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What it’s Like to Go Back to School, as Told by 'The O.C.'&'Pretty Little Liars'

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When finals were killing you last spring, you couldn’t wait for summer break.

You were so pumped to spend three whole months doing this:

But after a few weeks, being at home or interning starts to get a little

You almost forget what it was like to be at college.

But then it’s August, and you get to move back in soon!

You get psyched about hanging out with your college friends again...

...and eating at your fave restaurants near campus.

You get all excited to buy new back-to-school clothes (in case anyone forgot how fabulous you were over summer break)…

…and you also can’t wait to show off how you FINALLY lost the freshman 15 (and got a tan!) this summer.

But then you realize exactly how much money you have to spend on textbooks…

…which you may or may not actually end up using this semester.

And then you realize how much money you have to spend on school supplies and stuff for your dorm…

And you’re just like:

You tell yourself you’re going to start packing early… right?

But then all of a sudden it’s the night before move-in day, and you realize how much stuff you have to pack…

And you’re just like:

On move-in day, finding a parking spot is like:

On the bright side, according to the pictures on the housing website, you scored a seriously awesome dorm room this year.

But when you walk in for the first time, you realize it’s a little smaller than you anticipated…

…and you’re more than a little worried about fitting all your stuff (and your roommate’s) in there.

You get ready to do some heavy lifting, like,

But after carrying a few boxes, you just feel like,

Finally, you finish moving in!

Your parents get all sad to leave you, like,

But you’re just like,

After your parents leave, you finally get to reunite with your friends!

…and last semester’s hook-up.

And that girl who drove you nuts last year…

It’s Welcome Week – time to party!

Then classes start, but trying to get back into learning again is just like:

But then you remember you’re just reading the syllabus in each class all week, so it’s still chill.

…until you get your first round of papers, projects, and exams.

Oh yeah, we have to do work here…

But hey, being back at college still pretty much rocks.


How She Got There: Candace Moose, Co-Founder at Myocarditis Foundation

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Name: Candace Moose
Age: 64
Job Title and Description: Co-Founder at Myocarditis Foundation
College Name/Major: Bachelor of Science in Liberal Arts from Cedar Crest College, Bachelor of Science in Nursing from Cornell University/New York Hospital School of Nursing, Masters of Education from College of New Jersey
Website: www.myocarditisfoundation.org

In your own words, what is the Myocarditis Foundation?

Candace Moose: It has a three-fold mission with a single goal. We strive to raise money for research, educate the public, and support patients diagnosed and families who lost loved ones to the disease. Our singular goal is to save lives from this disease. We don’t have a handle on how many cases of this disease there are in the U.S. per year, but it is believed that anywhere from five to 20 percent of sudden deaths in young adults are caused by myocarditis.

We are the only organization worldwide that’s singularly devoted to ending myocarditis. There are other organizations that address a variety of rare diseases, but our foundation uses resources specifically for myocarditis.

What inspired you to get involved?

CM: After retiring from 29 years of nursing, I wanted to devote the rest of my life to AIDS in Africa. I thought my professional experience prepared me and I wanted to be part of some sort of global initiative to decrease the impact of AIDS on the very poor population of Africa. I signed up to go on a trip to Malawi in 2001, requiring two immunizations from the CDC. After receiving this, my heart started acting up and within a week, I had coded three times. I was diagnosed with viral myocarditis and had a defibrillator inserted.

Just a day later, I went into cardiogenic shock. The chances that I’d make it through the night were slim, but I did—now I needed a heart transplant. I was transferred to Columbia the next day, where I met Dr. Deng and an expert on myocarditis, Dr. Leslie Cooper from the Mayo Clinic.

It was because of them and the heart transplant I received from a 17-year-old boy that I survived. I wanted to give back, so I collaborated with Dr. Deng and Dr. Cooper to form the Myocarditis Foundation to help other patients.

What was the process of writing your book like?

CM: Writing the book was cathartic. There were gaps in my awareness of what had happened to me, so I requested my medical records to help me understand the chronology of events and the physicians’ impressions of how I was doing. I also wanted to know what my family was doing and thinking as my illness progressed. So I kept asking them to fill in the gaps. What started as an exercise to record what had happened to me, ended up being a lengthy document. It turned into a book when I dropped off the manuscript to an editor who promised to read it and get back to me in several weeks. She called early the next morning to say that she had been up all night reading the manuscript and she thought it was wonderful. I had never considered myself a writer, but I knew I had a powerful story to tell.

What’s been the most surreal moment for you and why?

CM: At the time of the transplant, your physicians are allowed to tell you the sex, age and geographic region of the country your donor came from. I did not want to know because I could not handle the suffering the donor’s family was going through in addition to all the suffering my family and I had experienced. Two years into my recovery, I asked my doctor to share the information about my donor. In my heart, I knew it was a teenaged boy. I was right.

What words of wisdom do you find most valuable?

CM: Listen to your intuition and take care of your body. 

 

Fill out my online form.

8 Hiring Deal Breakers That'll Lose You The Job

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It can be very difficult to know how best to impress a manager during the hiring process. One of the most effective ways to tackle this stressful aspect of the real world is to know what NOT to do.

Whether you're new to the working world or you're a seasoned professional, there are several mistakes that you want to avoid so as not to appear unprofessional or unqualified before, during or after an interview.

Even if you’re a stellar candidate on paper, you can suddenly find yourself in the “no” pile by making a basic mistake during the hiring process. Here are some of the most common deal breakers for employers and how to avoid them.

1. You didn’t do your research on the company

While you might be able to sell yourself to an interviewer with ease, you also want to show why you’re a great fit for that specific company. The best way to answer “Why our company?” is by doing some research before the interview to prove that you know a lot about them.

If you don't do your research, the hiring manager might conclude that 1) you’re really not interested in this position, 2) you’re interested in their industry but it doesn’t matter to you which company you work for, or 3) you’re desperate for employment and didn’t take the time to make sure whether this company is really the right fit.

Annie Lee, who works as Human Resources and Office Manager for Seedling USA, Inc., pinpoints this as her biggest deal breaker. She says, “A lot of times, a candidate will be great on paper and have a great interview, but can’t tell me what their favorite product is or understand our company’s mission. They don’t have to have purchased the product before, but they should have a basic knowledge of the company, product and mission.”

Blair Brandt, the CEO of Next Step Realty, also sees this as a major deal breaker when hiring for his company, noticing that talented younger candidates too often don’t do their homework and ask more questions than they answer.

To avoid this, he says, “Look at every page of their [company’s] website. Read their four to five most recent media press releases to understand updated news. Scroll through their social media, because you’ll see what they’ve been up to. Interview people involved in the business, like a former client or employee.”

It's important to do your homework and show your potential employer that you know what it takes to succeed in that company. Make sure to really examine the product, whether it's tangible or intangible. If you're interviewing at an internet company, go through all of the websites they manage and read them. If you're interviewing at a magazine publisher, buy a copy of their latest issue and read through it. 

Related: 7 Surprising Things That Turn Employers Off

2. Lack of enthusiasm for the role or company

Though it helps to know a lot of facts about the company, if you can’t express your enthusiasm for working there, then the hiring manager will question why you’re there in the first place.

Brandt completely agrees with this notion. “You can’t come into an interview and be like, ‘I have this other [company] I’m kind of interested in…’” he says. “If you’re not enthusiastic about our mission statement, it’s a waste of time.”

In expressing your enthusiasm, it’s also important to make sure that you’re projecting those feelings onto your interviewer so that they feel equally excited about you. Brandt says, “People want to be flattered… Make people feel important and desirable, and that they’re doing something cool with their day. The fact that [candidates] are so enthusiastic makes their day. You can’t do that without research.”

Brandt adds that you should think outside of the box during your interview. In addition to doing research, make sure you come prepared with not just questions, but suggestions based on what you find in your research, in order to show your interest in the job. “You want to add value. Don’t just survive the interview—prosper in the interview. Don’t just do the bare requirements—go above and beyond.”

Once you feel confident about what the company stands for on a base level and the details of the position, make sure that your confidence translates in the interview. One easy trick that people tend to forget is to be expressive with your non-verbal communication. Don't fold your arms and close yourself off, but rather, be open and warm. Don't forget to smile as well! Some additional tips include practicing your interview with friends or family members, sending a detailed thank-you note following the interview and highlighting a specific story about the company that struck a chord with you.

3. Your outfit is unprofessional

Now is not the time to take fashion risks. You want your interviewer to be impressed with your resume, not your outfit! 

A hiring manager’s first impression of a candidate is their appearance as soon as they walk through the door. A poor outfit choice can instantly sour the vibe of the interview, even before it starts.

A good rule of thumb is to, when in doubt, err on the more conservative and dressy side with your outfit. A black tailored suit never goes out of style! At the same time, in doing research on a company, you should consider the industry and look at how employees there dress on a regular basis. If you’re interviewing at a very casual tech start-up and you’re wearing a full suit, you will look completely out of place.

To avoid this, take the general attire of the office and dress it up a couple notches to appear the most professional when meeting with the hiring manager. Some of the best ways to find out about a company's dress code are to look on their website for team pictures, look up pictures of the company on social media and gloss over job review sites like Glassdoor.

Related: How to Nail Business Casual Beyond the Skirt Suit

4. You have a questionable online presence

Those pictures from spring break in Cabo could come back to haunt you, even AFTER college! Since practically everyone has some type of online presence, the majority of HR professionals and hiring managers are undoubtedly Googling you. Even if you interview well in person, a single inappropriate picture on Instagram could instantly change a "yes" to a "no."

Before you even start your job hunt, it's a good idea to take some time to clean up your social media profiles. A helpful tip is to do the "Grandma Test." Ask yourself, "Would I be OK with my grandma seeing this picture?" If the answer is "no," you might want to consider deleting it.

Saniya Waghray, a Walt Disney Studios Associate, says, "Googling a name is so easy, and if the first thing that comes up is a not-so-flattering picture that you forgot to make private on Facebook, you can bet that, even if you land the job, it'll impact the relationship you have with your boss moving forward."

Keep in mind that even if all of your accounts are in private mode, that doesn't mean that employers can't dig up information on you. Once you release information online, it stays there. Not to mention, people can share your information, thus making it public.

At the same time, you shouldn't privatize every one of your online profiles. In some cases, it's just as much a red flag to find unprofessional photos of you online as it is for a hiring manager to try Googling you and finding themselves in a digital ghost town. It might seem like you're trying to hide something. Especially if you're applying for a job that requires being digitally savvy, you want your online presence to reflect your personal brand. Some pieces of yourself should be easy to find, such as a LinkedIn profile, personal website or online portfolio. 

5. Typos, typos, typos

A single typo on your resume can stand out more than all of your shining internships and accomplishments. Even if you get past the first HR person, you may find yourself in the final round of interviews and your hiring manager suddenly finds a typo after, or worse, DURING the interview. Don't let this happen!

It’s important to be mindful of spelling in any industry, but especially in the editorial world. Kristen Harris, the Editor-in-Chief of Promolta Blog, experienced this frustration when hiring candidates for remote internships and analyzing their resumes and writing samples.

She says, “When hiring my interns, who write weekly posts for the blog, my biggest deal breaker was poor spelling or grammar, especially on a resume. Not only does it show me that you don’t care enough to double-check your resume, and therefore your own work, but it also shows that you aren’t really interested in an internship where your main goal is to write.”

Make sure to have several pairs of eyes examine both your resume and cover letter before they are submitted. In addition to misspellings, make sure that things like your verb tenses and dates are all correct and make sense. These days, your LinkedIn profile is almost as important as your physical resume, so make sure that your profile—and any online presence—is free of typos, too.

6. Not bringing any copies of your resume

This is one of the cardinal sins of Interviewing 101. Even though your hiring manager likely has your resume on their computer and may print out a copy to bring to your interview, it’s never a guarantee. Or perhaps it’s been a couple weeks since they last looked over your resume, or maybe they haven’t seen it at all.

When you don't come with copies of your resume, your interviewer will get the impression that you’re not prepared, or worse, that you’re not serious enough about the role you applied for.

Jackie Gata, who works for the Atlar Air Training Center, recalls seeing this mistake in person, and says, “One particular interview I was a part of, the [candidate] didn’t bring any copies of his resume. The HR woman had to leave during the middle of the interview to go and print copies on her own, during a very busy day, so she only ended up being in the interview for about five minutes. We even discussed it after he left, and he was not hired.” This mistake is a big turn-off and wastes time for the interviewer, both literally and figuratively.

A piece of advice is to bring not only one, but several copies of your resume with you in a folio. This will come in handy because 1) you’ll have a copy for yourself to act as notes to fall back on, and 2) even if you’re only anticipating speaking with one person, they may bring in a couple colleagues to speak with you as well, so this way you’ll have enough resumes to go around. You’re better safe than sorry, after all!

Depending on the company, an interview may not be the only piece of paper necessary to bring. It's sometimes important to also share a portfolio and work samples, especially for more creative roles like design and photography.

Related: 9 Interview Mistakes & How to Recover From Them

7. Being late to the interview

It's safe to say that every employer considers this one of their top deal breakers in the hiring process. Even if you have a legitimate excuse for being late, it's nearly impossible to dig yourself out of the hole that is a negative first impression. If you're late to the interview, why shouldn't the hiring manager believe that you won't be punctual when you start the job?

If you're driving to the interview location, make sure to use Google Maps or a GPS to figure out the distance beforehand and give yourself sufficient extra time to get there in case of an extreme traffic jam or poor weather conditions. If you arrive too early, you can wait in your car and study your resume or wait in a nearby coffee shop. You don't want to enter the building too early and annoy the gatekeeper, and ultimately your interviewer, so a general rule of thumb is to arrive no more than five to ten minutes early—and certainly not late at all.

8. Your resume is too good to be true

We all want our resumes to reflect the best possibe versions of ourselves, but at what point can you take it too far?

It's never a good idea to exaggerate or downright lie on a resume, because you can easily be caught. It may be tempting to add a month onto an internship, make a job title sound better than it really is or raise your sales numbers, but you're better off being as truthful as possible. Plus, your hiring manager may ask for references, and one benefit for them in doing so is to verify your work history. You don't want your title or description of a job to be drastically different than what your prior manager claims.

If you feel the need to make several tweaks to your resume in order to beef it up, then perhaps that's a sign that you should take the steps necessary to increase its value before applying for a job that may be a stretch, such as more schooling or an additional internship right out of college.

Interviews aren’t easy for anyone, and you certainly don’t want to become paranoid and worry that every part of you is being scrutinized. At the same time, by avoiding these common deal breakers, you will be more prepared and ready to land the job you want, so that you can let your skills shine.

Michelle Money Talks JoJo, 'Bachelor in Paradise'& Empowering Women

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Since appearing on Brad Womack's season of The Bachelor, Michelle Money has become a franchise darling, popping up on Bachelor Pad and Bachelor in Paradise. “Fan favorite” doesn't even begin to describe Michelle's top-notch standing with Bachelor Nation. These days, Michelle is not only keeping up with Bachelorette JoJo's journey to find love, but she's also launching an initiative to promote self-love and confidence in women.

We asked you to send in questions for Michelle via social media, and you sure delivered. See what Michelle had to say about JoJo's guys, the upcoming season of Bachelor in Paradise, empowering women and much more.

What was the best lesson you learned from participating in the Bachelor franchise?

Michelle Money: The best lesson I learned from my time on The Bachelor is that every single person has an important story. We have all been through hard things, and we are all doing the best we can. Understanding this reminds me that we don’t have any place to judge anyone and that we are all in need of support and love from those around us.

Of the three Bachelor franchise shows you were on, which was your favorite and why?

MM: Bachelor in Paradise was my favorite because it was such an easygoing atmosphere. I had become friends with a lot of the cast before filming, so that really helped to make for a much more enjoyable experience!

Robby's week four "I love you" to JoJo seemed way soon and fake. How soon is too soon to say "I love you"?

MM: I think that love can be very confusing while you are filming The Bachelor or Bachelorette. Because they do such a great job of helping everyone fall in love, it can be deceiving while you are caught up in it all. That doesn’t mean the emotions weren't real at the time, though. Love is such a personal emotion, so I don’t think there is one “right time” to say “I love you.”

Of the guys on this season of The Bachelorette, who do you have a crush on?

MM: I don’t really have a crush on any of the guys this season. I am excited to see who JoJo picks, though!

Who are you most excited to see on Bachelor in Paradise?

MM: I am most excited to see Carly Waddell, Sarah Herron, and Lace Morris! I think this is going to be a really fun season to watch.

If you could change one thing about your Bachelor experience, what would it be and why?

MM: I would not change one single thing! I have learned so much, and it truly has changed my life for the better. I am so grateful for every single opportunity those experiences provided for me to learn more about myself.

What are you up to these days?

MM: I am finishing up the summer with Brielle and getting her ready for junior high school, which is so crazy! I am co-hosting Good Things Utah every Monday through Friday, and spending time with my Money Talks girls, too.

Tell us about the work you're doing to empower women and promote self-love and confidence.

MM: I am launching a monthly subscription program called “Money Talks,” where women all over the world will come together to talk about beauty, confidence, relationships, reality TV, fitness, health and much, much more! My dream is that this would be a tribe of women who unapologetically love and support one another. Within this private group, I will stream live video each day, sharing anything from makeup tips to my thoughts on the latest episode of The Bachelor. Not only will there be live interaction with me each day, but also opportunities for regional meet-ups, retreats, events, exclusive discounts and more—all with some of the most amazing women you’ll ever meet! I’ll be releasing more information about this soon, so if you’re interested, be sure to follow me on social media for the announcement!

What are some of your "can't live without" beauty products?

MM: A few of my “can’t live without” products are:

Will we be seeing you on any other reality shows—Bachelor-affiliated or otherwise?

MM: I was on the most recent season of Marriage Boot Camp, and the last few episodes of that show are airing this month!

13 Must-Have School Supplies You’ll Need This Semester

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Sponsored by Office Depot and OfficeMax.

With summer fading out and the prospect of school becoming all too real, it’s time to reevaluate your current school supply situation and get ready for a new semester. But just because you’re taking super demanding courses like organic chemistry or managerial accounting doesn’t mean that you have to carry around blah products to help you get through them. Instead, use this guide to find the cutest school supplies that you NEED to have this semester to conquer the books and the looks.

1. Divoga® Mediterranean Mosaic Spiral Notebook

When you pull this notebook out of your bag, you’ll actually be excited to take notes.

2. TUL® BP3 Ballpoint

These stylish pens keep you looking professional and prepared for any class.

3. EMTEC Wallpaper USB 2.0 Flash Drive 8.0 GB

From your American lit essay to your accounting spreadsheet, this chic USB is perfect for keeping all of your important files in order.

4. Papermate® Inkjoy® Gel Pens

Writing notes in different colors makes for a more fun study sesh. Use these pens to make studying more enjoyable!

5. See Jane Work® Paperboard Pencil Cup, Blue Herringbone

Match this with item #7, and you’ll actually want to be at your desk.

6. JLab JBuds Metal Earbuds

Make long walks to class or library sessions enjoyable with these cute earbuds.

7. See Jane Work® Stapler, Aqua Blue

The See Jane Work stapler will keep you organized without throwing off your desk décor.

8. Office Depot Brand Push Pins in Test Tube Container, Assorted Colors

Test tubes aren’t just for chem lab anymore! This cute push pin container is functional and super stylish!

9. Sharpie® Neon Permanent Markers, Fine Point

Brighten things up with these neon permanent markers.

10. See Jane Work® Writing Desk

This sleek desk takes any study sesh from drab to fab. Plus, it’s the perfect complement to all of your school supplies.

11. Divoga® Tropical Punch Composition Book, College Ruled

Add some brightness to your backpack with these composition books.

12. Divoga® Whimsical Wonder Collection Casebound Binder, 1"

This geometric binder will keep you calm, cool and collected, even when you have three tests and two papers due in the same week.

13. Dell™ Inspiron 13 5000 Series 2-in-1 Laptop

This 2-in-1 laptop is our back-to-school must have this fall. Incredibly high-tech, it’ll be your new best friend for four years and beyond.

With these school supplies in hand you’ll be ready to ace your semester, and be sure to check out Office Depot® and OfficeMax® retail stores or online atofficedepot.com/collegefor even more fab school necessities!

8 Popsicles Guaranteed to Keep You Cool

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As the summer heats up, there is no better way to cool off than with a refreshing popsicle. Store-bought popsicles are filled with sugars and artificial flavoring; these recipes are easy to make and don't contain any artificial ingredients. Go ahead—cool down!

1. Blueberry Salted Caramel

Blueberry and caramel? Yes, please! These two flavors are so different, but they work well together.

2. Bourbon Tea Lemonade with Peaches 

Refreshing frozen lemonade is the perfect way to cool off. The peach slices add a little extra sweetness, which is perfect after a long, hot day. 

3. Passion Tea Lemonade

Calling all Starbucks addicts. Yes, your favorite summer drink is now in popsicle form, and the recipe is super easy. Starbucks is now closer than ever—just check the freezer!

4. Pop Rocks

Who says you can't be a kid again? These popsicles will bring back a few childhood memories. They are sure to leave your taste buds tingling, too. 

5. Avocado

Avocados provide great health benefits with every serving. (And who isn't obsessed with avocados?) These popsicles are creamy and packed with fiber. 

6. PB&J

You might be tempted to substitute this popsicle for lunch this summer. 

7. Strawberry Orange

This recipe brings together a blend of sweet summery fruits. The almond breeze is an added touch that makes for a rich, creamy popsicle. 

8. Chocolate Cheesecake

Nothing is worse than melted chocolate. These popsicles give you that chocolate taste you are looking for without all the melted mess. Plus, the cheesecake element takes it to a whole other level.

5 Freshman Year Mistakes & How to Avoid Them

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Oh, freshman year. It's the most exciting time of your life! You can wipe away your high school past with a new group of friends and completely recreate yourself. You can stay out as late as you want and eat as many desserts as you want without parents nagging. And no one is around to tell you not to leave that 10-page paper to the last possible minute, so you can procrastinate as much as you want. The world is your oyster, and every decision is exclusively yours to make!

But beware, collegiettes – this newfound freedom can lead to some mistakes. With so much independence, you’re bound to make a misstep somewhere along the line. But Her Campus has your back! We asked collegiettes to share their freshman year regrets to help you learn from their mistakes.

1. Losing the balance between your college life and your home life.

One of the most common problems collegiettes have during their freshman year is trying to balance all the new relationships in their life. With new friends at college, old friends back home, families trying to check in and an overload of schoolwork piling up on your desk, it’s hard to give everything and everyone the attention they need. Remember that even with all the excitement on campus, Mom and Dad need some time with you, too.

“I think my biggest mistake… was not keeping in contact with my parents and home friends as much,” says Anna, a senior at Marist College. “It's so easy to get carried away at school, especially with your new friends, difficult classes and weekend activities. Mom and Dad need a little reassurance that you're alive [and] well and still love them.”

Luckily, there’s an easy fix here. Set aside time once a week to give the parental units a quick phone call. There’s no need for a lengthy Skype chat; just give them the chance to hear about what's going on at school. Your going away to college is an adjustment for them too, and they’ll be excited to share in your new accomplishments at school. Collegiette or not, you’ll always be their little girl.

2. Prioritizing your social life over your schoolwork.

In college, the pressure to do well in class and make friends outside the classroom can lead to time management mistakes. Do you stay home and study, or do you head out to the frat party with the girls down the hall from you?

“When you first get to school and you want to make friends and you want to go out, you have to keep in mind that you do have schoolwork,” says Meghan, a senior at Iona College. “I wanted to go out and not miss anything. But your friends will always be there, and you need to learn to balance school and your social life.”

You can avoid feeling panicked during a test that you didn’t study for because you were too busy having fun by allotting yourself certain nights to go out a week. Plan out what nights you can hit the town and which you need to stay in to study by checking your syllabus ahead of time for assignments and tests. Tell your friends you would love to spend time with them, but you really need to write a paper that night. And you can always grab a couple of people from your classes and head over to the library for a study session – coffee and gossip breaks are bound to lead to friendship!

3. Studying the same way you did in high school.

In high school, you may have found that the slightest bit of effort was enough to keep your GPA sky-high. But college is an entirely different animal. Simply skimming through your notes won’t be enough to get you a passing grade on a college test. Participation is often a part of your grade in a college course, so daydreaming won’t fly as well as it did when you struggled through high school senioritis.

It’s inevitable that you’ll have one class that you’ll struggle with. But know that in college, it’s up to you to push through it and do well. You have the ability to make elaborate outlines for tests and papers, set aside specific library study times for yourself and reach out to classmates for help and group study sessions – so do it! Don’t sit around gloomily and dwell on bad grades when you could be working to fix them.

4. Attempting to do it all.

Wake up. Go to the gym. Shower. Run to class. Library time. Group project meeting. Class. Quick snack. Dance rehearsal. Test cramming session. Go out? One of the great struggles of freshman year is dealing with managing a schedule that used to be monitored by your parents. No one is around to tell you if you might have put too much on your plate, and this can lead to taking on way more than you can handle.

“I think my biggest regret was not knowing my limits,” says Nicole, a senior at Marist College. “Everyone says college is the perfect time to try new things, which I would not argue with; however, you can't burn the candle at both ends. I tried too hard to be an amazing student who was super involved while going out every weekend or more. My advice would be to take freshman year with an open mind, but remember to take care of yourself first.”

There’s no rush to join every single club and go to every single event on campus. Slowly see what you’re interested in and see if you can handle the demands of what you want to do. Eventually, you’ll learn what you can and can’t handle and how much you can take on.

5. Partying too hard.

A huge part of freshman year is attending the many parties that college life has to offer. They’re bigger, better and filled with way more cute guys than your average high school party. But many freshman collegiettes struggle with knowing their own limits and partaking in dangerous binge drinking. College women are 50 percent more likely than men to exceed both the daily and weekly drink limits recommended by the National Institutes of Alcoholic Abuse and Alcoholism (scary!). This can lead to embarrassing nights that you can’t remember, regrettable hook-ups and even more dangerous situations, like alcohol poisoning.

“One of my hardest adjustments as a college student was learning limits and boundaries when it came to partying and drinking,” says Melissa, a senior at the University of Delaware. “My first night at the University of Delaware was definitely a ‘learning experience.’ It was my first time to a frat party with tons of new people and free alcohol everywhere I turned. As the night went on, I found myself throwing common sense out the window and doing some things I definitely regretted the next morning.”

As scary as some mistakes can be, they can always be learned from. “I realized it is so dangerous to get out of control and unaware of my surroundings, especially because it was my first night as a freshman and I didn’t know who my true friends were yet,” Melissa says. “I learned from my drunken antics to become more responsible and not depend on anyone to be there for you if you need help in a dangerous situation. It is so important to have responsible fun while still focusing on what you are [at college] for – a degree.”

Know that it’s always okay to have a girls’ night in with some pizza, nail polish and movies if going out isn’t your thing. But if you’re heading out on the weekends, always bring a friend and stick together throughout the night. Going out should be about meeting new people and creating amazing memories, not risking your health or your life by not knowing your limits. Take it slow and set boundaries for yourself before the night even begins. If you tell yourself in advance, “I’ll only have two drinks,” or “I won’t hook up with anyone,” you’re more likely to keep your own promise to yourself than throwing caution to the wind and having an “anything goes” attitude. Always eat a full dinner if you know you’ll be consuming alcohol (skip the salad in favor of carb-heavy pasta), and alternate alcoholic drinks with water throughout the night. You’ll thank yourself when you wake up in the morning hangover- and regret-free.

Take the advice of these collegiettes with you during your freshman year of college. Life is about making mistakes and learning from them, but you’ll be ahead of the game by heeding the wisdom of collegiettes who’ve been through it before. Have fun, good luck and be smart!

Before Iskra Lawrence Learned to Love Her Body, She'd Exercise Until She Passed Out

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If there's one person who comes to mind when we think of body positivity, it's Iskra Lawrence, the beautifully curvy model who's always insisted that her photos don't get retouched. She's all about ~good vibes~, self love and being healthy—whatever healthy looks like for you. It took her a while to reach this point, though. 

 

this raw screen grab (so no retouching or photoshop) from my shoot yesterday @adoreme means so much to me. Thank goodness I've gotten to the place where I don't compare myself to others. From when I started modelling at 13 to around 19 (when I was only about a UK 10 or US 6/8) I would have crumbled inside standing next to these two beautiful women and would have been way too insecure to share a pic like this. Because I hated that my body couldn't be slim. I was told like most of you (from magazines to TV and films) that to be a successful model or women (get the guy, have money, an enviable lifestyle) you had to be slim. And it took me many years to come to terms with the fact I won't have skinny legs or a thigh gap and that's ok. Because this is my body and my beauty is not defined by my size. I am classed in the fashion industry as plus-size. I could not give a flying F what I'm labelled but I would prefer not to be. The visibility I have (at only a UK14/US12) has many of you questioning well if she's plus-size what am I I would prefer that no one was labelled. I don't believe anyone should be categorised by their size; colour, gender, sexuality or religion. Isn't that the beauty of humanity that no two people are the same and that therefore makes us special For real this pic has me buzzing I'm so damn proud to be able to model without worrying about diets or trying to be perfect because I'm happy and healthy and that's what's important. I want to be the model I needed to see growing up in the media showing me it's ok to be imperfect and have flaws and be different that's actually what's so beautiful about you. Thank you to all the brands who work towards inclusivity and those celebrating diversity and of course all 2.3 million of you - I wouldn't be here without your support ILY #iskralawrence #everyBODYisbeautiful H&M @donnafumoso @hairandmakeupbyjosephine models @bregjeheinen @simonevillasboas AD @corinneaa @mosadek @morganhw Photog @udophotography styling @ariannalevin

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Recently, she posed nude for Women's Health UK's annual naked issue and spoke about her issues with body image growing up. "Before accepting mine, when I was 18, I spent four miserable years desperately trying to make my body into what I thought was 'perfect,'" she said. "I'd begun modeling at 13, but my tall, skinny size 8 frame [size 4 in the U.S.] started developing curves. I cut my daily calories to just 800 and was exercising until I passed out."

Those curves, she said, didn't go unnoticed by others in the industry. Once, Iskra recalled, a stylist even asked, "Why is this fat model here?" 

Now, Iskra still thinks it's ridiculous that she's considered a "plus-size" model. "I think the term is so backwards," she says of the phrase plus-size. "It has negative connotations but applies to 60 percent of women."

Though it took the model time, Iskra is now confident in her own body. "I finally came to the realization that I was beautiful as I was; I didn't need to change, attitudes did," she said. Amen to that.


Britney Spears Says She's Never Met Taylor Swift, But There's Photo Evidence

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Ouch. Britney Spears just pulled the modern-day version of Mariah Carey's "I don't know her."

When asked in an interview with Kyle & Jackie O, Britney was asked to choose between Team Katy and Team Tay. "I don't know. I don't know, that's hard," she said when the radio hosts asked her who she'd rather sit next to on a 24-hour flight. Well, turns out it wasn't such a hard decision after all. "They're both so cool … I've briefly met Katy Perry at the Smurfs movie premiere. Maybe because I've met Katy Perry I would say Taylor Swift, because I've never met her before," she said.

Apparently, she'd forgotten this moment from 2003:

And this photo, which was taken in 2008:

It's okay, Brit—we've actively erased much of the early 2000s from our memories, too.

Here's Who JoJo Should Pick on 'The Bachelorette,' According to Her Exes

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As we gear up for the biggest night of the year—The Bachelorette finale, of course—the guys JoJo Fletcher sent home have been weighing in on who they think she should choose. Luke Pell and Chase McNary, who most recently got the boot, are in agreement.

Chase, who told E! News he likes them both "a lot as individuals," when it comes down to it, he thinks Jordan is the better fit. 

"Both are great guys," Luke said, going into more detail. "I think JoJo was excited about Jordan before anybody stepped out of the limo. There was a lot of hype coming in for him being on the show... she gave him the first impression rose and just looked at him with a lot higher expectations from the beginning than she did a lot of the other guys. That's probably the best fit for her, that made her happy then and I think that'll make her happy going forward as well."

It goes without saying that the show's villain, Chad Johnson, had his own thoughts on the matter. He made it clear during the taping of The Men Tell All that he's no fan of JoJo's finalists. As for what he thinks JoJo needs to do? "I think she's just going to have to restart," he said. "Bring it back, call everybody back, we'll restart this whole thing!" 

Sounds like somebody wants more air time.

Trump Faces Massive Backlash For Comments About Parents of Fallen Soldier

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Ever since their appearance at the Democratic National Convention, Khizr and Ghazala Khan have emerged as one of the most powerful antidotes to Donald Trump, continually speaking out against the ignorant and hateful anti-muslim rhetoric Trump has spewed since the beginning of his bid for the presidency.

The Khans appeared at the convention in Philadelphia on Thursday to speak of their son, Captain Humayun Khan, who was killed by a suicide bomber in Iraq in 2004. 

During the speech, Khan produced a copy of the Constitution from his suit pocket and condemned Trump’s proposal to temporarily ban Muslims from entering the United States as unconstitutional. 

In an interview with ABC News, Trump said, “If you look at his wife, she was standing there. She had nothing to say… maybe she wasn’t allowed to have anything to say.” But he definitely underestimated just whom he was dealing with.

Ghazala Khan fired back in an op-ed in The Washington Post Sunday, in which she condemned Trump’s ignorance of Muslims. ”Donald Trump has children who he loves," she wrote. "Does he really need to wonder why I did not speak?"

Mr. Trump’s comments about the Khans have put pressure on Republican leaders to decide whether they will continue to stand by him as the party’s presidential nominee. 

Sen. John McCain, who has had his own run-ins with Trump regarding his military record, said, “It is time for Donald Trump to set the example for our country and the future of the Republican Party.”

Even House Speaker Paul Ryan, who has been criticized for not taking a stronger stance on Trump, has weighed in. "As I have said on numerous occasions, a religious test for entering our country is not reflective of these fundamental values. I reject it," he said. "Many Muslim Americans have served valiantly in our military, and made the ultimate sacrifice. Captain Khan was one such brave example. His sacrifice—and that of Khizr and Ghazala Khan—should always be honored. Period."

Sort of attempting to make peace, Trump issued a statement Saturday in which he called Capt. Khan a “hero” and said the root of the issue is “radical Islamic terrorists who killed him," but still didn't apologize. He claimed in a Tweet that he had been "viciously attacked" by Khan in his DNC speech and deserved the chance to respond.

Trump’s running mate, Gov. Mike Pence of Indiana, attempted to clear the air by issuing a statement on Sunday. In the statement, Pence called Capt. Khan “an American hero” and stood by the Trump campaign’s immigration plan that would prevent immigrants from entering the U.S. if they came from countries “that have been compromised by terrorism.”

Even if Trump did make a real apology, the Khans probably wouldn't accept it. “He is a black soul, and is totally unfit for the leadership of this country,” Khan told CNN.

8 Weird Reasons You Might Be Breaking Out

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Breakouts are often an unavoidable consequence of busy lives, sensitive skin or genetic misfortune. However, even those who have mastered their skin care routine with top-of-the-line cleansers and exfoliating rituals can struggle with breakouts. The truth is, there are a lot of reasons why you may be seeing more acne on your face. The key to mastering your skin is to learn the triggers for those red, inflamed bumps, so you know how to stop them in their tracks. So here are 10 common reasons for breakouts; with a little planning, you’ll be able to keep your skin clear through sweat, sweltering heat and sleep deprivation. 

1. You’re using dirty makeup tools

It may seem like a no-brainer to use clean, sanitary tools anywhere near your face, but most of us probably have brushes, sponges and applicators that haven’t been cleaned in weeks… or months... or longer. In fact, a 2015 survey from Anisa International reported that 39 percent of women cleaned their brushes less than once a month and 22 percent didn’t clean them at all. That’s a lot of gunk that ends up clogging your pores and causing breakouts.

The solution? Invest in a brush cleaner to gently wipe down your tools every few uses, and take the time to do a deep cleaning as often as you can. Gentle soap (such as baby soap) and warm water is the best way to keep your brushes clean and soft.

2. You’re not getting enough sleep

They don’t call it beauty sleep for nothing. A good night’s rest is essential for so many aspects of your health. When you don’t get a good night’s sleep, your stress levels are likely to be higher, resulting in the production of Cortisol, a hormone that can aggravate skin conditions. In addition, your skin needs to rest and replenish overnight, replacing dead skin cells with new healthy ones and draining inflamed blood vessels that can cause puffiness in the morning.

The solution? Rather than tossing and turning all night, be proactive about how you can improve your quality of sleep. If you have trouble dozing off, try some gentle exercise or yoga or treat yourself to a calming bath with aromatic oils like chamomile and sandalwood. Bonus: Propping up your pillow for a little extra elevation can also help prevent dark, under eye circles.

3. You’re not cleansing properly after a workout

No, you shouldn’t stop working out because you’re afraid of a few pimples. However, a sweat sesh can mean your pores are soaking up added grime and oil that can lead to acne. This can be especially common on areas of the body other than the face, where tight clothing traps the sweat and oil in.

The solution? Wear loose-fitting clothing without synthetic materials to avoid irritation and promote air flow. After your workout, wash your face thoroughly with a cleanser that contains salicylic acid (try PanOxyl). This ingredient helps you achieve a deep clean for clear pores.

4. Your sheets are dirty

Jordana Mattioli, medical esthetician and beauty expert at CompleteSkinMD in New York, recommends changing your pillowcase at least once a week. “Hair products, natural oils on the hair and scalp, even your skincare products can all cause buildup on your pillowcase,” she says.

The solution? Keep your sheets fresh! “If you use a lot of hair products, I would change every two days, and flip it over to the fresh side on the second day,” says Mattioli. “Or try a head scarf!” This could also be a good opportunity to get in the habit of sleeping on your back, which will prevent your skin from rubbing against oily sheets.

5. Your boyfriend has a beard

Before you go telling bae that he needs to ditch the facial hair, know the real source of your skin sensitivities and what you can do to ease the pain. “Stubbly hair rubbing onto the skin can cause irritation,” says Mattioli. “The longer the facial hair, the less irritating it will be for their partner.” She also notes that beard oils can cause breakouts and itchiness.

The solution? Mattioli suggests a cold compress on the skin, gentle cleansing products and OTC cortisone cream if you feel your skin getting irritated. Of course, if the irritation is really bad, be honest with your guy and discuss the option of a clean shave.

6. You need to change your diet

You’ve heard it many times before, but when it comes to skin health, you are what you eat. A diet high in sugar and fat can lead to excess oil production and, therefore, breakouts. If you find that you break out or your skin feels itchy after eating certain foods, you may also be experiencing an allergic reaction.

The solution? Observe how your skin reacts to your diet, and if you notice a certain pattern in your breakouts, consult an allergist to nail down the problem. If you’re finding that you’re consuming an abnormal amount of processed foods, sugar or unhealthy fats, stop to consider where the behavior is coming from. Are you feeling stressed, sad or overwhelmed? If you still can’t nail down the problem, keep a food diary to share with a doctor or dermatologist who can further dissect your diet.

7. You’re using the wrong laundry detergent

When shopping for laundry detergent, it’s important to look for one that’s both effective and mostly natural. “So many detergents contain fragrances and chemicals that linger in clothes and can irritate the skin,” says Mattioli. “Fabric softeners and dryer sheets actually leave a coating on pillowcases.” People with sensitive skin can have especially bad reactions to laundry soaps, resulting in dry, red or extremely itchy skin. 

The solution? Look for a detergent that is approved for sensitive skin. Mattioli also suggests finding a detergent that is fragrance-free or has been certified by a dermatologist. Health.com rounded up a list of sensitive skin-approved detergents that are easy to find at your local grocery, drugstore or online retailer.

8. Your hair products are irritating your skin

Your hair products have an impact on more than just your lovely locks, and when hair touches the top and sides of your face, all those chemicals can irritate skin. “Most hair products, if they touch the face enough, will leave a film and harbor bacteria,” says Mattioli.

The solution? Make sure you’re cleansing regularly! “Wash your face every night and wash your face after conditioning your hair so none of it is left around the hairline,” says Mattioli. This is another instance where a head scarf could come in handy. It will keep oily hair off your clean face, and won’t damage your hair or scalp.

Breakouts are frustrating and uncomfortable, but as much as you wish your teenage skin would grow up already, the struggles of sensitive skin can last your whole life. Fortunately, there are ways to ease the pain, and it all begins with identifying the irritant. Once you know your skin, you’ll be able to get rid of those little annoyances in a cinch. 

15 Memes that are So "You as a Girlfriend" It Hurts

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For all the girlfriends out there, we know we can be what some like to call "crazy" at times. We like to call it being a normal college girlfriend! Here are some memes that are us to a T.

1. When you want people to see how cute you and bae are...

2. Who do you think you're talking to?

3. Horoscopes never lie.

4. I can't unsee what i just saw.

5. Cuddle me?

6. It was just getting good.

7. Let's hear it.

8. Love me?

9. No shame.

10. Don't make me explain again.

11. They can't have you.

12. Talk to me about women's rights.

13. Sorry.

14. We're done.

15. When your ex wants you back...

15 Things You Should Thank Your Best Friend For

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Throughout the years, we often hear the saying: Friends come and go. Unfortunately, that comes true with a lot of our fleeting buddies, but, as we get older, we sometimes find out how much of a good thing that can be. We find out which of our many “friends” are true friends that we know will always stand with us and make us better people, as we will do for them, and simultaneously, we learn which friends never really fit the true definition of a friend and we can thank them for going. But here is a list of the top fifteen things we can thank actual friends for which earn them the title of “BFF”.

1. Telling you the truth

2. For having the confidence and courage to say and do things we wouldn't 

3. Listening to your venting

4…. And not judging you

5. Always providing you with the best advice

6. Knowing when to give you a girl’s night out

7. Reminding you when Game of Thrones comes on

 

8. Showing you your beauty

9. Letting you cry on their shoulder

10. For always remembering the golden rule: Sharing is Caring!

11. For all your similarities…

12. …and your differences!

13. Pulling an all-nighter with you

14. Knowing food is a #1 necessity when hanging out

15. For standing by your side

No matter what.

 

Romance is Going Extinct & We Have 'The Bachelorette' to Blame

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The Bachelorette reality show franchise has quickly become the guilty pleasure of just about everyone in America. Watch parties have been scheduled and brackets predicting the couple-to-be have been created. People really seem to get a kick out of watching one person date 25 different people until they can narrow down the herd and find their “true love.” 

Even though a lot of people watch the shows just to laugh at and mock the dramatized and unrealistic nature of it all, many still find themselves left with an impractical idea about relationships and romance after exposing themselves to these shows.

Viewers watch romance blossom and chemistry intensify on screen, as couples go on lavishly expensive and exclusive dates all across the globe. Suddenly their own date night at the Olive Garden, followed by a late viewing of the latest rom-com, seems wildly inferior. This flood of discontent and rise of expectations is leading to a strong demise in successful relationships in the real world. 

The Unrealistic Expectations

The fact of the matter is, shows like this, although entertaining, can be truly toxic to real life relationships. Carole Lieberman, M.D., a Beverly Hills psychiatrist and author, states that “The shows not only create unrealistic expectations of how over the top a date should be, but they also encourage lying to your partners in order to keep them interested in you, while you are really interested in someone else.” It can be difficult to watch JoJo and Robby go cliff diving in Argentina and still be content with a nothing more than “Netflix & Chill.”

The theory that couples are breaking up due to the feeling that their partners are not romantic enough has actually been backed by recent research. Jasbina Ahluwalia,a matchmaker and dating coach, and the founder of Intersections Match by Jasbina, says, “Research does reveal that couples are actually breaking up due to one partner deeming his partner not romantic enough, as measured against the romance created by shows.” 

The Reality of Reality TV

The problem that arises from the popularity of these shows revolves around the fact that people forget what it really is — a TV show. Even though many people tell themselves that they watch the show purely for entertainment purposes, whether they mean to or not, they become mystified by the idea of the picturesque, fairytale romance that they watch unfold. 

An appreciation and interest in a TV romance is seemingly harmless and we have all been guilty at one point or another for growing a small obsession for an on-screen couple. Unfortunately, The Bachelor franchise has changed the idea of what happily ever after and modern day romance rightfully entail. “Watching The Bachelorette made me think that when I am in my 20s, I will have tons of guys fawning all over me — this is what I was prepared for but it definitely isn’t what happened.” says Kelley Andrews*, a sophomore at Florida State University.

We grew up thinking  that monogamy was the only way to pursue a relationship and that every person we date will look at us like we are the only girl in the room. These shows go strictly against this traditional type of romance that people used to strive for. Even supposing that change is inevitable and often times very beneficial, the structure of the show doesn’t even typically work for those on it, so why should the rest of society follow suit?

Related: 17 Signs Your Obsession With 'The Bachelorette' Is Out of Control

The Downfall of Monogamy

It is clear that the idea of monogamy is not exactly idolized on the show. Although going on a few first or seconds dates with multiple people is rather common, pursing a serious relationship with more than one person at a time is not as widely accepted — especially when throwing around the “L” word and promises of marriage. “It is kind of like glorified cheating,” says Emily Hartranft, a sophomore at Florida State University.

When people watch the show and their #relationshipgoals turn into pursuing serious relationships with multiple people, the idea of committed relationships start to dwindle throughout our society. “Watching the show kind of makes me think that it is a good idea to pursue multiple serious relationships — that way, if one doesn’t work out, there is always another one,” says Karen Marsh*, a sophomore at the University of Florida. Having multiple serious partners can work for some people, but the show distorts this concept. On The Bachelor, for instance, the man is dating multiple women throughout the duration of the show, however, the women he is dating are not allowed to be romantically involved with any other people. The same goes for the woman and men on The Bachelorette.

The Distortion of Reality

Besides the obvious double standard that this format presents, it also becomes a problem because it creates a false reality that normal people strive to achieve. In real life, when dating multiple people, there is nothing stopping your partners from also pursuing relationships with other people at the same time that they are pursuing you. The heartbreak and complications that go along with this are not featured in the shows, so people often assume that dating multiple people will leave them with a number of devoted suitors who dedicate all of their time and emotions to them when this is most likely not the reality.

The distortion of relationships does not stop there. These shows are also notorious for making relationships appear to be much easier than they are in real life. The couples on these shows spend very little alone time together and the time they are together is typically spent in front of a camera. The public sees the passionate kisses and cozy fireplace snuggles, but doesn’t see anything that real couples normally go through. “Relationships take a lot of time and effort and I don't think shows likeThe Bachelor can accurately reflect that effort because of the lack of real world, everyday situations,” says Madison Sokol,  a sophomore at the University of Florida. 

It is wild to think that after a total of 12 dates, a number of which are group dates, a couple is expected to get married and spend their lives together. The type of love that is needed for a life-long partnership can’t be determined in that short of a time period. Seeing two people “fall in love” and begin a life together after just a few short weeks makes normal people expect a sped up timeline in their own relationships. This can lead to only disappointment and stress when real life relationships take much more time to cultivate.

The Unavoidable Complications

Furthermore, the idea of having all of the people who the star is dating residing in the same house throughout the show creates an unavoidable presence of competition. This is great for entertainment purposes, but can make it more difficult for the start to find true love, which is what the show was designed to do. “I think that the competition aspect of the show can leave the star wondering if he/she is genuinely desired for who he/she is; or alternatively temporarily desired merely as a competition ‘prize,’” says Ahluwalia. This competitive aspect not only creates another unrealistic expectation for normal people, but takes away from the goal of the show itself.

This intention to produce entertaining television is the most important goal that the producers have. Therefore, when choosing contestants for the show, it is not the compatibility that they search for, but the entertainment value that they can provide. They want contestants who are going to have meltdowns or who are going to be the “heartthrob” that viewers fall in love with; who the star is going to click with the best is not their main concern. Due to this, the relationships become somewhat forced and artificial.

Don’t get me wrong, The Bachelor franchise is one of my favorite things to watch on television, however, it is not the best place to get your ideas about romance. When thinking about your ideal relationship, question the reality of it. Does it make sense to have 25 people dating only you? Are your date expectations a little bit too extreme? Comparing relationships is a bad idea in real life, let alone when television comes into play.

*Name has been changed


4 Reasons Why Marrying Jordan Would Be the Biggest Mistake of JoJo's Life

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When this season of The Bachelorette started, it was pretty clear to us that Jordan and JoJo had an instant connection. At first, Jordan seemed like a good guy. His brother is a star football player, and he seemed to be brought up by a pretty good family. He wanted to save JoJo from Chad, and he repeatedly showed her how much he loved her. But as the season went on, we began to have more and more issues with Jordan. Here are four reasons why deciding to marry Jordan would be the biggest mistake of JoJo's life.

1. JoJo's family didn't really approve

When JoJo introduced Jordan to her parents and siblings, they all made it pretty clear they weren't sure about the relationship. They didn't buy his charming act quite as quickly as JoJo did, and that's a sign JoJo should probably pay a little more attention to. JoJo hasn't made the best decisions about who to trust in the past, and this might be another one of those times.

2. Jordan has some family issues

The Bachelorette has been very focused on Jordan's relationship with his brother. Even Aaron Rodgers has told the press that he doesn't like the way Jordan has talked about private family problems on national television. If Jordan is so fast to bad-mouth his brother, imagine what kinds of things he could be saying about JoJo behind her back.

3. He has a bad reputation

Robby wasn't the only one surrounded by rumors about his past relationships. Jordan was hesitant to talk to JoJo about his ex-girlfriends, and rumors spread throughout tabloid magazines that Jordan's only goal was to become the next Bachelor. Does this mean that he wasn't really looking for love with JoJo? It seems like he's in it more for the fame than for a real relationship, so it wouldn't be suprising if JoJo gets hurt once again.

4. He chickened out when faced with the possibility of marriage

When given the chance to ask JoJo's parents for their permission to propose, Jordan chickened out. He easily could have pulled her parents aside when he met her family, but he never did. JoJo's parents were clearly upset about this, as was JoJo when they broke the news to her. Eventually he did give them a phone call, but that's not nearly as good as having that conversation in person.

11 Times 'The Bachelorette' Finale Was Fake AF

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Let's be real: the only legit thing about the finale of The Bachelorette was Robby's burnt meatloaf dream. From the staged love notes, talks with the parents and then every single word that came from Jordan Rodgers' mouth, this is the definitive list of fake AF moments from tonight's finale. 

1. Jordan's conversation with JoJo's parents: the ~most~ fake AF this show has ever been

It's like he was saying things just to say things. 

2. When JoJo said she was just "confused" after her parents told her how much they loved Robby

Translation: I was going to pick Jordan but now I have to cry about it.

3. When JoJo tried to pretend she loves Robby and Jordan in "very different ways" 

Meaning she really loves Robby not at all. 

4. Jordan trying to justify why he didn't ask JoJo's father for his blessing

He kept giving out random percentages, but really he should have said that he doesn't need her father's blessing because this is the 21st century and misogyny needs to end. 

5. Having perfectly staged love notes placed outside JoJo's door at the ~Marriott~

Brought by the Bachelorette elf himself. 

6. When Jordan's note was a bunch of crap

Mmmhhhmmm, what cheap romance novel did you take that from? You're never going to convince us, boo. 

7. Jordan calling JoJo's parents to ask for their blessing

"Hi, this is Jordan Rodgers. I'm calling you because your daughter guilt-tripped me into loving her."

8. The entire freaking staging of the proposal scene

What poor studio slave had to lug exotic clay pots to frame a giant platform of sand? Or are we supposed to believe this is "natural"? 

9. When they showed Robby getting out of the limo first and tried to play it off like we wouldn't know who wins

Come on, we know how this thing works. Eat, pray, dump Robby. 

10. *Jordan proposing* JoJo: "Is this really happening?"

DID YOU NOT KNOW THIS WAS COMING? ISN'T THIS SINGULAR PROPOSAL THE WHOLE PURPOSE OF YOUR LIFE, JOJO?

11. Jordan's proposal

"I'm so happy," he says. "I love you," he says. Fake AF! 

Well, JoJo has doomed herself to a brief, cringe-worthy relationship with Jordan Rodgers. By now, we can totally see through everyhting he says and just how fake this finale was. In the meantime, brb everyone—gonna go rewatch Tila Tequila: A Shot at Love

What to Do When You See Last Semester's Crush for the First Time

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The beginning of fall semester can be stressful. Everything from making sure your pens from last year still have ink, to picking up your textbooks, moving in to your new room, choosing an outfit worthy of the first day of class and, most importantly, an outfit that shows off how much hotter, tanner and fitter you have gotten over the summer for last semester’s crush. However, an outfit can only do so much.

There he is! And he sees me staring at him…from behind this fence.

Your crush from spring semester may have been a guy you hooked up with a few times but weren’t “hooking up with,” or maybe something a little more serious, or maybe just a love-from-afar kind of crush that you never had the guts to do anything about. 

While you may be tempted to hide behind the nearest building when you first see him on campus, instead try some of these effective and, at times, very strategic flirting tips from my two suave friends, a senior at Cornell and a sophomore at UNC Chapel Hill (let’s call them Jake* and Sam*). 

Scenario 1: You end up next to each other in line at the dining hall.

Do not keep talking to your girl friend and pretend like you have somehow managed not to notice he is standing right next to you; otherwise the next 10 minutes are about to be the most painstakingly awkward moments of your life. Instead, embrace the nervous excitement churning in your stomach and say hello. Have the regular post-summer conversation, like updates on internships and vacations, and at some point casually slip in a compliment.

Jake suggests, “Compliment him on a summer improvement. If he had a really cool summer job tell him, ‘That sounds so interesting,’ or if he explains he went to the beach say, ‘I can tell, you look really tan.’ If you can’t think of anything creative, just genuinely smile and tell him ‘You look good!’ Then he will walk away from the conversation thinking about you, thinking about him looking good. It will definitely turn him on and get him thinking about your chemistry last spring.”  

Scenario 2: You walk into your classroom and discover him sitting in the third row.

As endless weeks of steamy study sessions and excuses to meet up before and after class start flashing before your eyes, compose yourself and focus on finding a strategic seat.

Try to avoid running or tackling girls for the perfect seat, it might look weird.

If it’s a big lecture, Jake says you should, “Sit behind him a few rows back and a little to the side, so you can catch him checking you out. On the first day of class, guys love to sit and watch all the girls coming in to the classroom and get excited about all the new hot girls they will have excuses to spend time with.”

Plus, if you sit in front of him, you will most likely feel extremely self-conscious and imagine he is staring at your love handles or that stain on the back of your shirt you thought no one would notice. After class, text him something like: “I noticed we have [blank] class together, this should be a good semester.” It will have him excitedly wondering if you meant “good” because of him, or because of the syllabus.

If it’s a smaller, more intimate class setting like a seminar, Sam says, “You definitely want to be in the same row and within conversation distance. It would be awkward if you sat too far away because you will obviously both acknowledge each other’s presence. Have a friendly conversation and act really excited to have a class together, and shoot him flirtatious smiles throughout the class whenever the professor says something funny or interesting.”

Scenario 3: You wave to each other crossing the quad but it’s too awkward of a distance to have a conversation.

This is the perfect time for a first text. A few minutes after you saw each other, text him: “Too bad I missed you. We should catch up soon.” You don’t need to be overly flirtatious here, and you may be tempted to add a smiley emoticon for an obvious clue that you still like him.

However, Jake has pretty strong feelings about emoticons: “Emoticons are boner killers.” This might not be the same for all guys, but a smile is insinuated without a colon and a parenthesis. Hopefully he will text you back, and if so, follow the tips explained in Scenario 4.

Scenario 4: He texts you out of the blue.

Don’t freak out, but this may be the single most important thing to ever happen to you. Just kidding – sort of. The fact that he texted you without any stimulant on your end shows that he has been thinking about seeing you and is excited you are both back on campus. Ask a question back to maintain the conversation, and after a couple of texts stop being so vague about your summer and start being specific, telling jokes and flirting.

Sam explains, “Don’t talk about academics or your internship, talk about fun, unusual and adventurous things you did over the summer that will make him interested and have the conversation continue for a long time.” Hopefully it will end in one of you suggesting meeting up over the weekend or for a meal.

Remember to breathe.

Scenario 5: You run into him at a wild first-weekend-back party.

This scenario will require some constraint on your end. In your drunken haze you will think to yourself, “Darn it, what were those tips in that great article on Her Campus?” – or something along those lines. Here is the key point to remember:

DO NOT hook up (no making out, nothing) the first night you run into each other coincidentally. You don’t want him to think of you as the surefire hook up for a weekend. However, both Jake and Sam agree that you also do not want him to think, “Oh my god, why didn’t she want to hook up with me? Is she over me?” 

Instead, the ever-strategic Jake suggests you create a false time constraint. “Casually work into conversation that you promised your friend you have to stop by this other party. If he wants to come with you he will follow you there, or you should text him later and invite him: ‘Hey this party is really fun you should come.’ That way, he will think ‘She didn’t hook up with me because she had to go somewhere’ rather than ‘she wanted to run away from me because she doesn’t like me anymore.’” If he ends up coming to the party, then it’s clear he still likes you and the serious flirting can start. Then, it’s up to you if you want to hook up.

(Note: Don’t freak out if he doesn’t fall into your trap and come to the other party; it’s possible his friends convinced him to go elsewhere, or countless other events of an unpredictable night at college.)

Scenario 6: You look up from your laptop in the library and realize he is doing homework at a desk right near you.

Now, there are two choices: you either wait for him to notice you and come up to you, or you make the move. If you are lucky, you will catch him staring at you and give a little wave or a smile and nod.

If you want to make the move, Jake tactfully explains, “You want to walk past him as an excuse for conversation, but you can only do what your surroundings present you with for a destination: a friend, the printer, the bathroom, the water fountain. Walk towards the pretend destination and act surprised and happy to run into him, and have a quick and friendly conversation.” Remember, he might be caught up with homework and will probably only be receptive to a short yet flirtatious hello.

What book was I pretending to get again?

Scenario 7: You are with a group of girl friends and run into him with his group of guy friends at the go-to Sunday breakfast place. 

We saved the trickiest situation for last. When we were talking to Jake and Sam, they both admitted to being stumped for the perfect way to handle it. Jake admits he “hates the showdown of the crews,” because groups of friends get in the way and make this first encounter more awkward than it should be. It’s good to note that guys are just as uncomfortable in this situation as girls are; friends can be intimidating and might throw you off your game.

Amidst the rounds of polite hugs and overly-excited “Heys!” between groups, make sure you hug him a little tighter, and flash him a brighter smile, and have a slightly longer greeting than you do with all his friends so he realizes you are more excited to see him. Later shoot him a text about the encounter: “It was great to see you at [blank], maybe next time we can run into each other on purpose,” or any joke that implies you should have more coincidental run-ins in the future.

 

Keep these flirty tips in mind for the first week of fall semester, and hopefully you will feel well prepared and resist the urge to hide when you suddenly cross paths. Love is a battlefield, and sometimes it requires a little strategy to nudge it in the right direction.

*Names changed to prevent girls on campus from finding out how suave these two eligible bachelors are.

5 Reasons Why JoJo Deserves a 'Bachelorette' Do-Over

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Unless you live under a literal rock (like a really big AF rock), you should know that JoJo gave out her final rose this evening to the notorious Jordan Rogers, who we totally knew was going to win, for the record. While there were some moments during this season when we thought that JoJo was going to find her forever love, we can't help but feel like she got stuck with a bunch of duds. Here are five reasons why JoJo deserves a do-over. 

1. She got stuck with Chad

Literally, the second Chad walked in she should have called it quits, right then and there. He brought so much drama and pain that there's no way she could focus on finding love with him there. He was rude, violent and just awful, and the fact that he was even a contender for her heart is disgusting. 

2. All of the guys looked the same

It kind of seems as though she got five different versions of the same exact guy. Most of them had ex-girlfriend issues, and all of them had the same floppy hair. She couldn't possibly find a good man when they all cared more about their hair than they did about her! 

3. There were too many horses

While we don't actually know what JoJo's thoughts are on horses being in LITERALLY every episode, they were just too much. It seemed like she went on the same date with every single guy. Where is the fun in that? 

4. Evan was there

Real talk: why was he there? And how did he stick around so long? We seriously thought this was a competition to win someone's heart, and she deserves more than what Evan brought to the table. His drama took up so much of her time that we couldn't help but feel bad for her. 

5. Her final two were terrible

Hmm…hard choice. A man who dumped his girlfriend to go on the show or a failed football player seeking fame and attention? No thanks. Anyone up for round two? 

10 Reasons Why JoJo Should Have Picked Robby

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In no way are we trying to claim that Robby is perfect because there's too much drama surrounding him and his ex for us to say he's totally trustworthy. However, literally any other man would have been a better choice than Jordan Rodgers, whose "love" for JoJo seems to be absent from his words and actions. Robby is attractive, vaguely earnest and his dreams of smelling like burnt food are actually pretty cute. Here are 10 reasons why Robby would have been a better choice:

1. His countless confessions of love for JoJo seemed legitimate

Whenever Jordan was boxed into telling JoJo how he felt about her, it sounded forced, like he made up his feelings on the spot.

2. His family is the cutest, and he has a great relationship with his mom

There's no Aaron Rodgers drama here! 

3. The allegations surrounding Robby's lies aren't as bad as Jordan's

Robby has been accused of breaking up with his girlfriend to come on the show, but Jordan seems to be a lifelong, notorious womanizer. 

Related: 4 Reasons Why Marrying Jordan Would Be the Biggest Mistake of JoJo's Life

4. His sense of fashion contains the mandatory 37 pieces of flair

Pink tie, leather shoes, blue pants, snappy blazer, white linen shirt and side part that's dramatic AF. 

5. He has an actual job as a sales rep and professional model

He's not mysteriously "in between" careers like ~some~ people.  

6. That one time he made out with JoJo on a pool table

IT'S CALLED CHEMISTRY PEOPLE!

7. Robby is a real-life Ken doll

Maybe this is aggressively vapid, but Robby is hot. 

8. He gave a really sweet speech to JoJo's parents when he asked for their blessing

Sending Mr. Fletcher into a fit of tears over how much Robby loved his daughter.  

Related: 11 Times 'The Bachelorette' Finale Was Fake AF

9. Literally every single person in JoJo's family told her that Robby was a better choice

Umm, was this not enough of a hint that Jordan is actually shady?

10. He's not Jordan 

Amen. 

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