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37 Struggles Only Short Girls Will Understand

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I think we can all agree that being 5’3” or shorter is far from a blessing. Daily struggles go way beyond being made fun of. Just imagine what a whole day would be like if your height just got in the way of literally everything--getting dressed, cooking, shopping, driving, walking... the list goes on and on.

1. Always having to stand on the countertops to get what you can't reach

2. “You’re really short”

3. You always have to sit in the front row because sitting behind the 6'5" football player isn't going to work out

4. Having to cuff every single pair of pants

5. "Do you shop in the kids section?”

6. You can never keep up with anybody because of your short legs

7. Step stools are your BFF

8. You wanna buy that cute maxi skirt/dress? Forget about it

9. Never being able to tell whether a shirt is really a shirt or a dress

10. Having to adjust your car seat after someone else has driven it

11. Grocery shopping is the stuff from horror movies

12. "Are you tall enough to ride?"

13. Your feet never touch the ground when you're sitting down

14. Always having to stand on your tip-toes

15. Having to pay more money to get things hemmed than for the actual clothing item

16. You never have a problem with not having enough leg room when you sit in the back seat

17. You will forever get carded

18. Driving during sunset

19. Some doors are just too heavy to open on your own

20. You're always at someone's boob level

21. Group photos be like…

22. Swimming pools weren't designed for you

23. People are always patting you on the head or using your shoulder as a personal armrest

24. They also like to call you “cute”

25 ...and "shorty"

26. You have to look up to everyone

27. You always have to wear heels when you go out

28. “What are you, like 12?”

29. People think its funny when you’re mad

30. Gaining any weight is noticeable

31. It feels weird when you wear  pants are the proper length, because you’re used to them being too long

32. Middle schoolers are taller than you are

33. To hold hands with a tall guy, you have to bend your arm at the elbow and aim up

34. Everyone wants to “put you in their pockets”

35. If you wear really short bottoms, they're still longer than normal

36. People are still taller than you even when they’re sitting down

37. This…


10 Valentine’s Day Cookie Recipes

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Looking for a decadent dessert for your Valentine? Check out these 10 delicious Valentine’s Day-themed cookie recipes that are sure to be sinful, rich and mouthwatering! Read on for our top V-Day cookie picks—from gluten-free and vegan options to adorable heart-shaped cookies and cookie dough truffles, even the pickiest eater is sure to find a delicious option.

Chocolate hazelnut smooches


What you need

  • 1 3/4 cup all-purpose flour
  • 1 teaspoon baking soda
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 1/2 cup chocolate hazelnut spread like Nutella
  • 1/2 cup butter, softened (1 stick)
  • 1/2 cup sugar
  • 1/2 cup light brown sugar
  • 1 egg
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 1/2 cup orange sprinkles, or orange sugar
  • 1 (9-ounce) package of chocolate candy kisses, unwrapped
  • Medium bowls
  • Hand mixer
  • Heavy cookie sheet

Preheat the oven to 375 degrees F. In a medium bowl, combine flour, baking soda and salt and set aside. In another medium bowl, place the chocolate hazelnut spread, butter and both sugars. Using a hand mixer, cream the ingredients together for about three minutes. Add the egg and vanilla and blend together. Stir in the dry ingredients. Shape the cookie dough into walnut-sized balls. Roll the balls in the orange sprinkles or orange sugar, pressing so the sugar sticks. Place the cookies on a heavy cookie sheet about four inches apart. Bake for eight minutes, then take out of oven and put a chocolate kiss in the middle of each cookie. Then, put the cookies back in the oven for another three minutes. Take them out, and let cool.

Shortbread hearts


What you need

  • 3/4 pound unsalted butter at room temperature
  • 1 cup sugar, plus extra for sprinkling
  • 1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
  • 3 1/2 cups flour
  • 1/4 teaspoon kosher salt
  • Heart-shaped cookie cutter
  • Electric mixer
  • Medium bowl
  • Plastic wrap
  • Baking sheet

Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F. With an electric mixer, cream together the butter and one cup of sugar until they are just combined. Add the vanilla. In a medium bowl, sift together the flour and salt; then add them to the butter-and-sugar mixture. Mix on low speed until the dough starts to come together. Put the dough on surface with a little flour and roll the dough into a flat disk. Wrap in plastic and chill for 30 minutes. Roll the dough 1/2-inch thick and cut with heart-shaped cutter. Place the hearts on an un-greased sheet pan and sprinkle with sugar. Bake for 20 to 25 minutes, or until the edges begin to brown. Let them cool, then enjoy!

Red velvet whoopie pies


What you need

For the cookies:

  • 1 ounce semisweet chocolate, chopped
  • 1/2 ounce milk chocolate, chopped
  • 12 tablespoons unsalted butter, melted
  • 1/2 cup sour cream
  • 2 large eggs
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons apple cider vinegar
  • 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 1 tablespoon red food coloring
  • 2 1/4 cups all-purpose flour
  • 1 cup granulated sugar
  • 1/4 cup unsweetened cocoa powder
  • 2 teaspoons baking powder
  • 1/4 teaspoon baking soda
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • Baking sheets
  • Parchment paper
  • Microwave-safe bowl
  • Whisk

For the filling:

  • 8 ounces cream cheese, at room temperature
  • 3 tablespoons unsalted butter, at room temperature
  • 2 1/2 cups confectioners' sugar, sifted
  • 1 vanilla bean, halved lengthwise and seeds scraped
  • Electric mixer

Try a fun V-Day twist on the classic whoopie pie! First, make the cookies: Preheat the oven to 375 degrees F. Line two large baking sheets with parchment paper. Combine the semisweet and milk chocolate in a microwave-safe bowl and microwave at 50 percent power until melted, about two minutes. Whisk to get rid of clumps.

Whisk the melted butter, sour cream, eggs, vinegar, vanilla and food coloring in a bowl until combined. In another bowl, whisk the flour, sugar, cocoa powder, baking powder, baking soda and salt. Add the flour mixture to the butter mixture in four equal batches, whisking each batch completely before adding the next. Stir in the melted chocolate.

Scoop heaping tablespoonfuls of batter onto the prepared baking sheets and smooth the tops with a damp finger. Bake until the cookies spring back when lightly pressed, about eight to 10 minutes. Let cool 10 minutes on the baking sheets, then transfer to racks to cool completely.

While you’re waiting, make the filling: Beat the cream cheese and butter with a mixer until smooth. Beat in the confectioners' sugar and vanilla seeds. Sandwich a heaping tablespoonful of filling between two cookies; repeat with the remaining cookies and filling. Refrigerate 30 minutes before serving.

Hidden kisses


What you need

  • 1 cup (2 sticks) butter, at room temperature
  • 2/3 cup sugar
  • 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 1/2 teaspoon pure almond extract
  • 1 3/4 cups all-purpose flour
  • 3/4 cup finely chopped pecans
  • 1 (9-ounce) package chocolate candy kisses
  • 1 1/2 cups confectioners' sugar
  • Large bowl
  • Cookie sheets

First, preheat the oven to 375 degrees F. In a large bowl, cream the butter, sugar, and vanilla and almond extracts. Stir in the flour and blend well. Add the pecans and blend well. Cover the bowl and refrigerate the dough for one hour. After an hour, put about a tablespoon’s worth of the chilled dough around each candy kiss, covering it completely. Shape the cookies into balls. Place the cookies on ungreased cookie sheets and bake for 10 minutes. Let cool. Roll the cookies in confectioners' sugar.

Vegan chocolate-dipped whole wheat sugar cookies


What you need

  • 1/2 cup vegan margarine
  • 3/4 heaping cup sugar
  • 1 tsp vanilla
  • 1 tbsp cornstarch mixed with 3 tbsp water
  • 1/2 tsp salt
  • 1 3/4 cup whole wheat flour
  • 1/4 cup chocolate chips
  • 1 tsp vegan margarine for chocolate dip
  • 1 tbsp soy milk
  • Shredded unsweetened coconut to decorate
  • Large bowl
  • Small bowl
  • Plastic wrap
  • Sharp knife
  • Cookie sheet
  • Parchment paper

In the large bowl, cream together the margarine and sugar. Mix in the vanilla and cornstarch mixture and stir until smooth. Add the salt and flour and use your hands to combine. If the dough is too crumbly, add a tablespoon or two of water. Wrap the cookie dough in plastic wrap and place in the fridge to chill for at least 30 minutes. Preheat your oven to 350º and line the cookie sheet with parchment paper. Once your dough has chilled, take it out for a bit to soften slightly. Roll it out on a floured surface until it is about 1/4" thick. Using a sharp knife, cut out rectangles until all of the dough is used up. Place the cookies on your prepared sheet and bake for about 15-18 minutes or until the edges begin to brown.

While the cookies bake, combine the chocolate chips, margarine and soy milk in a small bowl and microwave for a minute, or until the chocolate melts. When the cookies are cooled, dip just the top half of each cookie into the chocolate. Sprinkle with coconut if desired, let the chocolate-dipped cookies harden a bit in the fridge and then enjoy!

Gluten-free flourless chocolate cookies


What you need

  • 1 tbsp ground flax seeds
  • 3 tbsp cold water
  • 1/2 cup dried shredded coconut
  • 1/2 cup brown sugar
  • 1/4 cup cocoa powder
  • 1/4 tsp baking powder
  • 1/8 tsp baking soda
  • 1/2 tsp kosher salt
  • 1/2 cup almond butter
  • 1/4 cup almond milk or coconut milk
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
  • 1/2 cup semi sweet chocolate chips
  • Baking sheet
  • Parchment paper
  • Whisk
  • Small bowl
  • Large bowl
  • Medium bowl

Preheat oven to 375 degrees F and line a baking sheet with parchment paper. In a small bowl, mix together the ground flax and water and set aside—this becomes the “flax egg.” In a large bowl, whisk together the dry ingredients (coconut, brown sugar, cocoa powder, baking powder, baking soda, salt). In a medium sized bowl, mix together the wet ingredients (flax egg, almond butter, almond milk, vanilla). Add wet to dry and mix well until combined. Fold in the chocolate chips. Spoon the dough onto the baking sheet, leaving about two inches apart as they spread out a lot. Bake for 13-15 minutes. Cool on baking sheet for about 10 minutes.

Rosemary walnut shortbread cookies


What you need

  • 1 1/4 cups all-purpose flour
  • 1/2 cup finely ground walnuts
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons finely chopped fresh rosemary
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 1/2 cup (1 stick) unsalted butter, softened
  • 1/4 cup packed dark-brown sugar
  • 1/4 cup granulated sugar
  • 1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
  • Raw sugar, for decorating
  • Whisk
  • Electric mixer
  • Parchment paper
  • Baking sheet
  • Heart-shaped cookie cutter

Preheat oven to 300 degrees F. Whisk flour, nuts, rosemary and salt in a large bowl. Put butter and sugars into the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with the paddle attachment. Mix on medium speed until lightened, about three minutes. Mix in vanilla, and then reduce the speed to low. Add flour mixture; mix until dough comes together and is smooth. Turn out dough onto parchment paper, and pat into a round. Place parchment paper on top; roll into a 12-inch round, 1/4" thick. Transfer to a baking sheet; refrigerate until firm, about 30 minutes.

Cut out cookies using various sizes of heart-shape cutters (1/2 inch to three inches); transfer to parchment-lined baking sheets (Keep same-size cookies on same sheet). Roll scraps; cut out. Gently press raw sugar onto edges of cookies. Bake until just golden, 15 to 18 minutes. Let cool.

Chocolate-dipped espresso meringues


What you need

  • 2 large egg whites, at room temperature
  • 1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
  • 1 teaspoon instant espresso powder
  • 1/4 teaspoon kosher salt
  • 1 pinch cream of tartar
  • 1/2 cup sugar
  • 4 ounces bittersweet chocolate, melted and cooled to room temperature
  • Electric mixer
  • Parchment paper
  • Baking sheets

Heat oven to 200 degrees F. Using the mixer, beat the egg whites with the vanilla, espresso powder, salt and cream of tartar on medium-high speed until peaks form. A little bit at a time, beat in the sugar; increase mixer speed to high and beat until the mixture holds glossy peaks. Drop heaping tablespoonfuls of the mixture onto parchment-lined baking sheets, spacing them one inch apart. Bake until dry, crisp and firm which will take about two hours. When the meringues come off the parchment paper easily, they’re done.

Turn off the oven, prop open the door about ½ inch (use the handle of a wooden spoon), and let the meringues sit inside for one hour. Slide the parchment (with the meringues on top) onto racks and let cool completely.

Peel the meringues off the parchment, and then dip the bottom of each into the chocolate. Place on baking sheets and refrigerate just until the chocolate is set, 25 to 30 minutes.

Cookie dough truffles


What you need

  • 1/2 cup butter, softened
  • 3/4 cup firmly packed brown sugar
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 2 cups all-purpose flour
  • 1 (14-ounce) can sweetened condensed milk
  • 1/2 cup semisweet mini chocolate morsels
  • 1 cup finely chopped pecans
  • 1 1/2 pounds chocolate bark candy coating, melted
  • Large bowl
  • Electric mixer
  • Waxed paper

In the large bowl, cream butter and brown sugar with an electric mixer at medium speed until creamy. Add vanilla. Gradually beat in flour and add milk. Add chocolate morsels and pecans, mixing well. Shape into one-inch balls. You can use a little flour to make the balls less sticky. Place on waxed paper and chill 2 hours. Melt chocolate bark candy coating in a microwave or stovetop. Using two forks, dip cookie balls into candy coating to cover. Place on waxed paper and chill to set. Store in the refrigerator for at least one hour.

Chocolate cookies


What you need

  • 3 cups sifted all-purpose flour, plus more for surface
  • 1 1/4 cups unsweetened cocoa powder
  • 1/4 teaspoon salt
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
  • 1 1/2 cups (3 sticks) unsalted butter
  • 2 1/2 cups sifted confectioners' sugar
  • 2 large eggs, lightly beaten
  • 1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
  • Large bowl
  • Electric mixer
  • Cookie cutters if desired
  • Plastic wrap
  • Baking sheets

In a large bowl, sift together flour, cocoa, salt and cinnamon and set aside. Next, use an electric mixer to cream butter and sugar until fluffy. Beat in eggs and vanilla. Add flour mixture and mix on low speed until thoroughly combined. Divide dough in half; wrap both in plastic. Chill for at least one hour. Heat oven to 350 degrees F. On a floured surface, roll dough to 1/8" thick. Cut into desired shapes or use cookie cutters. Transfer to ungreased baking sheets; refrigerate until firm, about 15 minutes. Bake for eight to 10 minutes, until crisp but not darkened. Cool and then decorate as desired.

Enjoy the recipes, collegiettes! Whether you and a friend want to bake delicious cookies or you’re making some for a crush or boyfriend, these recipes are sure to please!

How She Got There: Vanessa Hurst & Corinne Warnshuis, Co-Founder & Executive Director of Girl Develop It

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Name: Corinne Warnshuis
Job Title and Description: Executive Director, leading national strategy and growth at Girl Develop It, a nonprofit that offers affordable, judgment-free classes for adult women to learn web and software development.
College Name/Major: University of California, Santa Cruz/Sociology, with a minor in Film and Digital Media
Website: girldevelopit.com
Twitter Handle: @corinnepw

Name: Vanessa Hurst
Job Title and Description: Co-Founder & Advisor of Girl Develop It, Founder & CEO of CodeMontage
College Name/Major: University of Virginia/B.S. in Computer Science, minor Systems & Information Engineering
Website: vanessahurst.com
Twitter Handle: @DBNess

What does your current job entail? Is there such a thing as a typical day?

Corinne Warnshuis: As the Executive Director of Girl Develop It, I’m responsible for setting our national strategy and priorities, planning our growth, fundraising, leading operations of the organization, providing support to our 50+ chapters and their leaders and constantly ensuring we’re focused on fulfilling our mission.

There’s not really a typical day…and I love it! One day, I might be reviewing incoming requests to launch new chapters in cities across the country and the next day meeting with affinity groups who want to support our work through partnerships. Yet another day, I might be speaking at a national tech conference about Girl Develop It’s incredible impact across the country! I’m constantly learning new things and I really enjoy that aspect of the job.

Vanessa Hurst: My day starts with prioritization — in nonprofit work and in startup life, there are always more things you’d like to do than you have time to actually do. So, I start by deciding which three things must get done. I try to do the most important creative work, like coding or writing, early in the day. After that, I answer emails and meet with Girl Develop It leaders or the other companies I advise to help set strategy and make things happen.

What is the best part of your job?

CW: The best part of my job is knowing that the work we do collectively as an organization is really having an impact: we’re changing the lives of thousands of women and generally helping make the world a more awesome place. I try to occasionally step back from my daily tasks and remember that.

At the local level, in each of the 50+ communities we serve (from Albuquerque, New Mexico, to Providence, Rhode Island), we see and hear amazing stories of women unlocking their potential through our programs, and it is endlessly inspiring. Attending GDI classes or events where I have the opportunity to meet those members is really exciting and important to me — it feeds my passion!

VH: I’m a computer programmer working to solve social problems, so my favorite moments are when I can help people with technology. In Girl Develop It classes, we see women empowered to think differently about their own capabilities once they learn how to code. I love seeing that shift in confidence that comes from getting a program to work. I also get to see Girl Develop It chapter leaders make a difference in their communities and do great work in their technology jobs. It’s like unlocking superheroes who then go give other people superpowers!

What was your first entry-level job in your field and how did you get it?

CW: In the nonprofit world, my first job was in Community Relations at WHYY, Philadelphia’s NPR and PBS station. I got that job after two fulfilling internships there: one working for the station’s educational programs while I was still in school, and the other was assisting in the production of a live-broadcast radio show right after I graduated college. There I learned about engaging diverse communities through in-person events, how to fundraise for nonprofits and the value of forging alliances among mission-aligned groups.

My first tech industry-related job was at a technology news startup, Technical.ly. I was the company’s first non-editorial hire (and one of four total employees at that time). Because of how small our team was and the rapid growth of the company, I had the opportunity to learn a ton very quickly. In that role, I really got to know the tech ecosystem and became really involved in the tech communities we served.

VH: I worked as a database developer for a financial data company right after college. I’m really glad I focused on databases early, because building those skills in a specific area made a big difference later, and I really started to love programming then. Later, I joined a startup (Paperless Post) when there were only 15 employees, and my database skills made it possible for me to contribute to the technology team and help refine the business model.

What is one thing you wish you knew about the tech industry when you first started out that you know now?

CW: I feel like my engagement with the tech industry is a bit different than the experience of those who might be living in cities with a larger concentration of technology companies, cities like San Francisco, New York or Seattle. Living in Philadelphia, the tech industry to me has always been somewhat synonymous with the tech community, which in Philly is diverse and made up of many diverse groups and companies. But in Philly, as different as those businesses and organizations are in scope, size and focus, they have collectively always felt really cohesive, community-oriented and supportive to me.

When I travel to some of those tech hubs, I feel like I get a glimpse of some of the more oft-lamented facets of the tech industry: the homogeneity, the competition and the focus on the bottom line. I wish diversity and mutual support [were] more valued in the (capital T, capital I) Tech Industry.

VH: Feeling a little uncomfortable with your skills is a sign of learning, and continuous learning is what the tech industry thrives on! It’s important to seek out environments where you are supported, but where you have the chance to be uncomfortable and learn new things. I also wish I’d known that writing code is not as boring as it sounds — it can be really creative and exciting, a lot like solving puzzles.

What is one mistake you made along the way and what did you learn from it?

CW: I’ve passed up opportunities that I felt I wasn’t prepared or qualified for. I think in general, that is a mistake. If someone is putting faith in your ability, you should be able to take that as a sign that you are capable. My advice is to really consciously force yourself to not pass on any opportunity, big or small, because you’re uncomfortable or scared that you’re not ready.

VH: Trying to do too many things! I still make this mistake, but I’ve gotten better over time and hope to keep improving. I’ve learned that focus makes your skills stronger and your impact bigger. With Girl Develop It, we’ve found when we educate adult women, they go out into their communities and do great things. Women who’ve learned to code teach other women and act as role models for young girls and use their skills for good and so much more. By focusing on teaching women and doing that really well, we have an impact beyond what our small team can do directly. Sometimes the best thing you can do to change the world is to have the discipline to change one piece at a time.

What has been the most surreal moment of your career thus far?

CW: This year, I did something I never imagined I would have the opportunity to do: I spoke at the White House! It was as incredible and…terrifying as it sounds.

Standing on a stage in front of US CTO Megan Smith and 120 tech community leaders from across the country whom I respect and admire, adrenaline kicked in and I somehow didn’t choke! It was truly an honor to be invited to share about Girl Develop It’s impact over the past five years and some of the stories of our 60,000 member-strong community.

VH: I was on [an] operating table in surgery once and this highly trained, brilliant specialist of a doctor had heard about my work and told me how she thought coding was so powerful and she wished she could code, too! She was literally saving my life and she thinks what I do is cool. I couldn’t believe it.

What do you look for when considering hiring someone?

CW: At the top of every job description’s requirements section is “Passion for Girl Develop It’s mission and work.” I feel really strongly that those who are most passionate and committed are best-suited to help GDI fulfill on our mission the most effectively and help us become the best organization we can be. I also really value curiosity and a willingness to learn.

VH: I hire people based on their drive to make things happen and openness to continually learn new things. I look at what people have accomplished, like what projects they’ve built and what they’ve done on their own or outside of school, to get a sense of their drive. I also look for signs you can thrive even [if] a situation is kind of a mess. That’s basically what startups are like, and though you’ll never have a perfect setup, you can make the world better anyway if you’re willing to work hard.

What advice would you give to a 20-something with similar aspirations?

CW: My aspirations were always simply to try to use any abilities, talents or skills I possessed to help other people. And as I’ve grown older, I keep refining and learning how I am uniquely positioned to make the most impact in the world with those skills and the experience that I have.

My advice would be to try to identify your own passion and talents, and find out how you can use those to achieve your goals. If leadership is something that you’re interested in pursuing, take every chance you can to put yourself in the role of a leader: whether it’s on a group project in school or leading a volunteer group, or simply presenting in front of a class.

Never skip an opportunity to be uncomfortable, because discomfort can be a really good place to learn, and you’ll never know what you might miss if you don’t put yourself out there.

VH: Lose perfectionism, but keep idealism. I recommend reading Cal Newport’s So Good They Can’t Ignore You and Seth Godin’s Linchpin to get an idea of how to contribute to the world beyond what’s specifically asked of you. Don’t spend too long on things that are easy for you, but seek out opportunities to grow and you’ll surprise even yourself with what you can accomplish.

 
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The Academy Pledges to Double the Number of Women & Minorities Among its Membership

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Facing backlash over the Oscars' announcement of its all-white actor nominations, the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences released a statement on Friday committing to increase diversity among its board and general members. The goal is to double the number of women and minorities in the Academy by 2020. One of the major strategies the board will employ to diversify Academy membership is to review the voting status of members every 10 years. Those who have been inactive in the film industry over that period may see their voting rights revoked, leaving room for more diverse voters to take their place. Three board positions will also be added, supposedly to be filled by women and/or minority movie professionals.

Dissenters argue that true diversity within the Academy must follow diverse representation in the industry at large. "If the majority of roles are taken by white actors and directors, it's no wonder that most/all of the nominations go to them," one commenter writes on the New York Times website. Anticipating this point of view, Academy President Cheryl Boone Isaacs (who is black) said, “The Academy is going to lead and not wait for the industry to catch up." Others have noted that there were in fact plenty of minority actors for Academy voters to choose from in this year's best movies, including Idris Elba, Will Smith and transgender actresses Kitana Kiki Rodrigues and Maya Taylor.

In this classic "chicken or the egg" conundrum, the Academy hopes to set the standard for motion pictures to become far more inclusive than they are, rather than have the Award votes, nominees and winners simply reflect the current white male domination in film. This may only be one step in the right direction, but it is still a significant and highly symbolic one.

If you're wondering why it took so long for the Academy to pledge to increase diversity, it's because the past two #OscarsSoWhite years have been an anomaly. From 2004 to 2014, 24 of 200 acting nominees were black, a proportion that reflects national demographics pretty accurately, according to the New York Times. Read: 2015 and 2016 marked a surprising and unwelcome regression for diversity, which prompted the Academy's decision to recruit more diverse members from around the world. Here's to hoping these changes act as a wake-up call for Hollywood to start representing all communities.

19 Times Lauren Conrad Gave You Career Goals

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It takes a real girl boss to go from reality TV star to a mega-successful woman with her own clothing lines, several books to her name and a booming website. So it’s no wonder Lauren Conrad constantly inspires our work selves. Whenever we’re feeling like giving up or questioning our general awesomeness, we can always remember these 19 times LC gave us career goals.

1. All those times she paid her dues

Lauren didn’t become a success overnight. She spent the early years of her career assisting behind-the-scenes as an intern because she was willing to actually work to get ahead.

2. When she taught us how to manage our expectations

Every opportunity won’t turn out as wonderfully as you planned. Thanks to LC we know how to be prepared for a letdown or over the moon when dreams do come true.

3. That time she provided a perfect model for what a lady is supposed to look like in the workplace

Where would we be without Lauren’s style and beauty guidance? There’s really no excuse for showing up to your job looking like you just rolled out of bed with Lauren’s selfless enclave of advice—her website and two coffee table books worth—in your arsenal.

4. When she demonstrated how to learn from your mistakes

We all cringed when LC decided to pass on a summer-long trip to Paris in her Teen Vogue days. But given a second shot, she didn’t hesitate. Remember you may not get it right the first time around, but that’s okay.

5. When she got rid of the negative energy in her life

Do we need to remind you of Heidi and the terrible ways she tried to bring Lauren down? Sometimes it’s okay to cut off a toxic friendship. You can’t let it stand in your way when you’re destined to do something great. Plus, the fact that most of LC’s co-workers double as her besties speaks volumes of how far you can go with the right friends by your side.

6. That time she inspired you to up your social media game

Life’s not fair. We're of course speaking about the extreme jealousy we feel every time we scroll through LC’s Instagram feed, Pinterest boards and other social media. She obviously knows how vital your online presence can be to how you’re perceived professionally.

7. When she made shopping charitable

Lauren’s The Little Market, a collection of handmade items she and her BFF Hannah have curated while traveling around the world, is the excuse you need to shop ‘til you drop. You can only hope that one day your job allows you to reach such a caliber.

8. That time she built a brand all her own

We know without a doubt what LC’s brand is, whether she’s writing chick lit novels or unveiling the latest crop of dainty designs for her Kohl’s collection. She’s proof that defining your brand early on can make a huge difference in where you end up.

9. That time she emphasized you have to do something

You could stand still and let life pass you by, but that takes all the fun out of it.

10. When she shared the secret to excellent decision making

She’s got her life under control, so we think this may be the key.

11. That time she showed us nice girls don’t finish last

Lauren seems like pretty much the sweetest. And unlike other celebs who grow up in the spotlight, we’ve never seen her go through a questionable personality overhaul. See, you don’t have to be a b—tch to be the boss.

12. All those times she was the unapologetic queen of basics

While many think being basic is what makes you disappear in a crowd, it might be your biggest strength. Embrace the basicness and use it to your advantage. There’s, like, a whole troop of us after all.

13. When she killed it at her very first New York Fashion Week runway show

Beginner’s luck was pretty much a guarantee for the debut of her Kohl’s runway collection, but LC outdid herself. Thirty-seven breathtakingly feminine ensembles may have provoked us to spend our entire paycheck scooping up the majority of those can’t-live-without-them pieces.

14. When she silenced the haters who didn’t believe in her talent

Despite her accomplishments, there are people who still think Lauren is using her celebrity to phone it in. But as a beautifully relevant quote we found on her Pinterest page once said: “There is no elevator to success. You have to take the stairs.” 

15. That time she helped us realize it’s never too late to start over

Lauren’s had her fair share of failures, but that didn’t stop her from taking risks and putting herself out there.

16. When she reminded you to stop and smell the peonies

Take a break, slow down and enjoy yourself. Even a busy gal like Lauren finds the time, so you should too.

17. That time she spoke nothing but the truth

We’ve said it before, and we’ll say it again. Lauren didn’t get where she is by resting on her laurels. She worked for it, and you have to, too!

18. When she proved you can have it all

With all the work stuff on her plate, who has time for a personal life? Lauren does! And it’s thriving. She and husband, William Tell, just celebrated their first wedding anniversary, and their oh-so-cute coupledom shows no signs of slowing down.

19. When she flawlessly answered that inappropriate “What’s your favorite position?” question

SAME.

10 Things You Didn't Know You Could Do With Washi Tape

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It seems like we can never run out of uses for washi tape. From creating crafts to organizing office spaces, washi tape is the quintessential utensil in any artist or decorator’s tool belt. But it doesn’t stop there. Washi tape is also perfect for the collegiette on a budget, making it easy to embellish your living space or keep track of all of your school supplies.   

1. Cord Organizers

With all of our phone chargers, laptop/tablet chargers, desk lamp cords and who knows what else, our dorm outlets can get pretty congested. Thankfully, with just a few inches of your favorite-patterned washi tape, sifting through the cord jungle is no longer scary.

2. Jewelry Tree

With just washi tape and thumb tacks, this simple tree design creates a fun wall ornament while keeping all of your necklaces, bracelets and other trinkets from tangling together.

3. Picture Frames

Forget those $20 wood or metal picture frames! Celebrate your friends and family by creating a wall-space photo collage with these adorable washi tape picture frame designs.

4. Keyboard Flair

Who says you can only decorate the outside of your laptop or tablet? Admittedly, this is one of the more time-consuming projects, but the washi tape keyboard tiles will not only style your type space, but protect it from dust, dirt and food.

5. Window Blinds

When you first move into your dorm room, the blinding white walls and furnishings can give you a headache. Add a pop of color by incorporating stripes of washi tape to your window blinds. It's sure to be a pleasant view when waking up in the morning.

6. Notebook Covers

Not only will washi tape add some pizzazz to your cheap class notebooks, but you can personalize each notebook pattern to color-coordinate your supplies by class.

7. Lamp Shades

Give a yard sale lampshade a makeover by sprucing up the inside or outside with washi tape patterns and colors. You can even screw in a colored lightbulb to add a dramatic flair.  

8. Wall Designs

This is an ingenious decorating life hack great for any collegiette living space. The possibilities are endless when fashioning funky wall designs. Some of our favorites include fake windows, cityscapes and abstract door designs.  

9. Phone Cases

Who needs an expensive phone case that you could find in any department store? Show off your originality by creating your own washi tape phone pattern. Your phone will stand out from the rest and you’ll always be able to locate it at a party.  

10. Wall Calendar

Another fabulous way to save money and keep yourself organized is by constructing a washi tape wall calendar in your room. You can create rows and numbers for every month and place sticky note reminders on specific days. Genius!

Sriracha Just Got Even More Portable

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Sriracha, everyone's favorite and hardest-to-spell hot sauce, has made its debut in ketchup-packet form. That’s right—After announcing a collaboration with Chobani yogurt just a month ago, Sriracha is now available in portable small packets for you to use to your heart's desire, according to Refinery29.

Farbod Deylamian and Kyle Lewis created the packets with Huy Fong Foods for the duo's self-explanatory company, Sriracha2Go. You can buy the Sriracha packets on their website, with 50 packets going for $14.99 or 200 for $34.99.

What’s next? Maybe Sriracha ice cream? Oh wait—That already exists!

10 Things NOT To Do On A Valentine's Day Date

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Long before it was immortalized as a sub-par romantic comedy, Valentine’s Day has been infamous for anxiety. There’s nothing like an evening of high expectations and commercialized intimacy to make us wish February 14th was just the day in 1912 when Arizona was admitted as the 48th state (look it up). But there’s no escaping the rose petals, romantic greeting cards and spike in chocolate sales—so here’s how to make it through. For your own sake, please don’t…

1. Bring a Friend

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No matter how much you want your crush to meet Amanda or hit it off with Lauren, leave the crew at home. “But they’re so fun!” Nope. They’re probably not. Even a double date is two too many. Sorry, but regardless of whether the thought of spending an extended amount of time alone with your date is a huge relief or provokes a nervous rash, this one is all you.

2. Reference Next Year’s Valentine’s Day

Nothing says, “I just went from having a good time to having premature anticipatory anxiety about the longevity of our relationship” like referencing a date that’s a year away. If an event is too far in advance to ask a friend what you should wear to it, you shouldn’t bring it up on V-Day.

3. Buy Him a Car

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When a present escalates from a kind gesture to an uncomfortably outlandish statement of extravagance, everyone feels ill at ease.  Especially the salesperson he’s about to hunt down for convincing him that a teddy bear makes a perfectly fine gift.

4. Forget to Shave Your Legs

This is a common courtesy. I hope no explanation is necessary.

5. Make Elaborate, Inflexible Plans

Valentine’s Day is the New Year’s Eve of romance: it’s a night you wait all year for which, inevitably, leads to disappointment when things don’t go exactly as you dreamed (or scheduled meticulously in the shower). Don’t plan a night that will crash and burn if you’re fifteen minutes late to dinner or get a little bit lost on the way to the romantic view you’ve been scouting for sunset. Because if my own life is any indication, things will not go exactly as planned.

6. Pre-Game Dinner

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No matter how nervous you are, don’t take a shot to loosen up. No matter how convincingly a friend urges you to grab a cocktail before the date, just say no. No matter how exciting the party down the hall sounds, don’t indulge in a pre-dinner drink (or three). Oh, and don’t overdo it on the wine at the restaurant, either.  

7. Ask for Extra Garlic on Your Mashed Potatoes

Garlic is a flavor much better enjoyed the first time around. No need to order plain toast or pasta with olive oil, hold the Parmesan, but take it easy on the garlic butter prawns.

8. Cry

Of laughter, of sadness, of frustration, of anger, of happiness, of surprise or of joy.  Please… just don’t cry.

9. Suggest a Bad Movie

What’s that you say, you’re no longer attracted to me after seeing the 7:30 showing of Paddington or Jupiter Ascending? Don’t out yourself as a bad date by turning a romantic evening into an evening of The SpongeBob Movie: Sponge Out of Water.

10. Talk About The Past

You can reference the distant past (“Hey, speaking of Abraham Lincoln…” or “Remember when Pokemon cards were cool?”) but steer clear of all not-so-distant history, like exes and, specifically, last year’s Valentine’s Day. That is, unless you’re lucky enough to be sitting with the same guy.


Adele is the Reason Beyoncé Won't Release New Music Any Time Soon

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Queen B may be the most humble queen in history. Reports by The Sun lead us to believe that Beyoncé is holding off on releasing her new album—which she completed late last year—to allow Adele to reap the success of 25 just a little bit longer. Sources explain the move as a sort of “code of honor to Adele.” Apparently, B is waiting until the hype surrounding Adele wanes.

Although many Beyoncé fans are probably disappointed by this news, there may be a silver lining. In case you need any more reason to get pumped for Bey’s highly-anticipated Super Bowl 50 halftime show, there's speculation her album announcement could come that very evening. We can dream, right?

Tell Regions Bank about an African-American Who Inspires You & You Could Win a $3,500 or $5,000 Scholarship

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Regions Bank is committed to diversity, inclusion and financial education.   In honor of Black History Month, Regions will offer scholarships to high school and college students through the Regions Riding Forward® Scholarship Essay Contest. High school seniors can enter for an opportunity to win a $5,000 scholarship.

 

 

And Regions definitely didn’t forget about you, collegiettes! College students in their freshman, sophomore or junior year can enter for an opportunity to win a $3,500 scholarship.

 

 

In 2015, Regions surpassed more than $500,000 in total scholarships awarded since the program’s inception in 2012. Again this year, Regions is honored to celebrate African-American history and support education through its online resources and financial contributions.

 

High school seniors—living in states with Regions branches and who will attend college during the 2016-2017 academic school year—are eligible to enter. Additionally, college students in their freshman, sophomore or junior year—who currently attend college in or permanently reside in states with Regions branches—also have the opportunity to apply.

 

It’s as simple as entering and writing an essay—the length of which should be 500 words or less. Celebrate Black History Month by telling Regions about an African-American who has inspired and motivated you. Entries will be accepted Jan.18 through Feb. 25.

 

So, what are you waiting for? Let your voice be heard and you could win a scholarship in the process. Visit www.regions.com/ridingforward to enter and to obtain additional Contest information, including eligibility requirements and full Official Rules.

 
 

Kansas Senator Issues Sexist Code of Conduct for Witnesses

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Did you think the days of sexist dress codes ended in middle or high school? We wish.

Kansas state Sen. Mitch Holmes has issued a new code of conduct for women testifying in front of his committee. While the code of conduct applies to men and women, women are given many more limitations. Men are expected to wear "professional attire," while women can't wear low-cut necklines or mini-skirts.

There are no specific measurements for what low-cut and mini are, so Holmes will be deciding that himself.

"It's one of those things that's hard to define," Holmes said, according to the Topeka-Capital Journal. So...women are just going to be left up to the whims of what Sen. Holmes defines as too sexy or too distracting. Every day is a new adventure!

Other senators think Holmes's code is ridiculous—Well, because it is.

"Oh, for crying out loud. What century is this?" Democratic Sen. Laura Kelly said. Republican Sen. Carolyn McGinn chimed in from the other side of the party line, saying, "I am more interested in what they have to say about the direction our state should go than what they're wearing that day."

We couldn't agree more.

"Holmes said he considered stipulating men had to wear suit and tie when addressing his Senate committee, but decided males didn’t need supplemental instruction on how to look professional," the Journal reports.

Do we need supplemental instruction on how to look professional, or does Holmes need supplemental instruction on how to control himself around women's bodies?

Kourtney Kardashian Loses All Chill When Asked About Her Relationship With Justin Bieber

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As always, Ellen DeGeneres is not hesitating to ask her guests the tough questions, which only makes us love her more. Not even Kourtney Kardashian could avoid her persistent inquiries about her relationship with Justin Bieber during a recent visit to Ellen.

After discussing Kourtney's app and life as a newly single mother, Ellen not-so-subtly interjects with a very pointed question about the Biebs. "That's the rumor. Y'all are really just friends, or are you really dating?" To which Kourtney grins and shyly responds, "We're friends."

But we knew Ellen wasn't giving up that easily, prodding Kourtney for more info while remarking on her sudden loss of composure. "Why are you smiling like that?" Although Ellen may not have gotten the dirt she wanted, Kourtney's face truly did say it all. 

Watch the full video below to see for yourself.

Kansas Court Affirms Women's Right to Second-Trimester Abortions

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On Friday, the Kansas Court of Appeals upheld a lower court order that stopped a ban on the most common second-trimester abortion procedure, according to the New York Times

The Court's vote was split at 7-7; however, the lower court's ruling is always affirmed in a tie. If anything, the vote just shows how controversial of a subject abortion is throughout the state.

"The rights of Kansas women in 2016 are not limited to those specifically intended by the men who drafted our state's constitution in 1859," said Judge Steve Leben, who wrote on behalf of the seven judges that voted to block the law, according to the Associated Press. These judges decided that Kansas' state Constitution protects the right to an abortion through its language about personal liberties, though abortion is not mentioned specifically.

While Nancy Northup, president of the Center for Reproductive Rights, called the ruling "a landmark victory for Kansas women" in a statement, not everyone is happy with the decision.

One person in particular is Attorney General Derek Schmidt, who already said that the state will appeal to the Kansas Supreme Court.

The blocked law was originally signed by Kansas Gov. Sam Brownback, who is also trying to de-fund Planned Parenthood. Despite many politicians attempting to restrict abortion across the country, this law was the first to ban the specific procedure known as "dilation and evacuation."

According to the New York Times, doctors say that this method is usually the safest abortion technique for the second trimester, which starts after about 12 weeks.

Cop Convicted of Raping Women Sentenced to 263 Years in Prison

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On Thursday, Daniel Holtzclaw, the ex-Oklahoma City police officer convicted of raping multiple African-American women while on duty, was sentented to 263 consecutive years in a federal prison. 

This decision comes one month after Holtzclaw was charged and found guilty of 18 out of 36 counts, including several rape charges. The former officer was accused of targeting his victims, all of whom were black women with criminal histories, including one who was 17 years old at the time of the assault. Holtzclaw chose poor, vulnerable women whom he thought would be too afraid to report him.

"I didn't think nobody was going to believe me anyway," one woman said. "And I'm a drug addict, so the only way I knew to handle it was to go and get high and try to block it out, to make it seem like it didn't happen."

The first woman to come forward was Jannie Ligons, a 57-year-old grandmother. According to the Associated Press, Ligons said that she was driving home after 2 a.m. when Holtzclaw pulled her over on suspicion of drunk driving. After asking her if she had been drinking, he ordered Ligons to get into the back of his squad car where he exposed himself to her and forced her to perform oral sex on him.

"He stopped me...for no reason whatsoever and fondled me and did certain things to me," Ligons said at a press conference last month. During her assault, Ligons explained, she was fearful that Holtzclaw was going to kill her. "All I could see was my life flash before my eyes and his gun in his holster on his right side."

It was Ligons' testimony that led to Holtzclaw's crimes being revealed. After an internal investigation, he was fired from the police force in January 2015.

"Your offenses committed against women in our community constitute the greatest abuse of police authority I have witnessed in my 37 years as a member of this agency," wrote Oklahoma City Police Chief William Citty in the termination letter, according to CNN. "These violations more than warrant your termination from the Oklahoma City Police Department. 

"Justice was done today, and a criminal wearing a uniform is going to prison now," Oklahoma County District Attorney David Prater told the Associated Press.

5 Ways To Eat Your Way To a Healthier Thyroid

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January is officially Thyroid Awareness Month! Your thyroid is one of the most important parts of your body, as it regulates your metabolic processes and is pivotal to your endocrine system. It is small and butterfly-shaped, located in the middle of your neck. If your thyroid is functioning abnormally, your neck may feel swollen. You may also mistake your trouble swallowing to getting a cold. Health is the greatest gift, so make sure you follow up on your annual check to see if this tiny gland is working to its full potential.

Thyroid problems are usually caused by abnormal thyroid-stimulating hormone (TSH) levels. Commonly known thyroid conditions include: hypothyroidism (an under-active thyroid that makes you feel lethargic), hyperthyroidism (an overactive thyroid that makes you feel sweaty and have trembling hands and feet), Graves’ Disease (symptoms include swollen eyes and a puffy face, and is often linked back to hyperthyroidism), Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis (neck goiters, unexplained weight gain of ten to twenty pounds, severe depression), and more severely, thyroid nodules and thyroid cancer. These thyroid conditions have overlapping symptoms, including migraines and feeling light-headed, so you should consult with your doctor if you think you have thyroid disease.

Women especially need to be careful if they have thyroid issues, since it can lead to infertility, which my mother personally struggled with for years before she magically conceived me. Irregular periods are also symptoms of thyroid disease. Even if you are perfectly healthy and your TSH levels are normal, here are five natural ways to an even healthier thyroid and healthier body for the new year:

1. Praise the Iodine

Iodine is a mineral that helps regulate your thyroid and is found naturally in your body. If you have severely dry skin, you could have an iodine deficiency. Before I was diagnosed with hyperthyroidism, I suffered from psoriasis and never linked it to having an iodine deficiency. Increasing your iodine intake can help balance your thyroid levels. The best source of this potent mineral can be found in fish, specifically tuna, seabass, shrimp, scallops and cod. For those who are vegetarian or eat a plant-based diet, iodine is also found in eggs, yogurt, cow’s milk, spinach, navy beans, baked potato, dried seaweed, and cranberries. If you have enough iodine, you may not feel tired anymore and can skip the crowded morning Starbucks line.

2. Increase Your Protein

Getting enough protein can help normalize your thyroid function. That means putting down the bagel in the mornings and adding in some eggs, beef, fish, tofu, etc. Try to buy organic, since there are less hormones in your food and no GMOs, even if organic produce is more expensive. Nut butters are also a great source of protein, and having a tablespoon of almond butter with your banana is not only delicious, but a super healthy snack.

3. Don’t Eat Before Bed

We all know we shouldn’t be watching TV or checking Instagram before bed, as light can hinder a good night’s rest. For those who may have thyroid issues, this is perhaps difficult, since you may be hungrier than usual and tempted to eat before bed. Make sure your room is cool, and try to be relax before bed. Light some candles and give yourself a self massage. Moisturize your body and cuddle with your dog. Meditation and not eating before bed is the easiest way to prevent insomnia.

4. Ditch The Carbs

I have yet to meet a woman who does not like carbs or sweets, and it’s hard to cut back on these delicious foods. If you eat a lot of carbs, your thyroid can trigger an autoimmune response. Adopting a gluten-free diet helps regulate your thyroid, and it’s easy now more than ever to find gluten-free staples at your local grocery store. Swap out your processed spaghetti for gluten-free pastas (often made with a combination of rice and buckwheat) and the whole wheat toast for rice bread in the mornings. Better yet, ditch all forms of carbs and eat more vegetables and protein.  

5. Sea Salt

Flavoring your dishes with sea salt is one of the easiest ways to help get your daily sodium intake. Sea salt contains iodine and sodium is necessary for your body's water levels. Unlike table salt, sea salt contains antioxidants and trace minerals that are good for your body. Sea salt is made from the ocean evaporating, whereas table salt is found underground and heavily processed. Adding a few pinches of sea salt in your cooking can go a long way for your body and your taste buds.

 


17 Signs You Like Dogs More Than Humans

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From paw shakes to cuddle sessions, your dog is the gift that keeps on giving. Your family members unanimously know that your dog is the favorite child. You can even vouch that though your dog isn’t apart of your whole life, no one else but them absolutely makes your life whole.  

1. You know diamonds aren't really a girl's best friend

2. You measure your dog’s level of excitement to see you based off of how much he or she pees

3. But your dog will always be your favorite hello and hardest goodbye 

4. You celebrate your dog's birthday more than your own 

5. A dog will never cancel gym plans with you

6. You don’t care they raid your snack cabinet

7. You update your dog’s Instagram more than your own

8. You also follow more dog accounts than human ones

9. You tend to send cards like this out 

10. You only have one true spirit animal

11. Why fall in love when you have puppy love?

12. Human hair anywhere but a head is intolerable, but you put up with this

13. Your dog helps you embrace silence being golden

14. Your dog has earned the authority to take your coveted couch spot

15. Selfies with dogs > Selfies with people

16. Most girls plan their wedding on Pinterest but all you know is that your dog will be walking down aisle

17. And lastly...

16 College Women Get Real About Kylie Jenner

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There is rarely an in-between feeling with Kylie Jenner. The polarizing teen usually elicits a clear ‘love her’ or ‘hate her’ feeling from people (with the occasional ‘love to hate her’ thrown in there).

We wanted to know what college women thought of the 18-year-old with a life so unlike their own so we asked 16 of them to share their thoughts.

“I am obsessed with Kylie! I have her app, I follow her on Snapchat and Instagram. I watch the Kardashians avidly. I think they are fashion moguls and I love their style. Everyone hates on Kylie, but I think she is the way she is because that is all she knows. She was raised that way; she was raised in the spotlight. I love her and always will.”

-Jazmyne, Boston University Class of 2018

“She is so annoying. I really don't know why people are so obsessed with her!”

-Cynthia, NYU Class of 2019

“I'm personally not a fan of Kylie Jenner. I think she's a smart businesswoman, and she has definitely built a brand for herself. However, I really feel uncomfortable with girls idolizing her the way they do. She got lip injections before she even turned 18, and that seems unnecessary to me. I think she teaches young girls who look up to her that if you're insecure about something, you can go to a doctor and they'll fix it for you. I'm not against plastic surgery, but she was very young when she got it. I also believe plastic surgery doesn't fix the underlying issues of insecurity, but instead just changes your outward appearance.”

-Dana, Northeastern University Class of 2020

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“I hate her because I feel that she is extremely fake and a bad role model to girls and others who look up to her. I find it a little unhealthy that she has had lip fillers and may have had other surgeries. I like caring about beauty but the things she does are unhealthy. Surgeries like that at her age are extremely unhealthy in the long run. Plus she does not even look natural. Also, even though I don't like meddling with others' personal choices, I don't like how she is dating Tyga. He is creepy as he hits on young girls, 14-year-olds even. Also, he cheated on her. So she sets a bad example by choosing the wrong people. I honestly like any Kardashian better than her, including Kim. They are much more admirable. She is also very mean to her sister, while the rest of her family values family a little more than her.”

-Camellia, University of Cincinnati Class of 2018

“I cannot stand the idea of Kylie Jenner, and I say that due to the fact that I don't know her personally. However, how she portrays herself on social media is enough for me to not like the idea of her. I don't follow her on social media, or watch the Kardashian shows, but that doesn't mean I don't hear about her constantly. From lip plumping, to her cornrows, she has a lot of growing up to do as well as enlightening herself on the issues on the people she's trying to portray. You can't choose the aspects of a race you deem beautiful and not stand up for those races.”

-Jessica, Virginia Commonwealth University Class of 2018

“I absolutely love Kylie Jenner. I follow her on every social media platform; I copy her makeup, style and her nails. Her nails might be my favorite part. I've been watching KUWTK since season 1 and think she and Kendall are hilarious. When her vine was in its prime, I would watch it all of the time. There's just something about her and the whole family that interests me. I get some of the hate because of different controversies, but they still always stay on top. I think she is a very smart businesswoman, and honestly in that sense empowering. I am also anxiously awaiting her new lip kits.”

-Alani, Northwestern University Class of 2018

“I think she is overly sexual. She's a beautiful girl but she feeds into society's obsession with sexualized, thin women who wear a ton of makeup and have a large butt. I wish she spoke out more about mature topics like sexism, politics, education, etc.”

-Samantha, Kent State University Class of 2018

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“Kylie Jenner is someone most people tend to dislike, but they're probably only jealous. I mean, this girl has the life... her own home, plenty of cars, and multiple businesses. Kylie Jenner is overall #goals.”

-Natalie, University of Iowa Class of 2018

“Truthfully, I think Kylie is a really pretty person and she's entertaining whenever I watch their show, but I don't see her going anywhere in life. She's famous just because of her family, and she hasn't really accomplished that much over her life. She's very much an air head, and I don't see her taking her life seriously. I do follow her on social media just because I am into all the celebrity stuff, but I don't really follow her because I like her. Her other sisters are going out and promoting things and are really taking the Kardashian name beyond the fame and glitz and glam, and Kylie isn't really doing anything meaningful I feel like. Is she in school? Is she going to go to college? What is she actually doing?”

-Ally, San Diego State University Class of 2017

“I love her because part of me wants to be her. At times I feel like wearing all that makeup and those wigs is so fake, but then I think how fun it would be to look so nice everyday. I use makeup already so why not everyday and 10 times as much?”

-Emma, University of Maryland College Park Class of 2017

“I love Kylie Jenner! I think she has amazing style and whatever she wears becomes the next cool thing. I know everyone loves to hate her and her million dollar lips but she's a natural leader. In my opinion I think she can dethrone her infamous sister Kim Kardashian in a few years. I follow Kylie on Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, and if her mobile app was free I'd download that as well. She posts more frequently than her older sisters, which I think is her key to keeping her millions of followers connected. I do 'Keep Up' with the Kardashians; it's honestly my guilty pleasure. I love that show because you don't need to actually pay full attention to be entertained. They literally could be arguing about a purse and you just can't stop watching because it's oddly funny.”

-Rachel, Virginia Commonwealth University Class of 2016

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“I used to really like Kylie Jenner— her style, demeanor and her ability to achieve many different looks. Now, she just looks like a plastic doll. I don't like all of the alterations she has done to her face and body, especially at her age. She was perfectly fine the way she was! In my eyes, Kylie would be a much more beautiful person if she wore less makeup and was more modest. The changes she's making and behavior she is promoting don't bode well for teenage girls. I'm the same age as her; I couldn't imagine making the changes to my body that she has.”

-Hayley, Loyola University Chicago Class of 2019

“I definitely admire how clever the Kardashian family is in general — very business savvy and experts in controlling the media. And Kylie is no exception, despite being so young and having grown up in a world where a good chunk of her life is watched and scrutinized. I've also been very impressed by how she's interacted with her fans online and tried to help those who feel bullied or different. She's done a lot of good for someone just 18 years old and I'm not sure why she gets so much hate for when she makes little mistakes — like any normal teenager would.”

-Sarah, University of Nottingham Class of 2016

“The fact that she gets all 'dolled-up' just so she can get a good Instagram picture is baffling to me.”

-Lexi, University of Connecticut Class of 2018

“For the most part, I am indifferent to Kylie. I do kind of look down upon her and her family's show, for the way they blow thousands of dollars and get attention from Kim's sex tape when there are so many talented people in the world who deserve that same attention. However, after watching many interviews with Kylie and Kendall, I can't help but feel bad for her because it is almost like you can tell that she is insecure next to Kendall. Kylie gets so much surgery done to her body and face, and I just think she is pretty naturally and shouldn't have to feel pressured to get surgery to feel beautiful.”

-Chelsea, Bowling Green State University Class of 2019

“I do not like Kylie Jenner. I see her as super fake and the furthest thing from down-to-earth. She also sets an unrealistic beauty standard for many young girls. She uses social media to promote and maintain her hyper-sexualized image.”

-Hannah, University of Iowa Class of 2016

15 Things Biracial People Are Tired of Hearing

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We're pretty sure you've met multiple biracial people in your lifetime. We're also pretty sure that you've heard or witnessed the intense amount of ignorance and backhanded compliments those people have had to deal with. When it comes to the things you say to biracial people, we know some of you mean well but sometimes people and their fascination with mixed race men and women can result in the making of some pretty borderline offensive questions and comments. Luckily for any of you who were wondering what those things were, we've created a handy dandy list of things that you should probably stop saying to your biracial friends.

1. So...what are you?

Duh.

2. Where are you from?

Didn't you know?

3. No, like...where are you from?

So, when are we going to stop acting like all mixed-race people hail from some sort of "exotic" country?

4. You look so exotic!

Speaking of "exotic," that's not actually a compliment.

5. So, which one of your parents is ___?

Which one of your parents taught you how to mind your business? Before you take a second to think about how you sound when you ask this, think about why it even matters to you in the first place.

6. You're so pretty. What are you mixed with?

 
If you must know, I'm mixed with three equal parts of Beyonce, a unicorn and stardust.

7. Yeah, but you don't act ____.

It's 2016. Let's try to remember that there's no such thing as "acting" a race.

8. You act more ___ than ___.

Please refer to the blurb above.

9. Well, you don't really count.

LOL.

10. So which race do you identify with more?

Umm...that's not exactly how it works.

11. Did you have trouble picking sides growing up?

Ugh.

12. I bet your kids are going to be so pretty.

Because kids are only pretty when they're mixed, right?

13. I want my kids to be mixed.

Okay, girl. 

14. Can I touch your hair?

You can answer this question yourself, I'm sure.

15. I wish I was mixed.

Bye.

Could You Be Emotionally Cheating On Your SO?

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When it comes to relationships, there is little that is more devastating than being cheated on. It’s arguably one of the worst feelings in the world and the biggest breach of trust. But what if you’ve been cheated on and that betrayal isn’t physical? It’s easy to know your SO has wronged you if they’ve been physical with someone else, but how do you know if you’ve been cheated onemotionally? Physical cheating and emotional cheating are both incredibly painful, but emotional cheating can be a lot trickier to handle. We talked to Dr. Ramani Durvasula, licensed clinical psychologist, professor of psychology and author of Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist, about how to navigate the tricky landscape of emotional cheating. Here’s the scoop.

What is it?

Emotional cheating isn’t as simply defined as physical cheating is. The boundaries are less clear. Dr. Ramani defines emotional cheating as “the sharing of emotions, feelings or even intimate revelations that jump the boundary of what would be appropriate for someone who is in a committed relationship.” In short, “It is crossing an emotional boundary that if your partner knew about it, it would be experienced as a betrayal or a violation of trust,” she says.

Though physical cheating and emotional cheating can exist simultaneously, the two don’t have to go hand in hand. Sarah, a sophomore at the University of Michigan, was emotionally cheated on her freshman year. Though she was in a committed relationship with her boyfriend at the time, he was texting his ex telling her he loved her. “Honestly, it was hard to understand what was happening,” she says. “I felt cheated, absolutely. But I felt no one would believe me if I told them I’d been cheated on because nothing physical ever occurred.”

If you have experienced something similar to Sarah and have been emotionally cheated on, know your feelings are valid. If you feel the trust in your relationship has been broken, it’s likely it has! Trust your gut. 

Is it real?

The most commonly asked question in regards to emotional cheating is whether emotional cheating is a real form of cheating at all. It isn’t publicized the way physical cheating is, and because it so often takes place online where messages can be here one second and gone the next, it’s hard not to feel like you’ve made the entire situation up or blown something out of proportion when it happens to you.

Though both physical and emotional cheating are devastating, Dr. Ramani tells us that many women in fact believe that emotional cheating is worse. “Women I have talked to (and some men) have said that they could almost ‘rationalize’ a drunken one night stand—but the idea that their partner opened up their heart and shared feelings with another person is devastating in a very different way,” Dr. Ramani says. Though sex is often considered the utmost form of intimacy, Dr. Ramani argues that “our emotional and romantic spaces may be even more intimate, and as such, breaches of trust in the emotional space can be experienced as more painful.” Though the cheater will often adamantly insist that “nothing happened,” don’t let them trick you into thinking you’re overreacting or imagining something out of thin air.

In short: yes. Emotional cheating is very real, and the pain you experience if you’ve been emotionally cheated on is valid.

Related: 5 Reasons You May Be Feeling Unsettled in Your Relationship

How to know if you’re emotionally cheating

It’s hard to know if you’re being emotionally cheated on as emotional cheating implies secrecy—but sometimes it’s even harder to know if you’re doing it yourself. Dr. Ramani says, “If you find yourself getting more excited sharing something with someone else than with your partner,” if “you look forward to seeing that other person more than your partner” or if “you actually fantasize about a life or a romance with this person,” you’re emotionally cheating. This may mean you're feeling unfulfilled in your relationship and signify a bigger problem that needs to be addressed. It could also mean you are bored and miss the "honeymoon" phase of your relationship and are seeking validation elsewhere. Whatever the reason--your partner deserves honesty and to know your feelings.

Though it may be hard to distinguish between a great friendship and a friendship that has grown into something much more, it is vital to ask yourself whether your partner would be upset if they saw the conversations you are having with the person you’re exchanging with. Would they be hurt? Would you be hesitant or embarrassed or even downright refuse to show them the conversations? If so, it may be time to reevaluate what you want—or rather, who you want.

How to know if you're being emotionally cheated on

Signs that you may be being emotionally cheated on include secrecy such as your partner hiding or heavily protecting their phone, your partner mentioning or including someone else in conversation too much for comfort or if they’re beginning acting differently. This could mean getting calls and messages at odd hours, them being impatient or short with you or being distracted. Maybe they start spending more time at work or keep darting out to make phone calls that seem a bit off. If you suspect you're being emotionally cheated on, it's best to just approach your partner and ask what's going on. Nothing good comes from secrecy, and getting it all out on the table will begin the process of either rebuilding your relationship, or moving on to much bigger and better things.

You've been emotionally cheated on--now what?

While it’s easy to blame yourself, remember that being cheated on is not your fault. It’s your partner’s responsibility to be faithful, control their urges and communicate with you if they are having thoughts about others and thinking about acting on those thoughts. It is up to you whether you choose to continue your relationship, but before choosing to do so ask yourself whether you believe trust can ever again be fully established in your relationship. If not, it may be time to let go.

Dr. Ramani says, “After being emotionally cheated on, it is easy to lose your sense of trust and feel angry and betrayed,” and that “self-care is key.” Self-care can be anything from taking a hot bath or hanging out with your dog to going for a girls’ night out. Dr. Ramani recommends that you “spend time with friends, sleep in, flirt, and if you can afford it, take a trip. If you can’t, do something fun and local.”

If self-care on its own isn’t helping remove those feelings of anger and betrayal, it may be time to consider working with a therapist or counselor to talk out your feelings. “Don’t let the betrayal be the gift that keeps on giving—grieve the loss in your own time, and then trust your heart again,” Dr. Ramani says.

 

In a time where everything is about connecting—on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat or even something as simple as email, it’s easier than ever to connect with those we love. However, sometimes a boundary is crossed and a friendship can turn into late night calls and your heart skipping a beat when you see their name on your phone—and they certainly aren’t your partner [confusing sentence structure – can you rephrase?]. Dr. Ramani says, “Cheating is not just about sex or physical intimacy, and in fact emotional betrayal often cuts far deeper.” So while it “may feel good for a minute” as Dr. Ramani says, it can “leave hurts that last far longer.” Dr. Ramani put it simply: “Emotional cheating is careless, sloppy and unkind.” Respect yourself and leave a relationship immediately if you feel you’ve been emotionally cheated on. But really—respect your partners and don’t cheat, physically or emotionally.

You Should Read This: Investigating Sexual Assault at HBCUs

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You all know this—Sexual assault is a HUGE issue on college campuses. But as we discuss consent and how to fairly adjudicate cases, are black women being left out of the conversation? That’s the question Anita Badejo of BuzzFeed News asks in her deep investigation of sexual assault at Spelman and Morehouse, two elite single-sex historically black colleges.

In interviews with several people at both schools, Badejo learned that while the colleges talk big talk about sexual assault, a combination of respectability politics and old-fashioned sexism are standing in the way of real action. In one shocking statistic, the story reports that while 44 percent of white women report sexual assault, only 17 percent of black women do.

“We already feel bad enough because we’re all black. … We already have so much against us,” Victoria Hall, a recent Spelman graduate and sexual assault survivor, told BuzzFeed News. “For once we’re trying to protect ourselves. It’s not even about race, but of course [black men] have to make it about race by wanting us to protect [them]. I said, I’m not doing that anymore.”

Check out the full story here.

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