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A Collegiette's Guide to Life
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    College is a time to meet new people and try new things. From endless dining hall lines to club events to random orientation meetings, college was designed to help you bond with those around you. You never know when you’re going to make new friends, and it usually happens when you least expect it! Here are seven unexpected places where you could find your new college friends.

    1. The Elevator

    By the end of the semester, you’ll become well acquainted with a lot of the people living in your residence hall. Many of those relationships will begin in the elevator. From people who live on floor two to the residents of floor eight, almost everyone will need to take a ride in this machine at some point.

    Rachel, a senior at University of Tulsa, saw her eight-second ride in the elevator as a chance to meet someone new. “Someone once got on the elevator with his bike, and I was totally squished to one side [of the elevator] with this guy,” she says. “It turned out that the guy was in my history class…and I got a new study partner.” While that might have been a crammed elevator, it certainly made room for a new friendship!

    Rather than suffering in awkward silence, try to comment on the situation to ease the tension in the elevator. Try making a remark about something the person is holding or wearing, like, “Hey, that’s a pretty cool bike. Where did you get it?” Even volunteering to push the button and asking which floor the other person needs can make you seem more approachable and open the door for conversation.

    2. The Dining Hall

    Most collegiettes tend to eat around the same time every day. Besides regulating your diet, sticking to your routine will allow you to see some familiar faces around the salad bar and in the pizza line. Eating dinner around 6 p.m. every night and going to the same dining hall just because of its convenient, next-door-to-your-dorm location can result in some unforeseen friendships. Soon, an encounter like, “Hey, I think I’ve seen you here before. I’m Jessica. I live in the dorm right next to this dining hall,” can occur at the dessert table with someone else who also gets dinner around 6 p.m. And maybe you’ll even end up getting dinner with one of those familiar faces in the future! You never know.

    Related: 17 College Situations That Always Require Coffee

    3. Your Favorite Study Spot

    Like the dining hall, by continuously going to the same place to study, you’ll begin to see the same people. If you always study at the on-campus coffee shop after your chem lab every Monday and Wednesday, you might run in to the same people who are also always studying at the time.

    “I met one of my good friends Leah at a Panera once. She was sitting at the table next to me, and it turned out she went to the nursing school that’s next door,” says Sarah, a fifth-year student at St. Louis College of Pharmacy. “We ended up having lunch together… and we still keep in touch.”

    Even though you might not go to the same school as that person, you don’t have to rule out a potential friendship! By keeping an open mind, you can make some lifelong friends. Just make sure you’re not in a designated silent section of the library before you decide to break the ice and strike up a conversation. If someone looks immersed in their studies, let them focus.

    4. The Laundry Room

    While the laundry room isn’t the most glamorous place on campus, it’s one place that everybody is guaranteed to frequent (at least, we hope so!). And that makes the laundry room the perfect place to meet people. Between switching out loads and folding your T-shirts, there’s plenty of room for some decent conversation.

    Alyssa, a junior at Butler University, was putting her clothes into the dryer when a friendship stumbled into her lap. “I met someone in the laundry room named James,” she says. “We kept running into each other there the first couple weeks of school… He was smart and hilarious at the same time. I ended up becoming friends with him and his two guy friends.” Match made in the laundry room.

    And who knows, you might even be lucky enough to attend a party in this unexpected, fresh-smelling location! Amanda, a sophomore at Loyola University Chicago, met one of her friends at a laundry room party. “I started talking to [my friend] Claire at a birthday party thrown in my dorm laundry room,” she says. “There was incredibly loud, old 1970s tunes blasting in the tiny laundry room… around 30 people were dancing on eight washers and dryers. Just a laundry room full of honors kids blowing off steam right before finals.” From providing the machines to keep your clothes clean to providing the space for one unique birthday party, laundry rooms are the perfect unexpected place to branch out.

    5. Riding the Bus

    Depending on where your dorm is located, you’ll probably spend a lot of time on the bus to and from class each day or even to and from a night on the town. But you can even meet some interesting new people on your journey to and from your hometown for breaks.

    Morgan, a junior at the University of Missouri, did just that. “I met a girl on the shuttle back to Columbia, MO, after winter break,” she says. “She happened to be from Texas too and was in a long-distance relationship with a guy who went to A&M like [I was], so we bonded over that.” Just when you think you’re done making friends, there’s always room for one more. They could even be sitting next to you on your next bus ride home and have a plethora of things in common with you!

    6. Tutoring Sessions

    Seeking out extra help with a tutor in college can be beneficial to you in multiple ways. Not only will you gain clarity on some fuzzy concepts you just didn’t understand from that last Econ lecture, but you’ll also have so many opportunities to get acquainted with a new pool of people.

    “In math lab, this guy sat next to me and just said, ‘Hi!’ all cheery,” says Katy, a University of Mississippi junior. “I was kind of scared, but then he asked, ‘How are you? Who do have [for math]? What math are you taking?’ There's an unwritten rule to be silent in math lab, so it was kind of comical. He was really nice and plays rugby, and I play ultimate [Frisbee], so we see each other at the fields a lot.” Even in a potentially stressful math tutoring session, you can still make a friend. Sometimes the friendships even find you!

    7. Spontaneous Late-Night Outings

    With fourth meals comes a culture of spontaneous late-night activities. College kids are up so late that it only makes sense to squeeze in another bite of food and a maybe a fun memory or two before you hit the hay. And it’s during these late-night dashes for sustenance when friendships can form!

    Beth, a junior at Illinois Wesleyan University, made a friend on a Taco Bell run one night. “My friends and I had just gotten back to our floor [at our residence hall] when we realized we were starving—and not the kind of starving that a peanut butter and jelly sandwich could solve. We needed real food,” she says. “So we went to Taco Bell, and there was a huge group of girls there from some 1920s-themed party… I ended up exchanging numbers with one of the girls in line because we were both from the same suburb of Chicago.”

    Everybody comes to college looking to branch out and meet new people. By taking advantage of this fact, you could walk away from your time in college with some newfound knowledge, a degree, and a few unexpected friendships. Just don’t discriminate as to where these friendships are formed, because the location could simply be the beginning of the story of your awesome friendship! Friendships may come when and where you least expect it, so be sure to keep your eyes peeled!

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    As pre-collegiettes quickly approaching your first year at college, it’s normal that your nerves and worries are kicking into high gear. You’re about to enter uncharted territory, an entirely different world than high school, socially and academically. That said, the first week of college is a complete blast and you’re going to love it. This is the time to put yourself out there, meet a huge variety of people, and start school on a high note. Most importantly, though, the first week is the time to be a carefree and happy collegiette!

    …but wait, pre-collegiettes. Before you get too giddy, notice that I said carefree… not careless. Yes, a carefree collegiette may be(and obviously is) chill and cool, but most of all she’s definitely classy.

    So, we’ve prepped you on proper dorm etiquette and navigating your first frat party, but now it’s time to hit you with an all-too-necessary list of things NOT to do that first week on campus.  

    1. Hook up with multiple guys in the first week

    Welcome to the realm of college boys. You’re far away from immature high school boys with teenage acne and cracking voices. To put it as simply and politely as possible, just because you now believe what your mom said about there being many fish in the sea doesn’t mean you have to catch as many as you can. If you’re patient the first week and actually make a habit of getting to know the guys you meet before getting intimate’ with them, then your chances of catching a keeper improve significantly.

    2. Pick teams 

    Avoid hanging out at the same place every night—don’t spend all your time in the same guys’ suite/frat house/hockey house. You get the picture: don’t pickone and only one nightly hangout spot.

    We get it—you don’t know many people yet and having a familiar place to go is comfortable. But we promise you that if you keep an open mind and don’t limit yourself to one place and/or one group of people, you’ll be more comfortable at your new school in the long run. This is thetime to branch out and, trust us, it’s harder to branch out and randomly introduce yourself to people the further into the school year you get.

    3. Pick your besties

    Why do we mention this next, you ask? To emphasize, underline and highlight the point thatyou can’t be closed-minded when it comes to meeting new people. You cannot, should not (and will not, right, collegiettes?) choose your best friends and play ‘favorites’ the first week at school.

    As HC Contributing Writer Tarina says, The first week is an opportunity to hang out with lots of different people and see who you really click with.” Don’t let one person or one group of people hold you back from meeting more. “Plus, a girl’s circle of friends changes up a lot during the first year of college, so it’s important to mingle a lot from the beginning to get to know a variety of people,” Tarina says.

    Related: A Freshman Girl's Guide to College Dating

    4. Run your mouth

    Don’t talk about people you just met (or worse, people you have yet to meet) behind their backs. This is probably one of the easiest ways to repel friends, not make them. Enough said.

    5. Get dolled up the first day

    Don’t get overly dolled up for your first day of class. Thisisn’t the first day of freshman year in high school where you try to impress your classmates by having the cutest outfit or being the best dressed. Dress for yourself: wear what makes you comfortable, and wear it with confidence.

    That said, while you want to make a good impression on your peers and potential future friends, you can’t forget about the other important group of people you’re meeting for the first time: your professors. Even though we say you should dress comfortably, do not wear sweatpants or pajama pants on your first day of class (or any day of class, ideally). This is a dead giveaway to teachers that you just don’t give a sh*t.

    6. Be a homebody

    You didn’t move away from home just to go running right back (metaphorically speaking) to your mom and dad. Try to avoid the urge to call home every time a problem arises. For example, before you pick up the phone to ask for the step-by-step directions about how to do your own laundry (yes, you are a grown-up now—wellsort of), try asking someone in your suite or hall if they want to brave laundry day together. Chances are, you’re probably not the only one who is unsure about whether to wash in hot or cold water.

    7. Make too many “friends”

    The majority of collegiettes agree hands down that you should not friend everyone in your freshman class on Facebook. As HC collegiette Bianca puts it: “Going on a crazy Facebook-adding spree during orientation will not only creep people out, but you’ll end up never seeing half of the people again. Try and be selective with your friend requesting and add people you truly think you’ll become friends with!” We couldn’t agree more.

    Related: 15 Things You’ll Learn Your First Semester of College

    8. Underestimate the juice

    Don’t mistake the jungle juice for regular juice. If right now is the first time you’ve ever heard of this infamous concoction, just remember this: jungle juice is not a Welch’s flavor. That said, HC collegiette Jenna warns that even if you may be caught up in the excitement and folly of college parties, “don’t get too drunk and make a fool out of yourself.” 

    Honestly, the last thing you want is to do something embarrassing in front of people you just met. For example, it wouldn’t be ideal to get totally smashed and decide to take your first keg stand in a mini skirt… and a thong. Even(especially) if you don’t remember it, everyone else will. Take Jenna for example: To this day, “I still remember ‘the kid who puked all over me and so do many other people!”
    Which brings up another important point—not only can drinking above and beyond an appropriate amount severely impact your judgment, it can also significantly affect your stomach. Just like the keg stand scenario, you can be just as easily remembered if you as 'that freshman girl who was so bombed she got sick all over the dance floor'. Be smart—it shouldn’t be too hard, youdidget into college.

    9. Fear the front

    Again, this isn't high school. The front row of class isn’t reserved for “nerdy losers,” “brown-nosers,” “teacher’s pets,” etc. Don’t fear the front row! In fact, you’re probably better off sitting up front because those who don’t are going to wish they were you come midterms and finals. Trust us, sitting in a spot where you’ll actually be able to pay attention will only benefit you during exam week, when others are scrounging to learn a semester’s worth of material.

    An added bonus? Less stress = a better, happier attitude with which to meet new people! So remember, less stress does not come from not doing your work. Sitting up front helps you absorb the material, which helps you stay on top of your work, which means less stress, which means a happy you!

    10. Be a snore

    Don’t develop a sleeping disorder. Whether it’s oversleeping or not sleeping at all, it’s important that you try to nail down a solid sleeping schedule that first week. Bad habits are harder to break once they’ve begun, so don’t get in the habit of going to bed every night at 3 a.m. the first week. Sleep has to happen sometime and if you don’t sleep at night chances are you’re going to crash during the day, sleep through class, and probably miss out on some fun daytime activities with your new friends as well.

    Former HC collegiette Stephanie says, “I pushed myself too hard and was way too busy before moving in to college. When I finally got to campus, I was exhausted and ended up sleeping a majority of that first week. Don’t do this. I ended up missing out on a lot of campus stuff and opportunities to meet people that I wish I’d been awake for and my roommate thought I was a weirdo.”

    11. Drastically change your ways

    In the end, you really don’t have a lot to worry about as long as you’re being yourself. Who else would you be, right? It’s as simple as it sounds: don’t drastically change who you are the minute you step on campus. It’s true that college can be the perfect time to“reinvent” yourself, but whoever coined this phrase needs to include an addendum to clarify that what this really means is you have a clean slate to be yourself in a new place and with new people. If you choose the first week to completely shed your values, and whatever else makes you you, you’ll be more lost than ever. Reinvent the way people see you? Go for it! Just up and trade yourself in for a ‘newer’ you-model? Just nope.
    So, there you have it, a couple of things that we at HC say you should NOT do the first week on campus! Even if you choose to ignore this beyond enlightening list of things to do, at least remember: the one thing you must do the first week at college is, as the saying goes, let your true colors shine.

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    Chief strategist Steve Bannon left his role at the White House on Friday following debate about his influence on President Donald Trump in the aftermath of the president’s response to the Charlottesville violence. The New York Times reports that Bannon’s departure may be linked to Trump saying that “both sides” in the white nationalist march are to blame for its deadly results. Having run the conservative website Breitbart News as "the platform for the alt-right," Bannon has been suspected of supporting white nationalism. 

    “White House Chief of Staff John Kelly and Steve Bannon have mutually agreed today would be Steve’s last day,” White House press secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders revealed in a statement. “We are grateful for his service and wish him the best.”

    Throughout the last few months of Trump’s presidency, Bannon gained a reputation as someone who often clashed with other staff members. Trump was even getting tired of Bannon, apparently believing that he thought Bannon was leaking information to the press. The tension grew to the point of both men leaning towards Bannon’s exit before a final decision was made. The former chief strategist reportedly submitted his resignation notice on Aug. 7. 

    Bannon hinted at his departure on Friday morning, fueling the media’s speculation about the end of his time at the White House. He called the upcoming day "fascinating" on his Twitter account. 

    Following the official announcement of his news, Bannon took to Twitter again, basically seeming to tell us that he made an impact regardless of how things played out. "If you stay true to yourself, your vision and your own values, you can power through and make an impact on modern life," he wrote. 

    Despite reports of their uneasy relationship, Trump thanked Bannon for his service in a bit of a peculiar way. Flashback Friday to the campaign season, I guess?

    According to CNBC, the stock market even went up following the announcement. Traders at the New York Stock Exchange allegedly cheered when they heard about Bannon's departure, but staff members later said that part of the cheering was for a colleague leaving the company.

    The Times also pointed out that, among the group of White House officials sworn in back in January, at least eight people have now left the Trump administration. However, Bannon seems to be okay with the change—he had returned to his position at Breitbart News by Friday night. 

    "In many ways I think I can be more effective fighting from the outside for the agenda President Trump ran on," Bannon announced. "And anyone who stands in our way, we will go to war with."

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    It’s been a good week for Disney Channel throwbacks. Raviv Ullman of Phil of the Future revealed he once made out with Kim Kardashian and Hannah Montana’s Jason Earles had fellow former Disney stars at his wedding. All of that great news must have been foreshadowing the latest Disney alumni announcement. The singing sister duo Aly (Raviv's costar on Phil of the Future) & AJ, whose “Potential Breakup Song” you totally still jam to, have released their first new single since their 2007 album Insomniatic. Um, how great is this?

    Refinery29 reports that the song “Take Me” is now streaming on Spotify and Soundcloud. Once known as 78violet before changing their name back to Aly & AJ, the sisters released a post on their joint Twitter account thanking fans for their massive support and explaining how much this song meant to them. 

    "That feeling we get when performing, when writing, when working together is unexplainable," the message read. "We lost that feeling for a good long time. The idea of trying ourselves again as adults has been overwhelming and at times paralyzing. We lost the passion to create. That passion came back. We knew it would but we didn't know when. And now here we are."

     In another press release reported by Refinery29, AJ Michalka admitted that she and her sister struggled in creating music they genuinely loved versus trying to be mainstream artists. "We still had so much to prove to people, even though we had made a mark in the industry," she said. 

    Well, it's definitely evident that the girls' passion for their work is back in full force. You can listen to the funky, upbeat "Take Me" below. I'll definitely be putting this on repeat!

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    A planned “free speech” rally in Boston ended on Saturday without the intense violence seen at Charlottesville’s white nationalist march only a week before, The Boston Globe reports. Despite thousands of counterprotesters, a confrontation between crowds and police, and 20 arrests made mostly on charges of disorderly conduct, the event was relatively peaceful.

    In the aftermath of the Charlottesville march, Boston mayor Marty Walsh insisted earlier this week that hate groups wouldn’t be welcomed at the rally. Posting on Twitter, he wrote, “Hate will not be tolerated in our City.”

    Holding its rally at Boston Common, the group Boston Free Speech Coalition invited "libertarians, conservatives, traditionalists, classical liberal, Trump supporters or anyone else who enjoys their right to free speech." A statement on the group's Facebook page also clarified that it was not related to the organizations that ran the Charlottesville rally. "There is a lot of misinformation in the media slandering our name...THIS COULD NOT BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH!" the message read. "We welcome all individuals and organizations from any political affiliations that are willing to peaceably engage in open dialogue about the threats to, and importance of, free speech and civil liberties."

    CNN reports that the counterprotesters comprised of members of groups such as Organize Boston against Trump, Boston Democratic Socialists of America and Black Lives Matter. Although counterprotesters and supporters of President Donald Trump occasionally shouted at each other, police kept the two sides separate through a buffer zone, avoiding huge conflicts. 

    While the actual rally ended ahead of schedule in the early afternoon, media reported that many counterprotesters were still in Boston Common, leading to the aforementioned police confrontation. As officers escorted rally participants into vans to leave the area, other police officers had to hold back counter-demonstrators chanting, "No Trump! No KKK! No fascist USA!". The Globe writes that people began asking the police, "Who do you serve?," and even chased after the departing vans. Having to restrain some people by wrapping plastic zip-ties around their wrists, police eventually made arrests due to "a number of people causing small confrontations."

    As for the rally itself, sources claim that not many of the scheduled participants, which included at least two people with links to extremist beliefs, actually spoke to the crowd. Samson Racioppi, a libertarian candidate for Congress, tells The Globe that the event felt disorganized and that he "kept on getting redirected around the Common." 

    John Medlar, one of the rally's organizers, believes that "media hysteria" caused white supremacists' interest in the free speech event. "This is our platform, our message," he said. "They use the First Amendment as shield for themselves but they won't stand up and defend the First Amendment for the people that they oppose."

    Given that the country is still recovering from the result of the Charlottesville march, it's good to know that, despite differing opinions, the rally ended without any serious damage. 

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    When it comes to transitions and new experiences, your late teens and early twenties have all the other decades beat. Think about it—most college students see their living situation change every time a summer break or a new academic year comes around. For many collegiettes, the first and biggest of these transitions takes place in an on-campus residence hall, complete with a random roommate, an 8x10 dorm room and a resident advisor.

    Eventually, though, it’ll be time to leave all the fun and frustration of dorm life behind for a new life off campus. You’ll replace the cafeteria’s Chicken Finger Wednesday with Grocery Shopping Thursday, and you’ll swap out your RA for a landlord. The transition from life on campus to life in an apartment or house is a pretty big one in its own right—luckily, Her Campus has you covered with the ten most important things to keep in mind when you decide to venture off campus.

    1. Living with landlords - know your rights and document everything

    While living on campus, you rarely deal directly with the people who own your space. This, of course, will change when you move off campus. From the moment you sign your lease to the day you turn in your key, make sure you know how to interact and communicate with the landlord who’s leasing his or her property to you.

    From the very beginning, make sure you’re documenting everything you possibly can. Any verbal agreements with your landlord need to be in writing as well, says Allison Lantero, a Boston College graduate who took her landlord to small claims court and won.

    Allison and her roommates decided to take their landlord to court after their security deposit was only partially returned, with no detailed receipt and no bank statement for a $1,200 damages charge. They won the case, but Lantero says it would’ve been easier if every stipulation of their lease had been in writing—some agreementswere made over the phone and couldn’t be documented in court.

    “If it’s not in writing within the legal document of the lease, it’s not enforceable,” says Kendal McDevitt, former coordinator for the Office of Off-Campus Community Relations at Appalachian State University. For any agreements that are not written into the physical copy of the lease, McDevitt recommends writing them in, and having each roommate as well as the rental company initial the changes. “First, go through the apartment and document the condition of rooms and appliances. Some apartment complexes provide handouts for this. If not, take a blank sheet of paper in with you and write down damage of anything you see. Second, take pictures of the apartment in its original condition. Keep a copy of the pictures yourself and submit a copy to the rental company,” McDevitt says.

    Still confused about your rights as a renter? “Have a lawyer look over the lease for you,” says Chelsea McLeod, a recent grad of Rhodes College.

    Related: Rooming With Your BFF: A Guide to Your Best, Most Drama-Free Year Yet

    2. Start thinking like your mom

    No, this doesn’t mean you have to start worrying about yourself(and calling yourself multiple times every day). But your mom did handle the ins and outs of your childhood home for at least eighteen years, so it might not be a bad idea to tap into her superpowers.

    First, put some thought into your surroundings. Remember how your mom hauled dozens of plastic tubs down from the attic so she could redecorate the house for each holiday season? It may seem tedious, but little touches go a long way toward making a house feel like a home. So if you’re allowed to paint the walls of your rental or apartment complex, paint them! If your living room furniture is mismatched, go online and learn how to make fun covers for couches and chairs. If you’re artistic, buy wooden initials - they’re cheap at stores like Michael’s and A.C. Moore - and paint them for your room. Just make sure you clear any big changes with the roomies.

    Second, remember that it’s now your job to keep your home stocked and supplied. Collegiettes who were asked about items they forgot to pack mentioned paper towels, vacuum cleaners, floor mops, toilet paper, brooms, tool kits, toilet plungers, pasta strainers, and bathroom mats. Add these items to your list, and sit down with your roommates to brainstorm other basics you may be missing. 

    And don’t forget to pack beyond the basics as well.“I noticed what separated other people’s apartments from mine from feeling like home is everyone else had a much more decorated place with candles, posters, and plants,” says Jessica Len, former Her Campus Campus Correspondent at UC Davis.

    In addition to year-round decorations, other collegiettes  suggest getting into seasonal decorating. Cut and decorate a Christmas tree with your roommates or make a spring wreath for your door. Do whatever you can to make your new place one you’ll want to remember.

    3. Learn to grocery shop and cook some simple staples  

    One drastic difference between dorm life and apartment life revolves around one of the things college students love most: food. While living on campus, you’ll typically have a meal plan that grants you access to cafeteria meals, no cooking or grocery shopping required. Off campus, unless you feel like trekking to campus every time you feel like a snack, it’s likely a little bit different. Before you move into your apartment, make sure you’ve discussed the food situation with your parents—namely, who’s paying for what—and make a trial grocery store run while they’re still in town.

    It also helps to learn a few simple meals before moving into your apartment, so that after a long day, or after your Julia Child masterpiece burns/collapses/explodes, you can whip something up quickly. If you’ve never cooked before, ask a parent or a family friend to show you how to roast chicken or boil rice. If you know the basics but need new ideas, add a new cookbook to your Kindle. There are dozens of cookbooks tailored to college students in all sorts of living situations, or check out some of HC’s recipe ideas here, and here

    Related: A Collegiette's Guide to College Football

    4. Learn some simple cleaning fixes

    You may have been cleaning your room for your whole life, and you might have even Swiffered your dorm room once or twice, but cleaning an entire apartment is a whole different story. Before you find yourself knee-deep in dust and dirty dishes, make sure you have a cleaning schedule for yourself. You can clean your bedroom on Saturdays and your bathroom on Tuesdays—it doesn’t matter, just make sure you know what needs to be done and when you need to do it.

    It’ll also save time (and take some pressure off your wallet) tolearn a few simple home-cleaning fixes—this is another area where asking for Mom’s know-how comes in handy. Instead of buying expensive cleaners, clean countertops, refrigerator shelves and other surfaces with white distilled vinegar. Dilute it with water, about one quarter cup of vinegar to every gallon of water. And instead of using up expensive paper towels to clean your windows, pick up a stack of free campus newspapers - the newsprint will remove smudges without leaving any streaks.

    5. Stay plugged in to your campus

    When you were living in the dorms, it probably wasn’t hard to feel like a part of the action on your campus. After all, it’s literally where you slept and worked and ate. After moving away and embracing the off-campus lifestyle, though, you may feel a little detached from the undergraduate community at your college or university. For Appalachian State University grad Jordyn Coats, whose studio apartment isn’t in her university town, keeping up with extracurricular activities has been the key to staying involved. “I play roller derby with some amazing women at least every other day,” she says, referencing the year-old competitive roller derby team she founded. Whatever your niche is, from intramural sports to knitting club, don’t drop it because the meetings are no longer quite as close by. If you’re only on campus when it’s time for class, you won’t feel as connected to or invested in it.
    Even if all doesn’t go as planned, make every effort to get to know yourself better during your first off-campus experience. If you’re working too much to pay your rent and not using half of your apartment’s fancy features, find a less expensive place next time. If your roommates are always studying but you’d rather be loud, seek out friends and roommates who feel the same way. As a collegiette, it’s the perfect time to learn what works for you. Soak up all the knowledge you can from your off campus living experience, and make the next one even better.

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    Your first semester at college is going to be full of surprises and lessons. Things are going to happen that you never would have expected, and you are going to learn more about yourself and adapt, change and grow in the process.

    But don’t get scared! Your first semester is also going to be one of the most fun times of your life. Plus, it will be much less intimidating if you know what to expect. So to help you prepare, here are the 15 things you are sure to learn during your first semester—and what you should take away from them!

    1. You won't wear a fraction of the cute clothes you brought to college

    Most college girls give this piece of advice to their friends, siblings and classmates, but few actually take it seriously. Read our lips: You will not wear all the clothes you are trying so hard to stuff in a single suitcase.

    “I literally packed my entire closet, and by fall break I had already taken a huge portion of it back home,” says Kate Lowes, a sophomore at the University of Dayton. “From all the college apparel they give away to the fact that people basically live 24/7 in sweatpants, there was no need for the majority of the stuff I brought. I realized that I should have packed more of the basics—like tennis shoes, yoga pants and sweatshirts—rather than all dressy outfits.”

    What should you take away from this? Quality over quantity. For example, with how much you’ll likely be wearing leggings, it may not be a bad idea to invest in a durable pair.

    2. The laundry room is a dog-eat-dog world

    No matter how nice your dorm-mates may seem, the kindheartedness and pleasantries all end in one place: the laundry room. If you’re not on top of your game in the laundry room, you’ll probably experience what many a collegiette before you had to go through. From stolen clothes to your laundry getting dumped on top of a machine because you were just a minute late getting it out of the dryer, it’s best to follow a strict schedule in the laundry room. Be timely, be quick and, of course, be courteous to others.

    3. There is great beauty in a free and reliable ride

    For most collegiettes, freshman year means saying goodbye to your beloved car from high school as well as your parents driving you everywhere free of charge. You’re either going to have to put your faith in the campus shuttle system to actually run on schedule or you’re going to have to keep your car on campus and become the honorary campus driver for everyone and their brother. And that means watching your shopping money get eaten up as you keep refilling the gas. Either way, you’re going to realize how good you had it being able to borrow your parents’ car on a full tank and bring it back on empty like it was no big deal.

    Bringing your car to campus, however, is not always a bad idea. In fact, “I think it will be one of the best decisions I make for this upcoming school year!” Kate says. Having a car on campus gives you an easy way to get groceries or go to work, and it’s also a great way to escape whenever you need a breath of fresh air. If bringing a car to campus works for you, then go for it!

    4. Shower shoes are not a suggestionthey're a requirement

    College showers are breeding grounds for bacteria. You’ll learn soon enough that shower shoes are an absolute must if you’re living in a dorm, especially if your campus cleanliness leaves something to be desired. Wearing flip-flops in the shower will keep your feet and your floormates’ feet safe, which will add to the overall health of your floor.  Not to mention that you will soon become “that girl” if you’re the only one going barefoot down the hall in your towel. Bottom line? Wear those flip flops!

    5. Your first home-cooked meal of your first college break will probably make you cry

    Coming home for your first break from college will make you realize that there is nothing better than a home-cooked meal.  “Thanksgiving really did it for me,” Kate says. “Just being with my family and having my parents make dinner like they used to every night was so comforting. It was a way for me to feel so at home...and escape from the same cafeteria salad I had been eating for weeks!”

    As heartwarming as it is to come home to a familiar meal, college is a great time to work on providing for yourself and getting creative with what’s available in your campus cafeteria. If your school doesn’t have the healthiest choices to pick from, then get creative in your dorm! See what kind of appliances are allowed in your room and rack up a great list of dorm recipes to use on a daily basis.

    6. You won't stay besties with the girl you attached yourself to during orientation week

    The girls in your Facebook albums and Instas are going to be way different in December than they were in August—and that’s okay. You shouldn’t feel like the girl you instantly became best friends with because you both were paired up for some orientation week activity (and were also both in a mad rush to find someone to sit with at lunch) has to be your best friend for the next four years—or even the next four months.

    True friendships grow organically and can’t be forced because you room with or have the same class as someone. Marie Mikhail, a sophomore at John Carroll University, has some great advice. “Start making new friends right away,” she says. Although it’s somewhat scary to think about, it really is as easy as just introducing yourself to people on your floor or in your dorm and figuring out whom you really click with. Some of the best relationships are created with your roommates and neighbors. Don’t underestimate the comfort they can bring to your life. Get to know and love them, even if they aren’t your BFFs!

    7. Not everyone's standards for personal hygiene are the same

    You probably haven’t lived in such a confined living space with so many people until your first year of college. Unfortunately, the people who live on your floor won’t all have the same definition of the word “clean,” and without awkwardly pointing out to them that they ought to be more hygienic (which you really shouldn’t do), there’s not much you can do.

    There’s nothing more disgusting than watching someone leave the bathroom without washing her hands, cough without covering her mouth or not wash her hair for weeks on end. It’s even worse if that person is your roommate. But you will learn to live with it. Buy some hand sanitizer and suck it up, ladies.

    8. College isn’t always exciting

    It really only takes until the second or third day for you to realize that college is nothing at all like how it is in the movies. College is not a constant state of partying or perfectly sunny days on the quad.

    “We all hear about the fun parties and activities … but ask any established college student and they will tell you about the immense amount of studying that must be incorporated daily,” Marie says.

    While you can definitely push yourself to stay busy (and free yourself from the library) by joining organizations and clubs or even going Greek, you should also be prepared for the somewhat repetitive daily routine you will grow to have. Included in this is a lot of Netflix and, yes, sadly, studying.

    9. You will realize you took having your own room for granted

    Except for the maybe the quad, a college campus is typically not full of wide-open spaces and private rooms for your leisurely use. Rather, it is full of cramped dorms, busy common rooms and jam-packed libraries. You will never appreciate your childhood room more than when you enter your first midterm week and find yourself fighting for a study spot not populated by half the student body. Should that ruin your college experience? Absolutely not!

    From cute DIY projects to color-coordinating decor with your roomie, there are so many ways to make the most out of your dorm room. Marie decided to take the opportunity to turn her cramped dorm room into a festive home away from home. “My roommate and I used every holiday as the perfect excuse to spice up our room with decorations,” she says. “For Christmas, we decked out our room with hanging ornaments around the room, lining the walls with lights and wrapping our door with holiday wrapping paper.” What better way to bond with your roomie and make your living space a little more fun?

    10. There are good professors and there are very, very bad professors

    You should always firmly believe that you are the greatest influence on your grades, but by the end of your first semester, you’re going to learn that there are some professors who aren’t making things easy for you. While no professor would purposefully tank your grade or have a vendetta against you making it on the dean’s list, many have higher expectations than your high school teachers had. This makes it quite hard to attain the straight A's you’ve always been used to receiving.

    The best thing to do is to take advantage of (accurate) professor review websites and figure out what type of learning environment and professor works best for you. “Don’t just blindly sign up for your classes based on the times you want,” Kate says. “Be sure to actually check which professor teaches the class and whether or not his or her teaching style will be beneficial to you.”

    11. Everyone comes from different backgrounds

    You aren’t going to college with all the same people you went to high school with—and you shouldn’t expect the same types of people to be there. Not everyone is the same, comes from the same background or will be interested in the same things as you. But that doesn’t mean you can’t be friends. In fact, some of the best friendships can come from people who have had very different experiences from each other.  Take advantage of all the new experiences you’re going to have and don’t limit yourself—try to meet as many people as possible.

    12. Work piles up quickly if you don’t prioritize

    You’ll realize during your first semester that you really cannot push things off or procrastinate in college. The time between the beginning and the end of the semester is broken up by midterms, tests, quizzes, projects and your social life. That basically means that if you’re not on top of homework, studying and outside reading, you’ll find yourself scrambling to catch up.

    “Without planning and organizing in college, life is practically chaos,” Marie says. “If you don't plan ahead and organize your work, it is easy to find yourself missing deadlines and not being as successful as you had planned.”

    So what does all this mean? College is obviously a time for fun, friends and Friday nights, but it’s also a time that will shape the rest of your life.  Basically, you need to figure out what the best balance of school life and social life is for you. Oh, and it would probably be a good idea to invest in a planner.

    13. Finding the friend who will house you when you’re sexiled or let you cry on her shoulder will make all the difference

    At some point or another you’re going to have an “I miss my parents” breakdown, an “I shouldn’t have hooked up with that guy” breakdown, an “I don’t know what I’m doing with my life” breakdown or an “I’m drowning in homework and my roommate always snores and I've been living in sweatpants and I need my dog” breakdown. It’s only natural. While the first few breakdowns will probably entail you trying to hide your sobbing from your roommate, life gets a whole lot better when you find that one girl or that group of friends who will be there to support you and will always help you eat your feelings by scarfing down a pizza with you on a weekday at midnight. But just remember, getting frustrated, having breakdowns and getting stressed out is totally normal in college. And that’s what your friends are there for.

    “College is such a transitional period for everyone, and with this period comes many new adjustments,” Marie says. “It is very important to have a friend that you can vent to and confide in. At the end of the day, it is comforting to know that there is someone there for you who will listen and understand you.”

    14. Social media will make you believe that everyone else is having a better college experience than you

    It’s really unavoidable: you're eventually going to become envious of how great of a time it looks like your peers are having. This primarily comes from what you see on social media; pictures can deceive you into thinking that everyone else has more friends than you, is more popular than you or is making more of their college experiences than you are. Social media can make you feel left out and can even make you question if you picked the right school.

    So, what should you do? If you find that Instagram and Facebook are making you feel down, try a social media detox. Try to remember that likes, favorites and retweets don't dictate your social standing, and, most importantly, realize that you cannot allow envy or worry to lessen your college experience. Put down your phone and go make some memories of your own!

    15. College flies by

    No matter how painful finals week is or how slow some days seem to go, your first semester flies by at a crazy speed. You’re only a freshman for a short period of time, and in just a few more short years, you’re going to be a graduating senior wondering where all the time went.

    “Before you know it, all of the activities, the seemingly never-ending work and all of the fun memories will be over,” Marie says. “So make sure you enjoy the ride while it lasts!” We couldn’t agree more!

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    Could the love hormone help with PTSD? [Ozy]

    The problem with assuming other people are perfect. [Psychology Today]

    Conversation starters for first dates. [refinery29]

    The most beautiful college campuses in the world. [Cosmopolitan]

    Why McDonald's apple pie is so delicious. [Thrillist]

    Custom Starbucks shoes. [Teen Vogue]

    What happens when you eat an avocado every day. [Women's Health]

    I lost my son to the alt-right. [The Cut]

    10 new artists you need to know about. [Rolling Stone]


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    ABC’s Modern Family has been around for so long that it’s hard to imagine any other actors playing members of the show’s eccentric family. Although the show may not be as popular as it was in its early years, it’s still up for Outstanding Comedy Series at the Emmys this September. Playing dorky dad Phil Dunphy, Ty Burrell is also nominated for Supporting Actor in a Comedy for the eighth year in a row. Given his success, it’s so weird to think of someone else being Phil, but Friends’ Matt LeBlanc just revealed that he was offered the role back in 2009. Can you picture Joey Tribbiani as a family man?

    Entertainment Weekly reports that LeBlanc talked about his past with the show in an interview with USA Today. Modern Family’s pilot script made its way to him after ABC was hesitant to hire Burrell, the producers’ top pick for the role.

    “I remember reading it thinking, this is a really good script, [but] I’m not the guy for this,” LeBlanc said. “I’d be doing the project an injustice to take this. I know what I can do, I know what I can’t do. Plus, I’m having too much fun laying on the couch.”

    Well, it’s good to know that LeBlanc really is Joey at heart and loves his couch time.

    Although he wasn’t meant to be a Dunphy, LeBlanc later contributed to the show in a special way. According to USA Today, in 2012, the cast was struggling with salary negotiations. Back in the day, the cast of Friendsmade headlines for successfully insisting that all six of them were paid the same salary. When he and his Modern Family castmates wanted salary leverage, Jesse Tyler Ferguson called LeBlanc for advice (anyone else just picturing Ferguson’s Mitchell talking to Joey now?).

    LeBlanc said he told Ferguson, “You have to walk out, or they won’t take you seriously. If you stick together, you have power.”

    My mind’s blown at the thought of Joey settling down and becoming a suburban dad, and I'm not the only one shaken about this news.

    However, I think it's adorable that LeBlanc was still able to help the Modern Family cast that way. 

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    It’s sweltering hot. The cute guy that seemed so sweet when you were flirting with him at the tailgate has transformed into a raging beast, screaming “Pass interference!” at the refs until he’s red in the face. The band erupts into the fight song and you have no idea why. The cheerleaders are flipping around and shouting something about “first and 10” and then you could have sworn the other team had the ball but all of a sudden the people around you are screaming “Touchdown!” and jumping up and down and What. Is. Going. On?!

    Sound familiar?

    College football is fun when you’re painting up with your friends or tailgating with gorgeous guys, but when the actual game starts, it’s easy for non-sports-nut collegiettes to get completely lost between the flags and positions and numbers and just wish they had stayed home instead. But don’t lose hope yet — even if the words “first down” mean absolutely nothing to you right now, HC’s handy football guide will turn you into a pom-pom-waving, screaming football fanatic in no time. Go team!

    The Field

    Football fields are big. This is not news (why do you think football players’ leg muscles are so huge?). What may actually be news to non-sports-savvy collegiettes is that football fields are different sizes depending on whether it’s a college, NFL or high school field. A college football field is 120 yards long and 53 1/3 feet wide. The two shorter ends of the field where the goalposts are located are called the end zones, which are 10 yards deep, while the longer edges of the field, where the players sit while they’re not playing, are called the sidelines. There are lines drawn every five yards across the field leading up to the 50-yard line in the middle, with the lines at each end zone starting at 0 and going up toward the middle.

    The Clock

    Football is played in four 15-minute quarters. But wait — how the heck do games last for so long, then? Well, the clock stops between each play for the teams to reset their positions, and there is a 20-minute halftime between the second and third quarters, so games get stretched out a little longer than an hour (try three or more). Each team also is allowed to have three 30-second timeouts per half so that the coach can talk to his players or challenge a call made by a referee, although the teams are not required to use all of their timeouts in a game. The clock counts down, so at the start of each quarter the clock will read: 15:00.

    The Players

    Each team is allowed to have 11 players on the field at a time, although most college teams have many more players on the actual roster — it’s not uncommon for a team to have more than 100! One reason college teams have so many players is because they have three different groups of players (and a lot of backups) that go on the field at different times: offensive players, defensive players and special teams. The offense is on the field when their team has the ball. They’re the guys that try to run the ball down the field and score points. The defense, which is on the field when the opposing team has the ball, tries to stop the opposing team’s offense from scoring points. Special teams are players who are put out for specific tasks such as kicking field goals or punting the ball to the other side of the field if the offense is stopped (they also have the coolest name, probably to make up for the fact that they don’t get to be on the field as often).

    There are a ton of different football player positions, but the most important one to remember is the quarterback. A play starts with the offense and the defense setting up in lines facing each other. One of the offensive players hands the ball backwards between his legs to the quarterback (this move is called the snap), who then decides whether he is going to hand the ball to someone else, throw the ball to someone else or run with it himself. This is why the quarterback is so important: he (or she!) is the leader of the group on the field who takes direction from the coach and tells the other players what to do. (Also, is it just us or is the quarterback always the hottest guy on the team? Confidence is sexy.)

    Helpful hint: There is an invisible line (use your imagination here) between the offense and defense called the line of scrimmage that no player is allowed to cross before the snap happens.

    Related: This Incoming College Student Wants To Be The First Female NFL Player

    The Goal

    The goal of football is to score points (obviously?), either by making a touchdown or kicking a field goal. A touchdown, which is worth six points, happens when one team’s offense takes the ball all the way into the other team’s end zone, either by running the ball or passing it, without getting stopped by a defensive player on the other team.

    Once a team scores a touchdown, they have two options. They can try for a field goal, where they kick the ball between the two goal posts and get one extra point, or they can try for a two-point conversion, where the team sets up at the two-yard line and attempts to score another touchdown for an extra two points in addition to the six points they got from the first touchdown. Teams typically choose the field goal because it’s easier, unless they’re running out of time and really need two extra points instead of just one.

    A team can also kick a field goal from any point on the field without scoring a touchdown for three points. Teams usually go this route if they are on their fourth down and don’t think they will be able to make a first down.


    We didn’t confuse you too badly with that last sentence, did we? The “down” lingo is typically where collegiettes who weren’t religiously raised on football Saturdays get confused, but it’s actually a simple concept. A down is basically a play. Each offensive line has four chances to move the ball ten yards down the field, whether by passing or running the ball (carrying it with them), without being stopped by the other team (tackling the player with the ball). When one team gets the ball down the field at least ten yards from where they started (the line of scrimmage) without being stopped by the other team’s defense, it’s called a first down. If the offense gets a first down, they keep trying to get the ball down the field until they either score a goal or are stopped by the other team before they get another first down (make it 10 more yards).

    If the player with the ball is tackled by a defensive player, they start from where they were tackled and try to get the ball the rest of the ten yards. After four unsuccessful tries, the ball goes to the other team. The other team can also catch the ball in the middle of a pass, called an interception, in which case the ball would immediately switch hands to the other team. Easy enough, right?

    So when you hear the cheerleaders shouting: “first and 10, do it again,” they mean that the team has made it down the field 10 yards and has another 10 yards to go before they get another first down. Same goes for second and five (second try and they have five yards to go before a first down), third and two (third try, two yards to go), and so on. Still following? Good.

    Common Fouls

    Fouls are typically what causes those seemingly nice college guys to turn into snarling, furious animals bellowing at the referees. Despite what the enormous muscled guys literally slamming each other into the ground may lead you to believe, there are actually some things you’re not allowed to do in college football for fear of injuring a player or giving your team an unfair advantage. The referees (the people wearing black-and-white striped shirts) signify that a foul has occurred by throwing a yellow flag on the field where the foul occurred. If the announcer says that “there is a flag on the play,” he means that a referee has called a foul. Here’s a quick list of some common fouls that could happen during a game so you can impress that guy next to you by screaming at the ref before he can.

    The Foul: Encroachment

    What it is: Remember how you can’t cross the line of scrimmage before the snap? If a defensive player does it and touches an offensive player, it’s a penalty.

    What happens: The offense gets to move forward five yards; therefore, they will have five less yards to cover to get a first down.

    The Foul: False start

    What it is: An offensive player makes a movement before the snap.

    What happens: The offense has to move backwards five yards.

    The Foul: Holding

    What it is: An offensive player holds a defensive player so that the defensive player can’t tackle the player with the ball.

    What happens: 10-yard penalty.

    The Foul: Offside

    What it is: A player (or any part of him, really) is beyond the line of scrimmage before the play starts.

    What happens: 5-yard penalty.

    The Foul: Pass interference

    What it is: Here’s where it gets confusing. Yes, defensive players are supposed to prevent offensive players from getting the ball, but they can’t make contact with the receiver (the player who a pass is intended for) before the ball gets to him. That’s called pass interference, and it’s a foul. The defensive player can, however, touch the receiver after he touches the ball. The defensive player can also intercept the ball without touching the receiver.

    What happens: 15-yard penalty and an automatic first down for the offense.

    The Foul: Personal foul

    What it is: Any action that appears to be done in order to intentionally harm another player (you can’t just punch each other, guys).

    What happens: 15-yard penalty. If the foul is particularly nasty, a player can be ejected from the game.

    Congratulations on officially becoming a collegiette football expert (or at least more knowledgeable about football, anyway)! Now go paint up or don a jersey in your school’s colors, jump up and down in the stands and school your guy friends on the rules of America’s favorite college sport (“It’s ‘offside,’ not ‘offsides,’ Brad.”). Who says girls don’t get sports?

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    Despite Bachelor Nation’s summer kicking off ominously with the Bachelor in Paradise controversy, the last few months have played out happily for other franchise members. Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay ultimately found her match in Bryan Abasolo (and we’re still anxiously wondering who the next Bachelor is, nbd). BiP alums Jade Roper and Tanner Tolbert welcomed their daughter, and BiP’s Carly Waddell and Evan Bass got married and soon announced they were expecting their first child together. Now, Carly and Evan have revealed that they’ll welcome a baby girl early next year, Bustle reports.

    The couple both shared a look into their gender reveal party on Instagram. Evan, who already has three sons from a previous relationship, posted a video of his son hitting a pinata to see what color of confetti was inside. In the clip, the group goes crazy when they see pink paper and know that a girl is on the way.

    "We are pleased to announce the release of our baby girl Bass in February 2018," Evan playfully wrote. "My book, "Raising Girls and Where to Buy a Shotgun for her Prom" will be released shortly thereafter followed up by my fashion blog YouTube interactive."

    Former BiP cast member Ashley Iaconetti commented on Evan's video, telling her friend, "I can't wait for you to be a dad to a girl! You were meant for it!" After reading Evan's heartfelt Hollywood Reporter article about why BiP shouldn't be cancelled, I can totally see this guy being a total sucker for his daughter.

    Carly shared a family photo from after the reveal, writing, "I'm not the only girl anymore! Woo Hoo!"


    This is our professional Gender Reveal photo! IT'S A GIRL!!!! I'm not the only girl anymore! Woo Hoo!!!!

    A post shared by Carly Waddell (@carlywad) on

    Before news of the baby's gender broke, Evan told Us Weekly that his sons were ready for a sister to join their family. "They really want it to be a girl," he said. "If it's a girl, we're going to protect her together. We're a family of boys, and Carly and they want that little girl."

    He also told the magazine that he and Carly actually found out about her pregnancy days after they were married in Mexico earlier this summer. "She was late," Evan revealed. "I was like, 'You're really funny. Let's go to a Mexican drugstore and get a test.' We go into this drugstore and after she went and took the test...[she] was like, 'I don't know what that means. It's in Spanish.'"

    In true, awkward Carly-and-Evan fashion, they had to Google what the result of the pregnancy test meant in English. If watching their wedding on TV wasn't enough to prove that these two are meant for each other, that sole detail is enough proof for me. 

    Congrats to this growing family! I'm totally expecting play dates with Jade and Tanner's daughter. 

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    After participating in Charlottesville’s white supremacist march, a 18-year-old student has decided to leave Boston University because of threats he received for attending the deadly event. TIME reports that Nicholas Fuentes called both his campus and the city of Boston “very dangerous” for someone with his beliefs.

    “I was supposed to be entering Boston University for my sophomore year,” Fuentes said in a video interview with TIME, “but in response to recent death threats and threats against my physical safety, I decided that might not be the best idea.”

    Fuentes, who told The Boston Globe he attended the rally to protest immigration and multiculturalism, also spoke about how surprising he found the public’s reactions to his attendance. “It’s disturbing to me the level of hate that people have been able to express and been able to feel against someone they’ve never met,” he said. “They say that we’re the hateful ones, that we’re the bigots, and I get messages all day long from people I’ve never met telling me what a terrible person I am.”


    Fuentes runs his own political YouTube channel and reportedly received 15 death threats through email and social media since the Charlottesville march. Telling The Globe that he wasn’t a white nationalist or racist, he claimed, “The rally was about not replacing white people.”

    According to The Chicago Tribune, Fuentes was already considering leaving BU because of other issues he had with the school, including its urban environment. He plans to start attending Alabama’s Auburn University in the upcoming spring semester, but Auburn officials couldn’t reveal if his enrollment was actually official.

    “I think I will be happy there and I will be safe,” Fuentes told The Tribune. “It’s solidly red territory.”

    Despite Fuentes playing the role of a victim, there’s some speculation that he purposely tried to make controversial remarks in order to build up his social media brand. Bill Allan, who works as the television services supervisor at Fuentes’ high school, told The Tribune that Fuentes aired his own TV show several times at the school. His political beliefs also seemed less extreme back then.

    “I think the biggest change was he went from conservative values to very deep to the right,” Allan said. “None of the stuff he produced [in high school] was even close to the level he’s at now...When you pour gas on the fire, you should know you could get burnt. It was the backlash at BU that propelled his social media presence.”

    Boston University President Robert Brown wrote a letter opposing the Charlottesville events in anticipation of Boston’s “free speech” rally, but did not address Fuentes’ withdrawal from the school. “It is clear to me, and I believe it a view that is broadly shared in our community, that a claim of inherent racial or ethnic superiority is abhorrent,” he said. “We must, I believe, explicitly denounce white supremacist and neo-Nazi groups that make such claims.”

    Fuentes addressed his decision on Twitter in a slightly bizarre way, posting screenshots of articles covering his news and saying he had been busy "stunting all over your life." Um, that doesn't sound like someone who supposedly just received more than a few death threats. 

    Fuentes will reportedly take off from school for the fall semester before returning to college. 

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    Two months ago, heads buried in books, cramming for finals and craving lazy sun-filled afternoons, we were pretty darn well ready to pack up and dive into our summertime fantasies. Behind the pages of our econ textbooks, the idea of fabulous new internships, various vacations and European adventures, annual summer flings and—let’s not forget—homemade meals you don’t have to swipe an ID for, seemed all too appealing.

    Two months in, we’re over it and itchin’ to head back to campus.

    Whether your hometown is boring you to tears, or your stressful internship has you desperately missing a college schedule(read: no Friday classes, ever) we all have our own reasons for counting down the days ‘til September. Here are collegiettes’ top 20!

    1. Sharing the Same Address as the BFFs

    Turns out that in the real world, all your faves don’t actually live down the hall from you. Sigh. Arranging get-togethers between summer jobs, long commutes and vacations is a mess. How much cooler was it to grab the girls for dinner simply by swinging by their adjacent rooms, instead of the tangled mess that is trying to plan get-togethers during the summer?

    2. Living at Home Has Us Feeling Like We’re 15 Again 

    Back to sneaking in after-hours? After getting in the groove of living on your own, it’s totally frustrating to go back to curfews and helicopter parents. (And trying to protest that you actually stay out a lot later back at school doesn’t really seem to help matters).

    3. Campus Meal Plan = Much-Needed Choice and Convenience!

    Sure, we’re often bitter about the cost-per-meal ratio, and we all love to hate on the oft-wilting lettuce and greasy fries, but when it comes down to it, we secretly adore the dining hall. If we want to have an omelet and toast for dinner, or samples of three different types of cookies for dessert, we better darn well have that option. It’s better than a soggy Starbucks wrap on our way home from work!

    4. Actual Motivation to Work Out

    With free access to top-notch facilities, we had no excuse during the school year for skipping out on the gym—and one really good one for checkin’ out the basketball team mid-workout.

    5. Boys, Boys, Boys

    As we’ve probably all learned, it’s a lot easier to meet guys on campus. From flirting with your charming chem lab partner to always running into that neighbor down the hall from you, there just seem to be way more possibilities for romance in college. (Vastly older summer co-workers aren’t really cutting it for us).

    6. Hometown Parties Just Don’t Compare to College Nightlife, Period

    Between Thirsty Thursdays, Friday-night frat parties, and the knowledge that there’s probably a great party going on anyday of the week on campus, our summer social lives in comparison seem kind of, well, lame.

    7. We Desperately Miss Our Favorite Hangouts

    Whether you’ll be a sophomore or a seasoned senior, you’ve likely spent a lot of time scoping out a whole range of favorite haunts and hangouts around campus. Our college towns have become like second homes—and we’re officially homesick. Here’s to regaining our seat at the local coffee shop, hitting up our beloved boutiques and cheap eats again—even getting back to that perfect campus study spot we swear is the only place where we can actually focus.

    8. Our Inner Intellectual is Wilting

    Truth is, we’re actually feeling a bit nostalgic for class. Inspiring professors, incredible courses and that personal satisfaction you can only get from acing a paper for a class you’re completely passionate about are much better alternatives to making copies and fetching the office coffee all summer long.

    9. The College Schedule…or Lack Thereof

    Summer has many of us working 9 to 5—and yearning for the days when a 10 a.m. once a week felt like a killer. The ability to form a sched around your personal body clock just might be one of the greatest perks of college life.

    10. Milestones Are Ahead

    Turning another year older has its perks—from finally being able to (legally) check out the university bar life, to getting better campus housing picks and scoring prime class times (as in no mornings…see above). Plus, actually getting to take classes in your major is way more exciting than the usual drab “intro”s and 101s.

    11. We’re Months Behind on Gossip

    Sporadic texting, Skype and Facebook stalking just don’t cut it. We can’t wait to catch up with our college girls for real in the fall and get all the dirt on their latest adventures—especially from those who were studying abroad in the spring.

    12. Spontaneous Dorm Makeovers

    Admit it: your room at home is pretty much a shrine to the past—and probably hasn’t changed since the early 2000s. Heading back to school means news digs and more flexibility to regularly redecorate with fresh designs. Sure, your dorm room may be the size of a postage stamp, but really, isn’t that half the fun? Get creative!

    13. Space from Home

    Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and during the semester we were quite sentimental about our families and friends back home. But going back to living with the ‘rents, dealing with pesky siblings and remembering why we stopped hanging out with certain hometown friends in the first place can make us all(sheepishly) crave that distance again.

    14. Being True To Your School

    As cheesy as it is, school pride definitely helps to make college, well, college. Between belting out the fight song at a pre-game pep rally, indulging in crazy traditions (naked quad runs, anyone?) or even just participating in a friendly intramural softball game, there are just certain things that we won’t really get post-grad. Admit it—cheering on your hometown MLB team just doesn’t bring the same kind of passion we feel come college football season. Rah, Rah, Rah!

    15. We Secretly Enjoy Over-Achieving 

    If you’re the typical collegiette, you’re involved in a million things on campus—and being away from it all is actually stressing you out. Summertime has us stuck in the office mailroom; we’ll feel a lot more confident once we’re back to our Editor-in-Chief/Student Council President/MVP positions!

    16. A Much-Needed Change of Scenery 

    Whether you’ve been braving the concrete jungle this summer as an intern, or stuck back in strip-mall suburbia, it’s easy to get nostalgic for the blooming flowerbeds, grassy quads and fall foliage of your campus. Plus, being able to walk everywhere means you actually get to enjoy it.

    17. We Heart the Campus Activities Board

    Back on campus, there seem to always be a million events going on at once—and even better, most of them are free. University-sponsored events like outdoor concerts, formal dances, and poetry slams and comedy acts kept us oh-so active—and free or discounted tickets on local museums and plays kept us cultured and within budget!

    18. Movie Nights––or, How We Find Ways to Procrastinate 

    Silly traditions often get us through those miserable late-night study sessions. We so miss the bonding, camaraderie and guilt-free midnight snacking. The bleary-eyed cramming part? Yeah, not so much…

    19. Studying Abroad is Just Around the Corner

    How could you not look forward to a 4-month-long credit-earning vacation—er, study session? For those who are so lucky as to be studying abroad this year, get psyched for heading overseas and enjoying one of the absolute highlights of your college career. ¡Vámonos!

    20. Pant Suits are Stifling Our Fashion Freedom

    Office dress codes are crampin’ our style; we’ll be glad to return to the days of wearing what we want. Whether you simply slip into sweats before lecture, or enjoy putting together crazy, trendy pieces just for the fun of it, we all love college fashion for the same reason we love the dining hall—choices.

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    We all know about the mania surrounding the hit HBO show Game of Thrones. And if you're one of its millions of fans, you're dying to watch it each week, waiting to see who will be killed off next and who will win the Game of Thrones. Though we've met a lot of great characters, we've also met a lot of terrible ones we just wanted to throttle. Here's a definitive ranking of those annoying characters, and obviously, there are tons of spoilers ahead.

    23. Ned Stark

    His was the first death that really mattered and was what really got the plot going, but honestly, it could have been avoided if he hadn’t been so determined to tell the truth. He was a man of truth, but it was so frustrating watching him say goodbye to his chances of surviving for the sake of his family, at least, all because he refused to keep his mouth shut.

    22. Robert Baratheon

    If only he would have stopped drinking and sleeping with other women long enough to see what a manipulative liar his wife really was and see the truth that Ned figured out on his own, Westeros would be a better place. Too bad that boar got the best of him.

    21. Bran Stark

    Ever since he became the Three Eyed Raven, Bran has been detached and downright cold to the people he once loved. Plus, he could be less creepy about the fact that he sees all—like when he told his sister Sansa that he basically watched Ramsay abuse her. Creepy.  

    20. Sansa Stark

    Sansa’s place on this list mostly accounts for her first couple seasons, especially when she had a blind crush on Joffrey and didn’t see him for the sociopath he was. Once she realized he was actually the worst person in Westeros and stopped defending him, she started redeeming herself. But I’ll never forget that she got Lady killed.

    19. Jaime Lannister

    First, his relationship with his sister is totally creepy. Second, he’s the reason Bran is a cripple. Third, he keeps justifying his sister’s actions when she’s obviously on her way to becoming the next Mad Queen, if she’s not already there. Open your eyes, man.

    18. Ygritte

    I will forever ship her with Jon Snow, but it was kind of annoying how she expected him to forget the vow he made to the Night’s Watch and run away into the sunset with her and the other wildlings. Plus, she shot him with a ton of arrows and that was pretty rude. RIP Ygritte.

    17. Oberyn Martell

    He was SO CLOSE to killing the Mountain in Tyrion’s trial by combat, but because he couldn’t stop running his mouth during the fight to try to get him to apologize for killing his sister, he got his skull bashed in. SO CLOSE.

    16. Talisa Stark

    Her romance with Robb was sweet and all, but she had a holier-than-thou attitude at first, and her love affair with Robb got him and his mother killed at the Red Wedding. You didn’t think the Freys would have a problem with you showing up on their doorstep after stealing Robb away? Really?

    15. Robb Stark

    As much as we all love the Starks, the fact is Robb was an idiot for breaking his promise and marrying Talisa instead of the Frey girl he was promised to. The Red Wedding was brutal, but what kind of idiot thinks that bringing his hot new wife to the Frey wedding that was supposed to be his own was going to go well?

    14. Roose Bolton

    He fought for the Starks at one point but betrayed them in the worst way at the Red Wedding, changing sides when it seemed convenient. Plus, he’s the reason Ramsay exists, which is bad enough. You shouldn’t have reproduced, man.

    13. Theon Greyjoy

    Theon was okay until he betrayed the Starks, and although he was definitely more than adequately punished for his betrayal and is still suffering the consequences of Ramsay’s torture, he was still really annoying and cocky for a while.

    12. Tywin Lannister

    Was there ever a time when he was actually nice to his kids? As bad as Cersei is, it was annoying seeing him look down on her because she was a woman when she’d proved she was more than capable enough to be treated like a man, and don’t even get me started on how he treated Tyrion for being a dwarf. I’m pretty sure the only sibling he actually liked was Jaime.

    11. Stannis Baratheon

    He did have a claim to the throne, but his biggest mistake was trusting the witch Melisandre and basically screwing over everyone he loved until his death. Plus, what kind of asshole kills his brother and his only daughter to get to the throne?

    10. Melisandre

    Speaking of Melisandre, she spent several seasons manipulating Stannis and then casually burned a child at the stake—ALIVE—as a sacrifice to her god. Oh, and when she takes off her necklace she looks like she’s actually hundreds of years old, so that’s weird, too.

    9. Ellaria Sand

    As much as I hate Cersei, going after her daughter, who was completely innocent and in love with the prince from Dorne, was completely uncalled for and got Ellaria’s own daughter killed. Her attitude after watching Oberyn get killed—not murdered as she said because he willingly partook in a trial by combat—was frustrating to watch, as was her insistence on declaring war on King's Landing.

    8. Shae

    Not only did she break Tyrion’s heart, but she also cruelly betrayed him when he would have done anything to keep her safe and made him out to be a murderer. She got what was coming to her when he got his revenge. No ragrets.

    7. Euron Greyjoy

    He hasn’t even been on the show as long as most of the people on this list and he’s already more annoying than most of them. He gets props for that, but it doesn’t do anything for his terrible, arrogant personality.

    6. Viserys Targaryen

    He sold his sister off to Khal Drogo in his efforts to reclaim the Iron Throne and was such a jerk to Danaerys—and in general—that when he had molten gold dumped on his head as a “crown,” no one actually felt sorry for him. There’s your precious crown, Viserys.

    5. The High Sparrow

    No one sums up the holier-than-thou attitude better than the High Sparrow. It was Cersei’s fault he rose to power, but it was frustrating to watch him use religion to punish people for their “sins” and especially for trying to protect their families.

    4. Littlefinger

    Nothing was more enjoyable than watching Jon throttle him for being such a creep. He was in love with Catlyn for years, and when he couldn’t have her, he set his sights on her daughter, Sansa, pretty much as soon as she hit puberty. He may not be the most annoying on this list, but he’s definitely the creepiest.

    3. Cersei Lannister

    While you would think Cersei’s worst traits are her evilness and lack of morality, her overconfidence in herself is actually more annoying than all of the horrible things she’s done to people. She believes no one can bring her down and thinks she’s more clever than she actually is, which will make her (hopeful) downfall that much sweeter.

    2. Ramsay Bolton

    Ramsay was a lot like Joffrey and delighted in torturing people, but he was less of an insufferable brat, which made him just barely miss the top spot on this list. With the horrific things he did to Theon, Sansa, his own family and who knows how many other people, no one was sad to see his own dogs eat him while Sansa watched.

    1. Joffrey Baratheon

    The number one spot on our list is the one person everyone was happy to see die, even if his death by a poison called the “Strangler” was pretty gruesome. Joffrey was most likely a clinical sociopath and lived for seeing people get hurt, especially if it was by his hands, and he got away with everything just because he was a prince and then a king. Honestly, good riddance, you little brat.

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    Between tangled necklaces, wrinkled clothing and shampoo spills, packing for school can be a total nightmare. But not anymore! With these awesome packing hacks, you won't believe how easy moving back to campus will be.

    1. Roll your clothes to save space

    We've been folding our clothes for as long as we can remember, but apparently rolling them is actually the way to go! Save space and avoid creases with this easy trick.

    2. Use shower caps to protect your shoes

    Finally something to do with all those hotel shower caps you've been hoarding!

    3. Thread chain necklaces through straws

    Say goodbye to tangled chains!

    4. Roll larger necklaces with toilet paper

    This trick prevents tangles and takes up very little space.

    5. Use a button to avoid losing your earrings

    This is life-changing!

    6. Keep your clothes fresh with a dryer sheet

    With this basic hack, you can throw on your favorite dress as soon as you get to campus.

    7. Protect your clothes from shampoo spills

    Place plastic wrap over the top of your cosmetic bottles (but under the cap) and you'll never have to deal with that mess again.

    8. Pack your clothes in a trash bag

    If you're driving to campus, use this amazing hack: pack your clothes with their hangers directly into a trash bag. This will save you so much time both when packing and when moving in.

    9. Pack socks in your shoes

    We love this trick: it will maximize space AND keep the shape of your shoes intact! Don't forget to pack your shoes on the bottom of your suitcase with other heavier items.

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    There’s been a lot of hype over higher education pretty much since you started high school, but now it’s finally here: your first day of college. You’ve gone through orientation, your room is set up and you’re ready to go. But, of course, it’s normal to get nervous about how the day will play out; After all, you don’t really know what to expect.

    But no need to hit the panic button quite yet, because Her Campus is here to get you through a timeline of your entire first day, from the moment you wake up to the moment you hit your pillow at night! We’ll be breaking down some of the biggest snags you could potentially hit (Alarm didn’t go off? No one to sit with at lunch?) as well as how to deal with them should they arise.

    7:31 a.m.: Waking up late

    You set eight different alarms to make sure you’d get up on time for your 8:00 a.m. class, and to no avail: You still woke up late!

    How to deal

    First of all, waking up late is not the end of the world. “Everybody almost expects freshmen to be all over the place the first day of college, so take a deep breath and relax,” says Megan Showers, a junior at the University of Florida.

    And Megan knows what she’s talking about; She woke up late on her first day of college! “I had a 9 a.m. class and woke up to my alarm clock reading 8:48 a.m.,” she says. “So obviously, I was freaked. It was at least a 15-minute walk to class plus the time it’d take to get ready, so I was pretty much on the verge of hyperventilating.”

    Luckily, Megan had taken some proactive steps the night before to shorten her morning routine. “I’d been so neurotic about starting college that I’d actually laid out my clothes the night before and packed up my schoolbag like I was starting kindergarten,” she says. “At the time I felt paranoid, but as I was running around trying to get ready, it was a godsend.”

    Megan highly recommends that other first-day collegiettes do the same thing to avoid any surprises in case they pop up a little later than expected on day one. The night before your first day of classes, take 10 or 15 minutes to pick out your outfit and pack your school bag (notebook, pens, folders, your keys, student ID, the works!). Also, make sure you set out toiletries or know where they are the next morning so that you’re not searching for a toothbrush when you’re running around. If you want to earn extra preparedness points, set out a granola bar or some cereal in case you need to eat on the run!

    7:47 a.m.: Getting lost on the way to class

    You rush out of your dorm, and you’re so excited, nervous and scared that you get extremely lost trying to find the academic building you’re supposed to be in. What’s a newly minted collegiette to do?

    How to deal

    Kate Masters, a junior at Wesleyan University, reminds collegiettes lost on campus not to panic. “Go up to someone who looks a little older (and friendly) and ask him or her for directions,” she says. Everybody’s been there before!

    If possible, though, Kate recommends visiting your classes (or at least the buildings) before your first day. “The night before my first day of college, I actually spent 45 minutes walking around campus to all of my classes just to make sure I knew where the buildings were,” she says. “Some of my new college friends came with me, and it was really fun!”

    Like planning your clothes the night before, checking out the campus ahead of time may seem like a little too much preparation for some collegiettes, so don’t be afraid to smile and ask someone for directions! Additionally, you could print a campus map and bring it with you for day one.

    8:07 a.m.: You didn’t bring the right supplies to class

    You sit down in class and pull out your laptop, only to have your professor announce that he has a no-laptops policy. The problem? You didn’t bring a notebook and pen.

    How to deal

    Kate faced this same issue during her first college class. “I felt so dumb for not bringing pens and paper to write on,” she says. “So, obviously, my tip is to bring a couple of different note-taking supplies.”

    Rachel Nelson, a sophomore at the University of Southern California, says it’s not the end of the world if you don’t have everything on your first day. “Usually the first day of classes is just the professor handing out the syllabus, asking questions and maybe giving a mini lesson, so you really won’t be missing much,” she says. “Just make sure you go buy your supplies directly after class!”

    Still freaked out about forgetting stuff? Feel free to ask the person next to you if he or she has an extra pen. Hey, you might make a new friend!

    Related: 15 Things You’ll Learn Your First Semester of College

    11:17 a.m.: You don’t know whom to sit with at lunch

    Thought you were over the days of scanning the cafeteria looking for a seat? Think again. What happens if your orientation friends or hallmates haven’t gotten to the dining hall yet? Should you sit alone or awkwardly stand there waiting?

    How to deal

    Megan had this situation come up during her first day of college. “A bunch of the girls I had agreed to get lunch with were running late from class, so I got to the dining hall first and found myself having to wait 15 minutes,” she says.

    So what did Megan do? She got her food, found a seat and stared at her phone the entire time. “I was so embarrassed to be sitting alone, but looking back now, two years later, I see how stupid all of my worrying was,” she says. “People don’t really care if you’re sitting alone, and no one will think you’re friendless or something just because people aren’t with you. It’s fine! I eat alone all the time now because I like to.”

    If sitting alone is a little bold for you, remember that it’s college, so feel free to just wait for your lunch crew or meet some new people and sit with them (people are super friendly on the first day!). The important takeaway: No one is going to judge you, no matter what you choose.

    1:42 p.m.: You don’t know what to do with all of your free time

    Your classes have wrapped up way earlier than they ever did in high school (ah, the beauty of the college schedule!), so what are you supposed to do with all of this extra free time?

    How to deal

    There are definitely a lot of options out there if you have a little time on your hands on the first day, from running errands to checking out your class syllabi. First, you can go to the campus bookstore and buy whatever school supplies and reading materials you’re missing for your classes. It’s always good to be prepared!

    Second, there’s always the option of getting a head start on academics. Kate recommends combining schoolwork with social time. “I was actually assigned a ton of work in my first college class, so I went to the library with some friends so we could all work on stuff,” she says. “As someone who procrastinated all the time in high school, I thought it was awesome to begin college on a good note by getting an early start on assignments.”

    Kate also encourages collegiettes to really try to be social during the first couple of days and weeks of college. “It’s easy to feel tired and want to sit in bed watching Netflix all day, but this a crucial time in your college career!” she says. “Make friends, hang out with people and get involved. It’s an awesome time.”

    Free time is a great thing, but definitely make sure you still have a game plan so you don’t spend the first couple of days just browsing the Internet. Make a list of what you hope to accomplish on campus during the beginning of the semester and go for it!

    9:34 p.m.: Your friends want to party but you’re not sure if you want to

    It’s your first night of school and you’re beyond exhausted, but a bunch of your friends want to go out to a party. You want nothing more than to crawl into bed and pass out, but you also don’t want to miss out on a social opportunity.

    How to deal

    First off, don’t feel like you have to go out to have a great freshman year! Rachel found herself in this situation during her first couple of days of college. “On the one hand, I didn’t want to seem like a party pooper, but I was also bogged down in homework on my first day,” she says.

    So, how did she deal? Rachel met her friends in the middle. “My friends were actually pregaming for a couple of hours before they headed to this frat party, so I joined them for that and then left them when they went to the party,” she says.

    It turns out Rachel made the right choice, too. “My friends only ended up staying at the party for an hour tops, so I didn’t miss much!” she says.

    Another huge perk of having so much to do on a college campus is that you can pick and choose what you want to do with your time, so if partying one night isn’t your thing, no one will fault you for wanting to stay in and study or check out extracurriculars!

    Overall, your first day of freshman year will definitely be filled with ups and downs, but just remember that everyone experiences them! Problems will pop up, so as long as you go in with a game plan and take a couple of minutes to prepare ahead of time, you’re going to do great. All of your classmates are as excited and anxious as you are to see how the first day goes, so relax and enjoy it!

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    There’s no better feeling than perusing aisles and aisles of brand new clothes, or waking up to find that chic pair of shoes you ordered waiting on your doorstep. In the famous words of Blair Waldorf, “Whoever said that money doesn’t buy happiness didn’t know where to shop!”

    The only struggle of having a shopping love that just won’t quit? Being restricted by a college student budget. After buying textbooks, class supplies and last-minute dorm decor, there’s not always a ton of cash leftover to spend with your favorite brands. But thanks to UNiDAYS you can finally live your shopping dreams without breaking the bank!

    UNiDAYS is a free service that helps you find major savings on college essentials. The only network entirely for giving you student discounts, you can score deals from brands like Urban Outfitters, ASOS, Bed Bath & Beyond, Apple Ed and so many more. That means whether you’re shopping for a first day of class outfit or browsing online for a new Apple laptop, with UNiDAYS you don’t need to feel tied down by your college budget. Seriously, where has this been all our lives?

    Lucky for you, we’ve partnered with UNiDAYS to give away one $500 AmEx gift card, so you can shop your favorite brands and still go back to college with a full wallet. Enter the giveaway below and don’t forget to sign up with UNiDAYS to receive some game changing student discounts!


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    There’s nothing quite like a Starbucks pick-me-up—but between the Pumpkin Spice Lattes and fruity refreshers, java chip Fraps and caramel macchiatos galore, everyone’s favorite sugary beverages aren't always the healthiest. It’s perfectly fine to indulge in a sweet treat every now and then, but the calories and sugar can add up faster than you’d imagine. Don’t worry—this doesn’t mean you have to cut off your Starbucks consumption cold turkey. We’ve rounded up some of the easiest swaps to make your next order lighter (without losing the fun)!

    1. Ask the barista to hold the sweetener

    Most Starbucks drinks have sugar added to them—even drinks that you might add your own sugar packets to, such as cold brew and iced coffee.There’s an easy solution to this: ask the barista for an unsweetened version of your order. This means they won’t add additional sugar packets, and you can control how much sugar you add on your own once you pick up your drink. You may not think that an iced coffee has any sugar in it—but opting for the unsweetened version is an easy way to lighten up your order.

    Regular iced coffee, Grande (16oz)                                                                                                                                                                               

    80 calories, 20g sugar

    Unsweetened iced coffee, Grande (16oz)                                                                                                                                                                                       

    5 calories, 0g sugar

    2. Opt for an alternative milk

    If you’re ordering a drink made with milk, such as a latte, cappuccino, macchiato, Frappuccino or even iced coffee, try asking for non-fat milk—or almond, soy or coconut—instead of the classic 2% or whole milk options.

    Caramel Macchiato, Grande (16oz)                                                                                                                                                                                       

    Made with whole milk: 280 calories, 33g sugar                                                                                                                                                                        

    Made with non-fat milk: 200 calories, 34g sugar                                                                                                                                                            

    Made with almond milk: 170 calories, 23g sugar

    3. Order sugar-free syrups

    The next time you ask for an extra pump of caramel or vanilla in your fave S-Bux drink, consider opting for a sugar-free version of the flavored syrups that take your drink from 0 to 100 calories real quick. That’s right—Starbucks offers sugar-free syrups in vanilla, hazelnut, caramel, mocha and cinnamon dolce. You can still add flavor to your favorite drinks, but you can do so without the extra sugar! Plus, there’s no extra cost to have sugar-free instead of regular syrups. You can also ask the barista for less pumps of syrup in your drinks, which is an easy way to keep most of the flavor while lightening the sugar load.

    Related: The Definitive Ranking of Starbucks Drinks 

    4. Say goodbye to the whip

    One of the simplest Starbucks swaps is opting for your drink sans-whipped cream. Cutting out the whipped topping can—for some drinks—cut the calories in half, and you’ll still enjoy everything else about the beverage that you love.

    Green Tea Crème Frappuccino, Grande (16oz)                                                                                                                                                                         

    Made with non-fat milk, with whipped cream: 400 calories, 65g sugar                                                                                                                            

    Made with non-fat milk, without whipped cream: 280 calories, 63g sugar

    Hot Chocolate, Grande (16oz)                                                                                                                                                                                             

    Made with non-fat milk, with whipped cream: 350 calories, 43g sugar                                                                                                                            

    Made with non-fat milk, without whipped cream: 270 calories, 41g sugar

    Use this quick trick for Frappuccinos, Pumpkin Spice Lattes and other drinks that typically have a whipped cream option.

    5. Keep it simple with brewed coffee and tea

    Half the fun of going to Starbucks is leaving with a beautifully mixed, totally Instagram-able beverage bursting with color and aesthetics—but if you’re looking to order something on the lighter side, don’t underestimate the beauty of plain brewed coffee and tea. Ask for a light, medium or dark roast coffee, and add your choice of milk for a cup o’ joe that gets the job done and is free of the sugar and calories in other menu items.

    Dark Roast, Grande (16oz)                                                                                                                                                                                                           

    Made without milk: 5 calories, 0g sugar

    Passion Tango Herbal Tea, Grande (16oz)                                                                                                                                                                           

    0 calories, 0g sugar

    Starbucks also has a wide range of zero-calorie tea flavors, which can often be overshadowed by lattes and other menu items that are more complicated. When in doubt, go back to the basics!

    6. Swap sugary snacks for filling foods

    Aside from a menu full of yummy beverages, Starbucks is also well-loved for its cakes, cookies, pastries and paninis. If you're in a hurry and want to snag some breakfast with your coffee, you may want to think before ordering the first bread loaf you see in the glass bakery case. 

    Instead of the Blueberry Scone(420 calories, 20g sugar) or the Blueberry Muffin with Yogurt and Honey(380 calories, 30g sugar), try the Fresh Blueberries and Honey Greek Yogurt Parfait(240 calories, 29g sugar). Though the sugar count in the yogurt is more than the scone (and about equal to the muffin), you'll save calories from the more filling and nutritious parfait option—and still keep the blueberry flavor!

    You could also swap out a slice of Pumpkin Bread(410 calories, 39g sugar) or Iced Lemon Pound Cake(470 calories, 42g sugar) with a cup of Seasonal Fruit (90 calories, 19g sugar) and a Spinach, Feta & Cage Free Egg White Breakfast Wrap(290 calories, 4g sugar). The egg white breakfast wrap will keep you full and satisfied, while the fruit cup will add a bit of sweetness to your morning snack without the calories of a traditional bakery item.

    The next time you’re waiting in line, people-watching and thinking about life (and what you’re going to order) at Starbucks, remember these easy swaps that can make the familiar coffee drinks (and foods) you know and love a little lighter. Cheers!

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    A group of white supremacists and neo-Nazis armed with riot shields, helmets and bats held a “Unite the Right” march in Charlottesville, Virginia on August 12. This march occurred the day after a group of torch-wielding neo-Nazis and white supremacists marched through the University of Virginia campus to protest the removal of a statue of Confederate General Robert E. Lee. The situation, however, quickly turned violent when people arrived to protest the march on Saturday. By the end of the day, a woman was killed when a car drove into a crowd of protesters, and more than 30 others were injured. President Trump gave a statement condemning the “egregious display of hatred, bigotry and violence on many sides,” at which people were more than a little frustrated. This statement implied that both sides of the event (the white supremacists and the protesters) were equally at fault for the violence at the march, and people were rightly outraged. The man driving the car who killed 32-year-old Heather Heyer and injured many others was a white supremacist, not a counter-protester.

    Photo courtesy of CNN– captured by Ryan Kelly

    The United States of America provided its citizens the right to free speech with its first amendment of the Constitution, and this right is unarguably crucial to our society. However, I have seen far too many instances of people defending a hate groups right to visibly organize and display bias simply because the people in the group have the right to free speech. Yes, free speech is important and must be preserved, but where do we draw the line when the speech we protect leads to people’s deaths? In Germany, it’s a crime to display a Nazi flag, but in the US, white supremacists and neo-Nazis can march up and down the streets of a city waving Confederate and Nazi flags, doing the Nazi salute and screaming Nazi chants, and they receive no punishment whatsoever. Germany banned Nazi flags because it knows exactly what happens when they are displayed in public by people proud to brandish them, and I’d recommend opening a history textbook to anyone unclear on the ties between Germany and Nazis.

    Free speech is a cornerstone of democracy, but hate speech can be deadly. As we saw yet again in Charlottesville, hate speech leads to death, and now many are defending these cruel people's screaming of “Jew will not replace us” and other offensive chants, because they have the right to free speech. Well, guess what? I, as a Jewish woman, have the right to live. Heather Heyer had the right to live. And she was killed because this country allows hate groups to organize and spread insidious messages which lead to violence, chaos and oftentimes death.

    Don’t tell me Nazi rights to free speech are as important as a person’s right to live, when Nazi speech so often means death to someone else. Protecting Nazi speech is not patriotic, it’s not an attempt to preserve the first amendment, and it’s not honorable. It’s complicity. When we allow Nazis to make threats on people’s lives and call those threats protected, we are saying that we value their right to threaten someone else more than the safety of those being threatened. We are protecting Nazi hate speech at the expense of human life. Some may be thinking, "But these marches weren’t supposed to be violent," to which I would reply, "Why were the Nazis armed with clubs, riot shields and helmets? What non-violent events require riot gear and weapons?" There is no denying that they appeared to be prepared for violence.

    Allowing neo-Nazis and white supremacists to hold marches in public doesn’t promote the message that America values free speech, it promotes the message that America cares more about hate speech than it does people’s lives. Make no mistake, the neo-Nazis and white supremacists weren’t simply gathered for a harmless meeting. They were literally calling for ethnic cleansing, and in case there are any uncertainties about the priorities of these neo-Nazis, the main organizer of the march, Jason Kessler, called it “a beautiful moment that no one will ever be able to take away from people who were involved.” Richard Spencer, a prominent white supremacist, said that the “Unite the Right” march “was a huge moral victory in terms of the show of force.” Matthew Heimbach, a leader of the neo-Nazi group Nationalist Front boasted, “We had zero vehicles damaged, all our people accounted for, and moved a large amount of men and materials in and out of the area. I think we did an incredibly impressive job.” In other words, these men are proud of the violence and chaos that occurred over the weekend, and since none of the neo-Nazis and white supremacists and none of their equipment were injured, they considered the events a success. They literally only show concern for their followers, i.e. white people who are neo-Nazis and white supremacists, and they were pleased at the horrors that took place. A woman died as a direct result of these hate groups, and many more people were injured, and these leaders are delighted and proudly declaring moral victory.

    If America wants to protect these disgusting messages and call it free speech, I want no part of it. Calling for the death and injury of others should never be accepted or protected.The United States can’t have hate speech protected by the first amendment and then act surprised when people die and get hurt at the hands of Nazis. These white supremacists and neo-Nazis are neither patriots nor free speech advocates nor citizens just speaking their minds; they are terrorists, plain and simple, and they ought to be treated as such.

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    Today's solar eclipse, the first of it's kind in over 100 years, had only one rule: do not, under any circumstances, look directly at the sun, because it WILL damage your eyes. So naturally, in the most Donald Trump move ever, POTUS looked right at it.

    For the eclipse, the president stepped out on the White House balcony, along with first lady Melania and their son Barron, to watch. According to BuzzFeed News, Trump then decided to look up at the sun, pointing to the sky as a White House aide reportedly shouted to him, "Don't look!" Classic.

    Of course, the Internet is having a great time meme-ing the whole thing, and we can't stop laughing:

    And then there were those who already knew exactly what was going to happen all along:

    Meanwhile, someone actually managed to turn in all into a very #relatable situation.

    Afterward, the president and first lady did eventually put on protective eyewear, but the photo evidence is still there, and it just might be the best part of the entire historic day.

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    ICYMI, the Internet was basically in panic mode last week when it discovered that Taylor Swift had deleted literally every Instagram and Tweet she's ever posted and replacing her entire website with a black screen - and today, she confirmed that something big (hopefully new music?) is definitely on its way.

    As Us Weekly reports, T-Swift made her return to social media today (and meanwhile, upstaged all that social media buzz about the solar eclipse), with a super cryptic video that doesn't tell us much other than the fact that SOMETHING IS HAPPENING.

    The video, which is only 10 seconds long, features a slithering snake and cool, creepy flickering light effects. Could it be a clap-back at haters referring to Swift as a snake following all that drama with Kim and Kanye? Maybe.


    A post shared by Taylor Swift (@taylorswift) on

    The lack of explanation or any kind of caption whatsoever is leading fans to believe that this can only mean one thing: Taylor is teasing new music. Not to mention that all the mysterious activity on her social media channels and website comes exactly three years after she announced her last album, 1989 - in other words, we're way overdue for some new anthems like "Shake It Off."

    Stay tuned, but in the meantime, this is basically an accurate picture of Taylor Swift right now:

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    Silk or lace wedding dress? An intimate courthouse ceremony or the wedding of the century? These may be minor details now, but your dream wedding could say a lot about when exactly you'll be getting married.


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    If you're a sucker for a good mystery, a dreamy cast and a bit of an adrenaline rush, you were probably obsessed with Pretty Little Liars and even more obsessed Riverdale. Although the Liars have just ended their time in Rosewood and Archie, Betty and Jughead may have just begun theirs in Riverdale, it turns out they actually have quite the connection. Thanks to some Reddit sleuthing, it turns out the two towns are actually the same place. Wild, right?

    After providing some aerial photos of Riverdale andRosewood, Redditor Ludoth31st included a caption that said, "So I watched the first episode of Riverdale the other day and noticed the town looked quite familiar. It's Rosewood. I'm not sure if this was pointed out before but thought it was funny."

    Though the proof seems to be in the photos, it's actually not the true location the shows were filmed. Both used this same bit of aerial stock footage, however Riverdale was actually shot in Vancouver. The more you know!

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    It’s no secret that relationships are a lot of work—and I do mean that in the very best way possible! Relationships require oodles of effort and TLC as well as a decent balance of give and take to really make one flourish. It’s all worth it when all of that extra work results in a happy and healthy relationship on both sides!

    There are relationships, however, that lack in some of these areas, which can result in some unfortunate outcomes such as cheating or an affair. One common misconception about cheating is that it’s all physical, which isn’t necessarily true. Enter the emotional affair.

    So, what exactly is an emotional affair, and could one be affecting your relationship? We spoke to a few collegiettes to find the meaning behind an emotional affair as well as four signs you can look for that may indicate your significant other is pursuing one, or is maybe just vulnerable to one. Either way, it's important to be aware of the signs!

    1. The two of you aren’t as close as you once were

    Remember those days when you and your SO happily spent almost every waking moment together? While it is common for relationships to find their groove and settle into a routine that involves less time together, there is a difference between having needed space and actually feeling distant–especially emotionally.

    Alex Christensen, a senior at the University of Iowa, believes that this idea serves as an explanation behind the reason for an emotional affair.

    “I think the idea of an emotional affair comes from the idea that you and your significant other aren't as close as you once were,” says Alex. “A big sign of this is spending time apart that you would normally be together.” While space is a factor for most healthy relationships, there can be situations where it feels as if the two of you are spending more than enough time apart.

    The distance doesn’t just have to be physical, however. While you may have noticed that date nights have become way less frequent and your time spent together has dwindled, you’ll also want to look out for whether you and your SO have lost any closeness emotionally.

    “It doesn't even necessarily have to be with someone they could be interested in, it could just be a friend,” Alex continues. “You start to feel distant even though you're still together.”

    If you’ve noticed your SO hasn’t sought out any emotional support or attention from you in quite some time, it could be because they’ve been receiving it from someone else, or have considered reaching out to others for that emotional fulfillment. 

    2. You’ve noticed some strange and secretive technological behavior

    You brush it off at first, but as time goes on, it becomes a bit more obvious. Their social media and smartphone usage has definitely increased—and not in a good way.

    Maybe your partner has been on their phone a lot more than they usually are—especially when you’re together—and has become way more secretive about who they’ve been texting. Maybe you’ve noticed some Snapchats pop-up from a name you may not recognize, or an increase in Facebook and Twitter usage after they swore they would never use sites like those.

    “I know people who will use Twitter and Facebook DMs to stay in contact with people who they don’t want their boyfriend or girlfriend to know that they’re talking to,” says Alyssa*, a junior at Carthage College. “With passwords and all that, it’s easy enough to keep those messages hidden. A lot easier and sneakier than communicating through text.”

    Social media is a common mode of communication and sometimes the only one when it comes down to those pursuing emotional affairs. The ding of a DM, Snapchat or text from someone new can be exciting and replicate those butterfly-ish feelings that the two of you shared when you entered the “talking stage," and can be easy enough to conceal if they so wish.

    If your partner has been craving more attention and has offered no explanation for their increased smartphone usage, then there could be an unfortunate reason behind it. While increased social media usage and secretive cell phone behavior are not exclusive to an emotional affair, it does raise a few red flags. If your SO is unwilling to justify their recent behaviors to you, then they may have turned to social media to pursue the likes of an emotional affair.

    Related: Could You Be Emotionally Cheating On Your SO?


    3. Their attitude toward you has changed

    Sure, it’s normal to be in a bad mood occasionally, but now it’s starting to feel like your SO’s attitude has changed toward you completely. While pursuing an emotional relationship with someone else, your SO can begin fantasizing about all the things this new person is or does that you’re not or don’t do, and begin to criticize you for it.

    While this doesn’t sound fair in the slightest, your SO may be lashing out at you for the most random things such as your appearance or the shows you watch because they have grown to enjoy the things about the other person and have created this ideal image that you no longer fit. This emotional affair they’ve developed has made a new mold, so if you start to notice that you just aren’t measuring up to your SO’s expectations lately, there may be a deeper reason behind it.

    Of course, it isn't always so easy to tell why your SO is lashing out. Your SO could very well be lashing out at you for different reasons, such as stress with work or their family, even if those things don't necessarily have anything to do with you. You'll want to rule out any other sources of emotional stress before considering an emotional affair as the sole reason for their change in attitude toward you. 

    4. You can just feel it

    They say that you should always trust your gut feeling, and while it can be easy at times to convince yourself of something that’s not true, it’s important to approach any gut feelings when it comes to the health and wellness of your relationship with your SO.

    “I think it's hard to determine signs of this [an emotional affair], rather it's more of a feeling,” says Alex. “You can just feel when you aren't as close to someone you love.”

    This feeling is definitely a scary one, but if something just does not seem right within your relationship, you’ll probably want to communicate your feelings the best way you can to your SO. Feelings are unique to every person, but two huge indicators are if you feel detachment emotionally along with intimately. While these feelings can suggest an emotional affair, they could also just mean that the compatibility between the two of you as partners just isn't there. This is a good time to take a step back and reevaluate before making any decisions moving forward. 

    Emotional affairs are as complex as our emotions themselves, but they are definitely not something to take lightly. Emotional affairs don’t really involve any physical contact, but an emotional relationship is just as important as a physical one, so you’ll want to look out for signs that your SO is having their emotional needs met from someone else—especially if their treatment of you has took a turn for the worst because of it. While these signs are not exclusive to an emotional affair, they are very telling, so if you suspect your SO is engaging in one, then you'll want to ensure that you appropriately address the subject with your partner ASAP.

    *Name has been changed

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    Following protests surrounding Confederate statues in Charlottesville, Virginia this month, which turned violent and deadly when a white supremacist drove a car into protestors, the University of Texas at Austin removed three statues of Confederate generals from its campus overnight, The New York Times reports.

    In a statement, the university's president Greg Fenves cited the hatred shown during the protests in Charlottesville as the reason the statues were ultimately removed 10 days before classes at UT begin.

    "Last week, the horrific displays of hatred at the University of Virginia and in Charlottesville shocked and saddened the nation," Fenves said. "These events make it clear, now more than ever, that Confederate monuments have become symbols of modern white supremacy and neo-Nazism."

    The statues, which depicted Confederate generals Robert E. Lee and Albert Sidney Johnson and Confederate cabinet member John Reagan, were removed late Sunday night and into early Monday morning. The university purposefully gave little warning about their removal and took them down overnight "for public safety and to cause the least disruption to the university community," the Times reports.

    "Erected during the period of Jim Crow laws and segregation, the statues represent the subjugation of African Americans," Fenves said. "That remains true today for white supremacists who use them to symbolize hatred and bigotry."

    The statues will instead be moved to the school's Briscoe Center for scholarly study, according to Fenves's statement.

    UT isn't the first university to remove statues of Confederate historical figures in response to the events in Charlottesville. Duke University removed its own statue of Robert E. Lee on Saturday following protests on campus - and hopefully, these schools won't be the last to take action.