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Chad Johnson is STILL Throwing Shade at 'The Bachelorette' Castmate Jordan Rodgers

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It turns out Chad Johnson is still feuding with Jordan Rodgers, but now it’s gone further than The Bachelorette.

Jordan, who was once a quarterback for the Jacksonville Jaguars, Tampa Bay Buccaneers and Miami Dolphins, has signed on for a sports show on the SEC Network. Naturally, Chad had to voice his opinion on Rodgers new job. As expected, it wasn’t cute.


Chad isn't exactly an angel himself—ever since he got the boot, his life has revolved around stirring up drama with former castmates and of course, picking back up as the villain on Bachelor in Paradise. Of course, we have our own thoughts on the whole Jordan situation—but honestly, Chad... that's enough out of you.


5 Reasons Why it's Okay to Be a Virgin in College

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One of the best things about college is that you get to be whoever you want to be. You meet all sorts of people from different backgrounds with different aspirations, and, unlike high school, being different is okay. More than okay – it's encouraged! This is your time to find yourself, emotionally, socially, professionally... but also sexually.

Casual sex, sex with multiple partners or sex out of wedlock isn't stigmatized like it might have been a few decades ago, but there can be a stigma around being a virgin, unfortunately. At Her Campus, we believe that having sex or not is your decision entirely, and that it's completely okay either way. That's why we put together the reasons why being a virgin in college is nothing to worry about. Read on if you've ever doubted your choices, if you’ve felt judged for them or even if you're perfectly happy!

1. You know what you want and you stand by it.

Whatever your reasons are for staying a virgin thus far, your first time obviously means a lot to you. And with good reason! You absolutely should feel comfortable with the person to whom you lose your virginity, whether you’re simply waiting for someone you like enough, or you want to be in a committed relationship first. You have a right to be picky! You deserve only the best.

“College is all about making personal decisions, and is often the first time we make so many at once,” says Jenna*, a senior at Florida State University. “Choosing to remain a virgin until I was ready went against not only the stereotype of a college student, but of a sorority girl, but I was okay with it and I was proud of my decision.”

2. There are no deadlines.

Society often makes us feel like there’s a perfect age for every romantic milestone: for our first kiss, our first time having sex or our wedding day, for instance. This is so not the case! You should feel free to take things at your own pace without worrying about what others have to say about it. You’re in college, and you have all the time in the world ahead of you. Besides, waiting makes everything better – think being reunited with your mom's famous lasagna after a semester in school! Drool.

“I don't want sex to just be a ‘thing’ that happens,” says Rose*, a junior at the University of Texas at Austin. “I want it to be special and meaningful … (contrary to popular belief,) there's absolutely no rush. Saying ‘no’ isn't a bad thing!”

3. Your true friends will support you.

If you decide to talk about your virginity with your friends, their support of you will say a lot about them. The people around you should never make you doubt your choices, and if you’re happy with being a virgin, that’s truly all that matters.

“I have been dating my boyfriend since senior year of high school,” says Leila*, a senior at the University of California, San Diego. “We have decided to remain virgins until marriage. The feedback that I hear from people who discover this about me is supportive and encouraging.”

“I feel very proud of myself and my boyfriend for our decision to wait,” Leila adds. And so should you!

4. You are not alone.

Although it may feel like you’re the only collegiette on campus still carrying her V-card, that’s not the case!

“According to one study, only 32 percent of college students say they've had sex with more than one person in the previous year, and as many as one in four college students is still a virgin,” says Julie Zeilinger, a blogger and author of College 101: A Girl’s Guide to Freshman Year.

Still not convinced? Many celebrities waited relatively late to lose their virginities! Tina Fey was 24 years old when she lost her virginity, Lisa Kudrow was 32 and Adriana Lima was 27.

5. In the end, it’s not THAT big of a deal.

The concept of virginity is truly only what you make of it. “Virginity is a social construct,” says Kelsey Pomeroy, a junior at Ohio State. “It is this idea that our society has built up into this overly important, life-defining thing.”

Your virginity doesn't define who you are in any way. Your personality and accomplishments matter a thousand times more, and anyone who can't see that just isn't worth your time.

“Essentially, the concept of virginity is almost used to shame girls for their sexual experience, or lack thereof, and that just shouldn't be the case,” Kelsey says. “Calling someone a virgin is defining them by one thing, when they're so much more than that.”

Remember: not having sex is part of your life, not all of it.

College is your time to create your own path, and if virginity is a part of that, then that’s totally okay! Nobody has the right to make you feel like your decisions aren't worthy, or like you’re different or strange in any way. Many collegiettes are virgins and perfectly happy with it – be it by choice or by chance. Embrace the diversity present on your campus, be happy and be confident.

*Names have been changed.

Another Actress Opens Up About Being Sexually Abused by a Director

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Especially given everything that's going on with Kesha and Dr. Luke, we've become hyper-conscious of the abuse and exploitation that's just rampant in the entertainment industry. Sadly, the heartbreaking stories just keep coming.

In a recent interview with W, actress Thandie Newton opens up about how she was sexually abused by a director earlier in her career, according to Cosmopolitan

“A director, on a callback, had a camera shooting up my skirt and asked me to touch my tits and think about the guy making love to me in the scene. I thought, ‘Ok, this is a little weird,’ but there was a female casting director in the room and I’d done weird stuff before so I did it,” she recalled in the interview.

But it wasn’t until years later at a film festival when she realized what happened when a drunk producer came up to her and said, “Oh, Thandie, I’ve seen you recently!” She didn’t understand what he meant so she sent her husband to find out and apparently “the director was showing that audition tape to his friends after poker games at his house. And they would all get off on it.” This is just appalling.

Although no one wants to ever have an experience like that, it did teach her a lesson, she said. “I was so so naïve when I started out and I realize now that we have to prepare our kids— I’ve got two beautiful daughters, one is 16 one is 11,” she explained—and the way to do that is by talking about what happened. 

She added that she hopes even one person will read about her story and take it to heart—and that it will “stop them from getting sexually abused by a director.” She said, “that’s the person I’m interested in.” 

Thank you, Thandie, thank you. 

A 'Fantastic Beasts' Sequel is Already in the Works

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It's been years since the last Harry Potter film was released in theaters (and even longer since the final installment of the book series came out), and Potterheads have been desperately searching for a way to fill the void—until it was announced that J.K. Rowling's Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them would be given the Hollywood treatment. Although we've still got a few more months to go until Fantastic Beasts hits the big screen (November 18, to be precise), fans can take pleasure in the news that there will be sequels to follow! *cue the screams*

While chatting with GS News, David Yates, the director of Fantastic Beasts, shared some juicy deets in regards to the highly-anticipated film. David, who has directed several Harry Potter movies, will be assisted by J.K. Rowling in the project. That's right, everyone's favorite storyteller has written the screenplay for the movie—as well as its sequel! "We've done the first one," David said during the interview. "She's written the second one, and she's got ideas for the third." So basically, fans have hope for THREE installments of Fantastic Beasts

Considering that the adventures of Newt Scamander are new to fans, David also pointed out the creative liberty that he and J.K. have. "No one quite has ownership of them yet in terms of having a relationship with the material, other than the relationship they'll have with the movie when it comes out," he explained. “So, it's sort of lovely in a way."

Because J.K. Rowling developed the screenplay, David is confident that the movie will remain quite true to the 2001 book. "When we adapted the [Harry Potter] books, you would have to leave things out that you hated leaving out because they didn't quite work within the structure of the storytelling of the movie or the movie would just be far too long. With this, it's just pure Jo from the first page to the last page." We can't wait to see how this new series turns out!

Emma Watson is So Sick of People Being Obsessed with Her Sexuality

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Although Emma Watson is long past her Hermione days, some people seem to be stuck in the past.

Watson stars in a new film, Colonia, and the trailer shows a quick flash of Watson in bed with co-star Daniel Brühl. Although this isn't out of the ordinary, it's literally the only thing people can focus on. Even the Daily Mail published an article titled, "Emma Watson indulges in passionate display with Daniel Brühl as they roll around on the bed."

LOL, is that what they call it these days? Watson unveiled her frustration in an interview with The Times:

“Yes, three and half seconds of nude pictures which were not particularly risqué. It’s deeply irritating… I’m 26 now. I’ve been in 15 films in total and me kissing somebody else shouldn’t be risqué or horrifying, but I think that will continue for a long time. There have been lots of advantages to being part of that franchise [Harry Potter], and playing that role for a long time, but inevitably there are obstacles and that’s one of them.”

In case anybody hasn't noticed, Emma Watson is a grown woman, and she's allowed to be a sexual being.

10 Movies That Will Make You Proud to Be Queer

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With an entertainment industry that’s dominated by a very particular demographic (we’re looking at you, upper/middle class, able-bodied, heterosexual, cisgender white men!), it can be hard to find movies you identify with or that express any aspect of your identity at all. Her Campus is here to remedy that discrepancy!

While we may not be able to spin LGBTQ+-friendly movies out of thin air (if that were possible, we’d be all over it), hopefully this list of our top 10 favorite films that will make you proud to be queer will get the ball rolling.

1. Paris Is Burning

This must-see documentary tells the story of multiple gender-variant New York City inhabitants and their participation in competitive ball culture. Paris Is Burning also gets extra points for having a female director and focusing on African-American and Latino individuals!

2. But I’m a Cheerleader

But I’m a Cheerleader comedically chronicles the attempted conversion therapy of Megan, played by everyone’s favorite Natasha Lyonne (à la Orange Is the New Black and American Pie). Megan’s senior year has the perfect setup: she’s a star cheerleader dating a handsome football player. She’s set up to have a picture perfect life, until she realizes she doesn’t like kissing her boyfriend. Can you guess what happens next?

RELATED: 8 LGBTQ+ Scenes That Got Us All Hot & Bothered

3. The Kids Are All Right

This film does a fantastic job of portraying the realities of same-sex parenthood as well as the difficulties of a complicated family structure. When the two children of artificially-inseminated parentage (whose mothers are Julianne Moore and Annette Bening) want to meet their biological father (Mark Ruffalo), family strain is inevitable.

4. Boys Don’t Cry

Brandon Teena (Hilary Swank) arrives in a new town determined to be one of the guys. Before long, it is revealed that Brandon was actually born female, and the repercussions are harsh. For her performance in the film, Hilary Swank won an Oscar for Best Actress!

5. My Beautiful Laundrette

This pick gives you a taste of comedy as well as suspense, and Daniel Day-Lewis and Gordon Warnecke explore the nuances of gay love in the Thatcher era while also facing obstacles because of Warnecke’s character’s Pakistani heritage against Day-Lewis’s character’s whiteness. Both characters are forced to confront difficult aspects of their own personal beliefs, and both clash with their families and communities who saw the main characters’ lives going differently.

6. Hedwig and the Angry Inch

This movie is adapted from the Broadway musical, and illustrates a trans woman named Hedwig’s sordid tale of love with an American army sergeant that does not go according to plan. The movie includes the musical’s original hits, so if you’re a fan of movie-musicals, this one’s for you.

7. The Rocky Horror Picture Show

While this choice might not traditionally be thought of as an LGBTQ+ film, as that isn’t quite its focus, Rocky Horror is most definitely queer-friendly. This movie-musical bridges gaps between comedy, horror and drama all at once, and is a bonafide favorite among all film buffs. Rocky Horror is one of few popular films to portray a transvestite in a genuine form.

RELATED: 16 LGBTQ+ Movies You Need to See Before You Graduate

8. Milk

An obvious feature on this list, Milk portrays the life and accomplishments of Harvey Milk, a gay and rights activist during the 70s. Milk’s story is unique because he was able to bridge so many traditionally-contradicting identity politic gaps. Sean Penn (who won a Best Actor Oscar for this work) plays the eponymous activist, and James Franco stars alongside him.

9. A Summer Dress

This French short film tells the candid story of a gay couple experiencing a lull in their relationship. In a classic case of a vacation gone wrong, A Summer Dress is earnest and dreamy. Its reliably-great premise sustains a complicated, thought-provoking series of events in the plot.

10. Beautiful Thing

Beautiful Thing offers a twist on the quintessential coming-of-age story. Two British boys explore their possible homosexuality together, with the help of their families and neighbors. The mix of characters involved in this identity exploration makes for a very funny movie viewing, while also remaining sincere and reflective with regard to LGBTQ realities.

Do you have any favorites that should have made this list? Share in the comments and on social media and let us know what you think of these pics! Happy binge watching!

Rebel Wilson Considers Her Size an Advantage

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Rebel Wilson has said the one thing no one ever says in Hollywood: she gained weight to book jobs. In a recent interview with The Telegraph, Rebel discussed how her plus-sized frame works to her advantage.

The Australian actress, made famous by her roles in Bridesmaids and Pitch Perfect, said that before she was in the public eye, she had an athletic build. But all that changed when she wrote and starred in her first play, casting a girl who was bigger than she was to perform with her. She explained that that's when her perspective changed. “‘Oh. That girl’s getting a lot of laughs, a lot easier than me. What is it?’ Because I don’t think there’s much difference in talent,” she said. “And I remember distinctly thinking: ‘I think it’s because she’s fatter.’ And then, I don’t know if it was mega-conscious, but I thought: ‘How can I get more laughs?’ Maybe if I was a bit fatter…’ And then suddenly I was fatter and doing comedy.”

Rebel has embraced her shape, and her role in the industry. “There’s something about me that people like laughing at,” she admitted. And she's okay with that. She doesn't apologize for who she is—and she definitely doesn't apologize for her size. In fact, she's empowered by it: “I saw my size as being an advantage, whereas so many women see it as a disadvantage.”

Ultimately, though, she cares much more about her talent than she does her looks. “Hollywood IS age-ist. That’s why people do crazy shit to their faces—out of desperation to look younger,” she explained. “But I think my career is based more on my personality, so it doesn’t really matter.” Amen, girl.

Women Share Disturbing Stories of #CommutingWhileFemale

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While stories of harassment on public transit may not be as high-profile as stories of sexual assault or rape, they are just another unspoken, sexist reality that women face everyday. According to Nylon, the New York City Police Department recently announced that sexual offenses in the New York City subway have risen by more than 50 percent in the last year, which is a disturbing statistic. Many women have to rely on subways or buses as their main form of transportation, and none of them should ever be groped, leered at or worse. 

The Huffington Post started the hashtag #CommutingWhileFemale at the end of June so that women could publicly share their stories. It revealed that the experience of being photographed, flashed, harassed, masturbated at and touched is much more commonplace than expected. This means that every day, women have to fear being violated both on crowded and empty train cars. 

Below are just a few of the tweets that women shared about feeling uncomfortable with blatantly unwanted sexual attention on their commute to work. 







5 Ways to Turn a Negative Internship Around

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You're supposed to love your summer internship, but why are you finding yourself with your head in the clouds all the time, dreaming of what you would be doing if you were at your actual dream internship? Maybe you weren't lucky enough this year to land your number one internship. Maybe your internship isn't turning out to be what you thought it would be. Or maybe you just didn't start your internship off on the best foot and are seriously struggling with your assignments.

If the first half of your summer internship didn't go too well, Her Campus is here to help! Check out these five tips for turning your internship experience around and ending on a fabulous note.

1. Put it in perspective

Before you decide to spill all your troubles to your supervisor, take a step back and look at things objectively. Ask yourself why the internship isn't going that well. Why aren't you liking the work? Is the internship different than what you expected? Is your supervisor hard to work for?

Also, be aware of the things you’re doing at the internship. Maybe there are improvements you could make that will help you leave a better impression at work. Should you come in a little earlier every day so you seem more eager? Maybe you're a little bit too quiet and you need to take more initiative. It's helpful to pinpoint the causes of your negative internship experience and to see what you can do to change your situation before going to others for help.

Better yet, jot down these questions and answers in a journal, since research shows that writing can be therapeutic. Try to work through your problems on paper. A helpful first step to turning any bad internship experience around is identifying the problems and their sources. Then, write down possible ways to work through these issues on your own. Maybe you need to do more research to better complete the tasks at hand, or maybe you need to work on your Excel skills in order to finish your assignments. Whatever it is, it can be figured out on paper!

2. Take initiative

Tired of making batches of coffee every day or organizing folders until your head hurts? That would make even the most patient of interns frustrated! Spice up your internship by taking initiative and finding meaningful work for yourself. Ask your manager or other people around the office for more work and experience, offering to help with tasks that no one else has time for.

"Ask around; maybe someone in another department has more interesting work for you to do," says Amanda Lee, a peer career advisor at Ithaca College. "Staying busy helps the time pass, and you might gain some new connections or knowledge along the way."

If you're having a hard time with your assignments, there's no need to pull your hair out in frustration. Actively seek out help from mentors and supervisors. Ask for critiques and ways to improve. More often than not, they'll be more than happy to help you do better, and they'll be impressed by your determination to succeed!

Taking initiative doesn't even have to be confined to your workplace. There are plenty of ways to improve your internship experience outside of the nine-to-five trudge. "You could try to fill whatever time you’re not spending at the internship with more enjoyable experiences," says Leonie Cohen, a career peer advisor at Swarthmore College. "If you’re not learning what you had hoped to learn from the internship, buy some books and read them in your free time. You can really learn a lot from the leaders of your field."

How did Barbara Corcoran turn $1,000 into a billion-dollar real estate company? For the entrepreneurs at heart, check out her autobiography, Shark Tales. Curious about how Banana Republic was created? Give Wild Company by Mel and Patricia Ziegler a try. Wonder how Apple became so wildly successful? Try Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson. These leaders would never let a bad internship experience get in the way of their goals, so why should you? You can create opportunities for yourself to learn and grow, even if you're currently buried in mountains of papers to copy and folders to file.

3. Bond with your coworkers

Liking the people you work with contributes so much to a positive internship experience, so if you're finding yourself not really clicking with the people with whom you work closely, take the time to get to know your other coworkers better. Reach out to fellow interns and suggest grabbing lunch. Maybe even throw an intern party on a Friday night and keep things casual with pizza and some movies.

To get to know other employees beside your fellow interns, consider participating in professional activities outside of the office, like going to after-work meals, joining an office-organized sports team or even participating in that office scavenger hunt HR keeps bugging people to join.

"Develop and manage relationships with colleagues that may end up being advocates and/or serve as references for you in future internship and job searches," says Kimberly Gustafson, an assistant director and career counselor at Bates College. "Aspire to identify a mentor that can offer helpful guidance in the future."

Of course, coworkers are not for gossiping or complaining to, even if they are your friends. No matter how much you need to vent about your work troubles, remember to always stay professional. Words seem to have a way of getting around in the office—even to your boss! Instead, talk about the things you're learning at work, interesting projects and common interests. "Do not vent [about] work to colleagues; confidentiality is often not upheld," Gustafson says. "Confide in and seek advice from trusted mentors, your career adviser, family members, friends."

By networking, you'll gain learning opportunities from professionals, stay active at your internship and connect with your coworkers. You'll also feel like you're in a more supportive environment. Bonding with people makes any experience better, and having a few more friendly faces at work can do wonders!

4. Speak with your supervisor

Of course, if nothing you're doing is really helping, don't hesitate to talk with your internship supervisor. Often a negative internship experience has very little to do with the intern herself and more to do with the working environment. It's important to be on the same page as your supervisor in regards to your responsibilities and expectations, and if you feel like there might be some kind of miscommunication between the two of you, take the time to reconnect. 

"If [your supervisors] are not staying true to what they had promised when they offered you the position, remind them of their promises," Leonie says. "Talk to your mentor and see if you can reach a compromise. You want to find a balance between representing yourself and remaining respectful."

Be honest with your supervisor about your concerns and do what you can without overstepping your boundaries. Sometimes a small reminder is all your supervisor needs to make some changes to your work description. If your internship doesn't meet your expectations, ask to meet with your supervisor to go over any learning contracts or position descriptions that were made at the beginning of the internship and your progress in following them.

If you're looking for more challenging tasks, maybe say, "I noticed X area could really benefit from Y; would you like me to look into it?"

If you're not doing too well with your assignments, ask your supervisor for critique and suggestions for improvement. "Communicate openly but diplomatically with your supervisor and colleagues," Gustafson says.

If you're really unhappy with your work, however, you could suggest spending half of the week interning with another part of the company or ask your supervisor if there is another job they could have you do. Try something along the lines of, "I'm having a really hard time with my current position because of X, Y and Z, but I would definitely like to work something out and maybe try something different and continue working at this company. What would you suggest I do?"

No matter what, remember to always be diplomatic, positive and professional.

5. View your internship as a learning experience

It's pretty hard to plaster on a smile when you feel like you're just being used for manual labor, but it's all about attitude and professional behavior. Staying positive and demonstrating professionalism, even if you're having trouble doing well on assignments or staying awake through the never-ending barrage of menial tasks, is so important for turning your internship around.

"Demonstrate professionalism at all times, even as you are struggling to keep smiling," Gustafson says. "Showcase your impeccable work ethic and unwavering dedication by cheerfully taking on any task that comes your way, menial or otherwise."

Instead of getting frustrated at the difficulty or the pointlessness of it all, try to view your internship as a learning experience, and you can't go wrong. "Maybe you didn’t land your dream internship this year, but that doesn’t mean you can’t try hard now," Amanda says. "The experience itself may provide for some new adventures; you might learn about a new field that interests you or find someone new to network with. Stay curious and ask questions, which shows initiative, and remember that there’s always more to learn."

To stay positive and upbeat, try exercising during your lunch breaks to release endorphins in your brain. Maybe pack some of your favorite healthy snacks to keep you going through the day. Or, put in some headphones and crank up some happy tunes as you go about your tasks ("Happy" by Pharrell Williams was made for this!). Do whatever you need to do to focus on the positive aspects of your internship experience.

"Stay positive and look for opportunities to both contribute and learn; it is possible to spin a positive story to tell in future networking conversations and interviews," Gustafson says. "Exercise tolerance and do not let your challenges affect your attitude and productivity."

Learning what you don't like to do is also a great takeaway from a negative internship experience. Use that newfound knowledge to avoid similar work situations in the future and narrow down your list of potential careers.

"Inside, you may be thinking, ‘I never want to do this again’; use that as motivation," Amanda says. "If you’re stuck at a boring summer internship, recognize and reflect on your own interests and use that to figure out some things you might want to do next summer."

Hang in there! The beauty of summer internships is that they only last a couple of months, so you're already in the final stretch. "No matter what, there are always more opportunities for you to have in summers and years to come, and there is something you can take away from any experience," Leonie says. Stay positive and keep these tips in mind, and you'll be turning your drab internship into a fab internship in no time!

Homeless Man Detained in Rome For Murder of American Student

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Last week, Beau Solomon, a 19-year-old student at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, went missing while studying abroad in Rome. His body was found in the Tiber river with a head wound and bloodied shirt, according to Reuters.

Solomon had been out with friends, who didn't realize he was missing until they got home. They really started to worry when he failed to show up for class registration the next morning. After he went missing, his parents called his credit card company only to find that someone had charged thousands of dollars on his credit card. The kicker is that the charges occurred in Milan—far from the Trastevere district where Solomon was living.

The police already have a suspect in custody. Massimo Gallioto, a 40-year-old homeless man, was detained overnight because the Italian police think he could be implicated in the murder.

Solomon's parents told the Guardian that their son was a hard worker who planned to finish college in three years. "He's loved by everyone, and he's the glue that keeps our family together," his brother Jake told WISC-TV.

"All of us at UW-Madison are greatly saddened by this loss," UW-Madison Chancellor Rebecca Blank said, according to the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel. "Beau was a bright and caring young man who lived the Wisconsin Idea through his work at Badger Boys State and his desire to travel and experience other cultures. Our hearts go out to Beau's family and friends at this difficult time."

17 Signs Your Obsession With 'The Bachelorette' Is Out of Control

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Summer is in full swing, which means The Bachelorette season is upon us. Although we're only a few weeks in, we already cannot wait to see what's in store for Jojo--and CANNOT stop talking about it. Think you've caught The Bachelorette fever? Check out these symptoms!

1. You had a countdown to Monday, May 23rd programmed on your phone before the show started.

2. Monday nights are blocked off from any other activity.

"No, I can't just DVR it!!"

3. Unless, of course, you or one of your friends is hosting a Bachelorette-themed party.

4. You spend hours on the phone after each episode analyzing Jojo's choices.

5. Everyone in your office knows you won't talk about anything else Tuesday morning.

6. You're in a bracket.

...or maybe multiple.

7. You've asked your SO to take you in private jet to a romantic picnic next to the Golden Gate Bridge.

8. If they said no (shocker), you insisted on wearing this for a full day.

9. You bought a dozen red roses and practiced giving them out to fictional bachelors.

10. You've gotten into several heated arguments about Chad.

Why is he always eating?!

11. You read every pre-show and post-show article you can get your hands on.

12. ...except for the spolier alerts.

13. You've filled out an application to be on the show.

...and you may have also sent it in.

14. You own at least one of these shirts, and wear it every Monday night.

 

15. When you found out the show wasn't on week four, you felt completely hopeless...

16. ...and may have even cried a little.

Okay, a lot.

17. But you've already made sure your roommates are going to be gone next Monday, so they don't get mad at you for yelling at the TV. Again.

We're counting down the days until Monday...and we know you are too!

27 Things You Wish You Could Ask Bae

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Everyone knows communication is key in any relationship. But we also know some things are better left unsaid – especially when those things might make you look like a slightly obsessive psycho. So even though you’re dying to know, here are 27 things you only wish you could ask bae.

1.  Am I your bae?

'Cause you're mine.

2. How much do you like me?

Like a lot or just a little?

3. Do your friends know about me?

I want them to like me!

4. Does your family know about me?

I swear I'm the girl to take home to mom.

5. Do other girls know about me?

Are they jealous of me?

6. Do you think I’m pretty?

Like cute, innocent pretty or hot, sexy pretty?

7. What did you first notice about me?

Cute smile? Pretty eyes? Give me something.

8. How many other girls do you text?

Just curious.

9. Who’s that girl that always comments on your Instagram?

Asking for a friend.

10. Why aren’t I on your Instagram?

Don't you want to show us off?

11. How many past relationships have you had?

Are we talking two or 12?

12. Did you ever cheat?

Please say no, please say no, please say no.

13. Are you friends with your exes?

Interesting.

14. Who broke up with who?

She dumped you? Why? What's wrong with you?

15. How many times have you been in love?

Aw... so who said it first?

16. What’s your number?

On a scale of virgin to I need to go get tested immediately, where are we at?

17. Have you been with anyone since you met me?

Watch yourself, boy.

18. What’s your biggest turn off?

I hope it's not people who ask too many questions.

19. What’s your biggest turn on?

Taking notes for later.

20. What're your feelings on high-waisted shorts?

I need to know the real male opinion on this.

21. Do you like my hair curly or straight?

What do you mean you don't care?

22. Do you think I look weird without makeup?

There's only one correct answer to this.

23. Do you miss me when we don't talk for awhile?

Miss me, miss me, now you gotta kiss me.

24. Are you the jealous type?

Like cute jealous or crazy jealous?

25. Do I bug you over text?

Again, only one right answer.

26. Do you like me as much as I like you?

Fingers crossed.

27. Are you ever going to date me?

Seriously, I'm not getting any younger.

'Pretty Little Liars' Recap: Over His Dead Body

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We begin this week’s episode of Pretty Little Liars with Hanna staring at the $39.99 engagement ring she bought to replace the flawless (and did I mention massive?) rock Jordan proposed with. Believe it or not, this isn’t the most far-fetched moment of the hour.

The OG girl squad convenes on how sneaky Rollins is and decides he should probably be their number one suspect for whatever it is they’re investigating this week.

Ali attempts to escape Welby as she and Elliott wrestle. He wins and straps an awful mask on her face to quiet her. If you’re wondering where all the hospital staff have disappeared to, well me too.

Aria tries to get Hanna to talk about what happened to her while she was held captive. It becomes increasingly obvious that Aria can’t take a hint when Hanna keeps denying her the deets and Aria just keeps asking.

Spencer jets off to Toby’s trailer to ask him a favor, but she bumps into Yvonne, Toby’s FIANCÉE! Yes, he PROPOSED to that non-Spencer. And I thought pretending to be A was the worst thing Toby could ever do.

Emily, Hanna and Aria go to Welby to drop some legal jargon on Elliott’s extremely dim supervisor. But it turns out if you are just shady enough you can figure out how to hide the meds you’re giving a patient—by not writing them down in her chart. GENIUS.

Spencer corners Caleb about his cabin liaison with Hanna, and he admits everything. This is the slowest crumbling of a relationship I have ever witnessed, and at this point, I am dying for one of them to dump the other.

The evidence continues to mount against Elliott as the gals sleuth around his house. Surprise: His locked trunk is filled with all kinds of things he can hurt Alison with—plus allergy medicine. He is SUCH a complex villain.

After discovering a pair of stunning blue contacts in the trunk, Spencer figures out that Rollins must have made a mask of Wilden’s face to convince Ali she’s crazy. I know Spence is smart, but not sure how she got from A to B on that one.

Aria and Hanna travel to a mysterious location to find Elliott’s family. Instead, they encounter a creepy little blonde girl with a collection of dolls that look just like the Liars. As if that wasn’t disturbing enough, the dolls were gifts from Charlotte.

Because little girls are total snitches, she then spills the beans that Charlotte and Elliott were a couple. And Aria and Hanna believe her without questioning her story at all.

While all this madness is going on, Emily is bartending and landing a date with that girl from The Brew. Way to go, Em, but your timing sucks.

Hanna sees the cattle prod her captor tortured her with and has instant Dollhouse-worthy flashbacks.

After lots of back and forth, I ~*think*~ Caleb and Spencer call it quits. But since there was no official goodbye hug or exchanging of belongings they left at each other’s houses, I can’t be sure.

Emily crashes Toby and Yvonne’s engagement party to deliver the file she stole from Spencer. So she really was doing something productive at least once during this episode.

Rollins returns home to find his creep stash messed with—but why didn’t he realize this earlier?—and decides to move Alison asap.

Ali steals Elliott’s phone so the girls can track her. They follow, and I just know this is going to end well for them.

With the file Emily gave him, Toby discovers that Elliott Rollins is actually a really old or really dead man whose last scrape with the law was in 1958. So using the detective skills I’ve picked up from this show, I’m going to say Elliott Rollins isn’t even this guy’s real name.

Alison finally makes her escape. “Elliott” pursues. But it’s not long before Hanna runs over him and his entire head ends up inside the car with them.

Mr. Alison DiLaurentis is dead. Ali can forget the pesky divorce. And we’ve finally got a body to bury!  

7 Things to Expect From Your Freshman Orientation

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Graduation day has passed and you’re probably anxiously awaiting college. However, before you take on your first day of college, there’s one thing you first must conquer – orientation. You’ve probably been lost in daydreams about college for the past couple of months, yet orientation is about to make the entire transition more real. It's a day or weekend packed with new information that’ll help you understand more about your new home. Instead of going into the process unsure of what to expect, be aware of these seven things below that will happen during your summer orientation.

1. You will be nervous

How could you not be nervous? This will be your first real taste of life on campus, and you’re probably taking it on all by yourself. Chances are, you won’t be surrounded by familiar faces, and your parents won’t be there to guide you along the way.

Shelly Adams, a junior and orientation leader at Shenandoah University, is accustomed to seeing timid and anxious faces at orientation. “If you’re nervous, just remember that everyone is in the same boat you are,” she says. “So, just come ready to learn and have fun, and it’ll be okay.” Understand that your butterflies are normal, but it’s time to challenge yourself to enter this new chapter of your life with your head held high.

To make the transition easier, you can join social media pages, such as a Facebook group for your class and reach out to people who have the same orientation date as you. It’s also helpful to look up a hashtag for your class, for example #MSU20, and follow your new classmates. This way, you don’t go into orientation and the school year overall not knowing a single person on campus.

2. Be ready to take your ID picture

Let's be honest, since high school let out you've obviously been sleeping in. Your orientation will start earlier than you’re used to waking up lately. Even if you want to just throw on pajamas and call it a day, be prepared to take an ID picture during some point of orientation. This ID will follow you for however long you’re in college, so wear something that will make you feel good, flash a genuine smile and don’t blink.

Christina Ulrich, a college counselor at Montgomery College, considers the ID to be one of the most important things a student can take away from orientation.“Generally speaking, IDs provide students access to resources on campus such as the library, recreation center, dining halls and computer labs,” she says. “Several campuses are now even offering bus transportation to their students with a valid ID.”

Your ID may even be good to use off campus. Local business often give discounts to college students with a valid ID. Therefore, keep your ID in a safe place –– it’s just as important as your driver’s license!

3. You will sit through several presentations

You will be bombarded with tons of information presented by some of your school's most respected faculty and staff through a series of slideshows. You might be accustomed to letting your parents know and handle all of the lengthy information, but remember that you are the primary party responsible for your college experience now. Bring a notepad to jot down notes or take pictures of the slides.

One of the biggest topics covered will be financial aid. You should go over a break down of charges and ways to pay for school such as loans, grants, and scholarships. If the floor opens up for questions, be sure to ask if you don't understand. 

"Students should prepare a list of questions that they can ask at orientation," Christina says. "Students are normally very somber when the floor opens up for questions, which is quite ironic seeing as the students are going to school and not the parents. Orientation is the one time you can ask 100 questions and have an abundance of resources available to answer them. Even if it's a piece of information not brought up in the presentation, students should ask as many questions as needed to ease any concerns about life in college." Life in college is so different from life in high school, therefore everyone will be understanding that you don't have all the answers yet. 

Other topics range from Greek life to housing.  Be sure to do some research on your school before orientation so this information isn’t brand new.

4. You’ll make friends in your orientation group or at socials

Even if you’re still groggy after sitting through all those slideshows, be prepared to get your adrenaline pumping of even burn some calories in your small group session. To be safe, wear your most comfortable pair of shoes because you are guaranteed to be on your feet. Some campuses offer a walking tour during orientation, while others may only break you up into groups for team building activities

The good thing is that you don’t have to go through it alone. You will be broken up into a small group with other incoming freshman and participate in ice breakers, led by an orientation leader. Be prepared to answer what your major is, where you’re coming from, and even what excites or scares you about college. As awkward as ice breakers may seem, you’ll be thankful that it forces you to connect.

Sydnee Lyons, a second year grad student at Florida Atlanta University works in a department that is heavily involved in orientation, and knows all the work that orientation leader put into the day. “Orientation leaders are usually trained to be really high-energy, really fun-loving, so if you have a bad time, it’s because you went in with a negative mindset,” she says.

You may even have the opportunity to meet even more people at socials. This is especially common at overnight orientations. In a group of a hundred or more people, you're bound to meet someone you click with, so don't be afraid to speak to someone first. 

5. Clubs will ask for your contact information

You most likely will be overwhelmed with all the organization options you can choose from, but don’t let that scare you off. You’ll have the option to join club sports, cultural and political based organizations, campus publications, event committees, religious and spiritual groups, and more.

You’re better off signing up for several organizations that catch your interest than signing up for none. You will regret not getting involved when your routine only includes going to class, then going back to your dorm.

Don’t think of the act of signing up as a commitment either. Erin Ryan, a senior at Kennesaw State University, has worked at a booth during orientation for the past three years promoting her on campus organization. “The most we’ll ask you for is your name and email or phone number,” she says. “That way, [the club] can send out more information, such as a first meeting date. Then you can decide if you want to make the commitment!” So go ahead and go booth to booth, you will meet new people along the way, even if you don’t end up committing to a club.

Related: 7 People You'll Meet at Freshman Orientation

6. Free food and apparel are awesome

If you haven’t particularly gotten pumped up about any other aspect of the day, know that there will be free food waiting for you, whether that be breakfast or lunch (preferably both).

Teresa Amos, a sophomore at the University of West Georgia, was pleasantly surprised with the food at orientation. “Because of the parents and even the alumni who attend orientation, [the cafeteria staff] made some of the best food that I ate during my first year there,” she says. In other words, cherish the meal because it’ll probably be one of the most diverse and plentiful buffets of the school year.

If more free stuff interests you, you will find that free stuff is plentiful at orientation. At some point during the day, you’ll also collect some free items, such as pens, cups, and lanyards. Keep your eyes peeled for the bigger prize, free t-shirts.

7. You’ll create your class schedule

Now is the  time where it will pay off if you have done your research on different majors and the general education classes you’ll probably be taking. You may be asked to create your schedule for fall semester during orientation. Even if you haven't done the slightest bit of research on classes prior to orientation, you won't be alone. Plenty of faculty and orientation staff will be a few feet away, ready to assist you in shaping the next few months of your life.

Due to your classification as a freshman, you will have last choice of classes, so try to get your schedule as concrete as possible. Take into account if you want to have classes every weekday, if a Saturday class if the right fit for you, if you need to coordinate with your work schedule, and how early and late you want to take classes.

Aliyah Gabriel, a junior at Kent State University, advises freshmen to spend as much time at orientation crafting their schedule. “My first tip to freshmen would be to pay attention to if the classes they are choosing are listed as an a.m. or p.m. classes,” she says. “I also would recommend staying far away from 8 a.m. classes unless know in your heart that you are an early bird!”

At the time you’re creating your schedule, you’ll probably meet your advisor. Get used to seeing their face because you’ll meet with them throughout your years in school. They’ll help you navigate through each year or college and advise you on the best classes to take to get your degree. Your advisor will be a great resource for you if have college credit from dual-enrollment courses, or AP/IB classes. They will instruct you on what will be the best classes to suit your schedule, especially if you’ve knocked out a majority of your general education classes.

Overall, your day will be filled with a flurry of new information. At the beginning of the day, you might be filled with nerves, but at the end of the day, that nervousness should transform into excitement. This is the first step to the next stage of your life, so face it with confidence!

 

 

 

 

Collegiettes Weigh In: To Rush or Not To Rush?

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Depending on where you go to school, joining a sorority may or may not be an all-access pass to a huge group of friends, awesome parties, and an active social life. If you’re on the fence about rushing a sorority (or even just a little curious), get some insight into going Greek with these stories from collegiettes who have been through it all.

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Whether they grew up knowing they’d go Greek or rushed with a friend just for fun, these girls have fallen in love with sorority life.

“I joined Kappa Kappa Gamma my freshman year and I've never been happier. Going into college, though, I was completely against Greek life. I didn’t want to deal with the competition of rush. And growing up with two older brothers, I prefer to hang with guys much more. But my experience with my sorority at Emory has been more than amazing.” - Erica Petri, Emory University  

“I'm going into my 4th year in a sorority, and I think it is a very positive experience for girls to be involved with. Not only do you meet friends with similar interests to you (most girls in sororities tend to be social, academic, and very well-rounded overall), but you realize that you meet friends who are all so different and special. Every girl in my sorority (Kappa Kappa Gamma) is so different and unique—I have friends who play lacrosse, who sing, who work for the school council program board, who are studying for the LSAT, etc.” - Elizabeth Wagmeister, UCSB 

“It might sound trite or even dramatic, but joining a sorority has been the single best decision I have ever made. I'm...the [former] Vice President of Programming for Delta Zeta, an executive board member of All Greek Council and have been active in Panhellenic [the organization that represents all Greek organizations on campus] in the past. These organizations have allowed me to acquire and hone skills essential to my chosen career in PR, like leadership, time management, teamwork, conflict management, event planning and organization skills. Above all the skills I've obtained, being in Greek life has really boosted my confidence and given me the drive to go after what I want in life.” - Amber Strazzo, Millersville University of Pennsylvania 

“I wasn't totally sure about being a ‘sorority girl’, but it totally changed my college experience in an awesome way. I was contemplating transferring, but being in Delta Gamma finally gave me a group of girls who understood me and accepted me. I really believe that there is a place for everyone in the Greek system, and I love love LOVE my sisters... Bucknell without DG would be much less fulfilling and enjoyable.” - Jenni Whalen, Bucknell University 

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“I'm in a sorority, Alpha Gamma Delta, and I was totally unsure what to think of it at first. I went through recruitment last year, and I ended up receiving a bid. Since then, it's been a lot of fun, and I've met some of my closest friends. There's rarely a time when I feel completely alone and don't know anyone around me, and it's all because of Greek life. All in all, I would definitely recommend it to girls who are looking for a solid network of friends, especially transfer students who are having a hard time connecting and finding a niche at school."- Bianca E. Ortega, Belmont University

“I've only been an initiated member for a couple of months, and already I've made a ton of friends, become way more involved on campus, and gained experiences that I wouldn't have otherwise. In fact, I only learned that Her Campus was joining Virginia Tech because one of my sisters brought it here. I even became her co-Campus Correspondent!” - Caitlin Fernandez, Virginia Tech 

Anti-Greek

Some collegiettes have never felt the urge to become part of the Greek system, and they swear they’re having just as much fun (if not more) as the girls in sororities.

“I never wanted to join a sorority and never did. I picked a college that was only about 30 minutes away from my high school, so I already knew a ton of people when I started college. I feel that I have a more diverse selection of friends than I may have had if I had gone Greek. I have male and female friends of all different ages, and I think that maybe I would not have some of the friends I do today had I been in a sorority.” - Lauren Conrad, University of Kentucky

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“I rushed freshman and sophomore year and didn't end up joining a sorority. I got asked back to all of the houses I ranked the lowest on my list. I think the rush system is flawed because I didn't get asked back to a single one of my top 5 houses, not even for the second round out of four. I've still gone to date parties and done other fun ‘sorority’ stuff without being in a house. I don't have to dress the same as 40 other girls or go to a particular frat each weekend. I can do as I please without having to fit the stereotype of a few Greek letters.” - Erica, University of Michigan 

Mixed Feelings

Not everyone’s feelings about sororities are so black and white, and many girls are left with mixed emotions after going through the Greek process.

“I think sororities make sense at large institutions because they are a wonderful way to make friends and network. They provide a great foundation for getting to know your school, and Greek parties do have a reputation for being the best. However, one of my friends who went to a small school that had sororities was in one, and now that she has graduated she confided in me that she feels like all the friends she made were fake. They don't keep in contact, even though some of them live just a few towns over. My impression is that at smaller schools their main function is as a party house, where as at larger schools they become networking tools.” - Allison Lantero, Boston College 

“I always knew I wanted to rush! I thought the girls in sororities were so pretty and happy all the time and just lived the life of the party. I love my sisters to death, but sometimes I feel like I could have gone through college without joining. Greek people can be so stereotypical sometimes. During rush they tell you to narrow down your favorites, but I didn't get into my first OR second choice, so really it's just about them picking you. I am happy I have a group of friends who are not Greek to keep me balanced or else I feel like I would be stuck in high school forever.” - Anonymous

“I know this is so clichéd, but I really think it depends on the school. I have friends who go to school in the South (e.g., Tulane and Vanderbilt) and are in sororities, not so much because they wanted to but because it's a major aspect of their school's social scene. At my school (Boston University), however, it's not a necessity to go Greek: there are so many other clubs and ways to meet people and get involved on campus.” - Kelsey Mulvey, Boston University

“[At] Emory Greek life is pretty big here, but I knew early on that sorority life wasn't for me, so I didn't even rush. In retrospect, I wish I had gone through the experience of rush because it's only something you experience in college and I would urge everyone to do it! I don't regret not being in a sorority, though — it hasn't hindered my social life in any way.” - Alice Chen, Emory University 

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“I've always thought that I would never join a sorority, but working at Her Campus...has made me consider at least rushing to see what it's like (I'm going to be a freshman at Northwestern). I still don't think it's very likely I would actually join one, but it's interesting that the people in my life are automatically against it even if I'm not.” - Katherine Mirani, Northwestern University  

Whatever your decision…

Don’t feel pressure to rush or not rush once you’re at school. If you’re curious and want to see what it’s like, go for it! If anything it will be a new experience, which is what college is all about. And if you’ve never felt the need to go Greek then there are a ton of other ways to meet people, like clubs, sporting events, class, your dorm, and more. 

Did you rush a sorority, or are you planning to? Why or why not?  Sound off in the comments below!


Mindy & Danny Need to Get Back Together, Even Though Nothing Has Changed

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For a season of The Mindy Project that started with a happily engaged Mindy and Danny, we sure have been on an emotional romantic rollercoaster, haven’t we? At one point in season four, Danny’s anti-feminist ways became so intolerable that I was begging the pair to break up. My wish came true, and we were thrust back into the world of Mindy’s pre-Empire State Building dating life.

Don’t get me wrong—I really enjoyed watching Mindy date again. I love that she allowed herself to become the strong, independent, career-oriented mother that Danny was trying so desperately to keep her from being. What I didn’t bank on was Danny kind of disappearing from the picture entirely and a coworker that seemed all too familiar falling for Mindy.

I must admit: When Jody’s womanizing Southern doctor arrived at Schulman and Associates, I loathed him. In a world that makes an at times totally out of touch Dr. Lahiri consistently endearing, I thought Dr. Kimball-Kinney missed the mark completely. This is a guy who not only slept with his brother’s wife but also very recently lied to Mindy about the fact that he had chlamydia—not your standard “good guy,” to say the least.

As Danny’s time on screen dwindled and sparks flew between Jody and Mindy, I couldn’t help but feel little butterflies during Mindy’s interactions with the new doc. But just as I was beginning to accept this duo, Danny reappeared and reminded me of what had been missing.

Now I certainly don’t believe that this show cannot survive without Danny Castellano. Mindy—both Lahiri and Kaling—has proved throughout this season that she can anchor this show all by herself and it continues to be the exact same show viewers fell in love with four seasons ago. But the energy that Danny brought to the season’s penultimate episode was evident. Even when the former fiancés weren’t sharing screen time (a treat that was obviously being saved up for the downright electric season finale), it was abundantly clear just how much we should miss having Danny around.

Leading into the finale, at most I was hoping to see Danny and Mindy interact a bit while she explored her romantic interest in Jody. Dr. K. seemed like the safe option in comparison to Danny, who was not only still railing Mindy for her commitment to work but also engaged to another woman. All it took to change my mind was Mindy and Danny, stranded in an elevator—which of course prompted a romp that proved the chemistry between them is not going anywhere.

I had all the same feels I’m guessing you did: But Danny is engaged. Making this quite possibly the worst thing he has ever done to Mindy, since she is clueless about the fact that he is even in a relationship much less that an invitation to his wedding is waiting for her at home.

Also awaiting Mindy’s return to her apartment? Jody—the guy who, despite his few positive attributes, now appears to be nothing more than a knockoff of the one-and-only Dr. Castellano. Mindy even points out the similarities between Jody and Danny throughout the finale episode.

Let’s be clear: I do not want to dismiss the way that Danny continues to treat Mindy. She deserves a lot better. It is more than apparent that Danny has some major changes to make. But if Mindy is going to enter into a relationship with a flawed, older man, shouldn’t it be Danny?

That look of pure love in her eyes as she told Danny she still loves him and he returned the sentiment says everything. Although Jody might be more supportive of Mindy’s career or falling for her in a way that he has never experienced before, what Danny and Mindy have is undeniable. He is her lobster, and I don’t think any new love interest or bout of anti-feminism is going to change that.

Should Mindy put up with Danny constantly throwing shade at her about her career? Absolutely not. Ideally, I would love for Danny’s character to grow to be unequivocally accepting of Mindy and her approach to motherhood.

Of course, with that gasp-worthy cliffhanger, we won’t know where Mindy stands with Danny or Jody until the show returns in October. We definitely need a few more pieces of the puzzle to fall into place before Mindy’s twisted web of relationships can be properly settled. But from where I stand right now, Mindy and Danny are endgame, and I am shipping them all over again. 

Two Baton Rouge Police Officers Fatally Shot a Black Man While He Was Pinned Down

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Early Tuesday morning, two police officers shot and killed a 37-year-old black man in Baton Rouge, La. Although the details are still developing, someone caught the fatal and graphic incident on video, which has circulated widely on social media and sparked outrage.

WARNING: The video below contains graphic violence.

The clip shows Alton Sterling being pinned down, CNN reports. A "pop" can be heard before someone yells, "Get on the ground." The two officers bring Sterling down and restrain him. A few seconds later, someone said, "He’s got a gun." Several bangs, presumably shots, can be heard in the video.

According to The Advocate, East Baton Rouge Coroner William "Beau" Clark said that Sterling suffered multiple gunshot wounds to both the chest and back.

The two officers had gone to the scene after an anonymous 911 call claimed that Sterling threatened another person with a gun. Both of them "have been placed on administrative leave per standard procedure. This is an ongoing investigation," Baton Rouge Police Chief Carl Dabadie said in a statement. The BRPD has not released the names of the officers yet. 

Riots have already sparked up in Baton Rouge. According to USA Today, protesters are calling for even more demonstrations for Wednesday night following the backlash from the graphic video. Crowds of more than 200 people protested at the scene just hours after the fatal shooting, the BBC reports. They chanted, "Black lives matter."

Sandra Sterling, the aunt of the victim, told CNN that he nephew was a "gentle giant." According to The Washington Post, she had raised Alton as her own son after his mother died.

"All I want is justice for my child," she told The Post. "I want the same treatment y'all are giving that person in Marksville that killed that little white baby. I want that same kind of justice," she said, referring to the police shooting of a white 6-year-old in Louisiana in November.

Apparently, Sterling, a father of five, was known as the "CD man." He would frequently sell CDs and DVDs outside the convenient store where he was eventually shot. Edmond Jordan, the attorney for the Sterling family, said, "Alton was out there selling CDs, trying to make a living. He was doing it with the permission of the store owner, so he wasn’t trespassing or anything like that."

Abdullah Muflahi, the owner of the Triple S Food Mart convenient store, also told CNN that Sterling never got into fights outside the store throughout the six years they’ve known each other. 

This is the latest in a string of what many see as racially charged killings by police officers. According to the Guardian, police killed five times as many young black men as they did young white men in 2015. The finding also indicated that one in every 65 deaths of a young African American man in the U.S. is due to the police.

Although the officers' body cameras fell off during the deadly altercation, the Baton Rouge police told CNN that detectives will review that video and interview the two men involved. In a statement, Representative Cedric Richmond called on the U.S. Department of Justice to join the investigation, as well.

"I ask the leaders and citizens of Baton Rouge to join me in demonstrating our anger with dignity and demanding proper focus on our cause with perseverance. His family and the citizens of Baton Rouge—especially the citizens of North Baton Rouge—deserve answers and that is what we will seek in a fair, thorough, and transparent way."

10 Easy No-Bake Snacks

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Basically, turning on your oven is the worst. But snacking is the best. So what do you do when you want a yummy snack, but you're too lazy to turn on the oven? You find some delicious no-bake snack recipes on Her Campus, and then all your wildest snacking dreams come true. Save your time and some money on your energy bill, and fill your belly with easy, no-bake goodness. 

1. Cinnamon Vanilla No-Bake Protein Bites

These no-bake bites of goodness are like a churro, except with less deep-frying and way more protein. You can't go wrong. 

2. Fruity Froyo Snacks

These froyo bites could not be easier to make or more delicious. All you have to do is freeze your favorite yogurt, and you're good to go. 

3. Birthday Cake Popcorn

Pretty in pink with this popcorn, amirite? If you're a true lazy queen, you'll know better than to actually make popcorn—you'll just open a bag of Skinny Pop and amp up the deliciousness. If birthday cake isn't your thing, use white chocolate chips and crushed Oreos. *That annoying girl from Awkward voice*: You're welcome. 

4. Sweet and Salty Trail Mix Granola Bars

Gluten free, vegan, and nut free (Somehow by magic? These bars look v. nutty.), these bars are basically the best of everything. Also, we all know that the only reason trail mix is good is because of the M&M's. These bars have some chocolate snuck into them, so don't fret. 

5. Chocolate Fruit Pizza

Chocolate, fruit and pizza are a few of our favorite words in the English language. So a wonderful chef/magician created this pizza to fill bellies and hearts with happiness and smiles. 

6. Chocolate Chip Energy Bites

If you're someone who enjoys eating raw cookie dough (it's okay, we've all had our raw cookie dough and Netflix nights), then this is the snack for you. Here's a nice thing about them—they're healthy. But feel free to "spill" the bag of chocolate chips into the bowl. 

7. Veggie Pizza Bites

Naan bread, cream cheese, your favorite veggies and cheese (obviously, we know what we're about) make this a delicious, no-bake snack. When you're too lazy to even order pizza, these veggie bites are your dream. 

8. Almond Butter and Jelly Cups

PB&J is a gift sent to us mere mortals from the heavens. Add chocolate to that delicious mix, and you have your perfect snack. These tasty niblets are Paleo, vegan and gluten free—so everyone can enjoy. 

9. Potato Chip and Pretzel Fudge

Can't decide which bag to snack from—pretzels or potato chips or chocolate? Good news: you truly can have it all. A little bit of all the best snacks will have you reaching for more. 

10. Peanut Butter Banana Bites

These bites are so easy that you could make them on your desk in your dorm room and freeze them in the mini-fridge. Basically, the simplest snack ever. 

What's your go-to snack, collegiettes? 

Your Guide to Planning the Perfect Summer Trip

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Whether you’re traveling to visit family, heading out for a weekend trip or going abroad, getting the best trip ever is all about spending money wisely. Traveling can be expensive when you factor in flying, accommodations and food, not to mention the other little expenses, like souvenirs and cab fare. The best way to spend your vacation is to not be worrying about every little dime. It’s time to start planning your trip now!

Transportation

Flights

When booking your flight, make sure you get the cheapest one possible! Websites such as Expedia compare flights across airlines to show you the different departure times and cheapest prices for tickets.

Irene Berman-Vaporis, a recent graduate of Boston University, recommends using Skyscanner and Adioso, which are other websites that compare airline prices. “I've recently started using Adioso to look for flight deals when I don't have firm plans,” she says. “The site is perfect for flexible travelers looking to snag the best prices possible. You can subscribe to get emailed when the price for a flight drops within your price range.”

Once you get your flights, download TripIt, which is a free app (available for iPhone, iPad, Android devices, Blackberry and Windows Phone) that lines up your flights in one neat place. This is great if you have several trips coming up, as this app will organize them easily.

Other transportation

If you are unsure of whether to fly or drive, do a comparison of the prices for your travel. Check airlines to see how much you would spend if you flew there, and compare that to a gas calculator, such as the one available on GasBuddy, to see how much it would cost to drive. If taking a bus is also an option, check Greyhound to compare prices. Amtrak is a good option for finding train transportation. When you have all of these prices in front of you, choose the one that works best with your budget.

Accommodations

Looking for a hotel can be a complete disaster if you go in unprepared. Hotels can be incredibly expensive, and the cheaper ones could be dangerous or unclean. But with some research, you can get a great hotel at an even greater price!

One thing to keep in mind while you’re looking for accommodations is that hotels can be tricky with their pricing. Try using Tingo to book your hotel. If the price of your room goes down after you book it, Tingo will refund your credit card the difference. Pretty sweet deal, right?

If you want to book a hostel instead of a hotel, try a website like Hostelworld to find accommodations. Hostels are typically much cheaper than hotels, but you may have to share a room with strangers and/or bring your own linens and towels. Be sure to check the ratings of any hostels you’re interested in (particularly cleanliness and security ratings) before booking!

When on the hunt for a hotel or hostel to stay at, keep in mind the extra perks that can lower your other travel expenses.  “Try to see if they offer continental breakfast,” says Alexandra Reyes, a sophomore at Blue Mountain Community College. “That way, you save money on a meal!” With amenities such as free Wi-Fi and continental breakfast, sometimes spending those few extra dollars can save you money in other places.

Making a price spreadsheet

Because budgeting is important, making a price spreadsheet in Excel or Google Drive that lists out all of your costs will help you not go over your budget.

Here are some expenses to include in your price spreadsheet:

  • Transportation
  • Hotel room (overall, not per night)
  • Food
  • Taxi money
  • Money for entertainment (museums, shows, etc.)
  • Miscellaneous expenses (any side trips or souvenirs you know you’ll pick up)

Traveling shouldn’t suck the money out of your bank account—and you shouldn’t need another vacation to recover from the difficult planning process! With these tips and tricks under your belt, planning your next trip will be easy. You deserve an awesome trip, and that includes being able to plan it with ease. Don’t forget to send us a postcard!

Orange Is the New Black's Season 4 Was Written for Privileged Viewers

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SPOILER WARNING: Don't read this article until you've finished Season 4 of OITNB!

I'm not sure who the Orange Is the New Black writers think is devouring their show binge-style every June when a new season releases, but I really hope it's not low-income, disabled, transgender, LGBTQ+ or people of color that they think are reaching. And based on the way season four was written, I highly doubt reaching those audiences was the intent.

When I started watching the show in college, Piper as an 'audience surrogate,' someone we were supposed to relate to, was almost laughable to me. Piper and I have in common the color of our skin and the fact that she's bisexual (as much as the show refuses to label her as such), and that's about it. I was raised by a disabled mother in a community where a majority of my neighbors were people of color, families of immigrants and those who were disabled or mentally ill. The possibility that someone in our community would go to jail or be given a prison sentence was very real—especially for a lot of the same low-level crimes shown in OITNB, such as posession of drugs or disorderly conduct by someone with a mental illness.

I went into the show looking to see myself, to my friends and family, to see my neighbors, to see my community, on television. I was tired of watching whitewashed shows with very little diversity. I was tired of the Bury Your Gays trope. I was tired of seeing disabled people and a fuller, more colorful range of LGBTQ+ experiences (OITNB has butch representation, a transgender woman of color, and plenty of queer girl-on-girl love) ignored in the media. 

And now I've come out of season four feeling a little betrayed.

I get it. I really do. If OITNB expects Piper to be the audience surrogate, then it's looking to reach a primarily white, affluent (or at least upper middle class), well-educated viewer. It's looking to reach a viewer who really does need to learn what the Black Lives Matter movement is. It's looking to reach a viewer who, when shown scenes of Lolly and Alex covering up a murder, will sympathize with Alex more than with Lolly. It's looking to reach a viewer who will see Suzanne physically tortured and Poussey killed and gasp in surprise and distress, but who won't feel personally persecuted because they're at risk of the very same violence every day.

But the thing is, we've got enough television shows (and books and magazines and websites) for upper middle class, abled, white, college educated viewers. That's already every other show. And in my opinion, OITNB can't sit around, accepting awards and praise for its diverse cast, while it tortures Sophia season after season, and pretty much lets Piper off the hook for starting a white supremacist prison gang.

Season four is by no means the first offense, but it was during this season that I reached my breaking point. When Piper started targeting the Latinx characters in an effort to save her precious "panty business," she not only organized white supermacists against them, she also turned the guards against them. Latinx women were both physically and mentally scarred as a result of Piper's selfishness. Who were these scenes meant for? My Latinx girlfriend, who I watched the season alongside, and who has been bullied and discriminated against because of her Mexican and Spanish background? Or for white viewers who, like Piper, run no risk of being targeted for abuse simply based on race?

The thing about season four is that it gives us clear villains. It tells us to hate the new guards, but it also tells us to remain sympathetic for Healy, Piper, Alex, Bayley and to some degree, right up until the ultimate episode, for Caputo. These people, the show tells us, made mistakes but didn't intend to cause harm. The show does a great job of exposing how systems of privilege and oppression can lead to different fates for characters--notably in how it shows us Poussey and Bayley crossing paths briefly on the same night that Poussey was arrested for posession with intent to sell, a crime that led to her prison sentence. Bayley, conversely, was let off the hook for a low-level crime of trespassing and now works as a correctional officer. It's clear that the show is intent on showing how Bayley's privilege as a white male, and Poussey's oppression as a queer woman of color, participated in what ultimately happened to both of them.

But how do we hold accountable the people who are complicit in the systematic oppression, if they "didn't mean" to do that? That's where season four left a bad taste in my mouth, along with the onslaught of trauma porn that seemed directed at privileged viewers. As much as I love Alex, it was difficult seeing her let Lolly take the blame for a murder they committed, and consequently covered up, together. Lolly's in prison because she's mentally ill, and to see her persecuted even more because of this fact was difficult to bear. After Alex shows her guilt, Piper jumps in to say she shouldn't feel guilty. Of course not, just as Piper's friend didn't want her to feel guilty for the repercussions of her racist actions, and made her feel better about having a swastika branded on her arm.

During scenes like the one where Suzanne and Maureen are forced to fight, it just didn't feel like the show was being written for viewers like me, a disabled, queer woman who has been the subject of physical violence and oppression. It felt like we were being shown this for shock value; that, although we were shown more of Suzanne's backstory, we were always supposed to feel pity and shock, not empathy and commiseration. I've always read Suzanne as being developmentally and cognitively disabled, potentially with mental illnesses as a result of the trauma she survived as a kid because of her disability. I don't always directly relate to her experiences, but I relate to that feeling of helplessness: that people can't see beyond the disability, and that it will always be a detriment, because even when Suzanne shines as she did writing the Time Hump Chronicles, it isn't long before she's forced to fight with one of her biggest fans. It was painful to watch her being physically tormented and then again to watch her get upset during the peaceful protest and see Poussey rush to help her.

And during Poussey's death scene, I didn't get the feeling I expected. To be quite honest, like many other viewers, Poussey Washington was my favorite OITNB character. I considered naming my cat after her when I adopted her last August. Although Poussey was a queer woman of color while I'm a queer disabled woman, I easily related to her intersectional experiences, and I was rooting for her to find love with Soso. Poussey, like me, lost her mother young, and was a dreamer and a reader. She deserved better.

Because it's OITNB, this was a rare death of a queer character that didn't scream of Bury Your Gays. Poussey was queer, but it's clear why they chose her as a symbol of the Black Lives Matter movement. It was because she was a beloved character, and because she was, in every way, the kind of POC character who "should've made it:" well-educated, compassionate, intelligent and capable (as she says, she knows multiple languages). The viewers, those already unfamiliar with Black Lives Matter and those who aren't personally afraid they'll be the victim of violence because of their identity, could see how unfair Poussey's death was and would empathize with the movement. 

But what about viewers who finally see someone like them in Poussey, in Lolly, in Suzanne, in Maria, in Sophia, in Blanca? What do these viewers stand to gain as they watch a character, maybe the only character, that represents them be tortured or even killed, and left on the floor for hours? 

I'm all for a 'realistic' show. I'm all for a character death that tears me to pieces, that makes me feel something, that stands for something important. But, as much as the writers wanted Poussey's death to be that, it wasn't. After she died, I felt empty and blank. And angry. I stood up from the couch and went directly to bed, unsure how to feel. I didn't feel the character was justly served. I didn't feel the so-called realistic, traumatic storyline was necessary or written for the people who are actually experiencing it—people of color who risk their lives just by existing every day. I didn't feel like any of the storylines, written to show how 'real' prison can be, really served those of us who experience them. Not disabled or mentally ill women, who are at risk of violence and prison sentences much like Lolly and Suzanne. Not women of color, who are subject to the same kind of racist remarks, physical and sexual violence and prison sentences like so many of the OITNB characters. Not transgender women, who already know what it's like to be denied healthcare and deal with transphobia, and who could really benefit from Sophia being used on-screen in any storyline that isn't traumatic

It's time we finally had a show for us. 

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