I can’t pinpoint the exact moment I knew, but I realized something was up when I found myself staring at her new selfie way longer than necessary in order to tap the like button. I knew it was only getting worse when she kissed me on the forehead in front of our other friends, and I prayed no one could tell how much I was blushing from it. She would lay down with her head in my lap, and I thought my heart would pound out of my chest. We would wander through our college town holding hands, and I felt nothing but butterflies in my stomach.

I fell in love with my best friend.

It was the summer before my sophomore year of college, and up until then, I was trying to convince myself I was straight. Although, as embarrassing as it is to admit, I’ve never had a boyfriend. I was never the girl who was good at flirting- and maybe I was being lame, but I always thought the guy who I’d have a great connection with would just casually show up in my life one day.

So for the first time in my life when I felt something more than attraction towards someone, it was scary. Especially since the person I had feelings for was a girl. A straight girl – who happens to have been my best friend for the past eight years.

Why did I fall for her? I have no clue.

Granted, I did have a couple crushes on girls growing up, but the fact that I thought I was bisexual had been dormant in the back of my mind since I was 12 years old. She was the first girl to confirm that I could form an emotional bond with a girl in a romantic way, rather than just imagining wild sexual fantasies in my mind, and admiring from afar. That’s what made it complicated.

She was absolutely gorgeous, and her laughter could brighten my entire day. She radiated confidence like no woman I’ve ever met before; she knew who she was and was never afraid to be herself and speak her mind. She was sassy, yet maintained a classy reputation. I could always count on her to be there for me, when the world didn’t understand. She handled her flaws with grace. She was a drama queen. She was perfect in my eyes.

We grew especially close in those few years leading up to my sophomore year of college. She was (still is) the type of best friend that most people dream of. I’d never had such a connection to someone before. I felt like I would die if I ever lost her, she meant so much to me. I started daydreaming about what life would be like if we were dating. How amazing it would be. What it would be like to have her as my girlfriend. How much better and natural it would feel to me if we were actually “together” rather than “just friends.” It was crazy, but I couldn’t help it. I always wanted to be with her. I was jealous of every guy who flirted with her.

The words, “sister’s forever” were scribbled into a card she got me for my 19th birthday. I knew in my heart that all we would ever be was friends. Why couldn’t I just stop thinking about her? I would lie in bed at night and think about how she hugged me tighter today. Did that mean something? She kissed me on the cheek three times today. What does that mean? Was she trying to tell me something?

No, but that didn’t stop my brain from attempting to turn every situation into a metaphor of her possible romantic love for me. Yet, I still lied awake at night, giddy from how she made me feel that day.

We went out one night over spring break, I wanted so badly to tell her how I felt. Or at least touch on the topic of bisexuality. She had a lot of LGBT friends, so what was I afraid of?

“Do you think she’s a lesbian?” my best friend whispered to me, after our waitress took our order.

“I don’t know!” I muttered back.

“Well I think she is,” she declared. “And I thinks she thinks that we’re a couple out on a date. She smiled at us like we all share some sort of inside knowledge.”

I giggled at her statements, and felt my cheeks burn from the thought of someone thinking that we were out on a date.

My best friend sat back in her chair. “I had a dream I was a lesbian once.” She said confidently. I can’t remember how I responded to this, but I do remember nervously attempting to change the subject. I didn’t want her to see how much I would have loved for that to be true.

One of our favorite songs came on the radio as we were leaving the restaurant that night. Since there was hardly anyone there, she grabbed my hand and twirled me around. We danced and giggled. She kept spinning me, and with every step I was falling harder and harder. The waitress looked over at us and smiled. My best friend might have been clueless that I was in love with her, but I knew when the waitress glanced at us, that she could see it in my eyes.

As we ran through the parking lot to her car, it was just beginning to snow. She took my hand and we ran. I don’t think I’ve ever felt more alive than I did in that moment.

After months of debating it, I realized in bed that night that I couldn’t tell her I loved her. Our friendship was too valuable to risk anything. Did I think she would understand? I don’t know. But I know she would have felt terrible knowing that she couldn’t love me the way I loved her. Inevitably, things would have gotten awkward. Yes, it still stings to see her with guys, but the thought of losing her hurts more.

I did end up telling her a couple of months ago that I’m bisexual. She was amazing. Which, growing up in a family who views same-sex relationships as “disgusting” and “unnatural,” I’m thankful for that. Though I still love her, I think I’m okay with moving forward and accepting the fact that best friends is all we will ever be. After realizing that coming out to her has changed nothing about our friendship, and with how supportive she has been – I think it all helped to fade out some of the intense feelings that I did have for her. Maybe someday I may tell her how I felt, but as of right now, I need a best friend more than anything. Besides, who else is willing to listen to me talk about my boy band addictions and my latest girl crushes--and still assure me that I am in fact still normal, and nothing short of amazing.

Olivia Benson is one of the most popular fictional characters to ever hit our TV screens. For over 10 seasons, she has shown women what it's like to go from fantastic partner, friend and companion, to awesome boss and mother. Who wouldn't want to be the kind of woman who chases bad guys by day and looks killer in a cocktail dress by night? Here are all of the reasons why we'd kill to be Detective Olivia Benson. 

1. She knows how to walk into a room

All eyes on her.

2. She knows when her emotions got the best of her

And how many women like admitting that?

3. She handled this guy, as traumatic as this was for us, with dignity

Who could forget that Russian roulet scene? 

4. She could hold her own

5. She knows how to give a pep talk

That's right, Liv!

6. She has a sense of humor, too

*Claps*

7. And isn't afraid to look ridiculous to close a case

(What raves looked like in the early 2000s!)

8. She knows how to get the last word

LOL

9. She's not afraid to be herself

Work it, girl!

10. She always believed in her victims 

No one left behind.

11. How could we not want to be her when this happened...

*Stabler* *swoons*

12. She perfected the hair flip

13. She's an independent woman

...Except maybe Stabler *insert heart emoji*

14. Even if there were no romantic feelings, she had the best friend a woman could ask for

Nothing could compare to the seasons when they were partners. 

15. Her smile is contagious

And beautiful, might we add. 

16. She could rock a dress, even undercover

(If only this was real life!)

17. And a bob cut like nobody's business

"Dear Santa, all we want is to look like Olivia Benson."

18. She understands life, even if this one was hard to follow for her

Remember that time she dated Harry Connick Jr.?

19. She's tough as nails

That face is fierce! 

20. She took her role as boss seriously

And does a great job!

21. And she is also a wonderful mother to baby Noah

Whether she's out fighting crime or putting her son to bed, Olivia Benson is who all women should aspire to be like. She has a fantastic career, a family and even though she may have hit a few bumps in the road, us viewers never doubted her ability to get the job done. While we may have rooted for her with her many love interests throughout the years, Benson proves that you can have it all and be a single mother. She doesn't need a man! (Although a Stabler comeback would be nice, especially with Amaro gone now! *Sobs*)

Watching Disney Channel Original Movies was an important part of our childhood. While we may have grown up watching these movies, some of the lessons they taught us didn’t really fit the high school experience. As it turns out, we can’t rely on Disney Channel movies to teach us what high school is all about. Here are the biggest lies DCOMs told us.

1. Everyone's outfit is always on point

Probably the number one thing we learned from DCOM’s is that everyone in high school dresses like a fashion icon. Not only do the girls in these movies have the coolest style, but they also rock some seriously bold fashions that we’re probably all guilty of trying out ourselves. We all wish we could pull of Lindsay Lohan’s cherry patterned jeans in Get A Clue or look as put together in head to toe pink as Sharpay Evans in High School Musical. While we can dream about looking this cool in the school hallways, in reality most days we’re lucky if we can get out of bed early enough to put on our nicest pair of leggings. 

2. People will constantly break into song

We don’t blame you for thinking everyone will start singing about the status quo during lunch time, especially after watching the High School Musical movies. Movies like these seemed so convincing, but the truth is not everyone likes to sing. Another thing to remember is that not everyone is looking to join an all-girl group like The Cheetah Girls or even start a band in detention like in Lemonade Mouth. We wish high school really was full of singing, but in reality it might get kind of annoying anyway. Unfortunately the only way your high school experience will be full of music is if you take choir. Maybe you should audition for the school musical, but lower your expectations about the top athlete secretly wanting to be your singing partner--it’s not likely. In the meantime, your shower makes for a good alternative.

3. A famous superstar can help you fix all your problems

Sure, it would be amazing for Beyoncé to show up and tell off the group of girls giving you a hard time, but it’s probably not going to happen. Movies like Stuck in the Suburbs and StarStruck probably got your hopes up about running into a famous pop star and getting them to help you solve all life’s problems. Even Zenon got help from Protozoa to help save her space station, but in her defense she did win a contest. Unlike in Disney Channel movies, you are on your own when it comes to facing your high school struggles. Maybe you can’t get personal advice from your favorite star, but your friends can probably give you a second opinion that means a lot more.

4. Playing a sport makes you ultra popular

While playing a sport in high school is a lot of fun, in the real world it doesn’t guarantee a spot at the cool table in the cafeteria. Kyle from The Luck of The Irish may have had a slight advantage, but his basketball skills crowned him king of the school. Unless you’re a pro like the girls from Double Teamed, don’t expect everyone to bow down to you in the hallways. Playing on a sports team is a great way to meet friends and get involved, but it doesn’t mean you’ll be number one on everyone’s radar.

5. Turning a specific age will change your life forever

Turning 16 may mean getting your license, but it doesn’t mean everything you wish for in life will come true. The DCOM 16 Wishes may argue otherwise, but in reality you’re lucky enough if you get a car for your sweet sixteen. While turning 13 is another milestone birthday, don’t have too high of expectations. You made it to the beginning of your “angsty” teenage years, but it’s highly unlikely you will start sprouting gills and a tail like in The Thirteenth Year. It’s exciting to turn another year older, but don’t use Disney Channel movies as a guide to life as a teenager. Throw a party to celebrate with your friends, but don't expect a life-changing epiphany.

6. If you don't fit in, you probably have magical powers

Grandma Aggie from Halloweentown may seem right about being normal, but when it comes down to it that is exactly what a lot of us are. Chances are just because you feel average doesn’t mean one day your long-lost relative will appear and tell you about the magical powers you didn’t know you had. Although it seems cool to be a witch from a secret land like in Twitches, if anything that would make school even harder. If you can't fit in with everyone else, then just embrace who you are, magical powers or not.

7. You are guaranteed to meet your soulmate

While some people may graduate hand-in-hand with their high school sweetheart, realistically a lot of people don’t meet their significant other until later in life. Unfortunately DCOMs like High School Musical and Camp Rock might alter your perceptions of high school relationships. While there are a lot of good guys out there, there aren’t any quite like Troy Bolton. Don’t have too high of expectations about finding your future husband or wife. Even if you don’t have a SO at all in high school, it doesn't mean you won’t find someone just as good as Troy one day.

Even though your favorite Disney Channel movies may have lied, it doesn’t mean they aren’t still amazing. So watch all you want, just remember to do so with caution. High school is a great part of life, but it also comes with its challenges. One truth you can take from these movies is that we really are all in this together!

When you went on your first college tour, you were so pumped to be there.

Then you get to college ready to have the best grades, social life, and dating life ever.

But the campus is enormous.

And you think your dorm is going to be like,

But really, it’s the size of a jail cell.

Not to mention, sometimes you walk into your room and your roommate… isn’t alone.

And you’re just like,

Oh, and the dorm showers are freezing.

And you get to the dining hall and the food is like,

But somehow you manage to gain the Freshman 15 anyways.

At the beginning of the semester, you couldn’t be more excited about your classes!

But then you get one of those professors who’s like,

Or one who is terrifying.

So you try to take notes in class like a good student.

But all of a sudden you get a bunch of papers and exams all at once.

So you prep for your exam like a boss.

…Even when your friends distract you in the library.

And you walk in confident that you’re going to pass.

But you get your grade back and you’re like,

So you go to the professor’s office hours and you’re like,

But your professor is just like,

And then there’s the dating scene in college.  In high school, you couldn’t wait to meet college guys!

You expect college dating to be like,

But really it’s full of frat guys.

You try to flirt with a guy and think you look like this,

When really you look like this,

And there’s always that girl who tries to steal your guy and you’re just like,

There’s that guy who only sends you booty call texts…

…and you respond anyways.

And there’s the guy who doesn’t text you at all and you’re like,

So you find another guy.

And this time he’s a keeper (if you’re lucky).

Frat parties were a mystical thing in high school.  You think they’re going to be all like,

And you walk in the house all dressed up ready to get your flirt on.

But frat parties are really like,

And there’s always that one creepy guy hitting on you

And you’re just like,

And after a little too much Jungle Juice, you walk home like,

And then all of a sudden it’s your senior year, and people start asking you what you’re planning on doing with your liberal arts major.

And you’re just like,

And then you start worrying about finding a job after graduation.

To quote Jane…

And then you actually have to graduate, and you have no idea where the time went.

It turns out, between the tiny dorms, the nasty dining hall food, those crazy classes, the parties, and the dating snafus, you made a lot of great memories in college.

Do we really have to graduate?

Kylie Jenner may be the youngest of the Kardashian Klan, but if there's one thing we know, it's that her signature look is far from immature. And in honor of her transition into adulthood on August 10 (baby Kylie is turning 18!), we're here to showcase this rising style guru's most jaw-dropping Instagram ensembles. Best of all? We've supplied style-savvy suggestions to mimic each outfit, so you can channel the youngest "K" like the pro herself.

1. Vintage-esque

This year's all about the blazer and shorts look, but leave it to Kylie to infuse some retro flare into the outfit. Grab your own co-ord set at ASOS, complete with matching shorts ($44.79) and blazer ($80.62). Just don't forget to slip into some minimal strappy heels à la Kylie ($79, Lord & Taylor).

2. Olive & Hardware

Military-inspired looks are never not chic, and this one may seriously take the cake of best jumpsuit in existence. Snag a similar piece ($130, Banana Republic) and style with equally sassy buckled booties ($140, ALDO).

3. Sweatshirt Chic

Yes, yes, a million times yes. We'd hate Kylie for looking this hot in sweats if it weren't for the fact that we can too! Shimmy into a so-sleek-it's-sultry sweatshirt ($44, Urban Outfitters) and sexy, mini soft shorts ($12.54, ASOS) for that monochrome feel, and make an extra splash with to-die-for metallic trainers ($89.58, ASOS).

4. That's a Wrap

So sleek, so accentuating, so darn incredible. With its eye-catching asymmetry and beyond-classic stripes, we'd wear this literally everyday if we could—oh wait, we can. Simply find a near-exact dress ($61, Revolve Clothing) and match with lace-up heeled sandals ($75.24, ASOS). Ugh, we're swooning.

5. Overall Update

How can someone make overalls look this good? We have a hunch it's the uncommon color selection. Find your own anti-denim option ($128, Madewell) and do not pass up on rocking gold pointed-toe flats ($21.50, ASOS).

6. Oh-So-Flowy, Oh-So-Cozy

Nothing says autumn quite like drapey minis and warm, fashionable knits. As always, Kylie brings the classic look to the next level with a monochrome color scheme and matching boots and tights. Ready to replicate? Grab your dearest black sheer stockings, some darling boot socks, a soft skater skirt ($28.66, ASOS) and a snuggle-worthy sweater ($59, Urban Outfitters). As for boots, stick to bold and black ($139.95, Steve Madden).

7. Tasteful at the Tea Party

This oldie proves Kylie's been a style slayer forever and always. Here is definitive evidence that this gal can switch from sexy to sophisticated whenever she chooses—you go, girl. Grab hold of a textured jacket stat ($139.50, Lord & Taylor), as well as a pair of simplistic shorts ($49, Urban Outfitters) for an equally savvy style.

Now that you're equipped with outstanding outfit inspo and the tools to achieve the same looks (you're welcome), go forth and sport your favorite pick in honor of King Kylie this Monday.

A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away, many people were under the impression that science fiction and comic books were made just for the guys.

Now, the industry is changing due to the hard work and perseverance of female fans and women in the industry who are making strides to do away with such an outdated notion—after all, women enjoy reading comic books, attending conventions, and watching their favorite science fiction flicks just as much as guys do! Women working in the sci-fi and comic book realms are challenging stereotypes every day, and we're here to show you how!

Fashion

Ashley Eckstein

Actress Ashley Eckstein, who collegiettes may recognize as Muffy from That’s So Raven, has been a fan of Star Wars and science fiction since she was a little girl. When she started working on the film and television series Star Wars: The Clone Wars, however, she realized that something was missing: merchandise that she could wear to represent her new role. Eckstein could not find Star Wars merchandise made for female fans, so she bought a Star Wars hat and bedazzled it herself for a feminine flare.

That hat was the beginning of something that has taken the fashion and sci-fi industries by storm: the creation of Her Universe, the first sci-fi-related clothing line to feature items just for women. At first, people were skeptical that women would want to buy Star Wars apparel. Would girls want to wear a shirt with Darth Vader’s sinister figure on it? The answer was a resounding “Yes!”

The company has grown over the years and has even launched a fashion show at San Diego Comic Con, where designers create unique ensembles inspired by pop culture and present them on the runway. The winners of the show are given the chance to go on and design a Her Universe line with Hot Topic! 

Her Universe recently celebrated its 5-year anniversary, and over the years has expanded to include lines from The Walking Dead, Star Trek, Marvel, Studio Ghibli, and Doctor Who. Ashley has taught us that geek has become chic, and Her Universe continues to encourage women to be proud of their passions and their love of sci-fi by even putting the spotlight on a new fan every day.

We’re grateful that through Her Universe, we can let our geek flag fly with pride!

Leadership Positions

Kathleen Kennedy

Kathleen Kennedy, the President of Lucasfilm Ltd. (the company that produced Star Wars) is the perfect example of how persistence and passion is key in any field you're trying to enter.

Kennedy started working at a TV station in San Diego during her time at San Diego State University, where she earned a degree in telecommunications and film. From there, she worked in production on Steven Spielberg's 1941, and went on to produce E.T., Raiders of the Lost Arc and the Jurassic Park series.

After years of producing hits like Schindler’s List, Back to the Future and War Horse, Kennedy became the co-chair of Lucasfilm Ltd. alongside Star Wars creator George Lucas in June of 2012. Soon after, Kennedy was promoted to President.

Now, Kennedy is working on the newest installments of the Star Wars series. She has worked to expand the role of women in the entertainment industry and is a strong proponent of female leads in films. The first Star Wars standalone film, Rogue One, will star Felicity Jones, and Kennedy has said that the new Star Wars trilogy will feature more “really strong women.”

Overall, we’re beyond impressed with her resume and the influence she has in Hollywood!

Comic Books

Gail Simone

Comic book writer Gail Simone is known for penning some of the comic book world’s most fearsome females in Birds of Prey, Batgirl, and Wonder Woman in DC Comics. Simone challenges the stereotype that comics are written (and drawn) just for men by writing more than just female heroes—she writes about interesting women, women who have flaws, and women who experience personal struggles: complex emotions, tests to ace and friendships to maintain. So basically, women who are just like anyone else—except they fight injustice on Friday nights instead of binge-watching Netflix! Of course, we’re sure Batgirl loves New Girl just as much as any other collegiette.

Lena Dunham

Another incredible writer in the field is Lena Dunham! Known for her work in Girls and Scandal (and for being close pals with Taylor Swift), Dunham is new to the comic book world and is writing a mini-series for Archie comics.

“It has so much cultural significance but also so much personal significance,” Dunham said in an interview. “To get to play with these beloved characters is a wild creative opportunity.”

Dunham applying her knowledge to Archie comics is an positive example of how women are pursuing their passions and furthering their creative talents across several different mediums.

Art

Faith Erin Hicks

Faith Erin Hicks is a freelance cartoonist from Canada who has drawn covers for Aw Yeah Comics ​and Avatar: The Last Airbender. She also wrote and sketched The Adventures of Superhero Girl.

Hicks has been working on another comic, The Nameless City, which is scheduled for a 2016 release. Hicks says the style of the comic is based off of some of her favorite stories, including Bones and Avatar: The Last Airbender.

Jo Chen

Jo Chen, a Manga, comic book, and video game artist, started working professionally in the comic book industry when she was only 14!

She has worked on comics like New Avengers and Streetfighter and is well known for her painted comic book covers for series like Dark Horse's Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Marvel's Runaways, and Star Wars: Invasion.

Chen's beautiful artistic style is what makes her work so unique and instantly recognizable. 

The Written Word

Amy Ratcliffe

The saying goes, "the pen is mightier than the sword."

In this case, however, the pen just might be mightier than the lightsaber. Amy Ratcliffe—a self-proclaimed geek who has written for Star Wars Insider, IGN, StarWars.com, and her personal blog Geek With Curves—continues to fight the notion that sci-fi is just for men.

Ratcliffe believes that "writing is mostly more important than sleeping," and has traveled across the country to cover events like Megacon, Star Wars Celebration, and San Diego Comic Con. She has even been on panels to discuss racial stereotyping, geek fashion, and gender issues in comics and sci-fi.

Amy also has a Disney blog called Make Mine Mouse where she writes about new attractions to the parks, DIY projects and more—talk about our cup of tea!

All in all, Amy knows her stuff, and we're proud to have her repping female fans!

Overall, these women are inspiring others hoping to break into the sci-fi and comic industries, and are demonstrating that a little girl power cango a long way. These women have worked extremely hard to combat gender biases and stereotypes (and acquire their dream jobs!) and have successfully proven that female fans are definitely here to stay!

Collegiettes are pros at multitasking. Who else can be found at the gym reading propped-up textbooks while on the elliptical? Who else can masterfully mix studying flash cards with listening to music, or even more impressive, with watching Netflix? And if we're that good at going double-duty, shouldn't our products be too? 

Say hello to a multitude of money-saving masterminds. Sourced straight from the beauty-hacking pages of Pinterest, these products promise to multitask just as well as you do. So next time a dwindling beauty supply puts you in a pinch, fear not—these items will have your back, and something else!

1. Use Lipstick As...

Blush

Run out of blush and want to skip running to the store? Simply select one of your subtle (and non-oily—matte formulas work wonders here) lip shades and swipe it on your cheeks as you would a cream blush. Blend it in and you're all set!

Eyeshadow

If you dare to wear a bold shadow, why not skip the pricey palette and pop on some lipstick? Muted shades and shimmers can add the perfect tint to your lids, while vibrant oranges and reds allow you to finally attempt that chic new under-eye shadow style. Better yet, the dense formulas will stick way better than slippery powders, meaning a neutral shade can even triple as an eyelid primer!

2. Use Eyeshadow As...

Nail Polish

Individual polishes are so freakin' expensive! So why splurge when you've got an entire rainbow resting in your shadow palette? That's right—in one easy step, any hue you crave can be yours. Just snag some of that powder (or combine a few for something even more unique) and mix it up with some clear nail polish. Once the potion is properly blended, paint those nails like a pro. 

Volumizer

For those of us who struggle with thin hair and thinning parts, achieving volume can be near impossible. Fake the look by dabbing on hair-colored shadow—with less scalp visible and a deeper strand shade up top, your locks will instantly appear thicker. We love a good optical illusion!

3. Use Mascara As...

Eyeliner

Realize your liner's empty and have just minutes before you need to book it to class? Grab a thin brush and dab the end onto a coated mascara wand. Then, draw those lines on like you would with a liquid or cream liner. Piece of cake!

4. Use Eyeliner As...

Eyeshadow

This tip speaks for itself—if you're without shadow (or crave a deeper pigment!), just pencil some liner across your lid (experts draw lid-sized hashtags for full coverage) and then blend the lines together for a seamless shadow-like look.

5. Use Lip Balm As...

Brow Wax

Dealing with unruly brows, but aren't down for embarking on another Sephora splurge? Take that lip balm we know you always carry, rub some on your finger, and smooth down that brow line. That's it!

6. Use Lotion As...

Frizz Relief

Hate the texture of hairspray, but are so done with hair frizz? Apply some body or hand lotion as you normally would, and once the globs are gone and you're left with that sticky gel feeling on your fingertips, run them through your hair or smooth an open palm down your strands. The leftover lotion will be just enough to fight frizz without leaving any greasy residue. 

7. Use Setting Powder As...

Dry Shampoo

So you're running late to a huge meeting and don't have time to jump in the shower, but your hair is way too oily to be seen—what's a girl to do? Sprint to that makeup drawer and locate some translucent powder. Sprinkle a bit onto your roots, massage it in, and go on your way. The setting powder will instantly soak up grease and even add some volume!

Lipstick Setter

Setting powder works wonders for our foundation and shadow, but why should you stop there? We all hate a smudged or faded lip, but luckily, there's an easy way to secure that color. Once you've applied your shade, place a thin tissue over your lips. Then, lightly dust translucent powder on top of the portion covering your mouth. But why the tissue, you ask? It'll stop any white residue from dimming down that popping pout!

With so many products out there, we often forget that we don't necessarily need something different for each and every beauty step. In fact, with these must-have multitaskers, you may just find that less is more! Just be sure to click on each image for extended instructions for each trick—happy hacking, collegiettes!

College is so exciting, but as assignments and responsibilities start to pile up, it can also get super stressful. How can you be expected to stay on top of everything AND still have the time of your life? With the right planner, staying on track is actually much easier than you think!

That’s why we teamed up with Blue Sky to give three lucky winners a super cute agenda, created in collaboration with Whitney English. The awesome prizes are a Day Designer Rugby Stripe Weekly/Monthly 8 x 10 Planner, a Day Designer Peyton CYO Weekly/Monthly 5 x 8 Planner and a Day Designer Blue Geo Stapled Monthly 8.5 x 11 Planner.

Enter to win your dream planner now—and have your best year yet!

Blue Sky Giveaway

There exists no greater pain than scrolling through Facebook and Instagram the first fall after graduating from college. Your newsfeed is littered with posts from your younger friends reunited after spending months apart, celebrating homecoming and still getting to enjoy the wonderful place you called home for four years. As easy as it is to feel overwhelmed by nostalgia for your undergrad days, being a graduette isn’t all that bad. Here are six major reasons to be glad you aren’t going back to school this semester.

1. You will never have homework again

The biggest benefit to being done with school forever? “No more exams!” says Alicia Thomas, a 2015 Pennsylvania State University grad. Getting your degree means that you can kiss late night cram sessions and term papers goodbye. This doesn’t mean that you have to stop learning, of course, but you are now free to do it on your own terms without worrying about your GPA. Curling up on the couch with a glass of wine to watch CNN’s The Seventies sounds a lot more appealing than passing out in your U.S. History 101 textbook in the library at 2 a.m., doesn’t it?

2. You have the opportunity to make money

The biggest opportunity you had to make money as a collegiette was a minimum wage work-study job... so chances are you were pretty strapped for cash (most of which probably went to textbooks, anyway). If you are now employed, congrats! You can splurge a little here and there, but more importantly, you can now begin to provide for yourself and save for your future. This gives you a real sense of independence and, occasionally, a really nice pair of shoes.

3. Your free time is actually free

Sunday nights in college were filled with remorse as you kicked yourself for not starting your reading assignment sooner. College students are often kept so busy that downtime can’t always be spent actually relaxing. Lucky for you, graduating now means that your nights and weekends are really yours to do with as you please.

“Fall is my favorite time of year, and there are so many fun activities like apple picking. While we could still do those things while we were in college, there was always the thought of homework lingering over our heads,” says Karina Reddy, a 2014 Boston University graduette. “Now we can do these things without cutting them short or sacrificing a better paper. The end of August and into September is also some of the best parts of summer with warm days and cool nights. In the real world, summer doesn't have to end abruptly when school's back in session. We can milk those last precious weeks of good weather at the end of summer and into fall!”

Essentially, your time outside of work can be spent as you please—guilt free. This allows you the freedom to pursue your own interests and hobbies, whether it's crafting your own apartment décoror reading a book that wasn’t assigned to you by an English professor.

4. You never have to see your college nemeses again

Learning to live apart from your best friends is arguably the hardest transition you’ll make after college, but the flip side to this is that you don’t have to put up with those people you don’t care for anymore. No more pretending to be nice to annoying Jill from Bio out of fear that you’ll be paired as lab partners, no more strategically avoiding your ex in the dining hall, no more grumbling to your friends that your roommate sexiled you again. You’ll keep in touch with the people who matter to you, and everyone else will eventually fade from memory.

5. You can focus on your health

It’s pretty hard to stick to a diet of anything but Chipotle and beer when it's the diet everybody around you follows. Out of the college setting, it’s easier to cut out excessive alcohol consumption and late-night junk food, and instead find healthier alternatives that probably taste better than the usual dining hall grub (an added bonus). Though you no longer have a free campus gym, a lot of companies offer discounts to health clubs and fitness classes that can help keep you active.

6. You have so much more to explore

If you live or work in a big city, chances are your options for entertainment and socialization extend beyond frat parties and “that one bar.” Take advantage of your new surroundings by checking out as many restaurants, museums, bars, theaters, parks, galleries, historical sites and other attractions as you can. Living outside of your college bubble allows you to expand your horizons in ways you couldn’t before. You’ll meet new people and learn a lot about yourself and your own interests, now that you have options.

You might be counting down the days until your college reunion, but graduating really isn’t the end of the world. There are plenty of reasons to be happy you aren’t returning to school and to celebrate your new adult life. Embrace it!

Name: Emily Li Mandri

Age: 27

Job Title and Description:  Founder, Feedshop and MLE Consulting

College Name/Major: Johns Hopkins/Art History (Minor in Business) and NYU Stern/MBA in Digital Marketing, Operations

Website: www.feedshop.it

Instagram Handle: @thefeedshop, @nattypaint, and @goldntriangles

What does your current job entail? Is there such a thing as a typical day?

Emily Li Mandri: I’m an e-commerce and digital marketing consultant. My clients range from fashion and retail brands to architecture and entertainment. My projects range from building websites, strategizing and executing email campaigns, giveaways, analyzing merchandise and sales reports and collaborating with bloggers, influencers, photographers and stylists.

Every day is different, but I tend to work from home or a coffee shop. I also like visiting my clients in their offices or stores to check in with them. I also tend to take a two-hour break in the middle of the day to work out or step outside for errands, and I usually pick up work again after dinner. I’m constantly attached to my laptop and cell phone so it’s really important for me a take a break in the middle of the day to rest my eyes! I also work with a lot of developers overseas so even though I’m not a morning person, I’m up early to check in with them on projects.

What is the best part of your job?

ELM: I really enjoy the flexibility. I don’t have set hours, or a set schedule.  I also work with a lot of new brands that are just starting out, so I get to help them set up everything and watch them grow and succeed.

You’ve done so many cool things in the past couple years (founded a fashion line, launched a consulting firm, and created a popular app, to name a few!). What advice do you have for our readers who are interested in pursuing many different interests or endeavors at once?

​ELM: In order to be able to pursue different interests and endeavors at once, you need to maximize your time and identify who you can work with to make it easier for you to achieve these endeavors. What tasks take up your valuable time that you don’t need to necessarily do?

Along the same lines, what tips do you have for managing your time, especially between so many different projects?

​ELM: Here are some examples of things I do to save time (and therefore allow me to work smarter):

1. I do 90 percent of all my shopping online, may it be for fun or for errands. I love Amazon. I don’t have time to stand in line or search around in a store.
2. I send my laundry out to be done. This saves me at least three hours a week.
3. I work from home. I have the shortest commute!
4. Schedule phone/Skype calls instead of face-to-face meetings when possible to cut down on commuting time.

I also keep a lot of lists and am religious about updating my calendar with meetings and deadlines. I recently started using Asana, which I have found very useful to keep track of all the deadlines and to-dos.

What words of wisdom do you find most valuable?

​ELM: The yoga studio I go to reads a quote at the end of every class. My favorite is this one by Isabella Duncan: “You were once wild here, don’t let them tame you.”

What is one mistake you made along the way and what did you learn from it?

​ELM: Being afraid to ask for help and outsourcing! There have been a few times where I decided it would be easier to just do something myself, but lately I’ve started to realize the value in outsourcing work and collaborating with experts in the field. It saves me a lot of time in the long run so I can focus my efforts elsewhere.

What has been the most surreal moment of your career thus far?

​ELM: There have been a few:

When I was running my clothing line Natty Paint, I met Mickey Drexler of J.Crew at an event and gave him a lookbook. He actually took the time to look through it right in front of me and chat with me with about my company. He was very encouraging.

A few years ago, I was being considered to design a clothing line with Nicki Minaj for Kmart. I had a meeting with Andy Hilfiger and it was really amazing to talk with him about the challenges of running a clothing line and hearing about his experiences.

Another surreal moment was watching La Roux perform at Coachella in custom clothing that I had designed and sewn for them. They looked so badass!

Having the first brand to sign up for my shoppable Instagram app Feedshop was also very surreal. I remember I was on the train going home for Mother’s Day, and this brand I had never heard of had somehow found my app and signed up for it! Following that, finding out Lucky Magazine and Eva Chen started using Feedshop by seeing the URL in their Instagram profiles was also really exciting.

What do you look for when considering hiring someone?

​ELM: [His or her] ability to work independently and [his or her] expertise in the field. [He or she] needs to be a go-getter and outgoing!

What advice would you give to a 20-something with similar aspirations?

​ELM: It’s important to identify your goals and to map out how you plan to achieve those goals. You also need to think strategically about your career moves and not get caught up in the details and day-to-day repetitive tasks. Keep the big picture in mind.

I cannot emphasize enough the importance of collaborative networking! I say collaborative because you’ll get a lot farther meeting with someone and seeing what you can offer them instead of what they can do for you.

For as long as we’ve been going to school, the first-day-of-school outfit has been a Really. Big. Deal. While we may still not spend as many hours in our rooms agonizing over what to wear for the first day as we did in the 8th grade, we still like to look stylish and put-together for the first day of classes—without looking like we’re trying too hard. The effortless-but-amazing back-to-school outfit is totally attainable—check out our ideas for some inspiration!

1. Denim shirtdress

 

MANGO dress
$62 - mango.com
 

 

Abercrombie Fitch vest
abercrombie.com
 

 

H&M platform sandals
$12 - hm.com
 

 

Oasis leather handbag
$73 - oasis-stores.com
 

 

Pieces thin ring
$22 - nelly.com
 

 

When trying to achieve that effortless “Oh, I just threw this on” look, it’s always a good idea to adopt the shirtdress as your new BFF. It’s as pulled together as a collared shirt, but chambray keeps things casual. We’re pretty sure we can’t think of a time when leather and denim won’t look amazing together, and a moto vest adds a rocker edge to this look. Throw a print into the mix with leopard espadrilles, and make a statement by tossing your books into a metallic tote—a fun way to mix things up instead of basic black.

2. Mad for plaid

 

Mango tee
$15 - mango.com
 

 

Plaid skirt
pinkqueen.com
 

 

ASOS leather shoes
$45 - asos.com
 

 

Topshop backpack
topshop.com
 

 

Gypsy Soul silver necklace
shopdandylionboutique.com
 

 

That cliché first day of school plaid skirt? It’s all grown up and chicer than ever—especially with an elegant lace hem. Keep the look casual by pairing it with a grey T-shirt and flat shoes—a pointed mule is totally on-trend right now. To dress up your basic gray tee, add a tough-girl statement necklace up top. A classic black backpack will polish off your look!

3. Booties and boyfriend jeans

 

Boohoo crop top
boohoo.com
 

 

Trench coat
shein.com
 

 

Boyfriend jeans
stylemoi.nu
 

 

Old Navy brown boots
oldnavy.gap.com
 

 

BDG oversized handbag
urbanoutfitters.com
 

 

Distressed boyfriend jeans are the ultimate in trying-but-not-really pieces—and they can easily be dressed up for the first day! Wear them with classic essentials, like a striped tank and tan suede ankle booties. A utilitarian trench is the perfect topper to throw on if the air conditioning is blasting! This grey suede tote looks like a classic handbag, but is big enough to hold all your books for class.

What will you be rocking for the first day back, collegiettes?

With the Internet at our fingertips, basically everyone has some sort of online presence nowadays (including your grandmother, for better or worse). We’re constantly posting parts of our lives on Facebook, Instagram or personal blogs, so why not share our accomplishments too?

Online portfolios are a great way to show off your achievements, regardless of your field. While journalists and photographers are known for having them, musicians, artists and entrepreneurs can also benefit from having stellar online portfolios. Not sure where to start? Luckily for you, we’ll break it down for you and show you how to make one that looks impressive. Here’s why you should make an online portfolio ASAP. 

Organize your accomplishments in one place

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You have a PDF for your writing samples, a personal blog where you post your photography and an Etsy shop for your handmade jewelry. Whenever someone asks to see your work, you’re sending multiple web links and attachments, which can get annoying and confusing. Instead, an online portfolio makes it easier for the people interested in your achievements (and yourself!) by keeping everything in one spot.

We personally loveSquarespace, a website creation service that can take your old blog into something sleek and professional. You can choose from a wide-variety of portfolio templates, so you can show off your work and personality. Plus, getting started is easy because all you have to do is drag and drop web elements onto your webpage—no coding required! But in the rare case you do get stuck, you can always chat with 24-hour support services, and they’ll fix the problem right away. Now you can have all your accomplishment in one place, from slideshows for displaying your artwork to an online store for selling your products. But if you do want to have multiple sites to highlight different accomplishments, it’s only $8 a month for a domain!  That’s basically two caramel iced coffees you were going to buy anyway. Be sure to take advantage of the student discount—that’s 50 percent off your first year of Squarespace. Good deal! 

Stand out to employers 

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You’ve revamped your resume and updated your LinkedIn, but you’re still struggling to stand out to employers. Studies show that recruiters only spend six seconds reviewing your resume. Talk about speed-reading. Since you have such limited time to impress employers, might as well make those six seconds count with a beautiful and professional portfolio. 

The great thing about Squarespace websites is that they look good on any device. So whether a recruiter is absorbed in your writing samples in the office or scrolling through your music samples on his or her phone, your work will impress them. Plus, there’s a portfolio app so you can update your website or share easily on the go whenever you want! It’s perfect for networking events or career fairs when you need to make a first impression fast. Want to go even further above and beyond? Create a personal logo to share on your website. You’ll be getting internship and job offers in no time. 

Network with others in your field

When you have an online portfolio, it’s a chance for employers and people in your network to see your personality as well as your accomplishments. It also allows you to connect with others with similar interests, which is always a good thing!

With a customizable domain name from Squarespace, you can make it really easy for employers and others to find your portfolio with a simple Google search. If you’re easy to find on the Internet, you can reach more people, and you never know who might stumble upon your work. Additionally, you can add social media ‪interfaces to your portfolio, making it super convenient to share your work as well as connect with others. Not only can you use your portfolio to network, it allows others to reach out to you as well. Sounds like a win-win to us! 

Our generation is accustomed to the digital and mobile world, so having an online portfolio is a no-brainer. Plus, they’re super easy to make, look professional and are a great way to show off all your accomplishments! 

With Kardashian blood running through her veins, it’s virtually impossible for Kylie Jenner to NOT be an icon of style and beauty. While we can barely believe this girl is just now turning 18, we have zero doubts about the fact that we totally envy her ability to flawlessly pull off any look (reference blue hair for example). It was hard to narrow it down, but we’ve compiled King Kylie’s best beauty looks. Here’s to 18 years of colorful hair, plump lips and perfect brows for the baby of the Kardashian Klan.

1. Ombré Lob

Jenner began testing the waters with this sweet ombré long bob and pink lips in February 2014.

2. Colorful Bob

 Jenner intensifies her bob, adding a teal shade to shorter locks. She leaves her makeup simple and lets those brows take center stage. 

3. Vampy Lip

At the American Music Awards in 2014, Jenner pulls her colorful locks back to let her lips do the talking. The deep red is complimented by simple eyes framed with those signature Kardashian spidery lashes. Eyebrow arches on point once again.

4. Blue-Eyed Girl

Reminding us that beauty is fun and playful, Jenner debuts an eyecatching new look with bright blue contacts and long lashes.

5. Mermaid Hair

While all of Jenner's hair colors are stunning, this icy shade particularly stuns against her tan skin and rosy lips. 

6. Au Naturale

We love a girl who isn't afraid to experiment with makeup—but who still loves what's underneath! We think no-makeup Kylie looks just as stunning as blue-haired, blue-eyed, red-lipped Kylie.

Target just announced a groundbreaking organizational change to their stores, proving that even the smallest of efforts can make a large impact in the fight toward gender equality.

In light of viral criticism from customers highlighting unnecessarily gendered store items, Target has decided that sexist labeling serves no place on their sales floors, particularly where impressionable and innocent children are concerned. Thanks to the activism of some, Target is ridding itself of the harmful gender stereotypes that both consciously and subconsciously affect us all. Specifically, the company is working toward removing gender-based signage from the Toys, Home and Entertainment sections of the store. This effort will include eliminating any stereotypical labels and display set-ups—concerning both color and interest-based gender divisions—from store sites.

In a recent blog post detailing this decision, Target thanks its guests for "challenging [them] to get better.""We heard you," Target states, noting "we never want guests or their families to feel frustrated or limited by the way things are presented."

Such adjustments are long overdue, but a quick scroll through the blog post's comments section proves we've still got a long road ahead of us. Commentator Karla Oquin writes, "So sad that Target has chosen to be so [politically] correct. Target, you have lost my business." But why exactly do so many believe that respecting the identities and interests of all is "so sad?" 

And the overarching culprit of backlash against promoting gender equality? Misinformation. One commentator, Mary Chiotti Sting, argues, "Does Target not understand the MAJORITY of people are NOT part of the LGBT society??? Bye, bye Target!" 

Like Mary, many are mistakenly conflating gender equality with somehow promoting the adoption of an LGBTQ+ identity. This, of course, is ridiculous, as Target's goal is clearly not to convert all children into some particular orientation! Yes, LGBTQ+ shoppers are being acknowledged with this decision (Thank goodness! Why shouldn't they be?), but to say that gender equality is an issue only for those who fall outside of the traditional gender binary demonstrates an extreme misunderstanding of the movement toward abolishing sexism. Sexism is everyone's issue. All children, regardless of their orientation, will benefit from these changes, as our nation (slowly) works toward abolishing sexist stereotypes about what "girls" and "boys" can and cannot do and enjoy.

Additionally, a surprising amount of commentators are arguing that these labeling alterations will have no effect on children, claiming it's just a small group of overly-PC parents pushing for unnecessary changes. But when so much of childhood is unfortunately based on desperately trying to "fit in," how can we truly believe that labels don't matter? When a young girl is looking to blend in with her peers, the easiest access point may just be to adopt the labels society endorses. Searching for a young identity, children seek guidance from the world around them, and if that world is saying "blue is for boys," you'll be hard-pressed to find a child confident enough to break through those boundaries and risk the chance of exclusion—in fact, an attraction toward items labeled for the "opposite" gender might even result in unnecessary guilt and embarrassment. To eradicate these unnecessary barriers, it is vital that we as a society stop guiding children toward the most limiting ends of an enormous spectrum and start allowing children to feel confident in their own skin, whatever that may entail. 

By eliminating sexist and arbitrary labels— labels based on antiquated and inaccurate descriptions of gender-based interests, which studies consistently show are very much implanted by society and not inherently present—Target's decision may very well impact children. It may allow them to see themselves outside of a binary lens, and reduce the pressure of conforming simply because it's the "norm." Isn't it a good thing that kids will feel less discouraged from widening their toy bins? We think so!

Of course, it's important to note that not all responses to Target's progressive decision are negative. Commentator Paul Clark commends, "Fantastic I am very proud of you. Leading the way. Standing against the bullies and the silly obsolete sexist stereotypes. This is an act of great kindness," while commentator Kara Guizar won't let any negativity deflate her excitement: "Literally rolling my eyes at all the haters. Good on you, Target."

If there's one thing we can learn from Target's choices, it's that there's still a boatload of progress to be made. But at least now, for Target shoppers, a little slice of sexism will no longer be enforced. 

With the stresses of life, especially in college, it is often hard to tell if your relationship is healthy or not. You may think you and your SO are meant to be (and maybe you are!), but that is not always the case. In order to help you tell if your relationship is codependent, which means you and/or your SO are clinging to each other for certain needs, we’ve talked to Carole Lieberman, M.D., a Beverly Hills psychiatrist. Read on to learn the telltale signs and good luck!

1. You’re only going to each other for comfort

If you’re turning to your SO (or your SO is turning to you) for reassurance you perhaps didn’t receive as a child, you are relying on each other for comfort that you shouldn’t be. “A codependent relationship is one where you (and/or your [SO]) are desperately clinging to the other to fill needs that were never filled by your parents during childhood,” Dr. Lieberman shares. If you’re desperate for love or need to be comforted all the time, there will be no room for the relationship to grow. An SO should be someone you can turn to, but not someone that you need to rely on for happiness.

2. You feel addicted to one another

If you feel like your relationship is addictive, you may want to take a step back and reevaluate your priorities. “You feel addicted to your [SO] and terrified that [they] will abandon you,” Lieberman says. “It’s not love. It’s unhealthy.” If there is ever a moment that you feel you can’t live without your SO, your relationship may be codependent. You should not be worried about your SO breaking up with you or leaving you for someone else. If your relationship is healthy and happy, that won’t be an issue.

3. Your relationship is taking over your life

If you’re putting your relationship before other important things in your life such as academics, friends or family, you are likely doing damage to your life. “Codependent relationships gradually take over your life because you are willing to do anything and everything to keep your [SO] connected to you,” Lieberman shares. Doing something your SO asks of you even if it’s not what you want to do isn’t a good sign. By putting your SO before everything else, you can compromise your future, relationships and even your health.

Bridget Higgins, a sophomore at the University of Massachusetts Amherst, says, “My ex, who I just recently broke up with after a two-year relationship, definitely affected my relationships with others. He always wanted to hang out, and I found it hard to say no. In short, time with my friends and family got cut so much shorter.” A healthy relationship should be about balance, and you should recognize if your SO is taking away from other important aspects of your life.

Mollie McKinley, a junior at High Point University, shares, “I dated a boy last year who completely tore me away from my friends. I was in a sorority, and he would make me feel like it was the wrong choice. He had me focusing more on him than my academics and other personal relationships.” When you end these kinds of relationships, your happiness will increase and you will be able to enjoy things you truly love again.

4. You’re losing interest but can’t let go

If you are realizing things you dislike about your SO, or they seem less interested in you, it may be a sign that you are staying together for the wrong reasons. “If you realize that there are more and more things that you don’t actually like about your significant other, even though you’re desperate to hold onto [your SO], you have to ask yourself whether you’re using [them] like a pacifier to cope with the stress of college,” Dr. Lieberman says.

“Similarly, if [they seem] to be losing interest in you, checking out other [people] or being less available except when [they want] sex, these are signs that [they have] been using you in the same way,” she adds. “It’s time to end the relationship, and get involved with a sport, or a club or into therapy.” You shouldn’t stay with someone you no longer feel the same way about to use as a stress reliever—find something else that makes you happy.

If you start to realize that your relationship is codependent, it may be time to talk to your SO about what you’d like to change. Rather than automatically end the relationship, here's a list of things to try:

• Tell your partner that you'd like some space
• Take a break from the relationship
• Put aside a few days each week to do things for yourself
• Find an activity that helps you cope with stress
• Do something new with your SO

If you’re staying together for the wrong reasons and using one another to cope with the stresses of college, your life won’t improve. You should be in a relationship with mutual effort, love and appreciation for one another. Getting out of a codependent relationship is the best choice for your health and happiness. Stay strong, collegiettes!

Breakups are the worst. In between the tears and regret, there doesn’t seem to be a lot of room for amusement and self-improvement. Consider these 10 funny and serious things to do after a breakup that will help you move on while smiling the whole way through.

1. Draw moustaches on all your photos together. 

Instead of being sad when you see all your old pictures together, you’ll get a good laugh out of it.

2. Get a mini or even major makeover. 

A breakup means it’s a new chapter in your life, so celebrate by changing your look up--whether that’s with a new hairstyle or a couple of new pieces for your wardrobe.

3. Have a movies-and-ice cream sort of night.

There’s nothing wrong with shedding a few tears. Put on a movie or two you know is going to make you cry (Titanic and The Notebook are classics) and let the waterworks begin.

4. Delete your ex from your life.  

Get rid of their phone number and unfollow them on social media. This will remove any temptation for you to try and contact them and will feel like a physical release of letting go.

5. Change your Facebook relationship status into a relationship with Netflix.

You spend more time with Netflix than any significant other anyways, so it was just a matter of time.

6. Redecorate and clean your space.  

Get rid of anything that reminds you of your ex. Reorganize and decorate to reflect this new chapter of your life.

7. Go do something you could never get your SO to do with you. 

Would they not go to the new Amy Schumer movie? Did they not enjoy shopping? Now that you’re free, go without them and treat yourself!

8. Take a mini-vacation. 

While it would be nice to board a plane to the nearest tropical island, sometimes having a ‘staycation’ can be just as fulfilling. Explore a new area of your town or go out of state to give yourself a change of surroundings.

9. Get rid of their old clothes pronto.

Your ex-lover probably left a couple pieces of clothing behind. Get rid of them as soon as possible, whether that’s by asking a friend to take them away or cutting them up in a fit of rage. It will get rid of temptation to sleep in that old t-shirt that smells just like them. 

10. Have a good talk or two with your besties. 

Sometimes it helps to be reminded why you two broke up. Get your friends together and rant about all the reasons you should be thankful you’re not in that relationship anymore.

With all that aside, make sure to take care of yourself during a breakup. Whether drawing little moustaches on photos or having a movie night is going to ease the heartbreak, make sure to properly mend your aching heart. There’s nothing wrong with being sad about a breakup, just make sure you’re working towards moving on in a positive way. You are going to get through this! 

This article has been syndicated to Her Campus from Dani Dearest by Dani Kluss, a Her Campus Blogger Network member. Read the full post here—and find out more about how to become a Campus Correspondent for your school!

My first semester of college, I wasn’t as involved as I wanted to be. My second semester in college, I changed that by taking a big step.

On Saint Patrick’s Day 2015, after many months of preparation and anticipation, I launched my college campus’ chapter of Her Campus. There were many ups and many downs along the way, but after three months of preparation our chapter launched with a team of 15 girls, which quickly grew to 20, and which is now at 25 and still growing. My role in this chapter is Campus Correspondent, which is the equivalent of the President or Editor-in-Chief.

When I first heard about this opportunity, I had only just begun to read Her Campus as I just had begun my first semester at Cal Lutheran University. Her Campus at its core is an online global magazine for college women, by college women. It is a wonderful resource for everything from style, health, beauty, and love, to life, career, LGBTQ+, high school, and the real world. There are over 6,700 people that contribute to Her Campus, and it has become a huge name in the college community.

Her Campus also offers content from over 270 chapters from college campus’ worldwide. These chapters, which is what I started at my university, provide a career launching point for college women with an interest in journalism, social media, marketing, communications, leadership, management, photography, event planning, and so much more. The chapters provide content similar to that on the Her Campus national website, but more focused toward a specific college campus to be relevant for a specific university of students.

My university isn’t well known for its student life involvement in extracurricular activities. We don’t have Greek life, we don’t have a huge student body, we don’t have many programs on campus that involve a large amount of the student body. What we do have, is drive. Students at my school are well known for being very driven in their academics and focused on their future career.

I absolutely love being involved in extracurricular activities. I love creating new things, starting programs and projects from the bottom up and making them into something big.Making an impact. Leading. Creating. This was the perfect opportunity for me to combine my favorite things and make an impact in my university. So I gathered together a team of my friends and we launched Her Campus Cal Lutheran.

At Her Campus Cal Lutheran we define our chapter as “an online hub for Cal Lutheran’s women that provides content that is both a resource and a source of entertainment, highlighting campus news & events, interesting students & faculty, campus photos, fashion and lifestyle content specifically tailored for women at Cal Lutheran.”

During the school year my team of writers works with our team of editors and our photographers to push out content, multiple articles per day, relevant to our student body. Then our social media team shares each story on our social media channels, tracks our analytics, and learns how to spread our reach. Our event planning team works with our publicity team to create events on campus to spread word about Her Campus Cal Lutheran as well as bring entertainment and other resources to our student body.

Launching a chapter of Her Campus at my university has been a huge game changer in my college career so far. In only 2 months I’ve had the opportunity to do some amazing things, and even more are on their way! Here are some of the great opportunities I’ve had through being involved in Her Campus at my school.

I've Been Able to Feel Accomplished

Only 2 months after we launched, Her Campus Cal Lutheran was awarded the title of a Silver Level Chapter by Her Campus Nationals who ranks each chapter by level based on a variety of guidelines each year. When that was announced I felt my heart skip a beat. I remember jumping out of my chair in my dorm room, turning to my 3 roommates who are on my Her Campus team and telling them the great news. They were so excited as well that we all ran straight to Starbucks to celebrate together.

Shortly after that we were given the news that one of our Campus Celebrity articles was awarded 2nd place out of all 270 chapters. The writer who wrote that article was incredibly excited and every girl in our chapter was incredibly proud of her for getting her hard work recognized.

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No matter how excited you may be about college life, even the most independent freshmen can find themselves struck with homesickness. Moving away from home for the first time, adjusting to a college workload and setting up a brand new daily routine all take their toll, and sometimes, all you want to do is crawl into your (non-twin XL) bed with a tub of ice cream at home. A lot of collegiettes don’t have the luxury of just heading home whenever they feel like it, so when you’re missing home, how do you deal?

We talked to Dr. Josh Klapow, a clinical psychologist and an associate professor at the University of Alabama at Birmingham, and collegiettes for tips on how to cope.

What is homesickness?

Although there isn’t a clinical definition of homesickness, the American Academy of Pediatrics has a description of the condition that’s well recognized. “Homesickness in its most basic form is thoughts and feeling about home, but it exists on a continuum—it isn’t a matter of being of homesick or not; it’s matter of degree,” says Dr. Klapow. This means that however mild or infrequent your thoughts about home are, you can still be considered “homesick.” At its most severe, homesickness can manifest itself as obsessive thoughts about home, crying at what seem like random times and an inability to do what Klapow says “you came to college to do”—go to classes, make new friends, learn about yourself and, ultimately, earn a degree.

Dr. Klapow stresses that it’s important to recognize that homesickness is a very normal reaction to periods of rapid change and adjustment—like starting your freshman year of college. More often than not, “people misinterpret what exactly it means to be homesick. It’s not about missing home—[your] house, [your] bed. Very often it’s about missing what’s normal and comfortable, what we’re used to, and not quite being comfortable with your new way of life.”  At its core, homesickness is a longing for the familiar.

How to get over homesickness

Now that you know what homesickness is, it’s important to know how to deal when you get those homesick pangs. Read on for tips from Dr. Klapow and some tried-and-true methods from collegiettes!

1. Understand that what you’re going through is normal

The most important step in overcoming homesickness is realizing that there isn’t anything wrong with you. According to Dr. Klapow, “even if no one’s saying anything, chances are most people are feeling [varying degrees] of homesickness at one point or another. Feeling homesick is part of learning to live a new life—you can’t do it without going through some sort of adjustment period.”

Acknowledging and accepting your homesickness is a way of learning how to live a new life, from starting college all the way to moving to a new city for a job. Once you know you’re homesick, you can start working towards getting over it.

2. Get used to your new surroundings

According to Dr. Klapow, a big part of feeling homesick is feeling uncomfortable with the unfamiliar. Get more familiar with your college’s campus and the surrounding area by walking around and exploring, either alone or with friends. Scope out secret study spots for when you get tired of the library, cool little cafes to grab lunch in when you’re running late and quiet spots to clear your head. The more you feel like your campus “belongs” to you, the more comfortable you’ll feel at college.

3.  Make a space for yourself at school

Homesickness often occurs during freshman year because you feel uncomfortable and out of place in your new surroundings. You long for home because at home, you’re sure of yourself and how you fit into the world around you. The discomfort of not knowing everything and everyone around you can catch you off guard at college, but actively working at getting comfortable and developing a routine for yourself can curb your homesick feelings.

Erin Smith of HC Towson had this experience. “I was so used to being someone that everyone knew in high school that I didn't realize I actually had to reach out and make friends,” she says. “Once I came out of my shell and got involved with some organizations, it was so much more relaxing and I started to feel at home in school,” she says.

There are a number of different ways you can occupy your time to build a routine and stop feeling lonely. Look into volunteering opportunities on campus, campus politics, intramural sports and Greek life (some schools have two rushing seasons or continuous open bid, so you can join a sorority at multiple points in the year). Filling up your social calendar and hanging out with people who have similar interests as you will help you feel less lonely and help you make new friends!

4.  Stay connected with home—but not too connected

Maintaining your relationships with your family and friends from back home is important in helping you miss them less, but according to Dr. Klapow, part of getting over homesickness is severing emotional ties from home. “[This separation] is part of learning to live differently, not just be[ing] away of home,” he says.

But Dr. Klapow also insists that making time to talk your friends and family “a few times a week” or “even once a day, while you’re still settling in” is worth it. Touching base with your friends and family back home will help you feel connected and not like everyone from back home has forgotten about you. Shira Kipnees of Franklin & Marshall College says that “call[ing]…[her] mom once a day to catch up and hear her voice… helps a lot,” and that regularly Skyping and texting her boyfriend, who was a senior in high school during her freshman year, helped curb the loneliness of being apart. Although Dr. Klapow suggest weaning yourself off of contacting your family daily, it is a good place to start.

5.  Talk to other students (or professionals) on campus

It’s easy to feel alone when you’re homesick, but other freshmen are probably feeling the same way you are. Try talking to your friends or new people you’ve met about it. Opening up to your new friends about homesickness can be awkward, so if you’re uncomfortable, try approaching them from a different angle. Mentioning that you’re looking for ways to keep yourself occupied or asking for suggestions for cool clubs and on-campus opportunities can help you get over your homesickness by focusing on ways to stop yourself from dwelling on it. Reaching out to your friends can help you form a new camaraderie and fight your bouts of homesickness together.

Some campuses also have support groups for freshmen or freshman transitioning programs, so be sure to look into opportunities like that at your college. Talking to other people who are going through the same things as you can help, and you may even strike up a friendship with some people you meet.

If you’re uncomfortable talking to other students about your homesickness, reach out to professionals on campus. For some, talking to mental health professionals like on-campus psychologists can hold a stigma, but Dr. Klapow insists that “seeking out a professional to talk to doesn’t mean you have a psychiatric problem. Homesickness is such a common issue… you won’t be the first person that [on-campus psychologists] have spoken to or helped.” That human connection with someone who understands what you’re going through can help move you out of a homesick rut.

6. Stay positive. It will get better!

“Many college students don’t give [themselves] time [to deal with homesickness],” says Dr. Klapow. “[Homesickness] is uncomfortable, but for the most part, you’re fine.” Don’t let your homesickness consume you. Moving away from home, starting a new life and adjusting to college classes isn’t easy, but it gets easier! You’ve overcome difficult times before and starting college is no different.

 “You just have to realize that you are at school for a purpose,” says Ashley Young, a recent graduate of West Virginia Wesleyan College. “As collegiettes, you're doing great things, too! Push the negative thoughts aside and keep going.”

How to tell if it’s more than homesickness

Although most students will experience some form of homesickness, it’s important to be aware that homesickness can develop into something more extreme. In students, homesickness can trigger anxiety and depression disorders if not dealt with. Dr. Klapow suggests keeping a mental record of how you feel if you’re having a particularly bad homesick rut and asking yourself questions to gauge your mental health, such as, “Have I been homesick more days than not over the last six-week period?” and “Am I able to do what I need to do (attending classes, club meetings, etc.)?” For most people, Dr. Klapow says, “there is an intuitive sense of what’s normal [for them] and what’s abnormal. It’s rare for homesickness develop into something more serious, but if you need to be helped, don’t keep it to yourself.” 

Seek guidance from a professional on campus who can help you assess your situation and help you develop a plan to move forward.

It’s important to keep in mind that homesickness is normal. We all have out bouts of loneliness at school, especially freshman year. Be sure to look forward at all the positive things your college career holds for you. You’ve only just begun! 

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College is an exciting journey — a time of self-discovery, relationship building and decision-making. Pre-collegiettes, we hope you are ready! But when you finally arrive on campus, we just ask one thing: don’t be that freshman.

Ask any upperclassman, and nine times out of 10 they can point out the newbies — the students walking to class in herds (and getting there 20 minutes early), wearing their Sunday best, sporting an oh-so fashionable lanyard and giving their parents a play-by-play of their day over the phone. We don’t expect you to look and act like a senior on your first day, but there are ways to avoid becoming the stereotypical freshie. 

1. Toss the Lanyards

We hate to break it to you: lanyards aren’t cute accessories. Nothing screams “freshman” more than wearing one around your neck wherever you go. Yes, getting your new school ID is super exciting. But trust us, it will be perfectly safe in your backpack, wallet, or pocket! If you want to keep your ID readily accessible, Vera Bradley’s Zip ID case ($12) and this Merona Double Zipper Wallet ($16.99) are great options to try. 

2. Upgrade to College Gear

Don’t make the mistake of wearing your high school Class of 2015 shirt around campus (do you want everyone to know you’re a freshman?). Once you move on to college, the only socially acceptable time to wear your high school gear is while sleeping or exercising (it’s a proven fact). Now that you’re in the big leagues, it’s time to start dressing like it! If you can’t seem to let go of your old tees, don’t worry. You can turn them into a fancy t-shirt quilt for your dorm.

Before classes start, you should pick up your university shirts, sweaters, hats, jewelry and anything else your heart desires. But beware: only freshmen wear it all day, every day. It’s okay to show school spirit, but do it in small doses! Instead of getting your entire wardrobe from the campus store, there are always ways to rep your school spirit in a unique way.

3. Use a Mobile Map

Trying to find your classes on the first day of school is the worst. But you know what’s even worse? Looking like a lost freshman, hauling around a giant map of campus. If you need directions, start by using a map on your phone to avoid any judgmental stares from upperclassmen. You should check to see if your school has an app; many university apps include a campus map for your convenience! If you have time before the first day of classes, why not scope out the area? Walking to each of your class buildings will help make the route more familiar, and you can also estimate how long it will take to get around campus. Don’t be that freshman running to class… just don’t.

4. Get to Class on Time (NOT Early!)

There’s nothing wrong with going to class early, but camping outside of the classroom for 20 minutes is definitely a freshman move. If you’re worried about being late, leave your dorm 15 minutes earlier than necessary and find a spot near your class (not immediately outside the door) to relax if you get there before class starts. This is the perfect time to prepare for the day by reading over the syllabus and any other materials the professor provided. Also, make sure you know what time the class officially starts. At some universities, classes will technically start 10 minutes later than posted on the schedules. It’s always super awkward walking in at the wrong time, so double check beforehand!

5. Be Modest

You should be proud of your accomplishments; after all, you made it to college!  However, we don’t recommend sharing your ACT/SAT scores and high school GPA over small talk.  Nobody likes the girl who spends 99 percent of the conversation bragging about herself (seriously, stop talking). You may have worked really hard in high school, but now everyone is at an equal playing field.  Even though you might be totally amazing, try getting to know where your peers are from and what they’re studying instead!  This will show you’re open to meeting new people, and hey, you might make a friend or two.

6. Stay Classy at Parties

Now that you’re free from parents and curfews, you are your own boss! With the much-deserved freedom, some collegiettes go a little overboard. You may really want to impress the cute guy on the dance floor, but pounding back the shots won’t help you gain confidence. And if your favorite song comes on, it’s cool to show it — but please avoid dancing on tables and other potentially unstable objects.

Unless you want to be the star of the next “I’m Shmacked” video (a YouTube series that features crazy parties on college campuses) remember to stay in control of your drinking. There are several ways to do so:

Eat Dinner

First, start your night by eating a proper, carbohydrate-filled dinner. It’s never a good idea to drink on an empty stomach, because you will become intoxicated very quickly. Having a full stomach helps absorb the alcohol, slowing it from entering the bloodstream too quickly.

Know Your Limits

To learn your limits when it comes to alcohol, you definitely should keep track of what you’re drinking. Mobile apps such as DrinkBuddy ($3.99 on iTunes) can make the job easier for you so that you can enjoy the night and stay safe at the same time! You can also have a sober friend help keep you accountable. If you aren’t used to drinking alcohol, try setting a drink limit at the beginning of the night and stick to it! You will learn what your body can handle and what’s too much.

Drink Water

If you plan to have more than one drink, start alternating between alcoholic beverages and water. Drinking alcohol dehydrates your body, so it’s important to get water back into your system during a long night of partying.

7. Distance Yourself From Home

After spending the first few days on campus, it’s completely normal to feel homesick. Unlike high school, you are on your own! However, this doesn’t mean that you should call Mom and Dad whenever you have the chance.  And, unless you sincerely want to make enemies with your roommate, don’t spend the entire night locked up in your room, chatting away with your BFF or boyfriend.  An occasional Skype date will ease the homesickness without overdoing it! If you’re constantly on the phone, you’ll miss out on potential roommate and dorm bonding, a crucial part of freshman year.

Going from high school to college is a big transition, and it’s normal to feel anxious!  You’ll be in a new setting with unfamiliar people and classes unlike anything before.  Just breathe! As the weeks go by, you’ll start feeling more comfortable. While it’s important to do well in class, don’t let homework consume your life. And please, don’t stress over an A-.  Once you find your perfect study habits, it’ll be smooth sailing.  You have four years to figure out college, so it’s okay to have some “typical freshman” tendencies at first!  You might not be the coolest, most put-together person on campus yet — but with these tips, you’ll have a head start.