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4 Signs Your Friend is Jealous of You

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Jealousy. It’s something you’ve most likely dealt with at one time or another, especially when related to a friend. While jealousy can sometimes be painfully obvious, it’s not always easy to tell that your best friend is jealous of you. We spoke to a few collegiettes and identified four telling signs that your friend might be sending jealous vibes your way and creating a toxic friendship. 

1. She’s not as nice as she used to be

Has your once so-sweet friend turned a bit sour? Kayla*, a senior at Carthage College, recalls a time when her friend wasn’t so nice. “My friend and I used to run cross country together, and when I started running faster and performing better than her, something in our friendship changed,” Kayla explains. “She started to become really angry and mean toward me all the time, no matter what I did. She would talk down to me and make me feel terrible about myself any chance she had, especially while at practice.”

If your friend isn’t acting quite as nice to you as she usually does, jealousy could be the reason behind it. Whether it be out-performing her or having something that she wants, her negative feelings toward you could be her way of coping with her jealousy of your success.

So how do you get your friend back to her old, sweet self? Whether she is knowingly or unknowingly hostile toward you, letting her in on your feelings and allowing her a chance to explain herself may offer a remedy to the situation as a whole. Be patient with her and give her time to shed light on why she’s using these negative feelings to cope with her jealousy. Above all, be open to what she has to say and let her know that you won't judge or blame her for her honesty.

2. She’s constantly competing with you

There’s a difference between friendly competition and not-so-friendly competition, especially when it comes to a jealous friend! If it seems like you’ve been constantly competing with your friend lately, it’s not all in your head.

“My friend always had to be better than me,” Kayla says. “Even when we weren’t at practice. If I got a new running top, she’d get a whole new outfit, complete with new running shoes. If I went on a seven-mile long run, she’d go for at least eight. I felt like she was always trying to prove herself. It’s like she thought that if she went the extra mile, she’d eventually run faster than me.”

It can be extremely frustrating when your friend turns absolutely anything under the sun into a competition, and jealousy could very well be the culprit. Feeling like she’s “winning” in the little competitions may be making her feel good now, but it won’t end well for your friendship later.

The best way to deal is to communicate with your friend and make sure that she isn’t feeling blamed or attacked. Acknowledge all that your friend has accomplished and achieved on her own, but assure her that your accomplishments are separate. Your success isn't any better than hers, and vice versa. She may just want to feel that her accomplishments are important, and your acknowledgment and approval could be just what she is looking for.

3. She always tries to include herself in your plans

Are you constantly finding yourself with a plus-one that you weren’t planning on? Is your friend always trying to tag along on outings she wasn’t exactly invited to? Or maybe, your friend thinks that your plans revolve around her. Caroline*, a sophomore at Augustana College, says that her friend did just that, and was fed up to say the least.

“I had a friend who constantly made me feel bad about when I did and didn’t hang out with her,” Caroline says. “She worked a lot, so she always made me feel guilty for hanging out with the rest of our friends and not hanging out with her when she had free time. She never considered my schedule and would always show up randomly if we went out without her. It got old really fast.”

Jealousy can occur for a variety of reasons, but if your friend is jealous of you hanging out with other friends, it can all boil down to FOMO and insecurity, so pay extra attention if you notice that your friend has amped up the clinginess! “My friend would rarely leave my side once we were out, and would get really upset with me if she felt like I wasn’t paying enough attention to her,” Caroline added. “She even admitted to being jealous of all the free time I had to spend with my other friends.”

If your friend is feeling insecure and left out, it’s important to be sensitive to how she’s feeling and assure her that her time with you is valued. Friendships can become difficult and strained in jealous situations like these, but your friend will appreciate genuinely feeling like she's appreciated.

Related: How to Deal With a Jealous Friend

4. She’s not happy for you

Has your friend not quite been your biggest fan lately? Does she not seem to be supportive of you, or even worse, seem to fake it? Jennifer*, a sophomore at Augustana College, says her friend’s jealousy was extremely obvious the second she turned fake.

“I had gotten a 99 percent on my organic chemistry test, which was huge! My friend appeared to be really happy for me and congratulated me, all smiles. Apparently wasn’t the case,” Jennifer says. “I was told by another friend that as soon as I left, my friend demanded to see a copy of my test and was convinced it was an easier version than her. She wasn’t happy for me in the slightest and the fact that she didn’t believe I earned that score hurt a lot.”

A fake friend is frustrating, but a jealous, fake friend is a whole different world of trouble. Not supporting your accomplishments, faking happiness, or even worse, not showing any sort of happiness at all are extremely upsetting behaviors from a friend. However, it’s important to remember that jealousy can be a big contributing factor in these situations.

In this unfortunate situation of jealousy, your friend needs to understand that this type of behavior just isn’t cool. It’s not fair to you or your friendship, so communicating your feelings and the lack of support from your friend is a significant first step to remedying the situation. You deserve an explanation.

If you’ve noticed any of these behaviors in a friend, it’s important to realize that her actions could be stemming from her jealousy toward you. Recognizing the signs, whether blatantly obvious or extremely subtle, is essential to dealing with your friendship and taking the right steps to move forward!

*Names have been changed


A High School Senior Wrote About Pizza in an Admissions Essay That Got Her Into Yale

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Even in today’s bleak global climate, miracles do happen. Case in point: a high school senior wrote her personal essay on how much she loves ordering pizza, and the essay won her admission to Yale University, USA Today Collegereports. Um, is it too late for all of us to try this method out?

For Tennessee native Carolina Williams, there was never any debate about what she should write about in an application essay asking what she loved to do. Ordering from Papa John’s immediately came to mind. “Honestly, I thought I should go with the first thing that popped in my head,” she told USA Today. “It was completely genuine.”

Although Williams is among the top 10 students in her graduating class, she can partially thank the shout-out to pizza for her acceptance into Yale. A congratulatory note from an admissions officer that Williams shared on Twitter read, “I laughed so hard at your pizza essay. I kept thinking that you are the kind of person that I would love to be best friends with.”

 

Saying that the act of ordering pizza “evoke[s] feelings of independence, consolation and joy,” Williams tells future applicants to “showcase yourself as a unique individual.” Given the risky move she pulled with her application, it’s safe to say that uniqueness definitely helps an application go the extra mile.

Despite this picture-perfect moment with Yale admissions, Williams plans to attend Auburn University as a business student. As if she wasn’t admirable enough, she’ll be the first in her family to attend college. You go, girl!

Prep Your Skin for the Summer with This Divine Skincare Prize Pack

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We know you’re ready for summer, but how about your skin? A healthy dose of vitamin D does the body some good, but sunbathing in excess can clog your pores and cause some unsightly results. No one wants to look like a lobster with blotchy acne and burnt skin. Hold on, though. Before you head out to buy a new cover-up or four-month supply of aloe vera, there’s a better solution to prep your skin for summer.

Let us introduce you to Paula’s Choice skincare products, a range of treatments and cleansers that help prevent and reduce blemishes, calm redness, and more so you can achieve your best skin yet. Notably effective for incredibly smooth and spotless skin is Paula’s Choice CLEAR line, offering powerful acne-fighting formulas without any harmful ingredients, fragrance or color that can actually worsen redness and inflammation. Because not all acne is the same, the CLEAR line features two systems including a Regular Strength Kit for mild to moderate acne and an Extra Strength Kit for moderate to stubborn acne, alongside a Two-Week Travel Kit for summer trips and an easy-application Acne Body Spray to get all of those hard-to-reach places. These formulas work to fight acne unlike anything else, and the choice to trust Paula’s Choice is crystal CLEAR.

It turns out the secret to healthy, beautiful skin isn’t how many hours you spend basking in the rays, but how much you protect it from harmful effects of the sun and UV radiation. Just in time for summer, we’re giving five lucky winners a prize pack full of Paula’s Choice goodies worth over $150 in value, including items from the CLEAR line, powerful SPF products and more!

If you’re one of the winners, you’ll receive the following Paula’s Choice products:

Show up to school this fall with flawlessly CLEAR skin and a true sun-kissed glow. Take precaution now and get summer-ready skin by entering to win one of five Paula’s Choice prize backs below!

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15 Memes That Are So You Staying Single Forever & Ever

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Being single is typically viewed as a problem waiting to be fixed. Although the single life has its downfalls, it definitely has plenty of perks. Chances are, you've already fully embraced the single life and will have zero problems relating to the following memes.

1. You view your single status as an advantage

Why would you ever want to get rid of such a status?

2. Your indecisive nature is both a blessing and a curse 

Can't we all just be like Hannah Montana and have the best of both worlds? 

3. You're merely a spectator in the play that is life

You didn't choose the single life; the single life chose you.

4. You're too busy having a relationship with yourself

There's not enough love left over to give to someone else. How could you possibly add someone else to the mix?

5. Your love for food is unparalleled

This is quite possibly the greatest love story you'll ever have. That's totally normal, right?

6. Your slight superstition has turned into flat-out paranoia

Enough said.

7. You have moments of refusing to acknowledge that love exists

This is an undeniably literal fact.

8. You value your sleep very much

When it comes to your bed, sharing is definitely not caring. 

9. Falling for somebody other than yourself is just too hard

It's just not worth the inevitable pain and heartbreak. 

10. You're an expert at giving relationship advice

Oh, the irony. 

11. You're just too good for anybody else

Nobody can live up to the ridiculously high bar you've set.

12. You know that the only person you can always count on is yourself

And you know you won't disapoint yourself. 

13. You've put in the effort and received nothing in return

Why do you have to be like that, Zac? 

14. You always try to look on the bright side of every situation

There's always a silver lining if you look hard enough for it. 

15. You're just living your best life

You're accountable for no one but yourself, and the only person's happiness you need to worry about is your own. What's not to love about that?

Lee From 'The Bachelorette' Is Being Criticized for Super Offensive Old Tweets

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Fans of The Bachelorette are still reeling from Rachel Lindsay’s shutdown of DeMario Jackson on the most recent episode, but Bachelor Nation has now caught hints of someone still in the running that Rachel may have to keep an eye on. Lee Garrett, a Nashville singer-songwriter, has come to attention after fans discovered multiple offensive tweets he posted over the course of two years, Entertainment Weeklyreports.

He’s yet to be in the spotlight on the show, but Lee’s tweets from 2015 and 2016 have now cast an entirely different light on his time in Bachelor Mansion. One Twitter user gathered together his posts speaking against feminism, the Black Lives Matter movement, the NAACP and more to call Lee out.

Since the tweets gained attention, Lee’s Twitter account is now private, but his bio says that he is “pleasantly offensive.” Hmmm, you might want to rephrase that, Lee.

The extended preview of this season suggests that Lee stirs up some trouble with other contestants, and now with this context, we can’t help but wonder if there will be any racial connotations behind his arguments. ABC representatives have kept quiet about the incident, so the possibility of these issues coming up on the shoe might be coming sooner than we think. Either way, I think it’s safe to assume that Lee definitely isn’t on The Bachelorette for “the right reasons.” 

Why Long Distance Relationships Aren't For Everyone

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Considering a long distance relationship is something that is difficult and different for every couple. Hopefully, by reading about some of the questions and decisions you’ll have to make, it will give you an idea if this type of relationship is for you.

You know that feeling when everything in the world has lined up perfectly, and you don’t think you could be any happier in that moment? That feeling when the person standing right in front of you makes you feel beautiful, so beautiful that you actually forget about every single flaw you’ve picked apart before. That feeling when life seems to be in slow motion, and you’re in some alternate universe when your responsibilities don’t seem so daunting and overwhelming. You have hope. 

Who would want to let go of that feeling? Who in their right mind would let that person get away when all they did was make you feel at home?

Unfortunately, life is not in slow motion. Responsibilities simply don’t just go away. You’re a young woman who has dreams you need to attend to, a life of your own that needs to be worked on. Sometimes that means having to move away from your fling, your lover or your long time relationship. And it hurts.

You’ll scream into your pillow at night because how can something so good, someone seemingly so right for you be so far away. How can the stars stop aligning like they once did as you spent your time together? How can you be stripped away from someone you care so deeply about?

Maybe this resonates with you, perhaps you’re even considering ending it because doing the “long distance” thing seems much more painful than you can dare to bare. You’ll become jealous of your college hallmates as they get to spend night after night with their SOs while the closest you get to your partner is FaceTime.

Long distance tends to teach people a lot about themselves. The time and energy going into a relationship may hinder at first because physical interactions and quality time seem to diminish to phone calls and Skype sessions. Both partners need to readjust and consider their options through intense and honest conversations. Before you say your goodbyes and proclaim that you’re in a long-distance relationship, there are factors and questions you must address both personally and as a team.

Do you see a future with your partner?

This is a tough one to just blurt out to a partner. The future is scary on its own, and factoring in another human makes this even more complicated. It requires a lot of introspection about what you think of this person. Essentially, you’d want someone that you’re willing to wait for, and that is willing to wait for you. When you picture your future with someone, it should make you happy because you want to hear about what’s been happening while you’ve been away and vice versa. You should want your partner to succeed even if that means being away for a while. That level of support is the difference between short-term relationships and long-term. Putting aside your personal attachment in order for the both of you to grow and come back to each other is what is going to make the future better. If you can see that with your partner, then maybe long distance is the right choice.

That other person has dreams and goals as well. What is important to consider is how to envision this person in your life in the long run. The person you’re with should help make you better because you’re great on your own. If you don’t believe their presence will amplify who you are already, then long distance may not be for you.

Do you believe you can commit to this person without physically being able to be with them?

This question may seem difficult to answer because you may not know the answer if you’ve never tried this type of relationship before. This may seem like something you need to test the waters for before you fully declare that it’s something you’re capable of. However, you know yourself, and you probably know your partner as well. If you or your partner have a history of cheating even before going the distance, try to think of reasons why this would or would not happen again.

Micki Wagner, a senior at the University of Missouri-Columbia, can attest to this type of dilemma. "I just recently went through a breakup with a guy who couldn't do long distance. A big reason why distance is hard for him is because he and his ex were long distance, and she cheated on him. So that made it difficult for him to be fully trusting, even though I'm not her and I wouldn't have done the same."

There are going to be new people and new places with long distance, and while these conversations may not be the most comfortable, it’s going to be a hell of a lot more uncomfortable knowing someone has been unfaithful. Be clear on what you want and what you expect. You may even discover this is/isn’t something you can truly handle.

Do you trust this person?

While the above question handles the topic of committing to one person, this is more about truly trusting the actions of your partner. When work runs late and someone misses a phone call, how are you going to react? Are you comfortable with your partner going out on the weekends and drinking? Are you uncomfortable when your partner does not check in regularly? These questions may seem to have simple answers, but you’d be surprised at how many people stare at their phones waiting for the same explanations. Of course one should be faithful if that was the agreement, but can you handle the instances where life gets in the way or will you simply jump to conclusions because it’s all too much?

Molly Crum, a recent graduate from James Madison University says, "My boyfriend and I did long distance every summer break of college. At first, it was really hard, but I tried to focus on who I did have around me and how I could spend our time apart to make it go faster. I spent a lot of time with my family and high school friends I hadn't seen all school year. I took on a full-time job and redecorated my whole bedroom because having fun goals or projects to work on distracted me from missing him and gave me something exciting to tell my boyfriend about later!"

For someone who needs constant attention and reassurance, it may seem impossible to be in a long distance relationship, but we’re here to tell you it’s not. If anything, being apart from someone who seems like your whole world might actually show you that they’re not. You are. You are your whole world. You may even be able to reconnect with old friends and hobbies.

Nobody is perfect and there are going to be times we assume the worst because we’re human. Being curious about what’s been going on is different than accusing your partner of cheating every single night. Both people are accountable in relationships. That means both should be acting trustworthily and being respectful of a partner they’ve committed to. If your partner has made comments about their insecurities in the relationship, you should be able to thwart their concerns and reassure them that this is what you want and remind them of why this arrangement is worth it. Trust works both ways.

Is this person your friend?

This may be one of the most important aspects of long distance relationships. Couples who choose to do long distance are usually successful when the relationship is built on strong friendship foundations. Meaning, you should like your partner for more than the physical reasons. These types of relationships tend to highlight the other beautiful aspects of why people choose to be together.

For example, you may be with your partner because they’re easy to talk to and they just “get you.” Long phone calls and FaceTimes will allow you to still feel close to your partner. Another example is the movies you both like that you can watch over Skype through screen sharing (my personal favorite way to stay connected). There is obviously a lot more to relationships than hooking up. Being actual friends with your partner allows long distance to work more smoothly because you have already established a liking for each other outside of the sexual attraction. If communication is lacking in your relationship, meaning, you don’t actually like talking to your partner, long distance may not be for you.

How long will you be apart?

The logistical workings of long distance seem to be many people’s first reaction to the thought of this type of relationship. How often will the couple see other? Who is going to visit who? What is the maximum amount of time you can go without seeing each other? These are questions that you may not have the answer to right away, but know that these will come up because being physically together is what made you believe this relationship was worth it.

Now we do caution those who are thinking about long distance. Love is not always enough. It is common to think that love conquers all, and if you love each other, everything will work out. Honestly, that’s just not the case. Things get lost in translation, and sometimes you’ll feel like you need more. More love. More support. More encouragement. And you’d give anything to just have them there, because texting only goes so far and doesn’t compare to kissing and holding. It’s okay if you feel like you’re not getting enough even if you know you love each other.

Dania De La Hoya, a sophomore from Illinois State University, says, “My long distance relationship ended a couple months ago, I think because of this very reason. Not everyone can do long distance. It's hard not seeing your SO on a regular basis and in my case, my ex-needed more than long distance could give him — more seeing each other, more physical affection, so we just grew apart. I think it helps if there's a specific end in sight because long distance can't go on forever. If you know it's just temporary, you have that to hold onto.”

Dania brings up a great point that an end goal is important to these types of relationships. There needs to be a conversation about the conclusion to a long distance relationship, which can seem almost impossible in college. People are just barely becoming adults and joining the workforce in this age, and assuming that you’ll both graduate and get jobs near each other is pretty optimistic. Honestly, this conversation may be best for those who are nearing a chapter in their lives (graduation) because if you want the long distance to end, you must be willing to compromise to begin growing a future with another person, which isn’t applicable for many young adults.

It may seem as though this article was written with a broken heart and a pessimistic view of these types of relationships, but it should be noted that I’m currently in a promising and very rewarding long distance relationship.  However, I’ve witnessed time and time again couples who do not seem to have these type of honest conversations, who end up hurting more than loving each other. Save yourself and your SO the trouble and talk to them.

The rewards of a long distance relationship are almost exactly the same as any other relationship: love, understanding, support, comfort. It can be hard missing a significant other, but amazing when you get to hold them after a long time, and to a lot of people, that’s worth it.

The rewards may just come in different forms.

Related: 5 Ways To Transition To a Long Distance Relationship

Long distance may mean you or your partner is going off to a new school or a new job. It means change and excitement, and that’s bound to cause some stress, but if you’re able to overcome the initial disruption, and maintain that level of trust, there’s a great chance you’ll learn to like — maybe even love — your new arrangement. That newness may spark some interesting conversations with your loved one during your daily phone calls. You’ll always have something or someone to look forward to.

If you’ve come to the conclusion of this article and you’ve realized that long distance is not for you, you should remember that this does not make you a bad person. This does not make you better or worse at relationships. It just may mean you have different needs with your current circumstance, and that’s okay. It may mean that the person you’re with is not willing to commit, and maybe not the person for you, and that’s okay. There is no perfect one-size-fits-all couple who can handle any change or disruption that comes their way. Relationships are complicated and messy, and whether or not you choose to be long distance is just another difficult decision ahead in your beautiful life.

A Noose Was Found Inside the Smithsonian's African American History Museum

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A noose was discovered at a segregation exhibit at the National Museum of African American History and Culture in Washington, DC, the New York Timesreports. After guests found the noose within the exhibit, the section of the museum, “Defending Freedom, Defining Freedom: Era of Segregation 1876-1968,” was closed but eventually reopened.

“It was rather a small rope thing and not something that would set off the magnetometers,” Smithsonian spokeswoman Linda St. Thomas told BuzzFeed News. “Park Police removed it and we reopened the gallery about an hour later.”

The context of the noose ties back to the dark history of lynching African Americans, and it is not the first time such a threatening object was found near a museum. Just last week a noose was found hanging outside another Smithsonian building, the Hirshhorn museum. The fact that a noose was now discovered inside one of the Smithsonian museums is being seen as a major concern.

“We do consider this one to be different,” St. Thomas said. “In this case it’s clearly a message to the museum.”

Park Police are currently investigating both scenarios, while counseling has been offered to museum staff. “The Smithsonian family stands together in condemning this act of hatred and intolerance, especially repugnant in a museum that affirms and celebrates the American values of inclusion and diversity,” David J. Skorton, secretary of the Smithsonian, wrote in an email.

Such a straightforward signal is startling to see in a place like a museum, but thankfully law enforcement seems dedicated to finding the culprit behind these offensive acts. 

The Internship Beauty Rules You Need to Know

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Figuring out hair and makeup that’s suitable for your internship can be a daunting task. Some offices are super reserved and some are more easygoing, but no matter what kind of office environment you’ll be interning in, there’s a fine line between overdoing your beauty look and not doing enough. You want how you look to reflect how put-together, polished and reliable you are. With the help of two career experts and a beauty expert, HC pulled together a few dos and don’ts for making your beauty look appropriate for the office.

DO make sure your nails look clean

Nails may seem like a minor thing, but they can have a big impact on your overall look. Meryl Weinsaft Cooper and Jessica Kleiman, co-authors of Be Your Own Best Publicist: How To Use PR Techniques To Get Noticed, Get Hired & Get Rewarded At Work, say in a joint statement, “At a minimum, be sure your nails are filed and cleaned. We’d typically recommend keeping your nails at a medium to short length for most positions; longer nails can be a hindrance when typing, texting or working with your hands.”

As for polish, regardless of where you work, chipped nail polish is a big no-no because it can really detract from an otherwise put-together look. When picking a polish color, you can play it safe by sticking to a neutral color. Bisi Essien, founder of Crystal-Eyez Makeup and Beauty Lounge, recommends earth-tone colors or soft pinks.

“I will definitely advise against bedazzled nails or any designs that will cause distractions,” Essien adds. You want your nails to add to your overall look, not distract from it!

Another way to figure out what polish works for your office is to use the workplace itself as a guideline. “If you’re at a more conservative location—like finance, for example—it’s best to stick with a classic neutral one, like Essie’s Adore-a-Ball ($8.50),” Cooper and Kleiman say. “In creative industries, you may see an openness to fun color palettes or even nail art. In fact, if you are in a trend-focused company—like a fashion magazine or PR—do some research on what colors are current, and opt for those.”

DON’T douse yourself in perfume

It’s tough to find a happy medium with perfume, because while you want to smell good, you also don’t want to be the intern who leaves a trail of perfume wherever she goes. Cooper and Kleiman say to follow a simple rule of thumb: “You don’t want the scent to arrive before you or linger long after you’ve departed. A classic tip to avoid over-application is to spray the scent in front of you and to walk through it versus applying it directly to your skin.”

If you’re unsure if your favorite scent is too overpowering or if it will sit the wrong way with some people, ask your friends to weigh in! Try a couple different options and see which they prefer. “Of course, if you find the perfect scent, it can be one of your ‘signature’ elements,” Cooper and Kleiman say.

DO keep your hair well-groomed

Your hair should be clean, brushed and out of your face. “It’s okay to wear your hair down, as long as it’s not covering a significant portion of your face and especially not over your eyes,” Essien says. “You want to be able to maintain good eye contact.”

Many interns have the nervous habit of playing with their hair, so Cooper and Kleiman suggest styling your hair “in a way that will prevent you from playing with or touching it—either consciously or unconsciously—as that can be distracting for coworkers and often read as insecurity.”

Overall, Cooper and Kleiman recommend a polished look—and really, there's no need to spend a ton of time on it. Even something as simply as a ponytail can look totally office-appropriate!

DON’T wear heavy makeup

At your internship, less makeup is more. Keep your look as natural and light as possible. Your supervisors want to get to know YOU, not an overly done-up, caked-on-makeup version of you! Heavy makeup can detract from your natural beauty, and it’s also a hassle on your part to apply every day. Less makeup also means more time to sleep in, which might even reduce the bags under your eyes you’ve been trying so hard to cover up!

“Definitely even out your skin tone with tinted moisturizer or some sort of foundation,” Essien says. A great product to try is Laura Mercier’s tinted moisturizer ($44) because it gives you the ultimate “no-makeup look” while evening out your skin tone.

For eye shadow, Essien recommends using natural and earth-tone colors, or “you can even pass up on eye shadow altogether.” Too Faced Natural Eye Shadow Collection ($36) has a variety of earthy and neutral colors that would work at your internship. Also, it’s a perfectly portable size, so it would easily fit in your purse to bring to work for touch-ups.

For the rest of your look, Essien says to “keep your eyeliner thin and as close to the lash line as possible. A little bit of mascara will go a long way.”

When it comes to your lips, “use a neutral-tone lipstick, or something with a bit of color,” Essien says. “It’s safer to stay away from bright or dramatic lip colors.” A good simple lip color to try is NARS Satin Lipstick in Honolulu Honey ($27).

The simpler your makeup, the more put-together you’ll look, and that’s what bosses like to see in their interns! As a final note, Cooper and Kleiman suggest checking “your makeup under the fluorescent lights when you are applying (or when you first arrive at the office), as that will help you gauge whether or not you need to tone it down.”

DO be prepared for anything

Make sure that whatever makeup you do choose to wear is waterproof. You might sweat while sprinting to work in the summer heat, or you could be sent out on errands when it’s raining, and you don’t want to return to the office with streaks of mascara running down your face.  Switching to waterproof makeup on workdays will eliminate the stress of wondering if your makeup is smudged and ensure a more polished office look. Make Up For Ever’s Aqua Line has all sorts of waterproof products, such as mascara, eye shadow, eyeliner and more.

Also, Kleiman and Cooper say to “stash some beauty necessities in your desk or your bag—so you have them at the ready, if needed. Some of the key things to have on hand include a toothbrush and toothpaste, Band-Aids, a tinted lip gloss, a hair band and anti-frizz serum, nail polish remover pads and face powder.” With this bag on hand, you’re ready to face any beauty challenge that might come your way during the workday!

The final step to having a professional beauty look? Don’t forget to smile! A smile makes you seem warm, approachable and enthusiastic about what you’re doing. It also makes you look comfortable and confident, and that’s part of what makes a standout intern!


Lorde Invited This Smoothie Shop Employee to Governors Ball Because Life Is Good Sometimes

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Lorde is bringing a lucky guest with her to Governors Ball, and it isn’t her famous BFF, Taylor Swift. The sweet singer invited a smoothie shop employee to the music festival over a Twitter DM after she met her at Liquitera. The employee shared all the details on her Twitter, @ThatEmely.

In a video posted by the smoothie maker, Lorde poses with her drink and a big smile as @ThatEmely says, “This is my first smoothie to a famous person. We got Lorde in the house today! She got a Blue Velvet. I am shook.”

Later, @ThatEmely says she received a DM from the “Green Light” singer asking if she wanted to go to Governors Ball. Like anyone would, @ThatEmely responded, “No way—this is a joke right?” But alas, Lorde assured her it wasn’t a joke. She wanted to ask her when they met at the smoothie shop, but she “got shy.” How cute is that?!

@ThatEmely posted a couple of confused selfies after she received Lorde's message. It looks like she's still in disbelief, but of course, she accepted the invite.

Will @ThatEmely be the newest addition to Lorde's squad? A girl can dream.

11 Feminist Careers You Never Knew Existed

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Before we begin introducing you to the badassery of these careers (and the women in them), let us set one thing straight: anyone can be a feminist and anyone who is a feminist can find fulfillment in their chosen career. Feminism and one’s line of work aren’t inherently mutually exclusive. That being said, the careers you’ll find on this list are dedicated to the pursuit of feminism, and what feminist wouldn’t want a career all about empowering women?

For recent grads or those already in an established career path

1. Non-Profit Management or Pro-Bono Work in Your Own Field

Working for a non-profit organization is a great way to truly work for a cause that you care care about. They are often run by a team of staff members who specialize in finance, marketing, public relations, and related fields that make business majors a great fit for this field. If you don't want to pursue a non-profit career but still want to make a difference, look into opportunities to do pro-bono work in your field for a non-profit that you care about! Pro-bono is a term most commonly associated with legal work, but opportunities abound in fields like business, engineering and medicine, too.

Her Justice is just one of many non-profit organizations out there that is spearheading the pursuit of justice for women and their children whose well-being is compromised by domestic violence. Her Justice engages a network of New York City law firms, and their attorneys work pro-bono cases for these women and their families, who often face economic and language barriers that complicate their access to fair and affordable legal services. Amy Barasch is the executive director of Her Justice and manages the network of volunteer attorneys, representing over 80 law firms and corporations.

"To me, being a feminist means not making assumptions based on gender and ensuring equal treatment for everyone,” says Barasch. “By making a habit of questioning assumptions based on gender, we end up with solutions that are fairer to everyone."

We couldn't have said it better ourselves! As for her career, "Working in non-profits allows me to spend my time speaking honestly about the challenges facing low income women and children, and raising awareness about how all of us can help to improve their situations,” says Barasch.

2. Talent Development Mentor

Another great option for current graduettes (or senior collegiettes) to empower the next generation of women leaders is by serving as a mentor to younger students who are interested in pursuing careers in the same industry. Engineering and technology are two fields where mentors are critical to changing the ratio of women pursuing those careers.

According to Sharon Weinbar, CEO of Hackbright Academy, a software engineering school exclusively for women, hiring more women in these fields is the foundation for creating more diverse and successful businesses. As a tech industry veteran of 25 years, Weinbar was actually a mentor for Hackbright Academy before she stepped up to the role of CEO. During her time working in tech, Weinbar has seen increasingly more companies come to the realization that having less female employees, and therefore less diversity in the industry, is detrimental to innovation, team building success, and ultimately, the bottom line.

“As CEO, I understand that there isn’t a single approach that will close the gender gap in the tech industry, but providing educational and mentorship programs that encourage and promote women in tech is a step in the right direction,” says Weinbar.

Weinbar also maintains that her mentees have enriched her life in ways that she never knew was possible. In a field made out to be so "complicated" for women, helping emerging talent see that young women just like them are changing the industry could be the key to getting more girls interested in the field and ultimately changing the ratio for good.

Also check out Teaching and TA opportunities with Girls Who Code, a similar program that equips high school girls with the education to succeed in technology and engineering studies in college.

If you’re interested in a career in law enforcement

3. Special Victims Unit Police Investigator

We’ve all rooted for the kickass Detective Olivia Benson on Law & Order: SVU, but have you ever thought about what it would be like to investigate sex crimes and put the perpetrators that commit them away for good? Detective Linda Pace from the Philadelphia Police Department’s Special Victims Unit told us that it’s definitely not easy, or like the TV shows, but it is completely worth it.

Detective Pace worked up to her position with the SVU gradually. After graduating the Police Academy as a single mother, she worked with several different units of the Philadelphia Police Department. After about a year and a half as a police officer, she had enough seniority to request a transfer to the SVU. Once she got there, she faced unique challenges as the only woman (and the only African American woman) in the unit. In addition to dealing with sexist prejudices from men in the police department during her career, she’s also had to come to terms with having to learn to not take her work home with her at the end of the day. After all, her unit handles all sex crimes committed against men, women and children of all ages.

According to Pace, nothing about the job is like it seems on TV. “I would like for people to understand that most cases can’t be solved right away, especially cases where the perpetrator is a stranger," says Pace. "That our unit investigates hundreds of cases a year with a limited amount of officers, and [we] don’t always have the resources or equipment we need. But most of all, that we as police officers, detectives or investigators really care about the people we serve and that we want to get justice for them."

If you’re interested in law enforcement and defending the rights of those victimized by sex crimes, this might be a career field to look into. By contributing to the incarceration of numerous sexual assailants and even a murderer, Detective Pace realized her dream job—one that might not be for just anyone.

How to prepare for this career in undergrad

4. District Attorney’s Office Internship

A great way to get exposure to the reality of a career in law enforcement is to intern with your local District Attorney’s office. The District Attorney’s office handles the public prosecution of crimes, and can provide an unparalleled look into the inner workings of the criminal justice system. While each office runs its internship programs differently, most do offer internships tailored to the education and proficiencies of undergraduate students, recent graduates and current law school students.

Like any internship opportunity, it’s important to remember that you might not get placed in the exact role that you want. The District Attorney’s office is actually made up of several smaller district law offices overseen by their own assistant district attorneys. While there is a chance that you could be working directly with an assistant district attorney, you may also be working with paralegals or related staff. But the point is, you’ll be working with the professionals who put away dangerous criminals and make the streets safer for everyone. Not many interns can say that, can they?

If you’re interested in learning more about internships with the District Attorney’s office, start with a simple Google search to find out what opportunities exist with your county’s District Attorney’s office that match up with your current education level.

If you’re interested in a career in political reform

5. ACLU Advocate

For any feminist aspiring to a career in political reform, the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) is a powerful and familiar ally to the women’s rights movement.

The ACLU was founded to protect the constitutional rights of Americans in the face of oppressive state and federal legislature. The ACLU has been involved in the victories of countless cases that have been turning points of history, especially for women’s rights. Notable cases include 1973 cases Roe v. Wade and Doe v. Bolton, cases critical to maintaining our autonomy over our bodies and reproductive health, as well as 2003 case Lawrence v. Texas, which overturned a Supreme Court ruling stating that the right to privacy did not extend to same-sex relationships, and decriminalized same-sex intimacy.

Advocacy opportunities exist in a variety of career roles with the ACLU. One example is the position of advocacy and policy strategist, who works with other legal organizations and judiciary officials to reform specific laws to be more mindful of civil rights. The ACLU also has specialized projects in which all involved staff and resources are allocated toward a specific goal, like the Reproductive Freedom Project. The Reproductive Freedom Project uses a combination of legal litigation, advocacy and education to work toward the goal of everyone’s guaranteed freedom to make their own decisions regarding reproductive health.

How to prepare for this career in undergrad

6. Campaign Volunteer

You know what they say: Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither were the platforms necessary to dismantle years (or even decades) of legal obstructions to justice and our constitutional rights. The saying goes something like that, right? Before you can even dream of changing the law or the future, you need to get very familiar with what it’s like to advocate for a cause that you believe in. That’s why volunteering for the campaigns of a variety of political figures, like your local Congress members and the future president of the United States are the perfect start to your political career! It’s no secret that 2016 played host to the biggest election in recent history, where a lot was at stake for women.

We consulted Holly Shulman, the former press secretary to the Democratic National Committee, for her advice on how collegiettes who are interested in politics can get their start.

“Put yourself out there. Show up at a political meeting. Raise your hand, and speak up," says Shulman. "The first press job I ever got in politics was because I cold-called a campaign and showed up ready to volunteer. I worked hard, gave it my all and after three weeks of volunteering, I become press secretary for a Senate campaign! There are plenty of opportunities out there all over the country and in Washington, D.C. All you have to do is ask.” 

While not the sole focus of an election, having a qualified woman leading the country would undoubtedly change the landscape of women’s rights in the United States in ways that no man could quite mirror. There are numerous opportunities to volunteer with presidential campaigns and any of your local Congress members’ campaigns. All you have to do is go looking for them.

If you’re interested in pursuing a career in education

7. Feminism & Gender Studies Professor

Teaching about feminism and gender studies at a collegiate or post-graduate level is the foundation of understanding how we can shape a society that isn't built around the male perspective.

Sydnee Lyons, a first-year graduate student at Florida Atlantic University, talked with us about “Sex and Violence in Hollywood,” a graduate class she's taking with feminist author Jane Caputi. The class focuses on the themes of sex and violence in films like Psycho, Silence of the Lambs, Fifty Shades of Grey and Pretty Woman. In the class, Sydnee has been analyzing these works and the way they perpetuate sexism, sexualized violence and gendered stereotypes.

"I'm always in awe at what Professor Caputi brings to the discussion and how impactful her role must be in helping students across disciplines discover opportunities for equality of the sexes,” says Sydnee.

If you want to make an impact with the next generation of intellectuals who aspire to change the way society looks at the roles of women, this might be a career path for you. If you're interested but unsure of whether you want to make it your career, take a class in the subject at your university and see what you think! Some schools even offer majors in the subject.

How to prepare for this career in undergrad

8. Sorority Chapter Development Consultant

Calling all sorority women! We know that when led correctly, the college sorority experience imparts empowerment, support and an unparalleled drive to succeed upon its members. Unfortunately, not all sororities have the guidance and leadership they need, which usually results in those cringe-worthy headlines that we occasionally see hit the news.

If you feel like your sorority experience has shaped your undergraduate college experience in a positive way, you should check with your sorority’s international headquarters (or your alumnae chapter) to see what opportunities there are to help consult developing chapters in learning how to prepare for a lasting presence on campus. These positions are usually contracted to last for about a year per cycle and involve traveling around the country for a few weeks at a time to work with each chapter. It’s a great way to give back to your sorority and work during a gap year before graduate school, or if you’re still trying to figure out what exactly you want to do career-wise.

Related: 6 Ways Greek Life Can Benefit Your Future Career

If you’re interested in communications and the media

9. Fashion Writer

When you think of feminism, fashion might not be the first related industry that comes to mind. Over the years, media sensationalism has contributed to the notion that the industry is catty, cutthroat, and promotes classism. It’s a notion that even industry professionals like Maya Singer, a fashion writer for Vogue and GQ, can’t refute. But it’s a notion that they, and we, can change.

In an outstanding article for Vogue, "Finding Feminism in Fashion," Singer explores the juxtaposition of the "evils" of the industry, and the feminist ideals it does promote, like the way women almost singlehandedly dominate all aspects of the market, and thus, the inherent expectation for women to succeed in the industry.

A key way that Singer reconciles her interest in fashion with her feminist ideals is by celebrating designers who use their creativity to elevate women as the subject of their clothing, not the object.

“I guess I try to cheerlead for designers who seem to be endorsing women’s subject-ness through their clothes—that they’re dressing women who aren’t just meant to be looked at, but who are out in the world making and doing and thinking and paradigm-shifting,” says Singer.

But if you want to make it in the fashion industry, there’s more involved than just knowing the ABC’s of designers, or even how to present concept boards.

“Competence—plain old, work-your-ass-off, detail-driven, unentitled competence—is the quality that best determines success in this industry. Lots of people can know about what’s happening in fashion, so bring something else to the table,” she says.

Above all, Singer emphasizes the importance of studying culture to succeed in fashion. Fashion echoes and evolves from art in culture in every way from abstract ideas to literature and everything in between.

How to prepare for this career in undergrad

10. Blogging & Vlogging

The blogging sphere extends far beyond our favorite WordPress flat-lays. Some of the biggest online influencers of our generation are using their fame to speak loudly and clearly about everything from food to fashion to (of course) feminism.

With almost 4 million subscribers, Ingrid Nilsen is one YouTube vlogger who has taken the world by storm with the food, style and DIY favorites that she talks about on her channel. However, she recently interviewed President Obama and forced national attention on issues like the tampon tax, which instills a luxury goods tax on feminine hygiene products that we as women you know, need. Not to mention that her Instagram is straight fire.

Estee Lalonde is another YouTuber (and blogger!) with over one million subscribers who uses her platform to talk about feminist issues. She even went so far as to dedicate a section of her channel, called FemTalk, to talking openly about removing the stigma surrounding the discussion of feminist issues.

Lexie Pelchen, a senior at Penn State, has been a longtime fan of both vloggers. "[They] provide a platform for feminism and feminist issues to be openly discussed and I think this is so important!" she says.

As the publishing industry continues to move largely online, many magazines also maintain blogs for their content, which is another publishing platform that you can utilize if you already have some writing experience on your resume.

Professor Susanne Althoff, who teaches graduate-level courses at Emerson College about women’s publications, believes that purporting feminism through writing and the media also has to do with the kinds of publications we read, write for and buy into.

“I feel it is important for students to know about the rich history of women’s publications and their place in the modern media world," says Althoff, "and understand why women’s publications are so often ignored or belittled. It’s true a lot of fluff content is produced for and by women, but there are also women’s magazines and websites contributing to important conversations about politics, culture, science and other subjects."

Still not sure where to start? Check out opportunities to join the Her Campus staff of contributors!

If you’re pursuing an education and a career in medicine

11. Planned Parenthood Clinician

Planned Parenthood is the leading non-profit healthcare organization in the United States for reproductive healthcare. Historically, Planned Parenthood has spearheaded women’s reproductive rights by providing comprehensive reproductive health care and by organizing grassroots efforts through Planned Parenthood Action Networks.

According to Dr. Raegan McDonald-Mosley, the chief medical officer of Planned Parenthood, the organization has a strong history of fighting for women’s rights by supporting the initial development of birth control, and fighting for women’s access to contraceptives and safe, legal abortions.

When we asked Dr. McDonald-Mosley what she would like to share with someone contemplating a career as a Planned Parenthood clinician, she gave us the most heartfelt response.

“I would tell them they’d be joining the ranks of some of the most passionate, concerned and skilled people I know, who believe deeply in the health, well-being and dignity of women. And they put that trust and care for women into the work they do every day," she says. "At Planned Parenthood, you are not simply starting a job; you are joining a mission, a movement and a community. It is very motivating and compelling to work at a place that aligns with your own personal values and vision.  It is incredibly rewarding that millions of people across the country trust us to provide high quality care in a safe, supportive environment.” 

Dr. Raegan McDonald-Mosley also explained that the number of practicing OB/GYNs in the country is not enough to keep up with the number of women who need their services. There’s also a nationwide need of nurse practitioners and certified nurse midwives, each of which has their own education requirements and their own place in the industry of women’s healthcare.

She went on to explain that she believes that planning and preventing pregnancy is the key to elevating women to be able to have control of their futures. By educating women on their reproductive healthcare options, she empowers them to make their own choices and is able to advocate for the vital healthcare services that her patients, women just like us, need.

Career opportunities for medical professionals (like medical assistants, clinicians and registered nurses) abound with Planned Parenthood, along with administrative volunteer positions, which you can learn more about if you’re still working toward your license or degree.  

No matter where your career interests lie, there are infinite ways to incorporate the pursuit of feminism into your work and your education. While these roles aren't all overtly obvious in that respect, they make a significant impact on furthering the equality of men and women and demolishing the obstacles presented to this fundamental necessity. 

Jennifer Garner Is Speaking Out Against This 'People' Cover Story About Her Life After Ben Affleck

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Celebrities are used to seeing their faces on magazine covers, often paired with outrageous rumors or questionable headlines. More often than not, those in the public eye ignore the gossip and wait for the story to fade. But Jennifer Garner was not about to let it slide when People issued a story about her life after divorce on Wednesday. 

The cover reads, "Life After Heartbreak," alluding to Garner's divorce from husband of 10 years, Ben Affleck. The story's headline, "Jennifer Garner Isn't Ready to Date After Divorce: 'Ben Was the Love of Her Life,'" makes it seem like the single mom has been struggling since her relationship fell apart. As Cosmpolitan reports, Jen is never quoted in the story—rather the information was provided by an "insider." 

The actress took to her official Facebook page to set the record straight, admitting that this isn't the first time she's had to clarify her personal life to concerned loved ones. She wrote, "It has been brought to my attention that there is a People magazine cover and article out today that appear to be coming from me. It isn't unusual for me to receive calls from loved ones thinking I forgot to tell them I am pregnant—with twins!—(Geez Louise), but those are so ridiculous they're easy to ignore. This isn't a tragedy by any measure, but it does affect me and my family and so, before my mom's garden club lights up her phone, I wanted to set the record straight: I did not pose for this cover. I did not participate in or authorize this article."

She ended her post by delegitimizing the story. "While we are here, for what it's worth: I have three wonderful kids and my family is complete," she said.

According to the Associated Press, a People spokesperson issued a statement standing by the story, calling it "fair and truthful," and adding that “it does not include rumors and does not say she’s pregnant.” Clearly they missed the point of Jen's awesome post. 

Ariel Winter Is So Over Your Opinions About Her Beach Body

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After years of dealing with the internet having some not-so-nice things to say about her body, 19-year-old Modern Family star Ariel Winter wants to let all the haters know this: she doesn't care what people think.

 

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While trolls will continue trying to criticize her body, she's sending a powerful message to her fans and naysayers alike. In an interview with Refinery29, Ariel says she's no longer trying to change herself for others. 

"I went through a lot of hate online, so I tried to change myself for a really long time," she says. "But people just kept hating on me no matter what I did. I decided that instead of pleasing these other people, I’ll just spend that time pleasing myself. Those people are going to be rude to me regardless of what I do, so I should just try and be happy with what I am.”

According to the interview, the body confident actress has had her fair share of self-esteem struggles. It hasn't always been easy for her to accept herself, especially when a majority of her life is spent in the public eye. 

She says about her body image issues, "It’s hard to be positive about your body all the time. I know because I’m honest about my insecurities that people think I’m 100 percent positive about my body all the time, but I’m not. I get really uncomfortable, too. But I just remind myself that this is the body I was given. This is who I am.”

The actress uses her public platform to inspire men and women everywhere to be confident in their skin. As someone who lives with their own insecurities, Ariel says it's crucial for people to empower and strengthen each other, rather than criticize something they don't like.

"Our leadership is really anti-women right now,” she says. “We’re being objectified and made to feel bad about ourselves, so I think it’s really important for women to stick together and do the opposite of that; to let their bodies be seen and be heard, and to empower each other; to remind each other that what they look like is not the only thing that’s important when it comes to who they are.”

As beach season approaches, Ariel's words couldn't have come at a better time. Remember, ladies: Your body is already bikini ready. 

Corinne Olympios & Amanda Stanton Will Reportedly Appear on 'Bachelor in Paradise' This Summer

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Bachelor in Paradise starts filming in a couple weeks, and you know what that means: we get to see our Bachelor Nation favorites return to soak up the sun and try to find love! According to ET Online, the cast will include familiar faces Corinne Olympios, Amanda Stanton and Robby Hayes.

You probably remember that Amanda ended up engaged to Josh Murray in Paradise last summer, but that relationship didn't end so well.

Although this is Amanda’s second time in Paradise, this will be Corinne and Robby’s first time. We’re still waiting for ABC to confirm these castings, but for now we’re satisfied with watching Rachel Lindsay’s journey to find love on The Bachelorette.

A 16-Year-Old Girl Has Been Accused Of Murdering Her Uber Driver With A Machete

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After walking out of a Walmart in suburban Chicago wielding a stolen knife and machete, a teenage girl called herself an Uber. Then she allegedly stabbed her driver to death.

Prosecutors charged 16-year-old Eliza Wasni as an adult with first-degree murder on Wednesday, following the homicide of Uber driver Grant Nelson. A Cook County judge ordered her held without bail after the “heinous” and violent act, according to the Chicago Tribune.

During a news conference, prosecutors said that 34-year-old Nelson, who had been driving for Uber since February 2016, picked Wasni up early Tuesday. It was the third Uber she called that night. Within minutes, Wasni started stabbing the driver from behind. Nelson managed to pull over and run away to a condominium building nearby. According to prosecutors, Nelson frantically pushed buzzers and repeatedly yelled, “Help me, help me. I’m going to die.” Police found Nelson collapsed outside the condos, surrounded by blood. He was able to describe his attacker before soon dying of his wounds in a hospital.

Wasni fled the scene by getting behind the wheel of Nelson’s Silver Hyundai Sonata. She soon crashed into a median, so she opted to run away on foot instead. The Washington Post reported that police found Wasni behind a building, wearing just a bra and leggings while holding a “machete in one hand and knife in the other.” Police Tased her after she refused to drop her weapons, then took her into custody.

Alexandra Nelson, Grant’s sister, called the homicide “horrifying and maddening.” The Nelson family reportedly believed the attack to be random.

“[Grant was] the most gentle, kind person,” said Grant’s brother, Todd Nelson, to the Tribune. “He never hurt anyone. He was good to animals, he was good to children.” Todd described Grant as a lover of opera and classical piano, having been a “very good” piano player himself.

“I want people to know Grant was a good person,” Alexandra Nelson said to NBC Chicago. “He was not a vindictive person. He was not a cruel person. He didn’t deserve this fate.”  

According to the Associated Press, Wasni attends high school, lives with her single mother and had no criminal record. She was also in violation of Uber’s 18-and-older age restriction for users.

In a statement to BuzzFeed News, Uber asserted that it was cooperating with law enforcement. “We are heartbroken by the loss of one of our partners,” an Uber spokesperson said. “Our deepest sympathies and prayers are with his family and loved ones during their incredibly difficult time.”

This Mayor Had an Epic Response to a Misogynistic Email About Women-Only 'Wonder Woman' Screenings

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With the new Wonder Woman movie set to release June 2 nationwide, some theaters have planned to show the major blockbuster to select audiences made up solely of women (and people who identify as women). This doesn’t mean there won’t be all-inclusive screenings, too, but cities like Austin want to celebrate women. However, the idea of women-only screenings has drawn negative feedback online. For one man, expressing a grumpy opinion on social media just wasn’t enough. 

According toEntertainment Weekly, Mayor Steve Adler of Austin, Texas, responded personally to an email about a women-only screening at Austin’s Alamo Drafthouse sent to his official website. The man who wrote the email planned on boycotting the city and “caus[ing] damage to [Austin’s] image” because he was angry about the screenings.  

In a terribly written rant, the man claimed, “The theater that pandered to the sexism typical of women will, I hope, regret it’s decision.” (Notice the grammatical mistake?) He also falsely accused women of “pretend[ing]…to not know that only men serve in combat because they are content to have an easier ride” and “gladly accept[ing] gold medals at the Olympics for coming in 10th and competing only against the second class of athletes.” He added, "Name something invented by a woman!"

Ultimately, the man threatened that he would “never visit Austin again and will welcome it’s [sic] [deterioration]” if the city doesn’t agree to hold a men-only event. (There’s that grammatical mistake again!) 

Mayor Adler responded with an incredibly witty reply: “I am writing to alert you that your email account has been hacked by an unfortunate and unusually hostile individual. Please remedy your account’s security right away, lest this person’s uninformed and sexist rantings give you a bad name. After all, we men have to look out for each other!”

He continued, “Can you imagine if someone thought that you didn’t know women could serve in our combat units now without exclusion? What if someone thought you didn’t know that women invented medical syringes, life rafts, fire escapes, central and solar heating, a war-time communications system for radio-controlling torpedoes that laid the technological foundations for everything from Wi-Fi to GPS, and beer? And I hesitate to imagine how embarrassed you’d be if someone thought you were upset that a private business was realizing a business opportunity by reserving one screening this weekend for women to see a superhero movie.”

As a final punch to the gut, Adler pointed out the man’s misogynistic views as “an embarrassment to modernity, decency, and common sense.” We couldn’t agree more, sir.  


Instagram Is Freaking Out Over Disney World's Newest Drink

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Move over, Unicorn Frappuccino—Instagram has a new drink to freak out over.

Disney World’s Animal Kingdom theme park opened a new section dedicated to the 2009 movie Avatar on Saturday, and the world features a drink that has Instagram swooning.

The 'Night Blossom' is available at the Pongu Pongu Lounge, which translates to “Party Party” in the movie’s Na’vi language. Cosmopolitan reports that it's a mishmash of lime, apple, pear, with passionfruit boba on top.

The Verge compared the sugar rush from the Night Blossom to one you might get from Butterbeer at Harry Potter’s Wizarding World—but this one is fruitier and more colorful.

The drink is available in a disposable cup, as seen above, or in a souvenir glass with a glowing “unadelta” seed.

 

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There’s also an alcoholic version, the Mo’ara Margarita. This one will pop a little less on your Insta, but it's alcoholic, so that makes up for everything.

So far, most reports have said the Night Blossom tastes pretty good along with being perfectly Instagrammable (not everyone felt the same about the Unicorn Frappuccino). Maybe it’s time to take a trip to Disney World.

Trump Has Withdrawn the U.S. From the Paris Climate Agreement

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According to CNN, President Donald Trump has announced the United States’s exit from the Paris Agreement, a United Nations treaty that aims to reduce global warming and lower greenhouse gas emissions globally.

The U.S. exiting the agreement will likely trigger other nations to do the same. In addition, The Washington Post states, “A U.S. withdrawal would remove the world’s second-largest emitter and nearly 18 percent of the globe’s present-day emissions from the agreement.” Does the math not seem obvious here to Trump et. al.?

Given Trump’s questionable statements on climate change and the environment during his presidential campaign (when Trump outright promised he would withdraw the U.S. from the Paris Agreement) and his various attacks on the EPA, it should come as no shock that the Trump administration is bent on literally setting the Earth on fire.

However, there was also a risk of the U.S. staying superficially involved in the agreement while actively changing its policies in a non-environmentally-conscious (or protecting, for that matter) direction. “‘A great power that willfully misses its target could provide political cover for other laggards and weaken the soft power of process,’” says environmental expert Luke Kemp, according to another piece fromThe Post.

The possibility also remains that a future president (!!!) can recommit to the agreement.

America now joins the other TWO countries (Syria and Nicaragua, the latter of which refused to sign the agreement because it wasn’t aggressive enough) that are not a part of the treaty. The U.S. is second only to China on the list of countries with the most greenhouse gas emissions.

Kate Middleton Wears These Affordable Sneakers Basically Everywhere

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Kate Middleton is many things, not least of which being the real-life future queen of England (can you imagine??). For all her accomplishments, it shouldn't really matter how she dresses, but the truth of the matter is: the woman is a fashion queen. From never straying from her most beloved pieces to looking like a million dollars in our fave affordable brands, the Duchess of Cambridge is a more approachable fashion icon than, say, the Kardashians.

Once again, Kate has given us an easy way to copy her style. The Daily Mail noticed that the sneakers she wore for her trip to Canada last fall were a super basic pair of Superga kicks, that are available at Bloomingdale's for only $65.

This was definitely not a one-off for Kate, who wears this same exact pair pretty much every time she gets a chance. Here she is preparing to host London marathon runners:

And giving out a medal:

She was also spotted wearing them after a bridal party for Pippa. Lesson learned: dressing like a princess is a lot easier than I thought.

How to Pick the Best Sports Bra for Your Boobs

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When you think about the most important part of workout preparation, staying hydrated, fueling yourself properly and wearing good sneakers are on the top of your list. Having a perfect-fitting sports bra is probably one of the last things that comes to mind. Hydration and proper footwear are imperative to your workout, but so is your sports bra. Wearing the right sports bra means less bouncing, sagging and sore breasts, and thus, more effective workouts. Who wants to stay on the elliptical when your boobs feel like weights dropping every time you make a stride? So, with the help of some collegiettes, we’ve curated a guide to finding the perfect sports bra for your breasts.

Cups

First and foremost are cups, the part of sports bras that you either love or love to hate. Well-endowed collegiettes should be looking for sports bras with either molded or removable cups. These provide encapsulation, which is when there is a cup and lining for each breast individually (a.k.a, no more uniboob and bouncing). If you have wide-set breasts that sit on the outside of your chest, molded cups keep your breasts from spilling out of the sides of your bra. In general, cups provide support and compression that women with larger breasts need to prevent soreness. Sweaty Betty’s ultra-popular Victory Run Bra, complete with cups and mesh panels (your girls need to breathe, too), is perfect for the busty gals.

Women with smaller breasts, however, can choose to opt out of cups. “As a proud member of the itty-bitty-titty-committee I am a huge fan of unpadded sports bras,” says Amanda Goecke, a rising senior at Carthage College. “They’re less expensive and I don't like the bulk that comes with padding, plus I don't really find that I need the support. I run competitively in college and am totally fine with them.”

Just because you have smaller breasts, doesn’t mean you can’t get sore, especially around your period, so it can be helpful to buy a few bras with cups for when your girls are just having one of those days.

Straps

Straps are arguably most important when picking the perfect sports bra for your breast type. Straps are what keep your ta-ta’s supported and lifted, and they keep your back and shoulders from bearing all of the weight. Women with larger breasts need to look for sports bras with thick straps, especially for workouts like HIIT, running, dancing and other forms of cardio. Thicker straps aren’t as important if you’re practicing yoga or Pilates. Thick straps prevent bouncing and soreness.

Also pay attention to the back of your bra. “I’m a DD, so I always opt for thick straps,” says Sarah Johnstone, a rising sophomore at Montgomery County Community College. “I also love the racerback style, because since my boobs are really round and full, it keeps everything exactly where it should be.” Racerback styles are very common, but you might like an actual hook-and-eye closure better so you can adjust the band size. Try out the Ta Ta Tamer II, Lululemon’s popular sports bra for the busty gals, or, if you’re looking for something more affordable, this similar style from Target.

If you have smaller breasts, thin straps are for you. They’re usually adjustable, so you can still get the perfect amount of support for your back and shoulders. Thin straps make for really cool back designs, so try out a sports bra with a criss-cross back like this one— they’re so trendy right now. Of course, you can choose a bra with thicker straps if that’s more comfortable for you.

Related: A Guide to What Kind of Underwear You Should REALLY Be Wearing to Work Out

Support

Support is oh-so important when it comes to sports bras. Think of the first sports bra you ever bought at Walmart when you were in middle school...now go buy the literal opposite.

Susan Nethero, the woman Oprah named “The Bra Whisperer,” wrote, "The majority of women today are wearing what we call 'compression' sports bras, which creates stability by pressing down against the chest wall. But that's actually the worst way to get support."

Many of us are guilty of this. We think that if we suffocate our boobs (and ourselves) by wearing ultra-tight, compression bras that flatten us to no end, we’re doing the right thing. Instead, opt for supportive bands and extra layers of fabric. Try an encapsulating bra like this one that holds everything in place without the intense compression; you’ll be in heaven. If compression is still your style and you feel it benefits you in the gym, stick with it. We’re just here to offer some advice.

Size

Ladies, size does matter (*winks*). Be honest with yourself when you’re shopping for sports bras. Your bra size can fluctuate from weight loss/gain, pregnancy or body fat percentage, so don’t rely on your current bra size forever; get re-fitted once in a while to make sure that you’re getting the right size for your body. Hook-and-eye closures give you the perfect fit if you’re in between sizes. “It's really hard to find the right fit because I have a small rib cage and most times the elastic bands aren't tight enough,” says Emily Schmidt, a freshman at Stanford University, “I've found that sports bras with clasps in the back allow me to tighten it when needed.”

How do you make sure a sports bra fits just right? It should feel tighter than your normal bra, but you should still be able to breathe deeply — which is kind of important during an intense sweat sesh. The band shouldn’t move when you raise and lower your arms. If it has a hook-and-eye clasp, this is an easy fix — just try the next hook. But if it’s a racerback, try a different size or style. If your breasts are spilling out of the top of your bra like fresh-baked muffins, it might look sexy, but it’s not very functional or comfortable during a workout. Make sure there’s nothing rubbing or chafing your arms or underarms. Don’t be afraid to do a mini HIIT session in the fitting room, and if anyone asks, tell them Her Campus said it was okay!

So, listen to me when I say that when it comes to sports bras, it is not one-size-fits-all. That ultra-tight Nike compression bra your itty-bitty-titty BFF wears is probably not good for you if you have big breasts. Keep this guide next time you go bra shopping — your boobs will thank you.

An Intense Anti-Abortion Bill is On Its Way to Becoming Law in Texas

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Once again, Texas lawmakers are looking to prevent women from being able to get abortions –– this time, though, they may actually get what they want.

The Texas Senate passed an anti-abortion bill on Friday that puts new restrictions on both women seeking and doctors performing abortions. Senate Bill 8, most commonly known as SB 8, was approved by a 22-9 vote and now moves to Gov. Greg Abbott's desk for signature, according to The Austin Chronicle.

The bill is pretty much as extreme as it gets, classifying aborted fetuses as living people, claiming abortion is murder, and stating doctors who perform such procedures are felons punishable by law. SB 8 would prohibit the donation of fetal tissue and cord blood from abortions and miscarraiges, and ban "dismemberment" and "partial-birth" abortions" (known medically as dilation and extraction, both of which are used for second trimester abortions). What's more, it also requires that fetal remains be cremated or buried, a rule already blocked by a federal judge in Austin in January.

Anti-abortion supporters need not jump for joy yet, though, because the Supreme Court has previously intervened and stopped the passing of unconstitutional abortion laws in Texas. What will happen with SB 8 is yet to be known, but we can only hope it's not a major loss for reproductive rights. 

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