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Caitlyn Jenner Looks Stunning on the Cover of Vanity Fair

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On Monday, Vanity Fair released the cover for its July issue featuring Caitlyn Jenner, formerly known as Bruce.


After months of rumors and speculation from the tabloids, Jenner came out as transgender back in April during a sit-down interview with Diane Sawyer on ABC's "20/20." Following the interview, the E! series "Keeping Up with the Kardashians" drew its largest audience in three years when the 65-year-old former Olympian shared the story of the difficult and often emotional conversations she had with her family during a special two-part episode of the reality show, which aired in mid-May. 

Now, after a stunning Vanity Fair photo shoot shot by Annie Leibovitz, the reality star has said goodbye to Bruce Jenner and is ready to introduce herself to the world as Caitlyn.

"This shoot was about my life and who I am as a person," she tells the magazine. "It's not about the fanfare, it's not about the people cheering in the stadium, it's not about going down the street and everybody giving you 'that a boy, Bruce,' pat on the back, O.K. This is about your life."

Along with being on the cover of the magazine, she also opens up about her female identity inside the pages.

"If I was lying on my deathbed and I had kept this secret and never ever did anything about it, I would be lying there saying, 'You just blew your entire life.'"

Jenner's continuing journey will be documented in an eight-part docuseries set to premiere on E! in late July.


A Shocking Number of Unpaid Interns Aren't Being Protected From Sexual Harassment

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So, collegiettes, there's good news and bad news.

The Good News

The state of Connecticut is on it's way to pass a new law guaranteeing unpaid interns adequate protection from both sexual harassment and sexual discrimination. So what's the big deal? Isn't that a given in most states? Unfortunately, no.

The Bad News

If Connecticut's bill passes, it will be joining only six other states with similar protection laws.

When lawmakers were asked about the bill, they expressed surprise at the fact that such legal rights were not already available to unpaid interns. So did we!

Even worse, many of the states that do offer protection only specify protection for sexual harassment or sexual discrimination, and not both. Such an oversight is frightening, which is why it's best to be informed about the laws in your state prior to entering an unpaid position.

What You Need to Know

According to The Huffington Post, unpaid interns aren't employees. At least, not by the standards of the Civil Rights Act, which oversees protective bodies such as the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission. This means that unfortunately, individuals interning in states without protective laws may have a difficult time legally addressing issues of harassment and discrimination in the workplace.

If you live in California, Washington, New York, or D.C., you're fully protected. Unpaid interns in Maryland are legally protected against sexual discrimination, but unfortunately Maryland's law neglects to address sexual harassment. Unpaid interns in Illinois face the opposite dilemma: they're protected from harassment and not discrimination.

Women are historically more likely to experience harassment and discrimination in the workplace, which dangerously coincides with the fact that the majority of unpaid interns are women. With instances of inappropriate behavior in the workplace being far too common for comfort, it's clear that change has to be made. 

Real Live College Guy Dale: Does He Just Hate Texting?

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We all need a little guidance now and then, so whether you’re stressed about a fling gone wrong, a recently wrecked relationship or how to handle a stage-five clinger, Real Live College Guy Dale is here to help you navigate the college dating scene.

This guy is about three years older than me. We met through work, and I thought we hit it off. He followed me back on Twitter, so I decided to reach out and ask if he wanted to go to an event with me on the weekend. He told me he'd like to, but he wasn't sure if he could get a ride there. I gave him my number, and he ended up texting me to say that he couldn't go. We have chatted once since then (it's been just over a week), but he seems really short with me. Do you think he just doesn't like texting, or does he just not like me? –Wondering at Work in Wisconsin

Wisconsin,

Some people — some of my friends included — just hate texting. Their answers are consistently short and always read like they’re uninterested in talking. These kinds of people usually prefer face-to-face communication or talking on the phone, at the very least.

However, given the rundown you’ve supplied me with, I’d suggest not pursuing this guy anymore. It seems to me that this guy is giving you the runaround, so I don’t think he’s actually interested in going out with you. Generally, if a guy wants to go out with someone, he’ll find a way to do so come hell or high water. From what I understand, this guy just seemed hesitant to go out. Maybe it’s because he doesn’t want to date a coworker (which can be a sticky situation — I’m watching a similar situation between coworkers unfold at my local coffee place right now), or maybe he just isn’t into you.

However, I think even if he was interested, it probably wouldn’t have been a good idea to date this guy anyway.

One fact that concerns me is that he didn’t know if he could get a ride to go out with you. I understand that not every person has a car, but do you really want to be the one who has to pick him up for dates all the time? Worse, do you want him to have to rely on his friends for rides to dates all the time? That responsibility is eventually going to get very tiring and very expensive. Even if you stay on campus for dates, something just seems iffy about him needing a ride to go out — almost as if he was using that as an excuse so he wouldn’t just have to turn you down outright.

On top of that, let’s say you do go out. Let’s say, worst-case scenario, it doesn’t work out. Now you two have to work together in awkward silence until things get patched up. Dating coworkers is frowned upon for a reason, and I’d hate to see you become a textbook example of one of those reasons.

Also, do you really want to go out with someone who seems so uninterested in talking to you? I feel like you’re the one putting in all the work for a guy who appears to have little to no interest in going out, and I’m afraid you’re wasting your time.

Don’t risk your job for this one, Wisconsin. Drop the crush, find yourself a guy with good communication habits (and maybe a car?) and move on.

Fill out my online form.

20 Looks Your Best Friend Knows Too Well

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Thank goodness for besties. Who else would share their clothes, dance the night away or binge-watch Netflix with us? We love our best friends, mostly because they know us better than anyone else (and won’t judge us for eating a whole jar of Nutella). Your bestie just gets you, so much so that you two don’t even need to speak (don't need, but certainly want!). Sometimes one look just says it all.

1. That look when you see your crush at a party and need her help to be cool:

2. Or when someone creepy is hitting on you and you need to be rescued:

3. When your favorite song comes on in the bar:

4. And then when she suggests late night pizza:

5. If you live with her, you know the look you give when it's her turn to wash the dishes:

6. Or when you realize that you both bought the same dress at the mall:

7. When you’re bored in class, you know you can shoot her this look from across the room:

8. She's an expert at recognizing your post-all-nighter look:

9. Your bestie knows you have a secret to spill when she sees this:

10. Or when you absolutely hate her outfit:

11. She can tell when you’ve messed up:

12. And you hate it when you know she’s right:

13. Some nights you’re down to go out:

14. But she also understands when you want to stay in:

15. You can’t help giving her this look when she texts her ex:

16. But you’re totally pumped when she tells you she hooked up with her crush:

17. Everyone can tell when you two have an inside joke:

18. Or when you’re sending her a Snap Chat:

19. Sometimes she can get on your nerves:

20. But at the end of the day, you’re so thankful to have her in your life. 

5 Things to Do If He’s Bad at Texting

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His friends say that he's into you, but why is he so bad at replying to your texts? Sometimes it takes him forever, and other times he gives you the most boring reply known to man. Don’t ditch your campus cutie just because he isn’t Shakespeare! Here’s how to deal when he doesn’t have a way with words.

Scenario #1: He seems uninterested

Flirt it up

If your guy doesn’t seem into it when you’re texting, try flirting with him. Playing a game of “20 questions” or “truth or dare” or sending a flirty message will get him interested. Flirting with your guy over text will get him answering, and you’ll both have a lot of fun. If you don’t know how to start, try saying something like, “You looked really cute last night.” Not only will he answer you, but he’ll also want to keep texting you to hear more.

“What you’re doing is you are instigating, inspiring and triggering positive, sexy or sexual emotions within him,” human behavior and relationship expert Patrick Wanis says, “which will make him want to communicate more by a text message.”

Flirting with your guy will make him more interested and might even cause him to reply to you faster. Even a simple, “I can’t wait to see you on Friday” will make him wonder what you’re going to say next. If he’s intrigued by what’s going on, he’ll want to keep the conversation going in order to keep the flirting up.

Tell him what you want

The next time you and your guy are hanging out, let him know that the way he texts bothers you. If you drop a hint (even in a joking way!), he should get the message. Try telling him, “It leaves me hanging when you don’t answer for a while,” or “It seems like you’re not interested when we’re texting.” Odds are that’s just how he texts, so he probably doesn’t even realize it. If he knows it bothers you, it will be fresh in his mind the next time you ask him, “What’s up?”

“I've said things like, ‘I totally get that you're busy, so when you can't text, just let me know and we can talk another time!’ explains Kasia Jaworski, a senior at Villanova University, “or even a text like, ‘Text me when you get a chance!’ It gets the message across that you want them to be better at texting, but you're not nagging them.”

“Be direct with guys,” Wanis says. “If you want to have a strong, healthy, open, honest, real, authentic relationship, always speak your truth.” Try saying something like, “I love it when you text me before you go to sleep,” or “I love it when you send me sexy messages.”

Praise his “good texts”

If your guy makes an effort to be better at texting or sends you a cute message, let him know you noticed. Try saying something like, “Thanks for responding quickly!” or “That text really made me smile.” If he knows it made you happy, he’ll be more likely to keep acting in that way.

“Reward him for doing something right through praise,” Wanis explains. “Reinforce the behavior by rewarding the behavior.”

Scenario #2: He takes hours to respond

Let him text you first

If your guy doesn’t usually answer for a while or seems distracted while you’re texting, you may be trying to talk to him at the wrong times. If he’s busy, you won’t be getting his full attention, which may make it seem like he isn’t into you. 

Wanis mentions that not texting him will make him want to text you more. “Let him chase you. I do believe men are hunters and men like the chase. Men value things, whatever those things are, for which they have to work hard,” he says.

“You don't want your guy to think that you are sitting there staring at the screen and waiting for his text,” says psychiatrist and author Carole Lieberman, M.D., who goes by Dr. Carole. “So it is better to let him text you first. Try to limit your texts to when you really have something to say, like confirming the time for when you're supposed to get together next or wishing him luck on his exam. But, too many, ‘Hey, how u doing?’ texts are just pathetic.”

Kasia mentions that letting a guy text you first will leave you with better responses. “When they're ready/not busy they'll text you, and you'll have their attention versus waiting hours for a response,” she says.

Give him a call

Gasp… An actual phone call?! Don’t worry – he can’t bite you through the phone. But in all seriousness, some guys just don’t look at their phones or aren’t interested in texting to keep up a conversation. Rather than send him a, “Hey, what’s up?” text and waiting eagerly for a reply (which will likely come hours later and read, “Hey” – scintillating, right?), give him a call to see what he’s doing tonight. By actually having you on the phone, he’ll be more engaged in the conversation, and you can easily make plans to meet up.

“A phone call is much better than a text,” explains Dr. Carole. “You want to hear the expression in his voice that's missing from a text. And texts are too often misunderstood because everyone tries to use the least amount of words and there's no tone, so you don't know if he's being serious or sarcastic or what.”

Wanis agrees that if you’re trying to resolve a conflict, texting will not suffice. “It’s very easy to misconstrue the intention and the emotion behind a text message,” he says.

If you try one (or more) of these tips, the conversation should flow more easily and you won’t be stuck waiting for that text! Just remember that not all guys are into texting, and some may never want to have conversations for hours on end. Put your phone down, relax and remember that his texting habits don’t determine whether or not he’s into you – trust us!

5 Financial Habits Every Collegiette Should Have

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Paying taxes, saving for retirement, putting a down payment on a house—these all seem so far removed from the everyday world of college life that it’s almost laughable to be worried about them. But these are hugely important financial decisions that many people struggle to deal with their entire lives.

It’s easier to make good choices with your money later in life if you learn how to do it the right way as early as possible. And while buying a house might not be something on your mind for at least another decade, the financial habits required to pay for one can be developed right now, even while you’re still a student.

Why it’s important to start now

In fact, the financial habits you’ll need to successfully manage your money are quite simple for collegiettes to learn. “It’s budgeting, saving, keeping track of your credit,” says Sherrie Clayton, director of the Personal Finance program at Duke University. “If you get in the habit of managing that now, it will make it easier for you when you get a job and have a more substantial salary to work with.”

And if we’re going to talk consequences, note that worrying about your money and finances can also have a detrimental effect on you personally. “It puts you in a stressful situation and can start to affect your health,” says associate financial advisor and wealth management specialist Rani Goodman.

Being financially sound isn’t just about money; it’s about investing in your future. The sooner you start to get serious about your cash, the better. The financial habits you form now will help you later on, when you’ll be managing a lot more than meal plans and nights out with friends. Here are five areas where you can start practicing good money habits while you’re still a collegiette.

1. Budgeting

The very mention of the word “budget” can strike fear in our hearts, but sticking to a budget is the first step in securing your financial future.

“The thing is to try to make sure not to spend more money than you’re taking in,” says Goodman. It sounds obvious, but unless you’re keeping track of everything you’re both making and spending, chances are, you’ll end up spending more than you should be. “We have to look at how much we’re spending, and if we’re spending beyond our means, then we need to curb that a little bit,” she says.

If you always find yourself scrounging for extra cash at the end of every month, then learning to create and stick to a budget should be a priority. You want to make sure that you are comfortably living within your means, if only for the reason that you won’t worry about having to live off of ramen for a week.

How to do it: A budget is an estimate of how much money you’ll have to spend for a set period of time. It details how much money you have, how much you’re getting, and how much you’ll need to spend on things like bills, loans and entertainment.

“Your budget should include all your sources of income,” says Beverly Harzog, credit card expert and author of The Debt Escape Plan. In addition, it should include what expenses you’ll have to pay for a certain time period—usually a month, or a year. These can be one-time expenses, like a trip to the movies, or recurring expenses, like your monthly phone bill.

You can create your budget using a simple excel spreadsheet, or you can go hi-tech and use software to help you out. Mint.com is a popular option for doing this. “It’s free and you can set up a budget and track your spending,” Harzog says. “But there are many money management websites and most of them are free.” Other sites like Feed the Pig and Smart About Money also help you track your spending and create your budget, so find one that is most appealing to you.

Once you’ve decided how you’re going to keep track of your budget, creating it is as simple as figuring out how much money you have to work with for the month. “Figure out how much you’re taking in and how much you have to spend,” Goodman explains. Begin by listing out all your sources of income. During the school year, this can include everything from your meal plan to scholarships, and in the summer, income from a part-time job or an internship.

Then, list out how much money you have to spend each month. This could be phone bills, prescriptions, credit card bills, rent payments, or any number of things. Once you’ve got the necessities out of the way, list out how much you plan on spending for other things, like shopping or going out to eat.

“Be as specific as you can,” Harzog suggests. “Instead of a line item called ‘Entertainment,’ specify the type of entertainment.” For example, if you know you go to the movies a lot, then put ‘Movies’ in as a separate category and list out how much money you expect to spend on them for the month. This helps you get an idea of how much you’re spending on specific things and can help you adjust that spending if you’re too strapped for cash. “If you look at your movie expenses for the month, for instance, you might decide you want to spend less in that category,” Harzog explains. “So a detailed budget helps you know where your money is going, but it also helps you reassess how much you want to spend on certain things.”

Once you’ve figured out your budget, you can adjust your expenses and cut back on spending to accomplish another goal—saving up your money.

2. Saving

We know that we’re supposed to save our pennies for a rainy day… but sometimes it’s hard to imagine that the rain will ever come! Until it does, and your car breaks down, or you lose your phone and need a replacement. Where’s that last-minute cash going to come from?

Your emergency savings account, hopefully! “Your savings is the money you are setting aside because you are going to use it, maybe in the near future, maybe in the not-so-near future,” Clayton explains. “If your car breaks down and you need to fly home, or you have a medical emergency and you need to pay a doctor’s bill, [your savings account is going to be your lifesaver].”

Getting into the habit of saving money is almost as difficult as tracking your spending to create a budget. But Clayton urges students to remember that it’s never too late to start, and even saving a little bit is a good start. What’s important is that you start.

“You are the most important part of your finances,” she says, “so you should be paying yourself first. That is one of the most important things you can do. It doesn’t matter how little or how much you are saving, just get into the habit of putting something aside.” This way, when you graduate and really need to start saving for bigger things—like retirement and your first house— you’ll already be in the habit.

How to do it: So how much should you be saving, and how often? “There’s no magic number when you’re in college,” says Harzog, “because you already have so many expenses and the amount you can save will vary by person.” For now, Harzog says, you really shouldn’t stress over the exact amount.

Simply state how much you are going to save, and how often, then stick with it. This can be a dollar a day, a dollar a week, or ten dollars a month. “Whatever it is,” says Clayton, “start putting a certain amount of money away in certain increments.”

You can also make saving easier by automatically transferring a certain amount of money to your savings account. “Most banks will allow you to automatically take money out of your checking and deposit it into your savings, so you don’t have to think about it,” Clayton suggests. This is especially helpful for collegiettes who may have trouble remembering to save up on their own.

If you want to save a little extra, Harzog suggests you put your emergency fund in what is called a high-yield money market account. “It’s better than a plain savings account at a bank,” she says, because these accounts earn interest on the money that’s in them. Harzog lists Ally Bank as a popular choice, for its 0.99 percent high interest rate and its lack of fees and a minimum deposit, making it a great choice for those just starting to save who may not have a lot to start with.

Harzog says there are also many online savings accounts for students to choose from, and encourages collegiettes to find one that meets their needs.

3. Credit

Credit may not seem like something a collegiette would need to worry about. And Clayton agrees: “The only reason you need a credit history, or a reason to build credit, is if you want to get a loan, to purchase a car, to purchase a home. It can also affect your security deposit if you go and rent an apartment.”

These things may not worry you now, but as you get closer to graduation (and in need of a car and a place to stay) you might wish you took the time to build credit while you were still in school. Something as simple as renting an apartment after you’ve graduated can be extremely difficult if you don’t have a credit history already established. However, the tricky thing with credit is that you need good credit to get more credit.

How to do it: It can be difficult for you as a student to simply go out and apply for a credit card, because many credit card companies won’t issue cards to college students out of fear that they won’t be able to pay back the loan. “If you don’t have credit, you probably won’t qualify for a credit card, although it depends on the company,” says Clayton. But if you want to start building credit while you’re still in school, there are a couple ways to go about it.

One way is to become an authorized user on a parent’s credit card account. Your name will be added to your parents’ existing account, which allows you to piggyback off of their credit score. If they have good credit, it boosts your credit score as well. Once you’ve done this for a few years, you may be eligible to apply for a card in your own name.

If you’re not in a situation where you can become an authorized user on a parent’s card, another option is in the form of a secured credit card. This is a card that is issued through your bank itself. You give them a deposit of a certain amount of money—say $500—and this becomes your “credit limit.”

“Usually when you get a loan, there is some sort of collateral,” Clayton explains, “like when you buy a home and, if you don’t pay your mortgage, the bank gets your house back. With credit cards there is no collateral, so with a secured credit card, you give them collateral in the form of money.” This is an easy way for a student with no credit history to start to build up credit.

Secured cards are also a great way to learn how to build credit because you can’t really get into trouble with them. “This is probably the best way for a student, because you can’t charge more than the money you already put down on it.” Use the secured card to build your credit without the fear or ruining your credit history and compromising some of those big-ticket items you’ll need in the future.

4. Loans

With the shockingly high cost of tuition these days, many collegiettes will need to subsidize their education. While scholarships are the ideal way to do this, if you don’t have enough, then you may need to take out student loans.

Your student loans are going to be a priority to pay off once you graduate. Most loans will give you a grace period of six months after graduation, to help ensure you’re well on your feet before you have to start paying them back. But a lot of loans also start to accrue interest while you’re in school, so that you can end up paying off more than you took out in the first place.

This is why you need to understand the terms of your loan while you’re in school. “You need to know your required loan payment before you even take out your first loan,” Clayton stresses. “Each year it is a good idea to do a financial health check to see how much you have borrowed, what the payment is going to look like when you graduate, and whether your profession is going to allow you a salary that can support that loan payment, plus your other expenses.”

Once you graduate, you may have to take out loans for others things—like a car or a mortgage on a house—so you need to learn how to plan for and manage them now. Your student loans are a great way to do that.

How to do it: Many federal student loans require you to have loan counseling so that you understand the terms of your loan and what you need to do to pay them back. “You need to understand your loan interest and how much your monthly payment is going to be, even if that is four, five or six years down the road,” says Clayton. “If nothing else, keep in check how much you are borrowing so that you know if you can afford that loan payment after graduation.”

If you’re struggling to manage your loans or are unsure about how to plan for their repayment, definitely visit your school’s financial aid office and talk with a counselor. They are there to help you manage your financial aid and can help you figure out what will work for you, especially if you’re a first time borrower.

5. Taxes

Most college students are not required to file taxes. This is because our parents can usually claim us on their tax returns; we are still considered “dependents” if we go to school full-time or if they provide more than half of our financial support for the year. You also don’t need to file taxes if you make under a certain amount of money per year. Still, learning to do your taxes while you’re still in school can help cut down on a lot of stress after you graduate, when you may have to take more things into account than just your part-time job at the school bookstore.

If you are working part-time on campus, then you definitely should file your taxes, because the government could actually owe you money! “You can get what you owe to the government taken out each month,” says Clayton. “You may be owed a refund, so you may want to file even if you are not required.”

How to do it: To figure out whether or not you should file your taxes, the IRS has a tutorial on their website to help walk you through this. Answer these questions if you’re not sure if you should file or not.

If you’ve decided to file your taxes, the IRS website also offers a list of tax service providers who will help you file your tax return online and for free, such as TaxSlayer and ezTaxReturn. These are fairly simple programs that will ask you questions and guide you step-by-step through the tax filing process. Some of the offers differ by age, state and income, so be sure to check to make sure you are eligible for a particular free software before you file.

Taxes may seem daunting, but if you have some extra money coming in at the end of April, it's totally worth it!

Getting control of your money can seem overwhelming, but don’t get discouraged! “Don’t get bogged down in the details of it,” says Clayton. “If one thing doesn’t work one month, try something else. What’s important is to make sure you are managing your finances yourself.”

Later on in life, it’s going to be important for you to understand how your money works and where it’s going. While good money habits are difficult to form no matter what, you’ll thank yourself later for taking the time out now to get used to managing your money yourself. Your money situation will change with you as you graduate and move on to the real world, so keep your chin up and keep at it!
 

Order our Book, The Her Campus Guide to College Life, NOW!

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Hey collegiettes!

We know you love reading HC on your laptops, your smartphones, and your tablets... but now you can truly curl up with HC because our first-ever book, The Her Campus Guide to College Life, just hit stores!

Order your copy online here or head to your local Barnes & Noble! And be sure to check out our upcoming schedule of book signing events and see if we're coming to your area!

The Her Campus Guide to College Life: How to Manage Relationships, Stay Safe and Healthy, Handle Stress, and Have the Best Years of Your Life covers everything you need to know to rock college, from how to get along with your roommates to how to avoid the 'freshman 15', deal with tough professors, snag internships, decide whether to study abroad, and much, much more.

Whether you're already an upperclassman or are just getting ready to go off to college next fall, this book has everything you need to survive and thrive on campus when it comes to all aspects of your life. Our book also includes handy resources like a template roommate contract, dorm room grocery list, and more.

Want a sneak preview? Read an excerpt from our book here then order your copy!

I can't wait to hear what you think!

HC Love,
Stephanie Kaplan Lewis, Co-founder, CEO & Editor-in-Chief of Her Campus

8 Pride Events You Can’t Miss This Summer

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So, you’re looking for the biggest and best LGBTQ+ pride events in the country? Look no further than some of your very own cities. These events are out of this world and over the top. Parades, concerts, amazing food, speakers, fabulous grand marshals, and so much more—these eight pride events have everything you need.

Must-see Pride Events

1. New York City PrideFest

When? June 23 to 28, 2015

New York City’s PrideFest is one of the biggest LGBTQ+ celebrations in the country. They have countless vendors and tons of fantastic performers. And guess what? It’s completely free!

2. San Francisco Pride

When? June 27 to 28, 2015

San Francisco Pride is one big party. This year’s performers include Kat Robichaud, Siya, Mike Munich and many other talented people. This is a two-day event full of speakers, performers, and parties. All they ask in return is a donation that goes to support more than 40 local non-profits.

3. Los Angeles Pride

When? June 12 to 14, 2015

LA Pride is going to be absolutely amazing this year (but isn’t it amazing every year?)! Not only will there be performances by Ke$ha and Fifth Harmony, there will also be tons of other celebrating. Don’t forget to buy your tickets online to beat the crowds!

4. Chicago Pride

When? June 20 to 28, 2015

The Veronicas, the Pussycat Dolls and drag shows; what more could you want? Chicago Pride has it all! Check out their website are some great tips for Pride attendees. So grab your friends and head to the windy city for a fantastic two-day extravaganza!

5. Pride Portland

When? June 12 to 21, 2015

Portland does it big with 10 whole days of Pride! There’ll be parties, prom, yoga, rooftop films, dancing and so much more you don’t want to miss out on. There is no better time to visit Portland!

6. New Orleans Pride

When? June 19 to 21, 2015

It’s no secret that New Orleans does everything big—including Pride. If you want an out-of-this-world celebration, then New Orleans is the place for you. Between dance parties, Pridefest and—of course—the parade, you won’t have a minute of downtime.

7. Austin Pride

When? August 22 to 30, 2015

Inflatables, DJs, photo booths, face painting, drinks... There is something for everyone at Austin’s Pride—including you! So bring your whole crew and enjoy Austin Pride. The headliners have not been announced yet, but keep a look out on their website because they are sure to be amazing!

8. Seattle Pride

When? June 28, 2015

Seattle Pride goes all out—they even have a Pride Guide specifically for their event! The theme this year is “A Lifetime of Pride” to celebrate everyone in the LGBTQ+ community. The event will feature a parade, a brunch, comedy shows, and a picnic! This is a truly unique experience that you can’t miss out on.

How should you celebrate?

Now that you know the big events you need to check out, you are probably wondering how you should host your own celebration—which you should definitely do, whether you can make it to one of these events or not! Check out this list of ways to show off your pride:

There are some amazing Pride festivals all around the country, but don’t worry if you can’t make it to a big city this year! You can always put together your very own celebration without ever leaving home.


Sculpt Your Abs with This Killer Core Workout

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Show a little skin this summer! Whether you’re lounging on the beach all day or running in the morning before your internship grind, you deserve to shed some layers and enjoy the sunshine. Treat those tummy muscles to some serious TLC – this awesome core workout is the key to toning them up for summertime!

The 7 Best Celebrity College Commencement Speeches of 2015

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Every year, college seniors anxiously await the announcement of their graduation speakers for the traditional commencement address, intended to give students advice about entering the "real world." If you are lucky, your college may manage to snag a big name celebrity to speak at your ceremony. Each year these famous faces offer humorous, touching and often extremely useful advice about their own paths to success and how to survive life after college. This year was no different, with a star-studded batch of speakers including Oscar-winning actors, a national news anchor, a celebrated filmmaker and even the First Lady. Without further ado, we bring you the best celebrity commencement addresses of 2015.

Stephen Colbert - Wake Forest University

 

Colbert has delivered speeches in the past for graduates, but this one was the best yet; it was quippy, smart and filled with local color for this North Carolina private university. The best quote of the speech: "You did it, and you look amazing. Although it's a little embarrassing, you all showed up in the same outfit. Really, even all the accessories are the same: everyone has a black and gold tassle. Or... Is it blue and white? Grandparents, just know this was the issue that divided a generation. You had the Vietnam War, your grandchildren had an ambiguously colored Tumblr post."

Maya Rudolph - Tulane University 

 

Tulane has had the privilege to enjoy several celeb speakers in the past, so grads' expectations were set pretty high. But former SNL star Maya Rudolph did not disappoint! She gave one of the most hilarious commencement speeches of the season. After the ceremony opened with an a cappella tribute to her, Maya dove right in with the jokes. We laughed the hardest at: "I stand here humbled, gracious... and completely naked under this robe," followed by a wink and a few eyebrow raises. Her best quote of the speech, though, was: "If I must give any of you advice, it would be this: say yes. Say yes. And? And create your own destiny."

Michelle Obama - Tuskegee University

 

Michelle Obama is incredible, in case you weren't already aware. From advocating a healthy lifestyle for the youth of America to making guest appearances on The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon, she succeeds at everything she does and carries herself with grace and style that we can't get enough of. Her commencement speech at this private university was inspiring. She held nothing back in her sharp rebuttal of race relations, her nod to the Tuskegee Airmen, and the historical significance of the school in the African American narrative. Her best quote: "I have learned that if I hold fast to my beliefs and follow my own moral compass, then the only expectations I need to live up to are my own."

Robert De Niro - New York University Tisch School of the Arts

 

A New York City native and a fellow thespian, De Niro quietly (and with that straight-faced, sarcastic humor we all love) doled out by far the best line of the graduation speech season, and one that most all artists will relate to: "Tisch graduates: you made it! ...And you're f***ed." After those stirring words of "encouragement," De Niro reminded the graduating seniors that their lives might not be easy, but they should be proud that they chose to follow their passion in life. 

David Muir - Northeastern University

 

Muir gave two particularly heartfelt pieces of advice. The first: "All along the way in life, we're all going to reach 'doorways,' if you will. We're all tested at those doorways, and there's excitement not unlike what you're feeling today, but also the fear of what could come next. And so I'm here to say today that you embrace that fear, because it simply reminds all of us that we are the lucky ones in this world, because we're being given the opportunity to explore what comes next." And the second:"Even with the fear of what comes tomorrow, you all have a voice in this room. And now, after you've graduated, a responsibility to use it for those who are unable to use theirs." He ended the speech by using the popular app Periscope to broadcast the graduates live to the world with the caption, "Here they come!" 

Ken Burns - Washington University at St. Louis

 

Burns quoted Mark Twain, then delved into an insightful (and at times difficult) look at our history. Burns reminded the graduates that while many may claim that as humans we are doomed to repeat our own mistakes, that is in fact as far from the truth as possible. As he put it, "History is not a fixed thing, a collection of precise dates and facts and events, even cogent commencement quotes that add up to a quantifiable certain confidently known truth. It is a mysterious and malleable thing, and each generation rediscovers and re-examines that part of its past that gives its present and, most important, its future new meaning, new possibilities and new power."

Matthew McConaughey - University of Houston

 

We suppose that this speech wasn't entirely unexpected from the man who brought us those bizarre Lincoln commercials, but this Oscar-winning actor delivered a strange, yet undeniably inspirational speech to the Class of 2015. McConaughey choose to break the norm, wearing a white shirt and black slacks and sitting on a stool as he spoke, rather than wearing the traditional cap and gown behind a podium. He used the screen behind him to point out certain truths that he held close to his heart throughout his journey to success. He didn't sugarcoat anything or bother with flattery, but rather elected to face the graduates with the honest realities of the life they were embarking on, and we respect that (even if it made the speech at times slightly cringe-worthy). The best quote: "'Unbelievable' is the stupidest word in the dictionary." To understand why, you'll have to watch the speech!

Thank you to all of the commencement speakers listed here for inspiring not just the graduates at each of these universities but all of us with your meaningful, funny and heartfelt speeches. And congratulations to the graduates of the Class of 2015!

5 Reasons We Secretly Wish Tony Would've Stuck Around on 'The Bachelorette'

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Look, Tony is clearly not for Kaitlyn. It doesn’t take a spiritual awakening to discover that. But man was he entertaining. For that reason, we would like to award him the first annual Ashley S. award for his bravery in sumo wrestling, devotion to plant life, and his black-eyed brazenness. Tony left far too soon on last night’s episode, but that’s not to say he didn’t make the most of his time on The Bachelorette. Below, we’re mapping out 5 reasons we wish he would’ve stayed just a bit longer. Cue the sarcasm...

1. He fights for men’s rights

Tony was totally into sumo wrestling a 400-pound world champion…until he humiliated himself in front of the guys, Kaitlyn, and all of America. But he’s also the first guy we can recall to stand up for men’s rights in a blatantly sexist group date environment. And there were so many other scenarios he could’ve had this type of meltdown over. Born to be a game changer, Tony could’ve singlehandedly revolutionized this franchise.

2. He shows America the softer side of the male species

We never knew a man could be so sensitive until we met Tony. Talking to his bonsai trees is just the tip of the iceberg for this guy. And his ability to talk to women? Off the charts! Definitely talk about your connection with Britt to Kaitlyn during your one-on-one time.

3. He kills at stand-up

After training for this stand-up experience his whole life, the usually serious healer proved a higher power may have forgotten to gift him a funny bone. Can you imagine the laughter that would’ve been shared between he and Kaitlyn in the weeks to come?

4. His style is on point

Tony is nothing if not courageous. This nature hike-ready ensemble is unlike anything we’ve ever seen on a semi-formal group date. Sure, Kaitlyn’s wearing leather pants, but the stoner look compliments her sleek sophistication perfectly. Think the rest of the guys would agree to this major wardrobe downgrade?

5. The coveted zoo date

Who hasn’t sat watching The Bachelorette and thought how great a date to the zoo would be? We’re betting if Tony stuck around, the show would’ve made this animal-centric jaunt happen. And JJ would absolutely make the best elephant noise. No offense to elephants, of course!

What will you miss most about Tony, collegiettes? And what are the odds we'll see him in Paradise? 

The Ultimate Travel Guide to Naples, Florida

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This article has been syndicated to Her Campus from The Relevance Report by Britt Lees, a Her Campus Blogger Network member. Read the full post here

I’ve been traveling to the city of Naples, FL since the average age of its populace was nearly 104. Now, over 20 years later, that number has come down quite a bit and Naples has truly become one of the greatest American cities for luxurious, tropical getaways. Seriously, where else can you find clear blue, Caribbean-style waters and a Whole Foods within a 10-mile radius? This place is pure gold.

Whether you’re looking to travel over a long weekend or finally use the vacation days you’ve been hoarding since 2007, this is a trip worth making. Naples is peculiar (and brilliant, might I add) in the sense that there is so much to do and so little to see at the same time. Unlike other destinations that house Wonders of the World or remnants of the Roman Empire or houses of parliament, there is nothing about the city of Naples, in my opinion, that boasts such significant historical value as to leave you utterly despondent if you happen not to see it. Thus, you can literally spend your days however you see fit; even if that means falling asleep under a palm tree, Miami Vice in hand, for 17 hours. There are no worries in Naples. If you do, however, choose to spend your days among the living, there are many options to pick from.

Restaurants

For Coffee: Bad Ass Coffee, 1307 3rd Street South

Admittedly, I don’t drink coffee. It ravages my stomach. But, I thought it might be nice to tell you where everyone else I know gets coffee from. Get an iced coffee and they’ll drop a couple ice cubes in there, which are also made of iced coffee. Genuis. It’s also located in the heart of Olde Naples, so grab your morning latte and head straight to the beach with ease.

For Breakfast/Brunch: Jane’s, 1209 3rd Street South

Jane’s is quintessential Naples. You can wear your bathing suit and a beach coverup or go full-on-New-York-City-brunchwear and still feel like you fit in. They serve breakfast all day (so don’t worry if you’re running late), but they’re always jam-packed (so send a member of your party ahead to put in your name). The menu is so extensive, and even has a couple true vegan dishes. Order: the mimosa special of the day and the Vegan Ranchero Veggies (or, for non-vegans, everyone loves the Fabulous French Toast and the Shrimp Tacos).

For Dinner: Dusk at The Ritz Carlton, 280 Vanderbilt Beach Road    

Again, as you all probably know, I am vegan, so I don’t eat regular person sushi. I do, however, eat vegan sushi and for that, this place is divine. It also has regular person sushi, don’t worry. Dusk at The Ritz is truly an experience. Whether you order bar food or sushi, the offerings are incredible. The seating is casual and cozy, usually a couple of couches around a small table. Each area also has its own personal television so, if you’re like me and travel with people who can’t miss a single game, this is your spot for an uptown feel with downtown amenities. Order: anything. It’s all amazing. Go early and watch the sunset at Gumbo Limbo and grab a few before dinner drinks to make things a little more fun.

Best Beaches/Pools

Beach or Pool (or both!): The Edgewater Beach Hotel, 1901 Gulf Shore Boulevard North

Head to the Edgewater for classic vacation vibes, piña colada and poolside grub included. Double pools provide for optimal swimming room, and direct beach access provides for the most amazing view. It’s also a pretty incredible place to call home during your trip to sunny, southwestern Florida if you’re looking for more of a boutique, low key atmosphere. Luckily, it seems like school vacation weeks are (finally) over, and thus, you’re bound to find a more adult-friendly, calm ambience here. Order the: Fresh Pressed Fruit Punch cocktail for a trendy and less body-conscious substitute for your daily green juice. Go on, let loose. Pro tip: get there early and save your seats, i.e., do what effectively became illegal in Boston this winter and throw your “space saver” onto a lounge chair.

Beach: Naples Beach, 12th Avenue and 17th Avenue entrances

Naples Beach pretty much spans the entire “good part” of Naples, as I like to cheekily call it. It runs from 21st Avenue South to 7th Avenue North. Now, each and every entrance to the beach brings with it a different feel. Personally, my two favorites are the 12th and 17th Avenue entrances. For a more touristy feel (i.e., grab a hot dog and an unidentifiable red slushy drink—which is actually rather tasty—while watching old men fish for dinner as dolphins pass by), head to 12th Avenue and walk the Naples Pier. Then, stake your claim to the beach among the other out-of-towners. Or, if you’re into a more solitary scene, head to the 17th Avenue entrance, where you’ll find wide open spaces of white sand and a local crowd.

Shopping

Mall Shopping: The Waterside Shops, 5415 Tamiami Trail North

If you’re in the mood for upscale department stores (Nordstom, Saks Fifth Avenue) and high-end staples (Louis Vuitton, Van Cleef & Arpels, Ferragamo, Burberry) sprinkled with some everyday must-haves (lululemon athletica, Calypso St. Barth, Anthropologie, J.Crew), The Waterside Shops are going to be your heaven on earth. Here’s what I love about this place: it’s an outdoor mall, so you don’t feel like you’ve completely wasted your life savings by going on vacation just to spend your time at an indoor shopping center. There are also a handful of not-your-average-mall-restaurants, so if you get hungry but want to continue shopping (it’s an everyday struggle), you can stop into a joint that people actually purposefully travel to The Waterside Shops for.

Boutique Shopping: Fifth AvenueThird Street

You can also go the route of shopping for the “experience,” that is to say, shopping not for the purpose of buying sought-after items. Now, I shouldn’t say that there aren’t any sought-after items on Fifth Avenue or Third Street, because I’m sure there are, but these two locales are an acquired taste; To be blunt, the shopping here is directed at an older crowd. There are a few small boutiques here and there (my favorites are Tickled Pink and Marissa Collections, both on Third), but for the most part, this is where locals go to do their taxes, meet with their financial advisors, and primarily, eat. Unless, of course, you’re a Tommy Bahama fan; then by all means, shop away.

Read the full post on The Relevance Report.

7 Collegiettes on the Longest Lasting Nail Polish They've Ever Used

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Every collegiette knows the struggle of loving painted nails... but hating when they chip. It seems like the every time we finish our manicures, we manage to ruin them right away. Since finding the perfect polish is always a top priority, we asked 7 collegiettes about their favorite nail polishes—all of which will guarantee you beautiful nails, without the chips!

Chelle, a sophomore at DePaul University: Sally Hansen Complete Salon Manicure Nail Color ($7.99 at CVS)

“Yes I know, on a college budget, it’s super expensive. But in my opinion, it’s worth the investment because instead of throwing away $5 nail polishes, I can have this one for years. The shade I’m currently wearing [has lasted] 9 days already!”

Laura, a junior at Denison University: Ciaté’s London Mini Pot Nail Polish and Effects ($8 at Sephora)

“[Ciaté] makes the caviar manicure and the velvet manicure sets, and they also have some of the coolest sparkly polishes. The [normal bottle] is expensive but they recently came out with smaller, miniature sized bottles [which are cheaper].”

Karina, a Boston University graduate: Pacifica’s 7 Free Nail Polish ($9 at Pacifica Beauty)

“My all-time favorite nail polish is Pacifica’s 7 Free Nail Polish in Red Red Wine. I got it last year and fell in love. It goes on really nicely, lasts a decent amount of time and I always feel polished (excuse the pun) when wearing it. I get lots of compliments and the color is a classic, deep red that’s elegant but fun.”

Krista, a junior at St. Joseph’s University: Icing’s Opaque Nail Polish ($5 at Icing)

“I love this electric blue. It lasts forever without chipping, and it’s always smooth! I have this color on my nails 80 percent of the time.”

Lauren, a senior at University of Texas Austin: O.P.I. Brights Nail Lacquer Collection ($9.50 at Ulta)

“I particularly love OPI because they have an awesome selection of great colors and the polish actually says on my nails for up to two weeks without chipping. OPI also sells a high quality topcoat and base coat. So if you use them, the color is even more likely to last! Their new bubblegum pink color 'Mod About You' is absolutely perfect for summer!”

Bethany, a junior at Liberty University: Sinful Colors Nail Polish ($2 at Walmart)

“I really like this nail polish because first of all, it’s cheap, but it also lasts a long time! I can go almost two weeks without a chip. There are also so many colors to choose from.”

Deanna, a Villanova University graduate: Essie Nail Polish ($8.50 at CVS)

“For something quick and easy from your local [pharmacy], I always go for Essie. Their color selection is very expansive, even though I always wind up walking out with a different shade of pink!”

No matter whether you love the neon blues or prefer the subtle pinks, every collegiette appreciates some good nail polish. And with these long-lasting, no-chip polishes, you can rock the perfectly manicured look for weeks at a time!

Living With Your SO: How to Make it Work

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So, you and your significant other have been together for a while now, and you couldn’t be more perfect for each other. You’ve often talked about how awesome it would be to live together, and now you’re finally doing it! Although you’ve likely put a lot of thought into this decision, you may start to run into problems you hadn’t anticipated, like arguing over the dirty dishes or dealing with your friends’ disapproval. Luckily, HC is here to help with advice from relationship experts and tips from other collegiettes who know exactly what you’re going through!

The problem: You never have time to yourself

When you live with your significant other, you already see him or her all the time at home. Add to that going out together on dates and hanging out with mutual friends, and you might find yourself craving alone time. But even if you’re perfectly happy spending that much time with your SO, your friends might complain that they never see you two separately anymore.

Noelani Nasser, a senior at UCLA, lived with her boyfriend this past summer. “When we first moved in together, we were so comfortable with each other that we didn't know how to do things on our own while the other was also in the apartment,” she says.

Learning how to balance the time you spend with and without your SO is a difficult process. “As in any relationship, it can be important to have some time to yourself,” says Lesli Doares, a marriage and relationship coach. “Given the intensity of college, this can be a challenge due [to] the closed nature of the campus; your friends and activities can be more intertwined [than after college].”

How to handle it

As much as you love your partner, being together constantly can be overwhelming, “especially when you are young and starting to discover who you are,” says Neely Steinberg, a dating coach. “You should be sure to carve out both alone time and time to be with friends, try new activities or join clubs, etc. [sans your SO].”

If you’re worried about spending too much time away from your SO, just remember that balance is key. “There is no reason to worry about ‘neglecting’ your SO if the two of you are reasonable about how much time you spend apart and together,” Doares says. “Each of you may have your own ideas about how much time that is, but that is why productive communication skills are essential.”

If you and your SO realize that you’re spending too much time together for your relationship to stay healthy, try to put things in perspective. “My boyfriend and I talked it out,” Noelani says. “We realized that roommates, or people who live together, do things independently sometimes.” The couple did just that, and it worked out perfectly for them. “He is teaching himself how to play the guitar and keyboard while I'm at work during the week,” she says. “Also, we both just hang out in the apartment sometimes reading on our own or using our computers. So basically we are both at home, but not necessarily hanging out together.”

Not only will you benefit from taking this time for you, but so will your relationship. Make a point of doing your own thing from time to time so that you can come home and appreciate your partner all the more for it.

The problem: You can’t stand your partner’s annoying habits

So you and your SO are well past the honeymoon phase, and you think you know everything about each other – good and bad. But living with someone is a new experience that can bring out aspects of a person that you hadn’t necessarily noticed before, including annoying habits.

Heather Baldock, a senior at the University of Oregon, moved in with her boyfriend about a year ago, partly because splitting a studio apartment cost much less than living in her previous apartment. “Studio apartments are SO small, and you notice each other's flaws like crazy,” Heather says. “But even more so, you notice your own flaws.”

Even if your new living arrangement is working well for you, there are bound to be new arguments that arise, however trivial. “This is always a challenge for people sharing living quarters,” Doares says. “Add in the romantic component, and things can get sticky. Without a productive way of handling disagreements, the resentment and anger can spill over and undermine the health of the relationship.”

How to handle it

First of all, don’t freak out when you start noticing your SO’s flaws as well as your own. “Understand that every couple deals with this,” Steinberg says. “When you are thinking about [your SO’s] annoying habits or flaws, counter them with all the things that you love about [your SO] and are thankful for.”

When you live with someone so close to you, you have to be tolerant and levelheaded. “The most important advice I can give is to be willing to learn about yourself, your SO and how the relationship is and is not working,” Doares says.

But most of all, you should always communicate with your partner honestly and calmly. “It may be hard, it may be scary, it may be uncomfortable, but dealing with the issues straight on is the only way to reach resolution,” Doares says.

This method worked for Heather and her boyfriend. “We had to be very comfortable with each other,” she says. “If we had any arguments, we learned to address them upfront, which actually helped us work through a lot of issues. And after you both realize you're flawed, you learn how to cooperate and communicate effectively.”

If the housework is the main issue you’re facing, efficient communication is also key. “[Your SO] may have no idea that you care so much about not leaving dirty dishes in the sink,” Steinberg explains. “People aren't mind-readers! Once he knows about your requests and why they are important to you, you can come up together with ways to deal with the situation.”

If you both agree on a system for doing housework and stick to it, neither of you will get frustrated over chores anymore. Megan Johnson, a recent graduate from the University of California, Los Angeles, and her fiancé managed to distribute their chores fairly among the two of them. “David actually cooks all of our dinners, which takes a while because sometimes he makes elaborate meals,” she explains. “I do the dishes and laundry. In the end, the work pretty much balances out.”

The problem: You’re losing your romantic spark

Both spending too much time together with your SO and bickering over the housework can cause your romance to suffer. You might find yourselves making fewer efforts to maintain your spark: going out less, taking less care of your appearance or having less sex, for instance.

“Unresolved issues around chores and other household duties often play out in the level and frequency of intimacy,” Doares says. “Living together can result in taking the other person for granted and not seeing them as a romantic partner.”

Sam Elder, a junior at Virginia Commonwealth University, moved in with his boyfriend last fall. “We kept talking about how wonderful seeing each other all the time would be,” Sam says, “Quickly, I realized that things started to come between us; we always fought about splitting different bills, contributing to the household and the lack of intimacy that we so dreadfully missed.”

How to handle it

This problem is a part of any healthy long-term relationship, and isn’t something you should worry about too much. “The key here is to recognize that when you live with someone, it definitely changes the nature of the relationship,” Steinberg says. “It’s important not to see that as a bad thing – it’s the nature of going from romantic love to companionate love.”

And if the problems you and your SO has been having are sexual, keep in mind that “for a couple, especially a couple who lives together and has been together for a while, sex can't always be mind-blowing and like a scene from a Hollywood rom-com,” Steinberg says. “But certainly you can find ways to also make it fun and spontaneous.”

Whatever the intimacy issue you are dealing with, the solution is always to “be open and talk about your fears,” Steinberg advises. “Getting it off your chest with your partner is important, otherwise you can harbor resentment, which may lead to an explosion over something tiny and insignificant.”

But although your intimacy might evolve negatively in some ways, “perhaps you also will find new ways that your intimacy deepens,” Steinberg says. And we wish you nothing less!

The problem: Your friends and family criticize your lifestyle

You made the decision to move in with your SO, and you’re happy and confident with it. Way to go! Unfortunately, chances are not everyone in your life will be supportive of that. Heather says she and her boyfriend faced a lot of resistance when they decided to move in together. Although her family continues to hint at marriage, most of the criticism actually came from Heather’s friends. “Some told me it would be a huge mistake and ruin our relationship,” she says.

How to handle it

If you’re comfortable with your choice, there’s no reason to be affected by others’ criticism. But that’s often easier said than done, especially when the criticism comes from the people closest to you: your friends and family. You should prepare yourself to hear their concerns and keep in mind that they only want what’s best for you, even if it comes out the wrong way.

“Many couples may get feedback about getting too serious too soon and missing out on the college experience,” Doares says. “There may also be judgment about the morality of this choice.”

Try your best not to get offended or angry. Instead, Steinberg advises you sit down with your parents or friends. “Tell them that they need to trust your decisions as an adult, that it's important for them to support you, that you didn't come to the decision lightly and that you're adult enough to deal with the consequences,” she says.

The problem: You’re breaking up before the end of your lease

Judging by the experiences of the students we talked to, living with your SO in college can work out incredibly well. But realistically, you should keep in mind the possibility of you two breaking up before the end of your lease. And unfortunately, “this may be delayed past a natural due date because you are living together,” Doares says.

That’s what happened to Sam and his ex-boyfriend. “I was the only one to sign the lease,” Sam says. “After a pretty messy breakup this spring, we had to decide which of us could afford to stay there by ourselves. My ex chose to stay, while I moved in with a few of my friends. This resulted in numerous arguments and ridiculous situations; he once refused to give me bill money because I had a pair of his shorts that he wanted!”

For Doares, this difficult situation adds extra strain to an already painful breakup. “This is a real problem for you both from a financial and emotional perspective,” she says. “If you both signed the lease, there will be a financial cost to breaking it. If only one of you is on the lease, the other will have to find a new place to live.” And both of these options are far from ideal.

How to handle it

Thankfully, there are measures you can take to avoid breaking up. “Talk, talk, talk to each other when fears, worries or frustrations arise,” Steinberg says. “Say, ‘I feel hurt and confused when you do X, Y or Z’ instead of, ‘you do this and you do that.’ Be humble – recognize that you have faults and flaws, too. Remind yourself of why you fell in love with him or her in the first place.”

But if you do end up breaking up, how well you deal with this tough situation is ultimately up to you. “You'll definitely have to talk calmly and rationally about who stays and who goes and what to do about the remaining rent,” Steinberg says.

In order to prevent a situation like Sam’s, “it is a good idea to have both people's names on the lease so that if you do break up, you're both responsible for the remaining rent,” Steinberg says. This could make the circumstances that much better.

If your ex refuses to pay his or her remaining share of the rent, you might consider involving your landlord or getting legal help. “It depends what it’s worth to you,” Steinberg says. “If you have the time, energy and money, you could certainly get into a legal battle. If your partner can’t pay, you could ask that he or she find a replacement. ... It’s definitely a sticky situation.”

Moving in with your significant other is a big step to take, but you knew that already! Although you’re likely to come across some rough patches, working through them appropriately will only strengthen your relationship.

For Megan, “it is really important to move in with your significant other if you are in a serious relationship and if there is any possibility that you could be marrying them someday,” she says. “If living together doesn't work out, then how is a marriage going to?”

Heather has a slightly different opinion. “I've had friends who have cohabited before, and there's no right or wrong answer,” she says. “Every relationship is different, and cohabitation isn't for everyone! However, for us it really worked. You have to be mature and mindful.”

Good luck, collegiettes; we wish you all the best!

Eddie Redmayne Will Star in a 'Harry Potter' Spinoff Film Trilogy

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Exciting news for J.K. Rowling fans: Oscar winner Eddie Redmayne has been confirmed as the star of Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them, the upcoming movie trilogy based on the book from the Harry Potter series.

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Warner Bros. Pictures announced on Monday that Redmayne will play Newt Scamander, the author of Hogwarts textbook Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them. Newt Scamander is a magizoologist, a magical animals specialist, who journeys around the wizarding world and documents the beasts he encounters. J.K. Rowling will write the movie script herself, making her screenwriting debut. Harry Potter director David Yates (who worked on Order of the Phoenix, Half-Blood Prince, and Deathly Hallows Parts 1 & 2) will return for the project, as will producer David Heyman, who worked on all eight of the Harry Potter films.

According to Rowling's Facebook page, the upcoming films are "neither a prequel nor a sequel to the Harry Potter series, but an extension of the wizarding world." The story is set in New York, 70 years before the adventures of Harry and his friends begin. The first chapter of the trilogy is set to be released in theaters worldwide on November 18, 2016.


What Your Chipotle Order Says About You

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We're big fans of getting our palms and birth charts read, playing M.A.S.H. and opening up fortune cookies to learn more about ourselves and our future. Now we can gain even more insight on who we are through something tasty and unique: our Chipotle orders! What does your order say about you? Here's what we think:

Tacos with a side of chips and guac

You definitely kept what you learned in kindergarten with you all these years, because you know that sharing is caring. You're willing to go halfsies on this meal with your best friend or SO, and you don't mind getting your hands dirty in the name of Mexican food.

Burrito bowl with brown rice, black beans, fajita veggies, pico de gallo, corn salsa, guac and lettuce

You're a vegan, but you hate tofu. 

Burrito with white rice, barbacoa, hot salsa and everything else

You're a tomboy with a hearty appetite and a fast metabolism. You're definitely not picky, and you go after what you want. You can handle a little spice, and you like it when life has a little kick to it, just to keep you on your toes.

The kids' menu

You love to play with your food, and you haven't let college take the child out of you. Plus, you just love the tiny bag of chips because it's too cute.

Burrito bowl with chicken and steak, fajita veggies, black and pinto beans, corn salsa, pico de gallo, medium salsa, sour cream, cheese, guacamole, lettuce, tortilla and hot salsa on the side

You have your priorities straight, and you don't do things unless you go all the way. You take Chipotle, amongst other things, very seriously. And you like to get your money's worth.

Salad

You're watching what you eat. You may be a bit of an over-analyst. You're very detail oriented, and like that tangy dressing, you like your life to have a little zing to it so that you're always be prepared for any challenge life may throw you.

There you have it! Through our skills in reading salsa and beans, we've outlined your personality as explained by your Chipotle order. And if you didn't learn something new about yourself, we at least got you really excited to go get yourself a burrito, right? 

12 Summer TV Shows We're Dying to See

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Now that finals are over and summer has begun, you can finally find time to catch up on all of your favorite shows that you neglected during the school year. Aaand once you're done with that, you can gear up for all new shows about everything from haunted kids to New York housewives. Take a look at our preview for the most exciting shows beginning this summer, in order of premiere date.

1. The Whispers (ABC) - June 1

Steven Spielberg is producing this new ABC series, which follows a couple whose children are being haunted by a paranormal force.

2. Stitchers (ABC Family) - June 2

ABC Family's new summer show revolves around Kirsten, who is hired by the government to be "stitched" into the minds of the deceased to uncover information that would otherwise be kept secret. 

3. Secrets and Wives (Bravo) - June 2

Calling all Real Housewives fans: Bravo's new series watches as six lifelong girlfriends from Long Island navigate their lives after divorce.

4. Sense8 (Netflix) - June 5

Sci-fi fans, unite. Netflix's summer venture surrounds eight strangers from all over the world who suddenly become emotionally and mentally connected. 

5. Becoming Us (ABC Family) - June 8

Ryan Seacrest is producing ABC Family's new show that sheds a light on the transgender community through the eyes of Ben, a 16-year-old midwestern boy who is dealing with his father's transition to become a woman.

6. The Seventies (CNN) - June 11

Following the wildly popular series from last summer, The Sixties, this new series examines world-changing events that happened during the 70s.

7. Proof (TNT) - June 16

Jennifer Beals is back to play Dr. Carolyn Tyler, a woman struggling the loss of her son, who decides to search for proof that death is not the end.

8. Clipped (TBS) - June 16

Missing Ashley Tisdale? Catch her on TBS's new series, which follows a group of high school kids from all different cliques who - years later - all wind up working at the same Bostonian barber shop.

9. The Astronaut Wives Club (ABC) - June 18

Based on the book by Lily Koppel, this show tells the stories of seven women who stood beside their husbands, astronauts during the space race.

10. One Bad Choice (MTV) - July 9

Each of the 10 episodes in this series follows an adolescent who made one terrible mistake - from faking a pregnancy to taking Ecstasy - that somehow impacted the rest of his/her life. 

11. Sex&Drugs&Rock&Roll (FX) - July 16

FX's new highly anticipated series showcases fictional washed up 90s band The Heathens on their quest to become as big as they once were. Bonus: The return of the ever-sexy John Corbett on our screens.

12. Job or No Job (ABC Family) - August 5

Watch in anticipation as ABC Family films real-life first-time job seekers on their hunt to land a job. Or, in other words, your entire post-grad life in a TV series. 

How to Motivate Yourself to Work Out in the Morning

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We get it—crawling out from beneath your warm, cozy covers just to hit the gym at an ungodly hour can be a torturous process that seems nearly impossible. Sacrificing that extra hour of sleep in the morning to hit the elliptical may not sound very appealing, but it’s definitely worth it. Here are a few tips for how to get yourself out of bed to master your early-morning workouts.

1. Find a workout buddy

There’s no motivation like having a workout buddy. You don’t want to be the friend who cancels at the last minute because you overslept or because you just didn’t feel like getting up. Try calling or texting each other in the morning to make sure you’re both awake.

“If I didn’t have anyone to go to the gym with, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t work out,” says Amber, a junior at Columbia University. “One of my closest friends is on the track team, so she’s definitely the one who motivates me to work out with her when she’s not at practice.”

Just picturing how upset your bestie would be if you blew her off while she was waiting for you bright and early should be enough to get you out of bed!

2. Move your alarm clock to the other side of the room

Your alarm clock is a necessary evil. Moving it the other end of the room means that you’ll have to get out of bed and get up just to turn it off. Once you’re up and stretched, you’ll be less likely to hop back in bed!

“To me, the only hard part about getting up in the morning is physically removing myself from the bed,” says Brittany, a junior at the University of Georgia. “As soon as I’m actually standing up straight, I’m ready to take on the day.”

3. Pack your gym bag the night before

With all the confusion that comes from being half awake and half asleep, there’s a good chance that you may forget something on your way out the door. Packing your gym bag and laying out your clothes the night before will better prepare you for your sweat session and also save you some time before you hit the gym—think of the extra minutes of sleep you’ll save!

4. Do a workout you enjoy

Working out isn’t an easy thing to do for some people to begin with. We know your relationship with your bed is important to you, but getting up to do something that you actually enjoy could encourage you to leave your precious bed to get some fitness in.

“The prospect of getting on a treadmill at 7:30 wasn’t really appealing to me, so I signed up for a yoga class that was offered at the same time,” says Kasia, a senior at Villanova University. “Whenever I didn’t want to get up, I would just tell myself how good I would feel after my yoga class and how much it would be worth it.”

If spending an hour on a machine isn’t your thing, think about participating in an activity like Pilates or dance aerobics that will have you feeling refreshed before your early-morning class.

5. Get enough sleep the night before

As college students, we may be used to late nights and early mornings, but you have no idea how much better a workout can turn out if you’re well rested!

“It’s definitely easier for me to get up when I actually get sleep the night before,” says Ashley, a junior at Georgia State University. “It’s like the combination of being well rested and working out in the morning keeps me way more alert during the day.”

Try to skip hitting the bars with your friends the night before your workout and head home early to get at least seven to eight hours of sleep.

No one ever said it was easy to work out the morning, but the work you put in at the gym will not only help you get fit, but also have you feeling refreshed and alert for the rest of what may be a long day. Change up your early-morning routine by trying a few of these tips to get yourself up and out the door before your AM session at the gym. 

This New Study Reports That We've Been Drinking Coffee All Wrong

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For some collegiettes, coffee is what gets you through that 9 a.m. class or wakes you up in time for your morning shift at work—but a new study shows that drinking coffee early in the day might not be as energizing as we think it is.

AsapSCIENCE recently reported that caffeine should not be consumed between the hours of 8 a.m. and 9 a.m. According to this new report, our bodies release hormones throughout the day based on our internal clock, or "circadian rhythm." One of these hormones, cortisol, plays a role in our body's level of alertness—and typically the release of cortisol peaks around 8 a.m. That means that before you even take a sip of that vanilla latte on your way to your 9 a.m. class, your body’s energy levels are already at their highest point for the day!

You might think that drinking coffee would only boost those already-high energy levels, but consuming any type of caffeine during those peak hours of cortisol release actually just decreases the caffeine’s energy effect. It also raises your tolerance for caffeine throughout the day, so you'll end up needing a café mocha every hour to avoid feeling tired and sluggish.

Cortisol levels also rise between 12 p.m. and 1 p.m. as well as between 5:30 p.m. and 6:30 p.m. Try to avoid taking your coffee break during those hours, too, if you actually want to feel the energy boost from that caramel frap. Cortisol levels are often triggered by sunlight, so darker times when you would be getting sleep (think 3 a.m. to 4 a.m.) are typically when cortisol levels are at their lowest. However, AsapSCIENCE says waiting an hour after you wake up to drink your coffee, no matter the time, can be effective, as well—which leaves us morning coffee drinkers some hope after all.

To learn more about effective caffeine consumption, you can watch the original video report from AsapSCIENCE below: 

Help Achieve All Your Health Goals With These (Free!) Bracelets

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Fitness trackers, juice cleanses, boutique workout classes—when it comes to staying healthy, the options seem overwhelmingly endless. Each method promises a miracle, and trying to figure out what actually works (and what’s really just a gimmick) can make your head spin.

So we’re going to simplify things a bit, and remind you that your health is about you, and how you feel—and most importantly, that it should be a positive (and not a stressful!) experience. We’ve partnered up with House of Bauble to give 6 winners a chance to win a bracelet that’s dedicated to your personal health! Designed to give you a daily reminder of what you need to stay healthy (in your mind, body and soul), House of Bauble’s mission is to help you achieve all your wellness goals. Three winners will receive a Lotus bracelet (which reminds you to believe in yourself, challenge your limits and never give up) and three will score the Thrive bracelet (which urges you to dream big, set achievable goals and make time for exercise).

Each bracelet comes with a goal worksheet for you to keep in mind every day, as well as a postcard with an inspirational quote that you can hang up at home or keep by your desk when you’re at your summer internship.

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