Just six months after suspending him for alleged misconduct, American Apparel has fired its own founder and chief executive, Dov Charney. 

The retail giant announced on Tuesday that Paula Schneider, formerly an executive at Warnaco Swimwear Group, will be taking Charney's place as the company's first female CEO. 

In an earlier statement, David Danziger, co-chairman of the AA board, claimed that the company "needs a permanent CEO who can bring stability and strong leadership in this time of transition, and we believe Ms. Schneider fits the bill perfectly."

Charney, who founded the company 25 years ago in his dorm room, had his chief executive title stripped from him back in June after dodging several sexual harassment complaints, some of which included accusations that he discriminated against members of the staff whom he did not consider attractive because he felt that they undermined the American Apparel aesthetic. The company also opened an investigation after claiming that he misused corporate money. 

In recent months, Charney has been serving as a consultant to the company but, on Tuesday, AA finally decided that "it would not be appropriate for Mr. Charney to be reinstated as CEO or an officer or employee." 

Beginning in January 2015, Schneider will be replacing Scott Brubaker, who is currently serving as the company's interim CEO.

"My goal is to make American Apparel a better company, while staying true to its core values of quality and creativity and preserving its sweatshop-free, Made in USA manufacturing philosophy," Schneider said in a statement. 

Despite his surprise that the board he put together to run his own company chose to get rid of him, Charney still said in a statement, "I'm proud of what I created at American Apparel and am confident that, as its largest shareholder, I will have a strong relationship with the company in the years ahead."

On Sunday afternoon, hundreds of rejected applicants were crushed—for a second time—when they mistakenly received a welcome-to-Hopkins email from Johns Hopkins University, just days after they had already received notices of denial.

"Embrace the YES!" the email subject lines read. The university issued an apology Sunday evening and informed student there was, unfortunately, no reversal of previous denials.

"The decision posted on the decision site reflects the accurate result of your Early Decision application," the follow-up read. "We regret this technical mistake and any confusion it may have caused."

Not without reason, both applicants and parents were upset by the mistake, some suggesting personal apologies for the false hope of acceptance. "You don’t crush somebody’s feelings twice," said Cathy Stephenson, a mother of a rejected applicant.

David Phillips, vice provost for admissions and financial aid at Hopkins, called the e-mail mistake a "human error" and explained that the wrong list of email addresses was pulled for acceptance communications.

“We apologize to the students affected and to their families,” Phillips said. “Admissions decision days are stressful enough. We very much regret having added to the disappointment felt by a group of very capable and hardworking students, especially ones who were so committed to the idea of attending Johns Hopkins that they applied early decision.”

On Friday, Hopkins accepted 539 students (out of 1,865 early admissions applicants) for early entry. Of the 294 applicants who received the acceptance email, 285 had been denied and nine had been deferred.

Hopkins isn't the first to be caught in an embarassing acceptance mistake. Last December, Fordham University gave false acceptance letters to 2,500 rejected applicants. The University of California at San Diego suffered an even bigger mistake in 2009 when they sent acceptance letters to all 46,000 students who applied, including 28,000 that had been rejected.

The LBD is a staple in every collegiette's wardrobe, but on the surface, this classic doesn't look quite as festive as we need it to be this season. With so many holiday parties to go to, you'll definitely end up reaching for your trusty black dress at some point, so it's helpful to have some styling tips on hand. With the right accessories (and a killer pair of shoes!) even the most basic LBD can become a holiday masterpiece!

1. Sparkly and sweet

Put a fairytale spin on this classic silhouette by pairing this fit-and-flare Sleeveless Pleated Slim Sheer Black Dress ($30.59 at ABADAY) with a bedazzled belt to highlight your waist, like this Sophie Gem Stretch Waist Belt ($43 at Accessorize). Stay toasty and streamlined in these SPANX High Waisted Tight End Tights ($38 at Revolve Clothing) and finish off the dazzling look with vintage-glam earrings like these Antique Gold & Crystal Drop Earrings ($35 at GILT) and a pair of super sweet and sparkly flats like these Qupid Sequin, Lace & Glitter Cap-Toe Flats ($24.99 at Charlotte Russe). Sugar with just a touch of spice!

2. Edgy accents

If your style is a little more edgy than it is girly, try playing with texture. Pair a shift dress with leather details, like this Twill Shift Dress ($79.99 at Mango) with a statement necklace in a neutral color, like this Chunky Small Bib Statement Necklace ($14.99 at Chicastic). Black and gold is super on-trend this year, so keep the theme going with chunky ankle booties, like these Apollo Booties in Black ($39.99 at Necessary Clothing). Break up the monochrome look by adding a pop of color, like this NARS Jungle Red Semi Matte Lipstick ($26 at NARS). It's the perfect festive touch to finish off this outfit!

3. Glitzy glam

Nothing says it's the holidays like some sequins, so center a look around a dramatic jacket in a festive color, like this Kate Crop Sequin Kimono Jacket ($26 at boohoo). Keep the basis of your outfit simple by pairing a bodycon LBD, like this Rosie Strappy Textured Bodycon Dress ($14 at boohoo), with simple SPANX High Waisted Tight End Tights ($38 at Revolve Clothing). Add some glamorous accents with a Classic Oyster Band Watch ($22.80 at Forever 21) and some sky-high pumps, like these Qupid Georgette Glitter Champagne Pump ($49.99 at Heels). Shine on, gorgeous!

 

All you need is a bit of sparkle or a pop of festive color to take your LBD from overdone to out of this world. Which look is your favorite, collegiettes? Let us know!

Over the years, Urban Outfitters has managed to offend blacks, Jews, Native Americans, liberals, conservatives and eating-disorder awareness groups... just to name a few. From T-shirts that appear to endorse underage drinking to stickers proudly displaying marijuana leaves, the brand has continuously received negative attention for its politically incorrect fashion statements. Yet, now the company’s insensitive ideas have stretched beyond their products to its actual behavior. 

Earlier this week, Gawker published a picture of an actual invitation distributed to Urban Outfitters employees for its annual holiday party. The invitation was blatantly offensive to Middle Eastern and Asian cultures, as it encouraged guests to "break out your juttis, kurtas, turbans, saris, lehenga cholis and harem pants” in order to properly celebrate.

This latest controversy comes only a few months after Urban Outfitters released a “vintage” Kent State sweatshirt with faux bloodstains. An apparent reference to the tragedy that occurred at the institution in 1970, in which four unarmed students were shot and killed by the Ohio National Guard during a Vietnam War protest, the design prompted consumers to charge the company with exploring “the outer reaches of bad taste,” according to Buzzfeed.

"It was never our intention to allude to the tragic events that took place at Kent State in 1970," Urban Outfitters said in a statement on Twitter, "and we are extremely saddened that this item was perceived as such."

Just two months before the Kent State sweatshirt, the company angered Hindus with its Lord Ganesha duvet cover: "Lord Ganesha was highly revered in Hinduism and was meant to be worshipped in temples or home shrines," Rajan Zed, president of the Universal Society of Hinduism, said in a statement, "and not to be slept upon." The previous December, a pair of Lord Ganesh socks had drawn similar criticism. According to a company statement published by the Huffington Post: "We sincerely apologize if we offended the Hindu community and our customers. We appreciate Rajan Zed and the Universal Society of Hinduism for bringing this matter to our attention and for helping us understand the cultural and religious sensitivities this product carries. We will remove the Ganesh Socks immediately from our website and stores."

Despite Urban Outfitter’s acknowledgement of “religious sensitivities,” the “Ganesha Tapestry” is still available for purchase on the Urban Outfitters website.

These culturally offensive items join the ranks of other Urban Outfitters mistakes, such as bottle-shaped alcohol paraphernalia 
that “glamorize prescription drugs” according to Kentucky Gov. Steve Beshear, the Holocaust-evoking “Jewish Star” shirt that eerily resembled the Star of David patch that Jews were forced to wear in Nazi Germany and the widely debated “Eat Less” and “depression” T-shirts ignorantly praising mental illness. 
The list goes on, thus suggesting to many critics that the company’s various public apologies have been less than genuine.

This most recent issue has now raised another question: Is Urban Outfitters doing it on purpose?

“I think it begins to beg the question: Is there an absolute lack of any racial sensitivity or any sensitivity whatsoever within the organization as part of their culture?” Jason Mudd, president of Axia Public Relations, told NPR.

Whether Urban Outfitters’ controversies reflect either a true lack of cultural awareness or a misguided publicity stunt, the company is alienating customers and now, employees, and has certainly gone far beyond the line of what is appropriate in public advertising.

What do you think of Urban Outfitters’ controversies? Is this a marketing tool? Do these inappropriate designs affect whether or not you will continue to shop there? 

Though the real joy of the holidays comes from giving rather than receiving, we’d be lying if we said we didn’t look forward to opening those gifts left for us under the Christmas tree every year. Sweaters and gift cards are always a hit, but here are a few gifts we really wouldn’t mind getting from Santa this Christmas.

1. A daily morning coffee delivery from our own personal Starbucks barista.

2. An instant hangover cure.

3. A pair of jeans that fits perfectly even when we’re bloated.

4. An extra five hours of sleep every night.

5. A day in the week dedicated solely to catching up on our television shows.

6. A pair of sweatpants that is both flattering and comfy.

7. Roommates who never eat our food.

8. A fail-proof study system.

9. A decoder for confusing text messages.

10. A fitness class that burns calories but doesn’t make us feel completely inept.

11. An RA who doesn’t care how much noise we make in our rooms.

12. Fat-free, sugar-free froyo that still tastes delicious.

13. A mattress pad that actually makes our twin beds comfortable.

14. A pair of heels that never hurts no matter how long we wear it.

15. A reusable pass for paper extensions.

16. A drink that can keep us caffeinated for an entire day.

17. A satisfying, uncomplicated, exclusive relationship.

It’s mystifying, confusing and sometimes downright nonsensical: the Bro Code.

Even if you don’t want to know every little detail about it, you do need to know how Bro Code affects you and how you can use your knowledge of it to navigate the college dating scene—especially when your social circle means that your ex, your best guy friend and the guy you’re interested are all in on the Code. Check out the rules you need to know!

1. The Code is different for every friend group

Don’t listen to what you’ve heard through the grapevine or in the movies; Bro Code isn’t a leather-bound hardcover book that every guy reads when he gets to college. It’s different for every friend group.

“There are no set rules to Bro Code,” says Shawn, a senior at Rutgers University. “Bro Code is not a guideline per se, but a warning on how not to act. Above all, it’s pretty simple: Don't be an a**hole, and don't be selfish and ignore your fellow bros.”

Though some rules of Bro Code apply to most bro groups, your guy friends may have other specific rules. Maybe the guys all have dinner together every Friday night or have bros-only video-game sessions. Remember that each groups of bros is different, even if they all have some pretty basic, similar rules.

2. Bros come first

The idea that friendship takes precedence over potential hook-ups or relationships invades almost every group of guy friends.

Shawn says that Bro Code states, “Don't place the romantic relationship before the bro relationship.”

College guy Daniel says, “This rule, that even I personally have broken, can shatter friendships. It’s a dangerous world, going against the Bro Code.”

Bros adhering to Bro Code will not immediately place a relationship (or the prospect of a relationship) over their friends, so get ready for a guy to be unavailable on certain nights. He won’t drop everything to see you, just like you won’t ditch him for your friends on girls’ night.

3. Don’t date your friend’s ex (except for certain exceptions)

If you go to a small school, feel like your social circles are small or have a lot of friends in one particular fraternity, you may end up in a situation where you’re interested in your ex’s friend or acquaintance.

“A bro shall not sleep with a bro’s ex-girlfriend. This is a classic rule of Bro Code,” Daniel says.

While sometimes Bro Code can vary from group to group, Shawn said that the rule about ex-girlfriends applies pretty widely. “A common ground I find among bros is Bro Code involving ex-girlfriends,” Shawn says. “If a bro, for whatever reason, wants to date the ex of another bro, generally a mutual consensus is met between them.”

What does this mean for you? First of all, don’t leave things messy with your ex, if you can help it. Secondly, you may need to have a conversation with your ex giving him a heads up that you’re into his friend.

4. Being a wingman is a crucial part of being a bro

When you’re trying to figure out a guy’s behavior at a party or in class, you should think about his bros. Do you think that his friend could like you? If a guy at a party is interested in you, his friends will probably not approach you to give their friend a chance.

“A true gift for one bro to give to another is to select him as his wingman,” Daniel says. True bros will be good wingmen and will help a bro talk to a girl he might not otherwise talk to.

“Bro Code involving girls is a little more hit or miss as interpretation is entirely under the discretion of the bro,” Shawn says. For example, at a party, if a guy wants to talk to a girl on his own, his bros will back off.

5. Bros must always treat girls with respect

Whether you’re the girlfriend, sister or friend of a bro, the guy’s friends have to treat you with respect.

“Always treat a bro’s girlfriend with the same, if not more, respect as the bro himself,” Shawn says.

Daniel says, “One large sentiment from the Bro Code towards girls is how a Bro will treat another Bro’s female family members. It is not appropriate for a Bro to sleep with another’s sister. It is unBro. However, it is perfectly acceptable to compliment one’s sister on her looks or personality.”

Remember that no part of the Bro Code allows guys to treat you disrespectfully. If you feel like your guy is violating this rule, ditch that dude.

6. Bros don’t judge other bros for their hook-ups — but they do prevent bad situations

Don’t worry that you’ll be judged by the friends of the bro with whom you’re involved.

“Additionally, bros shall never make a bro feel entirely ashamed for hooking up with a girl,” Daniel says. He said that you shouldn’t feel like guys will say anything mean or unfair about you.

However, a bro will stop a fellow bro from making a bad decision in the future. “A rule that could potentially affect dating habits is one that has to be invoked numerous times in college: Never. Let. A Bro. Drunk dial,” Daniel says. “It’s a terrible scenario for the lady included and could have horrible outcomes.”

Bros traditionally do not interfere with another bro’s decisions about girls unless they involve a potentially bad decision. You should know that, to some degree, your guy’s bros will look out for him and know when he should and shouldn’t call you.

Bro Code, believe it or not, definitely applies to you. Whether you’re dating, trying to date, hooking up with or just friends with any guy, he probably has a circle of bros who expect him to follow these cardinal rules. Don’t be left in the dark about the Code and how it affects you!

Everyone loves a good ugly sweater party around the holidays, but sometimes even the ugliest sweater doesn't pack quite enough personality. Ditch the cutesy knit sweaters and opt for something sassy and outspoken, perfect for a holiday party or even a cozy Christmas Eve! Check out our favorite sassy sweaters for this holiday season.

1. Snow Chance Sweatshirt ($42 at Topshop)

Simple, direct and oh-so-sassy, we love this understated Topshop sweatshirt. Now you don't have to worry about that stage-five clinger hitting on you yet again (but if he does, just point at your sweatshirt!).

2. Filthy Animal Crew Neck Sweater ($79 at Urban Outfitters)

This amazing sweater features the best line from a true Christmas classic, Home Alone. If people recognize the quote, this sweater is a major conversation starter, and if they don't, they'll just think you're a badass.

3. Happy Holla Days Sweatshirt ($30 at Human)

Be the sassy collegiette you are when you rock this festive and fun sweatshirt at your next holiday party. Bonus points if you actually wear this to class.

4. Jen #Elfie Xmas Jumper ($26 at Boohoo)

Rock the holiday version of this year's hottest buzzword on your sweater! This #Elfie sweater is sweet and sassy at the same time, and it features (most of) an adorable Christmas elf to boot.

5. Festive Mistletoe Sweater Set ($39.90 at Wet Seal)

If you're hoping that cutie you've been crushing on will finally get the hint this holiday season, sport this sassy sweater at your next festive party and get ready for some serious winter magic, no mistletoe required.

With so many sweaters to choose from, you're sure to be looking cute and cozy all season long!

Creating the perfect resume is never an easy task. Yes, you may have Microsoft Office proficiency and excellent communication skills, but don’t you wish there was a way you could also boast those skills you’re really proud of, like your ability to text 80 words per minute or to bake cookies with the perfect amount of softness? Here are the resumes we’d use to apply for jobs we know we’d be qualified for – if only these jobs really existed!

1. Perfect Party Playlist Creator

EXPERIENCE

Sorority house (September 2013 – December 2014)

• Put together dance music playlist to entertain approximately 300 attendees.
• Aptly fused together a pleasing mix of pop and R&B tunes.
• Inspired several partygoers to bump and grind, or otherwise bust a move.

SKILLS

Familiar with Top 40 hits, keen ear for catchy jams

REFERENCES

The attendees of Alpha Phi’s various gatherings  

2. Girls’ Night Movie Selector   

EXPERIENCE

Local movie theater (September 2012 – December 2014)  

• Offered critique gathered from written reviews and word of mouth to help determine which new releases weren’t worth viewing.
• Asked ticket seller his opinion on the films being played.
• Helped weigh the pros and cons of choosing a romantic comedy versus an action film.

Common room (August 2012 – December 2014)

• Presented wide range of film options from own expansive DVD collection.
• Provided personal opinion on several of the films in question.  
• Helped select a film that satisfied majority of movie viewers.

SKILLS

Impartial, knowledgeable about cinema, discerning taste

REFERENCES

Employees of Circle Cinema, roommates

3. Adorable Sorority Little Gift-Maker

EXPERIENCE

Sorority house (January 2014 – December 2014)

• Expertly handled glue gun without mess or third-degree burns.
• Managed to keep glitter in contained area.
• Created product that conveyed desired blend of sentimentality and wit.

SKILLS

Patience, steady hand, active Pinterest user

REFERENCES

Alpha Phi Littles

4. Starbucks Drink Orderer

EXPERIENCE

Campus Starbucks (August 2012 – December 2014)

• Well versed in ounce variance between Tall, Grande and Venti.
• Modified caloric content of drink by substituting nonfat milk for whole milk and holding on whipped cream.
• Successfully ordered Cold Butterbeer Frappuccino off “Secret Menu” by combining Crème Frappuccino base with three pumps caramel syrup, three pumps toffee nut syrup and caramel drizzle topping.

SKILLS

Sophisticated palate, ability to engage baristas in playful banter

REFERENCES

Select Starbucks employees

5. Paper Procrastinator

EXPERIENCE

Library (November 2014 – December 2014)

• Struck up conversations with everyone sitting at neighboring cubicles.
• Read all graffiti scratched into desk.
• Tweeted several complaints about size of workload.

Dorm room (November 2014 – December 2014)

• Spun around in desk chair.
• Spent two hours reorganizing closet.
• Still managed to complete 15-page paper night before due date.

SKILLS

Creative, resourceful, able to produce large volume of work in short amount of time

REFERENCES

Cubicle mates, librarian

6. Flirtatious Text Message Crafter

EXPERIENCE

Various locations (February 2014 – December 2014)

• Mastered art of sexual innuendo.
• Incorporated appropriate amount of winking emojis.
• Obtained affirmative responses from message receivers.

SKILLS

Coquettishness, way with words, sizeable contact list

REFERENCES

Guy from down the hall, guy from bio lab, guy met at party, guy met in bar…

7. Photo Instagrammer

EXPERIENCE

Around campus (July 2013 – December 2014)

• Picked subjects that would both produce appealing final product and speak to wide audience.  
• Complemented photos with aesthetically pleasing filter.
• Received positive feedback through significant sum of “likes” from followers.

Dorm room (July 2013 – December 2014)

• Utilized expansive collection of childhood photos with weekly #tbts.
• Arranged artificial lights in room for optimal lighting in photographs.
• Perfected technique behind looking both cool and seductive in selfie without falling prey to “duckface.”

SKILLS

Artistic eye, significant social media following

REFERENCES

Instagram followers

8. Binge Television Watcher

EXPERIENCE

Dorm room (December 2014 – present)

• Watched upwards of six episodes in one sitting.
• Plugged laptop power cord into outlet without taking eyes off screen.  
• Convinced roommate to bring sandwich in bed so as not to interrupt marathon.

SKILLS

Dedication, alertness, extensive attention span 

REFERENCES

Netflix service provider, roommates

9. Hilarious Snapchat Sender

EXPERIENCE

Various locations (November 2013 – December 2014)

• Mastered technique behind creating appearance of several “chins.”
• Utilized paint tools to create elaborate works of art.
• Created witty caption to fit in allotted space.

SKILLS

Variety of comedic facial expressions, creativity, shamelessness

REFERENCES

Anyone lucky enough to be on Snapchat receiving list 

The end of the 50-year standoff in diplomatic relations between the United States and Cuba holds promise for ongoing discussions about positive future developments.

On Wednesday, President Barack Obama ordered for the nation to repair its alliance with Cuba and vowed to “cut loose the shackles of the past.” It's a shocking piece of news that comes as the result of a series of secret negotiations that have taken place over the last 18 months. These discussions resulted in a prisoner swap, monitored by Pope Francis, and concluded with a telephone call between President Obama and president of Cuba Raúl Castro on Tuesday. The Times reported that the phone call between the two presidents lasted more than 45 minutes—the first direct constructive attempt at contact between the leaders of the two countries in more than 50 years.

Obama announced the deal in a nationally televised address: “We will end an outdated approach that for decades has failed to advance our interests and instead we will begin to normalize relations between our two countries.” Castro spoke simultaneously on Cuban television, saying, “We have been able to make headway in the solution of some topics of mutual interest for both nations.” Emphasizing the release of the Cubans, he announced, “President Obama’s decision deserves the respect and acknowledgment of our people.”

According to President Obama, this arrangement will “begin a new chapter among the nations of the Americas” and move beyond a “rigid policy that is rooted in events that took place before most of us were born.”

However, both Obama and Castro acknowledge that this agreement by will by no means result in friendship. “This in no way means that the heart of the matter has been resolved,” Castro explained. “The economic, commercial and financial blockade, which causes enormous human and economic damages to our country, must cease.” Yet, he added, “the progress made in our exchanges proves that it is possible to find solutions to many problems.”

By acting to improve relations with Cuba, the President is going into a diplomatic arena that the last 10 presidents refused to enter. While the infamous embargo will remain in place, the president called for an “honest and serious debate about lifting” it, which would require an act of Congress.

Nevertheless, the United States will begin to ease current restrictions on remittances, travel and banking between the two nations, and Cuba will allow more Internet access and release 53 prisoners identified as political prisoners by the United States. The administration is also looking to reconsider Cuba's status as a state sponsor of terrorism.

Obama’s decision will also allow for family visits, public performances, and professional, educational and religious activities; however, ordinary tourism will still be banned under the law. Obama will also allow greater banking networks, which will allow U.S. citizens in Cuba to use credit and debit cards in Cuba.

Surely, for many Americans an exciting aspect of this development is that U.S. visitors will now be able to return to the U.S. with the notoriously Cuban cigars. Cuban rum is also allowed.

President Obama is adamant that improving relations with Cuba is the next and best step towards developing peace. “These 50 years have shown that isolation has not worked,” he said. “It’s time for a new approach.”

A major factor in Obama’s firm decision, according to CNN, is his belief that restoring ties with Cuba may no longer be politically unthinkable because of the generational shift among Cuban and Americans; today, many youth are open to change.

No doubt President Obama’s latest action concerning Cuba will impact how he ultimately defines the end of his presidency. Throughout his two terms, the president has increasingly pushed the limits of his executive authority in domestic and international policy-making, but perhaps this latest shove will result in more positivity that criticism.

Do you support President Obama's decision to re-open relations with Cuba? 

Need a last minute holiday gift? Look no further than your local drugstore. Yes, you heard us right! You can find tons of gift-worthy products by drugstore beauty brands that are both adorable and affordable! Check out our favorites below—they are so good, you might want to keep them all for yourself... fortunately, at these price points, you can stock up on two of each!

e.l.f. Eyeshadow Set – 96 pc. ($10)

The 96-piece eyeshadow palette is the gift that keeps on giving—endless eyeshadow looks. The palette itself is just gorgeous, with each shade sitting in pretty geometric shapes. With e.l.f., you can always be sure you're gifting quality and quantity at a truly unbeatable price. We know we would be grateful if our besties got us this one.

CoverGirl Outlast Lipcolor Holiday Gift Set ($14.99)

Easy, breezy, beautiful—and affordable. (That's our motto this year.) CoverGirl is offering a rather festive gift set this holiday season. These shades of red are totally festive and the color is crazy long-lasting. The set includes shades 'Brazen Raisin' and 'Radiant Red,' plus two tubes of a moisturizing topcoat for 24 hours of fabulous color. 

Burt's Bees Beeswax Bounty – Assorted Mix($9.99)

For the lover of all things lip balm, here is the perfect gift. If there's anything more important this winter, it's keeping those lips moisturized! The set comes with 4 different flavors, each serving a different purpose—nourishing, hydrating, replenishing and a traditional beeswax lip balm. And if that's not enough, it comes with a cute little change purse, too!

Maybelline Color Show Nail Polish ($3.99)

You can never really go wrong with some nail polish. Can anybody really have enough of it? At just $3.99 each, you could pop a couple in a gift bag. For the holiday season, we recommend pairing 'Rich In Ruby' and 'Gilded Rose.'

CoverGirl Holiday Gift Set($14.99)

Give the gift of gorgeous lashes this holiday season with another goodie from CoverGirl. This gift set includes Clump Crusher by Lashblast, easily one of CoverGirl's greatest gifts to the world. It also includes the Ink It! Eyeliner—honestly, what else would a girl really need? 

Juicy Couture Viva la Juicy Gift Set ($29.88) 

Perfect for the girly girl, this beautifully packaged fragrance set from Juicy Couture comes with a full-size fragrance, a mini version to toss into a go-to bag, plus body lotion—which everybody needs in the winter! At under $30, this gift set is a steal.

Doing some last-minute holiday shopping? There's no need to stress—each of these drugstore finds are both festive and easy on the wallet, so you can gift well this season without breaking the bank, even if you've left your shopping to the last day... not that we'd recommend that!

If you’re a job-searching collegiette living in the 21^st century, odds are you have a LinkedIn account. With a customizable profile, newsfeed and connections, it’s the perfect online tool to help you get a job. There’s only one problem: You have no idea how to use it.

Having a LinkedIn account is one thing, but actually knowing what to do with it is a whole different story. You have the basics down, but there are so many other great tools you could be using! Searching for a job or internship is stressful as it is, so why not make it easy on yourself and use LinkedIn to its full potential? Read on to find out what tools the experts recommend, and you’ll be a LinkedIn pro in no time!

1. Jobs tab and detailed job search

One of the main reasons we join LinkedIn is to find an internship while we’re undergrads or jobs once we’re ready to enter “the real world.” To accommodate this, LinkedIn made searching for open positions as painless as possible. The “Jobs” tab (one of the five main tabs across the top) is designed to organize current job listings based on your preferences so you can explore all your different options.  According to career coach Donna Schilder, “[The jobs tab] is like CareerBuilder.com or Monster.com … companies pay money to list their openings. [You can] narrow your search by location industry or job function.”

When you first click on the Jobs tab, you can customize your job search by indicating where you’re looking for openings (domestically or internationally), preferred company size and industry. Then, every time you open your jobs tab, new openings from different companies that fit your preferences will pop up. You can click on the company to learn more about the position, save jobs or even review applications you’ve submitted.

Located in the right corner of the Jobs tab is the “advanced search” dropdown. There, you can further narrow your search by entering your zip code or indicating more specific industries.

“Also, use the ‘discover jobs in your network’ [option] to look through job openings at companies that your connections work for,” Schilder suggests. This is good because if you know someone who works at that company, he or she can put in a good word for you.

Once you get to the results of your initial search, you can click “save search” in the upper-right-hand corner and receive email alerts about postings similar to your search. You can also indicate if you want to get them daily, monthly or weekly. According to Amanda Healy, social media expert and personal branding blogger, by receiving these email updates, you can stay informed about the job market and ultimately discover opportunities you might be interested in.

One of the most intimidating parts of the internship or job search is simply finding opportunities! Fortunately, LinkedIn gives you tons of options so you can find the best fit for your interests.

2.  LinkedIn Pulse

LinkedIn Pulse is a mobile app as well as a new feature on the LinkedIn website. Basically it’s an integrated news feed that keeps you up to date on news relevant to your interests or desired field(s). “You can follow thought leaders, news channels and publishers,” Schilder says. “A user is able to select up to 60 newsfeeds to follow. So LinkedIn Pulse gives the user customized news based on their selections.”

Located on the homepage, you can click on the Pulse newsfeed and review the recommendations to follow or search for specific people or organizations. “Many people use LinkedIn Pulse to follow their industries,” Schilder explains. “For example, a social media analyst might follow a social media influencer like Reid Hoffman or a publisher like Mashable.”

There is also an “Influencers” category, which features blogs by influential people (like Bill Gates and President Obama) that you can follow.

According to the experts, students should spend the time reading Pulse because there are a ton of benefits of staying informed. “[Students] can review [LinkedIn Pulse] before meeting someone they want to engage in meaningful conversation,” says Rita Friedman, job and career transition coach. Not only can you learn more about your desired industry, you can also feel confident in an interview because you know the latest news in your field.

Besides standing out in an interview, you can also start conversations about important topics on LinkedIn itself. “Pulse tailors news and articles based on your professional interests,” Healy explains. “Then you can share these [on LinkedIn] or Tweet them and it helps you [start a conversation]. It makes you look good professionally.”

Your connections can see your shared articles on their news feed with the option to comment or “like” your post, which can help start those online conversations.

3. Groups

LinkedIn groups are great places to connect with other professionals in your field. Groups are basically a small subset of LinkedIn where users with similar interests can connect and communicate. In groups you can post questions, interact with other users, view job listings and learn from experts in your industry.

If you hover over the “Interests” tab, you can find the groups page. There you can search for specific groups or view recommendations based on your interests.

“Join as many groups as possible because it will increase the number of LinkedIn searches you appear in,” which is helpful when recruiters are looking for possible interns or employees, Schilder says.

There are different types of groups you can join to make it easier for potential employers to find you. Besides the Job Search tool, groups are another way to access job or internship postings. “Join LinkedIn Groups that are designated as ‘Job Search Groups,’” Schilder says. “You can signal that you are looking for a job [that way]. Be sure to join the regional and industry subgroups to this group as well.”

Beyond using groups to search for jobs, you can also join them to add more connections to your network. Universities, organizations and companies usually have groups, so try searching by your school or an organization you’re interested in. Then join the conversation by posting or commenting about something you found relevant to your field and/or group or anything you find interesting. It’s a good way to expand that professional network!

4. Customizing your URL

So you’ve filled in all your experience, education and summary on your profile. All set, right? Not quite. A little extra effort on your profile could make a huge difference in your marketability.

“[Your profile] should be the number-one hit when someone Googles your name,” Healy says.  “It’s essentially your professional brand, face to the world and first impression. Today, your first impression is a digital one.”

One way to customize your profile is changing its URL. Instead of just random numbers at the end of the link, change it to your name. “As long as your name is available, change it to that!” Healy suggests. “Brand it with your name; it makes you more memorable.”

If you’re in the edit mode on your profile, an “Edit” link appears by your profile’s URL underneath your profile picture. Click that and an option appears to edit your public profile, where you can edit your public profile URL. It seems insignificant compared to the experience or education sections of your profile, but this small fix can help make your profile more memorable.

5. Alumni search tool

A great way to expand your professional network is to connect with alumni from your school. After all, you already have something in common to bond over!

“Alumni LOVE [other] alumni!” Healy says. “You share a similar experience, and they can relate to you. They’re compelled to help you succeed.” With LinkedIn Alumni Search tool, it’s easy to find and connect with people who could help you with your future career.

You can find alumni under the “Connections” tab.  There you can narrow down alumni by where they’re currently working, their position or even what they studied as an undergrad.

“It’s a nice way to see where people with similar backgrounds have gone,” Friedman says. “Or, if you have a company in mind that you would love to work for, the Alumni tool can help you find current employees there [who] can give you some insight into the [hiring process] or even pass your name along to a hiring manager.”

If you do find alumni through this search, connect with them and shoot them a short message through the messaging feature. You can tell them that you found them through this search tool and ask if they’ll answer some questions for you. Ask them what they like about their current positions, what they did right after they graduated or advice they have for you about the job search. They’ll probably be more than willing to help you out, maybe by giving you some insight to their companies’ culture or even forwarding your resume to the hiring manager at their companies!

LinkedIn is a great website to start your professional career. Besides expanding your digital network, you can explore your interests, become more informed about your field and apply to positions you may not have discovered otherwise. Use these five tools to become LinkedIn savvy, and HC knows you’ll rock the job or internship search! 

On Tuesday, San Diego State University announced that it has removed Delta Sigma Phi from campus as a result of misconduct. 

The fraternity members were accused of waving sex toys, throwing eggs and yelling at anti-rape protesters during a Take Back the Night march on November 21. Though Delta Sigma Phi has been in a bit of hot water lately over a number of alleged conduct violations, the frat's behavior during the demonstration was the final straw. 

"A series of incidents highlighted behavior inconsistent with the high standards that have been synonymous with the Delta Sigma Phi Fraternity at San Diego State University,"the Delta Sigma Phi national office said. "The Fraternity cannot, and will not, tolerate blatant disregard toward our policies and standards for members and chapters."

The scene caused by the frat during the protest only adding to their troubles, as Delta Sigma Phi had already been accused of hazing and alcohol misconduct earlier this year. 

"There is no place in our campus community for the type of ongoing behaviors displayed by those involved with this fraternity chapter," said a statement given by Eric Rivera, SDSU's vice president of student affairs. "We appreciate the willingness of the national office of Delta Sigma Phi to step in and address these issues and take action with us."

The Gamma Alpha chapter of the fraternity is closing and will not be eligible for reinstatement until Fall 2016 and, even then, the members will have to adhere to a strict set of guidelines including maintaining an alcohol-free environment and being closely monitored by a full-time house manager. 

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Between picking out holiday gifts for your besties and eyeing some new treats for yourself, wading through your options of charitable organizations to donate to can feel overwhelming. If you’re feeling charitable this holiday season and you want to support some awesome LGBTQ+ charities, look no further! Whether you’re passionate about marriage equality, fighting against bullying or positive portrayals of LGBTQ+ characters in the media, you’ll find a charity in this list that’s definitely worth supporting.

1. Human Rights Campaign

We’re sure you’ve seen the blue stickers with the yellow equals sign on computers or water bottles around campus. That logo represents the Human Rights Campaign, an organization focused on increasing civil rights for LGBTQ+ Americans. The HRC had a big impact in raising support and awareness around the Supreme Court ruling of United States v. Windsor on June 26, 2013, which ruled a significant portion of the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional. In the weeks before the Supreme Court announced its decision, the HRC swapped its traditional blue and yellow logo to red and pink in order to stimulate a nationwide conversation about marriage equality.

The HRC is the largest civil rights organization in the United States working on gaining equality for LGBTQ+ Americans. Wondering if it’s the right charity for you? The donations go toward supporting various HRC programs, such as HRC’s All Children - All Families Project, which works toward improving LGBTQ+ adoption and foster care practices. Another great program under the HRC is The Coming Out Project, which provides resources to LGBTQ+ people to prepare them to come out to their families. If you want to donate, see their website.

2. The Trevor Project  

The Trevor Project is an organization that focuses on crisis management and suicide prevention among LGBTQ+ youth. They have a 24-hour hotline called the Trevor Lifeline that people in crisis can call to be connected with trained counselors. The organization was founded in 1998 and has assisted hundreds of thousands of young people in crisis.

Donations are used to provide online training to teachers and faculty members to assist struggling LGBTQ+ students.  In addition, the Trevor Project uses funds to support its website, which provides many resources for troubled LGBTQ+ young people and their allies, such as lists of suicide warning signs to be on the lookout for and ways to get involved in their new PSA campaign. The focus of the latest campaign is Ask For Help; it encourages young people to reach out, no matter what is troubling them.

LGBTQ+ youth are four times more likely to attempt to commit suicide than their straight peers, and making a donation to The Trevor Project could make a real difference in addressing this issue. If you’re interested, check out their donations page.

3. GLAAD

GLAAD is primarily responsible for the more inclusive gender options on Facebook and for the New York City St. Patrick’s Day Parade allowing LGBTQ+ organizations to march under their own banner for the first time in 2015. They also publish a Studio Responsibility Index and a Network Responsibility Index every year, which rank movie and television portrayals of LGBTQ+ people in order to make it clear who is doing well and where more work is needed. Money donated to GLAAD goes to support their many initiatives revolving around raising awareness of LGBTQ+ issues.

Sarah Kate Ellis, president and CEO of GLAAD, is passionate about the work GLAAD performs, describing the organization’s mission as being “a cultural change agent for the LGBT community” and saying that GLAAD “works in the court of public opinion, changing the hearts and minds.” No small task.

Ellis encourages those wanting to support GLAAD who may not have the means to make a monetary donation (and even those who do) to volunteer in their own communities by phone banking, helping out at a GLAAD event or just wearing purple on their Spirit Day in October to show support for bullied LGBTQ+ youth. A great way to keep up with GLAAD initiatives is to follow GLAAD on Facebook or Twitter. You can support this worthy organization here.

4. Lambda Legal

Lambda Legal is a civil rights organization working for LGBTQ+ rights and equality. Lambda Legal focuses more on the legal aspects of this fight by trying to make public policy changes and impact litigation. They are continually working on finding and arguing cases at all levels of the judicial system. Lambda Legal has had numerous successes recently, including their efforts in South Carolina to overcome the South Carolina attorney general’s efforts to delay implementation of same-sex marriage.

To support Lambda Legal, you can volunteer at one of their many pride events or help out with fundraising and community education. Financial donations go toward supporting the many legal cases Lambda Legal fights, which is crucial since they don’t charge any of the plaintiffs they support and receive no government funding. If you’re interested in donating, go to their website.

5. It Gets Better Project

Chances are you’ve seen at least one touching video from the It Gets Better Project, which communicates to LGBTQ+ youth who are struggling with bullying that life continues to get better. Though the It Gets Better book and YouTube videos featuring regular people and celebrities, young people can feel supported not only by thousands of strangers telling them stories, but also familiar faces from politicians like President Obama and Hillary Clinton to actors like Anne Hathaway and Jane Lynch.

There several ways to donate to the It Gets Better Project. One of the most impactful ways is to make an It Gets Better video of your own. Sharing your story is an amazing way to support the organization and the thousands of young people struggling across the country. Another great way to contribute to the It Gets Better Project is by donating $25, which funds a copy of the It Gets Better book for your school or local library. Both of these options are immediate ways you can spread this important message and really see the difference you are making. For the full list of ways to support the It Gets Better Project, check out their action center.

There are countless LGBTQ+ organizations doing truly amazing work to improve the lives of LGBTQ+ people of all ages and stages of life. Whether it’s the anti-bullying support provided by The Trevor Project and the It Gets Better Project, the fight for same-sex marriage supported by the HRC and Lambda Legal or the goal of changing hearts and minds through media portrayals of LGBTQ+ people, the life-changing work of these organizations is truly worthy of your support. We know you’re busy planning holiday parties and getting through finals, but if you have a minute, check out a few of these websites. Read about the triumphs and setbacks, the incredible progress made and the battles yet to be fought, and please think about contributing to the fight for equality and respect for all people. 

As if 2014 wasn’t already a massive year fashion-wise for Rihanna, who was named the CFDA’s Fashion Icon back in June (not to mention the head-to-toe Swarovski crystal dress she wore to the awards), it turns out RiRi will be adding one more major item to her fashion resume: Creative Director of Puma.

When describing the direction she wants to take Puma in, Rihanna says she plans to take over—in other words, “give it a youthfulness, make it hip, basically make it Rihanna.” Rihanna-ified athletic wear, shoes and accessories? We’re loving the sound of it. While we all wait anxiously for Rihanna’s first Puma pieces to be available, check out what we’re hoping to see included in the line:

1. Winter whites

We’re really hoping this monochrome white look Rihanna posted to her Instagram when the big news was announced shows up somewhere in her work with Puma. Athletic and comfy on bottom and super-luxe pearls and fur on top? Yes please!

2. Sporty spice

With the athletic wear trend going so strong, we'd love to see RiRi put out a sporty Puma jacket or two. We're loving the way she dressed it up here with a flirty skirt!

3. All in one

Normcore was everything this year—and Rihanna’s fab overalls-and sweatshirt-combo is proof. We'd love to see her bring this same casual-chic (yet still glamorous!) vibe to the line.

4. A hint of sparkle

Okay, so we can’t exactly see Rihanna’s line for Puma including a sparkly red carpet ready gown, but Rihanna has always been known for her edgy, standout looks that push the boundaries, like the look she wore to the CFDA awards in June—and we can’t wait to see her bring that cool-girl attitude to the brand.

How excited are you to see Rihanna take the helm at Puma? What are you looking forward to seeing her create?

Another new year is rolling around and you're starting to think of some resolutions. We all have great expectations for what our resolution will bring, but let’s all be honest - they don’t always go as planned. Even if your resolutions don’t always last, at least you tried… right? Let’s let the Real Housewives show us the expectations of the most common New Year's resolutions... and how they really go down.

I Will Have Healthier Habits

Expectation: You really want to turn your health around - you practically pray to the food gods, “Forgive me, father, for I have sinned.” This New Year, you will dedicate yourself to having healthier habits that are good for your body and soul.

Reality: Kale chips and hummus are only satisfying for so long.

I Will Be a Better Listener

Expectation: You start to feel bad that your phone conversations with your mom consist of you saying, “Yes. Yeah. Yup. Yes, Mom. Okay. Bye.” This year, you will be a better listener to your mom, friends, boyfriend and even friendly strangers.

Reality: You let the “friendly stranger” in the Starbucks line get too far into her break–up story and now you're late for class. Why did you make this resolution again?

I Will Drink Less

Expectation: You realize your liver and bank account are suffering, so this year you will cut back on the Long Island Iced Teas. You can still be the life of the party even if you aren’t drinking.

Reality: Watching your friends play a drinking game to Full House re-runs gets awfully lonely…

I Will Give Up Tanning

Expectation: You don’t want to look like the Crypt Keeper with leather skin when you're 28. This year, you will get your glow the healthy way.

Reality: You look in the mirror and realize that you are paying $30 every two weeks to look like Snooki. Maybe the spray tan resolution wasn’t the cheapest and greatest alternative…

I Will Learn a New Language

Expectation: Since you can’t afford to actually go to Italy, you could at least enlighten yourself with the culture. This year, you will learn a new language, thanks to your dear friend Rosetta Stone.

Reality: $179 later, you realize that there are not enough hours in the day to master a new language. Who knew that the Italian word ‘piano’ means multiple different things aside from the actual instrument?

I Will Get More Creative With My Style

Expectation: You realize you actually have a good collection of cute clothes, you just neglect most of them because you prefer to wear leggings to class. This year, you will let your inner Coco Chanel come out and get creative with fashion.

Reality: You rock all of your long-forgotten sweaters and big, colorful necklaces until you run out of outfit combinations and energy. Coco Chanel, it’s been real, but let’s be honest…

I Will Get a Killer Body

Expectation: We’ve all said it: “This year WILL be the year I get in great shape.” You decide you will go to the gym six times a week - no ifs, ands or buts. You are even willing to try some new, crazy booty-shaking Zumba classes.

Reality: After a solid two months going strong, your gym routine starts to dwindle week by week. Before you know it, you’ll be thinking, “I didn’t go to the gym today… that makes three weeks in a row.”

I Won't Be Afraid to Speak My Mind

Expectation: You have some extremely strong opinions, but you bite your tongue and stay out of things. This year, you're going to grow a backbone and let your opinion be heard about everything… even your best friend’s boyfriend.

Reality: Your best friend looks at you with tears in her eyes. “Tell me the truth… do you hate him that much?” You panic and your voice goes up two octaves as you stutter, “No, he’s not that bad.” So much for that resolution. You can’t break the poor girl’s heart.

I Will Be Patient About Finding Love

Expectation: This year, you vow to stop looking for love in places like Tinder (even if you’re just looking, stop). Love will come to you when it should and how it should.

Reality: Valentine's Day rolls around and the front is over... you can’t even look at couples walking down the street without making a puppy dog face, wishing it was you.

I Will Get Over My Ex

Expectation: You are actually exhausted from spending every minute thinking about your ex. You are so back and forth about him, but this year you will FINALLY move on. (For real this time.)

Reality: Okay, that sounded a lot easier than it actually is.

I Will Be Serious About School

Expectation: Since you are literally paying thousands of dollars to sit in class, you decide it's time to get off of Facebook… and Pinterest, Twitter, Buzzfeed, Yahoo, etc. This semester, you're going to actually do what you are supposed to do in class. You will be wide-eyed and ready to learn.

Reality: You sit attentively through seven full history lectures until the topic turns to the Middle Ages.

I Will Be More Positive

Expectation: This year, you decide you will face each day like you're the captain of Spirit Squad. Life is so much better when you're happy and peppy!

Reality: After three long weeks of being extremely peppy, you can’t even pretend to be excited in your 8 a.m. class.

I Will Be Better at Budgeting

Expectation: You don’t really need that fourth pair of black boots, or Qdoba every single Wednesday.  This year, you will cut up those credit cards and say goodbye to your terrible spending habits.

Reality: Okay, those boots are to die for. Also, Qdoba is completely necessary; otherwise you're forced to cook dinner.

I Will Make More ‘Me’ Time

Expectation: All people, emails, assignments and work shifts can wait. This year, you will learn how to designate at least an hour out of every day just for yourself, without any interruptions.

Reality: Okay, maybe 10 minutes is good….

A new bill proposed by a Republican lawmaker in Missouri would require a woman seeking an abortion to receive permission from a man first.

The bill was introduced by Missouri state representative Rick Brattin on December 3 and has been filed for next year's legislative season. If passed, any pregnant woman who wishes to get an abortion must obtain written permission from the unborn child's father first before she can go through with the procedure. Though the bill does not include any exceptions made for women with abusive partners, there is an exception for sexual assault victims.  

According to the bill: "No abortion shall be performed or induced unless and until the father of the unborn child provides written, notarized consent to the abortion, except in cases in which the woman upon whom the abortion is to be performed or induced was the victim of rape or incest and the pregnancy resulted from the rape or incest. If the father of the unborn child is deceased, the woman upon whom the abortion is to be performed or induced shall sign a notarized affidavit attesting to the fact."

While explaining the bill to Mother Jones, Brattin makes a reference to the infamous "legitimate rape" term once used by the former Republican congressman from Missouri, Ted Akin. 

"Just like any rape, you have to report it, you have to prove it," Brattin says. "So you couldn't just go and say, 'Oh yeah, I was raped' and get an abortion. It has to be a legitimate rape."

When asked about his reasoning for not making the exception for victims of domestic abuse, Brattin responded with, "What does that have to do with the child's life? Just because it was an abusive relationship, does that mean the child should die?"

Brattin futher explained that his inspiration behind creating the law came when he went in for a vasectomy and had to obtain written permission from his wife. 

If the bill passes, it will likely be struck down by the courts. 

Getting polar vortex-ready means layering—and lots of it. And though we have proof that puffer coats can look stylish, they just aren't fit for every occasion. You need something that's chic and sophisticated—something that can be dressed up (even way up!) or down for casual days out. The solution? An oversized—a seriously oversized scarf. From the boho-inspired to classic check prints, there's a scarf to suit any look! And, collegiettes, these have an added benefit: They're all big enough to double as a blanket for when you need a quick nap during late nights at the library!

1. Tribal

Take the tribal trend from summer to winter with this New Look Geo-Tribal Border Wrap Scarf ($37.88) from ASOS. With leggings and a skinny gold belt, you can also turn this scarf into a more chic poncho. 

2. Boho

Give off boho vibes with this Urban Outfitter’s Oversized Geo Blanket Scarf ($44). The neutral color on this scarf allows you to pair with dark shades or even experiment with bright colors in our oufit. Plus, we're loving the fringe on this scarf. 

3. Geometric

For a modern look, we’d suggest the Oversized Grid Check Square Scarf ($34.11) from ASOS. The classic and graphic pattern will add some dimension to your outfit. Go minimalist with some skinny jeans and a black turtle neck, and you'll be ready for any cold day. 

4. Plaid

As we've seen, plaid is having a moment this season. Get the look with Zara's Checked Scarf ($39.90)—wearing it with a cable knit sweater and a wide brim fedora hat makes it so perfect for the holidays.

5. Abstract

Add a statement piece to your closet with this Patterned Jacquard Scarf from Zara ($59.90). The abstract print adds a unique look no one else will have. We think this would look great with white jeans and a leather jacket. 

Which oversized scarf will you be adding to your closet this winter? 

It’s the most wonderful time of the year, and you’re even happier now that your SO has finally invited you to meet the extended family. And you should be happy — this is an important step forward in your relationship!

Then, reality sets in. You start to imagine all those crazy dinners you’ve had with your own family, except now it’s not your goofy uncle ribbing you — it’s someone you just met. Not to mention it’s someone you’re dying to impress! Needless to say, the first time you meet your SO’s family can definitely be awkward.

No one can blame you for being nervous! With some preparation and these dos and don’ts, you’ll have the confidence to sit back, chat it up and win them over.

DO bring a gift

Ithaca College freshman Caroline Pirozzolo, who spends part of her winter break visiting her long-distance boyfriend for the holidays, says she thinks it’s a great idea to bring a small gift for your SO’s family. “Even if it's just Christmas cookies or a thank you-note for having you spend the holiday with them!” she says.

This gift doesn’t need to be anything fancy; in fact, overdoing it the first time you meet the family might not be the best idea. A bottle of wine, a festive dessert or an ingredient/recipe set (think cookie mix in a jar) are simple but sweet gift ideas.

Etiquette consultant and author Jodi RR Smith suggests being thoughtful when giving gifts to make a great first impression. “No one expects you to spend a lot of money as a college student,” Smith says. “Little things can mean a lot. If there are younger siblings or pets in the family, bring a little something for them as well.”

DON’T show up without doing your homework

Don’t neglect the best resource you have — your SO! Before you show up at the family’s house, ask your SO for a get the inside scoop on holiday traditions. How classy should your holiday outfit be? What are their quirky traditions? How does everyone get along? Are there any hot-button topics to avoid at the dinner table? Knowing these things before you show up can clue you in on what to expect and ease your stress.

“You should ask what the sleeping arrangements are going to be and if there is anything you need to bring, like a sleeping bag,” Smith says. If you’re sleeping over, you should be prepared with a robe or a long sweatshirt as well so that you’re not walking to and from the bathroom in a towel.

Finally, you need to help your SO’s family know you as well. “As the guest, it is your obligation to let the host or hostess know your dietary restrictions in advance,” Smith says. “You should bring a bag full of snacks that you can eat during your stay as well. Don’t expect them to be a short-order chef.”

Even just a little preparation for your visit can save you a lot of awkwardness later, so if you have any concerns, go ahead and ask your SO questions. And if your SO doesn’t know the answers, it’s totally okay check in with the family before you arrive.

DO be polite

This is a no-brainer, right? Sometimes if you’re too nervous, you might forget your manners, so it bears repeating. Remember to say “please” and “thank you.” Also, make sure to complement the host or hostess on the house, meal or both.

“You want to be your best self,” Smith says. “This is not being polite to the point of being fake. Be ready to greet people. Say, ‘It’s so nice to meet you.’ You need to have your meet-and-greet skills at the forefront.”

When you’re having a conversation, be engaged! Ask questions and nod to show you’re listening and interested. Also, prepare a little something to say about yourself. “You need to be [prepared] to answer the question: ‘Tell me something about yourself,’” Smith says. “You can’t be stumped. It leads right into conversation.”

You want this family to think that you care because, well, you do!

DON’T be stiff

Sometimes if you’re too worried about being on your best behavior, you can come off as stiff and timid, especially if you’re nervous. Take some deep breaths, loosen up and remember that these are just people you’re talking to.

“If you’re not nervous, you’re not normal,” Smith says. “It’s okay to be nervous. The only way to deal with it is to do it go with it. Take a deep breath in and let it out.”

Don’t just talk to your SO’s parents. Have a conversation with a great-aunt and get to know the cousins, too. Spread the attention around, and it’ll start to feel like you’re part of the family. That means you’re going to have to stop clinging to your SO’s arm and strike up a conversation on your own. We know it can be scary, but we promise you can do it!

DO join in the fun

Odds are that even if your family and your SO’s family celebrate the same holidays, they’re going to do it a bit differently. Whatever traditions your SO’s family participates in, you should go all out and be enthusiastic about participating as well. Smith says that “you need to keep your eyes and ears open for the little differences in this family.”

Try to have fun adapting to your SO’s family. Do they play a particular game together after dinner? Do they all make dessert together? Sing holiday songs? You should do those things, too! If you don’t join in the family fun, then you run the risk of coming off as a total scrooge.

DON’T weigh in on the arguments

Before you enter into that discussion on the latest election, assess your SO’s family.

“[Some families] consider a battle of wits being the best activity you can have over the dinner table,” Smith says. “If this seems like one of those families, by all means join in if you are comfortable with it.”

But if the conversation turns toward more controversial subjects and you notice tension (like when your SO’s uncle looks like he’s going pop a blood vessel in his neck), stay out of the discussion. You’re trying to make a good impression, so even if everyone else is arguing, you need to take the higher ground.

If someone specifically asks you about your political opinions, Smith recommends stating your opinion and then moving from that subject to a related, less controversial subject.

For example, if your SO’s grandmother asks you about your stance on gay marriage rights and she seems to disagree with you, you might state your opinion and then mention that your sister just got married recently. It was such a lovely service.

DO get ready for relationship questions

It’s not likely you’re going to escape the holiday season without having to answer a few intrusive questions. Of course, your SO’s family is going to be curious about your relationship. You might get questions about how you two met or what you like most about your SO.

When you get these questions, just be honest and positive. No need to over-share; just answer the questions and leave it there. And make sure not to complain about your SO, even in jest.

Let’s say your SO’s goofy dad asks you, “Why do you like this loser, anyway?” Keep it positive, but feel free to be funny.

“You can say something like, ‘Joe, you never told me you were a loser!’ or, ‘I knew I had to go out with him when he dropped his tray in the cafeteria,’” Smith says. “Never say something mean about your significant other. If [the family member] gets really mean, you can say something to throw them off, like, ‘But he’s such a good kisser.’”

DON’T engage in PDA

Hand-holding and sitting together (but not on each other) is one thing, but you don’t want to get too lovey-dovey at your first family gathering. Any more PDA than a slight touch could make the family or other guests uncomfortable. Save making out and cuddling for your quality time together, plain and simple!

If you’re spending the night and you and your SO are asked to sleep in separate rooms, you need to respect the wishes of your SO’s family.

“Say goodnight and each go into your own room. Wake up in your own room. What you do in the middle of the night is up to you,” Smith says. “You never want to make a parent feel uncomfortable in their own house.”

DO offer to help

Cleaning up is nobody’s favorite part of the holidays. That’s why you’re going to earn major brownie points just by offering to help out!

“When I'm [visiting my boyfriend], I try to offer to help out around the house, especially if his family is having other guests over for Christmas or New Year's,” Caroline says.

Your SO’s parents may refuse the hand anyway, so don’t push the issue. Whether you end up with the dishes or not, offering to help clean up is a great way to show your gratitude.

You should also show your appreciation by tidying up after yourself. “If you use a glass, clean it,” Smith says. “If you slept in a bed, strip it, fold the sheets.” These small courtesies will take some of the pressure off of your SO’s parents. Plus, these gestures will leave a good impression!

DO escape for some “me time”

Let’s face it: Some of us are naturally more outgoing than others. If you start to feel overwhelmed by all the small talk and first impressions, don’t be afraid to excuse yourself and relax for a moment.

“It is fine to take a breather,” Smith says. “You can step outside or go into the basement. Be careful about occupying the bathroom; you don’t want to block it when someone else might need.”

According to Smith, it’s okay not to give a reason for excusing yourself. No one expects you to be brimming with energy all day long. Go outside and text a friend or read for a little while. Then rejoin the party feeling fresh and ready to talk.

DON’T have your phone out

There’s nothing that tells your SO’s fam you’re not interested in their festivities like being tethered to your cell phone. Forget whatever’s happening on Instagram and Snapchat. Nothing in the world is more interesting to you than this family get-together — or at least that’s what you’re going to make everyone believe! Keep that phone on silent and tucked away until you’re by yourself.

DO send a thank-you note

Make the last impression you leave as good as the first! Putting together a fantastic holiday is tough work, so make sure to show that you appreciate all the effort. After you’ve returned home, send your SO’s family a simple, handwritten note of gratitude. Smith recommends doing this right away so you don’t forget the note in the shuffle of the holiday season. No need to write an essay; it’s the gesture that counts.

DO be yourself

Your SO’s family didn’t invite a well-dressed robot over for dinner; they invited you! So even while you’re following these tips, make sure you’re staying true to yourself.

For example, if you tend to be more introverted, try your best to be sociable, but don’t feel like you need to entirely change your personality to be fun. Be honest and relaxed, and you’re sure to make a good impression. You’re not going to just survive the holidays — you’re going to have a blast!

It goes without saying that you love Christmas, but do you constantly exude joy? Do you unknowingly bring out the best in people, especially the grouches? If you find yourself identifying with most or all of the following statements, chances are you have a deep spiritual connection with the magical man himself. 

1. You may officially be an adult, but your inner child comes out often.

2. You're a bundle of energy all the time. All you need is a nap every so often, but after that you're refueled. Sleep is for the weak, after all!

3. When you get excited about something, you don't just light up like a normal person; you completely lose it. 

4. You're not afraid to call someone out if he or she is clearly in the wrong. 

5. You have an uncontrollable addiction to sugar, but you're working on it (Who are we kidding? No, you're not).

6. You're extremely outgoing and friendly to anybody you encounter, strangers included. 

7. You can be a bit dramatic sometimes. Calm is a state of being of which you are simply not capable.

8. You're very open with your feelings. In fact, they kind of spill out of your mouth before you decide to voice them.

9. You can be a bit of a klutz. Let's just say you unintentionally hurt yourself a lot. 

10. You know what you want and your ambition is admirable, but sometimes you get a bit ahead of yourself. 

11. You don't handle pain very well.

12. You stick up for family members, because nothing is more important than family. Seriously, no one should dare pick on your loved ones, or you'll come for them.

13. Most important of all, you put your brightest face forward all the time, because it's what you do best!