We all need a little guidance now and then, so whether you're stressed about a fling gone wrong, a wrecked relationship or how to handle a stage-five clinger, Real Live College Guy Mark is here to help you navigate the college dating scene!
Hey College Guy! I'm 19 years old and have never been on a date with a guy. I can talk to almost any guy, except for the ones that I'm interested in. I usually feel like talking to them will bother them somehow and that they won't want to talk to me. So my question is: How can I get myself to talk to a guy that I'm attracted to without running away? – Dateless in Seattle
Dateless in Seattle,
Confidence is the key! If you're comfortable around most guys and able to talk to them with no problem, then you can definitely talk to the guy you're interested in. You have to just put your best foot forward and be yourself. Most guys like a girl who's sure of herself and is confident.
Compliments are always a great way to start any conversation. It could be anything from telling him you like his shirt, shoes, jeans or even hair. Don’t be scared to be yourself because that’s what he’ll like most about you. He will want to date the real you and not someone you’re pretending to be. Make light of the conversation and have fun with it so you don't become overly nervous. Remind yourself that it isn’t the end of the world if it doesn’t work out with this guy; know that there are other fish in the sea and this is just one bait. Also, making jokes is another great way to break the ice while talking to your crush. Now that you have some tools, go out there and use them! Good luck!
-Mark
