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Here's What Ryan Gosling's Baby Will Look Like!

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As brokenhearted as we are that Ryan Gosling has chosen someone other than us to be the mother of his children (sigh), we have to admit: Eva Mendes and Ryan’s kid is going to be pretty adorable. What else could happen when two of the world’s most beautiful people take it upon themselves to procreate? When news broke that Eva Mendes was pregnant earlier this week, the Internet went #crazy – and Joe Mullins, a forensic artist, took it upon himself to make it all a little bit crazier. Mullins used the latest computer technology to combine Eva’s and Ryan’s features to predict what their little bundle of joy will look like…and the results are in!

HO-LY smokes! Whether it’s a boy or a girl, one thing is certain: the Mendes-Gosling baby is going gorgeous. Watch out, Suri. Someone’s coming for you.

Now all we want is to get ahold of this Joe Mullins character and see if he’d be willing to do his computer magic and blend our faces with Ryan’s to see what our children would have looked like. They’d definitely be just as adorable, right? Right?

What do you think of this baby-to-be? 


5 Ways To Get A Workout In 15 Minutes or Less

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Between classes, a social life, and insane amounts of homework, it’s not hard to imagine why some college students pack on the freshman 15, even after freshman year. Finding time to go to the gym can be hard, especially if you don’t live particularly close to the gym or if it’s winter and the last thing you want to do is go for a run outside. But we have found five workouts that you can do in the comfort of your own room—and they only take about 10-15 minutes! Ladies on the Her Campus team have tested each one out and we can confirm that they are effective, quick, and give you no excuse to skip out on a workout. Start throwing these workouts into your routine and you'll be a dorm room workout pro by the time you step on campus. 

1. Nike Trainer

Thank goodness for smartphones; it turns out that they can be used for more than just texting, calling, and Instagramming. The Nike Trainer App is a free app for iPhones and Androids. It will become your new best friend… or at least your new personal trainer. Former HC intern, Laci, swears by this app that lets you take your pick from either a full, 4-month long program, or smaller Drill Packs that are 10-15 minute concentrated workouts. Choose what kind of training you want to do, such as endurance, strength, speed or power, and let the pros take it from there. Each pack goes along with a pro athlete that matches the workout, and by the end of enough of the 10 or so minute routines, you might just feel like you could take on the Olympics. You can preview what each workout includes, and the play-by-play video shows you exactly how you should be doing each move so there is no previous knowledge necessary. Plus, you can keep yourself motivated and working towards a goal with a personal “score” that saves on your account.

2. Pieces in Progress

Sometimes workouts and fitness plans can seem overwhelming and unrealistic. But when you can see someone like you, a young collegiette, change her life and become healthier and more active, that can serve as the perfect inspiration for you to do the same. Pieces in Progress is written by a collegiette from Bucknell University who transformed her life and her health through workouts and a healthy diet, and she shares how she did this so she can inspire others to do the same. These “At Home Workouts” are broken down into minute-by-minute increments, telling you exactly how long to do what move. Most of the workouts have three, ten-minute parts to them, so you can pick which part you want to do, or you can do all three if you have time! Each section is also labeled by what area of the body it focuses on, so you can customize that to your preference too. Elizabeth from Clemson University swears by these workouts, and the healthy recipes are a bonus!

3. PilatesAnytime

Pilates is a great form of exercise that tightens your muscles and works your body in all the right places. But many Pilates classes are usually an hour long, and when you have to go to a studio for the class that can take up a lot of time during your day. There’s another option: PilatesAnytime.com brings the workout to your home, dorm, or really wherever you want, and it lets you do Pilates on your own time. Instead of devoting a whole hour or more to a Pilates class, you can log on to this website at your convenience and choose your own 15-minute workout. Christina from California Polytechnic State University recommends this site, because even if you only have a few minutes to spare, you can still fit a killer Pilates workout into your schedule! If you want more options for time-efficient Pilates, check out the Pocket Pilates App. This app gives you workouts for different locations, your room, at your desk, or on vacation, and it caters to those specific environments or time restrictions.

4. 8-Minute Abs

If you can’t find any apps that suit your fancy, then turn to the next best technological trainer: YouTube. Now, we’re not just going to leave you hanging to find some homemade workout video by someone who has no idea what they’re doing. Summer, from Auburn University, suggests 8 Minute Abs, a video that is all about—you guessed it—abs. The creators of this set sure know what they’re doing and can help you reach your goal of getting that killer six pack to show off this summer. Even if that much ab definition isn’t your goal, the different kinds of crunches and leg lifts will do wonders for increasing core strength and muscle development. It can be hard at first, but don’t let that discourage you. It’s not quite painless, but it’s quick and simple and will get you one step closer to a fab figure!

5. Blogilates

If you’re looking for workout videos that are catered to young women, then the Blogilates workout videos are perfect. Instead of a man made of muscles staring you in the face, these videos are made and demonstrated by a young woman, who is peppy, motivational, and creates workout sets to a fun, upbeat soundtrack. The 10-20 minute videos are themed appropriately depending on the time of year, such as spring break and prom/formal season, or they have a focus like fat burning and toning. And since it’s filmed in sunny California, most of the background isn’t too bad either, and it serves as a perfect reminder that bikini season is fast approaching! Two former HC interns, Katrina and Hannah, recommend this for a fun workout that gets results, and it’s perfect to do with friends!

 

These quick, 15-mintue or less workout plans provide the perfect opportunity for you to tone up and get in shape for summer, or really for any time during the year. Don’t be discouraged by thinking that you have to devote thirty minutes or more to exercising every day, because that’s not always realistic for collegiettes, especially if you have an internship or summer job. So use these workouts as a starting point for making your life healthier and more active, and you’ll begin to look and feel better!

Should I Go To Therapy? 4 Collegiettes Who Are Glad They Did

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We took our SATs, our ACTs, our APs, and college-level courses. We stuck by our college counselor’s side and rubbed elbows with college reps, and once we got those long-sought acceptance letters, we started preparing for our freshman fall course load not long after graduating from high school. Yet none of that could have prepared us for the wear and tear college would have on us—not just academically, but emotionally and mentally. Somehow, even though it took 18 years for us to be spatially independent, far away from our parents’ radar, it only takes a mere four after that until we are forced to be accountable-for-everything, financially independent, real-world bound adults. Talk about crunch time.

We are thrust into an environment that forces us to experience so much so quickly that it’s likely that we will run into a few bumps along the road. Somewhere in the learning curve, we begin to lose ourselves, as the little things seem more daunting than they should be, as passion turns into listlessness, as confusion becomes a gateway to panic. Time, which is somehow running out faster than usual, becomes our worst enemy.

Why didn’t Asher Roth warn us?

Reaching out for help at a time like this becomes a necessity that is often ignored. Sure, we’ll open up to our friends, maybe let out a small “ok” when Mom and Dad ask how school is going. But what if that’s not enough? What about seeking out professional help?

“Twenty-four hours after I declared that I (and I quote), ‘am the happiest I’ve ever been and I want to live in New York City forever and always,’ I had my first full-blown panic attack. I think it was because fake life had just become real…” – Shaye Winer, former HC intern

“I was just freaked out about the consequences I may have set myself up for. It was really getting to me after a while, and I cried a lot about it.” – Anonymous San Francisco collegiette

“I hit my breaking point. I cried for hours a day, had no motivation, and became extremely irritable.” – Anonymous collegiette from Bryant University

“I found myself as a junior in college, constantly feeling overwhelmed and unfulfilled, and not doing a good job managing either of those emotions.” – Anonymous Fordham student

You’re not alone. There’s a whole community of collegiettes who have had the same concerns that you do, sought out therapists, and ended up, for the most part, glad they did. So here they are, your preconceived fears addressed by four of our very own collegiettes.

Fear #1: Therapists are only for crazy people.

No, therapy is for people who are overwhelmed by everyday, real-life problems—problems that could easily happen to any of us.

An anonymous collegiette from Saint Michael’s College, who found herself unable to vocalize her troublesome feelings to even her most supportive group of friends and has been seeing a therapist since her junior year of high school says, “There are so many stereotypical comments people make about going to therapy like, ‘You're going to have to lie down on a couch and tell someone all your feelings” [or] ‘You're going to therapy? You must have a lot of problems.’ Everyone has their own problems and just because people go to therapy doesn't mean they are insane or abnormal. They are just seeking some advice and, more importantly, someone to talk to.”

So there you have it—therapy isn’t for the crazies, it’s simply an extra lifeline, a smart investment in your well-being.

Fear #2: Honestly, I would be embarrassed if my friends and family found out.

First ask yourself what there is to be embarrassed about. Your mind probably flits to the traumatized expressions of your family and friends, the words “Where did we go wrong?” written all over their faces. But truth be told, the reality of this image depends upon you because therapists are bound by a contract of confidentiality.

Dr. Marjorie Kosoy, a therapist from Bellaire, Texas with 20 years of private practice under her belt, confirms: “We cannot even acknowledge whom we see, let alone give information about that person. The only time we can break this policy is if we think the person is in danger of hurting [herself] or others.”

Fine, so no one finds out. That doesn’t mean that you won’t still be embarrassed, and that’s totally normal.

“I am not the kind of girl who would have ever admitted this before, but I needed help,” former HC intern and FIT student Shaye Winer, who had been experiencing panic attacks in her new surroundings, confesses. “I walked into the office embarrassed. I didn’t want to be seen as the girl who needed help…[but] it’s okay to need help, and it’s even more okay to ask for it because in the end you have nothing to lose other than time spent unhappy. In college we deal with so much and our world changes faster than we can take it in. I will wholeheartedly admit that I see a counselor bi-weekly. She listens to me and helps bring my insane thoughts down to a level that I can even comprehend. It’s not that she gets me—it’s that she helps me get me. What’s pride compared to that? Absolutely nothing.”

Think of it this way—whether you went in for an SAT prep course or for tutorials after class or asked your coach for a few pointers on the field, it’s all the same thing: asking for help. Only now, instead of being all about academics and extracurriculars, you could use a few pointers on the emotional side of things.

Fear #3: I can handle my own problems. Really.

Before you take up “I am a Rock” as your new anthem, get this: no one’s saying you can’t. In fact, therapy is there to help you do just that, solve problems on your own. The truth of the matter is that you won’t be seeing your therapist forever—you’ll be moving on to a different city, maybe even a different country once you graduate, and new surroundings mean a change in circumstances, sometimes for the better. Not to mention, you won’t have a school behind you, covering the costs of therapeutic care. The hope is that you’ll take what you learn from your sessions and apply it so that you can handle your problems more efficiently because you recognize them faster and have a plan that works to solve them.

“I think college students are often reluctant to get help because they want to be on their own,” Dr. Kosoy says. “They really are working on individuating from their parents and often see psychologists as parents… Sometimes all we need is to stop and hear our own still voice. That voice often has the answers we seek. The therapist’s role is to help us to articulate and to listen to our own still voice.”

Your voice—that essential, elusive component so easily lost in college, silenced in the group mentality from your friends, the authoritative “don’ts” from your parents, the essay guidelines from your teachers… the list goes on. Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to finally hear yourself think in the middle of all of this?

An anonymous HC writer who had been feeling “down and depressed” found her voice after she went to therapy. “For me, I thought that therapy would be the magical cure, that it would be like treatment for whatever was bothering me. But it seemed to me that therapy was just a chance to vent, to be honest with myself. I didn't feel that the therapist helped me with my problems, but rather gave me the opportunity to be up front with my feelings and fix them myself. I stopped seeing the therapist and instead found close friends I could confide in when I needed to talk things through, started writing a journal, and when I was upset about something, I stopped bottling it up. For people who can't face their problems, therapy is very cathartic. But don't think it's going to be a cure. It takes a lot of personal work, work that I found I could do just fine on my own.”

So don’t panic: you won’t lose your independence if you seek help. Instead, you’ll be guided towards self-reliance.

Fear #4: Why would I tell a stranger my problems when I haven’t even told my close friends? Isn’t that weird?

Maybe at first. But the fact that you don’t feel comfortable saying anything to the people you value is already a sign that you really need someone there to listen to you.

Our Saint Michaels collegiette admits that at first she was nervous. “I was not comfortable with answering [certain] questions in so much depth, therefore I took small baby steps with the process. Over time, as I started not only to grow older, but also to grow more emotionally as a person, I found myself in this comfortable environment where I could open up more.”

It also doesn’t hurt to have someone who is not only trained to listen, but can offer up a much-needed outside opinion. After all, your parents and friends are invested in you—they’ll give you good advice, but they don’t always know what’s best for you.

“I didn't want to tell my parents [I was going to therapy],” says one collegiette from San Francisco who had experienced overwhelming feelings of anxiety. “So I called my best friend to get support on the idea. She told me that going to see a counselor doesn't mean your life has gotten more out of control, but that you're getting just a little bit of extra help, another perspective from someone who is trained to do this for a living, and ultimately that it is a good thing. I feel better about myself and feel like I can handle stressful situations better. It's always a work in progress but I think I'm living a better life and at least recognizing when I'm going overboard.”

College isn’t the time to be perfect. Instead, it’s our very own four-year crash course where we figure out how to deal with the problems the real world is bound to throw our way. A little rough and tumble is normal. “That is how we learn what we want and value,” Dr. Kosoy says.

 

Not sure how to tell if you should talk to a therapist? Here are a few of the signs our anonymous collegiettes experienced before they sought out help:

  • Lack of motivation
  • Feelings of being withdrawn/isolated
  • Anxiety
  • Overwhelmed and unfulfilled
  • Depressed

If you have any thoughts of suicide or of hurting someone else, it’s definitely time to reach out. Click here for information on the mental health services available at your school.

So if you’re still confused about where you stand on therapy, here are the main takeaway points: there is nothing wrong with asking for a little help, and more importantly, there is nothing wrong with you if you do.

13 Signs You Work in Retail

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Rude customers, long shifts and repetitive playlists are just some of the struggles clothing-store employees have to deal with on the daily. Here are 13 telltale signs you work in retail!

1. The words "Black Friday" bring you a feeling of dread. 

2. Your entire wardrobe consists of clothing you bought at work.

3. The phrases, "Hi, welcome to (store name here),""How can I help you?" and "Have a great day!" are forever imprinted into your brain.

4. You're used to never having a set schedule or being able to make plans.

5. You know that employee discounts are a double-edged sword.

6. You're on a first-name basis with the people who work in the food court.

7. Shoppers who come into the store right before closing are the bane of your existence.

8. Your folding skills are practically resume-worthy.

9. The holidays mean only two things: copious amounts of coffee and crying.

10. Working a double shift, coming in to work at 6 a.m. or doing rollout at midnight are all totally normal occurrences. 

11. You've perfected the art of being outwardly bubbly when you actually want to murder someone.

12. Hearing the same playlist over and over again has made you question your sanity.

13. Your mindset 99.9 percent of the time you're working is a little like this:

Links We Love 7.13.14

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If you want a higher GPA, join a gym. [The Huffington Post]

The Disney princesses are behind bars! [Tres Sugar]

4 things you need to know about the Hobby Lobby ruling. [I Want Her Job]

A birth control ‘chip’ that could last 16 years?! [Newser]

2008 was a terrible year to graduate from college. [Vox]

34 ways to eat watermelon with every meal. [Greatist]

Insane sex facts from around the world. [Your Tango]

Why one guy quit his fraternity. [Mic]

Bowling alleys are sadly vanishing. [Businessweek]

The College Board apologizes for racially insensitive tees. [USA Today]

 

Real Live College Guy Joel: You've Never Been Kissed

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Desperately trying to understand the inscrutable mind of the college male? Real Live College Guy Joel (replete with a name way cooler than those of RLCGs Joe and Joey) is here to help you out, call you out, write you a poem to show you’re great and to stop worrying, etc. From major emotional drama to the minutiae of social interaction, use him as your one-stop shop for guy advice.

There has been one thing that has been bugging me about entering college and that is my lack of relationship experience. People always tell me I look so innocent, and they are right, I have never even kissed a boy. (Shocked faces everywhere :O) Will guys even care or notice that I have no idea what I’m doing? I hope I am not the only one going through this problem! –Soon-To-Be Never Been Kissed at Northwestern

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“Relationship experience?” What kind of people did you hang out with in high school? In my high school, everybody was either in worshipful puppy love relationships or would just use each other to lose their virginity - barely anyone had actual, real-world relationship experience. What rattles you is that it’s not fashionable to be innocent in high school. Everybody’s in such a hurry to grow up, even though I didn’t know anyone in high school who was really ready. No one knew enough about themselves to navigate the complexities of the real relationships between two autonomous, developed individuals. College is the place where you actually begin to morph into the person you will always be, and it’s the perfect environment to both personally grow and test the romantic and sexual waters.

What I’m trying to articulate is that college really is a blank slate. Nothing from high school matters. In college there’s much more diversity and maturity in terms of what is considered attractive. I have no idea what “so innocent” looks like (unless you wear pigtails), but I’m sure there are guys who will find you attractive. The key is just to be friendly and fight off any shy impulses. Put yourself out there and you will be fine.

None of the “relationship experience” of others will count. So never having been kissed really doesn’t matter, and I’m sure lots of girls and guys go off to school without having played tonsil hockey. Still, it’s best to not advertise something that personal. A couple of weeks ago an acquaintance posted something on Facebook about never having been kissed. I thought, “Well, that’s why.” Being open about that sort of thing makes guys uncomfortable because it makes them feel like if they’re the one who kisses you first, they’ll be tied to serious importance when they just want to have fun. It takes the light attitude out of making out. Whoever your first kiss ends up being, don’t tell him before and don’t even tell him after, unless you end up in a serious relationship. Same goes for your first date. Sex is a stickier issue that I wrote about a few weeks ago.

In terms of dating and associated things like making out, I would ask more experienced, trusted female friends for advice about how to behave, techniques, etc. However, I wouldn’t stress about it. Here’s the secret about guys and dating: we’re also so terrified about doing something wrong that we won’t notice or care if you don’t follow the usual college relationship rules. The important thing is to be yourself. Don’t obsess over what you have or haven’t checked off some imaginary list.

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11 Thoughts Every Girl Has at the Beach

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Spending an afternoon at the beach means working on your tan, scoping out cute boys and finally getting to show off that adorable new bikini. Laying out under the sun is practically paradise! Here are 11 thoughts every girl has at the beach.

1. TO THE WATER!

2. Wait, is that a jellyfish?

3. Why is everyone else tanner than I am?

4. Does the beach get Wi-Fi?

5. It's been two seconds and this beach towel is already covered with sand.

6. So. Many. Hot. Shirtless. Guys.

7. I think I want to date a surfer.

8. Let's take a jumping picture!

9. Where are my so-called beach waves?

10. I can't forget to Instagram a pic of my feet in the sand!

11. I might never move from this spot ever again.

Her Story: I Was Sexually Assaulted in My Dorm Room

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I hated looking in the mirror. I couldn’t stand to look myself in the eye; I was afraid to see the emptiness in them. I hated to look at myself knowing what happened, what I let happen. I was afraid of finding another bruise on my body.  I was afraid of the reality of my situation.

I was sexually assaulted.

I was not raped; a sexual assault does not necessarily include rape.

I said “no” and he didn’t listen. I said “no” so many times, and he didn’t listen.

It began right before winter break. There was still a handful of people left on campus before we all got to go home. I was introduced to him at the pool through a mutual friend. He was funny, he made me laugh and I found him attractive. It was the first time that I felt attracted to a guy since my ex-boyfriend had dumped me three months before.

Days later, I saw him again. We joked around and he asked for my number so we could hang out that night. I figured, why not? I needed to get over my ex and put myself out there. I gave him my number. Hours later he texted me and asked me to hang out, like he’d said he would. I told him to meet me at my dorm and we went for a walk.

We sat at my favorite place across the river talking and getting to know each other. In the middle of talking about missing home, he kissed me. I was stunned and told him he was only allowed to kiss me when I was done talking. So he asked if I was done talking, and I said yes. He grabbed me and kissed me again. I felt the chemistry, the hunger and desire in his kisses. I also felt how strong he was through his motions: grabbing me and not letting go. I had butterflies…Whether it was from the kisses in the cold weather or because I was attracted to him, I couldn’t tell.

It started to get very cold sitting on the concrete steps across the river so we walked back to my dorm room. When we got to my room we decided to put a movie on.  Next thing I knew we were making out again, and he started to pull at my clothes. It was his attempt to get me naked. I told him no. I ended up completely topless that night; he was naked. While we made out, he kept telling me how he wanted to f**k me. I had never felt more uncomfortable in my life. I ended up going to third base with him to avoid having sex with him. He left after laying with me for 15 minutes telling me how he would keep in touch over break.

That was the night I got the first bruise. I didn’t think anything of it, because I was easily able to hide it. I didn’t think of him or our night together negatively. I figured he didn’t mean to bruise me and that it was an accident. I figured it was just chemistry and hormones that caused the night to be so intense. I didn’t want to think of him as a bad guy, so I gave him the benefit of the doubt. The bruise was big, right on the inside of my thigh. It was as purple as a plum, too.

He called me over break, and I really thought he was a keeper—someone who had potential… Then, once we got back to school, things got bad.

Night after night he would invite himself over to my dorm room to hang out and watch movies. We never watched more than 10 minutes of the movie, though, because night after night, he always tried to have sex with me, and I was always telling him no. Morning after morning I would wake up finding more and more bruises on my body because of him.

He was rough and demanding in all his physical actions. Grabbing me to move a certain way, squeezing a part of my body to cooperate with what he wanted done. I had bruises on my stomach, legs, ribs, hips, and arms. It began to become a struggle to hide them. It got worse when I had my friends and residents ask me why I kept getting bruises everywhere. I started to lie. My friends and residents weren’t aware of him, nor were they aware of what was happening between him and me. When they saw the bruises, they would stare at them and ask what happened. I began to tell them I tripped, or I bumped into the door or the wall. Simple lies that would make sense to anyone who knew me; I’m clumsy.  

The worst night, the night I have nightmares about, was the last night. He was in full attack mode: he was more aggressive, grabbing and pulling me immediately, and he wouldn’t stop telling me how bad he wanted to f**k me. “No” was not going to stop him that night. I just had this gut feeling that he wouldn’t listen; he wasn’t listening. He would just push and move me the way he wanted. Within a half hour he had his clothes off and was working on getting my sweat pants off; up until then, I had been able to keep them on. I figured if I did whatever he said, did everything else he wanted, I would be able to prevent him from having sex with me. I guess he felt that he was owed it that night; that he deserved to have sex with me.

I remember moving from the couch to my bed, something I never do with any guy. I remember lying on my bed under him with just my underwear on. I remember begging him to leave them on. I kept telling him to leave them on, please I want them on, and I don’t feel comfortable without them. I said no, I said “no” so many times in those moments on my bed before he took them off. I remember him above me, naked, laughing as he was telling me how bad he wanted to f**k me, how he needed to, how good it would feel for the both of us. He would whisper in my ear how bad he wanted to. I kept saying no. Then he said something I will never forget: “If I put my d**k in you now that would be considered rape.” He laughed at this statement, as if it was a joke to him.

I remember lying there, afraid of him. I didn’t know what to do to get him to leave my room. I was afraid to tell him to go. I didn’t know how I would go about asking him to leave. I felt that whatever reason I came up with, he would claim it to be B.S. Naked and afraid, I have never felt more vulnerable and self-conscious in my life. I did anything he asked, anything to make him satisfied and make him leave. Satisfying him wasn’t enough for him that night, though; he needed to have his hands all over my body. I felt violated. He touched me in places I told him not to. He forced me down and I knew I was going to wake up with so many marks on my body. I was afraid to know how bad the damage was going to be. I wasn’t strong enough to do anything.

He touched me, and kept touching me, and all I did was say “no” over and over again. Eventually, after making me satisfy him again for a second time, he left.

That was the last night I had him over, and the first night I couldn’t sleep. I stayed up all night crying. I stayed in my room all day, ignoring calls from everyone, including my family. I skipped class and didn’t leave my room or answer the door for anyone. I counted the bruises on my body. 11.

I looked at myself in the mirror. I hated myself. I yelled at myself. How was I this stupid? Why didn’t he listen? You’re an idiot, I told myself. You didn’t really know him. You’re stupid for thinking he even liked you. How can you live with yourself?

I became depressed. I am a girl who loves being busy, socializing with many groups of people, and I’m always willing to do fun, exciting things. The days and weeks following that final night with him, though, I isolated myself. I didn’t feel like myself; it was like the real me was lost. I would go through the motions every day and just sit around waiting to feel like myself again. I would sit and think of that night over and over again. I would look at the bruises on my body. I would think dark thoughts and want to hurt myself for being so dumb that night. I knew better; why didn’t I do anything? A question I still cannot answer.

What if he hadn’t stopped that night, what if he had had sex with me? I don’t think I would have stopped him, nor would I have been able to stop him. I don’t know how I would have. I don’t think I would have told anyone, either.

My co-worker found me in my room that night sitting on my floor, feeling as lifeless as I wished I was. I cried all over again. She saw the bruises, all 11. She waited and waited some more until I told her everything: from start to finish, every thought I had, including my most intimate ones about being depressed and wanting to hurt myself. I even told her how if he had had sex with me, I wouldn’t have told anyone.

My co-worker and I had been through a lot in the short amount of time we’d spent together. Besides living with one another and overseeing a hallway full of freshman residents, we had become each other’s persons (think Christina Yang and Meredith Grey in Grey’s Anatomy). We began to have a trusting relationship and spoke about our hopes and dreams, being excited for one another whenever great things happened and consoling one another when bad things happened. After the assault, she listened to my story and helped me find myself again. She would hang out in my room and listen to me talk and vent, and she would get meals with me and introduce me to her friends. Slowly but surely, she helped me find myself again, something I wouldn’t have been able to do on my own. If it wasn’t for my co-worker, I don’t know if I would have gotten better. If it wasn’t for her, I wouldn’t have realized that what happened with him was considered sexual assault. If it wasn’t for my co-worker, I wouldn’t share my story now.

11 bruises in one night. Over 20 bruises from all the nights I spent with him. Four boxes of tissues. One broken mirror. Five months of nightmares about him that I still have every night.

It took me 161 days to be able to admit this fact:

I am a victim of sexual assault, and this is my story.

Do you have a story to share? Submit your story to Her Story!


Ask a Collegiette: 5 Goals You Should Set for Yourself in College

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Whether it’s crushes, classes or coed bathrooms on your mind, chances are you’ve already started stressing about your freshman year of college. But don’t worry! This collegiette has been there and done that, and she’s passing along her hard-earned wisdom to you lucky pre-collegiettes. Whether you’re daunted by your packing list (you do not need a label maker, promise), college-level classes (Wikipedia is your new best friend), making friends (easier than it sounds) or running into a one-night stand (honestly, just run the other way), Sophie’s likely encountered it all. Just sit back, relax and let her share the best advice she’s picked up along the way.

What are some good goals to set for yourself when you enter college?– Gwendolyn

Gwendolyn,

I love that you’re so focused on getting the most out of your college experience! The goals you make should be tailored toward the particular things you’re hoping to get out of the next four years, but there are definitely some more general goals that I think every collegiette should keep in mind when starting college:

1. Push yourself to make the dean’s list each semester.

Regardless of what kind of student you were in high school, college academics are a whole different ball game, and it’s important to do well in your classes (these are the grades that future employers will see!). A dean’s list is basically an honor roll rewarding consistently good grades, but the actual GPA cutoff to make this list is different at every school. At my college, for instance, in order to make the dean’s list, a student must have a semester GPA of 3.30 or higher.

I recommend checking out your schools dean’s list requirements, writing the required GPA on a sticky note and taping it to your desk or your dorm room mirror. A little daily reminder of your academic goals can give you the extra push you need to hold off on watching True Blood until your problem set is finished!

2. Get involved in at least one extracurricular activity.

Now that we have the obligatory “set a goal to get good grades” spiel out of the way, we can move on to the more exciting aspects of college life, extracurriculars being one of them!

If you ran track in high school, sign up for the intramural cross-country team or check out track and field tryouts. Clubs are a great place to make friends, and it’s awesome to feel like you’re a part of a smaller community within your college. On graduation day, you’ll be glad you gave so many activities a shot, even if you did end up spraining your ankle at a particularly embarrassing field hockey tryout (I take no responsibility for any injuries incurred while you are following my advice).  

3. Learn to do all the things that other people used to do for you.

For me, this was an embarrassingly long list, but it included things like doing my own laundry, being able to crush a bug (legitimately my greatest fear), making sure I get enough fruits and veggies, putting together IKEA furniture… the list goes on. If you need something to do this summer in between getting your tan on and binge watching Pretty Little Liars, I suggest brushing up on some basic survival skills.

That being said, there’s no shame – I repeat, no shame – in calling your mom from the laundry room to ask how you should be washing your favorite jeans (turn them inside out and air dry, for the record).

4. Take at least one class that has nothing to do with your major.

As an English major, I pretty much start hyperventilating at the thought of a chemistry lab, and I have an irrational fear of physics, but I made a point of taking a math class my freshman year to prove to myself that I could do it (okay, it was also to fill a distribution requirement).

I was so proud of myself when I finished that class, and it was surprisingly nice to take a break from reading George Bernard Shaw and Virginia Woolf to focus on algebra. Plus, it was nice to meet new people I never would’ve run into in an English class (and now I can calculate the cost of a discounted item in my head, no iPhone calculator required!).

The point is, you’ll spend most of your four years focusing on a specific subject area, so don’t be afraid to mix it up with an unexpected class while you have the chance!

5. Make a point to go to at least five school sporting events.

I’ll never forget the look on my dad’s face when he visited me during my freshman-year spring semester and I told him that I had yet to attend a single sporting event. Whether you go to a huge sports school or a tiny liberal-arts college, checking out a few games tends to bring out the school spirit you never knew you had, and you’ll feel more camaraderie with your fellow students (plus, you’re pretty much guaranteed to get some motivation to hit the gym). 

There will never be enough time to check out everything that’s going on at college, so it’s important to ask yourself what you want to get out of your college experience, whether it’s a 4.0 GPA or making a dent in your bucket list. Of course, a lot will change during the next four years, and it’s totally fine (and normal!) for your goals to change. Just as long as you keep making new goals and honing in on what you want your college experience to be, you’ll be all set. Good luck!

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8 Ways to Eat Healthy as a Summer Intern

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As a summer intern with long hours and short lunch breaks, you’re likely to be reaching for lots of junk food with scant nutritional value during the day. Luckily, there are tons of tasty, healthy, and quick ways to kick those nasty snacking habits and avoid the nemesis that is an expanding waistline. If you’re finding yourself about to buy the package of M&M’s in your office’s vending machine for a quick sugar rush to help you finish out your shift, stop right there. Her Campus caught up with certified nutrition specialist Jason Boehm, registered dietitian Brooke Schantz, and certified holistic health coach Carly Lockman, who have the scoop on how to keep your energy levels up and your calorie and sugar intake in check at the office. Read on for some of their suggestions!

1. Plan out your meals in advance

This is a crucial and often forgotten step in getting your workday snacking habits in tip-top shape. By planning out what to eat in advance and bringing your lunch and snacks with you to your internship, you’ll avoid having to resort to junk food from vending machines or unhealthy cafeteria meals. You can also control your portion sizes by pre-packaging your foods of choice instead of having to fight off the urge to eat the entire plate you get at an office cafeteria or nearby restaurant.

Making these simple changes in your routine will allow you to feel more energized at work, Schantz says. “Planning your snacks ahead of time is a wonderful way to keep your blood sugars stable so you don’t crash or feel fatigued during the day,” she says. “Try to have a small snack or meal every two to four hours to keep your energy levels up, but don’t forget to watch those portion sizes!”

2. Instead of candy, fill up with fruit when you crave sugar

If you think you’ll need a sweet midday snack to perk yourself up, pack some fresh fruit to bring to the office. Apple slices, berries, or chopped melon should do the trick! Boehm suggests pairing apple slices with almond butter to make for a nutritious treat that’s packed with nutrients and light on sugar. “Combining the fruit with some protein and fat lowers the sugar load on your body,” he says.

Gabbie Cirelli from UNC-Chapel Hill says she kicks her sugar cravings at her internship by eating frozen grapes. “They’re basically like eating ice cream sorbet in bite-sized pieces, except without any added sugar or preservatives,” she says. “Regular grapes are obviously delicious, too, but there’s nothing like feeling like you’re eating ice cream without any of the guilt.” Cirelli says she has a freezer at work to keep her frozen grapes in shape until she’s in the mood for a snack, but if your office isn’t equipped with one, try freezing them overnight and throwing an ice pack in your lunch box when you head out in the morning.

But even with the advantages of fruit, Schantz says it’s important to track your portion sizes. “One serving of fruit is equivalent to one whole fruit the size of your fist, one cup chopped, ½ canned in its own juice, or ¼ cup dried, unsweetened fruit,” she says. So, if you decide to munch on a fruity treat, keep an eye on how much you’re eating so you don’t eat too much. Schantz suggests doing this by pre-packing servings ahead of time in snack-sized plastic bags.

3. Nix the chips and choose nuts instead

Craving something salty? Steer clear of chips and go for nuts. “Pretty much anything in the vending machine is going to be junk,” Boehm says. “Potato chips… are going to be a disaster.” Boehm suggests eating roasted almonds, a nutritious option that “give you the crunch of chips, but are far healthier.”

Nuts contain much more protein than chips—a serving of dry roasted almonds has 6.3 grams, while a bag of Lay’s Classic potato chips has only 2 grams. Protein will also keep you fuller longer, so nuts will leave you much more satisfied.

Nuts are also healthier when it comes to carbs, too! A serving of dry roasted almonds, or 1 ounce, contains 5.5 grams of carbohydrates, compared with 15 grams of carbs in 1 ounce of Lay's Classic potato chips. Chips are stocked with simple carbs, while almonds contain both simple carbs and complex carbs, a healthier option that, like protein, makes you feel full for more time.

Megan Lawler, a recent graduate of Illinois State University, says for an office snack, she makes a mixture of nuts, including almonds, walnuts, pistachios, and pecans.  She also adds in dark chocolate chips and raisins to satisfy her sweet tooth. Lawler says the mix helps her avoid snacking too much by making her full for a longer period of time.

But in mixes like these, it’s always important to be mindful of portion size. The serving size listed on many packs of nuts, such as the dry roasted almonds, is 1 ounce, which equates to about a handful. You should also look at the number of nuts in a serving to help you decide when enough is enough. For instance, 16 cashews, 28 peanuts, or 45 pistachios comprise a serving.

If you’re really craving the crunch of chips, though, Lockman suggests trying baked kale chips with unrefined sea salt. “Kale contains high levels of folate, which boosts brain function,” she says. “Unrefined sea salt is rich in magnesium, which supports mental acuity and aids in stress management.” You can even make your own!

4. Choose whole grains and put away processed products

When you’re at the grocery store pondering over which loaf of bread to buy for your sandwiches this week, there are a few tips you should follow to make sure you’re purchasing the healthiest option. Schantz says the key words to look for on packaging are “whole grain” or “whole wheat,” as these terms signify that the bread contains nutritious complex carbs. But Schantz says if you encounter the words “refined, enriched, or bleached,” the bread contains simple carbs, and she suggests you “put it back on the shelf and find a healthier option.”

Lawler says she snacks on Ezekiel bread, which has many whole grain options. “It’s an organic, flourless, high-protein, high-fiber, all-natural bread that is great for you,” she says.  

Lockman says Ezekiel bread is a healthy option because “it is made up of sprouted grains, which contain enzymes that ease digestion.” She also says the sprouted grains are a good source of nutrients that “increase the bioavailability of vitamins and minerals.”

But don’t be fooled by a loaf of bread’s color—looking for those key words, “whole grain” or “whole wheat,” is a must! “Remember, just because a bread is brown, that doesn’t mean it is whole wheat,” Schantz says. “You always need to check that ingredient list!”

Lockman says there’s an easy way to see if your bread is a nutritious choice. “A simple test to see if your bread is healthy or not is to try and ball it up in your hand,” she says. “If it forms a ball easily, that's a good indication it isn't healthy. “

5. Ditch soft serve and go for Greek yogurt

Are you screaming for ice cream but not so psyched about the guilt you’ll feel after eating it? Then avoid the soft serve ice cream machines many large office buildings have in their cafeterias! The best way to get your dairy fix is to go for something low in fat, Schantz says. She suggests low-fat Greek yogurt as an alternative to other dairy products. For comparison, a half a cup of soft serve ice cream has about 11 grams of fat, while a half a cup of Oikos Organic Greek Yogurt has none. Schantz also recommends Greek yogurt over other yogurt varieties. “They have more protein in them than regular yogurt and protein helps keep you feeling fuller for longer,” she says. Lockman suggests including Greek yogurt in your breakfast to “ensure lasting energy for the morning.” 

Boehm even has a tip for making Greek yogurt sweeter: “I like to stir in frozen blueberries, which freeze the yogurt on contact,” he says. “[It’s] like healthy ice cream!” See, it is possible to enjoy the taste of ice cream while avoiding that dreaded bloated feeling!

6. Veg out on veggies

Go green and get that veggie intake up if you want to feel full and energized throughout the workday. Schantz says munching on your favorite vegetable—celery, carrots, or cucumbers, perhaps—alongside a snack such as a granola bar, nuts, or yogurt is a must for keeping your stomach satisfied during the workday. This is important to do if you want to focus on work instead of your hunger pangs! 

And there’s more good news about vegetables, too! According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, veggies contain low amounts of fat and calories and an abundance of important nutrients. These include potassium, which may help reduce blood pressure and bone loss and decrease the risk of kidney stones, and folate, which in addition to helping out with brain function, assists in the production of red blood cells. Plus, the crunch of these snacks can ease your cravings for unhealthy potato chips or fries. There’s nothing like a plate of greens to get you lean!

7. Say no to sugary drinks at office happy hours

After a long day at the office, you may be tempted to order a sugary mixed drink at your office happy hour if you’re over 21. But think before you drink! Boehm says to steer clear of those sugar-laden beverages. He says your best bet is a glass of pinot noir, but if you’re not a pinot fan, Boehm tells us the next best choices are other red and white wines, followed by a low-calorie beer or seltzer water containing liquor. 

But regardless of what you choose to drink, remember to get some water in your system as well. “The rule is two glasses of water for every drink,” Boehm says. And you should start getting hydrated early; Lockman suggests drinking a big glass of H2O before you head to the bar.

8. Stay hydrated to kick the urge to overeat

Water isn’t just helpful for happy hours, but also for during the workday. If you’re feeling tempted to delve into that batch of freshly baked chocolate cupcakes your co-worker brought into share, then fill up your water bottle and start getting hydrated instead. “When you are dehydrated, cravings increase,” Lockman says. “If you feel like you must have a sugary treat, drink a large glass of water first. This will likely keep you from going back for seconds.”

The Mayo Clinic suggests drinking at least nine cups of water per day, and for good reason! Besides helping you resist those unhealthy cravings, water also has many other benefits. “Drinking water consistently throughout the day is one of the best things a person who works long hours can do,” Lockman says. “Staying hydrated is critical to maintaining energy levels [and] mental clarity and avoiding fatigue and illness.”  

 

Fortunately for all of us busy interns, eating healthy really isn’t too difficult at work. With a little time spent planning out meals, looking at ingredient labels and taking charge of portion sizes, you’ll be sure to make your diet nutritious and delicious, which will benefit you in the long run.

5 Ways to Score Natural Waves & Curls

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Wavy or curly hair is perfect for warm weather. Humidity? No problem; a little frizz isn’t bad for these styles! But the best news of all? There are so many fabulously curly hairstyles that require zero hot tools whatsoever. So give your three-barrel curling iron a break, or even an extended vacation—you’ll be addicted to these beautiful, heat-free ‘dos before you know it. Give ‘em a shot, and behold your stunning strands.

1. Two reverse French braids for 5+ hours = big waves

For crazy awesome waves, try this style! After washing your hair, allow it to dry almost all the way (a little damp, or 85 percent dry, is perfect). If your hair is too wet, the waves won’t hold. Once your hair is at this point, rub shine cream throughout (try this one from Dove for $4.89).

The next step: create two reverse French braids. No worries if you don’t know how to reverse French braid (or even French braid)—that’s okay! It’s actually really simple. Use a comb to create your desired part, and make sure all the tangles are out. Then, starting on either half of your head, grab a small chunk of hair and divide it into three sections, like a normal braid. Begin a normal braid, crossing each side over to the middle. Then, begin grabbing extra hair as you go, and pull the hair under the middle strand instead of over (that’s the difference between a regular French braid and reverse). Keep grabbing hair all the way down your head, pulling each side under the middle strand. Finish off with a regular pigtail braid, and tie it off with an elastic band. If you need visual help, check out this how-to video.

Your reverse French braids will create a totally chic look. They’re perfect to wear around all day if you have a big event in the evening, or all night if you want to look great the next day! After you’re totally finished braiding, spray your braids with hair gel (try Pantene’s product for $3.58).

Make sure to wait five or more hours before taking out your braids (we promise you’ll look fabulous in the meantime). The result will be beautiful, shiny bohemian waves. Are you in love, or what?

2. Six regular braids for 5+ hours = small waves

If French braiding just isn’t your thing, never fear! Regular braids work well for creating heat-free waves, too. Again, wash your hair, and wait for it to dry almost completely. Rub shine cream throughout.

This time, part your hair differently than how you’d like it to look after you take out the braids. For example, if you wear your hair in a side part, part it down the middle, or vice versa. This will ensure that your waves look as though they start from the top of your head rather than having flat hair on top and then sudden waves a couple of inches down. Once you’ve done this, braid your hair into six regular braids throughout your head, tying off each with an elastic. If you have a lot of hair and would like to do more, go for it! The more braids you make, the smaller and tighter the waves. After you’ve finished creating the braids, spray them with hair gel.

Wait five or more hours to take out the braids. When you do take them out, finger comb your hair (but not too much, or it will get frizzy). Then, flip your hair the way you’d normally part it. So again, if you normally wear a side part, flip your hair back to that position and usehair spray (like Aussie Aussome Volume for $3.43) to hold it in place. The end result will be totally voluminous, natural-looking, small waves. This style also looks fabulous with a cute hippie headband. So adorable.

3. Straw curls for 5+ hours = defined spiral curls

If you’re looking for more of an unconventional curl, this look will be perfect for you. Keep in mind that this one will take a little more time; give yourself 30 to 45 minutes to accomplish this, depending on how much hair you have. You’re going to need straws and lots of bobby pins.

Start with slightly damp hair, and rub in shine cream. Then, grab about a one-inch section of hair. Wrap that section of hair all the way down a straw, starting from the top of the straw. Once you get to the end of the straw, hold the bottom with one hand. Pin the top of the straw to your head. For bend the rest of the straw that’s left in half and secure it with a bobby pin. For visual instructions, see this video. After you’ve done your entire head, spray with hair spray.

Take the straws out by unpinning the bobby pins and pulling each straw out from the top. You’ll achieve totally awesome spiral curls. Finger comb your hair very slightly (unless you’re aiming for a poofy, Carrie-Bradshaw-esque look!). Your friends will be amazed by your transformation!

4. Twisty buns for 5+ hours = romantic curls

For curls that look like you were born with ‘em, start with tangle-free, very slightly damp hair (i.e., 95 percent dry). Rub shine cream throughout.

Grab one three-inch section of hair at a time, twisting each section by simply rotating your hand. Once the section is completely twisted, twist the already coiled hair up into a bun, and hold with either an elastic band or criss-crossing bobby pins. There’s a lot of twisting going on here! Spray the bun with hair gel. Repeat throughout your entire head so that you have multiple little buns. The more buns, the smaller the curl.

After letting your hair sit for five or more hours, take out the buns. The result will be gorgeous, natural-looking curls. Spray them lightly with hairspray. Wear these curls with a beautiful lipstick shade and a sundress, and bam, you’re officially ready for date night.

5. French braid twists for 5+ hours = big, bohemian waves

These waves are big and totally beautiful. Plus, prepping with French braid twists is like French braiding, but easier! Start with slightly damp hair (about 85 percent dry should do). Brush through all of your hair’s tangles, and then part it as you normally would. Rub shine cream throughout.

Take a one-inch chunk of hair that’s close to the top of your head and towards your face, and divide it into two. Begin a regular twist, but grab hair from each side as you twist. Twist all the way down your strands, and tie it with an elastic. If it gets a little looser after tying in the elastic, don’t worry! Repeat for the other side so that you’ll end up with two French braid twists. Spray both sides with gel. If you still need some help, check out this tutorial.

After taking out your French braid twists, you’ll have gorgeous, romantic waves. Spray them lightly with hair spray.  

You don’t have to damage your hair to obtain the perfect wavy or curly look, collegiettes! These easy tricks will have you rocking gorgeous, voluminous hair all day or night this summer. And trust us, your strands will thank you for these healthy alternatives. 

Win an AMAZING Ring Party from Wanderlust + Co, Plus 20% Off All Jewels

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We love that summer means effortless style: throw on a bikini, a beach cover-up and some sandals, and you’re good to go! Still, we can’t help but feel like our warm weather wardrobe has become a bit, well, blah. That’s why we’re all about the accessories this season, and nothing spices up your summer style better than some beautiful bling! To bring you the best in eye-catching jewelry, Her Campus is giving you the chance to win an amazing ring party from Wanderlust + Co, plus an exclusive discount!

Wanderlust + Co is a jewelry label for dreamers and lovers. Inspired by its surroundings and positive vibes, the label is much sought-after by fashion influencers and style icons alike, from Kendall Jenner, Gigi Hadid, Lauren Conrad and Selena Gomez to bloggers Aimee Song, Julie Sarinara, Leandra Medine and many more.

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Snap up some summer gems at 20 percent off with the coupon code ‘HERCAMPUS.’ To win this amazing ring stack, enter our special giveaway by filling out the form below! Plus don’t forget to sign up for their newsletter and follow their Instagram account @wanderlustandco for more on jewels and daily inspiration!

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How She Got There: Lia Batkin, Co-Founder of In the Know Experiences

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Name: Lia Batkin
Age: 33 
Job Title and Description: Co-Founder of In the Know Experiences, a luxury travel and lifestyle company
College/Major: University of Wisconsin-Madison/Communications and Fashion
Website:www.Itkexp.com 
Twitter Handle:@Intheknowexp 

What does your current job entail? Is there such a thing as a typical day? 

Lia Batkin: There is no typical day in my job. I could be [doing] anything from traveling to a new destination to check it out before I send [the information to] a client, meeting with hotel vendors in my office, sitting [in] on calls with potential new clients, researching places to wow my clients during their trips, working with my employees to teach them how to plan/execute different trips and events or looking for the perfect gift to send to [clients] to get them excited about their trip. 

What is the best part of your job?

LB: Getting to plan people’s memories and [to] be involved in some of the happiest moments of their lives. 

What was your first entry-level job in your field and how did you get it?

LB: I was a sales manager for Niche Media. I was lucky enough to intern for them the summer after I graduated college, and then they offered me a job. 

What is one thing you wish you knew about your industry when you first started out that you know now?

LB: Well, we had no experience in the travel industry other than our passion for traveling when we first started, so, everything! 

Who is one person who changed your professional life for the better?

LB: My husband whom I started my company with. I came from the marketing and sales side, but he taught me the real business side. It is very important to understand both sides and how they need to work together. He also makes me work harder then I ever have, as I know I want to be a better person and successful for him. He teaches me things every day. 

What words of wisdom do you find most valuable?

LB: Never give up. Dress for the situation. Don't jump right into a meeting and start taking about you; ask the person on the other side of the table about themselves and his or her goals so you know how to tailor the meeting. If it’s not broken, don't fix it; maybe just tweak it to make your own. Be passionate about what you do or it’s not worth doing.

What is one mistake you made along the way and what did you learn from it?

LB: Don't be too trusting. It’s never easy and it’s never a slam dunk.

What has been the most surreal moment of your career thus far?

LB: Realizing that I had made a career out of something that I absolutely loved [which] also made other people happy. I think also seeing our company featured in amazing publications like Condé Nast Traveler and The New York Times made me realize that we must be doing something right! 

What do you look for when considering hiring someone?

LB: Personality, having done their research on the company and asking creative questions, a strong hand shake, professionally dressed and most importantly a quick and thoughtful thank-you letter (email or written, but written always makes more of an impression). 

What advice would you give to a 20-something with similar aspirations?

LB: Learn everything you can about your industry. Take your time to find something not just that you truly love, but also where there is a gap in the marketplace. If you can see a need for a product or service, usually others can, too! Try to find an advisor/mentor to assist you; it always helps to have someone on your side who knows more than you. Take people’s advice, but don't ever let anyone tell you it’s not possible. Shoot for the stars, work really hard and don't give up!

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Laverne Cox is the First Transgender Woman to Be Nominated for an Emmy

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Adding on to her list of firsts following her historic TIME Magazine cover last month, Laverne Cox made history again yesterday, becoming the first openly transgender woman to be nominated for an Emmy.

Cox received her first Emmy nomination for "Outstanding Guest Actress in a Comedy Series" for her role as Sophia Burset on the popular Netflix series Orange is the New Black. Cox plays a transgender woman who finds herself in prison after committing credit card fraud in order to pay for her sex change operations. 

Orange is the New Black received a total of 12 Emmy nominations which is more than any other comedy that was nominated this year. Upon hearing of her costars' nominations, Cox tweeted: 

The OITNB star makes the distinction as being the first "openly" transgender actress to be nominated, as she knew of another actress to be nominated (and win) a few years ago but she was not out as transgender yet. TIME Magazine spoke to the actress about what the nomination means. "I was told many times that I wouldn't be able to have a career as a mainstream actor because I'm trans, because I'm black, and here I am. And it feels good," she said. 

GLAAD, an organization that fights discrimination against people in the LGBT community, also sent out a statement following the news, saying that Laverne Cox continues to break barriers. "Today, countless transgender youth will receive the message that they can be who they are and still achieve their dreams- nothing is out of reach. Laverne's success on a hit series is a clear indication that audiences are ready for more trans characters on television," wrote GLAAD President and CEO Sarah Kate Ellis. 

"Oh, my god, it's going to take awhile for me to get used to saying 'Emmy-nominated actress'," Cox said in an interview with the LA Times. "Part of me wonders why it's me because there's so many amazingly talented, smart, beautiful trans actors out there. It's weird that it's me having the big moment right now. There are people out there who deserve it as much and I'd like to send them a lot of love today."

Cox and the rest of the cast are currently in New York filming season three of Orange is the New Black

9 Shirts With Sayings We'd Actually Wear

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Sometimes when we’re walking around, minding our own business, we can’t believe the horrendous graphic t-shirts that people choose to put on their bodies (we’re looking at you, “Good Girls Love Bad Boys”). These silly shirts have made us lose all hope in the graphic tee in recent history, but lately we’ve come across a few here and there that we would actually wear.

These are the top tees with sayings that we wouldn’t be ashamed to flaunt in public. In our opinion, they’re actually pretty awesome.

1. It's Almost Like It's 2004 Again 

Our long-lasting, undying love for anything Mean Girls is reflected in this oh-so-classic quote. We like it because it doesn’t take itself too seriously (you may even wear it on a *gasp* Monday!) but gets across the point that pre-rehab Lindsay Lohan was probably the best thing that ever happened to America. Besides pre-2007 Britney, but that’s an argument for another day—and another shirt. (Brandy Melville, $25)

2. A Lil'Je Ne Sais Quoi

This shirt will do just fine, thank you very much. Add a little French flair to your wardrobe with this scoop neck muscle tee. It’s perf for throwing over a swimsuit or running a quick errand down the street. We like it paired with cutoffs to make it the ultimate summer cool-girl outfit. (Nasty Gal, $48) 

3. Black and White Issue

Cropped tees are totally in right now, and the simplicity of this one makes it a keeper. Plus, it has a really nice message! We’re all about following our hearts, so we’ll wear this one proudly. (Forever21, $14.80) 

4. Sugar Rush 

It’s no surprise that our sweet teeth over here at Her Campus are bigger than news breaking about Eva Mendes’ pregnancy. And sometimes, when we just want to get our sugar on, we don’t want to be interrupted. Enter this sassy tee by Madison & Berkeley. Seriously, sometimes a girl just wants to eat her donut in peace. (Nordstrom, $28) 

5. An Amicable Salutation

Feeling particularly friendly? You’re sure to get a lot of greetings when you’re sporting this comfy tank. Get ready to make some new friends and be willing to engage in conversations with strangers. Who knows? Maybe they’ll turn out to be awesome (just like your shirt!). (ModCloth, $22.99) 

6. 2004, Part Deux

We love Mean Girls so much that we couldn't help ourselves. This cozy tee puts a positive twist on the ubiquitous Regina George quote. We're obsessed because you can totally dress it down by wearing it en route to the gym, or pair it with a skirt and wedges and wear it out on the town. (H&M, $9.95) 

7. You Look Fantastique Today

Pardon our French, but you do seriously look fantastic today. A happy linen tee is sure to bring a positive outlook to your day, and maybe also brighten the day of someone else you pass by on the street. The cut of this shirt is ultra-classic (and, therefore, über-chic) and super cool. We’ll take one, please! (J.Crew, $42.50) 

8. USA Forever

Yeah, yeah, yeah, so the Fourth of July is over. So what? We’re still just as obsessed with the USA as we were when watching fireworks. To keep the patriotic spirit alive, don a cozy cotton tee and keep snacking on Bomb Pops. Loves it. (Shopbop, $33) 

9. Hyped Up

Believe the hype! This is a trend that we can get behind. You’ll look like a street style star when you rock this printed crop top. The tropical vibe will make you feel like summer is eternal (please? Please?) even when you rock it in the colder months. We love it paired with acid wash jeans straight from the 80s or a skater skirt, 90s style. Bring back the trends, ladies. Bring ‘em back. (ASOS, $38.11) 

Do you love these styles? Tweet us @HerCampus wearing your favorite graphic tee! 

22 Things You Should Never Say to a Girl

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Don't say any of these phrases to a girl. In fact, don't even think them around girls. If you do, be prepared for the wrath. 

1."You look really tired."

Thanks for noticing. Yes, I am tired. Tired of people reminding me that I have bags under my eyes the size of France.

2. “Don’t take this the wrong way, but…”

Well, how am I supposed to take it now?  

3. “You remind me of my mom.”

Isn’t your mom 50?

4. “Are you on your period?”

No, but I might as well be now, because after that comment I’m about to stab you.

5. "Are you wearing that?"

Well, I was going to… until you said that. Congrats, now you have to wait two more hours while I find another outfit that you’re probably going to hate.

6. “You might be able to fit into this.”

Might? What exactly do you mean by might? 

7. “Your sister is so hot!”

Wow, that’s a really endearing way to tell me that I got screwed in the gene pool.

8.  “You have a really pretty face.”

Just my face? What, you made it past my neck and decided that the rest of me was hideous? 

9. “Your hair looks way better (shorter, darker, longer, up, etc.).”

That’s funny, I don’t remember asking for your opinion…

10. “You’re still hungry?”

You know what? Yes, I am. And I am going to inhale this entire Footlong and not feel bad about it.

11. “Why are you freaking out?”

Freaking out?? Do you really want to see me freak out?!

12. “Didn’t you wear that last week?”

Yeah… what are you going to do about it? 

13. “You ask a lot of questions.”

Maybe if you learned how to answer them correctly in the first place I wouldn’t have to ask so frickin’ many.

14. “I don’t know if I trust your cooking.”

Fine. Then don’t eat it. More for me.

15. "It's not you; it's me."

Yeah, okay. Good one. 

16. “Is that your real hair?”

That’s for me to know and for you to never find out.

17. “Don't be mad; I was just kidding!”

That was really funny. Like, super funny. 

18. “Are you sick?”

Yes, and I’m contagious. So don’t piss me off.

19. “You’re crazy.”

If I am in fact crazy, wouldn’t it be a terrible idea to tell me that I'm crazy?

20. “You have a lot of feelings.”

Since when is that illegal? 

21. "Calm down."

I. Am. Calm. But you're making it extremely difficult for me to stay that way.

22. “How much do you weigh?

Not even worth an explanation.

The New Mockingjay Teaser Is Amazing

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The Mockingjay lives and we just can't get enough! The first installment of the final Hunger Games movie (based off the third and final book) premieres November 21, but to satisfy our hunger (get it?) for Mockingjay Part 1, a teaser trailer was just recently released and it's amazing, beautiful, and super creepy.

Appearing to be a message from The Capitol's villainous leader, President Snow, the video promotes unity among the districts against a pristine backdrop that's a serious homage to "All White Everything." On either side of Snow are the captured Peeta Mellark and Johanna Mason looking like gorgeous, stoic props for the president whom we love to hate. But his cool, calm, and collected demeanor can't hide the malicious intent behind his words.

However, another video transmission interrupts the Capitol TV propoganda and it's former victor and tech wiz Beetee, informing Panem that the Mockingjay lives. We get the chills just watching it and November 21 can't come soon enough. We need our JLaw/Katniss fix ASAP! Hopefully there will be more of these to come and maybe we'll even get a little glimpse of Liam Hemsworth as Gale because who doesn't love looking at that beautiful man?

 

7 Guys Taylor Swift Has Immortalized in Song

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Let's be honest: Taylor Swift goes through guys like most of us go through episodes of Orange Is the New Black. That being said, we really can't complain too much, seeing as T Swift has provided the soundtrack to our makeouts, breakups and existential crises for years now. Whether you love her or hate her, you can't deny that Taylor has a way with the fellas, having dated some of the hottest guys in Hollywood. As most young romances do, these relationships failed sooner or later, and what better way to get back at the exes who wronged you than by writing super-specific songs about them that millions and millions of girls will hear? 

But who exactly has Taylor Swift dated? This question is alarmingly complicated, so HC did some digging. The country-pop singer is known for sneaking hidden messages into the lyrics listed in the liner notes of her albums (she capitalizes random letters in the middle of words and the capitalized letters spell out names or phrases), and we've read between the lines to bring you seven of the most famous guys T Swift has ever written a song about. Warning: broken hearts ahead.

1. Adam Young

The song: "Enchanted"

Incriminating evidence: There were plenty of rumors that one of T Swift's most popular songs was about meeting the Owl City frontman at a party, but nothing was confirmed until Adam Young released his own slightly altered cover of "Enchanted" along with a heartfelt note returning Taylor's affections on Valentine's Day. Why these two songbirds haven't dated, we'll never know, but we'll keep our fingers crossed that this adorable duo will give romance a whirl (just think of the duets!). 

2. John Mayer

The songs: "Dear John" and "The Story of Us"

Incriminating evidence: Well, the title of the song is "Dear John," so...

But actually, the subject of this emotional song would be obvious even if his name weren't in the title, with lyrics like, "All the girls that you've run dry / Have tired, lifeless eyes / 'Cause you've burned them out," presumably referring to the myriad of Hollywood hotties the infamous womanizer has been linked to, including Jennifer Aniston, Jessica Simpson, Jennifer Love Hewitt, Cameron Diaz and, most recently, Katy Perry. Taylor swift gets a bad rap for being dramatic, but we get the sense this one might have been spot-on (although John Mayer clearly didn't think so).

If you're still not convinced, "The Story of Us" is supposedly about Taylor Swift running into John Mayer at the 2010 Country Music Awards: "I'm starting to think one day I'll tell the story of us / How I was losing my mind when I saw you here." It's nice to know even celebrities have awkward ex encounters, even if they are on a much larger scale. 

3. Joe Jonas

The songs: "Forever and Always,""Last Kiss" and "Better Than Revenge"

Incriminating evidence: Clearly T Swift got more hung up on the Jonas Brothers singer than anyone thought, having written numerous songs about him. "Forever and Always" is supposedly about the 27-second phone call during which Joe dumped Taylor. Come on, Joe - a 27-second phone call? We'd want payback, too! On a more nostalgic note, "Last Kiss" appears to be a more vulnerable reference to the boy band member, with the secret liner message reading, "FOREVER AND ALWAYS".

Of course, we can't forget the jilted-lover anthem "Better Than Revenge" was written about Camilla Belle, the girl Joe Jonas supposedly left Taylor for. With lines like, "She's not a saint and she's not what you think / She's an actress, whoa / But she's better known for the things that she does / On the mattress, whoa," the song makes sure that Taylor's exes and their future lady loves know they had better watch out. 

4. Jake Gyllenhaal

The song: "All Too Well"

Incriminating evidence: Our favorite song on the Red album, "All Too Well," conjurs up images of a crisp autumn day and a certain gorgeous actor. Though the singer's relationship with Jake Gyllenhaal was short-lived, Taylor definitely had a lot to say about her ex on this five-and-a-half minute song. The line, "And I left my scarf there, at your sister's house," clearly alludes to Maggie Gyllenhaal, with whom Taylor was snapped spending some quality time in New York.  Then there's the line about "twin fire signs," and, what do you know, both Taylor and Jake share a Sagittarius astrological sign (sneaky detective work, whomever figured that one out - kudos). We have to admit, we kind of loved these two together... here's hoping they make it work one day!

5. Taylor Lautner

The song: "Back to December"

Incriminating evidence: Taylor (Swift) made this one relatively easy for us to figure out, hiding "TAY" in the album lyrics for the melancholy "Back to December." Plus, the hunky, golden god definitely fits the, "I miss your tanned skin, your sweet smile / So good to me, so right" description (at least the first part... although we're pretty sure he's an amazing boyfriend, too). We loved this couple in Valentine's Day, and we can't help but question T Swift for throwing away such a perfectly delicious werewolf guy. Oh well, more for us!

6. Conor Kennedy

The songs: "Begin Again" and "Everything Has Changed"

Incriminating evidence: What do you get when you mix a music-industry darling with American royalty? A relationship for the ages (it didn't last quite that long, but still). While it's not confirmed, it's rumored that Taylor began seeing the Kennedy cutie eight months after breaking things off with Parachute frontman Will Anderson, making the "Begin Again" lines, "I've been spending the last eight months / Thinking all love ever does / Is break and burn and end" particularly relevant.

If that isn't quite convincing enough, the hidden message in the "Everything Has Changed" liner notes is blatantly obvious: "HYANNIS PORT." Taylor has been snapped at Conor Kennedy's famous family compound in Massachusetts multiple times, and even purchased a house next door to her then-boyfriend, which she subsequently sold after their breakup. Ah, celebrity.

7. Harry Styles

The songs: "I Knew You Were Trouble"

Incriminating evidence: I think Taylor Swift is giving herself a little too much credit here: we all knew he was trouble when he walked in. Apparently this romance ended when Harry was snapped locking lips with American model Emma Ostilly, and the heartbroken Taylor Swift wasted no time penning "I Knew You Were Trouble" about the One Direction member. The subject of the hit song was confirmed by T Swift herself when she acknowledged that her performance of the song at the 2013 BRIT awards was emotional when the guy who inspired it was standing nearby. 

As we all know, the breakup of the predictably ill-fated couple wasn't exactly amicable...

For those of you who don't have the pleasure of knowing, you are looking at the now-famous gif of Taylor Swift whispering, "Shut the f**k up" to bestie Selena Gomez after One Direction won an award at the MTV Video Music Awards last year. Yeah, that happened, and it was glorious.

Take a bow, T Swift, and don't ever change.

7 Dating Sites You Won’t Believe Are Real

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America is the land of the free and the home of the online dating sites. Maybe you’ve tried one out yourself, or maybe you’re just morbidly curious about the universe of potential romance that lies between “www” and “dot com.” No matter what the case is, you’re a part of a generation that relies heavily on using online dating resources to find love. Don’t believe us? Get this: more than one-third of U.S. marriages today are the result of relationships that began online. There are, of course, the stalwart dating sites that you’ve come across simply by virtue of being a human with access to the Internet: we’re talking Match.com, eHarmony and OkCupid. What you may be surprised to hear, however, is that there are tons of bizarre dating sites you won’t even believe exist lurking in the corners of the Internet. Luckily for you, we’ve scoured every inch of the Internet and compiled some of the strangest, funniest or just uncomfortably specific dating sites on the web. Which one is calling to you?

1. PURRsonals (purrsonals.com)

Remember that crazy funny video of the girl making her profile video for eHarmony who started crying mid-bio talking about cats? Okay, so maybe that turned out to be fake, but what is important is that instead of perusing eHarmony, girlfriend should have been creating a profile on PURRsonals, a dating site dedicated to cat lovers. If it sounds super weird, that’s because it is. If you join now, it’s free, and they’ll even send you a free eBook worth $15! What’s the eBook about, you ask? Cat care. Like, seriously. Cat care.

2. DiaperMates  (diapermates.com)

Are you an adult diaper lover? Are you searching for a relationship with another fully grown man or woman who likes to do his or her business in a glorified sack tied around the waist? If you said “yes” to either of these questions, then DiaperMates might be the online dating site for you. You may be inclined to assume that the largest demographic of members on the site is, well, geriatric, but that’s not true. Almost half of the total members on DiaperMates are between 21 and 29. Personally, we want to stay all kinds of far away from anything that goes down on this site. It’s just too weird. It’s worth it to mention that the site doesn’t allow poop pictures – not that that makes it any better.

3. FarmersOnly(farmersonly.com )

Lots of people have heard of FarmersOnly, thanks to their stellar commercial campaign complete with tagline “City Folks Just Don’t Get It.” We actually applaud the efforts of this particular site. After plowing the fields all day, it’s probably tough to muster up the energy to go out to bars (or wherever farmers go) to meet people. We’re not sure what the exact qualifications are for being a farmer, but we’re assuming our sad attempt at growing our own herbs doesn’t exactly count. Anyone on the site want to teach us the ways of agricultural living?

4. Vampire Passions (vampirepassions.com)

If you’re still holding on to your last desperate hope that Edward Cullen is going to ditch Bella and come live with you for eternity, then it might be time to take matters into your own hands. Instead of waiting for Edward to come to you, why not go to him? Vampire Passions is a dating site for people who legitimately think that they’re vampires and are looking to drink the blood of other humans. You can even search for people who like drinking the same blood type as you do. Apparently that turns some people on.

5. NaturistPassion.com (naturistpassion.com)

Say that you’re really into the life of a nudist. Say, again, that you’re really into dating someone else who wants to live the life of a nudist. Though it may be hard to bring that up in conversation on a different dating site, NaturistPassion.com is the perfect place to meet other nudists without having the awkward, “So, what are your feelings on public nudity?” conversation. We’re a little confused as to where exactly you could go on a date with another nudist (other than a nude beach… or your own home), but there are tens of thousands of members on this site, so they must be figuring something out. Our advice is to steer clear of this website while at work. Your boss may not be as understanding about browsing naked people on the Internet as you wish he was.

6. Stache Passions (stachepassions.com)

What’s your favorite fetish? For certain people, it’s moustaches. Maybe you have one, love a man who sports one or just are generally intrigued by facial hair. Whatever the case, check out Stache Passions, which is a real place on the Internet where people who have an affinity for moustaches come together and form romantic relationships. You can even narrow your search by stache type. Are you more of a Dali girl? Or do you go weak at the knees for a good ole handlebar? (Just stay away from any guy trying to bring back the Hitler stache; that’s our one piece of advice.) The jury is still out on what happens if a member shaves. Are you forced to leave? We’ll get back to you on that one.

7. Sea Captain Date (seacaptaindate.com)

Talk about having a type. If you can’t get enough of Captain Ahab or you just like the seafaring type, check out Sea Captain Date to become some lucky man’s first mate. Maybe on date night you can heat things up by reading The Old Man and the Sea out loud to each other. Or, after a crazy romantic night, you can tell your friends that your boyfriend “really adjusted your sails” or “made you feel like a mermaid.” Whatever that means. According to the website’s front page, there are over 10,000 captains who are members (this number is surprising mostly because we’re shocked there are that many sea captains, period).

Which one are you mostly likely to try out? Maybe we should start a Her Campus dating site. HCCampusCuties.com, anyone? Let us know what you think! 

28 Signs You’re From Florida

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1. You’ve always wondered what snow days were like…

2. …but hurricane days don’t faze you.

3. Even if you weren’t alive at the time, you can tell anyone what happened during Hurricane Andrew.

4. Flip-flops are your go-to footwear.

5. You go to the beach during winter break.

6. Publix subs are your lunch of choice.

7. You’ve had a class field trip to the Everglades.

8. You break out your Uggs and your winter coat in 60-degree weather.

9. You can comfortably wear boots and flip-flops in the same day.

10. You will always root for the Dolphins and the Marlins, no matter how bad they are…

11. …so you are especially grateful the Heat can salvage the reputation of Miami athletics.

12. You don’t have to worry about rain canceling your plans because you know it never rains for more than 15 minutes at a time.

13. You have never built a snowman, but nobody can touch your sandcastle-making skills.

14. The Miami Seaquarium jingle is always stuck in your head.

15. You had annual passes to Walt Disney World at some point in your life…

16. …and you have pictures with all of the characters.

17. You drive with the sunroof open or the top down 365 days a year.

18. You have always wanted a basement.

19. You have more bathing suits than sweatshirts.

20. Your winter has never lasted longer than a month.

21. You were basically required to learn Spanish in order to get around.

22. You went to Santa’s Enchanted Forest every Christmas season.

23. You’ve taken a picture at Jaxson’s Ice Cream Parlour.

24. You are used to the weird and crazy headlines Florida creates.

25. Oranges are your go-to fruit.

26. You have been to bar and bat mitzvahs that were more elaborate than some weddings.

27. You learned to swim before you could walk.

28. You know you can always call paradise your home.

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