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Netflix Accidentally Took 'Gilmore Girls' Down & the Internet Pretty Much Lost It

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While we were all less than thrilled to log onto Netflix on October 1st to discover that tons of our favorite shows — including 30 RockFriday Night Lights and One Tree Hill — were removed from the streaming platform's offerings, many Netflix users were (understandably) freaking out to discover that Gilmore Girls was part of the missing shows, and they hadn't been warned about it. Not cool.

As Hello Giggles reports, as tons of users tried to use their Sundays to squeeze in a Gilmore Girls binge (as one does) and noticed the show was mysteriously gone, the Internet basically went into crisis mode and lost its damn mind:

Even Lin-Manuel Miranda, the creator of Hamilton, vented his frustration to the Internet, along with a ~v pressing~ question for Lauren Graham a.k.a. Lorelai Gilmore.

Luckily, the whole thing was because of a glitch in Netflix — not because the streaming service somehow made the tragic mistake of not allowing Gilmore Girls fans to find out whether Luke and Lorelai end up together. Phew.


Blake Lively Says Her Latest Movie Changed Her Mind About Onscreen Nudity

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Even though she says that her latest movie, All I See Is You, is "the performance I'm most proud of," so far in her career, Blake Lively almost didn't even read the script for the film.

In a new interview with Vanity Fair, the actress and former Gossip Girl opened up about how she and her team almost passed on her All I See Is You role — in which she plays a blind woman who regains her sight via a miraculous surgery — because of her no-nudity rule.

 

.... All I see is you. @aisiymovie

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"I thought, well, [director Marc Forster] is not unmoving," Lively told Vanity Fair. "Let me read it, and if it's great, then I'll talk him out of it."

But apparently, she fell in love with the script so much that she agreed to do it, nude scene and all — and it even changed her mind about about filming nude.

"I always find nudity distracting," she added. "I’m very in love with my husband, but if there’s a pair of boobs out, I’m a human being! You’re like 'boobs!' It doesn't mean I’m lusting for them, [but] when there’s naked boobies, you look at them."

I mean, she makes a fair point. In addition to filming a partially nude scene for the first time, the movie also reportedly challenged her with 19-hour days filming and consulting with blind friends in order to get her character right — basically making it, "the most intense film I'd ever been on." It definitely sounds like it. All I See Is You hits theaters October 27th.

What Your Halloween Costume Says About You

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Boo! Are you ready for Halloween 2017, collegiettes? Whether your plans include attending a crazy party, hosting a scary movie marathon or participating in your school’s favorite Halloween tradition, you’re going to need a costume as awesome as you are.

And what message will your costume convey? You may not realize it, but what you dress up as on Halloween says a lot about you!

1. The Group Costume

You and your besties dress up as a group—how else will everyone know how undyingly devoted you are to one another? The group costume exists to send the message that you freakin’ love your best friends (and you don’t care who knows it!). So you whip out your best ‘90s gear as the Spice Girls, duct-tape yourselves into pseudo-iPhone dresses or go wild as zookeepers and animals.

If you’re going to look ridiculous, the group costume ensures that you don’t look ridiculous alone. You may be an individual on any other given day of the year, but Halloween is not that day.

2. The Pop Culture Icon

 

Hi! My name's Kimmy, Kimmy Schmidt! I think Titus and Jacqueline are out trick or treating... Hashbrown no filter!

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You have tabs on everything that goes on in Hollywood. Like, literal tabs. On your computer. At any given time, you have E!, Just Jared, Perez and People up on your screen, perusing the newest and most ridiculous celebrity news. You also host Oscar parties, tweet at Kim Kardashian regularly in hopes that she’ll respond and are genuinely pissed that Brad and Angie didn’t invite you when they tied the knot.

You’ll dress up as Kimmy Schmidt, Eleven from Stranger Things or Taylor Swift from her "Look What You Made Me Do" video… and you’ll rock it!

3. The Really Intricate, Homemade Costume

You literally live for Halloween. Not only does it give you the chance to stretch your creative muscles and concoct a costume that everyone will be envious of, but it also means it’s time for your to start making your signature pumpkin cookies that everyone dies for. You start planning weeks (nay, months) in advance for the holiday, perusing Pinterest boards and selling items through your Etsy shop to raise funds for your endeavor.

Eventually, you decide on a costume. Mother Goose. Hermione Granger. Martha Stewart as Medusa. Each of these options speaks to your true self, the one you feel aligned with during the Halloween season. After knitting your entire outfit and making a few dozen cookies for your friends, you still have some time to spare. So you make another costume. Just in case.

4. The Couples Costume

It’s no surprise that you and your significant other are attached at the hip: You’re veritably obsessed with each other! No matter what party you end up at on Halloween, it’s a good bet that you and your SO will be matching in totally awesome costumes.

The obvious choice is to be Beyoncé and Jay Z. Or, wait, a better option may be Kim and Kanye. Don’t like the idea of dressing as celebrities? No problem. Matching costumes are just as cute. How about dressing up as Mickey and Minnie Mouse? Adorable!

Whatever you decide, everyone you run into will know that you and your SO are a C-O-U-P-L-E, and you don’t care who knows it. Even if matching costumes are kind of a punch in the face to your single friends, you don’t care. You and bae look super cute. Plus, there’s a fantastic Facebook profile pic in the works with a couple costume. Just wait; come November first, the likes will start rolling in.

5. The Punny Costume

You’re probably an English major, and you think that playing with words is basically the most hilarious thing ever. You’ll dress up as a “cereal killer” by splashing red paint across a Cheerios box and sticking it to your front, or you’ll cover your body in sponges, claiming to be “self-absorbed.” People usually don’t get your punny costume unless you explain it to them first, but that’s okay. It allows you the chance to show your intellectual superiority and wit.

You’ll go to a party for a total of 45 minutes before growing increasingly annoyed with the silly drunk kids running around like idiots, so after sipping on a glass of white wine at some guy’s cousin’s pregame, you’ll go home to read a book.

6. The Disney Princess

 

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It’s a category all on its own because of its prevalence across college campuses all over the country. Collegiettes love dressing up as princesses (because we basically are royalty… right?), and those of the Disney variety are the crème de la crème.

If you dress up as Cinderella, Pocahontas or Belle, you’re probably an elementary ed major who is having a really hard time letting go of your childhood. Instead of pre-gaming, you’ll be microwaving chicken nuggets (you’re too scared to use a stove) and sipping on a Capri Sun. Your favorite dance songs are from musicals, obviously, and you count the dolls on your bed among your bestest of friends. You do you, girlfriend—as long as you’re in bed by midnight when the princess magic runs out.

7. The Black Cat

Chances are you’ll see approximately a million pointy-eared felines prowling Halloween parties across campus come October 31. And why shouldn’t you? Black cats strike the perfect balance between kinda eerie and super cute. If a kitty-cat is your purr-fect costume, then you probably like to play it safe when it comes to dressing up. It’s a costume that people are used to seeing, it doesn’t have much of a shock factor, and it can be dressed up all sexayyy if you so choose.

You feel like you’re participating in Halloween mostly because, well, it’s what you do in college, isn’t it? Your hesitancy shows through the lack of originality in your outfit choice. While your roomies have been planning their extravagant ensembles since before the semester even started, you started digging through your closet on October 30, hoping to come across a black dress that you could add ears and whiskers to. It’s okay that you aren’t super stoked about Halloween; just give it a chance and you may find that it’s, like, the best holiday ever. (For what you’ll morph into for next year, refer to #3.)

8. The Legitimately Scary Costume

Your idea of a perfect Halloween costume? Something bloody, gory and actually terrifying. You laugh in the face of those who have commercialized a day meant to inspire fear in the hearts of people everywhere, and you’re doing your part to bring the holiday back to its intended purpose.

You listen to Evanescence unironically, count American Horror Story as one of your favorite TV shows and read Gothic fiction for fun. These sources of inspiration lead you to dress up as a bloody undertaker or mass murderer. You think dressing up as Charles Manson is totally appropriate and doesn’t cross any boundaries whatsoever. You also kill insects for fun.

What are you dressing up as for Halloween this year, collegiettes? Did we nail down what your costume says about the true you? Let us know in the comments below!

HC Wake-Up Call: ISIS Claimed Responsibility for Las Vegas & Someone Did the Most Horrifying Thing to a Group of Fourth Graders

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Good morning Her Campus! With a break-neck news cycle, there is no possible way for you to stay on top of every story that comes across your feeds—we’re all only human, after all.

But, life comes at you fast. So grab a cup of coffee and settle in for this quick and dirty guide to stories you might’ve been sleeping on (like, literally. It’s early.)

People Think ISIS Has Falsely Claimed Responsibility for the Las Vegas Shooting

Despite the fact that 64-year-old Stephen Paddock, who was responsible for the shooting in Las Vegas late Sunday night, had no know affiliations with ISIS, the terror group surprised experts by taking credit for the attack, Slate reports. Experts say ISIS rarely takes credit for attacks they didn't play a part in — but on the other hand, authorities have found no connection between Paddock and the terrorist group, and his family has said that he never expressed extremist views and had no religious or political affiliation. 

Semen-Tainted Flutes Were Distributed to Music Students in California & WTF?!

Yes, you (unfortunately) read that correctly. Cosmopolitan reports that an employee for Flutes Across the World, a nonprofit music education organization, distributed "semen-tainted" flutes to music students in the fourth through sixth grades at a school district in Southern California. (I'm just as horrified as you are.) The Los Angeles Unified School District is reportedly cooperating in an investigation into "inappropriate sexual conduct involving a musical performer," in 13 school districts. Um, WTF?

What to look out for...

It's October 3rd, so make sure to wear pink and quote Mean Girls as many times as possible, obvi.

4 Foolproof Ways to Prep for the GRE

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Whether you’ve chosen to pursue a career that requires an advanced degree, or just decided you’re not quite ready for the “real world” yet, either way, you’re scoping out grad schools, GRE test dates and trying not to freak out. How exactly do you manage your already busy life and prepare for the exam? We spoke to some test-prep experts and GRE survivors to find out.

1. Take a practice test

This may sound like a no-brainer but Dawn Piacentino, Senior Director of Communications for the GRE, says the one of the biggest mistakes students make is thinking they don’t have to study.

“At a minimum students should download a POWERPREP™ online,” says Piacentino. “There are two practice tests available for free. The [online practice test], look and feel exactly how you’ll...take [the test].” Reviewing the structure of the exam is a major key to boosting your confidence and performing well. Piacentino says test-takers who are unfamiliar with the test can waste time trying to figure out the directions instead of actually answering the questions.

In addition to the practice exams, there’s even a free refresher course for the quantitative (math) section. You’ll be able to brush up on basic arithmetic, algebra, geometry and data analysis.

To access these free tests, make an ETS account and visit the GRE online shop. Add the free POWERPREP tests to your cart, then treat yourself to a some coffee using the money you saved.

Related: “New Changes Coming to the GRE Exam” 

2. Make test prep a part of your every day life

 Kaplan Director of Academics Dennis Yim has been teaching GRE and GMAT courses for over a decade and says test-takers need to change the way they approach the exam.

“Students have been trained to study in short increments, and that’s a very challenging situation to be put in,” says Yim. “The GRE is unlike any exam they’ve ever taken. That’s where our value comes in as instructors and coaches.”

Yim says trying to commit to 2-hour study sessions every day can be discouraging. He recommends stopping a study session as soon as you get five to seven questions wrong. “You now have something to explore deeper. Embrace your mistakes, and build a road to success...understand[ing] your personal needs,” he says.

Yim says Kaplan suggests devoting at least 100 hours to test prep and spreading it out over a period of time, typically one to three months. If you are just starting out, Yim recommends taking a practice test (seriously, take the practice exam) to know know where you stand and what your weaknesses are.

Kaplan also offers free test prep, in-person or online with live instructors.

3. Pencil in some self-care into your planner

Melissa Alexander, a graduate student at Sacred Heart University, was working part-time while trying to study for the GRE and getting used to post-grad life. She used a mediation app to decompress when she became overwhelmed. “I also made exercise a priority for my mental and emotional health. I went for neighborhood jogs or lifted weights at the gym at least four times a week,” she says.

This tip is applicable to all parts of your life, not just during GRE prep. Join a club just for fun or drop into an improv class, anything to switch up your routine and give your mind some rest. It’s important to give yourself time to recover (and occasionally binge-watch your latest TV obsession).

4. Realize it’s not the end of the world if you don't get a perfect score

Juliana Chuffo, North Carolina State University, took the exam twice, and almost considered taking it a third time. “I certainly had freak-out moments my second time around when basically the future of my graduate school entry and thus my career rested on how well I did on the test,” she says. “But at the same time, I felt confident in myself because I put in the work and had already taken it once before, so I wasn't going in completely blind. It wasn't difficult for me to prioritize making time to study and prepare for the test.”

Dennis Yim tells his students to not put the test on a pedestal or look at it as an all-or-nothing situation. “The GRE is challenging, but also predictable. Take it one step at a time...and realize you don’t need to be a mathematician or walking dictionary. It’s about critical thinking,” says Yim.

He says the GRE can opens doors and show graduate schools how you compare to other candidates, but it isn’t the only portion of your application, and he's totally right! Don't forget your essays, personal statement and interview are just as important and give you a chance to showcase your passion and personality. “Vet schools, business schools, even Harvard Law School accepts the GRE. The competition is very diverse, but understand you are unique and should focus on your individual needs,” says Yim.

Juliana was satisfied with her test scores the second time around and is now enrolled in a Masters of Social Work program at NC State. “Just know that there are infinite second chances when it comes to education and career,” she says. “Don't stress yourself out too much about a test because if you're passionate about something, every day you put in time and effort is one day closer to you achieving your goals.”

Preach, sister. Now go study and kick butt.

Follow Ebony Joseph on Twitter and Instagram @wheresebony.

What Traumatic Events Like The Las Vegas Shootings Do To Our Brains & What We Can Do About It

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The average American college student in 2017 has seen the headline, “Worst Mass Shooting in American History,” four times in their life. Two of those shootings occurred on school grounds, one in a nightclub in Orlando, Florida and, most recently, at an outdoor concert in Las Vegas, Nevada. While these horrific events are a forceful reminder of the evil that permeates inside our free nation, they are also an opportunity for a mass overload of information from every angle — and knowing how to consume this information in a healthy manner is proving to be a problem in and of itself.

It is only natural to want to be informed about what is going on in the world, specifically when a traumatic event occurs. The National Center for PTSD even notes that “it is important to help survivors recognize the normalcy of most stress reactions to disaster.”  These reactions range from blame, confusion, and anger to emotional numbing. However, with the recent conception of the 24-hour news cycle, these reactions have the ability to occur more frequently — and, ultimately, cause unseen damage.

Jennifer Fricke, a senior at Appalachian State University, said the first time she felt glued to her phone when a news alert broke.

“I remember sitting in on a show that a bluegrass band was doing on my college campus when I heard about the attacks in Paris in November 2015. The series of attacks were said to be the single deadliest terror attack in France. I got a notification on my phone that there was breaking news of a terror attack in Paris, but the article didn't have many details," Fricke said. "I spent the next two hours of the show staring at my phone, just waiting for the next article with more information.”

What once was a family of four sitting around their television set for the nightly news recap, has quickly turned into, down to the second alerts of what is going on in the world, complete with carefully curated headlines sent to our electronic devices, emails and tablets.

E. Alison Holman, associate professor of nursing science at UC Irvine, suggests that due to the constant loop of graphic images and videos, it’s only a matter of time before stress sets in. 

”We suspect that there's something about repeated exposure to violent images or sounds that keeps traumatic events alive and can prolong the stress response in vulnerable people," Holman said. "There is mounting evidence that live and video images of traumatic events can trigger flashbacks and encourage fear conditioning. If repeatedly viewing traumatic images reactivates fear or threat responses in the brain and promotes rumination, there could be serious health consequences." 

While these health consequences are hard to pinpoint, Holman notes, “It will take further study before we know if people's rise in acute stress symptoms turns into or feeds long-term psychological injury.”  While the injury may not be diagnosed, the pain that accompanies it, is still prevalent.

Kelsey Campbell, a recent graduate of Asbury University and now a writer for a non-profit, said that feeling like she could see herself as a victim of these traumatic events splashed on the television screens has only heightened her sense of awareness and fear.

"Unfortunately, this isn't the first mass shooting in America. It is the largest. But I think the part that bothered me the most was that — unlike the cases of Syrian refugees hunting for clean water — I could picture myself in these people's shoes," Campbell said. "On any given night that could have been me. Going to an open-air country music festival is my idea of a perfect night, but now I feel like we, as a generation, won't be able to attend a concert like that one without feeling on edge or constantly scouring the crowds for an exit." 

This urgency and fear is understandable, and the stress people feel following such events as what occurred in Las Vegas is explainable. "In a national survey of U.S. adults, three to five days after the September 11, 2001, attacks, people reported watching an average of eight hours of television related to the attacks. Those who watched the most coverage had more substantial stress reactions than those who watched less television coverage," according to the National Center for PTSD. 

However, children are more likely to feel greater stress simply because of their lack of full development, and for young mothers and public school teachers like Cori Wilson, that only exacerbates her fears.

"I have other students that understand that veracity is more important than face value, which is all the media shows us. I am scared that one of them will slip through the cracks of my compassionate, loving, tender teacher hands that only seek to do good and bring good," Wilson said. "I am scared that I will not notice the signs, the red flags, the warnings that something might be wrong in their mind, that they feel hopeless. I worry that I will not give one of them the community they are looking for and they will go searching for it elsewhere, whether it be in a gang, a sect of some white-supremacy group, or that they won't find one at all, leaving them to their own devices inside their injured minds."

The fear and stress that are created following these events not only seeps into our own lives, but our fear for the lives of those around us is only magnified. 

Ashelyn Roberts, recent graduate of Western Carolina University and now Meeting Event Manager, Sheraton Seattle Hotel understands first hand just how important media is in her work, but just how powerful it is.

"The biggest thing I noticed about myself in response to social media is that I didn’t feel emotionally prepared to handle the overload I knew would be on Facebook this morning," Roberts said. "Whether it’s a long post of encouragement or a sad post about a loved one that was lost, or a long post about a political stance on the matter, I felt like I needed to emotionally process this tragedy on my own before I could even open my Facebook. It was almost like I feel like once I open the app, I am carrying the burden of 500 peoples’ grief along with my own, which is something we never had the immediate access to prior to social media." 

 

So what can we do?

Journalism professor, Sue Bullard at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln and former managing editor of the Detroit News said she believes "it's natural to feel overwhelmed" after violent events like what happened in Las Vegas on Sunday — especially because of how impossible it is to escape the grisly details from social media to radio to TV B-roll.  However, she suggests sourcing news from the area where the event occurred  because they can offer better informed broadcasts. (There's also this great resource from Public Radio International that outlines five steps to ensure you're a better news consumer.) 

"I do think on days like this the local news outlet – in this case the Las Vegas Review-Journal – are often good sources simply because they typically know the area, the police and the people on the ground. For the same reason, I’d look to the Los Angeles Times simply because it’s the closest major news outlet," Bullard said, but also notes that it is perfectly okay to just shut it off for a bit. "I think at times we need to just turn off all the screens and stop watching. Take a break from the news." 

The U.S Department of Affairs suggests taking similar action to protect your brain from traumatic news overload: "Limiting viewing just prior to bedtime, reading newspaper and journal articles rather than watching television, and talking to people about the attack as a means of gathering information." 

The world we've come to live in is one of hyper-awareness and over-stimulation, but if you have capability to use this and channel it into something productive, do it. Fight back, flip the script and use the power of social media to inform your friends about policies and legislation in the pipeline, to spread the facts about local elections and how they can get involved with relief efforts. Donate blood if you can. Throw a party with your friends and, before anyone can have a drink, write a letter to your legislator.

Staying informed is crucial, but approach the news with caution and when you begin to feel overwhelmed, know that it is perfectly okay to shut off and take a break.

Kaylen Schroeder, a recent graduate of the University of Florida, sets a pretty good example of how to utilize social media as a tool for education and awareness. 

"I am not scared of the news and all the events social media has opened my eyes to, but I am more aware of my surroundings," Schroader said. "The media today has made me more alert and awake than I used to be." 

Take charge collegiettes, and know we're all in this fight together. 

What to Do When Your Partner's Sex Drive Is Higher (or Lower) Than Yours

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We know, we know. Isn’t it only, like, old married couples that have to deal with one partner wanting sex more or less than the other? Unfortunately, as many of you readers probably know, this is not the case. In fact, more and more young women are experiencing less of a desire to have sex due to a variety of both physical and physiological causes.

In case you’re dealing with this in a relationship you’re currently in, or if you just want to be prepared, we spoke to some experts about the range of explanations for libido differences and came up with some possible solutions. Read on for some newfound sexpertise!

Why It’s Happening:

A particularly high or low sex drive can result from physical, mental and other causes. Dr. Jennifer Wider, M.D., a women’s health expert and author, states that “stress can kill a person’s sex drive, as can sleep deprivation.” If you (or your partner) are under a great deal of pressure (at work, because of school or other issues), a decrease in sex drive might develop. It’s like when it’s finals and the stress is so high that all you can do is lay in bed. The last thing you want to do is exert energy, even if it may lead to pleasure!

Dr. Wider adds that certain medications can decrease libido as well; antidepressants, blood pressure meds, and seizure drugs have the potential to lower your desire to have sex. For women in particular “sometimes hormonal issues get in the way,” and are related to your menstrual cycle. The symptoms of menstruation can have both negative and positive effects on your sex drive. For example, during the PMS part of your cycle, you might feel tired, exhausted, bloated or all of the above, and have no sexual desire whatsoever. While you’re ovulating, however, “the libido is usually higher,” says Dr. Wider.
Even birth control can also negatively impact libido. This is likely due to the mix of hormones that birth control supplies to the body. Birth control can also cause “less vaginal lubrication” according to Go Ask Alice!.

Related: Research Shows Millenials Are Having Less Sex Than Previous Generations

August McLaughlin, health and sexuality writer, states that “libido differences are hugely common.” If you’re having this issue in your relationship, you’re not alone! McLaughlin adds that “it’s probably rarer not to have some discrepancy at some point,” which totally makes sense! Sex drive is just another trait in a long list of personal attributes, and you’re not always going to line up perfectly with whomever you’re in a relationship (or just having sex) with.

It’s also a total myth that men are always more desiring of sex (and, of course, this notion is super heteronormative). Of this assumption, Dr. Wider says that she has dealt with an “almost 50/50” split of male versus female instances of sex drive discrepancies. So don’t feel weird if you’re the one feeling more sexual than your male partner. Don’t feel weird if you’re differently sexually-inclined at all!

What to Do:

Communicate

“Open communication,” says McLaughlin, is essential to getting over this obstacle in your relationship. With your partner, “explore your expectations, needs and desires.” Just like having sex is part of your relationship, talking about having sex might also have to be! This might seem (oddly) like a turn-off at first, but developing a comfort around the topic of sexuality with your partner will likely only lead to greater intimacy!

It might also be necessary to re-evaluate the importance of sex in your relationship, or at least the way that sex and sensuality can be experienced. For McLaughlin, “sexual empowerment isn’t about having a highly active sex life.” On the contrary, she states that “it’s about embracing your sexuality as you see fit.”

Compromise in a relationship is essential, so be sure to not only lean in to your partner’s desires, but make sure that yours are accounted for.  You also don’t want to expect the world of your partner or for them to expect the world of you. McLaughlin also says that “deciding to cuddle, kiss and so on, without expectation of it necessarily leading to intercourse or orgasm” might help take the pressure off a stressed-out libido.

Modify your medication

Because your medications might be impacting your sex drive, you might want to consider changing them. Of course, talk to your doctor about this and ask them what your options are and if they think that altering your medication might be the solution to your problems. “Don’t hesitate to speak with a healthcare practitioner,” says Dr. Wider. This is, of course, an issue that has to do with your physical well-being!

Schedule sex

According to McLaughlin, “some couples really benefit from scheduling sex, at a frequency that seems reasonable to both partners.” Compromise is essential here. Setting out a time to engage in intimacy with your partner might seem really unromantic, but it might actually increase your arousal because of all the build-up around the event! Also, this means that you can perfectly plan your shaving schedule, if you’re into that.

Related: 4 Things You Didn’t Know About Your Sex Drive

Masturbate

Masturbation can work to the benefit of individuals in relationships, not just single people! “If you’re on the lower libido side, self-stimulating may help increase arousal,” says McLaughlin. Not only will this be pleasurable for you, but your partner might find it extraordinarily stimulating as well!

Spend more time on foreplay

Foreplay, AKA all the super-sexy lead up to actual intercourse, provides a really good opportunity to hike up your sex drive. McLaughlin says that this is particularly stimulating for women, because “estrogen-based bodies tend to take longer to warm up into desire than testosterone-based bodies.” We’re hard to please, what can we say? Nothing wrong with high standards, and it just makes our pleasure that much more pleasurable!

See a professional

If you think that your or your partner’s sex drive might be abnormal or related to a physical or medical problem, definitely see (or suggest that they see) a doctor. Otherwise, the two of you might benefit from going to see a couple’s or sex therapist. This is bound to be awkward at first, but remember that they just want to help you and that they’ve dealt with this before.

Having a third party (insert threesome joke here) might help move things along if you don’t feel comfortable talking to your partner about your or their sex drive at first. It might also help to have an objective opinion if your sex drive discrepancy is an issue of miscommunication in your relationship!
Just remember that your body and your desires are your own, and as weird or uncomfortable or abnormal as you may feel, if you tackle the problem head-on, a difference in sex drive does not have to be a relationship dealbreaker.

This Guitarist Changed His Stance on Gun Control After Witnessing the Las Vegas Shooting

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Lead guitarist for the Josh Abbott Band, Caleb Keeter, has  changed his views on gun control after he witnessed the deadliest mass shooting in U.S. history at the Route 91 Harvest Festival Sunday night. The band performed at the event before the attack, which left 59 people dead and over 500 injured.

The possibility of new gun regulations has been a hot topic of conversation since news of the Las Vegas shooting broke. Keeter, who released a statement Monday morning via Twitter, has reconsidered his stance on whether America needs stricter gun laws in light of what he witnessed, Entertainment Weekly reports.

In his statement, Keeter expressed how he's been a Second Amendment advocate his whole life, but now, "enough is enough." Keeter said his crew had guns, but they were unable to use them to help. Ultimately, he said having guns was "useless" given the situation.

"Writing my parents and the love of my life a goodbye last night and a living will because I felt like I wasn’t going to live through the night was enough for me to realize that this is completely and totally out of hand. These rounds were powerful enough that my crew guys just standing in a close proximity of a victim shot by this f--king coward received shrapnel wounds."

"We need gun control RIGHT. NOW. My biggest regret is that I stubbornly didn't realize it until my brothers on the road and myself were threatened by it," Keeter wrote. "We are unbelievably fortunate to not be among the number of victims killed or seriously wounded by this maniac."

Keeter later tweeted that he won't live in fear. 

Regardless of your stance on gun control, Keeter's statement is powerful and should make you think. 


Miley Cyrus Sang 'The Climb' for the First Time in Years to Honor Las Vegas

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Miley Cyrus gave a moving performance on The Tonight Show Monday night in honor of those affected by Sunday's Las Vegas shooting. Accompanied by Adam Sandler, the singer performed Dido's "No Freedom"to send a powerful message to those grieving around the world.

Miley later sat down with host Jimmy Fallon to explain the meaning behind her song choice, which she's also sung for The Happy Hippie Foundation

"I love that there is no love without freedom," she said. "And I think about that when these tragic events happen. What is music if we can’t go see our favorite artist perform because we’re scared of violence or we’re scared of losing someone that we love to go to a concert or to go see a film? And I think that right now, we’re supposed to be the land of the free, but we can’t have freedom if we’re constantly living in fear so I think never bow down to bullies—that’s what my parents always said—and to stand up for what’s right, and I think just constantly share hope instead of encouraging any more fear."

Cyrus closed the show with her 2009 hit "The Climb," a song she hasn't performed in over five years, Cosmopolitan reports. 

"I’m doing ‘The Climb’ because it says ‘the struggles I’m facing/the chances I’m taking/they sometimes might knock me down but I’m not breaking/You may not know it, but these are the moments that we’re going to remember most.' The moments we’re going to remember most aren’t being pulled apart by evil, but coming together through love, you know and all of us uniting and really believing," she told Fallon. 

Miley poured her heart into these performances, and she's just one of the many celebrities who are showing their support during this tragic time. 

Cole Sprouse Wrote a Powerful Twitter Thread About the Media's Role in Gun Violence

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Following the horrific mass shooting that occurred in Las Vegas Sunday night, celebrities are coming forward to show their support. While many famous figures are offering condolences, Riverdale actor Cole Sprouse took a different approach by providing an intellectual response to yet another tragic event caused by gun violence. 

In a powerful Twitter thread, Cole called out the media for focusing so much on the lives of shooters. By making these "villians" famous, Sprouse argued that the media is encouraging others who are "hungry for attention." He went on to say that a "part of whiteness" is responsible for the recurring gun violence and killing that happens so often in this country. As HuffPost reports, white men have committed the majority of mass shootings in the United States, though many continue to fear non-Americans. 

Read Cole's complete thread below.

As our nation struggles to make sense of such a heartless crime, Cole points to specific issues that must be addressed to understand and hopefully prevent a similar tragedy from happening in the future. 

This Marine Veteran Stole A Truck To Help Las Vegas Shooting Victims — But Doesn't Want You To Call Him A 'Hero'

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According to CBS This Morning, a Marine veteran, Taylor Winston, managed to save over 24 victims by stealing a truck during the fatal shooting at the Route 91 Harvest country music festival in Las Vegas.

Amidst the tragedy of the Las Vegas terrorist attack mass shooting, Winston and his girlfriend, Jenn Lewis, were able to keep their composure and rescued over two dozen gunshot victims.

“I saw a field with a bunch of white trucks. I tested my luck to see if any of them had keys in it, first one we tried opening had keys sitting right there. I started looking for people to take to the hospital,” Winston explained to CBS This Morning.


It’s beyond surreal that Winston and the other concert-goers would even have to endure events like Sunday night, seeing as moments prior to Winston’s courageous act, he was enjoying his evening. “Me and a friend went and got a few drinks and found our other friends near the side stage and we just kind of posted up there to watch and enjoy the concert,” Winston told CBS This Morning.

Winston wasn’t the only hero present during this tragedy. A retired teacher, Mike Cronk, explained to ABC 13 that he witnessed multiple victim help each other to first-responders. Of which, Cronk also said he helped tie a tourniquet on his friend, who was shot three times.

Like Cronk, Winston also rejects the title of hero, “There was a lot of bravery and courageous people out there. I'm glad that I could call them my country folk,” he tells CBS This Morning. Regardless, we are grateful for Winston’s quick-thinking.

AOL explains that Stephen Paddock, the shooter, claimed the lives of 59 victims and injured more than 500 festival-goers. We know that the acts of fortitude that came from Winston and Cronk (as well as many others) likely helped ensure the survival of dozens of victims. While we thank these brave people, we know that all there are still hundreds of injured victims who need our help.

Maren Morris's Song in Response to the Las Vegas Shooting Is Exactly What You Need to Hear Right Now

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Amid news of the mass shooting that took place Sunday night at the Route 91 Harvest Festival in Las Vegas, there has been an outcry for change. In an effort to tap into that sense of community and people’s urge to help, country singers Maren Morris—who performed at the festival just days before the deadly attack—and Vince Gill released “Dear Hate” in response to the tragedy. The song, which Maren wrote three years ago and recorded with Gill last year, is dedicated to the victims of the mass shooting.

In a tweet Monday, Maren said she never knew when would be the right time to release the song because there is no right time. “Hate is everywhere, and I’m sick of not doing enough. In the darkest tunnel, there is still love & music,” she wrote.

The Grammy-winning country artist will be donating all the money she earns from the song to the Music City Cares Fund, which was established Monday to help the victims of the Las Vegas shooting and their families.

"Dear Hate" is now available on iTunes.

How to Style Converse 7 Different Ways

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Kick it with Converse this fall on campus with these styling tricks. We turned to Instagram to see the best, ready-to-wear looks perfect for a brisk walk from class to class or just a night out with friends.

Ripped jeans

If you’re looking to change up your daily, “leggings and T-shirt” look, why not start by switching out your leggings for a ripped pair of jeans. This user paired her ripped jeans with a white v-neck, creating an effortlessly stylish look.

Jumpsuit + jacket

Pairing Converse with a jumpsuit might not have been your first thought — it definitely wasn’t mine! After seeing this ‘gram, though, I’m sold. This user paired a bright red jumpsuit and leather jacket with a pair of Converse. Next time you’re looking to dress-down your look, swap heels for some sneakers. 

A layered look

 

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The great thing about Converse, or any sneaker really, is that they can be paired with just about anything. This user paired a striped fall coat with her Converse over a casual white tee and boyfriend jeans. Rock this look at brunch with friends or just for a quick coffee date.

Edgy chic

 

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If you don’t shy away from bold looks, then this is the perfect style shot to recreate. She paired her Converse with a high-waisted, belted pant, then completed it with a corset and cropped sweatshirt

Oversized sweater

 

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Pair an oversized sweater with leggings, or jeans, for an ultra comfy, it-still-feels-like-I’m-in-bed look. This user chose to pair leggings and a loose garnet sweater with her Converse. 

Denim skirt + off-the-shoulder top

Opt for Converse instead of wedges next time you’re choosing an outfit for a night out with friends. This girl has the right idea, rocking a distressed denim skirt with an off-the-shoulder top perfect for a late-summer night or early fall look. 

Denim on denim

 

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Complete your denim-on-denim ensemble with a good pair of Converse. This ‘gram user posed in her Converse sporting a denim jacket and jeans. Accessorize the look with a pair of funky glasses or even a chunky choker.

No matter how you wear them, you can always count on Converse to add a sporty, classic element to any look!

The 'Mean Girls' Cast Reunited to Celebrate October 3rd by Giving Back to Las Vegas Shooting Victims

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What day is it? It's October 3rd. And although we'd normally just celebrate the Mean Girls holiday by wearing pink and quoting the movie as many times as humanly possible, this year, the cast is stepping up to give back in an amazing way.

According to Cosmopolitan, two members of the OG plastics, including Gretchen (Lacey Chabert) and Karen (Amanda Seyfried), along with Aaron Samuels (Jonathan Bennett), and Damian (Daniel Franzese), reunited to create a GoFundMe page to raise money for victims of the Las Vegas shooting. Via video, they're asking fans to each donate $3 in honor of the *iconic* date, with the goal of raising $300,000 for the National Compassion Fund, which supports victims of mass-casualty crimes.

"If every fan gave just $3 in honor of October 3rd, just $3, we would hit our goal of $300,000 in no time," the cast says in the video. "Guys, look. We know 'fetch' is never gonna happen, but we can make this happen. On October 3rd, I'll ask you what day it is, but we'll also ask you to help. So, you go, Glen Coco, to GoFundMe.com/October3."

Their GoFundMe page has raised over $40,000 as of Tuesday night, and according to the National Compassion Fund's website, "100% of the funds received through the National Compassion Fund Las Vegas will be distributed directly to victims." Yo go, Glen Coco.

16 Signs You & Your Roommates Are Going to Be Best Friends

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No one can fully prepare you to live with a complete stranger for the school year. But, if you get lucky, that complete stranger can become your BFF for life, lasting long after your college days. Can't tell if they're gonna be awesome or awful? If you notice these signs, they're definitely going to go from roommate to soulmate.

1. They sing along to your music

Great music taste is key in a roommate. And who better to have a karaoke sesh with than your roomie?

2. They stay up with you all night to talk about EVERYTHING

Those late-night talks are probably going to be your best memories. Discussions can range from boys to your hometown to the meaning of life.

3. They don't freak out when you break down from stress

Soon enough, the whole world comes crashing down on you! So when you walk into your room and scream into your pillow, you don't want anyone judging you. Hopefully they say "same."

4. They share their snacks with you

The dining hall is closed. You don't have any money for the vending machine. And then the best roommate EVER saves you with their stash of goodies.

5. They're down to meet you at the dining hall whenever

You'll never have to eat alone.

6. But they'll also order in with you

You know, when you're tired of the same cafeteria food? Which is like, every day?

7. They watch the same TV shows as you

What's better than binge-watching together?

8. Seeing their faces brightens up your day

After a long day of adulting, it's nice to see them when you get home.

9. They don't judge your weird habits

How nice is it to have someone not even bat an eye when you reorganize your desk for the 500th time? 

10. They procrastinate with you

Do you wanna get out of bed? Nah, me neither. 

11. They go with you to events so you won't feel alone

This is key, especially in freshman year. The best roomies will get lost with you when you're trying to find your way and sneak out of a back door when stuff gets boring.

12. Their style is similar to yours (if not better)

Not that you're gonna ask for any of their clothes, right?

13. They give you the best advice

After those late-night talks comes the philosophical teachings of your bunk buddy. They may not even have gone through what you did, but they sure do care.

14. They laugh at your favorite memes

Whether it's starter pack memes or Kermit, they get it. 

15. They respect your space

Living with someone else may or may not be new to you, but this is so crucial. And you'll love them for it!

16. They love you for you

The best part of all about a roomie turned bestie: They just get you. 


Barack Obama's Anniversary Message to Michelle Was So Sweet It Brought Her to Tears

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We could all use some good news right now — luckily, former FLOTUS and POTUS Barack and Michelle Obama are here with their usual #CoupleGoals antics and the cuteness is unreal.

As Glamour reports, on Tuesday, which also happened to be the Obamas' 25th wedding anniversary, Michelle was speaking alongside Shonda Rhimes at the Pennsylvania Conference for Women in Philadelphia. While they weren't together, Barack still managed to jump in and surprise his wife with a pre-filmed video that (somehow) manages to top all of his super sweet social media messages to Michelle in the past.

The video, which was played for Michelle and the audience while she was speaking at the conference, starts off with the former POTUS apologizing for "crashing this party." (And for the record, I'm totally okay with Obama crashing any party, at any time.)

He continues, "The idea that you would put up with me for a quarter of a century is a remarkable testament to what a saintly, wonderful, patient person you are," he says in the video. "It was a lot easier for me to do it because the fact of the matter is that not only have you been an extraordinary partner, not only have you been a great friend, somebody who could always make me laugh, somebody who would always make sure that I was following what I thought was right, but you have also been an example to our daughters and to the entire country."

And, (no surprise here), but it gets even sweeter. "It’s no wonder that as people got to know you the way that I got to know you, they fell in love. And it is truly the best decision that I ever made to be persistent enough in asking you out for a date, that you finally gave in. I hope you feel the same way."

I'm not crying, you are — and reportedly, the former FLOTUS was too. After the video finished playing, Michelle basically summed things up by turning to Shonda and saying, "I'd better get home." Too adorable.

4 Ways To Know If You Should Be More Than Friends With Benefits

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Although we are often too ashamed to say it, most of us can probably admit that we enjoy the occasional hookup. There’s nothing wrong with having a little fun, especially if it could potentially lead to something more in the long run. However, sometimes it’s a little hard to discern what is meant to be a one-time thing and what could turn into a healthy, stable relationship. If you’re not sure whether your casual hookup has the potential to be the next #relationshipgoals, here are some signs that may help you.

1. You've become jealous

There’s no question that jealousy is a huge indicator that you're starting to “catch feels.” A big reason that most people like hooking up is because they don’t want to commit to a single person. However, when these feelings start to change and you begin to notice that both of you gradually desire exclusivity, that’s a big sign you are both interested in being more than just a casual hookup.

Shelby Emerson, a freshman at the University of Texas at Tyler, says a little jealousy could be healthy. “Most girls will never admit it, but we can almost all agree that we all get a little excited when we see someone we are interested in get a little jealous,” she says. “Not only is it a sign he/she cares, but it could show you are the only one they are talking to therefore they expect the same from you.”

Don’t get us wrong, too much jealousy is never a healthy thing, but a little here and there could indicate they want you all to themselves. Everyone gets jealous at some point and that’s totally okay.

2. Your hangouts are not limited to hookups

If the person you’re talking to only wants to meet up to get lucky, it’s clear they’re not looking for a relationship. Johnathon Chang, a junior at the University of Texas at Austin, thinks this is a monumental step. “When you begin to do other things with your partner, that’s an indicator,” he says. “This means that you both genuinely enjoy each other’s presence even if it doesn’t give physical satisfaction.” We couldn’t agree more. A relationship takes a lot more than physical interaction and it’s important to have chemistry outside of the bedroom. When sex is no longer an assumed activity when meeting up, that may be a sign you’re ready for more.

Not only will you be getting more time with each other, but if you’re doing more than just hooking up, you’ll likely venture out and be seen in public together. Most people would rather not brag about their last hookup unless there was a chance it would become something more. No one wants to introduce the new flame as “just someone I’m hooking up with.” Most of us like to keep it a secret and find running into them in public just awkward. Taking the time to introduce your partner to your friends is a huge step because it shows that you are slowly integrating them into your every day life. When you start to become more open about your more-than-friends relationship, it is a big implication that this is more than just a one-night-stand.

3. You text throughout the day

We know this may seem to be an insignificant factor, but especially in this digital-centered time we are living in, this shows a lot more than you may think. Texting throughout the day is a huge time commitment and most people tend to get bored of the typically meaningless conversations. When you and your partner are constantly able to carry a conversation throughout the day it shows your partner is genuinely interested in knowing what you’re up to all the time. Angela Huynh, a sophomore at Collin College, explains this feeling. “I never really find myself motivated to text someone I’m not interested unless it’s my close friends,” she admits. “Most of the time, it just ends up feeling like an obligation and the conversation hardly goes anywhere.” Relatable much?

Texting throughout the day could also mean they care for you emotionally in addition to just physically. It’s pretty obvious when a she/he is just using you for physical needs. Their texts would probably be some variation of “wyd rn.” However, if he or she is texting you constantly about other things, or is there for you emotionally, whether it be helping you through family problems or simply genuinely wanting to get to know you, it’s pretty likely this is more than just a casual hookup.

4. Communicate with your partner

When it comes down to it, you’ll never know for sure unless you communicate with your partner. It’s not up to just you if you want to cross the line from hooking up to dating; it’s a two- way street. The best way to be sure is to simply ask and discuss the situation. If you aren't comfortable doing that, maybe you’re not ready for that step. Stephanie Huynh, a sophomore at Lehigh University, could attest to this. “If talking about it is too scary or too big of step I think that's a pretty good sign you're not quite ready,” she says. “Relationships are about communication. If you can't start there, it's not a good beginning.” We couldn’t have said it better ourselves.

A significant other is someone you will ultimately end up sharing most of your feelings with and being able to communicate with them honestly is vital to a healthy relationship.

Related Article: 7 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Date Someone New

Moving forward can be a scary thing. Especially when you’re trying to decide whether you should take the leap from hooking up casually to dating. There are a lot of risks that come from crossing this bridge, but we’re here to help you through it. We know, sometimes not having to worry about feelings can seem easier, but if you think it could be something more, don’t be afraid to try it out! Maybe you can be the next Chuck Bass and Blair Waldorf.

Get Excited, Because There's Going to Be a 'Grey's Anatomy' Web Series

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If you just can't get enough of Shonda Rhimes's masterpiece, Grey's Anatomy (and seriously, who can't), we have some good news for you: a Grey's Anatomy web series is happening, and you'll be able to stream it TOMORROW.

Entertainment Weekly reports that ABC is leading up to the premiere of the show's 300th episode on Nov. 9th with a six-part web series created by ABC Digital Studios. So far, we know that the series, called Grey's Anatomy: Post Op, will feature Gordon James, a.k.a. Nurse Gregory, as he talks with the cast, writers and producers about a decade's (!!!) worth of the type of ~drama~ that only Grey's can give us.

The best part? You'll already be able to stream it via ABC.com starting tomorrow, Oct. 4 at 10 a.m, so get ready to be completely glued to your computer for basically the next month. Considering all the romance, tragic deaths and medical mysteries the show has covered over the last 10 years (um, McDreamy's death anyone?) there are bound to be some emotional moments — so we suggest keeping a tissue box nearby.

5 Things College Athletes Wish They Knew Before College

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Over the past four years, you’ve learned what hard work means. You’ve made a resume, been recruited, chosen a college and signed a National Letter of Intent. The skills you’ve already learned through sports—perseverance, teamwork and humility among many others—will be essential to your success. But college athletics can be considered a whole new world (and not always in a magical Aladdin sort of way). Whether you’re in Division I, II or III, student athletes are challenged and pushed to their limits every single day to succeed on and off the field. Learn from the experts: here’s what varsity college athletes wish they had known before starting college.

1. Ready yourself

If you’re certain you want to be a college athlete, make sure you know what your college experience will look like. In addition to spending at least 20 hours in the classroom, you may also be spending 40 hours outside of the classroom in practice. This tends to limit your time in exploring several extracurricular organizations and academic and social opportunities.

Erin McDermott, Director of Athletics and Recreation at the University of Chicago, believes the transition from being a high school to a college athlete is significant. “It can be unsettling for many to come from a largely comfortable situation when they were probably a pretty 'big deal' to a lesser known environment with less social credibility,” she says. “College presents challenges in meeting new people, learning new surroundings and needing to demonstrate one’s abilities both academically and athletically in a more rigorous and competitive environment.”

Colby Hoffman, a lacrosse player and sophomore at St. Lawrence University, recommends that you understand that you’ll have to compromise. “Whether you can't go out some nights with your friends, you can't join that club that meets during your practice time or you can't eat those unhealthy late night treats, you have to be ready and willing to make these sacrifices.” 

Since there’s only so much time in a day, make sure that you’re truly passionate about and invested in being a college athlete before you take on your new role and responsibility.

2. Find balance

Succeeding as a college athlete isn’t just about sacrifices—it’s also about finding balance. This requires dedicating yourself to your academics but also finding a few things outside of the classroom that get you excited. Just make sure you’re not overscheduling yourself!

Dr. Elizabeth L. Abbey, an Assistant Professor at the Department of Health Sciences at Whitworth University, believes that time management is key. “Many of the coaches at our university have students fill out time management forms before classes start,” she says. “ Student athletes have to break down every day of the week into one-hour chunks and account for classes, practices, training room time, meals, work, studying, sleep, etc. They are often surprised to see that they do have pockets of open time for other activities.  Student athletes should take advantage of study halls and plan to study while traveling.”

McDermott recommends prioritizing a balance weighted towards academics. “College athletes have to figure out what works best for them depending on the demands of their classes, their eventual major selection and sport commitment,” she says. “Understanding that time demands will be more intense when in-season is important in course selection.”

Balance is also important in your friend groups. “Student athletes need to prepare for success in life beyond athletics,” Dr. Abbey recommends. “ It can be easy to only make friends with teammates, but I encourage student athletes to branch out and develop relationships with other students in their classes who aren’t athletes.

While bonding with your team is inevitable (who else knows the struggles of weird workout hours?), having strong relationships can also be found in a larger cultural or religious community.

Yet sometimes, student athletes are encouraged to prioritize their sport to the extent that they’re not permitted to get involved with other student organizations. This was the case for Brigitte Curcio, a member of the rifle team at the University of Tennessee Martin. “My coach only wanted me to do my sport and nothing else,” she says. “So when I joined a sorority, he was very mad.” 

When you’re looking at your choices going into college, be sure to ask the coach how involved you’re able to get on campus outside of your sport. 

3. Use your resources

One of the biggest misconceptions college students, especially college athletes, have is that asking for help is a sign of weakness. Using your resources and being proactive is essential, especially if you want to succeed. Don’t be afraid to reach out to your coach. Your coach is there to help you grow, both on and off the field. If you feel as though your well being isn’t being prioritized, clearly communicate this to people that you can trust, whether it be your coach or dean.

“The important thing to know is many different kinds of helpful resources exist and they exist because most, if not all students at certain times, could use ‘an assist,'" McDermott says. “Some may seek guidance from peers with how they managed challenging times.” 

Academic advisors are also a great resource. If you’re missing class due to athletic commitments, it’s important to let your professors know as soon as possible since each professor has their own policy. Some professors allow you to make up work ahead of time or after you return, and others won’t want you to be in their class, as harsh as that sounds. 

Paige Vermeer, a varsity basketball player at Yale University, wishes that she had known that it’s okay to struggle. “For even the most talented freshmen, there is a learning curve they have to adjust to, and it's completely normal to feel a step behind for a little while,” she says. “The most important thing is to come to school both physically and mentally prepared, ready to tackle any challenge that is thrown your way.”

Being physically and mentally prepared becomes a lot easier if you have a strong community of support around you. Whether it be your friends, your family from back home, or your teammates, make sure that you have people to rely on through the best and worst of times. 

Related: 5 Bad Academic Habits You Had Last Year (& How To Ditch Them!) 

4. Take care of yourself

Being a student athlete ensures that you’ll be staying fit and active throughout the year. But just because you’re less worried about the Freshman 15 than your NARP (Non-Athletic Regular Person) friends doesn’t mean that healthy habits are any less important. When your nutrition is better, you perform better and get sick less often. “In terms of diet, every athlete has unique dietary needs,” Dr. Abbey says. “There is not a one-size-fits-all approach, even among athletes in the same sport. While not every college team has a dietitian on staff, each university should at least have a registered dietitian (RD) available through its food service department to meet with students.”

After long practices and games, make sure to stay hydrated and eat carbs (or proteins, depending on the sport you’re involved with). Be consistent with your meal plans.

“Making wise choices in the dining halls or when eating on their own will greatly help in optimizing health and performance,” McDermott says. Eating veggies and fruits is a universal recommendation, but you might not have expected that it’s a good idea to keep snacks with you at all times.

Three meals a day might not be enough, and often times, it’s difficult to find the time in your day to sit down and eat three meals. Try to eat a snack within an hour of a practice or game. Before game snacks include bananas and dried fruit and post game snacks range from chocolate milk to a classic PB&J!

With early morning practices, late night games and seemingly endlessly long road trips, who has time for sleep? “Sleep is probably the most critical to overall academic and athletic performance and the most neglected. Keeping good pace on academic work and not procrastinating is key to having sufficient time for sleep,” McDermott advises. Moreover, having a good night’s sleep consistently helps manage stress. Sleep is not for the weak and your sleep habits might just be ruining you. Rest up!

It’s just as important to take care of your mind as it is your body. Sports (and college) culture is often associated with pressure and stress in order to “stay eligible.” These two factors limit you from reaching your full potential. According to the NCAA’s “Managing Mental Health” guide, symptoms include “social withdrawal, lying, poor concentration, negative self-talk, feeling out of control, lack of motivation and sleep difficulty.” As an athlete, you may be used to pushing past the pain and following strict schedules, but it’s important to realize when you need to take a break.  

5. Set realistic goals

 At some point, the cheering stops. While not every college athlete goes pro, your top priority and identity may be the sport(s) you play.

“College athletes can pursue any career path of interest as long as they have prepared themselves appropriately while in college,” McDermott says. “They should certainly use the advantages they have from their athletic experience in pursuing careers such as learning how to fail and persevere and building relationships with people of diverse experiences and backgrounds. As the NCAA tagline goes, most of them will end up ‘going pro in something other than sports,' so taking full advantage of the holistic education that being a college athlete provides, will allow them to pursue a fulfilled career.”

The post-graduation transition can be difficult, especially if you don’t have a plan (or two) ahead of time. After college, you may no longer be a specific sport player but you can still be an athlete or an active person. There is a life after sports. This is why it’s often so crucial to focus on your major and academics and explore alternate career paths, whether it be through internships, attending career fairs or networking via informational interviews.

Don’t forget to have fun though! Even when you’re riding the stress train, there’s something to look forward to--whether it be your classmates cheering you on at the game or an insanely fun tradition unique to your school. When you’re pushed to your limits and want to throw in the towel, consider and remember your best sports memories. Why did you start your sport? Why didn’t you stop then? Roll with the punches. Push it over the goal line. Ace it.

As always, any piece of advice isn’t applicable to each and every person. Take from this article what you can and realize that every person’s experience—including yours—is and will and should be different. After all, what makes you different is what you makes you unique and stand out! As a college athlete and student, you’ll have an amazing and rewarding experience. Four years from now, who knows where you’ll be?

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15 Things Only Girls That Are Clingy But Chill Understand

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You hate to brag, but TBH you’re the perfect woman. Every person you date can’t stop talking about how amazing of a girlfriend you are! The secret? You’re just the right combination of clingy and totally chill. It makes your time with your SO sweet and your time apart even sweeter. These are 15 things only you could understand.

1. You have a need to know where your SO is at all times

2. But you're totally chill if they don’t text you for a few hours or more

3. You can't help but still get jealous

4. But you don’t waste time stressing about it because you trust them so much

5. When you are together you want as much of their attention as possible

6. But when you’re not together you couldn’t care less

7. Stalking their social media is unheard of to you

8. Because they’re already your phone wallpaper and computer background

9. You miss them all the time

10. But you wouldn’t trade alone time or hangout sessions with friends for your SO

11. You are the queen of over analyzing everything they say

12. But give up after five minutes because that’s just too much work

13. You live to accommodate yourself instead of being at their beck and call

14. And you’re all about taking your relationship slow

15. Because you already know it’s going to last a lifetime, so what’s the rush?

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