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Amy Sherman-Palladino Teased About Another Season of 'Gilmore Girls,' So We're Obviously Never Getting a Definite Answer About It

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Nearly a year after the revival series Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life dropped on Netflix, there haven't exactly been many good signs of a second revival season happening. Despite the original season's massive cliffhanger, Lauren Graham recently hinted that she was over acting, while Gilmore Girls creator Amy Sherman-Palladino signed a multi-year deal with Amazon Studios involving her new series The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel. However, in a move proving that she'll forever keep us on our toes, Sherman-Palladino just teased that she definitely has the freedom to create another Gilmore Girls season. Can't we just get a definite yes or no about this, ASP? 

Cosmopolitan reports that in an interview with RadioTimes.com, Sherman-Palladino suggested that she and husband Daniel Palladino could turn to Amazon if they wanted to produce another revival season. "We carved out a little niche for ourselves with Amazon saying that if we ever want to do it, if the girls and us get together and we have a concept that works, then we have the freedom to do it," she said. 

So she'd totally disregard consistency and do another season on a completely different streaming platform? Well, if it means answers about that situation of Rory's, I'm down.

"It would just have to be the right circumstances, and that we're all sort of in the same drunken mood together to go repaint Stars Hollow again," Sherman-Palladino said. "Because we had to repaint Stars Hollow, and we'll have to repaint it again. But it's definitely possible."

In case you were worried that all of the vagueness about a second season is because she didn't enjoy doing the original season, that's not the case. "We feel great about it," Sherman-Palladino said of bringing back the show. "We really enjoyed it, we enjoyed the experience very much and it had a whole different feel than the [original] series did."

Given the amount of back-and-forth speculation in the past year, I'm convinced we're never going to get a solid answer about Gilmore Girls returning. Here's to binge-watching old episodes to get over this uncertainty. 


6 Relationship Things You Should NEVER Post About on Social Media

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Dating is fun, and it’s natural to want to show your relationship to the world via social media. However, just like everything else in this world, too much of a good thing is no longer a good thing. In recent years, social media has become the premier place to display your relationship status, and we have the perfect etiquette guide for posting while you’re dating someone.

1. Fights

Just the other day, I was going through my Instagram stories, and I came across one that displayed a girl with tears streaming down her face, the caption “he broke my heart” and a zoomed-in broken heart emoji placed on her chest. Even worse is when you’re scrolling through your Twitter timeline and see the details of a couple’s fight. “That's something that should be handled by the people involved, in person. Not online for the whole world to see,” says Alexandra, a senior at SUNY Buffalo State. “It causes the relationship to lose that privacy aspect. You never know who will see those tweets.” Sometimes your SO is just irritating you, and you don’t want to confront them for fear of conflict. Josh, a sophomore at Messiah College, says, "You shouldn't post vague subtweets complaining about something the other person did. It only serves to create tension and uncover the cracks beginning to form in the relationship." The best thing to do when you’re fighting with your SO? Turn off your phone, close your laptop and take a breather. Rationalize before you say anything to anyone, especially your SO. Your followers will thank you.

2. Racy make out pictures

We don’t want to feel like we need to take a shower and clean ourselves after we look at your Instagram photo. Physical intimacy is important in every relationship, but the definition of intimacy, “very private; closely personal,” means that it should be shared between only you and your SO. Olivia, a sophomore at Temple University, says, “If the photo is you and your SO sharing a sweet kiss in front of some beautiful scenery, I’ll shed a tear and ‘like’ it. But if it’s a grainy photo and you’re obviously making out, I’m grossed out. It’s all in your intentions. Making out is a private thing; your kissing habits should be left inside the relationship.” After all, how awkward is it trying to take a make out selfie? And what if the flash goes off? Busted.

3. Posting about everything your SO does for you

Doing nice things for your SO is a requirement in a relationship, meaning that it’s not necessary to post whenever bae brings you flowers when you’re feeling sick and tells you that you’re gorgeous no matter what. Yes, it’s a sweet gesture, but sorry to burst your bubble, it’s nothing special. Posting #wcw and #mcm pictures every once in awhile is nice; it shows that your SO cares enough about you to show you off to the world. However, this quickly turns sour when every Monday or Wednesday you’re posting selfies of them with emoji-saturated captions. Natalie, a freshman at Montgomery County Community College, says, “I think it's alright to post once in awhile about your SO, but if you're constantly needing validation from social media or need everyone to know about the special things done in a relationship, they aren't as special. You don't have to brag to everyone all the time.” It’s more authentic if you show your SO that you appreciate them without letting everyone else feel like they're a part of the relationship, too.

Related: 7 Love Mistakes to Avoid This Year

4. Pictures with another girl/guy

Unless you have things settled with your SO that posting pictures with another girl/guy is okay, avoid it. A group photo with a bunch of friends? Go for it. But posting pictures, especially on Instagram, has become a method of flirtation. You don’t want to send the wrong message to the other person in the photo, nor do you want to upset your SO. Kylie, a sophomore at La Salle University, warns against this, especially at parties. “People should absolutely avoid posting pictures when under the influence,” she says. “There’s almost always a group of people that are at these parties and will try and sit on everybody’s lap for pictures.” If you are going to post a picture with another girl/guy, Jacqui, a sophomore at Temple University, advises, “Be careful how you pose with someone of the opposite gender [if you’re straight]. It can cross a line if you're doing ‘the couples pose’ with your guy best friend and people mistake that for you dating someone else.” Better to be safe than sorry, so we advise keeping those photos offline.

5. Love letters as captions

Whenever Valentine’s Day rolls around, you can expect a truckload of couple posts (and Single Awareness Day posts), complete with heart emojis and sappy captions. While most of these are admittedly pretty cute, there are always a few sickeningly sweet photos with romance novels for captions. “Avoid writing an incredibly long paragraph in the caption about your love; that should be kept more private,” says Jacqui. “Just write snippets of inspirational things about your relationship, but leave the 18-page theses to handwritten letters, not Instagram.” If you write entire love letters to your SO on social media, your relationship becomes a lot less special. While validation in the form of likes and comments feels good, the reaction when you hand your SO a sappy, cheesy, adorable handwritten letter is way better.

6. Confidential/personal information

If your SO shares a secret with you, like something about his or her past that’s deeply personal, don’t tell your Facebook friends and Twitter followers. "Don’t post nudes. Or secrets. Or confidential information about the other person, ever," says Jake, a sophomore at Messiah College. Posting personal information is not only an invasion of privacy, but it can also be dangerous. Almost anything and anyone is searchable on the internet nowadays, so think wisely about what’s appropriate. The same goes for photos. I’ve heard horror stories about people who send nudes, break up with their SO a few months later, and then those nudes get leaked everywhere. So be incredibly cautious when sending sensitive photos, and if you’re on the receiving end, just don’t show them to the world. It’s that simple. A good rule of thumb is if you wouldn’t show or tell your grandma about it, don’t post it.

It’s important to be proud and public about your relationship when you’re in love, but it’s also smart to be aware of what you’re posting on social media. Don’t let this guide be the final say in what you do and don’t post on social media. As long as you and your SO have your online etiquette figured out, go for it. Just be considerate of your followers and think twice before posting a steamy make out picture.

Roy Moore's Former Colleague Says That Everyone Knew He Dated Teenage Girls

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After a woman accused GOP Senate nominee Roy Moore of sexually assaulting her when she was 14 years old, Moore's former colleague has now claimed that it was "common knowledge" that he dated teenagers. The Huffington Post says that a former prosecutor who worked with Moore in Alabama in the 1980s revealed that everyone thought Moore's actions were "weird."

Teresa Jones, a former Etowah County deputy district attorney, initially shared her connection to Moore via a comment posted to a news story reporting the allegation against Moore. "I have no doubt these stories have validity," Jones wrote in the comments section of the Alabama paper Gadsden Times. "Roy was known to eschew dating his own age and preferred teenagers. I challenge all of my colleagues in the Bar and on the bench at that time to...support that Roy Moore should not be elected to represent the place of my birth and my home for many years."

Jones then spoke with CNN national correspondent Alexander Marquardt, saying of Moore's dating choices, "Everyone we knew thought it was weird. We wondered why someone his age would hang out at high school football games and the mall. But you really wouldn't say anything to someone like that."

Moore has denied the claims made against him, while three Republican senators have pulled their endorsements of him for Senate following the allegations. He worked with Jones in 1982, when he was in his thirties. President Donald Trump has said that if reports are true, Moore should step aside ahead of the Dec. 12 special Senate election. 

Gal Gadot Reportedly Refuses to Do a 'Wonder Woman' Sequel if a Producer Accused of Sexual Harassment Is Involved

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This past summer's debut of the Warner Bros. film Wonder Woman was an incredible step forward for the representation of women in action films. Title star Gal Gadot has definitely become #goals for so many of us, and she continues to prove that she's just as much of a Wonder Woman in real life. The actress is reportedly refusing to sign on for a sequel if Brett Ratner, the center of new sexual misconduct allegations and a producer whose company helped fund Wonder Woman, is involved in its making, HelloGiggles reports.  

Six women, including X-Men franchise star Olivia Munn, have recently accused Ratner of sexual harassment. While Ratner has sued one of the women for defamation, he has chosen to step away from all of his Warner Bros. projects in the meantime. While Ratner may claim that it was his own decision to take time off, Warner Bros. expressed differently—the company publicly announced its cutting of ties with Ratner following the allegations breaking. 

Reports of Gadot's disapproval of his Wonder Woman connection originally appeared from Page Six, which cited that she backed out of a dinner honoring Ratner last month despite her being scheduled to present him with an award. A source at Warners Bros. said about Gadot, "She's tough and stands by her principles. She also knows the best way to hit people like Brett Ratner is in the wallet. She also knows that Warner Bros. has to side with her on this issue as it develops. They can't have a movie rooted in women's empowerment being part-financed by a man accused of sexual misconduct against women."

Well, amen to that. 

Although Gadot and Warner Bros. have yet to comment on this update, Gadot took to Instagram last month when she didn't attend Ratner's commemorative dinner, sending a clear message of why she wasn't giving in to Ratner's power in the industry. 

 

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Well said, Wonder Woman. Well said. 

What Every Woman Should Know About Period Sex

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When one thinks of period sex, the most obvious and normal reaction is “ew.” Not because periods are gross, but because it sounds terribly messy. That and other reasons are why most women and men tend to stay away from doing the deed while it is that time of the month. Well, Her Campus is here to help tell you all the things you have to know about period sex, especially some things you may have thought were true that actually aren’t.

1. It doesn't have to be messy

For many, the first thing that comes to mind when thinking about period sex is the idea of getting blood everywhere. It’s hard enough trying to wash blood out of your underwear when your tampon leaks, but a whole bed sheet? No thanks. The most obvious way to avoid this mess is simple: shower sex. This way there is no mess to clean up at all. If that's not something you are into, you can also just put a dark towel down and no one will ever know, so no need to be embarrassed. Melanie, a junior at Florida State University, say's that she absolutely loves period sex, but you do have to pay attention to your body. "Some months when my period is especially heavy, my partner and I stick to shower sex because otherwise there is just too much blood," she says. "But if it is a relatively light month, nothing really has to be different from our usual sex." Sounds good to us.

2. It is possible to get pregnant during period sex

One of the biggest myths about period sex is that you can’t get pregnant. According to Dr. Alyssa Dweck, an OB/GYN at Mount Kisco Medical Group, if you have irregular periods and are only spotting and not actually menstruating, “it still is possible to get pregnant,” so you always should be using a condom. The reason for this is that sperm can live inside you for actually up to five days. So you could have sex towards the end of your bleeding and think you are fine but then actually conceive four or five days later with your "early ovulation." So while the probability is low, it could happen. 

Related: The Ultimate Sex Playlist for All Your Hookup Needs

3. It won’t make your period heavier

A common misconception about period sex is that if you do it, your period will be even heavier than it was before. Well luckily, that is false. Dr. Dweck says that while orgasming might push more blood out of your body because of the contractions, your period won’t actually be longer or heavier. Basically, you are the same woman after, just minus some blood.

4. Orgasms can actually ease cramps and PMS symptoms

Yup, you read that right. According to Clue, a woman-led startup focused on women’s menstrual health, the endorphins that you release by orgasming can actually relieve common PMS symptoms and cramps. So instead of rolling up with a heating pad and Netflix when it's your time of the month, maybe this time just try having sex—basically killing two birds with one stone, right?

5. It can make sex more enjoyable

Contrary to popular belief, having sex on your period is often times more enjoyable than regular sex, according to Dr. Dweck. Because of the hormones you release during your period, you are more prone to sexual arousal and may be more sensitive. So if you have a higher sex drive than your partner, one reason might be that your period is just beginning or about to begin.

6. Menstrual blood is totally harmless

Unless you suffer from a condition like hepatitis or any other type of blood-born STD like HIV or syphilis, the blood from your body is literally just normal blood. If someone else touches it, nothing bad is going to happen to them. Just wash it off and go on with your day. Joy, a senior at the University of Michigan, says that before her and her boyfriend had period sex for the first time, he was “totally terrified of the blood.” So terrified that, in fact, she “had to send him several scientific articles explaining why period blood was just normal blood.” But in the end, she said he was fine, of course.

7. Last but not least, it's a natural lubricant

This really doesn’t need to be said, but when you have sex on your period, there will be blood. And blood is a liquid. And a liquid is a lubricant. Lana, a sophomore at New York University, actually prefers period sex to regular sex because of how much easier the actual sex is. “Because of the blood, usually we don’t need any lube so it feels so much more natural and better for me and for my partner.” So yeah, feel free to save money not buying lube.

So basically, period sex is no big thing but remember, the choice is always yours and it’s always a good idea to talk about it first with your partner.

17 Foods You'll Recognize if You're a Broke College Student

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Being a broke college student means that you sometimes have to sacrifice a lot for your education. That typically means making your limited grocery fund stretch enough to fill your stomach. Sometimes the food you eat is simple, bland or a little nauseating, but at least it gets the job done and it doesn't break the bank. Here are 17 foods that we're all too familiar with.

1. Eggos

The perfect breakfast staple. Pretend you’re as badass as Eleven when you walk out of a store clutching a box or two.

2. Packaged ramen

If you ignore the sodium content, it’s the cheapest dinner option you can buy from a corner store, so that's a big plus.

3. Grilled cheese sandwiches

Bread and cheese—what's not love? Easy on your bank account, kind to your soul.

4. Boxed macaroni and cheese

When in doubt, buy a week's worth of Easy Mac, and you’re set.

5. Frozen meals

Hot Pockets, pizza rolls, POGOs, McCain Smiles… the options are endless.

6. Chef Boyardee ravioli

The bland tomato sauce never gets old when you can buy a family-sized can for only a few dollars.

7. Granola bars

Need a snack? Eat a granola bar. Quick breakfast? Granola bar. Wanna get an endless amount of crumbs in your bed? Granola bar.

8. Peanut butter

Peanut butter is the poor man's Nutella. You can spread it on anything and feel like you have your life together because it has protein and is, therefore, "healthy."

9. Chicken nuggets

Eating like a five-year-old never felt so good. 

10. Pasta

Pro tip: If you're crying over your student debt, use your tears as a pasta sauce substitute. 

11. Pizza

Pizza is the go-to cheap food for any student. Whether it's frozen, leftover, ordered in or something resembling a pizza slice in the cafeteria, it's a college staple for a reason.

12. Rice

If I'm really desperate, I go for Minute Rice and pretend like it's an acceptable base for every meal. 

13. Oatmeal

Oats cost next to nothing, which means it's all I eat every morning. 

14. Your roommate’s food

Look, sometimes desperate times call for desperate measures. It's not your fault that you ate their Chinese takeout when you were hungover.

15. Leftovers

Any food left in the fridge for more than a day is fair game. Week-old pizza? A tinfoil-wrapped burrito? Unidentifiable casserole? All worthwhile dinner options.

16. Anything in a can

I find that nearly any food you can buy in a can, you're able to transform into something resembling a meal. Some items just take more creativity than others.

17. Wine

Technically not a food option, but when you can buy a bottle of wine for less than a bag of groceries, sometimes a girl has to go with the wine. 

5 Ways to Incorporate Men’s Clothing into Your Wardrobe

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The school year is significantly underway at this point, and it’s official: we’ve run out of outfits. Thankfully, though, there’s a whole other section to our favorite stores (as well as the closets of our dads or SOs) that provides us with plenty of other options—menswear!

While the daring celeb trend of ladies donning men’s suits may not be for you and you might not be quite prepared to go fully androgynous, there are still plenty of ways to use men’s pieces in your wardrobe. We polled some collegiettes for their favorite ways to incorporate men’s clothing into their wardrobe. Read on for what they came up with!

1. T-shirts

Oversized t-shirts are perfect for dresses and can be styled in really versatile ways. “Don't be afraid to be oversized! I make XL men's t-shirts and hoodies into dresses all the time,” says Brianne James, a senior at Ryerson University. Wrap a belt or button-down of some sort around your waist to give the dress some shape, or accessorize everywhere else and make a simple, solid t-shirt stand out.

You can slice up or stitch together anything you want if you start with a basic t-shirt. “The key to making them look a little tailored is in cuffing the sleeves (but not too much) two folds will do,” adds Brianna.

You can also purchase t-shirts from the men’s department just to stock up on basic, fallback pieces for your wardrobe! As men’s clothing generally tends to be cheaper than women’s, this is a budget-friendly solution for outfit essentials. “The fit also gets points for coziness because you cut out trying to find 'fitted' shirts that actually fit your shape,” says Emily-Rose Grieve, a third-year student at the University of Warwick.

Related: I Wore My Boyfriend’s Clothes All Week & Here’s What Happened

 

2. Flannels and button-downs

If you’re a college student, you have likely discovered the perfection that are flannel shirts. They’re incredibly comfortable and long-lasting, and they’re wearable during all seasons with tons of different outfit types! Flannels can be styled with dresses, over tank tops and be an accessory. You can also pull a Justin Bieber and wear two at once, because why not?Flannels make the perfect complement to an outfit that’s otherwise really feminine. “I like to pair them with leggings, booties, and feminine jewelry, or if I'm wearing a simple t-shirt dress, I'll wrap the flannel around my waist to give it some flair,” says Sarah Madaus, a sophomore at Temple University. “They're always worn in and super comfy, and they aren't fitted like women's flannels.”

The baggy look is a huge plus. Not only does it make flannels more comfortable, it also means that layering won’t suffocate you! “I actually use only men's flannels in the fall because women's flannels usually are super tiny and don't provide a lot of warmth and I personally don't think they're as versatile,” says Lee Martin, a senior at Christopher Newport University.

Men’s button-downs offer the same multi-purpose use as flannels but are a little on the dressier side. “I think a great way to incorporate clothing is with their button-downs. I know that this can often be sexualized, but they are more versatile than just a shirt to wear after a one-night-stand,” says Juli Cehula, a junior at St. Vincent College.

Button-downs work well tucked into skirts and pants, making them a perfect outfit option for work or an internship. However, they’re also really cute and boho-chic when untucked or partially tucked into a pair of distressed denim shorts or jeans! “Another one of my favorite looks is a button-down shirt tucked into high-waisted jeans,” says Emily-Rose. Pairing a button-down that’s on the looser side can also counter the tightness of your favorite jeans, creating a perfect balance in your look!

 

3. Sweaters

When they’re oversized, sweaters are another option that work really well in dress form! Men’s sweaters have a different fit than women’s do, so they’re great to wear over a collared shirt or dress, or as a kind of throw-on piece over shorts and a tank top in the summer. Who doesn’t love the off-the-shoulder look of a sweater that’s a little big on you?

Broken in sweaters are even better. Lift a few from a friend, brother or your dad—they probably won’t even notice! “I have stolen most of my father's sweaters from his college days - there are big on me but so, so warm and very durable,” says Meena Nayagam, a third-year medical student at the University of St. Andrews.

Big sweaters make choosing an outfit really easy because they’re a statement piece of their own. Plus, any accessories or accents would get totally swallowed up! “Because they are quite large, I usually pair them with some tight jeans or a pair of black leggings,” Meena adds.

Related: 3 Ways to Step Out of Your Fashion Comfort Zone

 

4. Jackets and outerwear

We don’t know when it happened, but boys’ coats have gotten really cute. Plus, it’s always nice to be able to breathe under all of your cold-weather layers! With men’s outerwear, you don’t have to worry about the constricting “feminine fit!”

Men’s coats also open up the possibility of blazers, bombers and varsity jackets. These more masculine pieces are always fun to pair with a dress or something lacy or frilly. Contrasting these two styles will give you a very enviable aesthetic. “Men’s bomber jackets > ladies," says Brianne. "You can find cute and cheap men’s jackets in sale sections.” 

Give the men's sections of stores you already like a try. These items will likely go with the clothes you already have from those stores, and the odds of you liking the styles are higher! Our readers suggested Target, H&M, Abercrombie and the closets of their most stylish male friends and family members. 

5. Tailor men’s clothing for your size or shape, or embrace the men’s look

Of course, you can take any men’s item you like and modify it to your liking (or leave it the way it is). Jeans or pants can become shorts, shirts can become tank tops and why not make ties into bracelets or chokers (or the classic headband or bow)? The possibilities are endless!

If you want to shop in the men’s section just for the more boxy fit than you’ll get in women’s stores, that works too. “Anything from an oversized men's crewneck can work for women. You can wear it with a form-fitting skirt or skinny jeans,” says Nathalie Pena, a junior at SUNY Oswego. “As long as you have a balance with oversize and tight pairs of clothing, the look can work.”

Making clothes your own is what makes fashion fun. It’s an opportunity to get creative and express your personality through what you wear. “I shop in the men's t-shirt section of thrift stores and places like Plato's closet. I always find the coolest t-shirts and then from there tailor them to my style,” says Maddie H., a senior at the University of Cincinnati. “Whether it involves cut-outs at the neck or a simple knot at the bottom. Men's t-shirts add a cool vibe to any look in my opinion and I love to rock it.”

You don’t have to go all out into menswear if you don’t want to. In fact, sometimes just adding one masculine piece really ties an outfit together. “When I started wearing more men's clothes I found it helpful to choose one men's item to wear with an outfit of women's items,” says Lena Serkin Mazel a junior at Kenyon College.
Ultimately, the designation of certain clothing as meant for men and certain clothing as meant for women is totally arbitrary. Society doesn’t want us to realize that though, so, until that changes, keep rocking the (so-called) menswear!

How She Got There: Carmindy, Beauty Expert and Former Star of 'What Not To Wear'

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Name: Carmindy
Age: 46
Job Title and Description: Beauty Enabler
College Name/Major: Life
Website: carmindy.com
Twitter Handle: CarmindyBeauty
Instagram Handle: CarmindyBeauty

What does your current job entail?

C: Is there such a thing as a typical day? I’ve never had a typical day. Each day is totally different. If I'm working on a photo shoot in a studio or on location somewhere exotic I’m able to co-create the story, ad or catalog with everyone. It’s a wonderful collaboration. If I'm doing television, I'm either selling my favorite products or talking about tips and trends. I am currently building a new cosmetic company, so the days I'm not working in fashion, I'm product developing and building my brand. On the weekends, I do private consultations.

What is the best part of your job?

C: Making women feel empowered and self confident.

What was your first entry-level job in your field and how did you get it?  

C: I was an assistant, and I got the job by walking into an agency in LA and telling them I would work for free just to learn the craft. You must be willing to do anything for nothing when it comes to going after your dream job.

What words of wisdom (well-known quotes, an anecdote from your boss) do you find most valuable?

C: I made my own up at a young age, which was “Create Your Own Destiny” because I didn't want anyone telling me what I could or could not do. I knew it would be up to me to go after my dreams. Nobody is going to hand it to you.

What is one mistake you made along the way and what did you learn from it?

C: Once, when I was assisting, I got a little ahead of myself and gave the photographer we were working with my card. The makeup artist I was working for didn't like that very much. I learned that patience is key and letting things evolve instead of forcing things too quickly is the best way to move forward.

What has been the most surreal moment of your career thus far?

C: Too many to count. I'm very blessed to have a job that has given me so many moments that have taken my breath away.

What do you look for when considering hiring someone?

C: A serious can-do attitude, willing to take direct directions without having to be coddled and someone who is quick to help make things easier without direction.

What advice would you give to a 20-something with similar aspirations?

C: You must pay your dues. There are no short-cuts. It takes time to master your craft before you succeed. Success that comes to people fast who are not prepared will go away as quickly.

What's the one thing that's stood out to you the most in a resume?

C: The cover letter of why a girl wanted to work with me was 100 times better than her resume, and I hired her based on that, then trained her. She is still with me to this day.

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HC Wake-Up Call: Texas Church Has First Service Since Mass Shooting, NFL Players Stay Standing for Veterans Day & Starbucks Adds New Holiday Drink

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Good morning Her Campus! With a break-neck news cycle, there is no possible way for you to stay on top of every story that comes across your feeds—we’re all only human, after all.

But, life comes at you fast. So grab a cup of coffee and settle in for this quick and dirty guide to stories you might’ve been sleeping on (like, literally. It’s early.)

Sutherland Springs Church Congregation Holds First Service Since Shooting

A week after a gunman killed 25 people and an unborn baby in Texas's deadliest mass shooting yet, the First Baptist Church of Sutherland Springs held a Sunday service, CNN reports. Although there are plans to demolish the actual church building, more than 500 people gathered several blocks away from the site of the shooting to attend a service on a baseball field. Agents from the Texas Department of Public Safety, as well as sheriff's deputies, guarded the area. Other nearby churches organized the event, while Texas Sen. John Cornyn was expected to address the attendees.

No NFL Players Take a Knee on Veterans Day

Amidst the NFL celebrating Veterans Day weekend, none of the professional football players protested during the national anthem at Sunday's early games. The Chicago Tribune reports that the NFL Players Association requested that all players observe a two-minute moment of silence before their games to honor the country's veterans. Players known to consistently kneel in protest of police brutality against African-Americans remained standing.

Starbucks Debuts New Version of a Holiday Drink

You know it's time for the holidays when Starbucks has brought back its holiday drink menu. In an attempt to switch things up, the coffee chain has also announced a new addition to its holiday lineup. The Toasted White Chocolate Mocha is basically the classic White Chocolate Mocha, but with a toasted white chocolate mocha sauce that reportedly has more of a deeper, nuttier flavor. The drink also comes with a red candied-cranberry topping, just to remind you that the hectic holidays are approaching. 

What to look out for...

If there's any time to celebrate kindness and being good to people, it's this week. You're in luck, because today is World Kindness Day. The world is a crazy place, and we definitely need to take a step back and remember the basics of being a nice human. 

5 Ways to Start Your Morning Off Right

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Often, a college student’s morning routine consists of waking up five minutes before class, throwing on yesterday’s jeans and grabbing a coffee from the dining hall on the way. It’s often rushed and isn’t much of a morning routine at all. Maybe you alternate the jeans with last week’s sweatpants and swap out the coffee for an orange juice to spice it up, but there are plenty of ways to ensure better self-care without exerting too much effort. Just know you may sadly lose an extra five minutes of sleep; however, any of the following additions to your morning routine will hopefully be beneficial.

1. Eat breakfast

For a busy college student always on the go, finding time to eat breakfast is usually a hindrance. Who has the time to sit down in a dining hall or assemble their own breakfast before 8 AM chemistry lab? If you’re someone who can’t imagine creating an avocado toast masterpiece, don’t worry! There are a number of fast and healthy breakfast combinations you can try. The important thing is that you eat something in the morning.

Marisa Pieper, a student at Arizona State University, says, “For me, I have to eat breakfast. Eating breakfast jump starts my day and makes my brain up for class or work! Something as simple as toast with peanut butter or yogurt and granola really helps me start my day off right.”

In case you’re not a breakfast person, remember that eating a simple protein bar or a piece of fruit can prevent your stomach from rumbling in the middle of an exam or your hand reaching for sweets later in the morning. Eating breakfast can also keep your digestive system regulated, especially during your least favorite time of the month.

2. Drink water

Staying hydrated is something many college students forget to do. During a long day of stressful classes and busy activities, we often forget to nourish ourselves with what our bodies crave most: water. Sometimes, we’re not even aware of our dehydration, despite experiencing symptoms like headaches and fatigue.

Hannah Harshe, a sophomore at the University of Michigan, incorporated her water routine before any other beverage consumption.

“I drink a full glass of water before I have my coffee each morning,” she says. “I fill up a cup before bed, so I can chug it right when I wake up.”

Keeping a water bottle next to your alarm is a great way to remember to drink up. You don’t even need to get out of bed (as long as you remembered to fill it!). Don’t forget to bring that water bottle with you to rehydrate later on in the day!

Related: 11 Ways to Have an Awesome Morning

3. Make your bed

When you’re in a rush to an early class, the last thing on your mind is having a neat bed. One of the perks of college is having some freedom from your parents. If your mom isn’t around to nag you about the unmade bed, why make it? Having the covers thrown back already makes an afternoon nap all the more inviting. However, Kayleen Parra-Padron, a senior at Florida International University, believes making her bed sets up a successful day.

“I need to have my bed made if I plan on getting anything done in the morning,” she explains. “I feel like making my bed is the first task I have to tackle every day, so once I tackle that, everything else should be easier. At the end of a long day, coming back to a comfy, well-made bed is the best feeling ever!”

If you’re the type of person who hits the snooze button too many times, taking the initiative to make your bed every day might help you wake up more. That way, you’ll have more time in the morning and will be less likely to skip class from sleeping in.

4. Do a devotional

Your morning routine doesn’t just have to focus on your physical well-being. Taking a few minutes to care for your mental health is just as important because having a negative mindset can ruin your entire day. A big exam or presentation can fill your thoughts, so it’s crucial to set aside some time just for yourself.

Lia Faticia, a junior at Penn State University, recommends doing some sort of meaningful devotional.

“I always do a devotional, or a five-minute journal-type ritual. It just sets up my day with at least one goal and is also time to meditate before I get out of bed to reflect on my day ahead,” she says. “[It’s] always a nice way to start the day positively!”

You can definitely experiment with a range of devotional options, too. From mindful meditation to mirror pep talks, you can try a different method of mental self-care every day until you find the one that suits you best.

5. Write

If you’ve never tried journaling before, you’ve been missing out on an opportunity to dump out your emotions and thoughts in a place no one will ever see. It’s more satisfying than you might think. Writing as part of your morning routine can take a plethora of forms—composing poetry, recording dreams, creating goals. You can even mix it up each day and try something new.

Melina Walling, a sophomore at Stanford University, tries to respond to a writing prompt every morning.

“I’ve got this book filled with 300 mini writing prompts. Instead of spending five minutes watching Snapchat stories, I try to complete one entry,” she says. “I usually end up on some BuzzFeed article about hilarious historical memes, but I know writing brings me a sense of calm.”

Writing a few sentences before you head to your first class of the day can not only help you organize your thoughts but also create a positive attitude. If you’re not a fan of writing, a great alternative is reading a passage from your favorite book or some inspirational quotes.

Starting your day off the right way is more important than most of us realize as college students. We deal with enormous amounts of stress and sometimes don’t know how to handle it. By adding something healthy and positive to your morning routine, you change the entire course of your day for the better.

Barbie Just Released Its First Hijab-Wearing Doll in Honor of Olympic Fencer Ibtihaj Muhammad

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Barbie just got a lot more inclusive: in a history-making move, the iconic doll company announced Monday that it will be releasing its first Barbie that wears a hijab, the Huffington Post reports. Even better? It's designed to look like Olympic fencer Ibtihaj Muhammad, the first Muslim American woman to compete in the Olympics while wearing a hijab,

The new doll was announced as part of Barbie's "Shero" collection, which, each year, honors some of the most accomplished #girlbosses out there — including the likes of Gabby Douglas, Misty Copeland and Ava DuVernay — by creating Barbie dolls in their likenesses. This year, it is (rightfully) Muhammad's turn — she became the first Muslim American woman to medal in the Olympics when she brought home the bronze medal in sabre fencing at the 2016 Summer Olympics.

Not only does Ibtihaj Muhammad's Barbie come wearing a hijab, but from the looks of it, she even rocks a full set of badass team USA fencing gear, which is not something you see every day on your average Barbie doll — and proves to girls that they can be whatever they want to be.

"The Barbie Shero Program recognizes women who break boundaries to inspire the next generation of girls and I am so excited to join this incredible group of women," Muhammad wrote in an Instagram caption announcing the new doll. "I’m proud to know that little girls everywhere can now play with a Barbie who chooses to wear hijab! This is a childhood dream come true."

While companies like Hijarbie have previously taken it upon themselves to create Barbie-esque dolls that wear hijabs, this is the first time hijab-wearing Muslim girls will be able to play with a Barbie that looks like them — and it's about time. Muhammad's Barbie will be available for purchase in early 2018.

19 Memes That Are So You When You're Drunk

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It's not a crime to be a little drunk sometimes (unless you're under 21). With all the memories you've had from parties and bars past, or memories your friends had to tell you because you can't remember, you've probably developed a drunk persona. These memes totally capture the drunk queen you become when you've had one too many drinks!

1. Dua Lipa is so disappointed in you

2. Accusing others of being drunk when it's actually just you

3. Becoming a wine/cat lady

4. I don't remember anything

5. I need you to know that I am drunk

6. Beyoncé said I should be independent…

7. *unintelligible noises*

8. Wait… what?

9. You're not too drunk—everyone else is just lame

10. Queen of bad decisions

11. Can't…move…legs…

12. If I could just teleport to the bathroom please

13. The party never stops

14. NEVER

15. Do you even know me?

16. I can't hear you over how drunk I am

17. The honest drunk

18. That ended exactly like I knew it would

 

sloppy & proud

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19. I have achieved my full form

Taylor Swift Has Announced the First 'Reputation' Tour Dates & Here's How to Score Tickets

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Ever since the release of her first album in three years on Friday, we've been (impatiently) waiting on the Reputation tour dates that we knew would follow — and they're finally here.

As Entertainment Weekly reports, Taylor Swift announced on Monday that her Reputation tour will include stops in 27 different cities throughout the U.S, with international tour dates to be announced later. According to Tay's website, the tour will start on May 8th in Phoenix and run through October, where it will wrap up in Arlington, Texas on October 6th.

In case you're trying to get your hands on tickets (and TBH, who isn't?) Swift has also set up a way for her fans to get priority access to tickets and to prevent scalpers and resale sites from nabbing them. Through Ticketmaster's "Verified Fan" program, fans are able to register ahead of the general public sale date on December 13th in order to get dibs on tickets, and they can boost their place in line by buying the album and Reputation merch. The Verified Fan presale will run from December 5th to December 8th.

BRB, just going to go apologize to my bank account in advance.

Gigi Hadid & Zayn Malik Celebrated Their 2 Year Anniversary With an ADORABLE Instagram Post

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In case you needed further proof that Zayn Malik and Gigi Hadid are indeed #CoupleGoals (you know, other than the Vogue shoots together and adorable date nights), look no further than the super sweet way they celebrated their two year anniversary.

On Sunday night, Gigi took to Instagram to give us all a quick look at what appears to be their anniversary dinner date. The boomerang the supermodel posted wasn't short of some aww-worthy PDA either, featuring a quick kiss and the caption, "2 yrs w my favorite human."

 

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The former One Direction singer and Victoria's Secret supermodel first started hinting that they were a couple back in November 2015 when Zayn posted a photo of the two looking super cozy together. Despite the fact that two have obviously busy schedules, according to People they still manage to spend plenty of time together by splitting their time between Gigi's apartment in New York City and Zayn's homes in Los Angeles and London.

Zigi forever, am I right?

7 Vintage Beauty Tips You Need To Try

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This year has been all about getting the perfect Kylie Jenner pout and making sure that your brow game is as strong as Cara Delevingne’s, but how could we forget Old Hollywood icons like Audrey Hepburn and Marilyn Monroe, whose glamourous looks are just as iconic today as they were then? Although you might swear by YouTube makeup tutorials that use only the latest makeup products from the most established brands, there are so many vintage makeup gems out there that can deliver the same results – if not better! Below are seven beauty tips that have been around long before the days of YouTube and beauty vloggers, but will step up your makeup game all the same.

1. Contour like Kelly

 

While Kim Kardashian might currently be considered the reigning queen of contour, Grace Kelly was gracing the screen with a killer contour long before we began keeping up with the Kardashians. In order to create the illusion of higher, more-defined cheekbones, Kelly used two different shades of blush. She used a dark blush right underneath her cheekbones and dusted a light blush on the apples of her cheeks.

"I love trying Pinterest beauty hacks, but learning to contour by using Pinterest can be difficult," says Kerry Moore, a junior at the University of South Carolina. "While looking up contouring tricks, I found this one and I have been obsessed with it ever since. It works well and it's so easy to do in the morning before class."

For those of us who are not gifted in the contouring department, this is a much easier alternative to following a contour cheat sheet off of Pinterest.

Related: The 7 Craziest Halloween Beauty Ideas on Pinterest 

2. Eyes like Davis

Just how iconic are Bette Davis’s eyes? Let’s just say there’s a '80s pop song about them, and the modern-day equivalent of that is the Twitter account dedicated to Angelina Jolie’s leg. Davis’s bright, youthful eyes were one of her most notable features, which is why she took such good care of them. Every night before bed she would put cucumbers, along with a layer of petroleum jelly, under her eyes to protect against dark circles and puffiness.

"I am involved in a lot of activities on-campus and sometimes I definitely don't get as much sleep as I should," says Kaia Thompson, a junior at Ball State University. "At first I thought that cucumbers on the eyes only worked in movies, but I have started putting them on my eyes at least three times a week and I have seen a big difference. I rarely look as exhausted as I actually am." 

While you might consider it a bit over the top to sleep with cucumbers under your eyes, your eyes will definitely thank you when they don’t look awful after your third all-nighter of the week. 

3. Lashes like Hepburn

Whether she was portraying Holly Golightly or Eliza Doolittle, Audrey Hepburn’s doe-eyed gaze was her trademark. Her eyelashes were essential to the look, which is why she was okay with taking painstaking measures to make sure her lashes were always on point. Rumor has it that Hepburn achieved some of the most beautiful eyelashes in Hollywood by separating each lash with a pin after each layer of mascara that she applied. Although we don’t recommend sticking pins by your eyes, the same look can be achieved by using the same technique on false eyelashes. Your eyelashes will have length and volume for days.

4. Hair like Hayworth

Long before Julianne Moore and Emma Stone, there was Rita Hayworth. She was known for her striking red hair, but it wasn’t even her natural color. In order to maintain her lovely locks, she had a rigorous hair routine. First, she would shampoo her hair with hot water. Once she rinsed her hair, she would saturate the ends with olive oil and wrap it in a towel for at least 15 minutes. Finally, she would rinse everything out with water and lemon juice.

A lot of people think that lemon juice causes your hair to become lighter, but according to Lavin Heffner, a colorist at Paul Mitchell, lemon juice just serves as an ingredient that helps to lighten your hair when it is exposed to the sun. If you're concerned about your hair getting even a bit lighter, this trick probably is not for you. 

"One of the treatments that we have here at the salon is very similar to Hayworth's olive oil and lemon juice routine," says Heffner. "Clients love the way that it makes their hair feel and it's one of the most requested treatments that we have." 

Try this hack for silky and strong hair throughout the fall and winter. 

5. Lips like Monroe

Move over Kylie Jenner, Marilyn Monroe was the original plump pout icon. In order to make her lips look fuller, Monroe had her makeup artist apply at least five different shades of lipstick and lip-gloss. She believed that the multiple layers created dimension for a fuller appearance. Lighter hues were used towards the middle of her lips, while darker reds were used on the outer corners. We think Marilyn Monroe totally could have had her own lip kit. 

6. Complexion like Crawford

While most of us struggle to take all of the makeup off of our face before bed, Joan Crawford had a cleansing routine that required her to splash her face with ice cold water 25 times every time she washed her face. Crawford was very concerned about keeping her face toned and free of wrinkles, and she maintained a youthful complexion throughout her career.

Youtube beauty vlogger, Wengie, swears by ice water facials because it keeps her skin smooth, tight and free of bloating. P.S. Lauren Conrad is also a huge fan of using ice water to ward off wrinkles and tighten skin! 

Just think about it this way: not only will you decrease your chance of getting premature wrinkles, but it is also a great wakeup call when you’re trying to get ready for your 8 a.m. lecture. 

7. Moisturize like Loren

Sophia Loren was glamorous in the 1960s and she still looks fabulous today at the age of 82. Her secret is olive oil. At the height of her career, Loren consumed at least two tablespoons of olive oil every day, in addition to routinely applying small amounts to her skin. And forget bath bombs, Loren is into putting olive oil into her baths too. More Mediterranean food in your diet and flawless skin? Doesn’t sound like a bad deal.

Although these beauty tips were used at the height of Old Hollywood, they are definitely still relevant today. Let this serve as a reminder that sometimes oldies can also be goodies. If YouTube tutorials aren’t really your thing, or you're looking for a different approach to makeup, you can always step away from modern techniques and turn to these tried and true tricks for the makeup inspiration that you’re looking for.


HC Wake-Up Call: Senate Majority Leader Says Roy Moore Should Exit Race, a Florida Man Claims He's "Transracial"& New Charges in Penn State Hazing Case

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Good morning Her Campus! With a break-neck news cycle, there is no possible way for you to stay on top of every story that comes across your feeds—we’re all only human, after all.

But, life comes at you fast. So grab a cup of coffee and settle in for this quick and dirty guide to stories you might’ve been sleeping on (like, literally. It’s early.)

Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell Says Roy Moore Should Exit Senate Race

Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell has said he believes the women accusing Moore and that Moore should withdraw his candidacy, the Huffington Post reports. "I believe the women, yes," he told reporters in Louisville on Monday. Moore responded to McConnell's remarks tweeting, "The person who should step aside is @SenateMajLdr Mitch McConnell. He has failed conservatives and must be replaced. #DrainTheSwamp," he wrote.

Later on Monday, a fifth woman, Beverly Young Nelson, came forward with allegations of sexual misconduct against Moore, saying he forced her head into his crotch one night in a car when she was only 16 years old. Nelson told reporters in a press conference that Moore told her, "no one will believe you" if she were to tell anyone what happened.

A Man in Florida Says He Was Born White but Feels Filipino

Ja Du was born a while male, but the Florida man says he identifies as Filipino, USA Today reports. He says he considers himself to be "transracial" and grew up enjoying Filipino culture.

"Whenever I’m around the music, around the food, I feel like I’m in my own skin," he told USA Today​. "I’d watch the History Channel, sometimes for hours ... nothing else intrigued me more but things about Filipino culture."

Meanwhile, many are accusing Ja Du of cultural appropriation and insensitivity, and his claims have sparked comparisons to those of Rachel Dolezal, who was born white and portrayed herself as black, even serving as the president of the Spokane, Washington chapter of the NAACP for a period of time.

New Charges Have Been Announced in the Penn State Hazing Death

After the FBI was able to recover a video deleted by one member of Beta Theta Pi at Penn State, where 19-year-old pledge Timothy Piazza was killed as a result of hazing earlier this year, new charges have been brought against members of the fraternity, according to BuzzFeed News. The video reportedly shows Beta Theta Pi brothers encouraging Piazza and other pledges to consume over 18 drinks in less than an hour and a half. As a result of the video, prosecutors have brought involuntary manslaughter charges against 12 new defendants, as well as introducing new charges, including furnishing alcohol to a minor and unlawful acts relative to liquor, for five defendants that were already named in the case.

 

What to look out for...

It's Sadie Hawkins day! To celebrate, here are five signs that you should just make the first move already.

7 Signs You Need a Vacation from Work

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You could put even more time into an assignment. You should be preparing for that huge meeting with your boss next month. You don’t want people to think you don’t care about the company. You could tell yourself a million reasons why you shouldn’t use your vacation days, and you’re not alone. A survey from Glassdoor conducted in 2015 found that US employees only use about half of their authorized paid vacation time. In a world that seems to constantly tell young professionals they could be doing more and working harder, it’s important to make sure these reasons don’t become excuses to give up a much-needed rest.

Michael Kerr, CSP, is a Hall of Fame international business and motivational speaker, workshop trainer and author who researches, writes and speaks on workplace cultures. He shared many signs a professional is in need a vacation, as well as negative side effects of letting work take over and positive benefits of vacationing with Her Campus. If you’re reading through this list thinking, “me, me, me,” book some tickets or pack up your car because it’s time for some R&R.

1. You can’t sleep

Tossing and turning at night can be a side effect of too much stress. Struggling with insomnia may come from overthinking what happened at work that day, anxiety over something coming up at work or just a general uneasiness surrounding your job. “The stress associated with burnout can lead to an increase in insomnia, which can in turn lead to even more health issues and cause a downward spiral,” says Kerr. What better place to re-set your sleep schedule and get the full nine hours you’ve been craving than on a sunny beach or king-sized hotel bed?

2. You’re missing important events in your personal life

If you’ve had to RSVP “no” to several friends’ weddings or missed the last three family birthday dinners, it may be time to reconsider your priorities. “We know that overwork can put a huge strain on personal relationships, often leading to marital breakdowns or at the very least serious family tensions,” explains Kerr. All the money in the world can’t make up for lost quality time with the ones you love most, so take a vacation away with your family, friends or significant other without answering your work email every 10 minutes.

3. You’re making more mistakes at work

According to Kerr, making mistakes at work that are out of the norm for you should be a clue that something greater is going on. Many young professionals feel guilty about using their vacation days. However, Kerr would remind them that some time to let your body and brain slow down “can often lead to renewed focus and engagement for people when they get back, improved energy levels, and a lot of people report feeling more creative, and often find the time away leads to innovative ideas and fresh perspectives on workplace issues.”

Related: 5 Things to Make Time for No Matter How Busy You Are

4. You no longer feel enthusiastic about your work

Becoming cynical about your work is an emotional indicator that you need to step away from your desk. You may be noticing that tiny problems you usually fix with ease have turned into insurmountable obstacles that leave you wanting to cry in the office bathroom or turn in your two weeks notice. “There’s the danger of people losing their mojo and being less excited and passionate about their jobs,” says Kerr, “which in turn can affect the overall morale of the workplace and customer service.” Before doing anything dramatic, go on a vacation to remember why you chose to apply to this job or pursue this career path in the first place.

5. You’re uncharacteristically snapping at your co-workers

Being cranky with the co-workers you usually love working with could be a sign you need time apart. “If a normally patient person is suddenly losing their patience or perspective on issues, that could be an obvious sign the person is in need of a break,” explains Kerr. If you can’t make it through an all-team meeting without rolling your eyes or a dinner with your SO without complaining about your desk-mate, take some days off and come back ready to be a sympathetic team player again.

6. The little indulgences aren’t cutting it anymore

“During a particularly busy 6-month period at work, I started to use desserts and weekend-long Netflix binges as a way to pamper myself,” says University of Connecticut graduate Lauren. “Not only were these small treats not actually making me feel rejuvenated, they were making me feel worse overall!” If you’re using 'treat yourself!' as an excuse to eat poorly and skip workouts, or the face mask and pedicure you’re giving yourself after work aren’t calming you down anymore, a proper vacation may be just what you need.

7. You’re extremely hesitant to take a vacation

This may seem like an oxymoron, but if the thought of having to check your email after a few days out of the office makes you break out into a nervous sweat, it may actually be a sign you should take a vacation.

“Progressive companies understand the enormous financial costs associated with employee burnout, so more and more companies are shaking up their vacation policies," says Kerr. He explains how some companies have mandatory vacation days to take away some of that worry employees have that others will take their job or look down on them for taking vacation or long term sabbaticals. In addition, many companies manage employee emails through a 'Mail on Holiday' program. “If you send an e-mail to someone who is on vacation you’ll get a response notifying you of an alternative person to contact and warming that your message will be deleted—so if you truly need to reach the vacationing person, you’ll have to resend the email after they return,” says Kerr of these programs. Talk to your supervisor or HR representative if you have questions about your vacation procedures, or strategies to truly be away from the office, mentally and physically, while on vacation.

No matter how much you love your job, everyone needs an escape once in a while. Planning a two-week European getaway or even just five days at your house without going to work will help you come back to work refreshed and reenergized. The office will always be there, but vacation days might not so avoid burnout from stress and tell your boss you’ll be using those vacation days stat.

The 'One Tree Hill' Cast & Crew Have Accused Showrunner Mark Schwahn of Sexual Harassment

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More sexual harassment allegations have come out, this time in a joint letter from over 15 women accusing One Tree Hill showrunner Mark Schwahn. The letter written by the female cast and crew of the hit TV drama was released Monday night and details the horrific treatment they endured from Schwahn. The women specifically mentioned their support of Audrey Wauchope, a writer that came forward with allegations via Twitter prior to their letter.

In her tweets, Wauchope recounted her time as a writer for OTH, saying Schwahn would touch women inappropriately, make crude jokes and comments, show pictures of a naked actress he was having an affair with and not show up to a mandatory sexual harassment seminar.

In the letter, written to vocalize their support of Wauchope and share their own experiences, female members of OTH's cast and crew—including leading ladies Sophia Bush, Hilarie Burton and Bethany Joy Lenz—say Schwahn's actions caused a lot of damage they're still dealing with. "Many of us were, to varying degrees, manipulated psychologically and emotionally," their statement reads. "More than one of us is still in treatment for post-traumatic stress. Many of us were put in uncomfortable positions and had to swiftly learn to fight back, sometimes physically, because it was made clear to us that the supervisors in the room were not the protectors they were supposed to be. Many of us were spoken to in ways that ran the spectrum from deeply upsetting, to traumatizing, to downright illegal. And a few of us were put in positions where we felt physically unsafe. More than one woman on our show had her career trajectory threatened." The letter also says the women's jobs were in jeopardy if they came forward about Schwahn's abuse. 

Wauchope's courage encouraged the women to write the letter. "Many of us since have stayed silent publicly but had very open channels of communication in our friend group and in our industry, because we want Tree Hill to remain the place 'where everything’s better and everything’s safe' for our fans; some of whom have said that the show quite literally saved their lives. But the reality is, no space is safe when it has an underlying and infectious cancer. We have worked at taking our power back, making the conventions our own, and relishing in the good memories. But there is more work to be done." The women ended the letter by saying they were there to support Wauchope and they are "all in this together."

After the letter came out, showing the true distress Schwahn has caused the women of OTH, male cast and crew members have been nothing but supportive. Among the cast members speaking out are Chad Michael Murray, James Lafferty and Austin Nichols. 

"The women of OTH have always been strong and incredible," Murray told Entertainment Weekly. "Today they’ve made us all even more proud by standing as a beacon of what is right, and continuing to lead & change the atmosphere of society. This affects all avenues of life, from our day to day activities in passing to each and every single work place. Respect and love must lead the way. A new frontier has arrived & it’s an honor to see all women stand up to the opposition that has caused so much pain. Equal rights & equal treatment isn’t an option, it is mandatory. Equality, safety and respect for all is the goal. I stand with all the those who have suffered & pray that this evil will meet its demise in the strength of this movement. OTH Women- I’m so dang proud of you." 

Along with Murray, other men have taken to Twitter to show their love for the women of OTH.

I'm saddened by the pain and suffering Schwahn caused so many women, but I'm glad they aren't staying silent. It's nice to see their former male cast and crew mates supporting them, too. I hope the strength of these women—and all women who've spoken out about similar situations—will be enough to make lasting change.

Mindy & Danny Had the Most Realistic Yet Romantic Ending on 'The Mindy Project'

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Warning: The below contains spoilers about The Mindy Project series finale.

Romantic comedies are a staple of life—just like oxygen and (good) food. While the romantic comedy genre has become less prevalent in film in recent years, one TV show has carried the mantle proudly.

When The Mindy Project began, Mindy Lahiri was a hopeless romantic who, from that moment forward, was involved in a long series of dating snafus. She dated every hot B-list guest star the show could get, she tried her hand at a long-term relationship with the father of her kid, and she even got married (and divorced).

Mindy’s love life, while rom-com worthy, wasn’t always realistic—especially when it came to her relationship with Danny. They had that push-and-pull thing we all dream about. They weren’t a perfect match personality-wise, but that’s what made them perfect for each other. They argued, Danny swept Mindy off her feet at the Empire State Building, they argued, they got engaged, they argued, they had a kid together, they argued…and then they broke up. And it was messy AF.

Danny wanted Mindy to be a stay-at-home mom to their son, but Mindy was determined to not only return to but also grow her career by starting her own business. This obstacle seemed insurmountable, and for the time being, it was. Mindy moved on, with Danny gradually fading out of the picture.

So when the show started hinting at a reconciliation in Season 6 (laying the groundwork by having Danny finally accept Mindy as a working mom), I was skeptical they could get there in an organic and believable way. The series finale proved me wrong.

Mindy raced from Morgan’s wedding to tell Danny how she felt about him—that she’d never stopped loving him and never would—but when she arrived, Danny totally misread the situation. The romance was suddenly sucked out of the room and replaced with so much awkward. After his ma and brother filled him in on Mindy’s intentions, Danny ran to find Mindy, but the time for big romantic gestures was over. The rom-com moment had passed.

Instead, Mindy and Danny had a short but sweet talk about their feelings for each other and made out a little. They instantly disagreed on the life they’d lead, but they decided to table their ever-present issues to watch TV. It didn’t feel like the ending of a movie; it felt more like the beginning of Mindy and Danny’s very real life together.

I’ve always loved that Mindy was a romantic, but after all she’s been through with and without Danny, it makes sense that her love story would end like this. She’s over sweeping romantic declarations and visions of a perfect happily ever after. She’s more interested in living a life in love that’s grounded in reality. For Mindy—and me—that’s progress.

5 Ways to Overcome a Rough Patch in Your Relationship

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A relationship isn’t all butterflies and rainbows. No matter how hard you may try to keep the peace, you and your partner are bound to clash at some point. Trust issues, miscommunication or lack of communication, jealousy, and insecurity are just a few issues which can take a toll on a relationship. Sometimes it’s easy to work through the problems you have, but other times these issues can take a major toll on your relationship. If you and your partner are willing to work together, not all hope is lost. You can still work toward bringing your relationship back to a place of happiness between you and your SO. If you commit to following these five tips, you can move past a rough patch in your relationship. 

1. Communicate

One of the biggest mistakes you can commit is not talking things through to avoid an argument. Your emotions cannot be swept under the rug. You need to verbalize what you feel in an attempt to fix what is broken. If you choose to ignore the problems you are facing, the built-up frustration could result in an even bigger argument, resentment, dissatisfaction, lack of trust or ultimately, a loss of interest in maintaining the relationship.

Lauren*, a junior at James Madison University, personally knows how big of a key communication is. “My boyfriend and I just went through/are still kind of going through a rough patch,” she says. “It's really important to talk things out and let each other know what's bothering you.”

Remember to stay calm, cool and collected when discussing emotional subjects. It's easy to let your emotions get the best of you, but don't make an already sticky situation more complex. Even if things are rocky between you two, still try to maintain the basic conversations you have every day, such as what they are doing and how their day has been.

2. Take a timeout 

While communication is key, it's also important to know that when you're not on the same page as your SO, constant communication can be a difficult task. So while you should talk through things to a certain extent, don't constantly dwell on the subject. Leave time for both of you guys to do your own thing and focus on your own goals.

Chrissy Sanchez, a sophomore at Georgia State University, stresses that this is not the same thing as a break. 

"When my boyfriend and I went through a period of constant arguing, I would just call for a few minutes in the morning and at night to check in on him," she says. "Other than that, I left him alone to do reflecting, and focus on important things like schoolwork, gym, and finances." 

Depending on your current level of communication, you and your SO can decide on how much time you should leave each other to work on yourself. Don't let it be an overwhelming amount of time though. The longer you spend apart, the sooner one or both of you could become comfortable in living without the other. 

3. Find common ground

If it’s an issue where you are both affected, you need to reach an agreement. That agreement should be a compromise. You both need to be happy, even if that means you have to apologize or give in to their requests a little. Go into the conversation stating what your opinion of the situation is, but remind your SO that you want to understand their thought process and hear them out as well.

Nicole Diaz, a sophomore at Chattahoochee Technical College, won’t leave an argument unsettled without reaching an agreement with her SO.

“Finding some sort of common ground where we both entirely agree or come close to agreeing is the most important part,” she says. “If we can’t fix the problem at that exact moment, my boyfriend and I will promise to work towards fixing whatever it was. Once we find that common ground, we try to move on and not stay stuck on the argument.”

Sometimes reaching that common ground may mean that you don’t always get what you want. Instead, think of it as reaching the solution that is most beneficial to the relationship.

4. Remember why you're with your SO

It’s easy to let the negativity cloud your mind. However, if you’re looking for hope and are having trouble finding it, think back to your best moments with your SO — how you met, the first date, the first time saying “I love you” and the best memories you’ve created together.

Shelly Adams, a junior at Shenandoah University, believes that positivity is one of the major components of getting your relationship back on the right track.

“When things are going really great in your relationship, you don't even think about how it could be bad,” she says. “But when they're bad, sometimes it's hard to remember when it was great! The point is that you need to be able to know that you still want to be with the other person at the end of the day. As long as you do, then just let the issue pass and you'll be back to normal in no time.”

You need to ask yourself if the entire span of memories and future between you two is worth giving up over the conflict. In some cases, if the issue is that serious and pressing, those memories can be worth giving up. However, more often than not, your relationship is worth fighting for.

5. Keep the spark alive 

Sometimes, all you need is a break from the drama. If you and your SO have decided that you both still want to be together, plan an extra special date for you to go on.

Patricia Maynor, a junior at Kennesaw State University, recommends finding a way to get away from all the drama and busyness of everyday life with your SO. 

“After several days of fighting with my SO, I was ready to give up,” she says. “However, I felt like getting away on a mini vacation was the final test to see if we should stick things out. One weekend, we took a trip to the beach. That alone time helped me discover the reasons why were love each other. We have been great ever since.”

Even if you're busy and can't plan anything too big, still try to plan something memorable that will span at least an entire day. Seeing the spark reignited will help you focus on the love in your relationship rather than the momentary negativity between you and your SO.

It’s important to realize the difference between a toxic relationship and a rough patch. Constant disrespect, infidelity or abuse shouldn’t be brushed off as a “rough patch.” These actions cannot be moved past in some cases, but there are plenty of cases where the disagreements between you two can be worked out with patience. Don’t expect everything to be perfect overnight, but sticking to these rules should help get your relationship back on the right track.

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