
Long before Keeping Up With the Kardashians, Kim spent her days working for her father, Robert Kardashian Sr., and admits that even back then she had dreams of becoming famous.
"I had worked in my dad's office for so many years, but I didn't have a career and I didn't love college. I went [for] four years but I didn’t graduate. I just sat there and I was like, 'What am I going to do?'" she said. "When I was really young I always was—it's the weirdest thing, but I loved Real World. And I would say to my best friend's dad who was a manager, 'You should be my manager! And when we're 18, I'm going to send a tape into Real World because I have to be on a reality show.'"
"Like, that's it! It clicked," she continued. "This is what I want to do. And then the producers that produced Real World produced [KUWTK], so it kind of all came full circle."
As Kardashian fans may know, KUWTK wasn’t Kim's first exposure to the world of reality TV. During her journey to fame and fortune, she appeared on The Simple Life, which starred Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie, as Hilton's assistant and once appeared on MTV’s The Hills.
Now we don't know whether Kim would have become more famous had she starred on Real World, but with her current state of fame and fortune, I'm assuming she's pretty happy with the way everything turned out.
The University of Toledo introduced a challenge to their Twitter followers on Tuesday morning – sparking tons of attention, excitement, and outrage. The challenge? Help a picture of Shrek get 500,000 retweets and the university would change their mascot to the beloved green ogre.
Twitter quickly exploded, with the photo having over 90,000 retweets and counting until the tweet was deleted later in the afternoon. Apparently, Twitter had taken the challenge a bit too seriously.
The school’s media relations specialist, Christine Billau, dispelled the rumors and revealed the tweet as being a fun gimmick the school’s social media was trying out.
“We are definitely not changing the school mascot to Shrek,” Billau told USA Today Sports. “The tweet was meant to be fun, but it caused too much of a distraction.”
Apparently, the tweet was in line with a series of funny jokes and memes the school’s social media team had been posting to increase engagement. Twitter didn’t think so.
I think the @DWAnimation IP lawyers will have something to say about that but let's not look at the negative.
— jefeto (@jefetogreen) April 24, 2018
how much do you think it would cost them to clear this with dreamworks to get the rights to have shrek as their mascot https://t.co/BIK35EA5wo
— Robby Kalland (@RKalland) April 24, 2018
You’re playing with fire, UT. The internet is not to be trifled with
— Temporary Winnipeg Jets Fan (@PTPJacob) April 24, 2018
Billau also said that if the tweet reached its goal, the school would do something fun with their current mascot, Rocky the Rocket. With the tweet now deleted, those plans are unclear. In the meantime, the Internet is having a blast with the now blown up joke.
A Riverview High School senior from Sarasota, FL is facing lash back after posting a picture of his racist Snapchat promposal over the weekend, the Tampa Bay Times reports. The student is currently being investigated by the Sarasota County School District in response to his racist post.
The Snapchat post in question showed the student holding a poster that says, “If I was black I’d be picking cotton, but I’m white so I’m picking U 4 prom.” District officials rightfully called the post racist and said that action will be taken to educate students on race relations.
The district released their official statement on Monday: "Although this message is one student’s opinion, we take the matter of racial relations and school safety seriously, and we look forward to working with our students and these outside groups to have a meaningful and informative dialogue and expanded curriculum related to this important national topic."
— Destiny Johnson (@Hello_Destiny) April 23, 2018
As officials continue their investigation on Crowley and his post, they are holding themselves to the school discussions on race. The district has reached out to various community leaders on race relations, including experts from Sarasota’s chapter of the NAACP.
Trevor Harvey, the president of Sarasota’s chapter of NAACP, said that the district has been proactive in providing counselors and other professionals to the student body. Harvey added that although these actions reflect well on the district, the overall message may be getting muffled.
"I don’t want the main point to be lost: The district [must] make the student body aware that they will not accept this kind of behavior,” said Harvey. “We can have all the conversations we want, but if there is no action, then we are not really doing anything productive."
According to students from Riverview High School, the issue does not start with Crowley. One student at the school detailed the racial issues that the school has reportedly faced for weeks in a Facebook post, writing: “They’re letting these kids walk freely around expressing racism." She added that part of the problem has been suspending victims of this racism due to ignorance by the staff and administration of the school.
The Sarasota County School District has provided the following statement regarding an inappropriate social media post from a Riverview HS student. https://t.co/xJgdd1q3Mt
— Sarasota Schools (@sarasotaschools) April 23, 2018
Though the administration counters that those allegations aren’t true. District spokeswoman Tracy Beeker said, “this doesn’t happen every day,” and claimed that the district is always willing to listen to the concerns of their students. With community and school-wide conversations, the district’s goal is to take a step towards more acceptance and understanding of racial issues.
Crowley is still waiting for the district's actionable response to his racist promposal and has issued an apology: “I want to sincerely apologize if I have offended anyone with the picture going around. That was not my intention. Anyone who knows me... knows that that’s not how we truly feel,” he said, according to WTSP 10 News.
Finding a job is hard no matter how you look at it. Whether you’re applying for a summer job at your favorite store or applying to your first ‘grown-up’ job, applications can get overwhelming. No two applications are going to be the same, and even if you are applying to jobs in the same field chances are that applications will be asking for different information and documents. Staying organized while on the job hunt is crucial, so we talked to Tom Dezell, author of Networking for the Novice, Nervous, or Naïve Job Seeker, to get some great tips on just how you can do so!
1. Be clear on what you're looking for
Work starts before you even begin applying to jobs. Be specific on what kind of job you are looking for. If you just start applying to random jobs that sort of fit your criteria you are going to get confused by what kind of career you want to focus on, convoluting the whole process even more. “Make clear definitions on the types of jobs you want to apply for,” says. Dezell. “Categorize companies you would like to consider working at, and identify people you know, or have friends who know them, in the fields or companies you want to work in.” If you have no idea what you want to do, start big and narrow down your choices with questions. Do you want to work in an office or be more mobile? Do you want to work in the business world, in the creative world, in the science world? Where do you want to be located? Talk to role models in your life and find out about their careers so that you can start looking for jobs that are right for you.
2. Don't only focus on job boards
According to Dezell, job boards and site only list about 20 percent of jobs currently available, and you face the largest competition when you apply through them. Instead, he says you should “find ways to connect to companies on your wish list through LinkedIn. Another developing trend is for companies to have community pages for interested potential employees. Find and participate in those.”
Keep track of what you use to apply to a job; if it’s a job site, make sure you pay attention to emails from that site. If it’s through a different server, keep track of the different ones you are using by writing them down somewhere.
3. Be smart about using job sites
Job sites can be a great resource if you are trying to figure out what kind of job you are looking for, but there are thousands of job listings posted there that may not apply to you or to what you want, so be careful when using them.
“Create very specific, detailed criteria for the jobs you want shown to you when you set up any job site to send you job alerts,” says Dezell. “Too often, job seekers begin such a string with a few general job titles with little detail on location, skills and the like. Limited filters result in one’s inbox becoming deluged with high volumes of jobs to sort through. The more specific your details on the types of jobs you want to see, not only will that shorten the list of jobs you’ll be sent, but also make what you receive better matches.”
As soon as you sign up for a job site you’ll start getting emails with job listings that you may be interested in. If these listings don’t match your criteria, stop using that site. Receiving hundreds of listings that you won’t bother with will only clutter your inbox, making it harder to find the jobs you are actually interested in.
4. Label everything
This may seem self-explanatory but it is so important! The worst thing you can do when applying for a job is send in a cover letter addressed to a different company, or a resume that is tailored to another field. Label your documents with clear and specific names. When you’re writing a cover letter, put the name of the company that it is for in the title of the document. If you need writing samples or a portfolio, attach your last name to every document in it. If you have more than one resume, be crystal clear about what is different between them so that you don’t have to scramble to figure out which one you need for a particular job. This will save you time and the humiliation of having to email a company and tell them you attached the wrong file.
5. Keep everything in the same place
Much like labeling correctly, keeping all of your documents and information in the same place will save you so much time and stress. Whether you use Google Drive, Microsoft Word, or some other word processor, keep all your documents in corresponding folders so that you’re not desperately combing through your desktop trying to find what you need. Keep a physical folder ready for when you receive a business card or a paper application as well as a place to keep hard copies of your resume. If you’re the type of person that prefers hard copies all around you can also keep a separate folders or print-outs and copies of completed job applications. Dezell suggested using the website jibberjobber.com, which will track your contacts and follow up dates. Write down dates and deadlines in a planner or calendar so you know when to submit an application, send a thank-you note, or inquire about a follow-up.
Spreadsheets are good for everything, especially keeping track of job applications. “I use a Google Excel sheet to keep track of all the jobs I apply to,” says Ebony Joseuph, an alumna of the University of Florida. “I make a note of when I applied, the original job posting, who I know there (if I have any contacts), when to follow up, etc… It’s really helpful to have it all in one place!” Spreadsheets are super easy to follow, and you can add categories that you feel are important for you to remember.
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6. Create a master resume
This is a great tip given by Dezell. “Complete a giant master resume that lists ALL activities at each job and school. This allows you to select the most appropriate parts of this to send targeted resumes out to each specific job.”
This is especially useful if you are qualified for several different fields and are applying to different kinds of jobs. Listing out everything you have done allows you to quickly pick and choose what you want to highlight for each job. It will save you a ton of time and ensure that you aren’t blanking on something important that you should include.
7. Always triple-check
Again, this might sound like common sense but takes so little time and will save your life while applying. Triple-check everything before you send it in, even if you’re sure that it’s a resume or cover letter you’ve used before. Typos and incorrect information are a sign to hiring managers that you don’t pay attention to detail or care that much about your job search. Make sure you are sending along the right attachments and files and that you are sending them to the right place. Taking thirty seconds to re-check your work is better than the anxiety that comes with knowing you messed something up in the application.
Nonetheless, don’t let the pressure of applying to jobs take its toll on you! Making a few small changes in organization will make your life so much easier and make the job search so much more manageable, leaving you better prepared to kick some butt out in the real world.
Late last week Buzzfeed Newsreported that President Donald Trump’s new government-sponsored Teen Pregnancy Prevention Programs will favor abstinence-only education, and compares the ‘risk’ of sex to things like drug use or not wearing a seatbelt.
This comes as the administration completely overhauls the Obama-era grants that tried to move away from the abstinence-only approach. In order to receive government funding, programs muse focus on “sexual risk avoidance” and “sexual risk education,” Buzzfeed reported.
The #TrumpAdmin is ignoring research and the needs of young people by favoring abstinence only programs. If we want to prevent teen pregnancy, we need #EvidenceBased comprehensive sex education, not an ideological agenda. #teenhealth#reprohealthhttps://t.co/Kg9CTSgs6g
— Suzanne Bonamici (@RepBonamici) April 24, 2018
This new grant ends the Obama-era ones two years early, Teen Vogue adds. The Trump administration says that they plan to continue the grants, but they want to make sure that abstinence is the priority.
The guidelines for the grant said that abstinence-based education was the “natural approach for an emphasis on sexual delay,” according to Teen Vogue.
Notably, abstinence-only education has been tied to increased teen pregnancy rates and there is no professional peer-review journal that found this type of sex ed to be effective.
According to the Guttmacher Institute, a sexual health research organization, "programs that promote abstinence-only-until-marriage—now termed 'sexual risk avoidance' by proponents—have been described as 'scientifically and ethically problematic.' They systematically ignore or stigmatize many young people and do not meet their health needs... Proponents of 'sexual risk avoidance' programs have appropriated the terms 'medically accurate' and 'evidence-based,' though experts in the field agree that such programs are neither complete in their medical accuracy nor based on the widely accepted body of scientific evidence."
Additionally, Guttmacher notes that comprehensive sex education programs "that include information about both contraception and abstinence help young people to delay sex, and also to have healthy relationships and avoid STDs and unintended pregnancies when they do become sexually active. Many of these programs have resulted in delayed sexual debut, reduced frequency of sex and number of sexual partners, increased condom or contraceptive use, or reduced sexual risk-taking."
A massage therapist has accused Marvel Comics’ editor-in-chief Stan Lee of sexual misconduct for allegedly grabbing and harassing her during a massage appointment last year, ABC News reports.
Maria Carballo, the massage therapist, has named Lee, 95, and his former assistant Mac “Max” Anderson, who set up the massage appointments, in the lawsuit. Carballo has accused Lee of assault, battery, emotional distress and violation of the Illinois Gender Violence Act, The Huffington Post reports. According to documents obtained by PEOPLE, Carballo is seeking $50,000 in damages.
The lawsuit states that Carballo was hired to perform a massage at Lee’s hotel on April 27, 2017 while he was in Chicago for the annual C2E2 comic expo, HuffPost reports. Carballo said that during the massage Lee “began to fondle himself” while on the table and began moaning while she was performing the massage. She said that she immediately ended the massage appointment, according to the lawsuit.
The following day, Carballo said that her boss requested that she return to Lee’s hotel to perform another massage, ABC News reports. Despite her reluctance to do so, her boss insisted, and she agreed to out of fear of losing her job.
According to HuffPost, during the second massage Lee began to moan again, and Carballo attempted to end the session. When Lee insisted she continue, she agreed, but switched to a shiatsu massage method, which utilizes the massage therapist’s feet, in order to keep her distance, The Chicago Tribune reports. The lawsuit states that “Lee [then] grabbed [Carballo’s] foot and moved it against his penis and scrotum.” She immediately ended the session.
Carballo said that she was afraid to come forward, in fear that it would affect her job, particularly with Lee’s wealth and status.
“For a long time, I was afraid to ask anyone to help me hold Mr. Lee accountable for how he treated me. He is rich and famous. I am not. After seeing other women fight to be treated with dignity and respect, I decided, ‘Me too,’” Carballo stated. “I am still nervous and afraid, but not as much as I was before because I have other people helping me.”
According to The Chicago Tribune, Lee, through his attorney, Jonathan Freund, denied the allegations, and Freund said that Lee was shocked by the allegations.
“He is a high-profile public figure and I think it’s a shakedown,” Freund told The Chicago Tribune. “The guy is 95, I don’t think he would do that.”
The Dallas Police Department is currently searching for a man who shot two officers, as well as a loss prevention officer, at a Home Depot, ABC News reports.
Dallas Police Chief Renee Hall told reporters during a press conference that the police department is searching for 29-year-old Armando Luis Juárez in connection with the shooting, CNN reports. The suspect fled the scene in a white Ford pickup truck.
Hall said that Juárez is considered dangerous, and the police department is unaware of “how he was able to get a gun and shoot all three of the victims.”
Armando Juarez L/M/29, is a person of interest in the Attempted Capital Murder of 2 Police Officers that occurred at the Home Depot located at 11682 Forest Central Drive. Anyone with information regarding this offense is encouraged to contact 9-1-1 pic.twitter.com/rbmwmMv2JC
— Dallas Police Dept (@DallasPD) April 25, 2018
According to the police chief, 911 dispatchers received a call to go to Home Depot around 4:12 p.m. local time. She added that once the responding officers arrived, another called was made for further assistance.
Two police officers were critically wounded during the shooting, according to a Twitter post by the police department. The officers were transported by the Dallas Fire-Rescue Department to the Texas Health Presbyterian Hospital, where, according to Hall, they are receiving the “best care possible.”
Hall, according to CNN, asked the community for their thoughts and prayers for the injured officers.
“I want to ask each and every one of you for your prayers...for our officers, for their families and for our entire DPD family, because we need you right now,” Hall said. “Our hearts are very heavy.”
We can confirm that two @DallasPD officers have been shot and critically wounded. We will provide updates as we get them. Please pray for our officers and their families.
— Dallas Police Dept (@DallasPD) April 24, 2018
A civilian who was a loss prevention officer at Home Depot was also injured during the shooting, but his or her condition is unknown at this time.
Dallas Mayor Mike Rawlings tweeted after the shooting: “We are closely monitoring the situation in northeast Dallas and praying for our officers and their families.”