If you’re anything like us, you’re eagerly counting down the days until Season 4 of Girls premieres—until then, you’re probably watching (and re-watching… and re-watching) the new trailer—and still trying to master Shoshanna’s best hairstyles, of course.

Sound like you? Well, we have just what you need to get through the rest of this month! From (arguably) the voice of our generation and the mastermind behind Girls comes the book everybody has been talking about: Lena Dunham’s Not That Kind of Girl. We’re giving away five copies of this hilariously witty collection of personal essays ranging from subjects like losing your virginity (“No floodgate had been opened, no vault of true womanhood unlocked”) to dealing with weight, and being open and unapologetic about it. As Roxane Gay puts it, “Dunham has crafted warm, intelligent writing that is both deeply personal and engaging… [Hers] is not only a voice who deserves to be heard but also one who will inspire other important voices to tell their stories too.” 

It’s a book you won’t want to miss out on, so enter now for your chance to win one of five copies!

As much as we complained about assignments and exams, when we look back on our college days, sometimes it feels like life was a never-ending vacation. Then we graduate, and suddenly we realize life doesn’t consist of spending 24/7 with besties and that FOMO is how we feel about our social life in general, not just how we feel when skipping out on a frat party one weekend. What is it that changes, exactly, the moment we turn our tassels and settle into life as graduettes? Here are a few things.

1. In college, you’re excited about your newfound independence and are ready for a good time.

In the real world, you feel overwhelmed because there are too many responsibilities and you can’t even.

2. In college, you’re surrounded by a bunch of other twentysomethings, and life is a party.

In the real world, you’re surrounded by a bunch of 50-year-old coworkers.

3. In college, your wardrobe doubles because your fashionable roommate lets you wear her clothes.

In the real world, your wardrobe goes back to whatever is in your closet… which is lacking, because more than half your paycheck goes to rent.

4. In college, you have access to a free gym, but never took advantage of it.

In the real world, you pay a pretty penny for a gym membership and still never take advantage of it.

5. In college, going out is a nightly ritual.

In the real world, going out is a rare occasion. You’d rather stay in and watch an SVU marathon because you’re tired.

6. In college, you feel like the most popular girl on campus.

In the real world, making friends is a challenge and you feel #foreveralone. 

7. In college, you have an unlimited supply of food at your fingertips.

In the real world, you’re broke, so you only feast when your parents visit once a year.

8. In college, you drink to get drunk.

In the real world, you drink one glass of wine and fall asleep on the couch.

9. In college, there are so many guys—being single is so. Much. Fun.

In the real world, you realize it’s a lot harder to meet guys, and being single is the worst.

10. In college, spring break is a week full of sunshine, fruity drinks and dancing.

In the real world, spring break is when you’re stuck at work, getting serious FOMO from looking at your Facebook News Feed.

11. In college, you get to wear a sexy costume on Halloween.

In the real world, you get to sit on your porch and pass out candy.

12. In college, you pull all-nighters and don’t schedule anything before noon on Fridays.

In the real world, you go to bed by 10 p.m. every night because you have to wake up early and go to work—yes, even on Fridays.

13. In college, you spend your weekends catching up on homework.

In the real world, you spend your weekends catching up on laundry.

14. In college, you have group projects, which are supposed to prepare you for the real world.

In the real world, you have conference calls, and you still don’t get what anyone is saying.

15. In college, you figure out what you want to be when you grow up.

In the real world, you realize what really matters in life.

Name: Lynn Tilton
Job Title/Description: Owner and CEO of Jane Cosmetics
Website: http://www.janecosmetics.com
Twitter Handle: https://twitter.com/janecosmetics

What does your current job at Jane Cosmetics entail? Is there such a thing as a typical day?

Lynn Tilton: Jane is one of the 75 companies that I own, and it’s one of the four beauty companies that I own and also serve as CEO. So, my role at Jane is to be the Chief Executive Officer, and I also own the company; it’s part of a platform that’s the largest female-owned business in America.

Really this company and this product line give me the ability to send a message from my heart that kindness is the new cool and that beauty unites us in appreciation and awe. I hope that it shows women that they can be whatever they want to be, but that starts with us being kind to one another. So this brand is my opportunity to reach back to younger women to try to give them the benefits of my wisdom and my journey.

What is the best part of your job?

LT: I think for me, I’m a lover of product, and it’s really across everything. I love product, and every company begins with product. There are only two things people want from product: Design and disruption. They want to be enveloped in elegance and inspired by science and technology. And that’s what we’re trying to do here, is give people true innovation they haven’t seen before while giving them in beauty.

Outer beauty leads to confidence, which leads to inner beauty and generosity and spirit. That’s why I think cosmetics unite us in terms of the confidence that comes from beauty.

Jane Cosmetics has had a lot of stuff come out recently! Can you talk about projects you’ve been working on as well as give us any sneak peeks of what else to expect?

LT: We originally launched the brand very, very quickly. It’s made in America, which is really important to me. And we started out with a lot of color because we wanted to empower women to express their individuality. But now we’re starting to look at our customer and who she is, and now we’ve really tried getting away from darker packaging and really into the lilac orchids that showcase the beauty of [the Jane girl’s] spirit.

We have some really exciting products coming out in the next couple of months. First we have a split lipstick, which everyone loves, because it’s two shades in one that you can mix together. It really holds color but also soothes lips. That product has been doing really well amongst editors and such.

We also have a crushed velvet volumizing mascara. It’s got a great brush that really separates the lashes. It also comes in different colors, like cobalt, burgundy and purple. They’re fun and hold color. It’s just a great product to add to the collection.

It’s been amazing to see people going crazy over our formulas, and it’s really awesome to bring that to the market.

I also saw that Jane has a wonderful Buy One Give One campaign. Could you talk more about that initiative and what it hopes to achieve?

LT: With these products, you get to have this incredible beauty brand, but you also get to do something good. For every product you buy, we give one to a shelter for battered women. Jane’s tagline is “compassionate is contagious,” and it is a philanthropic brand.

So not only are you buying the product that you want to use, but you’re actually helping a woman less fortunate in your community. We’re hoping this will really catch on. We’re all women, and we all need help at some point. This is hopefully teaching women that there’s more to be gained through giving, and that confidence and that inner beauty is really what allows us to have the confidence in who we are.

In other words, the product itself should be enough, but the added bonus of giving should be extra spectacular in this equation.

What is one thing you wish you knew about your industry when you first started out that you know now?

LT: I think it’s probably the importance of marketing. It’s creating the community and giving people something to be a part of. It’s not just about product, but how you bring people to that product. How do you make them part of your community?

If there’s one thing I still want to accomplish in the beauty industry, it’s that interactive relationship with my end consumer. How do I bring that inner makeup artist and education to a young woman or girl?

That’s one thing I’m still learning, and I’m trying to bring that into the technology. We want people to not just use the product but also feel comfortable when using the product.

What advice would you give to a 20-something with similar aspirations?

LT: I think the beauty industry is all about passion, especially passion for product. I think one of the great things is that you can be a creative force and still go into business when you go into beauty. You can be someone who really loves design and still be a businessperson. That’s what beauty offers.

It’s all about mixing the qualitative and quantitative; you need to understand that it’s great to follow your heart in beauty, but you also need to remember that it’s a business and you need to make money!

Collegiettes, it's never too early to make plans for the holiday season (even if it seems like finals will never end)—and yes, that includes your party wardrobe. With the multitude of upcoming December soirées that you've RSVPed to, now is the time to put together the perfect looks! But of course, we know that party dresses don't come cheap—so we've done the work for you and pulled together seven gorgeous holiday dresses that are on sale now—at every price point. Happy holidays shopping! 

1. LC Lauren Conrad Fit & Flare Organza Dress - Kohl's

Was $68, Now $39.99 + 20% off with code DASHER*

This dress’s gauzy fabric and big bow are not just elegant and chic but also festive. The unexpectedly high neck gives it an edge over the traditional holiday dress silhouette, too. You’ll look like a total fairy princess! *(Discount available until 12/8)

2. Rosette Soutache Strapless Dress - Delia's

Was $59.90, Now $29.95

If you’re going for a pop of color among the LBDs and sparkly numbers, try a soft pink. While all the other ladies are wearing that candy cane red, you’ll stand out in the crowd!

3. Maison Jules Sleeveless Sequined Pleated Dress - Macy's

Was $79.50, Now $54.99

The shape of this sheath is simple, but the lovely sequins and pleats lend an effortless edge. We know what you’re thinking; it may be a bit too brisk for a sleeveless dress of this length. Solution: Black tights and a structured blazer will keep you warm without distracting from your enchanting frock. 

4. Keepsake All Through the Night Dress - Revolve Clothing

Was $200, Now $120

Little black dresses are always our go-to when we just can’t decide what to wear. Even if you’re unsure of the dress code, this flouncy yet sleek design will do the trick for any affair. And as a bonus, you can wear it all year round! 

5. BCBGMAXAZRIA ‘Marina’ Dress - Bluefly

Was $398, Now $168

Jewelry always adds a touch of glamour to any outfit, but with this dress, the bling is included. Add to that the tiered satin ruching and illusion neckline, and we’re sold!

6. Metallic Fit and Flare Dress - Vince Camuto

Was $188, Now $149

Want to try out metallics but not sure when the flashy hues are appropriate? Holiday parties are the ideal time to throw every possible ounce of glitter, sparkle, and pizazz into your wardrobe. If you’re still a tad timid, the black stripes break up the shine so you won’t go overboard.

7. Jill Jill Stuart Down with Love Shift - Rent the Runway

Was $388, Now $70 to 80

Since you only attend holiday parties once or twice a year, why not rent a dress instead of buying one? With Rent the Runway, you can rent designer dresses for super low prices and then send them back when you’re done with them. Très simple!

So, you have the attire inspiration and a jump on the best sales. All you need are the perfect accessories! Now... what to wear the rest of the holiday season?

Which of these steals will you be donning on the party circuit this holiday season? Where do you find the best deals on dresses this time of year?
 

College Fashion Week 2014 has come to a close, but the fun's not over yet! In case you couldn't make it to one of our shows across the country (or did, and just want to relive the fabulousness), we've got the inside scoop on what you missed! The spectacular events in Boston, New York, Chicago and San Francisco featured collegiettes as models, performers and VIP attendees! Get the full experience; watch our stellar tour recap below! Who knows? You may even spot yourself or a friend on screen!

Check out all of the other fabulous coverage of our cross-country fashion week at CollegeFashionWeek.com! Stay tuned for details of College Fashion Week 2015 - we might even bring the catwalk to campus in YOUR city!

During finals week, we all have a tendency to embellish the truth a bit. Whether we're pretending to have it all together while we're really falling apart or we're pretending to fall apart while we're really just watching movies in bed, here are a few things we've all been guilty of saying—and what we're actually trying to say. 

1. What we say: “Want to study with me?”

What we mean: “Want to reteach me everything I should have learned this semester?”

2. What we say: “Will this exam be open book?”

What we mean: “Will I have one fewer exam to study for?”

3. What we say: “I haven’t slept in three days!”

What we mean: “I’ve been staying up all night watching Netflix and taking eight-hour naps during the day.”

4. What we say: “I’ve been studying like crazy.”

What we mean: “I’ve spent more time making flash cards than actually reviewing the material.”

5. What we say: “Yeah, I did a little bit of studying for this one.” 

What we mean: “I’m totally prepared, but I don’t feel like helping you study.”

6. What we say: “Seriously, I don’t even care about this class.”

What we mean: “The chances of me passing this final are slim to none.”

7. What we say: “I didn’t think that exam was too bad.”

What we mean: “I totally aced it.”

8.What we say: “We should compare notes.”

What we mean: “You should let me copy your notes.”

9. What we say: “I’m just going to take a quick power nap.”

What we mean: “I’m going to slip into a three-hour coma.”

10. What we say: “We should team up and study as a group!”

What we mean: “You should do all the work.”

11. What we say: “I didn’t realize that final was going to be cumulative.”

What we mean: “I just failed that final.”

12. What we say: “I’m going to hit the library super early tomorrow.”

What we mean: “I’m going to set my alarm for 8 a.m. and keep hitting snooze until noon.”

13. What we say: “I’m going to be in the library all day.”

What we mean: “I’m going to be in the library procrastinating on the Internet all day.”

14. What we say: “Is there going to be a review session?”

What we mean: “Will someone be telling me what this exam is on?”

15. What we say: “Okay, I really need to study now.”

What we mean: “I’m going to procrastinate for another few hours.”

16. What we say: “Finals week calories don’t count!”

What we mean: “I’m eating my feelings.”

17. What we say: “Maybe I shouldn’t have skipped as many classes as I did.”

What we mean: “I’m probably going to have to take this class again next semester.”

We all need a little guidance now and then, so whether you’re stressed about a fling gone wrong, a recently wrecked relationship or how to handle a stage-five clinger, Real Live College Guy Dale is here to help you navigate the college dating scene.

I have a huge crush on this guy at the gym! He is there every morning, and I really want to talk to him. The other day, I was going to ask him how to work out a certain muscle, but my nerves stopped me from doing so. How do I get the courage to finally talk to this guy? Also, I don't want this to go nowhere, like me just asking him a question and then waiting for weeks on end for him to talk to me again. Please give me some advice! Also, I have never met him or spoken to him before. –Ripped at Rutgers

Rutgers,

There is perhaps nothing more awkward than asking someone out in his or her most disheveled state: post- or mid-workout, drenched in sweat, gasping for breath. Right off the bat, I can’t say I’d suggest doing that.

Of course, that isn’t to say that your idea of asking him for help wasn’t clever, but let me put things in a different light for you: You already have the courage to work out in front of dozens of other people. That right there? Hell, that takes more courage than asking someone out, at least in my opinion. People staring at you, possibly judging you for using a machine incorrectly? Just the thought of it makes my skin crawl (which is why I haven’t hit the gym in… oh, look at that, ever).

You’re already working out in front of other people, Rutgers. You don’t need more courage, per se; you need to get an actual plan.

My advice to you is that you shouldn’t ask him out in between routines. That’s awkward. Working out is private, personal time. He, much like you, didn’t go to the gym to get hit on. I think your best bet is catching up with him as he’s leaving and asking him out then.

Or, you could pursue your, “I need help with this workout…” option and, instead of asking him out then, throw out the offer of grabbing a drink with him after you’re both done. I don’t mean alcohol here, by the way; I mean Gatorade or protein shakes or whatever it is people drink at the gym. Be casual about it, and don’t be upset if he says no.

Finals week is coming up, which means work, studying and, more importantly, procrastinating. We can't help it. As hard as we try, YouTube videos of babies eating limes will always grab our attention more easily than statistics. Keep reading for a list of things we all do to procrastinate.

1. Watch every season of The O.C.

2. Argue with your friends that Seth Cohen is in fact way hotter than Ryan Atwood.

3. Creep on your friend's mom's friend's daughter's prom pictures.

4. Sit on your couch with your roommate in complete silence.

5. Read through and laugh at your own tweets.

6. Find a picture to Instagram and just stare at your phone waiting for likes.

7. Online shop until you overdraft.

8. Check Facebook on your phone, then go on your computer and look at Facebook there, too.

9. Watch Friends bloopers from seasons one through 10.

10. Get into the weird part of YouTube.

A three-year-old who smokes a pack a day? Damn.

11. Cook a five-course meal for the first time ever instead of getting takeout.

12. Catch up on the past few episodes of The Kardashians and rant to your roommate about how Kourtney needs to cut Scott some slack.

13. Paint your nails and change your color choice at least three times.

14. Straighten your hair one strand at a time.

15. Try on every outfit in your closet to plan what to wear to a party you're going to in three weeks.

16. Check your hair for split ends.

17. And just generally stare into empty space.

Oh hey, finals season. Aren’t we happy to see you… not. Finals season means it's time to write those final papers, but getting a 10-pager done is the definition of struggle. While we’re trying to write final essays, here are the thoughts that go through our (and every other girl’s) head.

1. Okay, let’s do this. I can totally get 10 pages done tonight.

2. I’m putting on SelfControl so that I don’t check Facebook for the next hour. Productivity mode: ON.

3. Hey, this actually isn't so bad. Fifteen minutes and I've already written a good first paragraph!

4. Plow through! Plow through!

5. I’ve been writing for an hour and I only have a page written? Ugh, I’m such a slow writer.

6. Maybe I should take a Facebook break. I deserve it.

7. Is “disinstitutionalized” a word? No, definitely not.

8. Okay, Mozart’s putting me to sleep. Time for some Britney. She’ll get me pumped up.

9. This is horrible. I want to be done. Can I be done yet?

10. MLA format can go bury itself in a hole.

11. Have I earned a snack break yet?

12. Wait, how did I end up online shopping?

13. Why is the guy at the table next to me in the library snoring so loud? Wake up, you foolish bro!

14. Maybe if I increase the period size to 14-point font I’ll have 10 pages. Is that cheating? Maybe I shouldn’t do that; I’d feel bad. But it’ll get me to 10 pages! Why do I have a conscience?

15. I have been sitting here for SO. LONG. My butt definitely fell asleep.

16. Snack time!

17. Okay, 9.5 pages. Time to whip out a conclusion. That’s basically the easiest part... right?

18. Does my thesis even make sense?

19. Welp, it’s too late now, I’ve written the whole thing. Hopefully it makes sense.

20. How does anyone remember how to cite sources off the top of their head? I always have to Google it.

21. That was torture. I’m never doing it ever again.

And when you hit “Print”...

22. FREEDOM! HELLO, SWEET WORLD! I’M SO HAPPY TO BE A PART OF YOU AGAIN.

Somehow all the papers get written and the tests get taken. You can do it, collegiettes! Kick those finals in the you-know-where! 

This time every year, we start keeping our eyes out for all the beauty collections that are released—often in limited edition—around the holidays. As beauty junkies, we want to get our hands on all of them—the packaging is always beautiful and the products never disappoint. But since we can't have everything in life, we've picked out the best of the best of this year's holiday collections! Come Christmas morning, we have high hopes that these will all be under our trees... though we certainly won't complain if they arrive before then (hint, hint). Check them out below!

1. Urban Decay "Naked On The Run" Limited Edition palette, $54, Nordstrom

There is a reason everyone is so obsessed with Urban Decay's Naked collections. The colors are beyond perfect for gorgeous, natural no-makeup makeup looks, and this palette has the ideal combination to create a fresh daytime or sexy nighttime look. It even includes contouring shades and mascara (what more do you need before you walk out the door?!). And 'Resist,' the eyeshadow color in the middle, is a beautiful smoky shade that you can dust all over your eyes to create an easy and instant sexy makeup look.

2. Michael Kors Collection Mini Coffret, $40, Macy's

These Michael Kors fragrances are not only in packaged beautifully, but the three scents ('Sporty Citrus,''Sexy Amber' and 'Glam Jasmine') fit any mood you might be in when you're getting ready to walk out the door. Also, the small sizes (0.24 oz each) are perfect for traveling, making your life at airport security that much easier. You can even mix and match—'Sexy Amber' and 'Glam Jasmine' smell great together and would be a good fit for those upcoming holiday parties!

3. Bliss Limited Edition Triple Oxygen Glow-Getting Value Set, $64, Neiman Marcus

Did you know the Victoria's Secret models depend on Bliss Oxygen facials to get that radiant glow on their skin before they hit the runway? Take a page out of their book and try Bliss Spa's Triple Oxygen kit. This beauty set is perfect for that friend who is obsessed with skincare... but we won't tell if you pick one up for yourself, too.

4. Tarte Kiss & Belle Lipsurgence Lip Set, $34, Sephora

It's no secret that rocking a lip color is the easiest way to glam up your makeup look with minimal effort. These Tarte LipSurgence lip tints are must-haves, and these mini sizes are great for slipping into your clutch for the night. Not only do they give your lips gorgeous color, but they also have an antioxidant rich formula to hydrate your lips—New Year's kiss, anyone?

5. Laura Mercier Body & Bath Ambre Vanillè Luxe Quartet, $68, Bloomingdales

If you liked our picks for luxurious bathtime products, then you'll love this Laura Mercier set. The delicious scent of vanilla and amber will spoil you this winter, and the honey bath is the perfect pair for your next bubble bath. Buff your way to gorgous skin with the gentle body scrub and moisturize with the smooth soufflé body crème. Reach for the body shimmer mist before you hit the town—adding a bit of shine to your legs will instantly elongate and slim their appearance!

Collegiettes—which sets will you be gifting (or keeping for yourself... shh!) this holiday season?

Ugly Christmas sweaters are the holiday-themed clothing that everyone loves to hate. If you can look past the itchy fabric, the gaudy color schemes, the pom-poms and the slight tackiness of this holiday staple, you might be able to love it (and not just ironically)! Wearing an ugly Christmas sweater is just as much as a holiday tradition as getting treats in your stocking or bundling up in the cold, and there’s no reason you can’t look cute in one. Rock these looks over Christmas break to take an ugly Christmas sweater from drab to fab!

1. Tough and edgy
 

Prepare to divert all of your great-aunt’s awkward questions about your love life at the family party in this tough-chick spin on the ugly Christmas sweater. This edgy look paired with the silliness of an ugly Christmas sweater will play up both your serious and sassy sides.

2. Cute and girly
 

Wear this adorable look when going to a family party or Christmas dinner. Find a darker shade of the color of your sweater and match your tights to it (for example, if the main color of your sweater is moss green, your tights could be forest green). Wear a black skater skirt on top and tuck your ugly Christmas sweater into the skirt. To finish off this charming outfit, tie a ribbon of the same color scheme in your hair and slip on some patterned flats.

3. Total Christmas look
 

The one time to go all out on Christmas cheer? Your annual family holiday card! Keep your look modern with black jeans and ankle booties, but show off your holiday spirit with dangly Christmas tree earrings. If you want to add even more Christmas spirit to your look, don the ever-classic Santa hat!

4. Comfy and practical
 

This outfit is great for running last-minute errands before the holidays. Rather than wearing your same old school sweatshirt, slip on an ugly Christmas sweater. Pick a basic undershirt in white or black (depending on the sweater) and layer the ugly Christmas sweater on top. Wear skinny jeans and a pair of black sneakers or flats. Having your Christmas sweater as the only color on your outfit will make your kitschy pullover pop! If you want to accessorize, top off your look with a woolen knit hat in black or white.

5. Sexy and spirited
 

Think there’s no way to look sexy in a Christmas sweater? Think again! Rock your festive cardigan at an ugly Christmas sweater party by pairing it with a crop top and some tight, high-waisted, acid-wash jeans. Finish this outfit with black leather over-the-knee boots, and everyone will be trying to bring you near the mistletoe.

Ugly Christmas sweaters may not be your favorite piece of clothing, but with these great tips, you can look cute in them no matter the occasion!
 

What do we look for in our makeup? We want effective products that do what they promise, ones that enhance our natural beauty and are good for our skin. And there’s one brand that consistently comes to mind because it delivers all this and more, every single time.

Created to bring “real results for real women,” editor- and cult-favorite beauty brand tarte cosmetics offers cruelty-free products ranging from skincare to makeup, all carefully formulated and beautifully packaged in palettes, tubes and jars so pretty you’ll pick up extra just to dress up your vanity. Three lucky winners will each snag a $200 tarte gift card! We’re partial to the brand’s famous maracuja oil, a miracle treatment that brightens, rejuvenates and hydrates skin, but are also obsessed with their Amazonian clay products (seriously, the highly-pigmented colors do not budge!) and the pout-perfecting lip tints (how cute are these pencils?). Everything is made with good-for-you ingredients like super fruit extracts, essential oils, vitamins and minerals—and without parabens, phthalates, sodium lauryl sulfate… the kinds of things you definitely don’t want anywhere near your face.

Bonus: tarte is also inviting all Her Campus readers to join in on their Friends & Family sale! From December 8 through December 11, get 30 percent off everything at tarte.com with code DECFNF (see tarte’s site for full details).

Ready to take your makeup to the next level?Enter now for a chance to win one of 3 $200 tarte gift cards!

When most people think of sex, a vagina and a penis come to mind. Therefore, when it comes to sex between two girls, they might know what to think at all. We can probably thank the hypersexualized images we see in the media for that (Brittana and their fondness for scissoring, anyone?), and, unsurprisingly, those images can be far from the truth.

Here are some common things you’ve probably heard about girl-on-girl sex—and why they’re totally not true at all.

1. The only way two girls can have sex is through oral sex

Since so many people think of sex in such a heteronormative, or straight, way, many people think that oral sex is the only way that two girls can get it on. However, many people fail to realize that sex isn’t just direct vaginal contact.

Sex educator and human sexuality expert Dr. Justine Shuey explains that there are a ton of ways for two girls to be intimate that don’t involve oral.

“Two women can engage in a variety of sexual behaviors not limited to oral sex, including tribadism, manual stimulation, sex toys, kink behaviors, tantric sex, anal stimulation,” Dr. Shuey says.

Whether it’s massaging, fingering, using vibrators or dildos or even kink and BDSM, the definition of sex can be expanded in many different ways. At the end of the day, sex can really be defined as simply as people pleasuring each other. It shouldn’t ever be limited or have boundaries put on it, because it really is what you make of it!\

2. Girls who have sex with only girls don't have to worry about STIs

In health class, you’re usually taught that you can get STIs by having sex with a guy. But just because you were never taught about how STIs are transmitted from girl to girl doesn’t mean it can’t happen.

“Sexually transmitted infections do not discriminate,” Dr. Shuey says. “It's not about who is having sex with who, but rather what is touching what.”

Even if you are only having oral sex, she says you are still at risk for a variety of STIs that can be found in any sort of sexual interaction.

“Individuals can get STIs like gonorrhea and chlamydia from oral sex, and herpes and HPV are transmitted through skin-to-skin contact alone,” Dr. Shuey says. “It is also possible to transmit infections via shared sex toys that are porous or not properly sterilized.”

In this case, protection is still totally necessary for safe girl-on-girl sex. While dental dams have gotten a bad rap in the past due to the lack of sensation that girls claim to experience, there are tons of fun and sexy ways to use them that’ll be great for you and your partner. There is a bunch of awesome ways to manipulate the material to snap and tug at your partner during sex. Different kinds of condoms can also be fun to put on sex toys. From ribbed to icy/hot, some condoms can create incredible sensations that’ll be awesome for both you and your partner. You can find all these fun things, like condoms, dental dams and lube, in your campus health clinic or even your LGBTQ+ resource center.

3. Girls automatically know how to please each other

There’s a common misconception that because cis girls have the same parts, they know exactly how to get their partners excited. While it’s definitely important to know your own body and what turns you on, what works for you won’t necessarily work for your partner, even if you have all the same parts. Even though you might like your partner to pay more attention to your boobs, she might want you to move further south.

“People should know how to please themselves, but that doesn't mean they do,” Dr. Shuey says. “Different people like different things, so just because one person enjoys it doesn't mean the other person will enjoy the same types of stimulation.”

Just like in any sexual interaction with any other person, you need to be able to communicate with your partner efficiently in order to find exactly what she wants and vice versa. You want to be confident and know that you’re both having fun, so make sure you’re reading her body language for an awesome time!

4. Lesbians don't like penetration

Even though lesbians aren’t sexually attracted to men, that doesn’t mean they don’t like penetration. Attraction to a certain gender is a completely unrelated from the feelings that you actually want to experience in the bedroom.

“Different people enjoy different types of stimulation, and everybody is different,” Dr. Shuey says. “Some enjoy vaginal penetration; some enjoy anal penetration and stimulation. The genitals are rich with nerve endings.”

There are many lesbians who really enjoy being fingered, playing with dildos and vibrators and other forms of penetration. Just because lesbians don’t like men doesn’t mean they don’t like the feeling of something inside of them.

5. If a girl's partner wears a strap-on, she actually wants to have sex with a man

While they might not for everyone, there are many girls who find strap-ons super pleasurable for the wearer and the receiver. A lot of girls find it sexy and fun to have them around in the bedroom. However, many people think strap-ons are a replacement for sex with a man’s penis, which Dr. Shuey says is definitely not true.

“A strap-on may be similar, but is not the same as having sex with a man,” she says.

There are a bunch of different reasons why a girl might find wearing (or her partner wearing) a strap-on sexy. It can be a sort of power play in the bedroom between you and your partner. It can also be as simple as just wanting to be penetrated while looking at the beautiful woman who just happens to be penetrating you with a bright purple dildo strapped to her hips. Whatever the reason, it’s not because she wants to be with a guy.

6. Scissoring is something that happens in every girl-on-girl sexual encounter

If there is any one sexual act that is specifically used to stereotype the queer-girl community, it would probably be tribadism, or scissoring. Scissoring is the act of two girls spreading their legs opposite of each other and rubbing their genitals against each other. This myth has become increasingly popular thanks to TV shows like South Park, and for some reason people haven’t been able to let it go. While it is something that some girls do choose to take part in, the same cannot be said for every girl.

“Some lesbians enjoy tribadism, while others do not,” Dr. Shuey says. “It is about personal preference.”

Scissoring can be pretty difficult for many partners due to factors like a significant height difference. Let’s be honest; no one wants to get it on with a foot in her face. 

7. Every girl is either a top or a bottom

When it comes to homosexuality and queerness in general, there’s often pressure to label everything. A lot of these things tend to be gendered, such as who is the top and who is the bottom, which can be very problematic. The bottom is usually the person receiving the sexual action, such as penetration, oral, etc., while the top is doing the action. However, each girl taking on a specific role is not the case in every queer-girl sexual encounter.

“There are very few ‘rules’ when it comes to sexual expression, and people can be as fluid as they want in their sexuality and sexual expression,” Dr. Shuey says. “Sexual orientation is about who someone is sexually and emotionally attracted [to], not about the sexual behaviors someone chooses to engage in.”

As you can probably tell from this list of myths, nothing about sexuality is completely consistent. Ranging from person to person, pleasure is completely dependent on the individual and can never be set in stone. With that being said, you should never feel like your sexuality and what you enjoy is being forced into a box or needs to look like one specific scenario. Take charge of your own sex life and make sure that it’s whatever you want it to be!

With the holidays in full swing, it’s time to get down to business: What’s on your wish list? While we're especially excited to spend time with our family and friends (winter break can't come soon enough!), we definitely wouldn't mind that pair of leather booties we've been eyeing for the past few weeks! We checked in with our Catwalk to Campus bloggers to get the scoop on what they're coveting most this season—so if you need some gift inspiration for yourself, check out what’s at the top of these collegiettes’ lists!

1. Sophie Dodd - Michael Kors 'Bradshaw' Chronograph Watch ($250)

"The boyfriend style and the black face add a little something different to a watch everyone seems to have. It's a huge splurge but I know I'll have it for years."

2. Erin Crabtree - Madewell Mini Transport Crossbody bag ($148)

"I'm dying for this Madewell leather crossbody bag. It's a smaller take on everyone's favorite carry-all style that will really come in handy when I get back on campus next semester!"

3. Sarah Kim - Hunter Original Translucent Boots ($250)

"I just love the translucent blue color and that you can wear it all winter and spring. It's a great twist on the original Hunter rain boots."

4. Mary Page Nesfeder - Kelsi Dagger Fame Booties ($185)

"I hope to wear them all the time—with jeans and leggings. They add a bit of edge to any outfit."

5. Caroline Pirozzolo - Rebecca Minkoff 'Mini Mac' Bag in black ($195)

"I love it because it's such a classic shape and it's the perfect investment piece. I'm also obsessed with the black hardware, it makes it look so edgy and unique!"

It looks like these ladies are all about footwear and accessories this holiday season! Here's to hoping these wishes come true—and for even more inspiration, whether for yourself or someone else, be sure to check out our gift guide!

Many people dread winter because of the cold and sometimes icky weather, but honestly, it’s our favorite time of the year! With all of the happenings that are on the horizon, it’ll soon be your be yours, too! Something tells us this is going to be a season to remember, so don’t miss out on what’s to come. Here’s why we can’t wait for this winter:

1. Winter-themed drinks

Starbucks always brings back its novelty drinks (featuring flavors like peppermint and gingerbread) during the snowy season, but it’s new additions like the Chestnut Praline Latté that have us obsessing this winter!

2. The season’s biggest blockbusters

Between the third installment of Night at the Museum, the remake of Annie and the star-studded release of Into the Woods, our winter break plans are set. If you need to find us, we’ll be at the movies!

3. L’OcciBox

We’re treating ourselves this season with L’Occitane’s all-new sampling program, L’OcciBox, which lets you try out a selection of the brand’s hottest products for just $15 a box (Little-known secret: you can score it in store or online, and you can use the promo code ‘DISCOVER’ at the register or at checkout to get a discount)! Plus, each time a new box is released, it’ll feature a new batch of products, allowing you to taste a little of all things luxe. Amazing, right?!

4. Celebrity babies

There are a bunch of A-list babies arriving between now and early next year, but we’re most excited for Kourtney Kardashian’s chubby-cheeked addition! We’re not counting down the days or anything, but when is baby #3 going to arrive already?!

5. More snow days

We’re hearing that this winter is going to be especially bad, and you know what that means… snow days! There’s no other thrill than the one you get when school is cancelled (and snowball fights commence). Our fingers are crossed for a blizzard or two!

6. One Direction’s TV Special

We’re trying to maintain our composure, but inside, we’re totally fangirling. Tragically, NBC hasn’t revealed any details of what the TV special will be about, but we’re assuming there will be lots of Harry Styles and amazing music (obvi), so count us in.

7. Colorful Beanies

A few years ago, it seemed like beanies were such a guy thing, but that’s so not true anymore! They’re such a fun accessory to rock, so we can’t wait to break our new ones in – especially ones in bright, winter weather-defeating colors!

Between all of the awesome movie marathons, cozy fashions and obsession-worthy beauty products this season has in store, we hope this wonderful winter never, ever ends!

Brace yourself: finals are coming, and suddenly the phrase, “You know nothing, Jon Snow” has never been more appropriate in your entire life. But have no fear; the characters of Game of Thrones are here, and they're going to help you through your exams and right onto the Iron Throne (except your Iron Throne is made of As).

So, it’s finals week, and it’s easy to feel like:

But hey, at least the school gives you an extra day off for "reading," right?

It’s alright; you need a day to de-stress from all of the hard work you’ve done this semester.

When your parents call to tell you that you should probably start studying, you’re like,

But when you grab your books and a few dozen cups of coffee and start studying for the exam you have the next day, it's like,

It's a little rough at first, but once you get started, you're unstoppable.

Inevitably, someone emails you for your baller study guide, and you're like,

More often than not it’s someone who never goes to class, so you pity him like the peasant he is. 

About halfway through your all-nighter, you’re like: 

"It's all your fault, books! You and your words."

Because you’re starting to feel like the world is telling you:

You know nothing, [insert name here].

And you're beginning to come to terms with it.

Until you realize that you need an 85 or higher on this exam to pass the class.

Some know-it-all from your study group tries to explain the information to you, and you’re like:

Even though, more often then not, you do not, in fact, know how to do it.  

You start to get hungry while you're studying, and all thoughts turn to pizza.

So, you cave and get it delivered to the library, and when it gets there, you're like: 

People start asking you if you think you're going to pass your exams, and you're like:

Your friends start asking you how you've been awake all this time.

You get a little tired, so you decide to take a nap. Finals week is the perfect time for a nap...

Moral of the story: Don't nap for too long or you'll... fall to your death?

After drooling on your books (hey, we've all been there), you finally emerge from the library like:

"Is this what daylight feels like?"

So you get into your exam, and you’re like:

You've got hours of fake studying under your belt and a false sense of confidence. Better than nothing! 

Your professor starts handing out exams and you start feeling like he sort of enjoys this...

And you wish you could be like: 

You get stumped on a question or two, so you just start guessing.

"I'll just put C. It's always C."

And at times you feel like:

Sometimes you’re even like: 

"No, really - I need to know!"

But by the end, you walk up to your professor and you drop your exam like: 

And you leave the room like: 

"Don't hate me cause you ain't me." -You, on your way out the door.

Until you realize that you have another exam tomorrow.

Better get back in the library! 

But don't worry - just take a look at Richard Madden and Kit Harington some more, and it will be all better! 

Look! A real knight in shining armor! He's coming to save you from your finals, ladies! 

And he's - I'm sorry, I got a little distracted...

Happy finals! Now go take what is yours with fire and blood! 

If for whatever reason your recent trips to Starbucks are not cutting it anymore—maybe there’s too much hustle and bustle for you, or perhaps the coffee isn’t satisfying your java-seasoned taste buds anymore—don’t give up because the coffee behemoth is launching a new chain of stores that may be the refresher you need!

As of Friday, the very first Starbucks Reserve Roastery and Tasting Room has opened for business in Seattle. And yes, the new chain is almost as fancy as it sounds. The company’s objective for Starbucks Reserve is to offer customers an immersive experience in the high-end coffee market, according to Business Insider. 

At the flagship location in Seattle, you can perch yourself behind a cordoned-off area of the sprawling space and observe for yourself the coffee bean roasting process, as if you’re inside an episode of How It Works. As for the coffee, you can expect a menu of handcrafted, small-batch blends. In other words, super special coffee that will most definitely taste amazing. 

With plans to open 100 more Reserve locations, Starbucks sure has a big agenda for this venture. Although you won’t be finding a gleaming 15,000 square-foot location at every other corner in your nearest large city, visiting one will be a special experience. We have a feeling Starbucks Reserve be giving swanky boutique coffee shops, like Nespresso Bar, a good run for their money... and we have to say, we're kind of dying to make one of these shops our new go-to study spot.

Though it’s not yet clear what the price of premium cup of coffee will cost you, we’re guessing it’s going to be more than what you pay for your usual grande caramel macchiato. Since an eight-ounce package of Reserve’s high-end beans can cost between $13 and $50, it might be safe to assume that this won’t be the place for your daily caffeine fix, but who says you can't come here to read a book or catch up with a friend?

You're only awake thanks to caffeine, and for the past several nights, you've called a library desk your "bed." Yep, collegiettes, it's finals week—which means there are more things on your to-do list than there are hours in the day. Real pants? Psh—the idea of sliding into a pair of skinny jeans only occurs in your worst nightmares right now. But those oversized sweats you got on sale at the campus bookstore... we won't lie, those just aren't going to cut it. Fortunately, somewhere between jeans and PJs exist pants you can wear in public that feel just like your most lived-in pair of at-home-only leggings! Check out our selects below, and ace finals week style this year! 

1. Fall florals

These Drapey Floral Pants ($69.50) from Ann Taylor Loft give the impression that you spent time getting ready this morning! They're sophisticated and chic, but the slouchy fit means you can still hole up in the library all day, feeling like you're in loungewear.

2. Slim-fit sweats

True life: You can wear sweats around campus, and here's the proof. These slim-fit, Zip-Pocket Track Pants ($44.95) from the Gap are basically your generic sweatpants' chic older sister. Made with 100 percent cotton, they're roomy enough through the hips to be seated at a desk all day (probably while chowing down on snacks... oops) but the tapering around the ankles creates a more flattering fit.

3. Athletic-inspired

The sporty look is totally in this season, so why not take advantage during finals? Wear these Jogging Pants ($39.95) from H&M with stylish slip-ons rather than your usual gym shoes to give them the jock-like vibe without looking like you came straight from the gym. Bonus: These feature an elastic waistband!

4. Denim vs. sweats

Are these jeans? Are these sweats?! The good news is, they're a little bit of both. Sweats that look like jeans are kind of the holy grail of finals style, and these Serena Jogger pants ($98) from Mavi are it. 

While we can't help you pass your finals with flying colors, this guide to finals week style will at least get you a passing grade on your campus catwalk strut!

So you didn't meet anyone you were into all semester, and then a week or two before break, the cutie in your psych class finally decided to talk to you. Worst timing ever, right? Whether you want to keep the conversation rolling or not, you have to wrap things up with your crush. We found out how to do this, depending on your situation.

The situation: You want to keep your crush around

If you’ve been talking

Let’s say that you and your crush usually study after class together or meet up at a certain bar with mutual friends. If nothing has happened between you two but you don’t want him or her out of your life, “have a final hangout like usual, in person,” says Laurel House, a dating coach and author ofScrewing the Rules: the No-Games Guide to Love. “Maybe suggest hanging out lightly if you are going to be in the same place. Be aware of his cues that he wants to see you, too.”

If you and your crush have only been texting or having short conversations, Mike Goldstein, a professional dating coach, suggests that you text the person to let him or her know you’re interested. Say something like, “‘It was great getting to know you. I can’t wait to get to know you better,’” Goldstein says. “Give them some sort of compliment. If he’s interested, he’ll understand that you are, too.”

Whatever you do, “go in with the confidence that they might be into you,” House says. “Be enthusiastic, and don’t push it.”

Say you’d love to hear about his or her break and that you’ll let him or her know how yours is going. “Text him one week into break and tell him something that’s not, ‘how are you?’” House says. She suggests you say something along the lines of, “‘I did [fill in the blank] and it made me think of you,’ and always ask a question so he has a reason to respond.”

If you haven’t been talking

So you’ve had your eye on someone for a while now, but you never got around to making a move. Is the end of the semester too late? For Goldstein, the answer is “no.”

His advice is to “make eye contact, wave or say ‘cheers’ [if you’re at a bar].” Goldstein explains that nonverbal language like this is a great way to express interest without freaking the person out.

If you guys have class together, House suggests waiting until your last lecture to say something like, “I’m going to miss seeing you every week! Hopefully we will have another class together next semester.” If you’re feeling daring, you can even try out this flirty line: “I loved our little glances during class. Maybe next year we can take those glances out of the classroom.”

“Yes, it’s forward, but it will definitely drive your point home!” House says.

If you and your crush hang out with the same social group, House suggests saying something like, “It’s too bad we didn’t get to know each other a little better this semester. I think you and I have a lot in common. But there’s always next semester…”

Finally, if your crush is someone you always see around campus, “make it a point to run into them and say, ‘It's so funny, we seem to always see each other in passing! Maybe next semester we can actually make a plan to hang out,’" House says. “If they seem into it too, suggest that you exchange cell phone numbers!”

If you don’t feel comfortable flirting so openly, body language is your ally. “Move in and out of his comfort space,” Goldstein says. “This should build some sexual tension and show that maybe you are interested in being more than friends.”

If you think your crush might like you back, it could be a good idea to approach him or her properly come the new semester. Some subtle ways to do this include little tricks like “ask[ing] him to take a picture of you and your friends,” Goldstein says. “Perhaps this will [make you] engage in conversation.” But the most effective way to make a move is to “just go talk to him!” Goldstein says. “Start with ‘hi.’” Easy enough!

The situation: You want to cut ties

If you don’t think your relationship with your crush has long-term potential, “the good news is that you’re going home [or elsewhere] for break,” House says. “Relationships dissolve at the end of a semester anyway.”

You will probably see your crush again next year, so House’s advice for avoiding any awkwardness is to hang out like normal, but this time without planning to keep in touch. “Talk about exciting break plans and sound super busy,” she says. “There is no reason to address your relation; just be super positive and say, ‘have a great break!’”

Vanessa*, a junior at Princeton University, was flirting with guys at the end of both of the past two years. “In both cases, I was not very invested and knew it would not continue and did not want it to,” Vanessa says. “I lacked enough interest in the guys or knew it was bad timing, and I wasn't in a place personally for anything serious.”

Both times, Vanessa and the guy in question grew apart naturally. “There was nothing dramatic,” she says. “I think all parties expected it to end, and as far as I know, there were no hurt feelings.”

However, you might find yourself in a situation where your crush wants more than you do. In this case, “the easiest thing to do is to keep increasing the length of time that it takes you to respond to a text to a few hours, then a few days, etc.,” Goldstein says. Usually the person will get the message and have his or her feelings spared, but “if he continues to talk to you, maybe ask to meet up in person and say you’re not interested,” Goldstein adds.

Finally, if you change your mind and realize you want to talk to your crush after all, “text him, ask how break is going, say that something made you think of him,” Goldstein says. At this point in the relationship, you don’t have much to lose anyway.

Crushing on someone is fun and exciting, but having it happen at the end of a semester isn’t the most ideal timing. That being said, if the two of you have potential, there is no reason why you can’t pick things up at the start of the new semester—with a little help from Her Campus, of course!

*Name has been changed.

Introducing Her Campus’s Finals Week Diet! Designed to increase your sugar rushes steadily throughout the day while lowering your stress with comfort food*, this regimen is perfect for your busy exam schedule. With a total of 10 suggested meals, this plan will keep your energy up during early mornings and all-nighters. If you’re prone to panic attacks, endless hours in the library and late-night cramming sessions, this is the diet for you!

Breakfast: The most important meal of the day to jump-start your studying

• One cinnamon raisin bagel with 2 tablespoons of cream cheese (or more if you want; you do you)
• 20 ounces of coffee with half-and-half and sugar (Make sure to add at least two packets of sugar to kick off your daylong sugar rush. Consistency is key.)
• Side of bacon, at least three pieces (Protein = brainpower)

Midmorning Snack: Beating the 11 a.m. slump

• One 12-ounce can of Diet Coke (Make sure it’s caffeinated. Constant caffeine is key.)
• Full bag of Skittles minus the green ones (proven to increase focus)
• If you’re still feeling sluggish, add a bag of Swedish Fish or Sour Patch Kids

Lunch: aka a well-timed procrastination break

• Two to three slices of pizza (with toppings of your choice, but pepperoni is recommended)
• French fries (regular or sweet potato, side of ketchup)
• Small side of frozen yogurt, minimum three toppings; one has to be hot fudge (chocolate is proven to be a comfort food, so it’s critical for your progress)

Midafternoon Snack: Time to get energized and lower stress with sugar

• 12-ounce latte, skim milk, either vanilla or caramel flavoring
• 18 M&M’S (1 ounce by weight, 1/4 cup by volume or small handful… or, if you want to eat the entire bag, that’s okay, too)

Before-Dinner Snack: Optional, but you’ll probably want it

• Two big chocolate-chip cookies; can be substituted with half a sleeve of Oreos
• Recommended: glass of milk for dunking

Dinner: Getting fueled for the long nightahead

• Crispy chicken fingers (Hint: Dip in a side of honey mustard for extra stress-fighting benefits)
• 1 cup (or more) plain potato chips
• Side: spicy salsa (to dip your chips in; spicy foods said to lower blood pressure/stress)
• Another 12 ounces of Pepsi (Or any soda, really. Whatever you want.)

Post-Dinner Snack: Because the library is getting boring without food, and you're getting hangry

• 8 ounces of green tea (to lower your stress yet keep caffeine levels up)
• Your choice of either seven Hershey's Kisses, 12 gummy bears or one Snickers bar. Pick your favorite from the given choices to maximize your sugar rush.

Midnight Meal: You’re tired of studying and you deserve a treat

• Optional: 12 ounces of coffee, black (for those staying up for two to four more hours)
• Anything from the vending machine. Recommendations: Doritos (Cool Ranch flavor), popcorn or Cheetos

Late-Late-Night Snack: For you night owls who just won't quit

• The perfect time for takeout. Order one large Domino’s pizza to share with two to four close friends.
• Cheesy bread (strongly) encouraged, but not required
• Coffee, coffee, coffee - the biggest size you can get

Early-Morning Treat: You’re not sure what day it is anymore

• One blueberry muffin, microwaved; 1 tablespoon of spreadable butter
• 12 ounces of coffee or Diet Coke; anything to make it through your exam in a few hours/prevent your breakdown

Studies have shown that those who follow this diet as closely as possible not only have decreased stress levels but also ace all of their exams. Happy dieting, collegiettes!

*Disclaimer: This diet is has not been proven to be healthy or effective in any way.